[SPEAKER_00]: environment as a huge impactful who you are.
[SPEAKER_01]: If I met a man who all his friends were cheaters, I probably wouldn't proceed.
[SPEAKER_00]: But until you find somebody else, we can give you a different perspective outside of your current world of reality.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are going to continue to beat up first.
[SPEAKER_01]: Something happens to men in their 30s to 40s where they start to struggle with their identity, Pam, in my 40s, but I'm still acting 16.
[SPEAKER_01]: First of all, I'm proud of you for taking that needle.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I'm a grown man, bro.
[SPEAKER_01]: But you were afraid of anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't afraid of anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just don't like it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Me not liking something and being afraid or two different things, but it was for the greater good of my family.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, got a man up, take the little needle.
[SPEAKER_00]: But my results came back and I am down bad.
[SPEAKER_01]: Tell me more.
[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, my, I have a very severe vitamin D deficiency, however, that testosterone is good money.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you know, you'll, I have, maybe for like the last, I don't know, a bunch of years.
[SPEAKER_00]: I, I, I, I live the life that I live with the type of energy that I have, and I'm not super high energy all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe my vitamin D was low for a long time because it feels normal, but the normal range is from like 30 to 100.
[SPEAKER_00]: Mine's was swell.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it explains a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: It explains a lot.
[SPEAKER_01]: Listen, you guys, you have to go and get at least get your lab work done.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was enough for you to say, okay, let me make a doctor's appointment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, for sure.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, we went to doctor.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually yesterday, they are redoing it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So actually, instead they can drill down into other layers that they didn't find on the original report.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it was so good that I actually did that because I can
[SPEAKER_00]: that everybody ain't sleepy with the schedule that I have.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like vitamin D is as a big impact on your energy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I mean, it's higher, bro.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you are struggling with like energy depletion is abnormal, you're finding yourself napping a whole lot.
[SPEAKER_01]: You want to first look at vitamin D, like the first things that your doctor would look at are your vitamin D levels and your iron levels.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think you're iron was good.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're iron was good, yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, my iron was good.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was limited on my kids when I'm tired all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: My gosh, I was just way all day, I'm sleepy.
[SPEAKER_01]: And those poor babies had nothing to do with it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And the thing about vitamin D is you can't eat vitamin D. Like you can't get it in food.
[SPEAKER_01]: You have to take supplements and you have to go outside in the sun.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you're in the studio all day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, damn old.
[SPEAKER_00]: Excuse me.
[SPEAKER_01]: My vitamin D.
[SPEAKER_01]: And 2024 was really, really low.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think it was a 12-low, but it was low.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I started to, that's when I started getting really active outside, going on my walks and things.
[SPEAKER_01]: And my vitamin D, so if the scale was 30 to 100, I think mine is a 29.
[SPEAKER_01]: So it's low, again, but not like, all I got to do is pop some supplements, and I'll be right back up there.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I like it to, you know,
[SPEAKER_01]: If you can get to 100, can I get to 50?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I don't know that my vitamin D level has ever been, like a 50 since I've been checking it above a 50.
[SPEAKER_01]: And so you have to get your vitamin D in a shot.
[SPEAKER_01]: They can give it to you in a shot.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can get it in a supplement and you get it from the sun, but the sun is going to be the biggest source.
[SPEAKER_01]: So you need to stand outside for a couple of minutes in the morning and do it again in a half an inch.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, just go in the parking lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, I probably run a little not run but like walk a little lap or something out here, but yeah, this is really really good to know because there's stuff that's wrong with us.
[SPEAKER_00]: And because it's been wrong with us for so long, we just feel like it's life and you start blaming other factors like me, blaming, you know, to work, the kids, and all that kind of stuff, when really, I just need to get out in this some sun, which kind of leads me to another point of being stuck in your ways, and like the life that you lived, that is just how things are, the longer you live, with them, you start to live with these inefficiencies,
[SPEAKER_00]: these negative things that you don't look as negative, it's just life.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like somebody that grew up on food stamps when you get older, you're just on food stamps and you don't see anything wrong with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me just do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just how our family was raised, but for those who are able
[SPEAKER_00]: At some point, I don't want to do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: You change a mindset, and then you realize, oh, I was able to get out of this path, you know, Jonathan told me this story.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jonathan raised home this story.
[SPEAKER_00]: Him and his brother got like 17 brothers and sisters.
[SPEAKER_00]: He has a lot of kids.
[SPEAKER_00]: They all grew up in trailers, like from a child.
[SPEAKER_00]: to a grown person and a trailer.
[SPEAKER_00]: So then he went to college and the first thing you'd look for or what he went to college.
[SPEAKER_01]: Was a trailer?
[SPEAKER_00]: Trailer Park.
[SPEAKER_01]: He told the story in front of the room in a network marketing company.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's crazy.
[SPEAKER_01]: He was conditioned to think that this was normal.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's life.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, and it is normal for some people, but sometimes we make what was normal for us in certain circumstances our ceiling.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, for sure.
[SPEAKER_00]: He was like, yo, man, let's all just tell.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't find a show for anywhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like he was looking for that specifically.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's how I felt with his vitamin D situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just tired and that's just what I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's how life is.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm thinking everybody's like that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you end up self-diagnosing, it's the kids, it's the work schedule, it's the success and all the thing you got to work until you're tired.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, you probably been sitting in the computer inside your home for so long that you think you worked until you were tired when really you just needed to go touch some grass.
[SPEAKER_00]: for sure, and be earthed.
[SPEAKER_01]: What is it, earthed, ground it, ground it, ground it, ground it, I like earth, but maybe we'll coin that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let's all go out and get earthed.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, and we're self-diagnosing.
[SPEAKER_01]: We were Googling before, which charging PTN now, lab work is really simple.
[SPEAKER_01]: You guys, your medical insurance covers it.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you have it as a couple hundred books, if you don't.
[SPEAKER_01]: But just every six months, every 12 months, get your blood drawn.
[SPEAKER_01]: And for people who have significant deficiencies, I recommend like every six months.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm no doctor.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm just, I've done this so much.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'll tell you what the doctors say.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you have a significant deficiency, they want to see that it's getting better.
[SPEAKER_01]: So, because like a super significant vitamin D deficiency can lead to so many health ailments, including a stroke.
[SPEAKER_01]: So you will say, I am sleepy, sleepy, sleepy.
[SPEAKER_01]: I am tired all the time, trying to self-diagnose, trying to take another vitamin, and could end up having a stroke because of a low vitamin C deficiency of friend of mine.
[SPEAKER_01]: She's in her 20s.
[SPEAKER_01]: We'll also blame things on age.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I stopped doing that a long time ago when I see 70 year olds outperforming me on Instagram, it can't just be age.
[SPEAKER_01]: What makes their situation so unique?
[SPEAKER_01]: Why do they have so much strength and energy and all the things?
[SPEAKER_01]: A good friend of mine last year.
[SPEAKER_01]: had an iron deficiency, and she just exhausted all the time.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm just tired, sleepy, falling asleep, not being able to stay awake.
[SPEAKER_01]: And this is unusual behavior.
[SPEAKER_01]: And she's been saying, I'm just working a lot.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm doing a lot.
[SPEAKER_01]: I need to get my rest this weekend.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to stay in the house and catch up on some sleep.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, she's in the gym.
[SPEAKER_01]: And she passes out.
[SPEAKER_01]: And someone is able to get in contact with her mom.
[SPEAKER_01]: She goes to get her lab work done, but you know, there's a couple of days that it takes to get the results.
[SPEAKER_01]: So she goes to the specialist to get her lab work done, because we keep getting told that everything is normal.
[SPEAKER_01]: Everything is normal.
