[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to the Way Community Church Podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My name is Darahal and I am the pastor of the Way Community Church.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Today, we're going to start again our conversation about, are you ready to heal?
[SPEAKER_00]: Back in the month of May, we started to look through the emotionally healthy spirituality publication by Pete Scazero and we pressed a pause at the end of May, but we're going to pick it back up now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Today, we're going to look at Jesus and Matthew chapter 26 in the garden as he
[SPEAKER_00]: during what the text describes as deep grief and let's have a conversation around what it looks like to grieve whale.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to encourage you to grab your bibles to follow along in the transcript of this podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's study guys.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're together.
[SPEAKER_00]: Matthew 26 is where we're gonna be and I'm gonna reverse 36 through verse number 46 in the new American Standard Bible You should have been finding these on the Bible map if you go to advance search the white community church These notes should be there for you Or you can follow along with me on the screen the word of the Lord says in verse 36 of Matthew 26
[SPEAKER_00]: Then Jesus came with them to a place called Gethsemane and told his disciples sit here while I go over there and pray.
[SPEAKER_00]: He took Peter and the two sons of Zepadi with him and began to be what church.
[SPEAKER_00]: And to stress, then he said to them, my soul is deeply what you're on.
[SPEAKER_00]: Greed to the point of death, remain here, and keep watch with me, and he went a little beyond them and fell on his face and prayed, saying, my father.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it is possible, let this cup pass for me, yet not as I will, but as you will.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he came to the disciples and found him sleeping.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said to Peter, so you may or cannot keep watching me for one hour.
[SPEAKER_00]: Keep watching and praying, so that you do not come into temptation.
[SPEAKER_00]: The Spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.
[SPEAKER_00]: He went away again a second time and pray saying, my father, if this cup cannot pass, away unless I drink from it, your will be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: He came and found them sleeping for their eyes were heavy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he left them again and went away and prayed a third time, saying the same thing once more.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want us to pick up our series, are you ready to heal?
[SPEAKER_00]: We pause that day into May.
[SPEAKER_00]: We want to pick it up and press play here in August.
[SPEAKER_00]: Today, I'm going to preach through this text with this thought in mind, the power of grieving whale.
[SPEAKER_00]: You may be seated in the presence of the living God.
[SPEAKER_00]: The power of grieving whale.
[SPEAKER_00]: A young girl was dealing with a lot of frustration in her life, so she decided to go to her dead dad and express to him her anger about frustrations that she could not avoid stuff like academics and social pressures and her self-image and even her shoulders at house.
[SPEAKER_00]: The father happened to be a carpenter.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he listened to his daughter, expressed her sincere feelings, and took her out to his wood shed, gave her a bag of nails and a hammer.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, baby girl, whenever you feel frustrated, about pressures you cannot avoid, I want you to take this hammer, take these nails, go out to the fence and the bat yard, and I want you to hammer in nails all over the fence until you feel better.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, some time passed, and she had put nails in every inch of the fence.
[SPEAKER_00]: She ran out of places to put new nails, but she had not run out of frustration yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: So she came back to her dad and said, Dad, I completely covered the fence and nails is no more wrong for any more.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I still feel frustration about things I cannot avoid.
[SPEAKER_00]: The father said, now I want you to take that same hammer, turn it around.
[SPEAKER_00]: And whenever you feel frustration, I want you to go to that mince, and I want you to take nails out until you feel better.
[SPEAKER_00]: It just so happened around the time she finished taking out the last nail.
[SPEAKER_00]: She actually began to feel better.
[SPEAKER_00]: The father noticed that she had changed and noticed that she was in a better space.
[SPEAKER_00]: So early when Saturday morning, he took her out to the backyard, he said, baby girl, I want you to look at this fence.
[SPEAKER_00]: You see this fence?
[SPEAKER_00]: It is riddled with holes that you create it from the nails you put in, and the nails you took out.
