WEBVTT 00:00.631 --> 00:04.894 [SPEAKER_00]: You are listening to Blessed and Boston, presented by Anchor DeMedia. 00:05.474 --> 00:11.518 [SPEAKER_00]: In entrepreneurship podcasts for Christians, all about how to make God the CEO of your business. 00:12.138 --> 00:19.303 [SPEAKER_00]: Get ready to be inspired, challenged, but well equipped to live and build your destiny, his way. 00:27.145 --> 00:36.848 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of The Boosting Balls.com, I am excited for us to pick back up with our conversation with Dr. Charlotte. 00:37.208 --> 00:50.051 [SPEAKER_00]: We ended it all last week, just speaking to the high-achieving over-achieving woman who finds herself doing all the things who has no problem diving into her word and 00:50.571 --> 01:06.900 [SPEAKER_00]: doing all of the Christian activities, but struggles with that vulnerability, that emotional, that presence part, that relational aspect of her relationship with the Lord in his faith walk. 01:07.601 --> 01:11.063 [SPEAKER_00]: And right now I want to pull up some of the questions. 01:11.983 --> 01:16.326 [SPEAKER_00]: that this person is actively searching for online. 01:16.386 --> 01:28.374 [SPEAKER_00]: If you then listen into the show to last couple of weeks, I call this search bar, the search bar sessions, where we find out what folks are actively looking for online and have those conversations. 01:28.554 --> 01:32.717 [SPEAKER_00]: So we ended off in the last part talking about vulnerability. 01:33.618 --> 01:41.043 [SPEAKER_00]: And so Charlotte, I want to ask you the first question, which says, why do I know so much Bible theology? 01:41.803 --> 01:44.506 [SPEAKER_00]: But I still feel distant from God. 01:46.888 --> 01:49.911 [SPEAKER_01]: The answer is vulnerability. 01:50.971 --> 01:58.378 [SPEAKER_02]: There is a requirement in relationship for us to have a level of exposure. 01:59.239 --> 02:07.447 [SPEAKER_02]: And what I have found for myself personally, and with other women who are of like mine, we are very good at self-correcting. 02:08.287 --> 02:15.253 [SPEAKER_02]: So, one, we don't necessarily even be given room for the Holy Spirit to correct, because we self-correct a lot. 02:15.573 --> 02:22.679 [SPEAKER_02]: We're very self-aware and very teachable, which is like how we are in these positions of success. 02:23.340 --> 02:23.860 [SPEAKER_02]: However, 02:25.201 --> 02:28.582 [SPEAKER_02]: If we're always correcting us, how is the Holy Spirit guiding and leading us? 02:29.322 --> 02:30.802 [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, what's the exam in ourselves? 02:31.182 --> 02:34.523 [SPEAKER_02]: But I would not even better be, I'm like, okay, God, what's the actual issue here? 02:34.783 --> 02:36.464 [SPEAKER_02]: I think I'm always doing X, Y, and Z. 02:37.244 --> 02:39.104 [SPEAKER_02]: Is that this or is there something else? 02:41.265 --> 02:53.488 [SPEAKER_02]: Allowing God in the Spirit, like a Holy Spirit to be the parent, to be the mirror, allowing Christ to be the mirror and not the standards that we've set for ourselves. 02:54.983 --> 03:03.905 [SPEAKER_02]: that requires a level of vulnerability and it requires vulnerability because we have to bring out our mess. 03:03.925 --> 03:13.666 [SPEAKER_02]: We have not learned that it's safe for us to make mistakes because they cost us something like disproportion to what the mistake is. 03:14.327 --> 03:19.107 [SPEAKER_02]: That's the way that we've been conditioned, which is why a lot of us, again, are perfectionistic and doing the things. 03:19.488 --> 03:20.548 [SPEAKER_02]: So learning 03:22.068 --> 03:27.791 [SPEAKER_02]: But we learn the rules, but we don't allow that level of vulnerability because this is a relationship. 03:28.251 --> 03:41.918 [SPEAKER_02]: We have to have a level of vulnerability to where like more than just bringing God your core needs like that matters. 03:51.309 --> 03:52.920 [SPEAKER_02]: Believe it for everybody else. 03:54.498 --> 04:06.260 [SPEAKER_02]: We'll pray that we'll pray the pain of the walls of everybody else and believe it and want it and then we don't accept it for ourselves because we've never really been given that permission to or that level of vulnerability. 04:06.740 --> 04:20.082 [SPEAKER_02]: If I'm being vulnerable and honest to a certain degree, because I feel like what I know a lot of is disappointment, I don't want to make a room for me to be disappointed with God because I really value my relationship with him. 04:24.304 --> 04:34.711 [SPEAKER_02]: So we have to make sure that we are allowing vulnerability to where we become okay with uncertainty. 04:36.593 --> 04:37.713 [SPEAKER_02]: That can be difficult. 04:38.794 --> 04:51.043 [SPEAKER_02]: So there's this intolerance of uncertainty that makes it hard for us to be vulnerable with God, because we've been mishandled sometimes deliberately or intentionally, sometimes unintentionally by people. 04:53.040 --> 05:03.947 [SPEAKER_02]: we have guarded our wounds with the theology, but we have to also have that trust in relationship as well in order for us to really experience the fullness of the relationship. 05:05.328 --> 05:16.055 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and I would say if you're in a position where you feel like you know so much theology, but you still feel different is because you're leading with your head and not your heart. 05:17.203 --> 05:28.674 [SPEAKER_00]: you're approaching your faith intellectually first and the intellect isn't going anywhere like you are who you are, but you're leading with that versus your heart. 05:29.835 --> 05:38.183 [SPEAKER_00]: And to be able to switch that because most of the time we go into the world, not leading. 05:38.849 --> 05:42.671 [SPEAKER_00]: with our hearts, we're leading with our mind. 05:42.891 --> 05:52.356 [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't think that there's anything wrong with that one, like just day-to-day interactions, but when it comes to your relationship with the Lord, you have to lead with your heart. 05:53.156 --> 05:53.397 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. 05:54.137 --> 05:57.839 [SPEAKER_02]: I think I, yeah, in that, but that again requires vulnerability. 05:57.859 --> 05:59.660 [SPEAKER_02]: Think about when you think about, 06:00.578 --> 06:02.039 [SPEAKER_02]: was Paul with the floor. 06:02.079 --> 06:03.140 [SPEAKER_02]: My god, right? 06:03.460 --> 06:05.742 [SPEAKER_02]: The breastplate protects your heart. 06:05.802 --> 06:12.467 [SPEAKER_02]: Your heart is a most valuable organs that you have. 06:12.767 --> 06:17.951 [SPEAKER_02]: Your heart is like the center of your life. 06:18.632 --> 06:20.693 [SPEAKER_02]: So to lead with 06:26.883 --> 06:30.884 [SPEAKER_02]: Miss Handle when it has been down on the ground, stepped on. 06:30.924 --> 06:45.348 [SPEAKER_02]: The one who is said to like, down on the ground, this that like all of these things have happened, it takes for you even little by little, just trusting God with a piece of that. 06:45.768 --> 06:49.709 [SPEAKER_02]: So you learn kind of that, uh, that, 06:52.570 --> 07:04.500 [SPEAKER_02]: like that marginal space of like, oh, like, I'm with my father, so I can just be bear before him and really showing him my heart to where I'm not going to be judged. 