WEBVTT 00:00.051 --> 00:04.313 [SPEAKER_00]: Remember when we sold our home in Des Moines, it was the best it had ever looked. 00:04.973 --> 00:06.974 [SPEAKER_00]: We fixed up all of the little issues. 00:07.354 --> 00:09.995 [SPEAKER_00]: We got the matching accent pillows that went with the rug. 00:10.455 --> 00:12.096 [SPEAKER_00]: We cleaned until it sparkled. 00:12.556 --> 00:20.019 [SPEAKER_00]: We removed all of the excess stuff that had been cluttering up the space, all that visual clutter, it was absolutely beautiful. 00:21.373 --> 00:24.534 [SPEAKER_00]: It was the second time we'd sold the home and got it ready for showings. 00:25.174 --> 00:34.736 [SPEAKER_00]: And every time, like I said, those two times, but we've moved a lot, but those two times, we asked ourselves, why didn't we do this when we lived here? 00:35.616 --> 00:44.818 [SPEAKER_00]: So I've moved 16 times as an adult, it is about to be 17, and every time we moved, there used to be some variation of that question. 00:45.558 --> 00:49.879 [SPEAKER_00]: Why did we wait so long to make the home feel like we always wanted it to? 00:50.659 --> 00:53.880 [SPEAKER_00]: Why didn't we do these kinds of things earlier? 00:53.940 --> 00:55.741 [SPEAKER_00]: Why didn't we fix all those little issues? 00:57.321 --> 01:02.523 [SPEAKER_00]: Why weren't we paying attention and making it feel like the home that we wanted it to be? 01:03.443 --> 01:11.586 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I want to help you avoid that question and all those variations and make your home ready for you, your family and the life that you're living today. 01:12.067 --> 01:16.308 [SPEAKER_00]: Not that aspirational one, not living in the past, not living out of guilt, not living out of shame. 01:16.909 --> 01:26.613 [SPEAKER_00]: The life that fulfills you and makes you feel comfortable, cozy, like you can show up, like you can attack the world if you want to, okay? 01:27.293 --> 01:30.376 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, Andy and I, I'm your host for want to be clutter free. 01:30.416 --> 01:34.519 [SPEAKER_00]: This is episode 325 and I am very excited you are here today. 01:35.460 --> 01:39.383 [SPEAKER_00]: If you want the show notes for today, please go to want to be clutter free.com slash 325. 01:39.523 --> 01:44.447 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, let's get into what's going on. 01:44.467 --> 01:49.812 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to give you a little bit of an update because when I tell people we're moving, there are a few things they say. 01:51.084 --> 01:53.547 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh no, where are you moving to? 01:53.587 --> 01:55.709 [SPEAKER_00]: They want to make sure we're not leaving the city. 01:55.729 --> 01:57.471 [SPEAKER_00]: We're not leaving the city. 01:57.531 --> 01:58.372 [SPEAKER_00]: We're staying here. 01:58.432 --> 02:01.436 [SPEAKER_00]: We're not even going to hopefully move too far from where we currently live. 02:02.477 --> 02:07.042 [SPEAKER_00]: They talk about being sad and oh no, that it's really stressful. 02:07.182 --> 02:09.926 [SPEAKER_00]: And moving is one of the most stressful things you can do in your life, right? 02:11.358 --> 02:20.245 [SPEAKER_00]: But inevitably, they also will say in the same breath, that's so terrible, but oh my gosh, now you have a reason to clean. 02:21.346 --> 02:25.569 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, everybody knows that moving makes you ruthless, right? 02:26.030 --> 02:31.374 [SPEAKER_00]: You get rid of more in two weeks of packing than you will in five years of living here. 02:31.874 --> 02:54.590 [SPEAKER_00]: it's kind of where we're at right now and I definitely don't think I'm getting rid of more in these two weeks and I will have in the last five years because again I've been doing all the things and you know keeping up with our stuff as we've been living here but there are a lot of things that I'm getting rid of and I'm in the middle of a challenge um and if you're following me on Instagram you have seen it I've done through 10 days I'm halfway through my 20-day goal. 02:55.410 --> 02:59.651 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think I'm going to hit my 500 items and it makes sense. 