[SPEAKER_01]: She goes, gets her lab work done.
[SPEAKER_01]: She's in the gym a couple days later, before she gets her results, and she passes out.
[SPEAKER_01]: Somebody there is able to go in her phone and contact with her mom.
[SPEAKER_01]: Her mom comes to pick her up.
[SPEAKER_01]: She's rushing her to Grady.
[SPEAKER_01]: While she's on the way to Grady, her doctor's office calls to tell her, hey, we're just getting your lab work back.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm reviewing it right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: You need to get to a hospital immediately.
[SPEAKER_01]: Because her iron levels were so low that she needed an immediate blood transfusion.
[SPEAKER_01]: Her 20, 20 something, you're 28, 29 years old, her life could have changed that day.
[SPEAKER_01]: Could have changed that day.
[SPEAKER_01]: Luckily, she passed out, luckily, she passed out because she could have dropped it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Mm-hmm.
[SPEAKER_01]: She got to the hospital and she was in the hospital for two days and had to have blood transfusions.
[SPEAKER_01]: She had to have iron.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think they call them iron transfusions as well.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, the IV iron, she had to do a cycle of these things.
[SPEAKER_01]: And the longer you put this stuff off, the harder the solution is.
[SPEAKER_01]: It goes from an iron, a liquid iron supplement with some vitamin C to transfusions.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, oh my gosh.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so I'm glad you you made that call.
[SPEAKER_00]: We put it together.
[SPEAKER_00]: My wife telling me like, I can check up, check those up like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if nobody just puts it in play, if he was like, yo, let's get some checkups.
[SPEAKER_00]: It would never happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, that you set it up to where you just come to the date that we're recording.
[SPEAKER_00]: That really helped me, man.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I've really been thinking about how long I've been living.
[SPEAKER_00]: just with low energy like this, and then sleepy, and I'm like, y'all never even got in check.
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe think too that the world that we create for ourselves is the reality of the world for us.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I've never understood, just plagued me for a while.
[SPEAKER_00]: My friend, I have a friend, I think of right now, no matter what city goes to, you can find drugs.
[SPEAKER_01]: I didn't know some of those people.
[SPEAKER_00]: Brown, like he came to visit me at Alabama.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't even think he didn't know anybody at Alabama.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't even introduce him to nobody in the Alabama because he came to stay in my house.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I think I went off to class or I went to work or something like that and came home.
[SPEAKER_01]: And yeah, wait, you don't mind, where'd you get that from?
[SPEAKER_01]: He's like, yeah, I just...
[SPEAKER_00]: caught around in a fence.
[SPEAKER_00]: You call it hooves.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't even know nobody here.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, no, I just found it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like in his world, he just knows.
[SPEAKER_01]: They're in the community.
[SPEAKER_00]: He knows how to move there.
[SPEAKER_00]: You feel in that space.
[SPEAKER_00]: But then I found the importance of mentorship, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because like back to that situation with Jonathan Green, the fact that he's looking to high and low for Charlie because in his brain, that's the way you live.
[SPEAKER_00]: If no one ever shows you, hey, you know you're just gonna apartment, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: You know you just get you don't you don't have to live in a trailer you film me like yeah you can live on a on a higher floor it like look over to say you know you can buy there's we've been conditioned that the way we make money is I have to have a product and I got to sell it and I got a hustle and I got a grind but until you find somebody else who can give you a different perspective outside of your current world of reality
[SPEAKER_01]: You're gonna continue to be that person, but I'm listening to what you're saying and I'm like, you know what?
[SPEAKER_01]: We're judging so many people good or bad based on how they were conditioned.
[SPEAKER_01]: Simply based on Jonathan Green was raised in a trailer park.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's where he spent his life with his football-sized take family.
[SPEAKER_01]: But then I start thinking about like, there are people like, let's just say women, for example, who say,
[SPEAKER_01]: I want to be in a relationship where we can travel the summer abroad.
[SPEAKER_01]: We can travel five or six times in the summer or 10 times in the year.
[SPEAKER_01]: But would if they grew up that way?
[SPEAKER_00]: Or they grew up that way.
[SPEAKER_01]: What if they grew up in a household?
[SPEAKER_01]: So I was visiting my dad over Father's Day.
[SPEAKER_01]: And he's remarried.
[SPEAKER_01]: And my dad's wife asked about
[SPEAKER_01]: what kind of family trips we used to go on in my childhood.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're driving, and she asked me if I had ever been to Astro World, and I'm like, no, you know, it never been, and she's like, you've never been to Astro World, I'm like, no, six flags.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a Georgia babe, that's all we got, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: And so then she looks at my dad, and she's like, what kind of vacations did you take this child on?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like it was almost like,
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god.
[SPEAKER_01]: And my dad was like, she never been to Astral world.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm in the backseat thinking when she asked what kind of family vacations we went on and there weren't many.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like my summer wasn't filled with family vacations.
[SPEAKER_01]: My summer was filled with my mom providing opportunities for me to go to engineering camp.
[SPEAKER_01]: To go to Mercedes-Benz camp like in 10th grade I built a solar power Mercedes-Benz who else did that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I was raising shrimp on on shrimp farms and chemistry sets like I traveled to different places to summer camp.
[SPEAKER_01]: I see that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Cory is that North Carolina anti at a summer camp right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I loved it because I went to North Carolina anti at a summer camp.
[SPEAKER_01]: They ended up giving me a scholarship.
[SPEAKER_01]: I was at Famous and so for me like when deja got older, she wasn't she wasn't raised.
[SPEAKER_01]: We went places, but she wasn't raised to take Family vacations.
[SPEAKER_01]: She went to summer camp.
[SPEAKER_01]: But that's how I was raised.
[SPEAKER_01]: And so I could see that there was like a little bit of judgment, like what kind of childhood that this kid have.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm thinking amazing.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I went to all these camps and I travel.
[SPEAKER_01]: We just didn't do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: So what if there is a woman who a clip goes viral?
[SPEAKER_01]: Because she says, I want to be able to travel.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like Princess, I interviewed her on the exit interview.
[SPEAKER_01]: And she said that she wanted to be able to travel.
[SPEAKER_01]: 10 times or something like that.
[SPEAKER_01]: And five or six times a year out of the country.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I never stop to ask her, is that how you were raised?
[SPEAKER_01]: Because what if that's just, you think that's normal, because that's what your family provided.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but I think we don't know how someone's going to turn out based on the experience because it could be some people that didn't go anywhere and because they didn't go anywhere, they always desire to go someone to get older like I'm this travel junkie because my parents wouldn't let me hit out the room over.
[SPEAKER_00]: a person who traveled city to city and they like, you know, I'll like traveling.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm straight.
[SPEAKER_00]: But they grew up traveling, but maybe their parents didn't know it's like, I don't want to go meet another group of friends.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to go to another school.
[SPEAKER_00]: I stay put.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think it's accumulation of all the experiences.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why that's why I get kind of, I don't really like the whole life coaching
[SPEAKER_00]: industry like that period because a lot of them will say oh well because of your child or because it is one isolated thing this is why you're this way but it could be a bunch of things yeah it could be there's some things that impact in me as a child a me seeing it on TV one time and I think change oh I like that so
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's now time for us to maybe identify what we like or what we want, but then ask the question, why do I like that?
[SPEAKER_01]: Why do I like it?
[SPEAKER_00]: Hmm.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is an interesting conversation and that's why I definitely don't try to judge people because we don't know what experiences led them up to this point.
[SPEAKER_00]: that was talking about.
[SPEAKER_00]: And while he brought him up, and I was like, bro, however, they decide to live their life good or bad, good or evil, whatever.