07:04.720 --> 07:06.021 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm not being condemned. 07:06.421 --> 07:08.302 [SPEAKER_02]: This isn't going to come back up in argument. 07:08.322 --> 07:10.504 [SPEAKER_02]: This isn't like all of those things that have happened. 07:10.964 --> 07:16.709 [SPEAKER_02]: And so the first part would even be, God, here are all the things that have happened to 07:21.453 --> 07:30.661 [SPEAKER_02]: like this I'm uncomfortable with this and here's why that is like that even the way that I just said that is prayer. 07:31.061 --> 07:32.822 [SPEAKER_02]: The prayer is just communicating with the Lord. 07:33.363 --> 07:38.307 [SPEAKER_02]: Hey, I know that I need to do this. 07:39.368 --> 07:40.609 [SPEAKER_02]: I understand your word. 07:41.149 --> 07:42.070 [SPEAKER_02]: I believe it to be true. 07:42.925 --> 07:58.101 [SPEAKER_02]: that we know that theology, it demonstrates, at least, marginally, like, you want to be committed to, like, you're committed because you've learned that theology, but now you have to let the theology and the word. 07:58.680 --> 08:03.602 [SPEAKER_02]: really take root and then means you have to open yourself up to it. 08:03.622 --> 08:20.930 [SPEAKER_02]: You have to open yourself up to allowing God to read, address and address, address your morals, your values, your priorities, your biases, your past experiences, the things that you think that you want, your desires. 08:22.702 --> 08:39.049 [SPEAKER_02]: God will give you the desires of your heart, you have to, you have to leave them before him and not be afraid of disappointment or that he's going to condemn you whatever that voice in your head, which is oftentimes like some type of parental figure that 08:52.790 --> 08:57.256 [SPEAKER_02]: Some of the, like, somebody out there, if he knows that the, that, that there was like, I'll work up, bring that to the Lord. 08:57.637 --> 08:58.978 [SPEAKER_02]: God, you know what? 08:58.998 --> 09:01.221 [SPEAKER_02]: There have been, I figured this out today. 09:01.822 --> 09:02.122 [SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm. 09:02.523 --> 09:04.205 [SPEAKER_02]: And help, like, help me with that. 09:04.285 --> 09:05.227 [SPEAKER_02]: Why don't you a word? 09:05.687 --> 09:06.528 [SPEAKER_02]: Do I go for this? 09:06.749 --> 09:10.474 [SPEAKER_02]: I always tell people, Psalm 139, go read it out loud. 09:11.673 --> 09:34.529 [SPEAKER_02]: specifically out loud because faith comes by here and the more that I hear about how much the Lord cares about my life, how intentional he was, how the depths of hell can't separate me, like the depths of darkness can't separate me from him, there's just something that has done to rewire my mind of when I mess up, when I'm afraid, when I'm 09:36.369 --> 09:45.095 [SPEAKER_02]: I want to act like I'm still sitting in the grommel, I like I all like all those versions of me he knows and it's okay because he's my father. 09:47.017 --> 09:55.202 [SPEAKER_00]: Something that I would say for this person to take yourself back to the place you were when you first gave your life to the lower. 09:55.523 --> 09:56.183 [SPEAKER_02]: Why did you do that? 10:06.792 --> 10:08.932 [SPEAKER_00]: when I actually brought us to the Lord in the first place. 10:09.053 --> 10:16.954 [SPEAKER_00]: And to be honest, for some folks, it may be, well, honestly, I'm not really in my life to the Lord. 10:17.054 --> 10:18.114 [SPEAKER_02]: I grew up in church, right? 10:18.154 --> 10:19.275 [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm interested in it. 10:19.375 --> 10:22.575 [SPEAKER_00]: It was kind of just, this is just kind of what we do. 10:23.355 --> 10:28.536 [SPEAKER_00]: You may not be able to distinctly remember a moment that the Lord drew you to him. 10:28.877 --> 10:31.377 [SPEAKER_00]: And if that's the truth, then that's the truth and let's start there. 10:36.098 --> 10:44.000 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know custom inheritance, my family, exactly, but I understand that I can't live my life with second hand faith. 10:44.400 --> 10:47.461 [SPEAKER_00]: So help me to experience you for myself. 10:47.541 --> 10:55.442 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think that that's a prayer that anybody who feels this way should pray is Lord, allow me to just experience you. 10:57.343 --> 10:58.623 [SPEAKER_00]: And remember, 10:59.976 --> 11:02.698 [SPEAKER_00]: why I even chose to be a Christian. 11:02.738 --> 11:25.651 [SPEAKER_00]: I love to hear the stories of folks who came from other faiths or who researched other faiths and then decided to be a Christian because you come with this level of understanding of the truth, yes, in the theology, but there's also that experience there to where you can't be convinced otherwise, or those who have like a, let's say a very dramatic story of the 11:28.293 --> 11:29.394 [SPEAKER_00]: that was life or death. 11:29.855 --> 11:31.336 [SPEAKER_00]: Those are the things that you hold onto. 11:31.356 --> 11:34.179 [SPEAKER_00]: And there's so many ways that we can build that up for ourselves. 11:34.219 --> 11:44.830 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I always keep in God's track record because I feel like that will consistently remind you of who he is and how he moves and how he acts. 11:44.970 --> 11:49.835 [SPEAKER_00]: So is at this point is not just theology is not just words on the page. 11:49.955 --> 11:50.075 [SPEAKER_00]: It's 11:50.599 --> 12:03.404 [SPEAKER_00]: or not just the foundations of why we believe what we believe, but these are real tangible experiences and testimonies will help break down those walls that you built up. 12:03.584 --> 12:10.106 [SPEAKER_00]: So I was suggest to anybody, revisit why you chose to give your life to the Lord. 12:10.846 --> 12:14.548 [SPEAKER_02]: And sometimes too, this, and you're talking, I'm at the Singedus video earlier. 12:15.428 --> 12:18.089 [SPEAKER_02]: There was a guy on social media. 12:18.569 --> 12:27.092 [SPEAKER_02]: who apparently he was an atheist, and he said that he wanted to, he said, I'm going to pretend to believe in God for the next 30 days. 12:27.692 --> 12:28.512 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to do everything. 12:28.552 --> 12:31.533 [SPEAKER_02]: He said, he said, I, I, I messed this. 12:32.553 --> 12:36.034 [SPEAKER_02]: And the GPT, he said, yo, I want to try it. 12:36.074 --> 12:38.875 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, I'm going to pretend to, to believe in God for the next 30 days. 12:38.915 --> 12:40.076 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to fully commit to it. 12:49.178 --> 13:00.444 [SPEAKER_02]: Read your Bible, pray, to God, and like talk about what you're grateful for by day, twenty-way. 13:03.884 --> 13:05.125 [SPEAKER_02]: he said, um, God is real. 13:05.606 --> 13:07.327 [SPEAKER_02]: He's a real. 13:07.567 --> 13:11.151 [SPEAKER_02]: He said, I can't even keep writing days such as such a me pretend day. 13:11.531 --> 13:16.596 [SPEAKER_02]: Like he was in tears, because then too, the demonic attacks started happening. 13:17.056 --> 13:18.578 [SPEAKER_02]: So he said, he had a dream. 