WEBVTT 00:01.651 --> 00:05.515 [SPEAKER_01]: Hello, beautiful people, and welcome back to the unscripted use of it. 00:05.655 --> 00:15.484 [SPEAKER_01]: I am your host, stand up comedian, and transformation coach, Neville, and I'm so thrilled to introduce a beautiful guest for today, Rebecca Whitman. 00:15.804 --> 00:24.452 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, Rebecca is the neck netting mid-life mentor who helps high achieving women move from burnout to a life of radiant abundance. 00:24.893 --> 00:26.895 [SPEAKER_01]: Rebecca, thank you so much for being here today. 00:27.587 --> 00:28.687 [SPEAKER_00]: It's so great to be here. 00:28.748 --> 00:30.648 [SPEAKER_00]: I know I do your comedian. 00:30.848 --> 00:31.929 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm ready to laugh. 00:32.209 --> 00:34.290 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's go. 00:35.850 --> 00:40.232 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, yeah, we'll get to that in time, but for us, I want to ask you all about you. 00:40.352 --> 00:42.273 [SPEAKER_01]: So tell us more about what you do. 00:43.622 --> 00:50.329 [SPEAKER_00]: Sure, well, I never thought I would be empowering midlife women to go from burned out to balance beautiful and abundant. 00:50.489 --> 01:05.706 [SPEAKER_00]: I had moved to LA to be an actress and I was on some big shows like friends, CSI 24, I started working at a children's acting school to pay my bills in between acting jobs and what I loved about. 01:06.206 --> 01:12.632 [SPEAKER_00]: The school was during the day when the kids were taking their regular academic school, I could study with great thought leaders. 01:13.093 --> 01:24.044 [SPEAKER_00]: So I took advantage of being in LA and I studied with Michael Beckwith, Esther Hicks, Wayne Dyer, Marion Williams and Louise Hay, and I really did a deep dive in the law of attraction. 01:24.244 --> 01:25.845 [SPEAKER_00]: I started applying it to my life. 01:26.346 --> 01:29.369 [SPEAKER_00]: I became very abundant, financially 01:30.470 --> 01:31.650 [SPEAKER_00]: But not in my love life. 01:31.890 --> 01:40.393 [SPEAKER_00]: I was choosing toxic relationships and I married someone who is emotionally abusive hoping he would change and we all know how that turns out. 01:40.473 --> 01:50.997 [SPEAKER_00]: So, through years after marriage, I found for divorce and as my marriage was slowly and painfully unraveling my dad was slowly and painfully dying back in Cincinnati. 01:51.677 --> 01:58.339 [SPEAKER_00]: And in our last conversation, me and my dad were talking about it and he's like the way you're living life is so different than most. 01:58.579 --> 02:02.099 [SPEAKER_00]: It was unscripted, he's like you live your living life like your on vacation. 02:02.119 --> 02:04.080 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think you should write a book. 02:04.740 --> 02:12.322 [SPEAKER_00]: So a few months after my dad's passing and my divorce was finalized, I was sitting across the desk from my financial planner. 02:12.342 --> 02:18.243 [SPEAKER_00]: And he said, Rebecca, even though you lost your dad in your marriage, you're having your best fiscal year ever. 02:18.763 --> 02:20.085 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think you should write a book. 02:20.226 --> 02:21.147 [SPEAKER_00]: So I wrote a book. 02:21.327 --> 02:24.312 [SPEAKER_00]: It's called How to Make a Six Figure Income Working Part Time. 02:25.013 --> 02:33.165 [SPEAKER_00]: And in the book, I divide life into seven key pillars, which I call my seven pillars of abundance, and they are spirituality. 02:33.525 --> 02:44.089 [SPEAKER_00]: Fitness, emotions, romance, mental, social, and financial, and when you have all seven areas of your life in alignment, you can be sure to have anything you want. 02:44.149 --> 02:54.633 [SPEAKER_00]: So now I'm happily married to my soulmate, and I'm empowering women to overcome the burnout and overwhelm by living a life of alignment, not the hustling grind. 02:57.800 --> 02:58.681 [SPEAKER_01]: that's amazing. 02:58.821 --> 03:10.911 [SPEAKER_01]: So I feel like, you know, looking at you now today and hearing that whole story, like the whole trajectory of it, it almost seems inevitable. 03:11.271 --> 03:13.733 [SPEAKER_01]: Or like, I would see it even easy, right? 03:13.753 --> 03:14.654 [SPEAKER_01]: But I'm sure it wasn't. 03:16.155 --> 03:18.037 [SPEAKER_00]: It was really challenging. 03:19.658 --> 03:21.982 [SPEAKER_00]: I was being sued for spousal support. 