[SPEAKER_00]: We are, they are exactly who we would be if we had to live their life and live their experiences and see everything.
[SPEAKER_00]: And from a baby, we had to walk in that person's shoes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever you hate about that person right now,
[SPEAKER_00]: is based on their experiences.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you don't like it because you don't have to walk it up person too.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, I understand it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I get it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I understand.
[SPEAKER_01]: I try to, I don't really judge general population.
[SPEAKER_01]: I judge people who have to be connected to me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've learned that about my life.
[SPEAKER_01]: What you mean?
[SPEAKER_01]: So we judge people who we're going to date.
[SPEAKER_01]: We judge our friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've recently realized that I am deeply judgmental about
[SPEAKER_01]: your friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: Not you specific.
[SPEAKER_01]: Really?
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I judge a person by who they keep around them.
[SPEAKER_01]: 1,000%.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's this guy who, um, you judge my friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anybody who's closely connected to me because it tells me a lot about your choices and the things that you value.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anybody as close to connected to the people that connected to you.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, so there's this guy who's been trying to ask me out now for a couple of weeks he's been asking me out for a couple of weeks and there's just been this resistance that I've had he's attractive, but it's just something it's just something and over the weekend I figured it out.
[SPEAKER_01]: Your friends are raggedy and I'm not attracted to a man who keeps these kind of people around him.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I know all this friends are ugly.
[SPEAKER_01]: All of them, like I've been observing anytime that he's doing like dope stuff, he's by himself.
[SPEAKER_01]: But when he's having fun, he's out, he's out at restaurants.
[SPEAKER_01]: Number one, he's older and he's still be like in the streets, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: He's he's a connected person, meaning he's at the day parties and all the things.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I looked at this man's stories.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I realized he's still like standing on couch at his friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: Our still like standing on couches at the day party at the brunch.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, they're paying for 50.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, he's in his mid 40s.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, he's he might be 48.
[SPEAKER_01]: If I'm 47, he's 48.
[SPEAKER_01]: And he's not standing on the sofas.
[SPEAKER_01]: But these are the people that are in your stories
[SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he has to catch that part of his story.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it's red, there's a lot of cultures, you thought they get a what?
[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm not, I'm not positive, but I know they're going to post this clip.
[SPEAKER_01]: I know, I know George, you're going to pull this clip.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't care.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm standing on him.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm staying.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, George pulls our clips.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, oh, yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm on the same day.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm standing on it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I judge, especially.
[SPEAKER_01]: people that I will potentially date by the friends that they keep around them.
[SPEAKER_01]: If your friends are like out of control, if all of your friends are like not, you can obviously tell when people make bad decisions in their lives.
[SPEAKER_01]: And if you've got a group of friends around you that clearly make bad decisions in their lives, and this is all you keep around, these are the only people you keep around you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't no matter how top tier you think you are or how top tier you present, I can't because I start thinking these are the people that are going to be in and out of my house.
[SPEAKER_01]: When we have like a family function, these are the people that you want me to trust.
[SPEAKER_01]: roaming around my home, these are the people that, you know, I don't want any more kids with if I had kids.
[SPEAKER_01]: These are these are the people you want to have around my kids.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like these are your influences.
[SPEAKER_01]: These are your influences.
[SPEAKER_00]: Our his friends significantly younger or they all all his den on coaches.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't, you know, you can't be sure, but he did have like a lot of young people around him.
[SPEAKER_01]: But he also has some people his age.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like,
[SPEAKER_01]: Something happens to men in their 30s to 40s where they start to struggle with their identity and I don't think they know who they are in a certain space of life is like
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, I'm in my 40s, but I'm still acting 16 or I'm still acting 25 and I say that very loosely because I don't buy into the whole actor age concept like I feel like if you're 40 something and you want to be in a club you can go and be in a club is just a way that a 40 year old carries themselves in a club differently than a 25 year old in a club like.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you want to do whatever it is that you want to do, but there's also like that group where they're just stuck in maybe a midlife crisis.
[SPEAKER_01]: They're stuck in this identity crisis where they, they don't wanna move on just yet, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: Because it makes them feel old and look, I get it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've had the same thoughts, I've had the same feelings.
[SPEAKER_01]: And so I get it, but back to my original point,
[SPEAKER_01]: people by the, I probably judge you more by the friends you have than I judge you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, let me ask you this, though, is he doing well professionally?
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: He does well professionally, which is so confusing to me, because
[SPEAKER_01]: Professionally, he's very well put together.
[SPEAKER_01]: Professionally, he's got his stuff going on.
[SPEAKER_01]: You ever saw one of those videos on Instagram or TikTok where it's like the professional gets in the car, they undo their suit, and then they throw the do rag on?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
[SPEAKER_01]: And start bumping like, geez, you're something.
[SPEAKER_01]: It reminds me of this except this isn't a once in a while.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I've paid attention, I'm like, what is it about this guy?
[SPEAKER_01]: He's so well put together, he's this, he's that, he's successful, he's these things.
[SPEAKER_01]: But when the weekend or the nighttime comes, he turns into somebody completely different.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like he turns into,
[SPEAKER_01]: the end public with the do rack on his head.
[SPEAKER_01]: He turns into bottles like, I'm not attracted to like, I've outgrown the men who are like in their stories like poppin' bottles and standin' on how to get to see it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Give me that's a grab.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry about that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've grown it.
[SPEAKER_01]: David, I'm 47.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can't, you can't be over here on my knees.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like you can't damage the knees.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's, it's, it's, um, yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: It gives me, you know, let me over.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to see it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to see it from, sorry.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me see if he has any of that on here, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: I just want to see who it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to see based on the stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because here's the thing, here's the thing, here's the thing about it, though.
[SPEAKER_00]: In the event that he's doing well professionally,
[SPEAKER_00]: It's my belief that if he's doing well professionally, he has an influence and audience of the professional audience and maybe he's not in the group chat every day, but on the weekends, they go out and that's where he gets to let his hair down and get to enjoy the fruits of his labor.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I was, if I was single, okay, let me say, what am I?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm 41.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't say that if I was 48.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I was single, I wouldn't be in the club.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't say that I wouldn't be.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't have a problem with you being in the club.
[SPEAKER_01]: you can be wherever you want.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the ones that go into the club, you gotta have the farm was just going to turn up a little bit and have a good time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to be the old head, we're all just sitting around, we all wearing slacks and hard bottom shoes.
[SPEAKER_00]: We just got the bottom to the right.
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to do that either.
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to be the old head that is just somewhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: Get ready to Instagram.
[SPEAKER_01]: Listen, I'm trying because this is what you've been asking.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, I don't want you following me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why would I follow you?
[SPEAKER_00]: You say this every single time and I've never ever violated any of the ways that you describe.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why would I follow him?
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so the Instagram profile looks impressive.
[SPEAKER_01]: Which is why we're connected.
[SPEAKER_01]: But the stories are nothing like it, and he don't.
[SPEAKER_00]: Did you send it to me?
[SPEAKER_01]: Is it, oh, it's a day of the week now.
[SPEAKER_01]: So his stories are not going to show what I'm talking about.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not about the stories.
[SPEAKER_00]: Listen, I'm an investigative person.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'll be able to read the lines of this.
[SPEAKER_00]: OK, let me say it, OK?
[SPEAKER_00]: Ain't no way he older you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You look young.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, no, no, that even that first one, like he, he, or on TikTok for stuff like that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I promise you.
[SPEAKER_01]: This isn't the stories, the stories.
[SPEAKER_01]: All fits, bro.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, the stories on the weekends are very different.
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't,
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't get to see it.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's saying, let, look at how he dressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's young, kind of.
[SPEAKER_01]: He's not like, oh, he's just holding on to his youth a little bit.