13:18.638 --> 13:23.342 [SPEAKER_02]: He said, I've never, he said, I have not had a dream, a nightmare of my, like, in so long. 13:23.582 --> 13:24.623 [SPEAKER_02]: And he said, it wasn't just me. 13:24.703 --> 13:26.205 [SPEAKER_02]: It was my girlfriend and friends. 13:26.545 --> 13:26.805 [SPEAKER_02]: And he's, 13:28.907 --> 13:49.446 [SPEAKER_02]: If I, like, if this is what is on the other side of this, I need God, and so sometimes, even if, because I, I think to that, like, everybody's, every, every salvation story, 13:50.924 --> 13:52.625 [SPEAKER_02]: doesn't have to have this big leg. 13:52.785 --> 14:01.550 [SPEAKER_02]: I was in the streets, it doesn't have to be that because you still need to rescue too. 14:02.650 --> 14:07.873 [SPEAKER_02]: I never been in the streets, but I need to rescue from my mind. 14:07.933 --> 14:10.354 [SPEAKER_02]: I grew up in a household that wasn't necessarily say. 14:10.735 --> 14:12.836 [SPEAKER_02]: I needed rescue from suicidal ideation. 14:13.176 --> 14:18.799 [SPEAKER_02]: I needed rescue and sometimes because it's not these big grandiose stories, 14:19.159 --> 14:47.001 [SPEAKER_02]: we can minimize that but like don't because you still were say that's a big deal and you were saved from something and for something and so it's important to keep all of that in perspective and not allow your giftedness to make you forget like what the real gift is with this Christ. 14:50.294 --> 14:53.296 [SPEAKER_00]: this next one, I know you're going to love. 14:54.216 --> 14:59.478 [SPEAKER_00]: The question is how to quiet an overactive analytical mind during prayer? 15:07.100 --> 15:08.181 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so thing one. 15:10.441 --> 15:12.242 [SPEAKER_01]: I hear what I'll say. 15:12.502 --> 15:16.724 [SPEAKER_01]: I want us to not even accept the 15:19.050 --> 15:25.374 [SPEAKER_02]: That means if you need to walk and pray, then you need to walk and pray. 15:26.274 --> 15:29.436 [SPEAKER_02]: However, you need to spend, again, I have three sisters. 15:29.756 --> 15:31.497 [SPEAKER_02]: We have one, one daddy, okay? 15:32.258 --> 15:36.100 [SPEAKER_02]: The way that I interact with my dad and the way that my sister interacts with my dad. 15:36.540 --> 15:40.503 [SPEAKER_02]: Even the way that I interact with my dad, it's all different, right? 15:41.683 --> 15:45.946 [SPEAKER_02]: But God knows the mind that he gave us. 15:47.062 --> 15:50.923 [SPEAKER_02]: So he knows, here I come up with, here I come up with her notebook, she means business. 15:53.604 --> 15:55.604 [SPEAKER_02]: Here I'm coming with my things, right? 15:56.004 --> 16:03.046 [SPEAKER_02]: It's really about one accepting the mind that God gave you. 16:04.486 --> 16:12.208 [SPEAKER_02]: Two, if you really have something pressing on your mind, what I have started to do is what I call the 16:14.923 --> 16:19.826 [SPEAKER_02]: When I see parents with their kids at the doctor's office, there's a lot of information at these well-taught checks. 16:20.506 --> 16:20.846 [SPEAKER_02]: A lot. 16:21.306 --> 16:24.928 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going over anticipatory guidance this, that, that, and the third. 16:25.248 --> 16:31.852 [SPEAKER_02]: What I rely is if you as a parent come in with something that you're really concerned about, you don't really care. 16:31.872 --> 16:33.853 [SPEAKER_02]: A lot of nothing I got to say. 16:33.973 --> 16:35.494 [SPEAKER_02]: I could go through my spiel. 16:36.514 --> 16:42.698 [SPEAKER_02]: But in the back of your mind, you're worried about the thing that is like that's pressing, that you want to talk about. 16:42.938 --> 16:48.621 [SPEAKER_02]: So my first question is, hey, do you have any concerns about little Jerry today? 16:50.682 --> 16:51.943 [SPEAKER_02]: What do you want to talk about first? 16:52.867 --> 16:54.188 [SPEAKER_02]: the standard things we will cover. 16:55.249 --> 17:10.981 [SPEAKER_02]: And so sometimes it's even taking that approach of girl, you don't have to like come in, but given parties are the most high, the crazy, ethical, they did this at my head, and my cousin's, you know, I said, are we wrapping our sets? 17:12.742 --> 17:15.604 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, why do we keep doing this introents? 17:17.105 --> 17:20.368 [SPEAKER_00]: But the third hour of the funeral, I said, hey, I'm hungry. 17:21.090 --> 17:24.194 [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm not the very good repass chicken. 17:24.474 --> 17:26.957 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm going to have to have it about what is happening. 17:27.197 --> 17:29.019 [SPEAKER_02]: I said, J.J. went home, I want to go home too. 17:30.261 --> 17:34.866 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, that's tired, but it doesn't have to be that. 17:35.367 --> 17:37.169 [SPEAKER_02]: We, like, yes, the Lord knows. 17:37.529 --> 17:43.897 [SPEAKER_02]: that you care about your daddy, your auntie, your uncle and them, you don't have to come with these same, like, these same prayers. 17:43.937 --> 17:49.464 [SPEAKER_02]: If there's something that's really on your heart and my talk to him about that first, God, listen, I'm stressed. 17:49.564 --> 17:49.844 [SPEAKER_02]: Okay. 17:50.185 --> 17:50.806 [SPEAKER_02]: I got to move. 17:50.946 --> 17:54.570 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm trying to figure out this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, he's a way of that. 17:55.551 --> 18:06.937 [SPEAKER_02]: And so we don't have to have this repetitious, I think when we try to sterilize this relationship because it's a relationship and we've got to sterilize it. 18:07.237 --> 18:12.759 [SPEAKER_02]: We end up in a place where we are being super analytical of ourselves, super analytical of God. 18:12.999 --> 18:20.343 [SPEAKER_02]: Instead of just telling him everything, like the most pressing thing now, he's gonna take care of all about this stuff. 18:21.384 --> 18:23.227 [SPEAKER_02]: All the way on this stuff, you can get to a shot. 18:23.627 --> 18:25.610 [SPEAKER_02]: It's just for all of that will go over. 18:26.111 --> 18:31.959 [SPEAKER_02]: But yes, it's important to talk about this kid's development, but if they're having an issue at school, 18:33.115 --> 18:34.136 [SPEAKER_02]: And it's really pressing. 18:34.456 --> 18:38.399 [SPEAKER_02]: It kind of probably even folds into this in some way, shape or form. 18:38.739 --> 18:42.041 [SPEAKER_02]: Let's deal with that first because then the parent is going to know that there's a plan. 18:42.521 --> 18:50.647 [SPEAKER_02]: And then also like be open to hear what I have to say because we've addressed the thing that's heavy on their heart. 18:51.087 --> 18:53.949 [SPEAKER_02]: And so I think that taking that approach has really helped me too. 18:55.530 --> 18:57.132 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I will thank for me. 18:58.893 --> 19:02.055 [SPEAKER_00]: My biggest thing is to start prayer with worship. 19:03.693 --> 19:11.715 [SPEAKER_00]: because it quiets my brain and it makes me focus on what is most important, which is honoring the Lord. 19:11.915 --> 19:15.036 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's absent anything that is pressing on my mind. 19:15.056 --> 19:18.296 [SPEAKER_00]: Because usually, I'm just thinking about the 50-minute things I got to do. 19:18.356 --> 19:20.537 [SPEAKER_00]: I did not remember this or the kids got this coming up. 19:20.557 --> 19:23.498 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just usually all types of to do listen on it through my brain. 