WEBVTT 00:15.995 --> 00:16.955 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, hey, grow squad. 00:16.975 --> 00:20.197 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to another episode of the Eugene Hamilton Park. 00:20.257 --> 00:21.158 [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you don't well. 00:21.578 --> 00:23.299 [SPEAKER_00]: Hope your life is going smooth. 00:23.339 --> 00:26.540 [SPEAKER_00]: If it's not, I'm glad you're alive and check this out. 00:26.880 --> 00:33.304 [SPEAKER_00]: If it's not going smooth, you must have what it takes to face this storm and make it through on the other side. 00:33.344 --> 00:35.325 [SPEAKER_00]: So keep going, keep growing, keep going. 00:35.645 --> 00:37.646 [SPEAKER_00]: And let's dive into this week's episode. 00:38.086 --> 00:39.767 [SPEAKER_00]: God, we thank you for today. 00:40.427 --> 00:41.528 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for this time. 00:41.889 --> 00:50.138 [SPEAKER_00]: We pray right even right now for people who are listening that are part of the grow squad friends who This may be their first episode. 00:50.218 --> 00:57.726 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm asking that you would give us what we need to hear and to witness today that we may become everything you want us to be a man. 00:58.847 --> 00:59.768 [SPEAKER_00]: Stories are powerful. 01:01.726 --> 01:06.429 [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, people get paid big books to create storylines, right? 01:07.230 --> 01:18.578 [SPEAKER_00]: People get paid, I mean, boatloads of money to create compelling stories that will keep your attention, right? 01:19.258 --> 01:22.861 [SPEAKER_00]: One of the reasons why people oftentimes find themselves 01:23.665 --> 01:51.322 [SPEAKER_00]: are captivated by let's say a Netflix series right a few years ago people were captivated by what's the series power right with Curtis Jackson and knows we captivated because yes you enjoy the characters yes you enjoy the cast but most importantly most people I should say kept coming back each and every week because of the story lah 01:52.810 --> 02:04.377 [SPEAKER_00]: When I was younger, my grandmother was very, again, this is going to age me, but she was very much one who watched soap operas, days of our lives. 02:04.397 --> 02:13.963 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, you know what I'm talking about, and one life to live, and all these different soap operas that had compelling story lines. 02:16.325 --> 02:16.485 [SPEAKER_00]: And, 02:18.182 --> 02:31.649 [SPEAKER_00]: As much as we'd like to look at other people's storylines, as much as we'd like, and we enjoy watching a nice series or a nice flick on one of the streaming apps, right? 02:31.789 --> 02:38.132 [SPEAKER_00]: We also every day tell our selves, our own stories. 02:38.993 --> 02:42.915 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you create storylines every single day. 02:43.722 --> 02:46.844 [SPEAKER_00]: You create storylines with, as it relates to your boss. 02:46.944 --> 02:49.906 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, some of you are some great storytellers. 02:49.926 --> 02:58.152 [SPEAKER_00]: You ever heard somebody get off of work on a job, from a job, but they don't like, oh, man, those storylines are off the chain. 02:58.332 --> 03:08.319 [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen people get on Facebook live and they rant about this, this coworker, and they rant about that employer, and they rant about this supervisor, and they go on, I've seen people listen. 03:08.379 --> 03:09.900 [SPEAKER_00]: What's the guy's name, Country Wayne? 03:11.012 --> 03:14.434 [SPEAKER_00]: If you don't know what country man is, country man with a K, look him up. 03:14.815 --> 03:35.870 [SPEAKER_00]: He just dude has an entire, he's become a multi-millionaire on storylines that he's basically placed on social media for free and people have shared it, they've come back for more and now he's the place he says now that he no longer has to tell stories. 