[SPEAKER_00]: This fence has been permanently defaced, and if it's gonna stay here, it's gotta be replaced.
[SPEAKER_00]: This baby girl is the picture of the soul of the person who is angry about pain they cannot avoid.
[SPEAKER_00]: the person who cannot express themselves, and who keep inside all the things that frustrate them, that they wish they could live without, if you're not careful, this is how your soul could look.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, we do damage to our own souls when we engage in excapism instead of developing the necessary equipment for life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's a major key early on, and that is this religion is moral excatism.
[SPEAKER_00]: Christianity, therefore, is not religion.
[SPEAKER_00]: Christianity is not about escaping the pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's about becoming in spite of the pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going to ask this question, are you ready to heal?
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't mean to be offensive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean to be encouraging.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what I'm really asking is, are you ready to be equipped for what you cannot avoid so that you can be healed?
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, our readiness is something we can control unavoidable pain is something we can.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why we enter 2026 focused on this prophetic thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: This one word that would draw our attention and beckon our reflection for the balance of the year.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that thing for the year is what church?
[SPEAKER_00]: Ready.
[SPEAKER_00]: Our thing versus first Peter 3, 15, and our thing, our big idea for the whole year, is that God develops readiness through repeated obedience.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so what we're going to learn today from Matthew 26 is that Jesus shows us how to obey even when you're facing pain you wish you could avoid it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Back in May, we started and then paused our conversation around the emotionally healthy spirituality and this fall would have life groups on the same content.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so you might recall, if you were here, that I've already preached through ideas like know yourself that you may know God, going back in order to go forward.
[SPEAKER_00]: Journey through the wall.
[SPEAKER_00]: Today, we're gonna talk about what it means to enlarge your soul through grief and loss.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if the Lord says the same over the next few weeks, we will discover the rhythms of the daily office and Sabbath.
[SPEAKER_00]: grow into an emotionally mature adult and then conclude this conversation by developing a rule of life.
[SPEAKER_00]: What we know about grateful, what we learn as we grieve, is that every time we grieve, we go deeper inside.
[SPEAKER_00]: It creates a journey deeper within.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we're really forced to deal with how we normally deal with stuff we don't like.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's some common defense mechanisms that we might have in our reaction when we face situations we wish we could avoid, stuff like denial or we may respond through minimizing or blaming others or blaming yourself or rationalizing, intellectualizing, distracting or becoming hostile.
[SPEAKER_00]: What you mean deny a rare, I mean denial is pretending to forget what you know you can never forget.
[SPEAKER_00]: Denial is choosing to act like was there is not there because acknowledging that is real makes you feel unable to deal with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So denial can be a coping mechanism or defense mechanism.
[SPEAKER_00]: Another one is minimizing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Minimizing is when I'm lighting knowledge that is real, but I'm a lot of myself to make it feel smaller than I know it really is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I acknowledge it, but I'm not going to be honest about just how formidable it is in my life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Blaming others is when I did not the responsibility of my own behavior.
[SPEAKER_00]: But blaming myself is when I take on too much fall unnecessarily.
[SPEAKER_00]: and both our unhealthy defense mechanisms.
[SPEAKER_00]: Rationalizing is the excuses our make that add up to an inaccurate explanation of what's really going on.
[SPEAKER_00]: Rationalizing is the compound effect of little bit of lies I tell myself that build up a narrative that don't match was really happy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Intellectualizing is a analysis that helps me avoid feelings.
[SPEAKER_00]: Intellectualizing is when I would prefer to overthink because I don't want to overfill.
[SPEAKER_00]: Distracting is when anything comes up that I feel overwhelmed by, I just changed the subject.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, somebody asked me about a broken relationship with a family member or a friend, and then I say, man, it's some nice weather I all hear today.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then last time I leaned to becoming hostile.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's when you just edgy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And your reactions to certain subjects and certain people is a song that that is a source spot for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you could try to pretend like you okay,
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, all right.