03:22.102 --> 03:27.151 [SPEAKER_00]: I've always worked on all commission, my whole life, and I really had to... 03:28.646 --> 03:36.809 [SPEAKER_00]: Focus and be confident and believe in myself to not give into the fear of financial insecurity. 03:37.509 --> 03:49.993 [SPEAKER_00]: And I really had to advocate for myself for the first time in my life and it was very feminist because I was paying for my lawyer, who was the guy, his lawyer, who was a guy in him. 03:50.453 --> 03:56.235 [SPEAKER_00]: So I was like, carry him on all commission sales with three guys with their hands in my pocketbook and I just had to like, 03:56.315 --> 03:57.815 [SPEAKER_00]: keep producing and keep going. 03:58.276 --> 04:11.700 [SPEAKER_00]: But I did it and then I turned all that pain into my book, which launched my podcast, the Balance Beautiful and the Button and Show, which is rated top one percent in the world for podcasts under the category of education. 04:11.780 --> 04:16.041 [SPEAKER_00]: So I just took the pain that I was feeling and I created a business. 04:19.282 --> 04:21.483 [SPEAKER_01]: And I suppose because you've lived it, 04:21.903 --> 04:22.563 [SPEAKER_01]: you've lived it. 04:22.603 --> 04:28.004 [SPEAKER_01]: So you're like living proof that everything which you're impiting to people actually works. 04:29.425 --> 04:35.146 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I they say those who can't do it, teach it and those who can't teach it right about it. 04:35.766 --> 04:39.467 [SPEAKER_00]: But I I'm doing it, teaching it and I wrote about it. 04:39.527 --> 04:44.108 [SPEAKER_00]: So yes, I am truly embodying the balance beautiful and abundant lifestyle. 04:45.987 --> 04:48.649 [SPEAKER_01]: So you talked about the seven today. 04:48.709 --> 04:52.573 [SPEAKER_01]: So would you like to go into them in a bit of detail? 04:53.153 --> 04:54.194 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I would love to. 04:54.975 --> 04:57.137 [SPEAKER_00]: So they're in order of importance. 04:57.357 --> 04:59.499 [SPEAKER_00]: So the first pillar is spirituality. 04:59.519 --> 05:03.963 [SPEAKER_00]: And I believe how you start your day determines the type of day you have. 05:04.403 --> 05:06.965 [SPEAKER_00]: So I am a huge believer in journaling. 05:07.025 --> 05:07.506 [SPEAKER_00]: When I was 05:08.086 --> 05:29.224 [SPEAKER_00]: 19, I met a woman at a community 12-step meeting and she gave me these life-changing journal pop prompts and I've been writing in them every day and they've taken my thinking from negative to positive and they helped me learn from my experience and learn from other people's experience and they've studied high-achieving people and almost all of them journal. 05:29.304 --> 05:34.949 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's going to you guys are going to get so many great gifts for me but one of them is the book the other one is the journal 05:36.042 --> 05:41.466 [SPEAKER_00]: And, yes, starting the day with journaling, meditation, prayer, just connecting with the divine. 05:42.327 --> 05:44.008 [SPEAKER_00]: The second pillar is fitness. 05:44.128 --> 05:46.089 [SPEAKER_00]: I believe I'm body before business. 05:46.850 --> 05:49.692 [SPEAKER_00]: I am actually on my way to a tennis game right after this. 05:49.752 --> 05:52.133 [SPEAKER_00]: It looks like you're regular sure, but it's a tennis game. 05:53.434 --> 05:54.335 [SPEAKER_00]: under a blazer. 05:54.435 --> 05:59.699 [SPEAKER_00]: So I am, I plan my day around my exercise and I believe that health as well. 05:59.839 --> 06:06.383 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you have your health, you have every opportunity in the world if you don't have your health and your whole job is to get healthy. 06:06.423 --> 06:14.509 [SPEAKER_00]: So prioritizing your health, prioritizing, just staying calm and regulated in your body, regulating your nervous system. 06:14.969 --> 06:16.510 [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like so many women are in 06:20.513 --> 06:26.297 [SPEAKER_00]: The third pillar is emotion, and that is very simple. 06:26.437 --> 06:29.279 [SPEAKER_00]: All emotions come from scarcity or abundance. 06:29.799 --> 06:38.865 [SPEAKER_00]: So I either think I don't have enough time, money, love, clients, energy, or I've more than enough time, love, money, clients, and energy. 