[SPEAKER_01]: Exactly.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, he's not, though.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but don't mention what he does or any week because he watches the show.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nah, he, I mean, he's seen, done his youth.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually.
[SPEAKER_00]: What you mean, he's me.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's you.
[SPEAKER_01]: What does that mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: You just don't post all the ratcha stuff that you'd be doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you're doing the same thing.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I don't do this kind of ratcha stuff.
[SPEAKER_01]: First of all, I don't do anything ratcha.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, I like him.
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, bro.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm an advocate.
[SPEAKER_01]: I like, yeah, he cool.
[SPEAKER_01]: No.
[SPEAKER_01]: OK, out for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: We got to have somebody a little more fun.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're one of my, oh, David, this is why I didn't want to show it to you
[SPEAKER_01]: the forward facing profile.
[SPEAKER_01]: When I tell you at nighttime, it turns into something different.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling you that at nighttime, and on the weekends, it turns into, I was like, who is this?
[UNKNOWN]: Who is this?
[SPEAKER_01]: Who is this?
[SPEAKER_01]: When I tell you that, yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Based on what I see here, I can tell with in the stories.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, you can't.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: I promise you can't.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I can't.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're upsetting me because I promise you, you can not.
[SPEAKER_01]: Because I, like, because you're, you're taking up for a person that you haven't even seen the full story of, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm telling you that you just wait until Friday night, I was just drawing conclusions long as not like a story or I could, I could see him in the club having a good talk.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, it's, it's different.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's different and it's, I was, I didn't think this was the same man, what so ever.
[SPEAKER_01]: And listen, I like to, you can, you might catch me at brunch.
[SPEAKER_01]: You could catch me at the mayor's ball.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can catch me at a strip club.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can catch me, so I am not like a prude.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not judging him because of where he goes.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's who he keeps around him that I wouldn't hang out with these people.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's people that I would cross the street.
[SPEAKER_01]: like I'm not hanging out with these people and not they're they're all different kinds of people but it's a shot of shapes it's sizes they're all different shapes sizes they're all different races of people but it's it's a really weird dynamic and so what it makes me believe is that he might
[SPEAKER_01]: This person, but he coasts, which is, you know, for his business like he's the one who went to school and got his degree and got his job because what he does requires all of that, like maybe he's the one who made it, but he's still kind of like stuck.
[SPEAKER_00]: But in a person is way worse than their friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: Entrepreneurship is hard when you're trying to do it by yourself.
[SPEAKER_01]: And the truth of the matter is sometimes you are the smartest person on your team.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you don't have anybody to get accountability from.
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have anybody to bounce ideas off of.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you don't have anybody who can port into you the way you need to be port into.
[SPEAKER_00]: and the problem is you're choosing that.
[SPEAKER_00]: There are environments where you can thrive and grow, but I'm telling you, if you stay in the only circle that you have, which is the one you created, you will stay exactly where you are for years to come.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What do you wait on?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why are you still here?
[SPEAKER_01]: Go join the circle.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, because people are heavily influenced by their friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: They're heavily influenced.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like this happened.
[SPEAKER_00]: You spend with them now.
[SPEAKER_01]: All that that's what I'm telling all the time.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's free time there.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like this is a facade.
[SPEAKER_01]: What you see on listen, let me tell you some ladies and men.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you really want to see what's that with somebody, pay attention to their stories.
[SPEAKER_01]: The real stuff goes in the stories, the real stuff goes in the stories because when when he hit me, I was like, oh, okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then a nighttime event comes and I was like, huh, a strange, it's okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: We can have some fun.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is not just turning up in the club.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you see what he keeps around him, okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: So then it comes again, okay, then all this one we can or like just recurve this has been over a couple of weeks over the last like three weeks, then this past weekend he traveled.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know how you say your friends can find drugs and everything.
[SPEAKER_01]: So even your out of town group and activities is this same stuff.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you know, I can keep people around me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not, if I say that it's a bad crowd, it's a bad crowd because I like a lot of hood stuff.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm not talking about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, yeah, I'm interested to see exactly what you saw or it wasn't anything you could put your finger on.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're just saying,
[SPEAKER_01]: One plus one equals two and I had this one plus one equals two but when when I see his stories next I think I think one it has a lot to do with this is seemingly how he spends all his free time number one the people that he keep around him
[SPEAKER_01]: are doing questionable things in his background.
[SPEAKER_01]: He's always on video.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I don't know what he's doing, but he's always the one taking the video and they're always doing questionable things.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not just what they look like.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like what they be in these videos doing.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then you're in different zip codes carrying on like this.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're in different area codes carrying on like this.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like this.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if he's one of the passport bros, I haven't known him long enough to know that.
[SPEAKER_00]: If he's gone to the Dominican, hey ladies, just if you find a guy, check his passport, if you see that Dominican stamp or Brazil, thank you for looking for.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think he does some stuff over there here.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe he does.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of reason to go over it to make it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway.
[SPEAKER_01]: Not the Dominican is Brazil.
[SPEAKER_01]: They do have a Dominican.
[SPEAKER_01]: What?
[SPEAKER_01]: In the Dominican, they're doing it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know how many times I've been to the Dominican?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you can go with the passport bronze, though.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, another experience.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yo, at the same Regis Hotel here, there was just a story.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's going around right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: So in Atlanta, not just in Atlanta.
[SPEAKER_01]: This happens in Houston, Houston.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm talking about the restaurant.
[SPEAKER_01]: This happens in places like Houston.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think it might be following the St. Regis brand.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_01]: And this is not like, this is just, this is just a story that's right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: This business man was at the St. Regis.
[SPEAKER_01]: This just happened like a week or two ago at the St. Regis.
[SPEAKER_01]: And he's at the bar.
[SPEAKER_01]: And he picks up these women, two girls.
[SPEAKER_01]: and take them to his place, did you see that?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I did see it and he won't go without his watches or something.
[SPEAKER_01]: They took like 25,000 hours worth of jewelry.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, this particular bar is known for attracting prostitution and the men who want to, who want services.
[SPEAKER_00]: And them too, look like there's one wrong.
[SPEAKER_00]: They said, oh, wait.
[SPEAKER_01]: That look.
[SPEAKER_01]: You see how quickly you were, this is what I'm talking about.
[SPEAKER_01]: The guy's that he keeps around him made me immediately say what you just said and bro what we doing like why are the in these are the closest people to you man and here's the lesson because now that we're having it is not
[SPEAKER_00]: anything necessarily that he did himself, but based on the character that he keeps around him is drastically affecting his brain and he just lost out on an incredible wife because of him not going to have friends because your friends
[SPEAKER_00]: Dang, that's crazy.
[SPEAKER_01]: The friends you keep around you.
[SPEAKER_01]: But seriously, like, now I'm glad that you said that.
[SPEAKER_01]: You said the man who took these two women home, I could say those two women, you could look at them and tell.
[SPEAKER_00]: You could tell.
[SPEAKER_01]: These guys, you could look at them and just tell.
[SPEAKER_01]: And that is the, and I think some judgment, but I started it with saying I deeply judge people by who they keep them who they keep around them like I understand and you guys may not agree with this and I understand if you don't judge people by.
[SPEAKER_01]: They keep around them, but there's so much evidence that says you should.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you know, and it breaks my heart because well, and I've had this conversation with them.
[SPEAKER_00]: So my very best friend, so if we're playing, if we're playing sports, we're playing basketball, they make an angry.
[SPEAKER_00]: You hear me?
[SPEAKER_00]: We went once I brought them out, like we was all playing.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, like the Neo and all that, like a, it's my entrepreneurial craft.
[SPEAKER_01]: And my yellows go who he's like, all right cool, man.