19:24.238 --> 19:24.818 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, 19:26.433 --> 19:36.175 [SPEAKER_00]: just starting with worship helps to focus my mind on him and I'll start with those worships. 19:36.215 --> 19:45.456 [SPEAKER_00]: So especially if I feel like my heart needs to not be irritated about something or frustrated at some type of way where I might have added to it. 19:45.476 --> 19:47.337 [SPEAKER_00]: It might be that time of the month, whatever. 19:47.737 --> 19:48.357 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 19:48.817 --> 19:54.538 [SPEAKER_00]: But my heart might need a little deal with before I go into prayer with the level of 19:56.541 --> 19:58.523 [SPEAKER_00]: worship helps take care of that as well. 19:59.484 --> 20:01.766 [SPEAKER_00]: And so that is like huge for me. 20:01.786 --> 20:07.131 [SPEAKER_00]: That's my goal to if I need to quiet myself down and bear my heart for prayer. 20:08.051 --> 20:13.036 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, absent anything pressing, because usually if it's something pressing, I'm going somewhere quiet and I'm like, God, 20:13.684 --> 20:34.475 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey 20:34.895 --> 20:47.146 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, I just gotta wait, but there are so many moving parts, and I could tell I said, and so I got my journal, and I sat down, I said, Lord, I'm the first in it's Lord, I'm overwhelmed. 20:47.987 --> 20:56.455 [SPEAKER_02]: And I, like, so how you're doing, like, Jerry, and I came to, I literally just like, I got the move, and I did the, the, the, the, all of this, like, I'm, you know what, I'm gonna tell you. 20:58.383 --> 21:00.705 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what to do with all of this. 21:00.845 --> 21:04.929 [SPEAKER_02]: I just wanted to share with you because these thoughts are trying to overtake me. 21:05.690 --> 21:12.535 [SPEAKER_02]: And then when I got done, I didn't even really anticipate, I didn't know what the response was gonna be. 21:15.057 --> 21:18.460 [SPEAKER_02]: I got up, I finished, I was getting dressed, I finished brushing my teeth. 21:20.282 --> 21:21.843 [SPEAKER_02]: I went back over to my journal. 21:23.218 --> 21:29.441 [SPEAKER_02]: And God gave me, like, hey, do this one thing, this one thing, this one thing. 21:32.042 --> 21:33.082 [SPEAKER_01]: They were like, quick and easy. 21:33.142 --> 21:33.703 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm as crazy. 21:34.303 --> 21:39.585 [SPEAKER_02]: I didn't have to have like two more additional things that I didn't plan on and I felt so much better. 21:41.006 --> 21:41.546 [SPEAKER_02]: And it was like, 21:43.575 --> 21:44.155 [SPEAKER_02]: I love you. 21:44.316 --> 21:49.999 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, I legit was about to crash out and I'm just putting crest on my toothpaste on my toothbrush. 21:50.079 --> 21:50.699 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't understand. 21:51.179 --> 21:53.140 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, what is going on in my mind? 21:53.561 --> 21:59.584 [SPEAKER_02]: And so again, it's just like, sometimes that we're not machines. 22:00.264 --> 22:00.525 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 22:01.505 --> 22:08.229 [SPEAKER_02]: And a lot of the language behind productivity is like optimized efficiency. 22:08.289 --> 22:09.129 [SPEAKER_02]: Do I look like 22:14.746 --> 22:17.391 [SPEAKER_02]: I could tell that was overwhelmed, I went to my father. 22:18.116 --> 22:22.238 [SPEAKER_02]: Again, even journaling in that, like, that is also prayer. 22:22.739 --> 22:35.386 [SPEAKER_02]: I think that we've also, again, sterilized what this relationship with what communication looks like, communication is written, communication is sung, communication is whispered, communication can happen. 22:35.746 --> 22:42.610 [SPEAKER_02]: And you know, if you, if you a black woman, particularly going, we ain't got to say, where is we just looking at it like, mmm, and we have a five-minute conversation. 22:42.950 --> 22:44.231 [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, like so, 22:44.831 --> 22:58.257 [SPEAKER_02]: understanding like we can like we have all of these methods and ways to communicate with the lower and so I think quidding our mind means in the moment because one day like today it was just worship. 22:59.335 --> 23:03.357 [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, I was seeing Married, was the Marine Claudette Brown. 23:04.157 --> 23:06.238 [SPEAKER_02]: I just, well, I don't praise it. 23:06.438 --> 23:07.739 [SPEAKER_02]: I was jamming, right? 23:07.759 --> 23:11.260 [SPEAKER_02]: So it does look different in our day to day. 23:11.301 --> 23:14.562 [SPEAKER_02]: And so understanding, like, it doesn't have to be one way all the time. 23:14.702 --> 23:27.328 [SPEAKER_02]: I was distressed when my quiet time changed when it looked like when I was a babe, I thought I was broken or something was broken and not realizing that as my life changes my relationship with the father changes to in a way of like, 23:28.681 --> 23:30.022 [SPEAKER_02]: This is what Quarton looks like now. 23:30.102 --> 23:34.463 [SPEAKER_02]: This is how we talk now, because the circumstances have changed. 23:35.904 --> 23:47.569 [SPEAKER_00]: I think as you mature in a faith that we talk about this a lot when the podcast, you go from talking about quiet time to pride or times and living a quiet life. 23:48.489 --> 23:51.290 [SPEAKER_00]: And what I say quiet life, I mean, you're internal life. 23:52.451 --> 23:56.252 [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of you prepare your prayer closet 23:59.036 --> 24:01.405 [SPEAKER_00]: your war room is internal. 24:03.017 --> 24:08.620 [SPEAKER_00]: you walk around everywhere you go with all of those scriptures that's on the wall in your heart. 24:09.280 --> 24:23.586 [SPEAKER_00]: With everything that you're surrendering to the Lord, you already, you had that understanding as you go about your day to day, sensitive enough to be able to recognize his interventions in real time. 24:24.227 --> 24:27.408 [SPEAKER_00]: That takes a level of discipline and connection. 24:32.637 --> 24:39.202 [SPEAKER_00]: because then the conversation changes from, how do I quiet my brain during prayer? 24:39.242 --> 24:40.443 [SPEAKER_00]: How do I quiet my brain? 24:41.303 --> 24:59.017 [SPEAKER_00]: Piddly, just go that when I'm out at the grocery store and the Lord sends an angel or send someone for me to help in some type of way, or he just simply is saying, hi, that I recognize that in the, 24:59.968 --> 25:13.980 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, these conversations that we have, and that we've been having about like, you know, our brains and all of that, we also have to prioritize having a lifestyle that's quiet, sensitive to. 25:14.181 --> 25:14.481 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 25:14.941 --> 25:18.064 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't even know that it has to be quiet outside of a, it has to be a 25:27.909 --> 25:29.709 [SPEAKER_02]: try to prioritize a couple things. 