[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody asked me how I feel about the Falcons quarterback situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna say, why Falcons quarterback situation?
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I'm pretty strong.
[SPEAKER_00]: What do you mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: The Falcons don't have no quarterback situation?
[SPEAKER_00]: Bro, why are you so, it's so hostile.
[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, you are a bother.
[SPEAKER_00]: Peace because Arrow says, what our families of origin consider acceptable ways of expressing emotions related to loss, shape us.
[SPEAKER_00]: So we may have picked up these unhealthy mechanisms from the family that shaped us before God's family is seeking to reshape us.
[SPEAKER_00]: What I love about a Bible is the Bible is honest about unavoidable pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, I mean, I know we've all heard sarmons of preachers who will make it same like speaking the truth is speaking death.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the Bible didn't tell us to be dishonest in the name of speaking life.
[SPEAKER_00]: The Bible tells the ugly truth about people who face pain that was unfair to them.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what was unavoidable by them and how through that pain they had to either choose for their soul to be enlarged or for their soul to become smaller.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it shows how God and His sovereignty would interject grace in the nick of time
[SPEAKER_00]: in the eschaton, I don't mean to use that big word, but it's the word of what Jesus will fix when all of this is done.
[SPEAKER_00]: You understand what I'm saying?
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes God would interject and fix it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it would happen in time, but we trust it'll be fixed in eternity.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I'm saying.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, there are men and women throughout Scripture who are good examples of how to grieve well.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I had to think of a man, I would think of Job.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I had to think of a woman, I would think of Jeff Thuz Darner.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was Job in Job 13, 15, who said, though he slay me, I will hope in him.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nevertheless, I will let church argue my ways before him.
[SPEAKER_00]: Joe said, God, I feel like you're doing me wrong.
[SPEAKER_00]: But even though I feel like you're doing me wrong, I'm still putting my hope in you, and I'm still arguing with you about what's going on.
[SPEAKER_00]: We go all good about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You in control, but you, I'm gonna have something to say about what I feel like I'm facing that is unjust from how I live, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's a good way to agree.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not just Joe, but Jeff does daughter.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Joseph's chapter 11 verse 37 through 38.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, and she said to her father, let this thing be done for me, allow me two months so that I may go to the mountains and what church we do you see that?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because of my virginity, me and my friends.
[SPEAKER_00]: So Jeff to say it go, so he let her go for two months and she left with her friends and wept on the mountains because of her virginity.
[SPEAKER_00]: Both Job and Jeff does daughter were in a context that is going to be hard to explain in a few minutes, are they were facing realities that were really unjust and really unfair and too much for them to carry, but they show us what it looks like when you're facing pain, you cannot avoid how you can still grow well.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's not Job will look to today, it's not Jeff does daughter, will look to today, is Jesus.
[SPEAKER_00]: For Jesus is the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: He shows us how to grieve well.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna pause him before we continue this conversation and just apologize to anybody who has been angry with God, the Bible and Christianity.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because you were sold a bill of goods that was never true.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when you tried to apply what you heard to what you were facing, it didn't work.
[SPEAKER_00]: What you say, I remember those in this name and then claim it, move me, who think just, I can get up and just say, you know, you know, if you'll show the hurt and my shoulder and my shoulder feels well, no you'll show the hurt you need to take some motoring.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you may need to get an X right.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you walk around with shoulder pain, you can't even lift your arm.
[SPEAKER_00]: We lift our hands and the stand to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not this hand, my shoulder hurt.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I was told that if I just saved my shoulder on her after a while, my shoulder going soft hurt.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it gets deeper when it's not just a shoulder, don't it?
[SPEAKER_00]: What about when my soul is hurt?
[SPEAKER_00]: I am wounded in my soul, and God let it happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you get it from his word, and a lot of me, and tell me that the residual effect of the pain is cause of my lack of faith.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm running to the altar and putting down whatever money you tell me to give.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thinking I can fix it through some kind of platter tool or some kind of religious reflex to what's real in my life.