06:39.465 --> 06:49.352 [SPEAKER_00]: And switching from scarcity to abundance can be as simple as gratitude, appreciation, stopping, taking a breath, being mindful of what I do have. 06:50.612 --> 07:15.007 [SPEAKER_00]: After emotions, it's romance and romance is very linked to all these areas, your health, your financial life and I know because I used to pick negative partners that having the wrong partner can really sabotage you on your way to success and there's no such thing as neutral partners, people are either supporting you and lifting you up energetically or they're draining you. 07:15.647 --> 07:18.068 [SPEAKER_00]: and they're detracting from your dreams and goals. 07:18.108 --> 07:25.272 [SPEAKER_00]: So I encourage all my clients to walk away from relationships that are draining their energy and sabotaging their dreams. 07:26.012 --> 07:29.935 [SPEAKER_00]: After romance is mental and that's what we're doing here. 07:29.995 --> 07:32.956 [SPEAKER_00]: We're doing our mental pillar at the unscripted use summit. 07:33.016 --> 07:38.819 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so glad you guys are here working on your mental pillar because mental just means growing your mind. 07:39.259 --> 07:43.722 [SPEAKER_00]: It could be creative writing, it could be acting, traveling, 07:45.007 --> 07:51.210 [SPEAKER_00]: summits, podcasts, seminars, even trying a new recipe or a new sport helps grow your mind. 07:51.911 --> 07:55.853 [SPEAKER_00]: After mental is social and that is what a lot of people are lacking. 07:55.893 --> 08:06.218 [SPEAKER_00]: We're in a high-tech low-touch world and post-COVID a lot of people never came out from their computers and their cellphones and people are now working at home but they lack 08:06.458 --> 08:12.722 [SPEAKER_00]: community and that's why it's so great to be a part of this community and the inscripted you. 08:12.822 --> 08:16.425 [SPEAKER_00]: I have a great Facebook community called the Balance Beautiful and a Bundan group. 08:16.905 --> 08:22.309 [SPEAKER_00]: Community is so important whether in person or online community creates a community. 08:22.349 --> 08:23.029 [SPEAKER_00]: I like to say. 08:23.489 --> 08:25.150 [SPEAKER_00]: And then finally financial 08:26.151 --> 08:33.458 [SPEAKER_00]: Financial abundance is what we normally think about as abundance, but it's actually the last piece of the puzzle to come into play. 08:33.999 --> 08:47.192 [SPEAKER_00]: And when you have all these other areas in alignment, when you're spiritually and physically fit, and emotionally abundant and have friends and are feeling connected to a community, you are going to magnetize community. 08:47.272 --> 08:50.135 [SPEAKER_00]: So I call myself the magnetic mid-life mentor. 08:50.715 --> 08:56.198 [SPEAKER_00]: because it's not about going out and chasing money and exhausting yourself to find opportunities. 08:56.678 --> 09:03.461 [SPEAKER_00]: It's about becoming magnetic through living a life of happiness, drawing an alignment, just like how you found me. 09:03.481 --> 09:06.083 [SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't looking for you. 09:06.223 --> 09:07.103 [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't even know. 09:07.123 --> 09:14.187 [SPEAKER_00]: I would have a friend in Singapore doing a summit, but you found me through the law of attraction, through the law of magnetism. 09:14.967 --> 09:16.188 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is how it works. 09:16.228 --> 09:26.475 [SPEAKER_00]: So when you are financially abundant, you are attracting clients and opportunities, and you're doing it with ease and grace, what rather than pushing yourself to exhaustion. 09:28.396 --> 09:40.004 [SPEAKER_01]: I love how you listed out so mathematically, and I especially love how the financial is the last and the first one is the spiritual, because a lot of people get it the other way around. 09:40.933 --> 09:44.577 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah, people think that financials first, like a B.A. 09:44.597 --> 09:48.622 [SPEAKER_00]: work, a hallic, a work 60 to 80 hours a week on make a ton of money. 09:49.202 --> 09:51.925 [SPEAKER_00]: Then I'll go a higher personal trainer. 09:52.045 --> 09:53.307 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll look totally hot. 09:53.327 --> 09:55.409 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I've missed my soulmate. 09:55.509 --> 09:59.493 [SPEAKER_00]: We'll go on spiritual retreat and then we'll socialize with other couples. 09:59.594 --> 09:59.654 [SPEAKER_00]: And 10:00.214 --> 10:02.715 [SPEAKER_00]: That's not really how it works in my experience. 