25:30.630 --> 25:34.951 [SPEAKER_02]: When I wake up in the morning, I like to listen to the Bible. 25:34.971 --> 25:39.612 [SPEAKER_02]: Like I at some point throughout my day, the thing I'm going to listen to is the Bible. 25:40.752 --> 25:50.375 [SPEAKER_02]: It's in that sometimes where I'm like, oh, like the description that I mentioned last week about Daniel 1, I was taking Georgia for a walk and just like, I'm going to listen to the Bible. 25:50.895 --> 26:06.055 [SPEAKER_02]: It don't have to be an audio book or this and that and I'll talk about it like let me was less than I just tried to listen to straight up the word of God and so I was listening to Daniel walking around the neighborhood and in that the verse for chapter 170 stood out to me I had never 26:08.150 --> 26:10.833 [SPEAKER_02]: It had never, like, popped out to me like that. 26:10.873 --> 26:16.178 [SPEAKER_02]: And so it's even in, like, me walking my dog and I'm having a mind state on Christ. 26:16.638 --> 26:22.144 [SPEAKER_02]: And me, you know, watching or reading or listening to something. 26:22.444 --> 26:28.310 [SPEAKER_02]: When I am seeing patients, I don't have the TV on a lot of times in the room where I am. 26:28.590 --> 26:36.375 [SPEAKER_02]: But in my bedroom, I have, even if it's like the, you know, the cushion on the vibes, like the music, because I saw nothing to be able to vibe. 26:36.675 --> 26:39.557 [SPEAKER_02]: But like, I have that playing in the other room. 26:39.637 --> 26:40.918 [SPEAKER_02]: So I can still hear it. 26:41.298 --> 26:47.101 [SPEAKER_02]: And so even in between patients, I'm hearing music that is glorifying God. 26:47.481 --> 26:49.803 [SPEAKER_02]: And so it's because that deputies 24, 7, 7, 11 is not. 26:52.104 --> 27:07.379 [SPEAKER_02]: I can't know all the time, I can't, but more, I listen to more and feed my mind more things that are stayed on Christ than the balance isn't, is not out of whack. 27:07.619 --> 27:15.787 [SPEAKER_02]: So even if you feel like you can't get your mind perfectly quiet, what's running through here needs to be 27:17.509 --> 27:17.749 [SPEAKER_01]: you. 27:18.209 --> 27:18.469 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 27:19.270 --> 27:28.613 [SPEAKER_00]: I think that's good because what we underestimate, I feel like it's the way that we spend so much time outside of that place. 27:29.653 --> 27:34.975 [SPEAKER_00]: And then we wonder why when things happen, we don't respond Christ like first. 27:35.035 --> 27:38.216 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like, whoa, that's because we've been feeding us, 27:43.085 --> 28:03.481 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because we are feeding ourselves what shows we watch in or what our favorite more service is talking about what's going on in our friends life and all of you don't have, we're not cultivating that that consistency of building ourselves with the word as we should. 28:03.621 --> 28:07.925 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm definitely guilty of that too where I have moments sometimes where I'm like, 28:08.576 --> 28:22.547 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, I'm like off social media because like sometimes I like the scroll on TikTok to let my look at recipes or hair styles or whatever it and I get, you know, just or I'm just trying to not use my brain for a second. 28:22.587 --> 28:37.199 [SPEAKER_00]: So I will scroll, but then I realize the effects of that in other times, uh, it's stuff that I'm worried about that ain't even like nowhere near having anything to do with me at all, but that's because I don't saw this video about how 28:38.252 --> 28:40.634 [SPEAKER_00]: a tailor farms and tear by stomach up. 28:40.674 --> 28:43.617 [SPEAKER_00]: Now I had lettuce in a month and I'm something wrong. 28:43.657 --> 28:45.579 [SPEAKER_00]: Why I eat vegetables lately? 28:45.799 --> 28:47.120 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't like that. 28:48.221 --> 28:49.863 [SPEAKER_02]: Do not talk to me about no one else. 28:50.363 --> 28:52.044 [SPEAKER_02]: But I can't. 28:52.565 --> 28:57.469 [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, because I said it's going to plant a seed of ingrained my heart. 28:58.397 --> 29:01.722 [SPEAKER_02]: I mean, vengeance belongs to the Lord and I have to leave it at that. 29:02.103 --> 29:03.204 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to know details. 29:03.365 --> 29:04.867 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't need to know how many bruises. 29:04.947 --> 29:07.331 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, I don't need to know. 29:07.531 --> 29:08.532 [SPEAKER_02]: Don't tell me nothing. 29:08.893 --> 29:10.676 [SPEAKER_02]: I told my daddy, I said, what? 29:11.096 --> 29:13.179 [SPEAKER_02]: When I see you again, we're going to reset your algorithm. 29:13.420 --> 29:14.081 [SPEAKER_02]: Because, yeah. 29:14.581 --> 29:23.550 [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, the stuff you can tell me that's coming across your social media is figured out how to rage bait you and that is why You need you more hot messed up. 29:23.650 --> 29:24.651 [SPEAKER_02]: Don't tell me about it. 29:25.292 --> 29:32.278 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not also familiar for this reason And after I get the enemy will use them timelines too. 29:32.318 --> 29:34.781 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's that like I remember when I was pregnant 29:35.521 --> 29:41.505 [SPEAKER_00]: And because of my history, I were always there was always in the back of my mind like what if this pregnancy isn't to turn. 29:42.305 --> 29:44.647 [SPEAKER_00]: I will see that it was one point. 29:45.287 --> 29:54.433 [SPEAKER_00]: It was perpetual videos of stillborns and it will be the point in the pregnancy where I start feeling comfortable because you know you made it past certain hurdles. 29:54.453 --> 29:55.333 [SPEAKER_00]: That's an all that. 29:55.793 --> 30:00.316 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I went from seeing all of these miscarriage videos to stillborn videos and then 30:05.978 --> 30:08.060 [SPEAKER_02]: My dad, okay, you know my dad. 30:08.600 --> 30:12.203 [SPEAKER_02]: He, last month diagnosed a heart failure, right? 30:12.623 --> 30:13.964 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 30:13.984 --> 30:17.887 [SPEAKER_02]: I get on TikTok the first video I see. 30:18.407 --> 30:25.152 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know if you see in the girl who the video, the song is coming from her from a place of grief. 30:25.472 --> 30:26.353 [SPEAKER_02]: It is, it made me cry. 30:26.373 --> 30:31.016 [SPEAKER_02]: It's one of the problem, one of the most profound things I've seen of just because you can just tell she's grieving. 30:35.039 --> 30:36.020 [SPEAKER_02]: My daddy died. 30:36.240 --> 30:36.661 [SPEAKER_02]: Hey! 30:38.603 --> 30:41.065 [SPEAKER_02]: Whoa! 30:41.145 --> 30:42.206 [SPEAKER_02]: I made my daddy watch it. 30:42.346 --> 30:45.810 [SPEAKER_02]: I said, let me tell you if I had to do a video like this, I swear to God. 30:47.511 --> 30:48.993 [SPEAKER_02]: I swear to God. 30:49.413 --> 30:52.736 [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, what? 30:52.937 --> 30:53.617 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm getting off of here. 30:54.018 --> 30:54.318 [SPEAKER_02]: Where? 