[SPEAKER_00]: The scripture done high from what's real.
[SPEAKER_00]: Neither did Jesus dodge any smoke, but he shows us here how to grieve and how to grieve well.
[SPEAKER_00]: Y'all picking up what I'm putting down?
[SPEAKER_00]: Peace because Arrow says, good grieving is not just letting go, but also letting it bless us.
[SPEAKER_00]: If there were two things I could pray for every person who would have sounded my voice, the first thing would be that you avoid all pain that's unnecessary for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: The second thing would be, if it's praying, you can't avoid it, and you gotta go through it, and least let it bless you when you come out.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it's nothing else you hear me say today, here's the big idea, and that is this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Grieving well makes me ready to be blessed and a blessing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Grieving well.
[SPEAKER_00]: makes me ready to be blessed and a blessing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's what I mean by grieving well.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number one, grieving well, or he is us to reality.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus is now preparing to go to the cross and all week he's been coming in private to worship the Lord and talk to God.
[SPEAKER_00]: But now this is the night before.
[SPEAKER_00]: His crucifixion.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's just finished taking communion.
[SPEAKER_00]: with his disciples in the upper room, now they're out at the foot of the Mount of Olives, and he goes there to pray.
[SPEAKER_00]: The twelfth who follow him have now become 11.
[SPEAKER_00]: And of the 11th who's left, he tells three to come with him even closer.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then of those three, he tells them to stay right here, and he goes a storm's throw from them.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what we notice is this, the further you journey into grief,
[SPEAKER_00]: grief has a way of pulling us into necessary isolation.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus had all these crowds following him.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now those crowds of doing the down to the 12, one of the 12, is about to betray him.
[SPEAKER_00]: So now it's 11.
[SPEAKER_00]: Out of those 11, he told eight y'all, chill, three y'all come.
[SPEAKER_00]: Those three got his closest three could get.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then it was just Jesus and God.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the text says that he is grieved, then the next verse says he is deeply grieved, and the sense of that verb in the Greek implies that his grief is happening in real time.
[SPEAKER_00]: The implication is, with every step, he takes the grief is worse.
[SPEAKER_00]: With every step, he takes away from the crowd, he feels more deeply a grief he cannot avoid.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so he goes from being grieved to being deeply grieved.
[SPEAKER_00]: The network distressed as his described in verse number 37, what it really means is depressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want you to hear me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus, the Son of God and God in the Son was depressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me say it this way.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus, who knew no sin and had no wrongdoings, was depressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why is that important?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you have battle with depression, you might struggle with thinking is sin.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus didn't sin, Jesus can't sin, but Jesus was depressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is not sin to experience depression.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is human to experience depression.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm so glad God became human.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he's green.
[SPEAKER_00]: He is distressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: He is pressed down.
[SPEAKER_00]: Depressed because of the weight of the pain that he's going to try to avoid in his conversation with God, but he's going to learn.
[SPEAKER_00]: Through his prayer, through his time of the Lord, it's nothing he can do to circumvent this necessary pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so he feels it, here and now, and then he expresses it.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, my soul is grieved.
[SPEAKER_00]: My soul is deeply grieved unto death.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when he shows us this major key, and that is this, it is a son of spiritual health to be able to acknowledge the reality of your soul.
[SPEAKER_00]: Notice Jesus didn't get in the garden and start trying to sound spiritual.
[SPEAKER_00]: He didn't get out there and say, oh, I'm blessed and highly favored and God.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, oh, I'm too blessed to be depressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, God has been good to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, oh my life, I have nothing to complain about.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus got out there and told the truth.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, I am.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am greedy, deeply grieved, even unto death.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a sign of spiritual health here me now when you can articulate the reality of your soul.