[SPEAKER_01]: with this is going.
[SPEAKER_00]: Dorn the game, bruh, he's like, I think I might have called a foul or something like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he's like, no, I ain't funny.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, hey, bruh, you found me, just give me the ball.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because here, if I call a foul, we just, we just check the ball up.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, for sure.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he's fighting and arguing with me, I'm like, bruh, that's not this environment.
[SPEAKER_00]: That was my best friend in the world.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just couldn't invite them anymore because in this environment, it's not even.
[SPEAKER_00]: We want to win, but it's not that serious.
[SPEAKER_00]: We just haven't fun.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're just playing a ball.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're just trying to play.
[SPEAKER_00]: None of us are going to the league.
[SPEAKER_01]: We don't want to hurt our ankles or our knees.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just what a hoop.
[SPEAKER_00]: So yes, yes, it is competitive.
[SPEAKER_00]: We want to win, but the argument should not last as long and take the ball to the outside of court.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, oh my gosh, I am embarrassed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now that's my best friend now.
[SPEAKER_00]: but also, so this was like months later, and we thought about the sweet notes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Month later, we got to Ellie Fitness, and we're playing ball with some y-ins.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now you can do that there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, you can, however, he gets into it when he's guys, and I'm like,
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going home.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm out of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I'm John, I'm like, yo, no, yo, we out.
[SPEAKER_00]: Cause you know what happens?
[SPEAKER_00]: It all is commotion.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it seems like it seems like in this environment, I probably have the most delusible.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's something happens.
[SPEAKER_00]: Guess who they sit.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm cool.
[SPEAKER_01]: We don't do that here explaining exactly what I'm talking about.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, the stuff that I'm seeing y'all do in videos.
[SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't be There's a date night couples date night with these guys The art part is I'm never like I'm not gonna not hang out on my boy because that's my brother.
[SPEAKER_00]: We've been through some real things.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just not in this environment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not in this environment.
[SPEAKER_00]: So
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, it's tough, but I understand where he's at because you don't know what they've been through his relationship and they just, yeah, I'm funny.
[SPEAKER_01]: So why would you judge me so harshly and you understand exactly what I'm saying?
[SPEAKER_00]: I understand what you're saying, but it doesn't make him them.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, it doesn't make him them, but the reason that you don't bring that friend in that environment is because you don't, you said you were embarrassed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but you wouldn't, but in this situation, you wouldn't bring.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, but my boy is the problem, okay?
[SPEAKER_01]: Right, right, right, right, right.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're not bringing him back into that environment, though.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to talk about it, but.
[SPEAKER_01]: Right, you're not bringing him back into that environment.
[SPEAKER_01]: The gentleman that I'm talking about is inviting them.
[SPEAKER_01]: into his environment.
[SPEAKER_01]: But this is consistent behavior.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, but in that situation, you have to just have that conversation because no, they're not him.
[SPEAKER_01]: You say, I don't desire to pull a man away from his friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: I observe what you are coming to me with.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is who you are.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is what you like.
[SPEAKER_01]: Y'all, they will probably jump on the basketball court.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is how like, no, this is what you do.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not taking a man away from his friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's a decision he has to have.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think if we out in the streets and I got a problem, I know my boy, we rumbling together.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're rumbling together.
[SPEAKER_00]: But here's the other side of that.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you are building a relationship with a person,
[SPEAKER_00]: you have to be able to separate that person from all the stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it is not affecting the person much, you just have to say, hey, you know, I like them for and so yeah, but what if that's their entire environment?
[SPEAKER_00]: But we don't know that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: We don't know.
[SPEAKER_01]: I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, here's here in my belief.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't say too much because people would be able to attack.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, here's my, here's my thought process.
[SPEAKER_00]: You.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sending my message.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, somebody tried to check me with all in her phone.
[SPEAKER_01]: I was in the clip that they recently posted of me saying, hi, I prefer a man to dress.
[SPEAKER_01]: I guess I was on my phone like I'm about to be right now because we'd be sending messages back and forth and messy people.
[SPEAKER_01]: But they're like, what's so important on her phone that she can't have her eyes in the camera?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like my business.
[SPEAKER_00]: But here's my thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: If in the events that, oh, this is my thought process.
[SPEAKER_00]: If someone's become successfully, success,
[SPEAKER_00]: Successful, financially, they have a good status in life.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm under the belief that there has to be a part of their environment that feeds that.
[SPEAKER_00]: If they're successful and they can attain you to be successful, I feel like.
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe that's not the stuff that they post on their stories and stuff like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe I only spend the weekends with these people.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I think there has to be another environment where he's promoting professionalism in success.
[SPEAKER_01]: Look at the text that I think.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I was making some observations and then I did that to confirm my theory and it was confirmed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, you did it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I did it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, oh, it was confirmed.
[SPEAKER_01]: And it was confirmed.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's a no for me dog, okay, yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: So just just for you guys.
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, I had this theory and I'm making these observations.
[SPEAKER_01]: And so then we engage in a conversation.
[SPEAKER_01]: that confirmed everything that I was on.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, no.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yep.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: So in this situation, I definitely understand because you got a chance to find out for yourself, not based on social, but for the the watcher, I think we got to be careful.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's really a good discernment.
[SPEAKER_00]: It seems like you're really really good.
[SPEAKER_01]: I have a great decision.
[SPEAKER_00]: But we can't throw away the person based on the environment we see them with.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, you can.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think it depends on what age group we're in, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: Because as we get older, we should also become more mature and we should be gaining some wisdom.
[SPEAKER_01]: And
[SPEAKER_01]: When you're younger, it makes sense that you're trying things out and you're experiencing things.
[SPEAKER_01]: But as you start to go through life and you start to acquire things that you have to lose, people, children, responsibly, there are some things that you have to heart-circuit separate from and you can be judged for who you keep around you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, not for that, but it was a young lady.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's like, yeah, I'd be around always married, men is grouping married friends, and they all be on me, except for like one or two of them.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I know that, too.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the one or two are still in that environment, and they're not being persuaded in that way.
[SPEAKER_01]: But also, that I know that woman that you're talking about, that one or two,
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that one or two is in that environment, but that's not the closest people to them.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're in that environment because it's a professional network is, you know, we've maybe partnered together on some things, but y'all aren't like the closest to me, to them, you know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but I will say environment as a huge impact on who you are and how you
[SPEAKER_00]: how your belief systems are shaped.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will 100% say that.
[SPEAKER_01]: But also, if I met a man who all his friends were cheaters, I probably wouldn't perceive.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard to do, don't you?
[SPEAKER_01]: if all of your married friends are cheaters and this is who you keep around you.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, and so let me let me say this.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not cold turkey.
[SPEAKER_01]: It is if if you are in environments where all of your married friends are actively cheating, I wouldn't I wouldn't deal with you.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, if you have married friends, and you know how they get down, but they respect you enough to not do that in front of you, then we can have a conversation about your group of friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: But if I see, if you're bringing me on a date and in a group dates with your married friends and they're with different women all the time or you and I both know and we just went out with their wives last week, I wouldn't be interested in dating you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel that because I would not be around that group of people either.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's always like you're actively like cheating around me, don't, don't, don't bring that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't even want that responsibility and don't put me in that situation because chances are, if I'm married in your memory, chances are, our lives and all each other.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Chances are.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't ever want to be in a situation where
[SPEAKER_00]: you get caught and I'm around in that person is looking at my wife like she betrayed her in some way or we did that and we aren't betraying you by just letting that man do what he does.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I guess it depends on who you're closer to but like I've had conversations with some really close married friends and maybe they've
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe they've slipped up and I'm that voice saying, come on, bro, you know that, that ain't that, yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I get what you're saying, if it's one voice of reason, and four or five, and that friend can go to the other ones, and they're doing the same thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's like, me, I wouldn't be in that amount.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I was just, and I don't want to be in the environment.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to date anybody who's comfortable in that environment, because that's just welcoming issues that we didn't create,
[SPEAKER_01]: ourselves.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now when you're hanging out with these people, I have every reason to feel insecure.