10:02.795 --> 10:23.064 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like when all the other pillars of abundance are in alignment, then the finances click in last, which some people don't want to hear, but that's why I also say in financial, don't quit your day job if you don't have to use that as stability for your financial life and then create a side hustle, which is one of my signature programs. 10:23.164 --> 10:24.964 [SPEAKER_00]: It's gone create a six for your side hustle. 10:29.775 --> 10:36.476 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, I feel like sometimes some of the reservations that people have about engaging a coach, right? 10:36.496 --> 10:38.997 [SPEAKER_01]: They say that you've got to have many to do that. 10:39.157 --> 10:51.219 [SPEAKER_01]: Like if you can't even live, you know, or are the farce stuff for yourself, how would you have the, they feel like they're trapped in some kind of cycle which starts with the scarcity of the many. 10:51.279 --> 10:58.361 [SPEAKER_01]: So how would you, what would you kind of say to someone who is coming to you from that angle? 11:00.430 --> 11:08.156 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I would just say that everybody has a coach, even the top Olympians and professional athletes in the world. 11:08.477 --> 11:13.861 [SPEAKER_00]: They all have a coach even though they're already the best of the best and the 0.01% because we're always 11:16.323 --> 11:17.704 [SPEAKER_00]: getting better every day. 11:17.724 --> 11:22.506 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you want to do something you've never done, how would you know how to do it? 11:22.606 --> 11:24.808 [SPEAKER_00]: Like yes, you can look up videos on YouTube. 11:24.868 --> 11:29.570 [SPEAKER_00]: But the best way is to find somebody who has already done what you want to do. 11:29.590 --> 11:32.532 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you do what they did, you can get what they got. 11:33.452 --> 11:38.275 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you are relying on yourself, you can only coach yourself to get where you are today. 11:38.356 --> 11:47.682 [SPEAKER_00]: If you want to go to the next level, then you need to find somebody who has coached first themselves and other people to do what you want to do. 11:47.922 --> 11:49.503 [SPEAKER_00]: And then you just follow the road map. 11:49.583 --> 11:52.505 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just like following a recipe rather than trying to waste. 11:52.585 --> 11:56.208 [SPEAKER_00]: It does, you will waste a lot of time of money trying to figure it out yourself. 12:03.482 --> 12:17.050 [SPEAKER_01]: I would think it gives people a lot of food to think, because I feel like people might not feel like they are worth investing in, it's just like how it's easier to empathy for other people, but not for yourself. 12:17.130 --> 12:24.355 [SPEAKER_01]: So in the same way, you know, people invest in others or other things, but they don't see themselves as a review of investment in a way. 12:25.892 --> 12:31.697 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I mean, you are the best bet you'll ever make and you always want to bet on yourself. 12:31.777 --> 12:36.301 [SPEAKER_00]: I know if you have a lack of confidence or maybe you've tried a lot of coaches and they didn't work. 12:37.002 --> 12:40.525 [SPEAKER_00]: But every time I hire a coach, maybe they didn't help me make. 12:41.025 --> 12:53.376 [SPEAKER_00]: a million dollars but I've learned something from all of them that have gotten me to my next step of growth development and fulfillment and investing in yourself is always a great decision. 12:53.616 --> 13:02.844 [SPEAKER_00]: You'll always learn something and you can always be better and you know people are happy to invest in themselves when it comes to formal education like college or graduate school. 13:03.424 --> 13:21.480 [SPEAKER_00]: but for some reason they think that after they've finished their formal education that they don't have to invest in themselves and their own continuing education, maybe you won't get a fancy degree, but you will definitely improve yourself in all seven areas of life if you invest in yourself. 13:21.520 --> 13:28.326 [SPEAKER_00]: You can seek out experts in health, spirituality, finances, and you can improve yourself in all these areas. 13:31.053 --> 13:38.899 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, among the seven today that you mentioned, which is the one which tends to, in your experience, like, trip people at the most. 13:41.060 --> 13:50.507 [SPEAKER_00]: I would say, I mean, financial is one that people are very concerned about because that's literally like their survival. 