30:55.865 --> 30:56.807 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, what? 30:57.869 --> 31:04.904 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, man, I said, oh, no, I didn't know my debut yet. 31:05.224 --> 31:06.467 [SPEAKER_00]: It was good, but it's like, 31:07.000 --> 31:08.861 [SPEAKER_02]: No, it's so, you're right. 31:08.901 --> 31:12.222 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, yeah, I think it's just, I think it's about having a mindset on Christ. 31:12.642 --> 31:14.883 [SPEAKER_02]: And it's okay to enjoy things, right? 31:14.903 --> 31:17.283 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, I watch wrestling, I do Spanish class. 31:17.303 --> 31:20.745 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, we're not saying that it has to be all to dissolve the time. 31:20.765 --> 31:29.167 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, because I think when you don't interact with people, you lose like touch and opportunity to minister and all of that too, right? 31:29.628 --> 31:30.548 [SPEAKER_02]: So we're not saying, 31:31.548 --> 31:37.950 [SPEAKER_02]: Don't be human, or saying that your mind has to be My majority stayed on cries. 31:38.330 --> 31:59.535 [SPEAKER_02]: So like for me is like okay, well, I woke up and listen to a podcast Then before bed, I'm gonna listen to my Bible like I have to have the same level of prioritization the same way That sometimes I talk to my dad first thing in the morning he'll call me Sometimes it lunch and sometimes it's before bed, but I know if I don't talk to him at all 32:01.821 --> 32:07.887 [SPEAKER_02]: That's just not like he I think my uncle is somebody showing my house like it like I'm not about to do that. 32:08.027 --> 32:23.882 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm not about to do that and if it takes too long He's like what I'm gonna do to you Right, so that it's that same way so it doesn't have to be so rigid because it's about integration Like I don't want to be integrated into your life So it's not just about what you do with five thirty in a morning 32:26.721 --> 32:37.411 [SPEAKER_00]: And I love you spoke on integration because something, something that is really important to me as a parent is disciple in my kids. 32:38.171 --> 32:46.799 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, them just being in church, because I feel like previous generation, they just was like, I am gonna put you in church and it helped you catch something. 32:46.879 --> 32:50.462 [SPEAKER_00]: Which is like, that's not a bad place to start. 32:50.803 --> 32:51.183 [SPEAKER_02]: If not. 32:51.663 --> 32:52.084 [SPEAKER_00]: But, 32:53.777 --> 33:10.763 [SPEAKER_00]: For me, I am very intentional about discipling my kids and one of the ways that I do that, me and my older son have a lot of conversations about the Lord and I told them when the podcast how he got saved recently. 33:11.923 --> 33:17.205 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, as we can at church, they were doing baptism, 33:17.965 --> 33:20.767 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, they were doing it after surveys. 33:20.827 --> 33:27.151 [SPEAKER_00]: It was like outside, we had the pools, sort of people went to the mic and told their testimony and they get people so we wouldn't believe it out. 33:27.171 --> 33:30.213 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, hey, come on, let's go and watch the baptism. 33:30.253 --> 33:41.380 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I talked to him real quick about what baptism is, and we watched the people get baptized, and we celebrated it, and he was like, I'm going to get baptized on my birthday. 33:42.200 --> 33:43.101 [SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, okay, 33:44.237 --> 33:48.720 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I told him when he brought it up about him getting baptized. 33:48.740 --> 33:51.082 [SPEAKER_00]: I said, that's a decision that I want you to make for yourself. 33:51.462 --> 33:55.165 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to sign you up to get baptized at any time or whatever. 33:55.265 --> 34:04.391 [SPEAKER_00]: When you decide that I want to demonstrate my commitment to the Lord in this life, in this way, then that's when we'll do it. 34:04.431 --> 34:07.553 [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm not going to sign you up for a decision that you have to make. 34:08.133 --> 34:11.195 [SPEAKER_00]: And so after that he was like, I'm going to get baptized on our birthday. 34:11.215 --> 34:11.936 [SPEAKER_00]: That's okay. 34:12.576 --> 34:14.858 [SPEAKER_02]: Now, it is September. 34:15.198 --> 34:16.399 [SPEAKER_02]: His birthday is in May. 34:17.299 --> 34:19.721 [SPEAKER_00]: Knowing him, it will come back up, but we'll see. 34:20.221 --> 34:23.704 [SPEAKER_00]: So if he says, I'm, hey, it's my birthday. 34:23.744 --> 34:24.724 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm getting baptized. 34:24.825 --> 34:25.865 [SPEAKER_00]: That's what we'll do. 34:27.747 --> 34:34.051 [SPEAKER_00]: But one of the other ways that I really try to disciple them is to integrate 34:35.526 --> 34:38.328 [SPEAKER_00]: what they like with the Word of God. 34:38.769 --> 34:40.950 [SPEAKER_00]: So my son also loves math. 34:41.651 --> 34:47.716 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I think this is where AI is very helpful where I'm like, hey, my son loves math. 34:48.276 --> 35:02.488 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to connect math with the Bible so that he can see that this is a way that he can engage with the text, that he can know that God loves the things that he loves and all of that. 35:03.168 --> 35:05.311 [SPEAKER_00]: don't bring no numerology mess up in here. 35:05.892 --> 35:10.939 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's focus on the actual text in context. 35:10.979 --> 35:12.701 [SPEAKER_00]: You gotta gotta add that stuff in there. 35:12.721 --> 35:17.347 [SPEAKER_02]: I'd like XG only and show me your site site, your site site, your sources. 35:17.367 --> 35:17.527 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes. 35:17.768 --> 35:18.669 [SPEAKER_02]: And I'd like English. 35:18.749 --> 35:20.632 [SPEAKER_02]: In ASB, ESB, I get them varied. 35:21.197 --> 35:28.459 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, don't play with me, do not play and so it was helpful to be able to be like, okay, cool. 35:28.499 --> 35:35.040 [SPEAKER_00]: So this is going to be a way that we incorporate math into our Bible study. 35:35.360 --> 35:38.401 [SPEAKER_00]: And even like BJ, he does the best on routine with the boys. 35:38.981 --> 35:47.303 [SPEAKER_00]: And if there's anything that like keeps coming up with them, he'll use a guy to like create a story and I create this story 35:52.324 --> 35:54.965 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, going to a new school. 