02:59.691 --> 03:07.813 [SPEAKER_00]: I just decluttered into the big declutter at the end of last year, beginning of this year, and decluttered 500 things. 03:07.893 --> 03:13.574 [SPEAKER_00]: So for me to personally have 500 things that are just mine, I don't think it's going to happen. 03:13.614 --> 03:14.995 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I'm halfway there. 03:15.155 --> 03:18.755 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just over 250 and that's just on me. 03:18.856 --> 03:21.896 [SPEAKER_00]: So when my family starts to get involved, yes, we'll hit that 500. 03:25.197 --> 03:25.878 [SPEAKER_00]: But that's okay. 03:25.918 --> 03:26.619 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a challenge. 03:26.639 --> 03:27.540 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the point, right? 03:27.560 --> 03:39.818 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to be pretty ruthless and really simplify, like radical simplicity, so that I don't feel so overwhelmed, like, if you were following along or you... 03:40.699 --> 03:44.261 [SPEAKER_00]: Listen to his podcast, you know my life has been kind of topsy curvy over the last month. 03:44.621 --> 03:50.923 [SPEAKER_00]: My husband had back surgery, my mom's in chemotherapy, we had to move and it was an unexpected move. 03:50.963 --> 03:52.444 [SPEAKER_00]: I did not want to have to move. 03:52.484 --> 03:54.525 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not choosing to move. 03:54.965 --> 03:56.866 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm being forced to because our landlord selling our home. 03:58.061 --> 04:09.526 [SPEAKER_00]: So taking control, like looking at my stuff and trying to radically simplify it was one thing that I could do in order to have control to in order to feel like I was in charge of my stuff because there was so much in my life. 04:10.006 --> 04:21.852 [SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't in charge over over this last month and it's really helping and I'm feeling a lot better and time is some of that but also just knowing that I'm not going to have to pack up all this stuff that I just feel home about is really helpful as well. 04:24.211 --> 04:37.722 [SPEAKER_00]: But when you are going through this moment, like if you haven't moved in a while, you haven't been decluttering and you're just like, oh, and you have to move, you are going to get rid of more into weeks than you will. 04:38.783 --> 04:43.987 [SPEAKER_00]: When you're not actively decluttering, and it's not because you tried harder, it's not because you're saying, 04:45.527 --> 04:59.291 [SPEAKER_00]: Now I'm going to try, it's because you're flipping things on its head and I want to tell you what I have really come to understand as I'm going through this moving process again, because nothing about you changes when you're moving. 05:00.011 --> 05:02.191 [SPEAKER_00]: What changes is your default setting. 05:03.172 --> 05:08.073 [SPEAKER_00]: So on a normal weekday, everything you own is already in your home. 05:08.673 --> 05:08.893 [SPEAKER_00]: right? 05:09.273 --> 05:11.254 [SPEAKER_00]: Most likely, let's say you're not, it's just a normal day. 05:11.414 --> 05:13.475 [SPEAKER_00]: You didn't go shopping, you're not bringing anything new in. 05:14.055 --> 05:15.095 [SPEAKER_00]: Everything's already here. 05:15.855 --> 05:18.936 [SPEAKER_00]: So every item has to argue it's way out. 05:19.536 --> 05:23.318 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the thing about decluttering, is we're taking out, we're subtracting, we're removing. 05:23.718 --> 05:25.698 [SPEAKER_00]: And as humans, that's really hard for us. 05:25.838 --> 05:26.779 [SPEAKER_00]: We want to add. 05:26.799 --> 05:27.599 [SPEAKER_00]: We want more. 05:27.659 --> 05:32.220 [SPEAKER_00]: We want, we think that more is going to make us feel better and make us feel more fulfilled. 05:32.540 --> 05:33.561 [SPEAKER_00]: And so we're always looking 05:37.382 --> 05:39.323 [SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes subtracting is what we need to do. 05:39.763 --> 05:46.866 [SPEAKER_00]: But as we are picking something up and we're deciding whether we want to declutter it or keep it, you look for a reason to let it go. 05:47.586 --> 05:51.788 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you can't find a reason, then the item is going to stay. 05:53.194 --> 05:54.735 [SPEAKER_00]: The default answer is keep. 05:55.055 --> 05:56.216 [SPEAKER_00]: It's already here. 05:56.476 --> 05:57.596 [SPEAKER_00]: It already has a place. 