[SPEAKER_00]: And even if you don't have the vocabulary for it, even if you don't have a listening ear in a companion for it, maybe you get a pen and a pen and you journal the truth about what's happening inside.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's spiritually healthy to say you grieving when you grieving.
[SPEAKER_00]: To say you stress when you stress.
[SPEAKER_00]: to say you frustrated when you're frustrated, to admit you're tired when you're tired, to acknowledge your angry, when you're angry.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is spiritually healthy to tell the truth about what's going on inside, spiritually unhealthy, to put religious talk over the truth of your soul.
[SPEAKER_00]: Peace because Errol says that this way, there is no greater disaster in the spiritual life than to be immersed in unreality.
[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, the true spiritual life is not an escape from reality, but an absolute commitment to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Loss marks the place where self-knowledge and powerful transformation happened if we have the courage to participate fully in the process.
[SPEAKER_00]: Loss and grief, however, cannot be separated from the issue of our limits as human beings.
[SPEAKER_00]: Limits are behind all loss.
[SPEAKER_00]: God has placed enormous limits around even the most gifted of us.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
[SPEAKER_00]: To keep us grounded and to keep us what church?
[SPEAKER_00]: Humble.
[SPEAKER_00]: grieving will, or against us to reality number two, grieving will, humbles us before God.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, here's what happened when you face praying, you cannot avoid that you wish you could.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're gonna have a choice in how you respond to God.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can either get arrogant and lash out at God, or be humble and pray to God.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what you might find is the truth is you would be on a spectrum from one extreme to the other.
[SPEAKER_00]: You might start out lashing out and they end up crying out.
[SPEAKER_00]: You might start out prideful and they end up humble.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then you might try to be humble, to get God the fix it, then get mad when God don't fix it because you got humble and then go back to being profitable.
[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody asks me how I know.
[SPEAKER_00]: text says that Jesus is humble before God, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: You may not see the word humility, but we see humility in his posture.
[SPEAKER_00]: Says Daniel Lillard.
[SPEAKER_00]: Matthew 26, verse 36.
[SPEAKER_00]: He told the disciples, sit here while I go over there and pray.
[SPEAKER_00]: Verse 39, he went a little beyond them, noticed a humility in his posture and fail on his face.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what y'all pray, verse 42, he went away a second time and praying, verse 44, he left them again and he went away and his grief has humbled him before God.
[SPEAKER_00]: The longer it takes for us to embrace the humility of grieving well, the longer we will make the grief worse than it was originally intended to be.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes the pain we can't avoid starts a cycle we can't.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if we're unwilling to be humble, we perpetuate a cycle that the grief never intended for us to keep going.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know what I'm saying is not easy, but I want you to hit me, it's necessary.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus goes to talk to God, not once, not twice, for three times.
[SPEAKER_00]: The first time he goes, Jesus prays the realist prayer.
[SPEAKER_00]: He goes and says, I remember, you know, from the foundation of the world, you know, in the garden of Eden, saying, enter, and so you was saying, I was going down across, and now that I'm feeling to do that tomorrow, I just want to double check.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Real quick, um.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, does it have to be this way?
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, let this cut pass from me.
[SPEAKER_00]: He goes back to his friends.
[SPEAKER_00]: He sees them sleep.
[SPEAKER_00]: He wakes them up.
[SPEAKER_00]: He roasts them a little bit like me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to pay attention.
[SPEAKER_00]: You better pray because the spirit is with them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Flesh is weak.
[SPEAKER_00]: He goes back and prays again.
[SPEAKER_00]: The second time he prays, he says, if this cut can't pass, unless I'm the one who drinks it,
[SPEAKER_00]: do what you've got to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Notice he didn't say, I'm cool with it, I like it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It feels good, I want it.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, if this is a pain, you have uniquely designed me to be the one to go through.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you refuse to change it, like I actually took five minutes ago, yo, we'll be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: He goes away, finds them sleeping this time.