35:55.565 --> 35:57.686 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, you know, we'll use that. 35:57.786 --> 36:08.268 [SPEAKER_00]: So, that is an intentional for us, but we want them to learn that their relationship with God is integrated into their life. 36:08.368 --> 36:10.209 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not set to just on Sundays. 36:10.289 --> 36:15.810 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not only about when you're heard or madder upset, but it he likes to delight in you. 36:16.270 --> 36:23.177 [SPEAKER_00]: And then think that you like and you can be excited to tell God that you learn how to divide this week, you know, and all of that. 36:23.277 --> 36:33.607 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I think for us, even as adults, we should approach it the same way, connect the Lord with the things that you like. 36:33.827 --> 36:36.790 [SPEAKER_00]: If you like to cook, look and see like. 36:38.138 --> 36:47.704 [SPEAKER_00]: Speaking of the day you fast, go in, we talked about that in part, the left part, go and see, like, why did day you eat that way? 36:48.144 --> 36:54.668 [SPEAKER_00]: What were some of the herbs and spices and things that they ate during those times? 36:54.688 --> 36:58.150 [SPEAKER_00]: They used that as a way to try new recipes. 36:58.190 --> 36:59.531 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's just, you know, take time. 37:00.491 --> 37:01.752 [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, somebody doing this? 37:02.432 --> 37:02.793 [SPEAKER_02]: Girl. 37:03.851 --> 37:04.771 [SPEAKER_02]: gourmet meals. 37:04.972 --> 37:09.754 [SPEAKER_02]: He's like, let's do a meal inspired by this handsome looking Asian man. 37:10.274 --> 37:13.595 [SPEAKER_02]: And he would do meals inspired by stories in the Bible. 37:14.015 --> 37:15.596 [SPEAKER_02]: And he's telling the story. 37:15.956 --> 37:16.957 [SPEAKER_02]: And he's a chef. 37:16.997 --> 37:24.800 [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, I do a literally use anything to like, I love the variety of just the body of 37:33.325 --> 37:34.445 [SPEAKER_02]: He will make the meal. 37:34.505 --> 37:43.988 [SPEAKER_02]: I was never thought to do that make the meal and it's inspired by the Bible and as I'm like, yes, integrate it. 37:44.008 --> 37:50.330 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't even know how, but me and another one of my friends in my wrestling group. 37:50.450 --> 37:53.731 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what happened and we were talking about 37:54.851 --> 37:58.894 [SPEAKER_02]: the Bible, and then like it's now like become a thing. 37:58.954 --> 38:06.981 [SPEAKER_02]: So even in, yeah, even in our recreational things because I know we call it like turn in our brain off, but it really isn't that it's just recreation. 38:08.582 --> 38:13.806 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, even our recreational things like God cares whether you if you play a sport. 38:14.433 --> 38:41.095 [SPEAKER_02]: when you're overcoming and enduring like there's always yeah we was at the winery that day remember and I was like see we asked that lady if we could I said can we walk among the like throughout the thing you're like amongst the things she said oh no it's not right now because it's hard to see and I said oh that's a word mm-hmm that's a word no no contamination during 38:43.930 --> 38:53.612 [SPEAKER_02]: So even in our recreation, if you allow the Lord, if you integrate the Lord into your life, he's like, you'll recognize more and more that he's there. 38:53.632 --> 38:56.112 [SPEAKER_02]: So don't feel like it has to be separate. 38:57.152 --> 39:07.234 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and we make this point for those of you listening because I know we get these questions and the questions are usually isolated to certain things, like quiet in my mind during prayer. 39:07.494 --> 39:10.315 [SPEAKER_00]: But we want to emphasize integration 39:10.815 --> 39:17.460 [SPEAKER_00]: so that you understand that this life is way beyond the activities that we do, but we live for him. 39:17.860 --> 39:18.000 [SPEAKER_00]: Yep. 39:18.260 --> 39:20.122 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the end dwelling of the Holy Spirit. 39:20.142 --> 39:21.202 [SPEAKER_00]: He go where we go. 39:21.623 --> 39:21.883 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes. 39:22.403 --> 39:23.604 [SPEAKER_00]: We supposed to pray when I'll see him. 39:23.944 --> 39:24.745 [SPEAKER_02]: But people got to work. 39:25.345 --> 39:25.525 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. 39:25.545 --> 39:26.226 [SPEAKER_02]: That's my point. 39:26.466 --> 39:26.906 [SPEAKER_02]: That's awesome. 39:26.966 --> 39:27.387 [SPEAKER_02]: We'll God. 39:28.307 --> 39:29.989 [SPEAKER_02]: And this and this is my big brain. 39:30.749 --> 39:32.190 [SPEAKER_02]: God, it was the prayer when I'll see him. 39:32.270 --> 39:33.051 [SPEAKER_02]: I got to go to work. 39:34.511 --> 39:35.452 [SPEAKER_02]: That's just like that. 39:35.792 --> 39:42.254 [SPEAKER_02]: He's like, yeah, because then I study prayer, the word in the Greek, I don't know how to pronounce it, but essentially it's an exchange. 39:42.614 --> 39:45.355 [SPEAKER_02]: It's an exchange for my intention for his will. 39:45.735 --> 39:47.576 [SPEAKER_02]: And so we can always have an exchange. 39:47.856 --> 39:52.358 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm constantly talking to the Lord in my mind, in my heart, like I can see things. 39:52.398 --> 39:55.559 [SPEAKER_02]: And so now it's like, oh, cause I'm always talking to you. 39:56.239 --> 40:00.521 [SPEAKER_02]: Not that I gotta be laid out on this floor for 12 hours, cause, who could pay my bills? 40:01.461 --> 40:04.084 [SPEAKER_02]: But I have to do that too, right? 40:04.404 --> 40:06.326 [SPEAKER_02]: Like you talked about taking care of my household. 40:06.426 --> 40:12.931 [SPEAKER_02]: So it's like, again, that's one of those things where it's like, this is why it's important to not just be exposed to your work. 40:13.372 --> 40:16.715 [SPEAKER_02]: And no, oh, I know that I'm supposed to pray. 40:17.476 --> 40:18.977 [SPEAKER_02]: The Bible says, pray what I'll see you soon. 40:19.898 --> 40:23.501 [SPEAKER_02]: You also tell me that if somebody don't take care of the household, they're worse than an unbeliever. 40:24.642 --> 40:25.503 [SPEAKER_02]: So to me, I'm not gonna work. 40:26.383 --> 40:26.663 [SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm. 40:27.164 --> 40:28.504 [SPEAKER_02]: How much was the cost of you playing? 40:29.225 --> 40:37.449 [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, because the activity of prayer in the way that we know it now, it's, it has more nuanced and it's expounded beyond. 40:37.509 --> 40:40.750 [SPEAKER_01]: Just let me ask that out of the blue all the time. 40:41.451 --> 40:41.731 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 40:42.952 --> 40:43.672 [SPEAKER_00]: Last question. 40:46.013 --> 40:49.155 [SPEAKER_00]: We talked about this throughout both parts. 40:50.200 --> 40:52.121 [SPEAKER_00]: But I want to narrow it to the one thing. 40:52.641 --> 41:01.966 [SPEAKER_00]: What is the one thing that somebody can do today to move from trusting God intellectually, to trusting Him with their safety? 