03:36.817 --> 03:37.738 [SPEAKER_00]: create his own story lines. 03:37.778 --> 03:42.801 [SPEAKER_00]: I just say he pays other producers that are part of his network to create stories. 03:44.643 --> 03:47.405 [SPEAKER_00]: So we love creating stories as just as human beings. 03:47.805 --> 03:55.650 [SPEAKER_00]: Part of human nature is to create a narrative, a story that will that that somebody will listen to. 03:55.731 --> 04:02.816 [SPEAKER_00]: If you've got a complaint, we need to know how to put sauce on that story to make somebody sympathize and empathize with us. 04:06.497 --> 04:08.338 [SPEAKER_00]: You ever had a bad relationship. 04:08.458 --> 04:09.699 [SPEAKER_00]: It've ever been dumped before. 04:09.899 --> 04:11.080 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I've joined a club. 04:11.200 --> 04:12.181 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know. 04:12.341 --> 04:13.402 [SPEAKER_00]: I know. 04:13.602 --> 04:22.108 [SPEAKER_00]: If you've ever been dumped before, and you've ever heard the story you told somebody about that process, most of it was probably fluff. 04:22.188 --> 04:25.710 [SPEAKER_00]: You probably added stuff to the story to make it more compelling. 04:25.730 --> 04:27.611 [SPEAKER_00]: We do it all the time, right? 04:28.592 --> 04:29.593 [SPEAKER_00]: You've been pulled over by the cops. 04:31.556 --> 04:45.043 [SPEAKER_00]: And as you're telling that story, most times, and it's not even on purpose, you're not trying to lie, but you're adding stuff to keep the attention of the person that you're sharing it with. 04:47.424 --> 04:55.928 [SPEAKER_00]: Some question the day is, what stories have you been telling yourself about you, 04:57.749 --> 04:59.150 [SPEAKER_00]: My son is now five. 04:59.830 --> 05:00.250 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I know. 05:01.090 --> 05:02.831 [SPEAKER_00]: When we saw this podcast, Journey, he was three. 05:02.871 --> 05:03.551 [SPEAKER_00]: He's five. 05:05.272 --> 05:06.233 [SPEAKER_00]: He's five now. 05:07.993 --> 05:13.636 [SPEAKER_00]: And one of the things that is interesting is is that it plays now where he wants to do a lot of stuff. 05:14.576 --> 05:15.316 [SPEAKER_00]: I can do a daddy. 05:15.416 --> 05:16.597 [SPEAKER_00]: I can do a, let me do a please. 05:16.857 --> 05:17.437 [SPEAKER_00]: Can I do that? 05:17.497 --> 05:18.037 [SPEAKER_00]: Can I do this? 05:18.057 --> 05:18.898 [SPEAKER_00]: Can I open this door? 05:19.098 --> 05:19.998 [SPEAKER_00]: Can I hold those keys? 05:20.218 --> 05:20.819 [SPEAKER_00]: Can I do this? 05:20.979 --> 05:26.381 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, until he reaches a point and there's something that's difficult. 05:29.137 --> 05:33.619 [SPEAKER_00]: He's developed and we're working on it, right? 05:33.700 --> 05:35.380 [SPEAKER_00]: We said work that in progress. 05:35.400 --> 05:37.862 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, I don't know where he picked this up from, right? 05:39.022 --> 05:47.287 [SPEAKER_00]: But he's told himself this story that I can't do that when it comes to something that's too difficult or something that's super hard or that something he has to do on his own. 05:48.548 --> 05:49.108 [SPEAKER_00]: He's cool. 05:49.408 --> 05:50.068 [SPEAKER_00]: That is there. 05:50.108 --> 05:50.729 [SPEAKER_00]: Mommy's there. 05:51.129 --> 05:51.769 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, he's cool. 05:51.869 --> 05:52.390 [SPEAKER_00]: I can. 05:52.470 --> 05:56.392 [SPEAKER_00]: Even if it's hard, he knows he has somebody there that has his back. 05:58.932 --> 06:13.738 [SPEAKER_00]: But if there's something that he has to do, that he feels, it's gonna take him out of his comfort zone, or he didn't have reinforcements readily, he began to tell himself a different story. 06:15.558 --> 06:22.341 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to get in the habit of telling yourself stories about yourself and to yourself. 