05:57.636 --> 05:59.037 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the place might be in a box. 05:59.517 --> 06:00.518 [SPEAKER_00]: It might be out of shelf. 06:00.538 --> 06:01.598 [SPEAKER_00]: It might be super messy. 06:02.179 --> 06:04.440 [SPEAKER_00]: But it already has a place that's living. 06:04.620 --> 06:08.122 [SPEAKER_00]: And so why would I get rid of it if I have the space? 06:08.242 --> 06:10.843 [SPEAKER_00]: If I don't have a significant reason. 06:11.483 --> 06:14.205 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is why decluttering feels like a fight. 06:14.725 --> 06:20.368 [SPEAKER_00]: It's why the sentence that ends most of them is, well, I have room for it. 06:20.728 --> 06:21.949 [SPEAKER_00]: So I might as well keep it. 06:22.569 --> 06:24.692 [SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever said that, have you ever heard anyone say that? 06:24.732 --> 06:26.594 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sure you have, huh? 06:26.714 --> 06:29.117 [SPEAKER_00]: I room for it, might as well keep it, you know? 06:29.357 --> 06:30.258 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to deal with it. 06:30.378 --> 06:30.879 [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay. 06:31.059 --> 06:36.285 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to have to deal with the fallout of where am I going to take it or what am I going to do with it? 06:36.486 --> 06:38.087 [SPEAKER_00]: It's, I'll just let it live here. 06:39.614 --> 06:42.497 [SPEAKER_00]: But when you're moving, you don't have that luxury. 06:43.218 --> 06:44.379 [SPEAKER_00]: Everything has to come out. 06:45.139 --> 06:46.140 [SPEAKER_00]: Everything is being packed. 06:46.261 --> 06:49.184 [SPEAKER_00]: Everything is being taken from this house to another house. 06:49.904 --> 06:51.586 [SPEAKER_00]: This apartment to another apartment. 06:51.746 --> 06:52.667 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't matter. 06:52.707 --> 06:53.948 [SPEAKER_00]: It has to leave. 06:53.988 --> 06:54.869 [SPEAKER_00]: It has to move. 06:55.930 --> 07:01.913 [SPEAKER_00]: It's in a box or it's in a pile and now every single thing has to argue it's way back in. 07:02.953 --> 07:10.977 [SPEAKER_00]: So instead of having it to argue to leave, we can flip it on its head and say, mmm, no, do you deserve to be here? 07:11.817 --> 07:15.539 [SPEAKER_00]: And that I think is why people get excited when they have to move. 07:15.919 --> 07:21.662 [SPEAKER_00]: They're not excited about the moving process, but it gives us this new way to look at our stuff. 07:23.282 --> 07:24.202 [SPEAKER_00]: and it were forced to. 07:24.382 --> 07:25.503 [SPEAKER_00]: We're just forced to do it. 07:25.543 --> 07:31.824 [SPEAKER_00]: We can do the things when they are forced upon us, but we don't generally want to get out of our comfort zone unless we have to. 07:33.165 --> 07:35.585 [SPEAKER_00]: But when you're moving, you're not deciding what to get rid of. 07:35.645 --> 07:37.806 [SPEAKER_00]: You're deciding what gets to come with you. 07:39.006 --> 07:41.827 [SPEAKER_00]: Same house, same stuff, same you opposite default. 07:42.387 --> 07:43.228 [SPEAKER_00]: Does that make sense? 07:44.028 --> 07:48.069 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, so I'm going to give you the one question that is going to change everything for you. 07:49.460 --> 07:50.061 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you ready for it? 07:50.681 --> 07:54.705 [SPEAKER_00]: You're no longer going to be arguing from this place of default that we just talked about. 07:55.265 --> 08:05.735 [SPEAKER_00]: Instead, this question is going to help you see all of your things through the lens of moving without having to go through the stress of actually having to pack it all up. 08:06.596 --> 08:07.437 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't that sound nice? 08:12.976 --> 08:13.957 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, you ready for the question? 