WEBVTT 00:02.437 --> 00:03.538 [SPEAKER_00]: Christian parenting. 00:05.540 --> 00:12.868 [SPEAKER_00]: We all intuitively know that it's weird to push children to grow up so fast and so young. 00:13.268 --> 00:22.337 [SPEAKER_00]: We've seen the videos online, the makeup routines for seven year olds, the pampering routines, the clothing halls of children. 00:23.238 --> 00:25.280 [SPEAKER_00]: it just gives me the egg. 00:25.580 --> 00:27.381 [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, it just kind of grosses me out. 00:28.342 --> 00:34.247 [SPEAKER_00]: I am not even a fan of when kids are consistently dressing like mini adults. 00:34.667 --> 00:42.994 [SPEAKER_00]: You go into stores and I'm like, okay, those shorts look just like the shorts for either like men or women and now it's cute. 00:43.334 --> 00:44.094 [SPEAKER_00]: I have no problem. 00:44.114 --> 00:47.016 [SPEAKER_00]: You want to dress like, you know, mommy and me and acute dress and stuff. 00:47.036 --> 00:47.536 [SPEAKER_00]: That's fine. 00:47.556 --> 00:49.137 [SPEAKER_00]: But it just I don't know. 00:49.297 --> 00:52.479 [SPEAKER_00]: It gives me the egg because I just feel like we are pushing our kids. 00:52.499 --> 00:55.060 [SPEAKER_00]: It just grow up so fast and so young. 00:55.460 --> 00:58.542 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I don't want that for your kids because I've seen the benefit. 00:59.002 --> 01:03.448 [SPEAKER_00]: Just from my own childhood, I've seen the benefit of my kids of just having space. 01:04.069 --> 01:11.279 [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that it's so easy to watch these videos and watch kids and be like, oh, it's so cute, and to also sometimes like I'm mentioning in the stores. 01:11.779 --> 01:16.305 [SPEAKER_00]: It's hard to find the cute stuff that just makes a kid look like a kid. 01:16.926 --> 01:20.088 [SPEAKER_00]: But we can also very easily push childhood out. 01:20.168 --> 01:22.610 [SPEAKER_00]: I know those were kind of a little bit of an extreme examples there. 01:22.650 --> 01:29.095 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think that probably my audience in general is not teaching there five, six, seven year old how to do a full face of makeup. 01:29.115 --> 01:34.639 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, some of these, I'm just like, wow, you've got a more extensive makeup routine and no more about makeup than I do. 01:34.699 --> 01:39.523 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm 50 years old, but we can very easily push childhood. 01:39.963 --> 01:47.883 [SPEAKER_00]: just out of the day in and day out in the home school when it isn't even that extreme and that's what we're going to talk about in today's episode. 01:50.243 --> 01:52.444 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Little By Little Home School Podcast. 01:52.544 --> 01:56.765 [SPEAKER_00]: I am your host, Lee Nguyen, and once again, blessed to have you here today. 01:56.785 --> 01:59.446 [SPEAKER_00]: Today is Monday, September 14th. 01:59.966 --> 02:03.348 [SPEAKER_00]: That means that just this week, this week, I can't believe it. 02:03.768 --> 02:06.329 [SPEAKER_00]: On Saturday is Little By Little Home School conference. 02:06.449 --> 02:08.009 [SPEAKER_00]: I am really excited about it. 02:08.609 --> 02:11.170 [SPEAKER_00]: It's been such a labor of love behind the scenes. 02:11.250 --> 02:13.851 [SPEAKER_00]: I've been nerding out on the schedules 02:18.833 --> 02:25.555 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you think about me, you think about maybe my family, my volunteers, we would love any prayers. 02:25.755 --> 02:32.676 [SPEAKER_00]: Just prayers that everything comes together, pray for the women that are coming in attendance and it's just the day that to fill them up, that things go off with the hit. 02:32.696 --> 02:46.179 [SPEAKER_00]: And without a hitch, that everybody shows up that I need to show up as far as my volunteers and that the weather is great, but no matter what happens, whether there are flukes, whether there are things that just don't go quite according to plan, we know that God isn't 02:49.200 --> 02:52.621 [SPEAKER_00]: We just thank you so much for those prayers, and let's dive into today's episode. 