[SPEAKER_01]: And yes, it is an insecurity, but I have every reason to feel insecure because I know the environment, you and your friends are in.
[SPEAKER_01]: If I know these things and this is what you accept and allow, I can't do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: My friends respect me enough.
[SPEAKER_01]: Do I have all, do I have friends, male and female who are all perfect in their relationships?
[SPEAKER_01]: No.
[SPEAKER_01]: But my friends don't talk to me
[SPEAKER_01]: My friends respect me enough because they know how I feel about it.
[SPEAKER_01]: They don't talk to me about cheating They would never bring some person around because I'll tell you in a heartbeat And I probably have like there's been season's where I'm the only girl going on mastermind trips with all these guys We're in cancun or wherever we are.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a tell
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling don't because because now you put me in a situation to look foul because you brought somebody on this trip.
[SPEAKER_01]: I let everybody know.
[SPEAKER_01]: Do it around me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling you're not about the jeopardized my relationship because what I was telling the friend of mine a couple months back like so many people's wives respect me because they know they know what I stand on especially in that
[SPEAKER_01]: I have a really good friend who his wife doesn't enjoy going to concerts.
[SPEAKER_01]: She just hates concerts.
[SPEAKER_01]: So concerts come in town, she'll hit him, she'll call me and be like, y'all, go to this concert with him.
[SPEAKER_01]: Or she'll tell him, if I don't, I'm not trying to go to this concert.
[SPEAKER_01]: Me and you can travel.
[SPEAKER_01]: If I'm hanging out with Neo, I can be with Neo.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like nobody's worried about me with their wife.
[SPEAKER_01]: So you're not about to damage the wife equity that I have by cheating because I might as well be one of them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not going to happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think even being in that situation, like for instance, let's say me and I have a stronger moral compass where I'm just not cheating on my wife.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care who's doing it.
[SPEAKER_00]: However, if you're in that environment long enough, it becomes more and more okay in your mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: So those people need to be conscious of who you're around because your environment will affect you.
[SPEAKER_00]: It will it will change you.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm in 100% agree as that that environment has something to do with who you're getting involved with or you're going to be for sure.
[SPEAKER_01]: 1,000% just like I think there's a lot of people that are breaking up right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's so many people too many to name too many to think about that are breaking up.
[SPEAKER_01]: don't marriages.
[SPEAKER_01]: So we thought, but I think that the normalization of these environments have led to many separations and divorces that are happening right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're around all this foolishness.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can think of three people right now who are in the process of divorce.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I also think about who they keep close to them and it makes sense.
[SPEAKER_01]: I judge you by your friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: marriages extremely difficult.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's extremely hard, but this is why environment is so important because many people that I know who are married that have gone through the thick of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oftentimes, they say, but it helped to have friends who have been there.
[SPEAKER_01]: It helped to have a married mentor who could tell me like, this part is normal.
[SPEAKER_01]: This part you're going to go through, expect this part, like you could either have an environment that is championing and saying, yeah, come back outside, get back in these streets.
[SPEAKER_01]: Marriage is so hard or you can have the environment that's saying, but it's worth it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And this is what happens and here's how you hang in there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you got to be in the environments that like I have an environment where it's the low key kick you out of the community like I'm CJ is my mentor, my friend big brother, all that and that's the group with MET, Jeremy, Anki Johnson, they have this
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a code that I know, if I ever stuff that I'm on marriage, I'm kicked out of the group.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's the exact environment that I was thinking of when I said, but I know that you're surrounded with.
[SPEAKER_01]: I remember when I was dating someone few years back, it was me and him, you and me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, you and Drey, him, Jeremy, and his wife.
[SPEAKER_01]: And we were all just talking about relationships.
[SPEAKER_01]: and Jeremy and Tracy were talking about all the trials and tribulations that they had gone through to get them to the point that they were at.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you, because of this environment, you and Dre were comfortable sharing like, man, you know, that and then me and him who were thinking about getting married was like, but how does it last this long?
[SPEAKER_01]: And Jeremy never nor did Tracy ever fold.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was, yes, it's hard.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, there's going to be some things that you overcome, but there's nothing in this world that will make me violate this one, like that's how those are the friends that you need around you and not to say that that's the solution, the one I'll be all.
[SPEAKER_01]: But is it helpful?
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, and I think what's missing is that none of us are I won't say none.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't like to speak in these absolute, but what I think is missing in terms of friendship.
[SPEAKER_01]: is that there are not as many people or not a lot of people checking who you keep around you.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think we have a responsibility to do that.
[SPEAKER_01]: When we were growing up, our parents did it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Watch those friends that you keep around you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know that when can't come in my house.
[SPEAKER_01]: And those things were not controlling, it was trying to teach you some discernment.
[SPEAKER_01]: And so now that our parents don't govern our lives that way, they don't even meet many of our adult friends sometimes.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now I just think as a friend,
[SPEAKER_01]: Like y'all, what's up with this friend that you keep around you?
[SPEAKER_01]: I think it's healthy to have those conversations.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think it's so incredibly dope to be in a friend group, especially as a man that you're afraid of losing by certain elements of character and behavior that you're fully in control of.
[SPEAKER_00]: For sure.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what's another question of story.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I have a friend that's going, and everybody goes through it, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: So this isn't like an isolated situation where it happens to me but they're going through it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we got this group chat and he's talking about what's going on so another one of my friends
[SPEAKER_00]: He's more like he's way more encouraging because I don't be having a whole lot of advice, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just be like, I'm just going to stay.
[SPEAKER_00]: But he's like, yo, he's getting on the call.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, yo, let's get on the call.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's pray about it, like, let's let it out.
[SPEAKER_00]: So to have in this situation, and he was like, yo, I'm experiencing anxiety to even go, to go apologize when I know I don't feel like I'm wrong.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's going to require you not feeling like you're wrong to come back to the table and say, even though I don't, you don't say this to the person, but even though I don't feel like I'm wrong in this situation, let's have a talk about it and let me figure out why I'm making you feel like that and I'm sorry for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's just come together.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, more than a story, he's like building up his courage to like go do it one night.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, by the way, he's like, you know,
[SPEAKER_00]: Right, but the next day he like he manned up and said it because we're in this group chat and we're encouraging it.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a twist If you have that environment But your significant other doesn't That's where we come with some sort of button hands because you don't have a group of Let's just say other married women saying come back to say list it up
[SPEAKER_01]: That's that that becomes frustrating you're proving my whole point about the guy and why won't go on a date this is your environment like I am not signing up for that war that is war but it also brings me to the point of when I'm saying what I was saying about I believe that we have some responsibility.
[SPEAKER_01]: to encourage our friends to first check the environment that you keep, because what good is it for us as a unit for me to have this group of supportive friends who are keeping us together and changing my minds that more to be greater for you, but you're over here in this environment that's like, oh no, he did what leave him.
[SPEAKER_01]: We can't, I would never encourage two people with those two different types of environments where they're not both seeking a healthier environment
[SPEAKER_01]: You got to, and that's why, you know, single people take a fence to this sometimes, and maybe I have at one point in life, but that's why Mary, people who want to stay married, say, you got to have married couple friends, you've got to keep married people around you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I have heard, um, married people say, you know, you can't, you can't hang out with your single friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: And it, it's
[SPEAKER_01]: I want to hand it does sound offensive because I'm a really good single friend, but I understand that I'm not factoring in the controlling people, but people who are saying, I see how your single friends get down.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you can't go on that boy's trip.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that girl's trip.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think this is obviously going to be case by case.