08:13.977 --> 08:20.921 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, the one question you need to start asking yourself is, would I unpack this? 08:22.602 --> 08:23.642 [SPEAKER_00]: Not, would I keep it? 08:24.202 --> 08:25.343 [SPEAKER_00]: Not, do I have room? 08:25.823 --> 08:27.524 [SPEAKER_00]: Not, would I pay someone to move it? 08:28.725 --> 08:36.389 [SPEAKER_00]: Would I carry this into my new place, my new home, my new house, open it and give it somewhere to live? 08:37.990 --> 08:40.492 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the question, would I unpack this? 08:41.755 --> 08:43.176 [SPEAKER_00]: So I want to still get an example. 08:44.137 --> 08:47.319 [SPEAKER_00]: Would you pay a mover to carry a bin of your child's artwork? 08:48.660 --> 08:50.101 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, instantly, right? 08:50.401 --> 08:51.722 [SPEAKER_00]: Of course, it's sentimental. 08:51.762 --> 08:52.643 [SPEAKER_00]: I've got to keep that. 08:53.824 --> 08:56.806 [SPEAKER_00]: Would you keep it all by default because it's already in your home? 08:57.747 --> 08:59.708 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, yes, it's already here. 09:00.108 --> 09:02.470 [SPEAKER_00]: Why am I going to get rid of these things that I love? 09:02.610 --> 09:06.853 [SPEAKER_00]: Because I love my child, and I love their artwork and I love what they do, right? 09:07.934 --> 09:09.135 [SPEAKER_00]: But would you unpack it? 09:10.314 --> 09:16.985 [SPEAKER_00]: Would you open that box in the new house and find all of those papers a home? 09:18.868 --> 09:24.417 [SPEAKER_00]: Or is it just gonna go in the closet or the garage still tape shut exactly like it did last time? 09:26.427 --> 09:27.849 [SPEAKER_00]: probably gonna happen, right? 09:28.329 --> 09:35.378 [SPEAKER_00]: That happens to so many of our belongings when we move and even more when we stay in the same home year after year. 09:36.159 --> 09:42.907 [SPEAKER_00]: So instead, I wanna challenge you to find the special pieces that you would frame and hang up or display. 09:44.587 --> 09:54.098 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want you to think about maybe these three or four or five can represent everything that's in this bin, okay? 09:55.059 --> 10:03.189 [SPEAKER_00]: The bin of 400 pieces of art that's just sitting in your garage is not going to give you the same joy as those few pieces on display. 10:04.470 --> 10:04.810 [SPEAKER_00]: I know. 10:05.491 --> 10:13.678 [SPEAKER_00]: I have done this with some of my daughter's artwork, I have done this with her baby clothes, and I've done this with lots of collections in my home. 10:13.898 --> 10:22.585 [SPEAKER_00]: I know that that one piece that I see on a regular basis that I can pass by, that I can think about, that when I'm looking in that direction, I can have a moment of 10:23.207 --> 10:29.832 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, remember what she was that tiny, all those little feet and a little head and they're all so cute, right? 10:29.892 --> 10:32.514 [SPEAKER_00]: Versus if it's in my garage, it's at a site out of mind. 10:32.554 --> 10:49.706 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm never thinking about it until the day when I need to go find something and I have to go through all of the boxes or open all the bags and try to find something and then you're stuck done memory lane and you go oh, it's two hours later and you sell them how you're looking for because you got stuck and wrapped up in all these memories, okay? 10:50.566 --> 10:54.108 [SPEAKER_00]: So I want you to find your favorites and then let the rest go. 10:54.328 --> 10:59.771 [SPEAKER_00]: That is my challenge to you and it's not going to make you a bad mom to not keep every piece. 11:01.052 --> 11:03.033 [SPEAKER_00]: I promise it does not make you a bad mom. 11:03.614 --> 11:07.316 [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, my daughter calls me the best mom ever and I don't keep all of her stuff. 