[SPEAKER_00]: He just let them sleep.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it takes us, he prays the same thing again.
[SPEAKER_00]: Notice what happens in each prayer.
[SPEAKER_00]: The first time he prays, let it pass for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Twice he prays, if it can't pass unless I drink it, so let it be, all three times he prays, your will be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's a major key, and I want you to take a deep breath as I say this.
[SPEAKER_00]: The small soul.
[SPEAKER_00]: avoids grief and loss to save itself from suffering.
[SPEAKER_00]: The enlarged soul accepts the measure of suffering God has ordained to serve others.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm saying that is one who got my own cup of the drink.
[SPEAKER_00]: Those of us who are head of households, leaders of organizations, leaders of teams, parents, God, parents, coaches, on any level, somebody depends on you and benefits from your sacrifice.
[SPEAKER_00]: You understand the truth that the cup you drink is always worse than the cup you give.
[SPEAKER_00]: and you know where it is to love somebody so much that I'm willing to drink this cup, so your cup can be a little sweeter.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is there anybody who can be honest about the thing that God, I sacrifice, so they don't have to.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, I wanna do this, but if I don't drink this cup, who gonna drink it?
[SPEAKER_00]: All he's going to do is keep filling up with your wrath until it overflows the brim of the cup and spills out onto all creation.
[SPEAKER_00]: So since you have designed me to drink it, and my drinkin' it will bring you glory and bring them salvation.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'll will be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your will be done is a prayer that can only come from a soul that is large in loss and grows in grief.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you pray your will be done, and you confuse because you still don't like how it feels.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just because you don't like how it feels, don't mean you don't mean it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, that's the prayer you pray into your feelings, coming to life with God's will.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lord Joe, we'll be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is it possible he prayed three times because he was not just trying to get God to change his scenario?
[SPEAKER_00]: He was trying to change himself because he knew the scenario when change.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your will be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, it's another day.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just saying, I don't like this, but your will be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: What I love about the interchange between Jesus and God in this text is even though God doesn't respond, notice God don't have a problem with Jesus talking to him over and over again about the same thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jesus keeps coming to God over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over about the same thing coming here.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to talk to the person who thought you was doing everybody else a favor by keeping on the inside what you feel and you don't want to talk to people over and over and over and over again about what you're facing.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it's not a counselor who will heal you, if it's not a son,
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna tell you who will God and heaven will hear you and every day You can talk to him over and over and over and over and over and over about the same thing It ain't got to be deep.
[SPEAKER_00]: It ain't got to be fantastic You can wake up in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like good morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's meat.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like this butcher will be done I'll see you at noon.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey good afternoon.
[SPEAKER_00]: God is meat.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like this butcher will be done I'll see the night, but then I had God is late in the evening.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to tell you
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like what I'm going through, but don't we'll be done if they wake me up tomorrow I'm gonna talk to you about it again.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of us don't got quiet on God because you thought because you taught a talking about it, he taught a hearing about it, don't you know the Lord would never get taught a hearing you talk about what you're going through that he know you can't avoid.
[SPEAKER_00]: You ought to open your mouth and scream out, put it on.
[SPEAKER_00]: I knew my girl loved me, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: But I really felt love.
[SPEAKER_00]: Y'all, I was depressed about three years.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was stressed out.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the whole time, I'm mad, thinking, it's God, everything that it was me, getting in my own way.
[SPEAKER_00]: And never once in my struggle, did she say, you know you the problem, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not to, you get your soul right with God that you're gonna get out his way.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's gonna bless all of us.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
[SPEAKER_00]: So she let me had it for years.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to sit with the counselor, come home and talk and hurt.
[SPEAKER_00]: What I'll talk to her about the same thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll talk to her counselor about what I'll talk to the counselor about the same thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll talk to her about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: About a year and a half past, I don't feel no better, but I stop talking about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: She can read my whole energy.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm over there trying to be a big boy.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can write everything all together.