02:54.461 --> 02:59.662 [SPEAKER_00]: To be honest in this episode, I really don't have anything earth-shattering to tell you. 03:00.762 --> 03:04.003 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just going to say that, straight up front to you so that you know. 03:04.723 --> 03:16.525 [SPEAKER_00]: But my goal is I just want you to ask yourself, is there room for childhood in my homeschool, in my home, in our family culture? 03:17.125 --> 03:21.287 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the question I want you to start with and that's the question that I want to leave you with at the end of this. 03:21.307 --> 03:29.950 [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm just going to kind of guide you in a few things that I want you to kind of use to help examine and to decide because you might be on the fence. 03:30.550 --> 03:35.712 [SPEAKER_00]: Or you might say, yes, there is room for childhood in our homeschool, in our family. 03:36.252 --> 03:37.253 [SPEAKER_00]: I love that. 03:37.333 --> 03:43.595 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want to encourage you then to encourage your friends and other homeschoolers that you know. 03:44.115 --> 03:45.376 [SPEAKER_00]: You might see that maybe 03:46.836 --> 03:53.799 [SPEAKER_00]: just the freedom of that is being pushed out of other families that you know, and so you might say, hey, do you guys want to come over? 03:54.019 --> 04:05.764 [SPEAKER_00]: Just so the kids can just play in the backyard and we can pull out some lawn chairs and have some iced tea or maybe you're, I mean, it's September, I don't know, you're doing pumpkin stuff, you know, I don't know, it's I feel like it's 04:07.005 --> 04:21.881 [SPEAKER_00]: a little cliche to talk about pumpkin spice, lotchays, and that kind of stuff, but some people are so against it, but whatever it is you want to do, you can encourage those within your circle to allow time for childhood and to give that margin to your kids. 04:22.441 --> 04:26.786 [SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe you're someone that is listening to this and you're saying, I suspect that I, 04:27.186 --> 04:38.055 [SPEAKER_00]: have such goals and such a vision and so many things that I want to accomplish this year that I'm not really giving my kids that space, that homeschool is supposed to allow. 04:38.395 --> 04:41.017 [SPEAKER_00]: This is one of the reasons that people choose to homeschool. 04:41.117 --> 04:43.479 [SPEAKER_00]: Is that it gives our kids time? 04:44.019 --> 04:46.560 [SPEAKER_00]: It gives them space to be kids. 04:46.860 --> 04:49.921 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't have to keep up with basically a work schedule. 04:50.301 --> 04:56.204 [SPEAKER_00]: Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. and that's shorter than possibly like dad's work day. 04:56.624 --> 04:58.404 [SPEAKER_00]: But still, that is a job. 04:58.625 --> 05:00.405 [SPEAKER_00]: So you're saying, I don't want that for them. 05:00.505 --> 05:04.467 [SPEAKER_00]: I want them to be home and have that space so that we can very easily as home schoolers. 05:05.107 --> 05:21.687 [SPEAKER_00]: fill up that time might say well at least they're not sitting in a school but you're off doing this you're off doing that and you're off doing this and the kids are exhausted and don't really have much free time so a hint hint that's what we're kind of talking a little bit about so here are a few things that I want to pose to you as a question. 05:22.408 --> 05:34.217 [SPEAKER_00]: and answer that to yourself, you can answer in your head, you can write it down, you can write down these questions and go back and examine them later, but use these questions to decide if there is room for childhood within your home. 05:35.037 --> 05:38.240 [SPEAKER_00]: The first question is, are you always rushing? 05:38.920 --> 05:42.042 [SPEAKER_00]: Is there always somewhere to be, always something to do? 05:42.102 --> 05:43.584 [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not even always somewhere to be. 05:44.024 --> 05:46.526 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's just, is there always something to do? 05:47.206 --> 05:49.988 [SPEAKER_00]: I have a issue with this like a problem myself. 