[SPEAKER_00]: And in business, I've learned to get around
[SPEAKER_00]: what I'm not like wherever I'm missing a piece.
[SPEAKER_00]: So there are some people that are like really money driven and all they think about is money, all they talk about is money, get into the bag and for a long time I've been just community driven and I just want to help the people things that I need you.
[SPEAKER_00]: But
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't know, environment of people like yo, let's just help the people, but that didn't serve me the way I wanted it to.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I had to get around an environment of people where all they think about is money.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the balance is, I can't be around them too long.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just enough to give me that edge to like be thinking, okay, let's go up this bag man.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like okay, we're going to help the world.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's get to the money, but you can't spend so much time with them as you forget about the people and all you think about as money.
[SPEAKER_00]: So like you have to...
[SPEAKER_00]: get to a get to a place where you are shaping your environment and your conscious of it every day all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to be conscious of that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I fully agree.
[SPEAKER_01]: Who are you keeping around you?
[SPEAKER_01]: Who's in your environment?
[SPEAKER_01]: Who are the three to five people that you have around you that is causing?
[SPEAKER_01]: outsiders to judge you based on your affiliations.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm not talking about your every now and then fun experiences.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm talking about the people who you keep close to you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I am quick to tell people like I will not invite certain people to places where it's open invitation because I know who they'll invite.
[SPEAKER_01]: And there are some people who I just don't want in that proximity to me because you're a wild card.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know how you're going to react to something.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're going to be the angry person in the room, starting fights, offensive, shrinking.
[SPEAKER_01]: You got to constantly be checked on, and watch what you keep around you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Last question, what part of you would someone say, I don't want daddy around for this?
[SPEAKER_00]: in what environment I don't know what part of the area or like I don't bring down your house.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: When you got tricky friends around you like people yeah for sure like when you have I have a friend that I can think about.
[SPEAKER_01]: a female friend who has some tricky friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: And she's told me too much about these friends.
[SPEAKER_01]: She's just told me too much about these friends and what they've done, like some friends that have stolen from her and just done ridiculous stuff and they've prayed about it and she's forgiven them, don't invite me, don't invite me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because you're gonna say so.
[SPEAKER_01]: I might not say anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: We've got to give that energy.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not gonna, yeah, I'm not key-can with the girl who just stole from you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not doing it.
[SPEAKER_01]: can't do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: So if that's whose birthday you're going to, I'm not the plus one.
[SPEAKER_01]: But my, I mean, I have such a versatile behavior.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's a few different personalities that live inside of me.
[SPEAKER_01]: So again, like, I'm from the hood though.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, really, really, really, really good.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, I just, I like that song.
[SPEAKER_01]: I just came up with my mind.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can take me anywhere and I am most of my friends plus one, which is the interesting thing.
[SPEAKER_01]: I am most of my
[SPEAKER_01]: But they know that if it is a situation that could potentially go left, I'm not the one.
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't invite me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Cause you heard all the way left with the left.
[SPEAKER_01]: How the way left?
[SPEAKER_01]: How the way left.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't put me in a left, left word bound.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love it now, so the title is episode is who I'm gonna be there.
[SPEAKER_01]: Who all gonna be there?
[SPEAKER_01]: Who all come in?
[SPEAKER_01]: I am for sure who I'll come in because I know me and they're just like you know you they're a person.
[SPEAKER_01]: There are environments that I absolutely don't need to be and also you probably wouldn't invite me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I just don't, I don't mesh well with like super negative my sense.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I used to go into those environments, thinking, community, thinking, well, if you bring me into the environment, I can say a couple of words and like shift everybody's mindset.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, by the time you leave, you're negative.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not sure, I don't know what they're saying.
[SPEAKER_00]: And everybody don't want their mindset shifted.
[SPEAKER_01]: Not everybody wants their mindset shifted.
[SPEAKER_01]: And we have to understand that too.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I don't know if any of my friends are watching this and I'm the friend that you wouldn't invite into certain environments, tell me, like, text me and tell me where you're talking to.
[SPEAKER_01]: Where do you think, where do you think somebody would invite you to?
[SPEAKER_00]: I think, I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, not, don't invite me to the club or like an environment where it's a lot of tricky stuff going on, like if it's, if it's too much going on, I'm just going to ruin the MOOC because I don't want to be there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm feeling like I'm out.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I just, maybe it's like somewhat, not intentionally, but it could be like a judgmental you want to drink.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what's the most?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, let's go.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: You want to dance, not dance, not dance.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but once in a section, you know, we got these girls girl, you'll come on, not I'm cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll stand over there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'll do this.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then you can't stand by the bar.
[SPEAKER_01]: So now you're awkward, because you can't be in the section with the girls.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're not standing by the bar.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't stand by the bar.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just can't, I'm not going to be with all that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then somebody bump into me and they did, I'm cool.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm not going to say anything.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I am the friend who will sit at the table and just be like,
[SPEAKER_00]: You're judging it, Brad.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's written all over your face.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm the friend of this life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my check is separate.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, and don't bring me there.
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't bring me into an environment where we're pulling out calculators when the bill comes.
[SPEAKER_01]: All right, that is going to hurt my soul.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm not talking about, I'm not talking about the quick little addition and subtraction.
[SPEAKER_01]: I am talking about the down to the penny.
[SPEAKER_01]: I had three of these coaxes you had, two of those coaxes and figuring it out.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then you're not including the tax, like don't bring me into those rooms.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm cool with everybody paying what they owe, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm also cool with if there's five of us at the table and we're all eating from the meal.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm cool splitting it down.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can bust the check down the middle like evenly.
[SPEAKER_01]: We can all pay for what we ate.
[SPEAKER_01]: But the moment that we're going back and forth, over like build charges like who had the fries.
[SPEAKER_00]: again.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm cool in that environment because I'm just not doing the calculations.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just send me when you all get done with all that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just send me what I had.
[SPEAKER_01]: The thing is, and both the fireman's ever comes out right.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, listen.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know the three things that I had had at this trick is chicken and it's cheesecake.
[SPEAKER_01]: It never comes outright and then the server comes back the second time and they're like, is everybody ready?
[SPEAKER_01]: And they're like, no, because then the server comes back the fifth time.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then somebody's like, this extra aquaponah here, who you, you had the extra aquaponah.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, just let's just take care of the change.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is the environment where I calculate about what I had, put a little some extra on it, put the 50 on the table.
[SPEAKER_00]: And leave.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's my.
[SPEAKER_00]: And leave it with y'all.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I can I can man of environments because I was going to wait until y'all finish what y'all do or I know about what I am we're going to put extra on there everybody's in the grids.
[SPEAKER_01]: This 50 should cover right it's probably 40 but take this 50 and run out get what y'all man kids at the career so gotta go you ever had a group dinner and people left before paying.
[SPEAKER_00]: I left before paying one time.
[SPEAKER_00]: So Neo had this event.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was that breakfast at parties.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't know what it was.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was like, it was either a birthday party or something.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm just in there, but it's no like structure and order.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Neo's like, oh, kids, I'm need.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, oh, order something.
[SPEAKER_00]: So order something, eat some and for some reason, it's not like this, you took my order.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sitting down.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all, y'
[SPEAKER_00]: Sim, no, I need to pay this, bro.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, did, was it up to the waitress to pay it?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no.
[SPEAKER_01]: Because you know, that's what happens in restaurants.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I, I think the guy, I think he took care of it and, you know, they knew me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I guess the waitress was like, yeah, right now, now I ran out on the bill.