[SPEAKER_00]: She liked what's wrong, I'm like nothing.
[SPEAKER_00]: She liked what's wrong, I'm like something.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's the something?
[SPEAKER_00]: Decaying something is being for the last two years.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to talk about it?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I got tired of talking about it before she got tired of talking about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not till I came through and then I realized, man, I'll talk that girl ear off.
[SPEAKER_00]: About the same thing for two years, facts.
[SPEAKER_00]: For two years,
[SPEAKER_00]: I know she was going in the room like, God, if you don't get him.
[SPEAKER_00]: Please help this boy to grow up.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that's what love will do for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: It'll give you an ear to keep on expressing your pain when you can't avoid your situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes we in the situation, we know we can't avoid.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then we do damage to our soul when we stop talking about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that stuff I impose to stay in you is got to come out through your words.
[SPEAKER_00]: Come out through your prayers.
[SPEAKER_00]: Come out through your intercessions even for this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Grieving will, orient us to reality, grieving will, hummus us before God.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number three, and I'm done grieving will, positions us for influence.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you ever ask God to make you great,
[SPEAKER_00]: You didn't know you was also asking God to give you grief.
[UNKNOWN]: All right.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you ever ask God to make you great, you did not know you was asking God to give you grief.
[SPEAKER_00]: Which is why we get so angry when he gives us grief after we ask for greatness.
[SPEAKER_00]: You must in here what I ask you for.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nah, but you must don't know how I get you there.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is no way to be great without first going through grief.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is no way to be a leader, have influence, or make things moving shake.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you don't have a soul that is healthy enough to grieve well, somebody asks me how I know, because how you gonna walk with somebody else through a fire that you keep avoiding is anybody who can be honest about the fact that I can't follow you, too.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can follow him all the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: God, I read, this text ain't about a leadership.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is, Texas, he goes into the garden.
[SPEAKER_00]: He has disciples, disciples, our learners.
[SPEAKER_00]: If he knows he's going to talk to God about his griefs, why would he take the 11th?
[SPEAKER_00]: He's taken the 11 to show them the way to grieve well.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because his sacrifice is not just for their salvation, his sacrifice is also for an example, because he knows 20 years from now, they gonna face something in God's will, and they gonna need to know what it looks like to grieve well.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm gonna take you with me and let you get as close as your capacity can handle.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we make them a stake of leaving immature people out of the struggle.
[SPEAKER_00]: You ain't got to leave immature people out, bring them with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: They'll give in before they get too close.
[SPEAKER_00]: Notice that these disciples went to sleep.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, and over again, is it because they didn't care?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, it's because they couldn't handle it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got people watching you who you have influence over who cannot handle what you are going through, but they need to be close enough to see how somebody like you can grieve well because one of these old days when you are not on the scene, they are gonna face a grief too, and they gonna need to know what to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: When the world stirs upside down, is there anybody who's grateful for the leaders in your life who have showed you not how to run from your problems, but how to crawl through your pond?
[SPEAKER_00]: So you won't influence, huh?
[SPEAKER_00]: You want to be an influencer.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: Having followers don't make you an influencer being a follower makes you an influencer.
[SPEAKER_00]: Following the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: You won't influence, huh?
[SPEAKER_00]: You want to be great?
[SPEAKER_00]: You can't be great without grief.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just so broad enough to grieve well.
[SPEAKER_00]: or do you shrink under pressure and avoid necessary pain?
[SPEAKER_00]: The shout-in-lose about this text, ain't even everything I'll just say it.
[SPEAKER_00]: The shout-in-lose about this text is the picture that is happening and what it shows us about the potential of what can happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: First, 36 says Jesus walks into the garden of Gethsemane that word Gethsemane means oil press.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's not just what he's going through, is where he is prophetically and geographically that points to what God is at work doing in his life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Y'all looking to be like around, so what?
[SPEAKER_00]: What is an oil press after doing anything?