13:51.940 --> 14:03.048 [SPEAKER_00]: And if people are in survival mode, then it can affect your health, it can affect your confidence, so it'll affect your romantic pillar. 14:03.068 --> 14:05.310 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, they're all really intertwined. 14:05.944 --> 14:15.307 [SPEAKER_00]: But I think that when women are empowered financially and they are making good money, then money gives you freedom. 14:15.407 --> 14:17.807 [SPEAKER_00]: So I don't believe in money for money's sake. 14:17.887 --> 14:20.228 [SPEAKER_00]: Like money is just sticks. 14:20.328 --> 14:27.590 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it's paper and metal, but when you think about it as energy, it gives you the freedom to have choices. 14:28.816 --> 14:32.238 [SPEAKER_00]: to do what you want when you want, where you want it with whom you want. 14:33.199 --> 14:37.862 [SPEAKER_00]: And once you have the empowerment to know that you have choices, you can choose healthy or food. 14:37.902 --> 14:39.723 [SPEAKER_00]: You can choose healthier partners. 14:40.304 --> 14:43.846 [SPEAKER_00]: You can choose to take better care of yourself. 14:43.906 --> 14:45.687 [SPEAKER_00]: So I think the number one, 14:46.768 --> 14:48.770 [SPEAKER_00]: saying that people feel stuck in as finance. 14:49.051 --> 14:59.142 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't know that they can get the financial life they want through spirituality and through journaling in the law of attraction, and that's where my teaching comes in. 15:01.685 --> 15:04.668 [SPEAKER_01]: Could you say more about many being energy? 15:06.008 --> 15:06.768 [SPEAKER_00]: I would love to. 15:07.468 --> 15:10.449 [SPEAKER_00]: So your thoughts carry a vibration. 15:11.030 --> 15:14.571 [SPEAKER_00]: So all thoughts have negative or positive vibrations. 15:15.211 --> 15:18.872 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you're constantly thinking, I don't have enough money. 15:19.452 --> 15:20.612 [SPEAKER_00]: Money is hard. 15:20.692 --> 15:23.353 [SPEAKER_00]: There's too much month left over at the end of my money. 15:23.473 --> 15:25.174 [SPEAKER_00]: What is that person have this money? 15:25.294 --> 15:27.295 [SPEAKER_00]: Why couldn't I be a trust fund kid? 15:28.035 --> 15:31.076 [SPEAKER_00]: Those are all low vibration thoughts. 15:31.656 --> 15:33.836 [SPEAKER_00]: And you're actually repelling money away 15:35.697 --> 15:46.223 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you could change your thoughts to be more positive, no, I know you can't go from negative to positive on a dime, so I would say just change your thoughts in a general way. 15:47.183 --> 16:13.538 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe, you know, thinking I'm going to make six figures or seven figures is like two out there, but you know, I've always gotten what I need and things are always working out for me and I always have enough and whatever I need comes easily to me when I just relax and just kind of thinking about it in a general way to clean up your vibration and then eventually you can set more specific financial goals, but first we just have to go from. 16:14.699 --> 16:17.382 [SPEAKER_00]: scarcity thinking to abundant thinking. 16:18.383 --> 16:19.584 [SPEAKER_00]: And eventually, 16:20.427 --> 16:22.348 [SPEAKER_00]: you can actually just be happy. 16:22.368 --> 16:29.192 [SPEAKER_00]: When it's so funny, Nian, because if you can be happy and feel abundant without the money, the money's gonna come. 16:29.933 --> 16:39.858 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, the law of attraction doesn't care how much money you have in your bank account, whether it's $5 or $500,000, it just cares about your vibration. 16:40.139 --> 16:47.443 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you can, I guess kind of trick yourself or focus on the good in your life to be happy without the money, then the money's gonna come. 16:49.679 --> 17:16.461 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, I have experienced that myself and it's so I love how you put it because I think sometimes when I used to think about it is I can't possibly be that easy right and then you kind of try to trick yourself into like okay I'm going to believe this so that I'm going to get that but that doesn't work because it's not like with the right intention you're going to like truly actually properly let go and then it comes. 