05:50.028 --> 05:51.029 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna confess to you. 05:51.489 --> 05:58.194 [SPEAKER_00]: I have a problem, maybe not always with brushing, but just always having something to do, having things that have to be done. 05:58.454 --> 06:06.841 [SPEAKER_00]: Now the past couple weeks with the conference, I have put so much prep work beforehand that I had a little bit of margin and I would find myself like, 06:07.741 --> 06:08.942 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I have a little bit of time. 06:08.962 --> 06:10.222 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, okay, what chore can I do? 06:10.462 --> 06:12.383 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, what can I fill in this crack of 10 minutes? 06:12.823 --> 06:14.764 [SPEAKER_00]: And what can I, and like, no, just be. 06:14.904 --> 06:16.345 [SPEAKER_00]: I just, I feel like I've been on. 06:16.405 --> 06:17.145 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not just the conference. 06:17.165 --> 06:19.186 [SPEAKER_00]: There's still a lot of things that I've just been on. 06:19.386 --> 06:21.107 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, I always have to be accomplishing things. 06:21.167 --> 06:24.648 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm rushing from this to that is that how your home feels. 06:25.269 --> 06:29.110 [SPEAKER_00]: It can be very easy to fill up our days and fill up our times. 06:29.150 --> 06:30.951 [SPEAKER_00]: Now there are things that you want to get to. 06:31.191 --> 06:34.873 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's a co-op or just a play date or just to get to church on Sunday. 06:35.673 --> 06:39.154 [SPEAKER_00]: see what you can put into place so that you don't have to rush. 06:39.194 --> 06:43.095 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to suddenly get your kids out of the house within 10 minutes. 06:43.475 --> 06:46.776 [SPEAKER_00]: What can you do at night that you can prepare for the next day? 06:46.876 --> 06:50.297 [SPEAKER_00]: Put out your clothing like so, stay for example for church the night before. 06:50.597 --> 06:51.478 [SPEAKER_00]: Take a look at the weather. 06:51.758 --> 06:53.058 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, is it going to be hot? 06:53.098 --> 06:53.698 [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be cold. 06:53.738 --> 07:01.061 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, we can kind of guess if depending upon the season that we're in and now in September it's like we start off cold and we get warmer as a day goes on. 07:01.421 --> 07:02.281 [SPEAKER_00]: We take a look at the weather. 07:02.581 --> 07:04.063 [SPEAKER_00]: put out the clothing for the next day. 07:04.223 --> 07:08.909 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe there's some breakfast prep that you can do, talking to your kids tomorrow is church. 07:09.129 --> 07:13.595 [SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna get up, and this is what the day is going to look like in the morning in order to get out to church on time. 07:13.655 --> 07:17.961 [SPEAKER_00]: The next question I have for you is, do you have days with nowhere to be? 07:19.771 --> 07:23.272 [SPEAKER_00]: I would encourage you to have days where there is nowhere to be. 07:23.832 --> 07:30.954 [SPEAKER_00]: Those feel so good and honestly it is so good for our nervous system as moms and our kids too. 07:31.414 --> 07:36.555 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think it's really good for them to understand that there are days just at home and that's okay. 07:36.976 --> 07:41.077 [SPEAKER_00]: We can often feel especially when we're looking online or we're homeschooling and there's so many options. 