11:08.448 --> 11:09.789 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so it doesn't. 11:10.209 --> 11:12.790 [SPEAKER_00]: Those things don't matter in the end. 11:13.550 --> 11:16.052 [SPEAKER_00]: It really is the sentiment and the intention behind it. 11:16.412 --> 11:20.013 [SPEAKER_00]: If it's just seeing in a box, it's not really doing anyone any good. 11:20.954 --> 11:22.815 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's just decaying, okay? 11:24.075 --> 11:33.139 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're not struggling in this area, and you don't have to worry about artwork or things like that, I want you to think of a box that you have somewhere that you never unpacked. 11:33.839 --> 11:41.422 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's from your last move, maybe it's from two moves ago, maybe it's a box of things you decluttered that are sitting in your garage and they're waiting to be dropped off. 11:41.462 --> 11:47.544 [SPEAKER_00]: And now you don't even remember what's in there, so it's like this mystery unknown box and now it's freaky and scary, and you don't know what to do. 11:48.645 --> 11:48.845 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, 11:50.134 --> 11:53.617 [SPEAKER_00]: Good news, you already made the hard decisions. 11:54.017 --> 11:54.818 [SPEAKER_00]: You've packed it up. 11:55.439 --> 11:57.240 [SPEAKER_00]: You just never got around to acting on it. 11:57.981 --> 12:00.203 [SPEAKER_00]: So you don't need to feel shame about that box. 12:00.763 --> 12:07.789 [SPEAKER_00]: Unknown stuff in a box is proof that you don't absolutely need it to live your everyday life, right? 12:08.650 --> 12:12.193 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is why the question of would you unpack it is so powerful. 12:13.034 --> 12:17.498 [SPEAKER_00]: We keep stuff by default, but we unpack with intention. 12:18.983 --> 12:28.830 [SPEAKER_00]: So I want you to think about that as you are thinking about how to declutter and when we go through and we ask ourselves these questions, would I unpack it instead of do I want to keep it? 12:29.511 --> 12:33.613 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, let's go back to our example of selling a home when you sell a home. 12:34.534 --> 12:39.238 [SPEAKER_00]: A realtor is going to come in and they're going to want you to make it show ready, right? 12:39.498 --> 12:40.139 [SPEAKER_00]: What does that mean? 12:40.179 --> 12:43.682 [SPEAKER_00]: That means stripping out everything that says a family lives here, right? 12:43.702 --> 12:54.090 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to take down the photos, we're going to take down the kids' art, we're going to replace that favorite comfy chair with something that maybe is a little more streamlined, maybe looks a little nicer. 12:55.031 --> 12:59.555 [SPEAKER_00]: It's sterile on purpose and it's so a stranger can imagine themselves living in it. 13:00.417 --> 13:02.759 [SPEAKER_00]: And yes, our home looked fantastic. 13:02.779 --> 13:07.865 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, I got the matching throw pillows that I should have gotten a year before. 13:08.385 --> 13:09.466 [SPEAKER_00]: So we could have enjoyed them. 13:10.467 --> 13:14.131 [SPEAKER_00]: I got them, so they looked good in the pictures, and they looked good when people came through, right? 13:15.352 --> 13:20.998 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's still really to you, or I don't even know if that's a real word, but that sterile environment is the part I've never liked. 13:21.598 --> 13:24.240 [SPEAKER_00]: It's the part that felt backwards the whole time. 13:24.380 --> 13:27.242 [SPEAKER_00]: Moving ready means a house that needs nothing done to it. 13:27.742 --> 13:29.623 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean that it's sterile. 13:29.643 --> 13:31.404 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean that no one lives there. 13:31.985 --> 13:37.168 [SPEAKER_00]: It just means that there's no pressing issues that need to happen right now. 13:38.129 --> 13:42.211 [SPEAKER_00]: So what if you made your house move and ready for the person who already lives there? 13:42.731 --> 13:46.454 [SPEAKER_00]: Not staged for a stranger, but set up for you and your family. 13:48.181 --> 13:50.142 [SPEAKER_00]: And that answers the question I opened with. 13:51.023 --> 13:53.065 [SPEAKER_00]: Why didn't we do this when we lived here? 13:54.085 --> 13:57.728 [SPEAKER_00]: That's what I always asked myself when I was selling those homes before. 