17:18.157 --> 17:24.964 [SPEAKER_00]: And letting go can be so hard, you know, and sometimes, you know, people let go because they have tried everything. 17:25.004 --> 17:39.979 [SPEAKER_00]: And there's like claw marks right they had to let go by force, but you can relax and let go and just focus on the things in your life that are going well, so maybe your finances aren't going well, but maybe you have a beautiful pet. 17:40.639 --> 17:54.987 [SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe you have a great relationship with a romantic partner or a friend, and if you focus on the areas of your life that you are happy with, eventually it's going to help raise the vibration of the area where you feel stuck. 17:57.269 --> 17:59.430 [SPEAKER_01]: Let's go, Christian likes Bay and Smith. 18:01.758 --> 18:04.280 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I'm like recovering perfectionist. 18:04.560 --> 18:12.185 [SPEAKER_00]: So I myself talk used to be very much, you're not good enough, you can do more, try harder. 18:12.825 --> 18:17.629 [SPEAKER_00]: So I had to take certain words out of my vocabulary, like, coulda, shoulda, and woulda. 18:18.409 --> 18:20.951 [SPEAKER_00]: There's all the words that beat yourself up. 18:21.651 --> 18:26.435 [SPEAKER_00]: And I just try to talk to myself in a loving, compassionate, calm way. 18:27.235 --> 18:33.382 [SPEAKER_00]: And when I find myself being harsh to myself, I try to redo it. 18:33.442 --> 18:43.072 [SPEAKER_00]: So there's something I teach called the 4AZ of transformation, awareness, acceptance, affirmation and contrary action. 18:43.773 --> 18:50.776 [SPEAKER_00]: So since we're talking about money, let's say I would catch myself talking negatively to myself about money. 18:50.836 --> 18:53.597 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, oh my god, this is never going to work. 18:53.917 --> 18:55.398 [SPEAKER_00]: You've never made that kind of money. 18:55.438 --> 18:56.658 [SPEAKER_00]: Why would you make that now? 18:56.678 --> 18:57.118 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay? 18:57.498 --> 18:59.299 [SPEAKER_00]: So that would be just catching myself. 18:59.339 --> 19:00.920 [SPEAKER_00]: So that would be the A awareness. 19:01.000 --> 19:02.380 [SPEAKER_00]: The second A is acceptance. 19:02.921 --> 19:04.461 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to judge myself. 19:04.581 --> 19:07.702 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to say I've listened to the unscripted use summit. 19:07.802 --> 19:08.783 [SPEAKER_00]: I should no better or 19:09.603 --> 19:14.166 [SPEAKER_00]: I feel so negative, just say, okay, you know, a lot of people have fear around money. 19:15.486 --> 19:18.388 [SPEAKER_00]: Except yourself, the third is affirmation. 19:18.848 --> 19:20.909 [SPEAKER_00]: So what is the opposite of that? 19:21.089 --> 19:22.690 [SPEAKER_00]: I have more than enough money. 19:23.211 --> 19:24.812 [SPEAKER_00]: Money comes so easily to me. 19:24.872 --> 19:27.173 [SPEAKER_00]: Money comes to me from unexpected places. 19:27.393 --> 19:30.715 [SPEAKER_00]: I am open to God's infinite abundance today. 19:30.735 --> 19:33.957 [SPEAKER_00]: I am, you know, exactly where I'm supposed to be. 19:34.937 --> 19:38.520 [SPEAKER_00]: whatever affirmation resonates with you and that's something I can help people do. 19:38.580 --> 19:45.326 [SPEAKER_00]: If you you want to get this framework in an area you feel stuck, I'm happy to help you do that if you schedule a call with me. 19:45.887 --> 19:49.330 [SPEAKER_00]: And then the fourth area is contrary action. 19:50.010 --> 19:58.438 [SPEAKER_00]: So what is the opposite of, you know, I don't have enough money, this is not going to work out for me, it would be to invest in myself. 19:58.638 --> 20:04.863 [SPEAKER_00]: It would be to, you know, get something that I really want to get that I feel like I can't afford to get. 20:04.983 --> 20:15.333 [SPEAKER_00]: I know that sounds crazy, but I'm showing the universe and I believe in abundance and I believe in the energy, whatever you put out comes back and invest in myself. 20:15.913 --> 20:20.777 [SPEAKER_00]: It could be something as silly as like a smoothie or it could be something as big as a coaching package. 20:20.877 --> 20:31.967 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, but it's just showing the universe that I know that money is going to come back to me and that the universe is working in my favor and that I live in a friendly universe. 