07:41.097 --> 07:46.258 [SPEAKER_00]: We can feel like we should be doing something every single day and getting out of the house and taking advantage of 07:46.998 --> 07:57.510 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe there's an open house at this certain historical site and then this place has this and this place has this and all these opportunities Well most likely that you know, maybe in the fall I feel like a lot of places have home school days. 07:57.890 --> 08:07.100 [SPEAKER_00]: Guess what they'll do it again next year go hit some of them It's okay if you don't get to all of them, but do you have days where there is just no where to be? 08:08.345 --> 08:10.746 [SPEAKER_00]: I love those days and you probably love those days too. 08:10.806 --> 08:15.047 [SPEAKER_00]: If you don't love those days, I'm going to tell you that your kids will probably love those days. 08:15.167 --> 08:21.368 [SPEAKER_00]: And if for not just yourself, but for them, if you try to implement some days that you have nowhere to be. 08:21.688 --> 08:22.589 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's a regular. 08:22.609 --> 08:27.810 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you're just like, we just usually have really full weekends and by the time Monday comes, I want nowhere to be. 08:28.450 --> 08:30.131 [SPEAKER_00]: then don't sign up to do anything. 08:30.211 --> 08:31.011 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't make appointments. 08:31.051 --> 08:35.893 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't do anything on those Mondays protect, but boundaries around that Monday. 08:36.253 --> 08:37.594 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's multiple times a week. 08:37.914 --> 08:39.995 [SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe you just kind of each week, look and see what's going on. 08:40.015 --> 08:42.456 [SPEAKER_00]: And be like we'd like to try to have a couple of days at home. 08:42.656 --> 08:45.998 [SPEAKER_00]: Or more days at home than we are running out in about my next question. 08:46.218 --> 08:47.018 [SPEAKER_00]: Kind of builds off of that. 08:47.498 --> 08:50.900 [SPEAKER_00]: When you are home, does your home feel peaceful? 08:52.213 --> 09:00.459 [SPEAKER_00]: In other words, I want to kind of build upon that and ask you, are you taking the weight of the world on your shoulders in order to shelter your children? 09:01.380 --> 09:09.586 [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's really helpful when we can just kind of protect our kids, not have the news on when they are up and around. 09:09.726 --> 09:15.211 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I know we can get the news very easily on our phone, so it's just saying, you know, when they're around, I'm not going to check on. 09:15.831 --> 09:21.258 [SPEAKER_00]: those certain maybe social media accounts or YouTube channels that you watch to keep up with things. 09:21.318 --> 09:22.259 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't do it when your kids are out. 09:22.279 --> 09:23.200 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, my kids were little. 09:23.541 --> 09:32.992 [SPEAKER_00]: It was literally turning the TV on and turning on the news and it was only on at a certain time and we never did that because it would just disturb their piece but also guess what? 09:33.232 --> 09:33.853 [SPEAKER_00]: My piece, too. 09:34.674 --> 09:37.499 [SPEAKER_00]: but in general, does your home feel peaceful? 09:37.859 --> 09:44.970 [SPEAKER_00]: That doesn't mean you have to have candles burning all the time, but is there just a sense of peace and calmness? 09:45.571 --> 09:46.433 [SPEAKER_00]: If there's not, 09:48.151 --> 09:54.956 [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, it's usually mom and or dad that kind of determines the temperature and the amount of peace within a home. 09:55.556 --> 09:59.379 [SPEAKER_00]: Now yes, there can be some unsettlingness and some chaos in a home. 09:59.519 --> 10:16.070 [SPEAKER_00]: If your home is in a state of chaoticness, if there's too much stuff, you have to stuff all around and I would say start working on that, start decluttering, start going through the house and eliminating things that are just in the way, keeping up with things, keeping things straightened up and it doesn't mean that everything has to be perfect or 10:16.650 --> 10:21.071 [SPEAKER_00]: Your house doesn't have to be a museum, and it doesn't have to be on the cover of a magazine. 10:21.151 --> 10:22.131 [SPEAKER_00]: If it is, great. 