06:25.442 --> 06:26.963 [SPEAKER_00]: The don't paint you as a person, 06:28.078 --> 06:30.940 [SPEAKER_00]: that cannot accomplish what's ahead of you. 06:31.840 --> 06:42.486 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to begin creating storylines about yourself, about your life, about your journey, about your goals, about your dreams, about the task ahead. 06:44.448 --> 06:45.508 [SPEAKER_00]: The yes, I'm compelling. 06:46.549 --> 06:51.952 [SPEAKER_00]: But stop telling yourself stories that will make it difficult for you to climb that mountain. 06:58.605 --> 07:04.507 [SPEAKER_00]: A few weeks ago, I told you about my cousin in the Northwest who goes on hikes with his buddies every year. 07:05.407 --> 07:14.350 [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't tell you that this year, somebody showed up that he grew up with that I knew of my adult life and I haven't seen him in quite a few years. 07:14.750 --> 07:20.552 [SPEAKER_00]: He showed up on year eight of this hike that my cousin and his family goes on and his friends 07:29.000 --> 07:32.021 [SPEAKER_00]: So man, we were at the house leading up to the departure. 07:33.161 --> 07:35.701 [SPEAKER_00]: And he's telling himself a gang of stories. 07:35.901 --> 07:39.262 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, he's talking about, oh, man, I heard that y'all separate. 07:39.542 --> 07:41.643 [SPEAKER_00]: Please don't leave me a story. 07:42.263 --> 07:45.263 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, man, I don't have a nightlight for my hat. 07:45.523 --> 07:48.564 [SPEAKER_00]: I'ma get lost telling himself all kinds of stories. 07:49.084 --> 07:51.345 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, man, this is not enough food. 07:51.625 --> 07:52.985 [SPEAKER_00]: How are we going to live on two days? 07:53.205 --> 07:56.606 [SPEAKER_00]: Was just these protein bars and granola? 08:01.158 --> 08:24.587 [SPEAKER_00]: There may have been true, but he could overcome, telling us of a bunch of stories, that may have been reality, but he framed them in such a way where it almost sounded as if before they got started, he was already giving up. 08:26.622 --> 08:27.282 [SPEAKER_00]: Here's what I'm saying. 08:28.363 --> 08:31.083 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not encouraging you, nor am I inviting you to lie to yourself. 08:32.724 --> 08:39.826 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not encouraging you, nor am I inviting you to be oblivious to your reality. 08:41.207 --> 08:51.650 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm inviting you to look at your life, to look at your story, to look at the stories that you've been telling yourself and learn how to become a better storyteller. 08:53.723 --> 08:58.324 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we're going to tell ourselves stories until the day that we are no longer here. 08:59.365 --> 09:03.686 [SPEAKER_00]: That's just a part of who we are, that happens to be a part of the human DNA. 09:03.986 --> 09:05.526 [SPEAKER_00]: We tell ourselves stories. 09:07.847 --> 09:17.410 [SPEAKER_00]: And more powerful than stories you hear from other people about you, I want you to lean into the story that you tell yourself and remind yourself, 09:17.854 --> 09:29.905 [SPEAKER_00]: that this is not the end, remind yourself that, hey, I can accomplish this, remind yourself, even as I'm painting, you ever seen a story being painted on a series, and it gets difficult, it may get dark. 09:31.887 --> 09:39.234 [SPEAKER_00]: And you start telling yourself, oh, based on what I know about X, Y, and Z, hmm, it's a dark season, but he's going, why, why, it's next episode. 09:39.374 --> 09:40.335 [SPEAKER_00]: He's going to come out all right. 09:41.736 --> 09:43.858 [SPEAKER_00]: And you begin to paint stories about other people. 09:46.052 --> 09:47.593 [SPEAKER_00]: that you don't lie, it's difficult. 09:48.173 --> 09:49.293 [SPEAKER_00]: They're trapped. 09:49.313 --> 09:50.033 [SPEAKER_00]: They're captured. 09:50.134 --> 10:02.118 [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever the case might be, whatever the story is on the screen, you are truthful about the story that you see, but then you start telling yourself a part of the story that you haven't been shown yet on the screen. 