13:58.288 --> 14:02.952 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I didn't we do this earlier and you hear people do this, say this all the time. 14:03.793 --> 14:06.855 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's because no one ever gave you a reason to do it for yourself. 14:07.135 --> 14:08.256 [SPEAKER_00]: But I want to be that person. 14:08.296 --> 14:10.517 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to give you a reason to do it for yourself. 14:10.818 --> 14:12.819 [SPEAKER_00]: Make your home moving ready for you. 14:12.979 --> 14:17.763 [SPEAKER_00]: Be the one who's moving in, who's living there, who's enjoying it while you're there. 14:23.089 --> 14:35.995 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I said at the beginning of this, you now know that we're having to move, if you didn't know before, I didn't want to move, took me a bit to get happy about it, to be okay with it, but now I realize that this is a gift, right? 14:36.095 --> 14:38.216 [SPEAKER_00]: Our current home doesn't feel cluttered. 14:38.556 --> 14:40.176 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to declutter. 14:41.737 --> 14:47.606 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to actually get rid of all these things that I'm getting rid of, but they're not really being utilized. 14:47.766 --> 14:50.090 [SPEAKER_00]: And so it's time for them to go on to someone else. 14:50.991 --> 14:54.096 [SPEAKER_00]: I got rid of so many things on my buy-nothing group today. 14:54.316 --> 14:55.178 [SPEAKER_00]: It was... 14:56.950 --> 14:57.370 [SPEAKER_00]: amazing. 14:57.851 --> 15:06.198 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, so many people came and got so many things at this huge pile, you saw on Instagram and that pile is down to just a few items left because people just didn't pick them up today. 15:06.879 --> 15:11.003 [SPEAKER_00]: So within a day, I got that whole pile out in into my community. 15:11.203 --> 15:12.224 [SPEAKER_00]: It is amazing. 15:12.344 --> 15:14.626 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm always surprised to how quickly things go on there. 15:14.646 --> 15:23.394 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're not on by nothing and you want to keep things within your community, not send them to the thrift store where you're not sure what's going to happen to them, highly recommend it. 15:24.074 --> 15:26.855 [SPEAKER_00]: Things have always gone so quickly for us in our area. 15:26.875 --> 15:28.996 [SPEAKER_00]: We have a great by nothing group. 15:29.857 --> 15:32.538 [SPEAKER_00]: So that being said, I didn't really have to declutter all this stuff. 15:32.718 --> 15:40.782 [SPEAKER_00]: But I am now looking forward to being super intentional in the new home and making it moving ready for our family on a regular basis. 15:40.982 --> 15:41.182 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? 15:41.582 --> 15:42.523 [SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to feel 15:43.603 --> 15:50.545 [SPEAKER_00]: like you go into like when you only stay in a hotel or an Airbnb and you walk in and it's like, oh, this is great. 15:50.965 --> 15:53.046 [SPEAKER_00]: That's how I want our home to feel in a regular basis. 15:53.606 --> 15:54.806 [SPEAKER_00]: It's less visual clutter. 15:54.986 --> 15:59.848 [SPEAKER_00]: It's having the stuff only that we need and not really being minimalist. 16:00.108 --> 16:06.950 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still, I don't think we as a family will be minimalist but moving a little bit more in that direction. 16:07.550 --> 16:10.271 [SPEAKER_00]: And making it feel like a place we all want to be. 16:11.111 --> 16:12.192 [SPEAKER_00]: we're the ones living there. 16:12.652 --> 16:15.995 [SPEAKER_00]: And so we are the ones who should be enjoying it all the time. 16:16.776 --> 16:19.779 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not doing moving ready to make it show ready for other people. 16:20.199 --> 16:22.040 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing it for us in our family. 16:22.721 --> 16:26.925 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you're following me on Instagram, you know I've been going through my own things right now and decluttering. 