10:22.171 --> 10:23.512 [SPEAKER_00]: If it's on the cover magazine, not in a museum. 10:23.552 --> 10:25.872 [SPEAKER_00]: But if it's on the cover magazine, fantastic. 10:25.892 --> 10:26.612 [SPEAKER_00]: Congratulations. 10:27.012 --> 10:28.693 [SPEAKER_00]: But it doesn't have to look like that. 10:29.313 --> 10:38.135 [SPEAKER_00]: But just allowing our home, the environment, just the feeling, the attitude that you have about being home, that helps lead to a peaceful home. 10:39.095 --> 10:41.697 [SPEAKER_00]: And so my next question is, is there margin? 10:42.138 --> 10:45.681 [SPEAKER_00]: So we've already talked about having days where there's nowhere to be. 10:45.881 --> 10:48.023 [SPEAKER_00]: But is there margin in your day? 10:48.603 --> 10:57.271 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you have the day so scheduled that their just is not margin for maybe some time just a sit and relax to read a book? 10:57.671 --> 11:01.895 [SPEAKER_00]: Is there time to just linger on that science lesson that you're doing just a little bit longer? 11:02.495 --> 11:07.341 [SPEAKER_00]: is there margin to say, you know what, we've had a lot of rainy days and it is sunny out today. 11:07.821 --> 11:12.726 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's go, let's take homeschool outside or let's just go outside and play or let's go for a walk. 11:13.127 --> 11:19.674 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's just have a little bit of space where and they call that margin where you guys can just 11:20.074 --> 11:23.678 [SPEAKER_00]: Lift and allowing your kids margin in their day. 11:24.158 --> 11:26.661 [SPEAKER_00]: There might be some days that you don't have much margin. 11:26.841 --> 11:29.464 [SPEAKER_00]: I know for myself as a mom, there was some days I didn't have much margin. 11:29.484 --> 11:31.166 [SPEAKER_00]: We just go for one thing to another. 11:31.666 --> 11:36.772 [SPEAKER_00]: But I would allow margin for my kids because I knew that they couldn't take that stress on enough. 11:36.792 --> 11:39.755 [SPEAKER_00]: They couldn't keep up with that type of schedule. 11:40.095 --> 11:47.398 [SPEAKER_00]: So, the day, say, for example, when they were younger, we would, during the school year, Wednesday nights there was a kids program at church. 11:47.898 --> 11:53.020 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, that afternoon was a mandatory quiet rest time for them. 11:53.560 --> 11:59.042 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I was probably doing dinner prep, I was probably getting some chores done, because I knew that while they were there at that program, 11:59.862 --> 12:02.863 [SPEAKER_00]: I would have a little bit of margin to my evening for about a hour and a half. 12:03.404 --> 12:20.012 [SPEAKER_00]: What I wanted them to have just that margin, that little bit of space between getting our homes will dawn and lunch and just chores and those things before we went out and I wanted them to feel refreshed to be able to jump into their kids club and have the energy and the enthusiasm that they would have for that. 12:20.112 --> 12:22.653 [SPEAKER_00]: But overall, is there margin in your days? 12:22.733 --> 12:23.933 [SPEAKER_00]: Is there margin in your life? 12:24.033 --> 12:24.854 [SPEAKER_00]: Because margin. 12:25.434 --> 12:33.722 [SPEAKER_00]: allows room for your kids to have a childhood, where they can just play, where they can just wonder about the world, which gets into my next question. 12:34.442 --> 12:37.745 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you leaning into their wonder? 12:38.626 --> 12:44.392 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you're sitting inside and you look out and you see a certain type of bird and they're like, I don't know what kind of bird that is. 12:44.832 --> 12:45.392 [SPEAKER_00]: What is that? 12:46.113 --> 12:50.995 [SPEAKER_00]: and you get out your bird book, and maybe they ask some more questions, or maybe they're like, can we go outside and try to see it? 12:51.035 --> 13:01.059 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, little kids will not quite understand that the moment you open the door up, the bird's going to fly away, but maybe if you sit there quietly, and you sit there still, and maybe you don't have any toddlers, you can do this. 13:02.020 --> 13:02.800 [SPEAKER_00]: Sit there quietly. 