[SPEAKER_00]: But literally, I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't even remember the situation, but I felt, I'm like, oh, please, give me the cash at this else, something, because I'm not worried about it and I'm like, you know, I have to, you know, I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight.
[SPEAKER_01]: Because now I have to pay the bill and tip an extra 200 hours.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why two years ago, and I want to go, you still have been taking care of it?
[SPEAKER_00]: I had, he wouldn't let me.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, no, Chance, that's when you put up the next day.
[SPEAKER_01]: whoever $500 right here right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: We got to go to breakfast in Barney this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: This was like, this had to be like two years ago.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, no, so you're still that guy.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, you talking about the podcast, dude?
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, no, he runs out on checks.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I run out on checks.
[SPEAKER_01]: David is the king of podcasts who runs out on his breakfast,
[SPEAKER_00]: Save his number.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was one of the owners I breakfast at Barney.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the guy, whatever the guy was.
[SPEAKER_01]: Three guys.
[SPEAKER_00]: Really?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: I found one of them if they noticed, if they were per story.
[SPEAKER_00]: I, yeah, that's really just triggered me, and then I forgot about it until then.
[SPEAKER_01]: So now like, if I had known that, I can't keep you around me in certain, like, like, right now, because now like, their judging me, I bet somebody has looked at me and said, that show people, this is who you be at restaurants.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, now when they see me pull out the car because I carry the company car, they're like, because he wouldn't pay the bill.
[SPEAKER_00]: Amen.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you, if you remember this situation, Jesus, if you're the waitress, please reach out to me, I'm a Zell, you're a hundred dollars off rip, okay?
[SPEAKER_01]: Does she have to deduct the cost of the bill from that?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I don't think she had a pit because I can't ask him to go, I'm like, you're a police submit as hell, police submit as hell, I got it, I'll take care of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, yo, I don't know what, it just, it just slipped my mind because
[SPEAKER_00]: a party kind of thing, get them in and I don't know what happened.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I remember feeling bad about it and you'll ask, you don't want an owner?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm about to find some information.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'll ask one of the owners.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're watching this, you don't want an owner's please reach out because I promise you, I promise you, I don't know.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, you know what?
[SPEAKER_01]: Hold on.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me see if we can.
[SPEAKER_01]: You had the audacity to show your face back in that arrest run, and you still didn't get these people squared away.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't remember that.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I did pay real quick.
[SPEAKER_01]: Can you send me if you still have one of the owner's numbers to breakfast at Barney?
[SPEAKER_01]: I need to clear up a two-year old situation where they've ran out on the check.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't run.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just run.
[SPEAKER_01]: He walked out on the check and I'd like to call him now while we're in the middle of the podcast because he's my closest environment right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: He's embarrassed me.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is a performance right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, no, I just want to make sure because if I have to cover it, it's fine.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'll take care of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it may be some of the games.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, he had breakfast with a group of people and he just left, you know, not thinking about paying his bill and the owner hit him and was like, you didn't pay your bill in somebody else.
[SPEAKER_01]: Some girls would care of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And they was like, oh, my God.
[SPEAKER_00]: Girls would care of the first one.
[SPEAKER_01]: Some, oh, my, you just said you didn't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, I tried to care of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure at that time you said it was a girl.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, the girl with the waitress, the guy, a guy.
[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like the waitress, it came out.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know how it works in restaurant industry.
[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like the waitress was responsible for that.
[SPEAKER_01]: And the owner probably was like, you know, don't worry about it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I got you.
[SPEAKER_01]: But you put that waitress in a situation.
[SPEAKER_01]: She probably couldn't even feed her kids that day.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're being ridiculous.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're absolutely absolutely ridiculous.
[SPEAKER_01]: She probably had an issue.
[SPEAKER_01]: Can you find this number?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just out of fine.
[SPEAKER_00]: Dang, bro.
[SPEAKER_01]: Text it to me if you have it.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're on the show.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're being performative now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, is this not what am I supposed to?
[SPEAKER_01]: How differently am I supposed to handle it?
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's just doing so well.
[SPEAKER_01]: I had to give her backstory.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, this is like I needed her to know how urgent it was.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is urgent.
[SPEAKER_00]: We need to, yeah, we need to take care of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I feel like.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're shooting tomorrow.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let's just go there and let's see what their hours are.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, wow, we're looking for this, you guys.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, it was, I can see here that it was, oh, is it, it had to be 20, 21, for five years.
[SPEAKER_00]: 20, 21, yeah, maybe.
[SPEAKER_01]: So for the last five years, you've been the guy that runs out of interest.
[SPEAKER_01]: They probably got your face and they're like, yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: You mean, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh uh, uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh
[SPEAKER_00]: I felt so bad.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm out of the trying to go back to that day and my text to see if I got a text message from that day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm looking at the event.
[SPEAKER_00]: But this was 2021.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had to be after 2021, maybe.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I don't have it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anyhow, are we done here?
[SPEAKER_01]: This is a dot dot dot.
[SPEAKER_01]: Because when we drop the next episode, we have to come back with.
[SPEAKER_00]: the bill was paid.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, got through the bottom of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, the bill was paid.
[SPEAKER_01]: We got to the bottom.
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure whoever that was the reason where the members were.
[SPEAKER_01]: The owner remembers what that young lady doesn't work there anymore.
[SPEAKER_01]: And we'll need to see if we can track that her Instagram or something.
[SPEAKER_00]: I hope she doesn't work there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I hope she's like.
[SPEAKER_00]: All she does work there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Young lady.
[SPEAKER_01]: If David Shands was your customer that day, I just want to apologize.
[SPEAKER_01]: But my other question is, why didn't Neil and then pay for it?
[SPEAKER_01]: Your boys didn't have you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, why don't you pay for it Neil?
[SPEAKER_00]: Why don't you just hold me down,
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me take that they let you take that out.
[SPEAKER_01]: They were probably like no, you got to call him for that man That's fine, and it's breakfast food.
[SPEAKER_01]: So you have what a 20 30.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, it was probably $30 for $40 Yeah, look $30 for $40 having they didn't cover you did you tell Neil that this happened
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm pretty sure well maybe I don't know maybe I don't have my other phone that they recognize but no I did not I did not because yeah again I didn't I didn't know I didn't know what type of not that I know type of if it was but it just felt like it like come through and I had a little bit and I think I let somebody else eat some of the inner mean oh you thought it was come through order
[SPEAKER_00]: Not that I thought that, but I think because of the environment, it wasn't like sit down, order, get my food and then pay.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I just, when I walked out, it was just, you weren't even thinking about it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I wasn't thinking about it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you, you walked in on the middle of a conversation, probably ordered eight a little bit and like, all right, y'all, got to run.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I just, that's never happened to me before, but I can see where you're coming from.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, to the vibe of the story, I wouldn't be able to see where I'm coming from.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, for sure, because if you got food, you know you have to pay for the food.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hmm.
[SPEAKER_01]: We all are flawed.
[SPEAKER_01]: We'll see you guys next week on the next episode of Social Pro Podcast.
[SPEAKER_01]: Unless we see you this week and the social proof circle, our community for entrepreneurs who are looking for personal, professional, and financial development.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're in there like developing people.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, 100%.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we're really, really good people.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I don't want you all to think that I stole this fruit out of a coach with integrity.
[SPEAKER_01]: Not me making a call to action after we just talked about your theory, ignore that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't, don't do it this week.
[SPEAKER_01]: Just wait so long.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, don't do it this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's all clear enough for us.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let us clear it up.
[SPEAKER_01]: We'll be our be right back.
[SPEAKER_01]: Bye, y'all.