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, if we would Jewish, we would know that there are two things that matter most to Jewish culture.
[SPEAKER_00]: Two crops, grapes and olives.
[SPEAKER_00]: Greats create wine, olives create oil.
[SPEAKER_00]: And for the Jews, that oil was used for a multitude of things, for example, that oil was used to make the anointing oil that were consecrated, the stuff in the temple and the priests who served in the temple.
[SPEAKER_00]: That oil was used to keep that lamp burning, the lamp standing in the holy of Holy's all day and all night.
[SPEAKER_00]: The oil was used to cook the cakes and things that they would eat in their kosher diet in order to honor the Lord by eating unleavened bread.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if all those fails and they woke up on a chilly morning and they were actually on their elbows and on their lips, they can dip they finger in that oil in.
[SPEAKER_00]: And on night they're face, so they don't look like what they've been through.
[SPEAKER_00]: But see, you don't get oil from a whole olive.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can only get the oil out of the olives if the olive allows somebody to crush it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So Jesus is in, get Simony at the foot of the mouth of olives, saying, Lord, not my will, but sure it will be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what he's saying is, you can press me and you can depress me because I know as you crush me, you're gonna allow something to flow from me.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's gonna be a blessing for generations that I cannot perceive.
[SPEAKER_00]: Come here, all are coming.
[SPEAKER_00]: The pressure on your life ain't the hurt you the pressure on your life is to use you to help somebody else I'm going to the MCC.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is that anybody who's grateful for the fact that God It give you a necessary pressure So the oil will start to flow through your life so that people can be consecrated to God So that people can be closer to God And so you can walk with people through hell and they will look like what they've been through is a anybody who can testify
[SPEAKER_00]: What are you grieving?
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of you already know what it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: What are you facing that you want to ask God to change?
[SPEAKER_00]: But you know deep in your soul.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not going to change.
[SPEAKER_00]: So how can I get to your will be done?
[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever it is, I want you to get it in your mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you're grieving a love on you, Bloss.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's probably a child that you're grieving a parent.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a parent that you're grieving a child.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when I say, I don't just mean past, maybe lost in fellowship.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe a dream, a career path, you thought you was going to go down, a door was slamming your face.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you got ready to buy a house, got two weeks before closing, and everything filled apart.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you prepared to spend your life with somebody else for the rest of your life, and it crumbled right before your eyes.
[SPEAKER_00]: What are you grieving?
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe your body is changing.
[SPEAKER_00]: and it's hard for you to reconcile with the new needs you got at 40 years old.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so you're grieving that.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to walk everywhere now.
[SPEAKER_00]: You ain't running, no way.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm telling the truth.
[SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes we grieve as we celebrate.
[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.
[UNKNOWN]: Wow.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you, Lord, for letting me live another year.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm sad about what you made me go through this year.
[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: God and heaven, we just want to talk to you about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you can't change it, if you want to change it, please do.
[SPEAKER_00]: help us to enlarge through the grief to the point that we can sincerely say you'll be done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Forgive us for the times that we've lashed out when we should have cried out.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for being patient with us.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are wonderful like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for keeping our secrets.
[SPEAKER_00]: We will be embarrassed if you told people in public
[SPEAKER_00]: but you keep a good confidence.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're a better than a counselor.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're better than a psychiatrist, but we also thank you for the human vessels you put around us, who we can talk to.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for our counselors, thank you for our side colleges.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for those who are credentialed, skilled, and calm to serve us so that we might be well.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I've got out for the person who knows they are in pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: They cannot avoid that you, O God.
[SPEAKER_00]: We get the oil that flows out of this season of pressure and allow them at some point to look back and have perspective that everything you allowed didn't feel good, but it was for God.
[SPEAKER_00]: We honor you and we praise you in Jesus name.
[UNKNOWN]: Amen.
[SPEAKER_00]: Give the Lord a hand,