13:03.060 --> 13:03.861 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if the toddler's good. 13:03.881 --> 13:13.145 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe to have the older kids, if you have a toddler, like, I'm going to keep a little baby inside a little baby joey here inside, and then we're going to let you guys sit outside just here on the step and watch for the bird to come back. 13:13.985 --> 13:18.869 [SPEAKER_00]: But whatever it is, do you allow space for their wonder of the world? 13:18.969 --> 13:25.674 [SPEAKER_00]: Remember, our kids are sometimes seeing things for the first time, or they may have seen things, so say you have a six-year-old. 13:25.914 --> 13:29.157 [SPEAKER_00]: They may have seen that bird when they are four, but they don't remember. 13:29.958 --> 13:33.360 [SPEAKER_00]: To them, it could be a brand new thing, and there's a lot of just brand new things. 13:33.560 --> 13:38.044 [SPEAKER_00]: What if you just kind of step back and start to see the world through their eyes and start to just 13:42.588 --> 13:48.634 [SPEAKER_00]: My last question is, are you inspired by maybe other homeschool families you know? 13:49.235 --> 13:55.221 [SPEAKER_00]: Buy books, buy podcasts, maybe social media accounts, or maybe even your own childhood. 13:55.401 --> 14:03.249 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to think about just all of that, other people and books and podcasts, social media accounts, your own childhood, are they inspiring you? 14:03.830 --> 14:11.957 [SPEAKER_00]: I would encourage you to lean into those areas that inspire you to lean into that wonder, to allow that margin. 14:12.237 --> 14:13.998 [SPEAKER_00]: Who is it that you kind of really resonate with? 14:14.159 --> 14:26.589 [SPEAKER_00]: There's some amazing parenting books and amazing homeschool books out, and a lot of them have podcasts too, and they might have kids all about the same age of you, maybe they're social media accounts, and they just stare really inspiring things. 14:27.109 --> 14:28.169 [SPEAKER_00]: Let that be your inspiration. 14:28.269 --> 14:33.250 [SPEAKER_00]: Do not compare yourself to them, but use it as inspiration for your own homeschool. 14:33.550 --> 14:36.271 [SPEAKER_00]: And then that last part, think about your childhood. 14:36.331 --> 14:41.452 [SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe some core memories, some things that really stood out to you from your childhood. 14:41.972 --> 14:47.333 [SPEAKER_00]: And how can you then implement them into your own kids childhood? 14:47.593 --> 14:49.253 [SPEAKER_00]: And everything's like sprinklers. 14:49.754 --> 14:55.875 [SPEAKER_00]: And that was just such a big part of my childhood because we didn't have a pool and you knew like maybe one person who had a 14:57.155 --> 15:04.477 [SPEAKER_00]: So you guys gonna swim later, and they're like, yeah, I like Could you want some buddy to come swim with you? 15:04.877 --> 15:06.278 [SPEAKER_00]: They're like, no, I got my sisters. 15:07.178 --> 15:23.783 [SPEAKER_00]: I could come to Trying to ask them mom can we go to so-and-so, and swim and mom's like, no, I've got this going on You know, I just that was just from my own childhood like well, and run in the sprinkler instead So I made sure my kids they had a sprinkler and they had those memories of a sprinkler 15:24.263 --> 15:34.987 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, yes, there was also some times my boys picking it up, sprying it into each other's faces and then, you know, to their sister's face, who didn't like it that kind of stuff, but that was also part of my childhood memories, too. 15:35.387 --> 15:39.749 [SPEAKER_00]: But what from your own childhood has you inspired that you'd like to recreate? 15:39.789 --> 15:40.729 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe ask your husband. 15:40.789 --> 15:42.950 [SPEAKER_00]: Other certain things that he remembers from his childhood. 15:43.250 --> 15:47.951 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe he says, I really remember going to certain maybe sports games. 