10:03.855 --> 10:07.998 [SPEAKER_00]: And you still have in conversation with your friend about what you've watched so far. 10:08.418 --> 10:11.800 [SPEAKER_00]: And both of y'all began to create scenarios where this person will overcome. 10:12.040 --> 10:13.861 [SPEAKER_00]: With this person is going to be set free. 10:13.881 --> 10:17.904 [SPEAKER_00]: With this person is going to be able to conquer whatever they are. 10:17.924 --> 10:18.884 [SPEAKER_00]: They are up against. 10:18.964 --> 10:23.407 [SPEAKER_00]: Why don't you use that same energy for yourself? 10:25.348 --> 10:28.150 [SPEAKER_00]: Not to use that same energy and remind yourself. 10:29.174 --> 10:36.497 [SPEAKER_00]: Just like you give, those great story lines to people that you never met may never meet that are on a television screen. 10:38.917 --> 10:39.718 [SPEAKER_00]: Finish your story. 10:41.618 --> 10:42.539 [SPEAKER_00]: Create your ending. 10:43.599 --> 10:47.620 [SPEAKER_00]: Create your, the part of your story where you become more than a controller. 10:48.261 --> 10:51.362 [SPEAKER_00]: Create the part of your story where you actually accomplished that difficult task. 10:51.722 --> 10:54.123 [SPEAKER_00]: Create the part of your story where you look back, you say, you know what? 10:57.227 --> 10:59.409 [SPEAKER_00]: my story has already been scripted by God anyway. 11:00.750 --> 11:01.750 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna come on our right. 11:04.212 --> 11:13.519 [SPEAKER_00]: Watch the stories you tell yourself because they often become reality. 11:14.600 --> 11:25.528 [SPEAKER_00]: Watch the stories you tell yourself because oftentimes there's stories that you tell yourself you actually have to live it out. 11:27.368 --> 11:53.061 [SPEAKER_00]: Watch what you tell yourself, because often the story that you tell yourself, if you don't tell you before, I've seen people write, I've heard of people writing something for a polite, I mean for a pilot for a series and it wasn't accepted. 11:54.828 --> 11:59.370 [SPEAKER_00]: They came back and used the same story line to write a different story. 12:01.231 --> 12:03.471 [SPEAKER_00]: They came back, had the same plot, had the same twist. 12:05.052 --> 12:11.935 [SPEAKER_00]: But what they feel in the blanks with, they went back to these ecadys, and they're like, oh, yeah, this will get eyeballs on it. 12:15.476 --> 12:17.437 [SPEAKER_00]: So hey, your life is your life. 12:18.917 --> 12:20.378 [SPEAKER_00]: What has happened has happened? 12:21.238 --> 12:42.756 [SPEAKER_00]: What will happen as you move forward is based on what you have learned from your past, learned from your present and been able to create and make it a part of your story that you believe and that you whole heartily will move forward in their vow. 12:43.536 --> 12:45.198 [SPEAKER_00]: Share this out with somebody today who 12:48.163 --> 12:50.405 [SPEAKER_00]: needs to start telling better stories to themselves. 12:51.025 --> 13:09.020 [SPEAKER_00]: As soon as I was somebody who you may be connected to connected with that has been having a difficult time creating a storyline that they can live with and I hope they are blessed by it. 13:09.080 --> 13:13.044 [SPEAKER_00]: Listen, I hope that you are blessed by something that they are hope that I say something that they are that 13:13.716 --> 13:15.818 [SPEAKER_00]: I made you want to share this out with somebody. 13:16.218 --> 13:17.139 [SPEAKER_00]: It's far and wide. 13:17.680 --> 13:30.771 [SPEAKER_00]: Please don't forget to let people know that the usually and how to park as is a live and will and that we invite you to subscribe and to follow and to the likes so that we can continue to grow our platform and reach more people. 13:31.131 --> 13:35.695 [SPEAKER_00]: Until next time, keep going, keep growing and keep growing. 13:36.036 --> 13:36.756 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, that's my time. 13:37.117 --> 13:37.417 [SPEAKER_00]: Peace.