16:27.325 --> 16:30.127 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm working on what I've said radical simplicity and 16:31.048 --> 16:37.910 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to use this question, like, if I wouldn't want to unpack it, why would I pack it in the first place? 16:38.350 --> 16:39.670 [SPEAKER_00]: And so out it goes, right? 16:39.770 --> 16:41.031 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, would I unpack it? 16:41.051 --> 16:42.471 [SPEAKER_00]: It's all coming back to that for me. 16:43.231 --> 16:45.312 [SPEAKER_00]: And we're doing with my stuff first, right? 16:45.392 --> 16:46.412 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm starting with my stuff. 16:46.612 --> 16:48.513 [SPEAKER_00]: Next, I'm going to help my family go through their things. 16:48.933 --> 16:55.375 [SPEAKER_00]: And then eventually, when we do sign a new lease, when we find a new place, we'll be able to figure out which furniture pieces will 16:56.495 --> 17:18.276 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's like the last step, so we'll be able to measure everything and make sure and then like no really what it is and have that one last final pass before we are done packing and unpacking on the other end and it got me thinking though that I don't want to do this alone so many of you have reached out to grab my declutter tracker and are following along but what if we actually did this together. 17:19.097 --> 17:46.917 [SPEAKER_00]: It is incredibly motivating to do things with others and so I'm taking a small group through my move-in method in order to get your home move-in ready every day and as the lessons I've learned from 16 now 17 moves and I worked in property management before I've seen people moving in out I've seen countless different apartment homes and how they've been set up the same model set up different ways with interior designers and with people that had 17:47.377 --> 18:04.370 [SPEAKER_00]: a lot of stuff but they had it organized and people that didn't have a lot of stuff and so I love helping others and I've been helping others declutter their homes for the past six years with this podcast So if you are interested, there will be a link to join the wait list in the show notes I don't have it all fleshed out yet, but I am working on it. 18:04.390 --> 18:08.213 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so excited because I thought I'm doing this in real time 18:09.354 --> 18:11.515 [SPEAKER_00]: wouldn't it be such a blast if we got to do this together? 18:11.875 --> 18:12.856 [SPEAKER_00]: So let's do this. 18:12.876 --> 18:13.676 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's do it together. 18:13.736 --> 18:16.738 [SPEAKER_00]: Join the waitlist if you're interested and I will send you more information about it. 18:17.118 --> 18:18.138 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm very excited. 18:18.158 --> 18:25.642 [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's going to be a really good time and really help you get your home to a place where you love it, whether you're moving or not. 18:25.722 --> 18:30.705 [SPEAKER_00]: The thing is you don't have to move in order to declutter like you are moving. 18:31.505 --> 18:32.605 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's what it's all about. 18:33.285 --> 18:37.886 [SPEAKER_00]: Alright, life is taught me that as much as we plan, things will change. 18:38.286 --> 18:44.987 [SPEAKER_00]: And having less stuff has made my life so much easier when those changes inevitably come. 18:45.808 --> 18:49.948 [SPEAKER_00]: And I hope that I've inspired you to keep what you love and let go of the rest. 18:50.869 --> 18:58.630 [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that letting go of my stuff or being able to take control of what I own, has helped me take control of my life and feel. 18:59.270 --> 19:01.273 [SPEAKER_00]: like I'm in more control of my life. 19:01.393 --> 19:03.916 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I'm hope I hope that I can help you do that as well. 19:05.318 --> 19:11.265 [SPEAKER_00]: That's it for this episode, but next week, make sure you join me because I'm going to be joined by Amy Nezbitt. 19:11.385 --> 19:14.770 [SPEAKER_00]: And she has become a biz bestie of mine in real life because 19:15.290 --> 19:16.731 [SPEAKER_00]: We've gotten to meet up a few times. 