41:14.511 --> 41:15.432 [SPEAKER_01]: But I have a framework. 41:20.317 --> 41:25.960 [SPEAKER_02]: was give part one to the framework being, it's just, it's three questions, right? 41:27.961 --> 41:29.802 [SPEAKER_02]: Trust is not simply an emotion. 41:29.842 --> 41:33.364 [SPEAKER_02]: It's also a skill, and there's three parts to it. 41:35.245 --> 41:36.606 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you trust God's ability? 41:37.326 --> 41:38.167 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you believe he's able? 41:40.328 --> 41:49.753 [SPEAKER_02]: Do you believe that he's benevolent, meaning that he has, like he wants good for you? 41:52.110 --> 41:54.572 [SPEAKER_02]: And do you believe that he has integrity? 41:54.672 --> 41:57.093 [SPEAKER_02]: Meaning he's the same yesterday today and forever more. 41:58.735 --> 42:13.585 [SPEAKER_02]: A lot of times, if you look at what like there's somewhere in here you don't believe one of these three things and once you are able to isolate like, you know what God, I want to believe that you're, I know you can. 42:14.830 --> 42:16.770 [SPEAKER_02]: give me x, y and z that I need. 42:17.311 --> 42:22.012 [SPEAKER_02]: But I struggle with believing that you're going to give it to me. 42:22.532 --> 42:30.293 [SPEAKER_02]: Or I struggle because of this, that matter, it's either somewhere with his ability, his benevolence. 42:30.413 --> 42:35.534 [SPEAKER_02]: I have found for me that it's, I don't believe, like, I know you can do it, but I don't know that you'll do it for me. 42:36.194 --> 42:37.475 [SPEAKER_02]: And then we have to deal with that. 42:38.595 --> 42:38.655 [SPEAKER_02]: Or 42:40.912 --> 42:41.552 [SPEAKER_02]: integrity. 42:42.353 --> 42:46.654 [SPEAKER_02]: This is why we struggle even in like when it's studying leadership science. 42:46.994 --> 42:47.154 [SPEAKER_02]: Right. 42:47.955 --> 42:49.015 [SPEAKER_02]: It's these three elements. 42:49.215 --> 42:51.496 [SPEAKER_02]: I can trust your leadership when I believe that you're able. 42:51.956 --> 42:53.917 [SPEAKER_02]: I believe that you have my best interest at heart. 42:54.257 --> 42:55.678 [SPEAKER_02]: And I believe that you're integral. 42:56.078 --> 43:04.541 [SPEAKER_02]: And so now when I struggle with trusting God with anything, I go through my little like A, B, I check like I know he's able. 43:07.801 --> 43:14.225 [SPEAKER_02]: It's typically the benevolence thing or it is like it integrity is like, well, I don't know if he's going to do it. 43:14.385 --> 43:19.468 [SPEAKER_02]: So sometimes I have to remind myself like, well, he's like, here's how he's done this before and showed up. 43:19.768 --> 43:23.670 [SPEAKER_02]: This is how he's healed your body before so when I hear that my daddy's in heart failure. 43:23.951 --> 43:26.732 [SPEAKER_02]: Well, Charlotte, you were in kidney failure and you never were on dialysis. 43:29.274 --> 43:31.435 [SPEAKER_02]: Is he not the thing yesterday today for ever more? 43:32.777 --> 43:33.017 [SPEAKER_02]: Okay. 43:33.037 --> 43:33.858 [SPEAKER_02]: So we can trust them. 43:34.979 --> 43:35.900 [SPEAKER_02]: You could still be scared. 43:36.201 --> 43:42.247 [SPEAKER_02]: Like nobody wants to hear that about their dad, but like we can trust them because his integrity is there. 43:45.170 --> 43:53.458 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I will say if I would narrow it down to one thing, it would be to just decide to and 43:54.915 --> 44:09.723 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the step one will vary between every single person because there's how we feel safe differs because how we don't feel safe is usually based off of something that we've been through. 44:09.863 --> 44:20.028 [SPEAKER_00]: So I would say step one will be just make that decision that Lord, I'm going to trust you with my safety in that decision. 44:20.308 --> 44:24.410 [SPEAKER_00]: Let it not be lip service, but move forward as if it is what it is. 44:26.831 --> 44:44.262 [SPEAKER_00]: because once you decide that it'll be hard of course it's not going to be comfortable you're not going to be excited about it because it's different and it'll be prerequisites to action you can still things and be uncomfortable yes but just decide to do the thing yeah they don't have to tell of it 44:45.436 --> 45:00.042 [SPEAKER_02]: uncertainty that is the the biggest premise we're never going to know all the things and that it and of itself is scary which is what like trust is for whatever reason like that like you said that security thing it's all different by what tells us like choose 45:01.964 --> 45:09.450 [SPEAKER_02]: God, like from Genesis, God keeps giving us the ability to choose this for that, choose you today who you're going to serve. 45:10.011 --> 45:11.412 [SPEAKER_02]: And so I think that's really good. 45:11.532 --> 45:22.402 [SPEAKER_02]: And I think that criteria of like ability, benevolence and integrity gives us a little something, but you have to learn how to tolerate uncertainty. 45:24.126 --> 45:28.371 [SPEAKER_02]: That part is just a part of the skill and the growth and the maturity. 45:28.932 --> 45:29.833 [SPEAKER_02]: We're not going to know. 45:30.234 --> 45:32.456 [SPEAKER_02]: So even now, I'm getting ready to sell my house and move. 45:33.237 --> 45:35.020 [SPEAKER_02]: There's a lot of faith stuff happening. 45:36.081 --> 45:42.909 [SPEAKER_02]: The parts that I can know and do know, I'm fine with I'm studying decision making. 45:43.810 --> 46:11.843 [SPEAKER_02]: And I learned about the filter set rule like the 70% rule take your top 10 questions Once you have 70% of the answers make a decision because at some point more information is like a loss Like it's like it's not it's not helpful So I decide with the lower what my 10 questions are Once I get to the 70 like the 70% like I have don't ask me to notice because I have enough to make a sound wise decision 46:14.715 --> 46:15.435 [SPEAKER_01]: and let it in. 46:15.475 --> 46:16.136 [SPEAKER_01]: We'll see you happens. 46:19.778 --> 46:20.398 [SPEAKER_00]: That's good. 46:20.418 --> 46:22.639 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think that's a good place for us to end. 46:23.000 --> 46:27.822 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much, Charlotte, for joining me for being here. 46:27.942 --> 46:29.083 [SPEAKER_00]: I pray that it's fine. 46:29.343 --> 46:35.767 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's I pray that y'all are listening that you were blessed about both parts of this episode. 46:36.107 --> 46:36.747 [SPEAKER_00]: We here. 46:36.787 --> 46:37.268 [SPEAKER_00]: We log in. 46:37.308 --> 46:38.008 [SPEAKER_00]: It's 1 a.m. 46:38.708 --> 46:39.609 [SPEAKER_00]: and we'll wrap it up. 46:40.549 --> 46:41.230 [SPEAKER_00]: These parts. 46:41.450 --> 46:42.811 [SPEAKER_00]: So there's the Lord. 46:43.311 --> 46:54.880 [SPEAKER_00]: We hopped over here real late to get these done, but I pray that this episode blessed you that you got something from it and most importantly that it pushed you closer to the Lord, because that's what we're gonna do. 46:55.400 --> 47:01.364 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you guys so much for 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