15:48.011 --> 15:51.273 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe there was a local college and he liked going to the football games as a child. 15:51.293 --> 15:52.113 [SPEAKER_00]: He thought that was fine with him. 15:52.373 --> 15:53.236 [SPEAKER_00]: Bring your kids to that. 15:53.297 --> 15:53.878 [SPEAKER_00]: Go and do that. 15:54.240 --> 15:55.062 [SPEAKER_00]: But ask him to. 15:55.163 --> 15:57.330 [SPEAKER_00]: What are some things from his childhood and your childhood? 15:58.012 --> 15:58.414 [SPEAKER_00]: In general. 15:59.094 --> 16:03.396 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to ask yourself, is there room for childhood in my home school this year? 16:04.336 --> 16:13.060 [SPEAKER_00]: If there is not, go through and ask those questions, see if there is margin that you can add, what is maybe something you can take off the table, how can you create a more peaceful home? 16:13.440 --> 16:14.301 [SPEAKER_00]: How can you just lean in? 16:14.321 --> 16:24.645 [SPEAKER_00]: Your kids are not going to be kids forever, and I know that when they're young and there's maybe you have a handful of them and it's just overwhelming and you feel like the season is going to last forever, it's not going to last forever. 16:25.025 --> 16:25.525 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I know. 16:25.845 --> 16:27.546 [SPEAKER_00]: Just really want to hold on to it. 16:27.686 --> 16:29.447 [SPEAKER_00]: But don't keep thinking. 16:29.527 --> 16:30.547 [SPEAKER_00]: I know people will say that. 16:30.567 --> 16:32.348 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, don't focus on like, this is going to end. 16:32.468 --> 16:34.268 [SPEAKER_00]: No focus on what you have right now. 16:34.468 --> 16:35.469 [SPEAKER_00]: This season right now. 16:35.889 --> 16:39.730 [SPEAKER_00]: So that in the next season, you can say, I don't know, I miss that. 16:39.770 --> 16:45.532 [SPEAKER_00]: I miss the good times of them being little, but we really leaned in, understanding that those were the good old days. 16:45.572 --> 16:46.412 [SPEAKER_00]: And so we leaned in. 16:46.432 --> 16:48.233 [SPEAKER_00]: I have no regrets from that. 16:48.553 --> 16:54.536 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think that if we allow some time and space and we let our kids just have a child who does, that does not mean they're not helping a chores. 16:54.736 --> 16:55.016 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay? 16:55.136 --> 16:55.937 [SPEAKER_00]: They do help with chores. 16:55.957 --> 16:56.857 [SPEAKER_00]: They help out with the family. 16:56.897 --> 16:58.918 [SPEAKER_00]: They're, we are doing things together. 16:58.938 --> 17:02.040 [SPEAKER_00]: There isn't, it's not always like, oh, the kids are off playing to do whatever. 17:02.080 --> 17:04.861 [SPEAKER_00]: And moms here scrubbing everything and cleaning up all their messes. 17:04.881 --> 17:06.362 [SPEAKER_00]: That's absolutely not what I'm saying. 17:06.902 --> 17:13.386 [SPEAKER_00]: But in general, just the freedom to just be innocent at this time and their life. 17:14.066 --> 17:15.987 [SPEAKER_00]: There is time to expose them to things. 17:18.188 --> 17:18.308 [SPEAKER_00]: it. 17:19.049 --> 17:24.033 [SPEAKER_00]: Allow some childhood into your homeschool or actually allow a lot of childhood into your homeschool. 17:24.613 --> 17:29.738 [SPEAKER_00]: If you enjoyed little by little homeschool podcasts, I'd love to hear about it and so would other homeschool moms. 17:29.798 --> 17:44.450 [SPEAKER_00]: If you could stop for a moment and leave a rating and a review that would help immensely, no matter what your podcast app is, a lot of them allow you to maybe leave a star, hopefully five stars, and maybe a little bit of right up maybe it's this episode, episode 17:47.332 --> 17:49.715 [SPEAKER_00]: that would be very, I'd be very great. 17:49.875 --> 17:52.377 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think that's proper English, but I would just say thank you very much. 17:52.658 --> 17:55.701 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, friends, have a good one and we will see you back here next week.