19:16.791 --> 19:18.331 [SPEAKER_00]: She now lives in San Diego. 19:18.371 --> 19:22.872 [SPEAKER_00]: She moved here about a year ago, I think, and she is a full-time working mom. 19:22.912 --> 19:31.135 [SPEAKER_00]: She is multi-passionate, and I am always in awe of how much she gets done on a daily basis while making it look fun and easy. 19:31.615 --> 19:38.317 [SPEAKER_00]: And so Amy and I are going to talk about wellness and whole wellness and being like a whole mom and family. 19:39.451 --> 19:45.594 [SPEAKER_00]: what that means and keeping our energy up and doing all these things, even when your time is so constrained. 19:45.874 --> 19:48.755 [SPEAKER_00]: I, she amazes me and I think you're going to love the conversation. 19:48.815 --> 19:49.495 [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be great. 19:49.535 --> 19:51.976 [SPEAKER_00]: So make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss it. 19:52.516 --> 20:00.720 [SPEAKER_00]: And before I let you go, I do want to leave you with a quick win or a little bit of homework so that you can start feeling like you can get your home moving ready. 20:01.200 --> 20:05.663 [SPEAKER_00]: So I want you to do is I want you to take a picture of your home, or a room in your home. 20:05.683 --> 20:10.906 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to pick one room, stand in the doorway, take a photo of it, like it's a real estate listing, okay? 20:11.186 --> 20:16.229 [SPEAKER_00]: You're gonna do the wide angle, you're gonna be in a corner, and you're gonna try to get the whole room in one frame. 20:16.989 --> 20:26.895 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I want you to look at that photo, the way you would, if you were on Zillow and you were scrolling past photos online, of a home that you were looking to move into. 20:28.412 --> 20:30.873 [SPEAKER_00]: you're going to get uncomfortable for a little bit. 20:30.893 --> 20:34.594 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to look at him and be like, hmm, I don't know. 20:34.614 --> 20:37.174 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, unless you feel like you're almost fine and then don't do this homework. 20:37.194 --> 20:43.856 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you feel like something stuck and I don't point know what it is, you're going to look at this photo and then it will click for you. 20:44.696 --> 20:45.817 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to be able to say, oh, 20:47.177 --> 20:54.040 [SPEAKER_00]: This corner needs to change or I didn't notice that this pile looks like this from this angle. 20:54.640 --> 20:59.942 [SPEAKER_00]: Or I really want to kind of move things around and shift it around. 21:00.042 --> 21:01.783 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a different focal point I wanna have. 21:02.363 --> 21:03.364 [SPEAKER_00]: All of these kinds of things. 21:03.684 --> 21:11.947 [SPEAKER_00]: The exercise itself is really simple, but it's one of the most useful things that you can do this week if you're feeling stuck in your home and you don't know why. 21:12.047 --> 21:13.328 [SPEAKER_00]: If something feels off, 21:14.008 --> 21:23.095 [SPEAKER_00]: This is going to help you be able to see it because a photo is going to be able to show you something in a new light that you just didn't even understand was happening in the background, okay? 21:23.775 --> 21:26.257 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're up for it, take that photo. 21:26.297 --> 21:27.098 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's practice. 21:27.138 --> 21:31.321 [SPEAKER_00]: Like we are listing our house and see what it looks like. 21:31.441 --> 21:33.463 [SPEAKER_00]: See what it looks like through a stranger's eye. 21:33.883 --> 21:36.365 [SPEAKER_00]: And then make it look like you want it to look. 21:36.625 --> 21:39.472 [SPEAKER_00]: It's your house, let's make a feel moving ready for us. 21:39.773 --> 21:41.076 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, we can do this. 21:41.296 --> 21:44.223 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Diana Yates and you've been listening to wanna be clutter free. 21:44.404 --> 21:45.266 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll see you next week. 21:45.647 --> 21:45.928 [SPEAKER_00]: Cheers.