20:35.095 --> 20:49.113 [SPEAKER_01]: That's so valuable and you just put so many concepts to see which sounds simple, but they're actually very, very tricky to put into practice into one very nice, with the acronyms and stuff. 20:51.113 --> 21:15.675 [SPEAKER_00]: But it's a whole, it's a whole way to rewire your mind and to change the neural pathways because our mind gets into loops that can be positive or negative and if you get into a negative loop, it takes a lot of awareness and discipline to rewire that loop and that's exactly what I just showed you how to do in the four A's of transformation. 21:16.195 --> 21:23.178 [SPEAKER_00]: And it sounds simple, but it does take a lot of discipline to catch yourself going up on thinking negatively again. 21:23.599 --> 21:31.662 [SPEAKER_00]: How can I accept myself, affirm myself, and what action can I take to show myself that I am gonna be okay? 21:34.304 --> 21:40.927 [SPEAKER_01]: What, even to that you were a magnetic, magnetic, mental, so what is it about the midnight? 21:43.948 --> 21:45.570 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I think it's changed. 21:45.650 --> 21:54.722 [SPEAKER_00]: It used to be that women and midlife were kind of cows put out to pasture and they were openly worth their reproductive system. 21:55.764 --> 22:00.750 [SPEAKER_00]: And if they did not have the ability to reproduce, they were no longer sought after. 22:01.571 --> 22:05.916 [SPEAKER_00]: And they were no longer considered valuable or pretty or worth anything. 22:06.036 --> 22:10.080 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's very patriarchal that women are only here to reproduce. 22:10.301 --> 22:12.984 [SPEAKER_00]: Now women are stepping into their power. 22:13.384 --> 22:15.667 [SPEAKER_00]: There's more women entrepreneurs than ever. 22:15.707 --> 22:18.410 [SPEAKER_00]: There's more women physicians and ever lawyers. 22:18.950 --> 22:20.912 [SPEAKER_00]: So women are stepping into their power. 22:21.253 --> 22:21.373 [SPEAKER_00]: And 22:21.953 --> 22:24.714 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't have to feel bad about achieving midlife. 22:24.774 --> 22:27.495 [SPEAKER_00]: It's actually their prime and their peak. 22:27.755 --> 22:30.076 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not when they are going downhill. 22:30.116 --> 22:35.198 [SPEAKER_00]: It's when they're ascending to the top of their strength, power, intelligence. 22:35.638 --> 22:36.558 [SPEAKER_00]: They have money. 22:36.998 --> 22:38.879 [SPEAKER_00]: They can do what they want. 22:38.899 --> 22:44.181 [SPEAKER_00]: And I just want women in midlife to not think of it as a sad time. 22:44.221 --> 22:46.582 [SPEAKER_00]: But it's an exciting time of reinvention. 22:47.222 --> 22:49.184 [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that's what exactly would happen to me. 22:49.264 --> 22:52.366 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I was divorced when I was 45. 22:52.386 --> 22:55.769 [SPEAKER_00]: I got married for a second time at age 50. 22:55.909 --> 23:05.056 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm now happily married to my soulmate, living in my dream house and living my dream life with five different businesses and traveling. 23:05.416 --> 23:09.279 [SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like this is a whole new chapter for me. 23:09.319 --> 23:10.781 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm really exciting chapter. 23:11.521 --> 23:13.863 [SPEAKER_00]: And it doesn't mean that I have to like, 23:14.227 --> 23:16.308 [SPEAKER_00]: think of myself as going downhill. 23:16.608 --> 23:20.489 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still finding my peak in my life at midlife. 23:20.549 --> 23:27.511 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want other women to feel sexy and unstoppable and radiant as far as they're looks in midlife. 23:27.731 --> 23:38.374 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm also going to be putting that in my free gift because I'm going to share 25 ageless beauty tips because I feel like people can feel beautiful at every age. 23:38.414 --> 23:40.674 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's a very old thinking that women 23:46.177 --> 23:57.010 [SPEAKER_01]: What are some of the misconceptions or the myths that you encounter when it comes to the manifestation mindset? 24:02.398 --> 24:07.225 [SPEAKER_00]: and it is hard if you have a subconscious belief that it's not going to work. 24:08.046 --> 24:15.877 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you say all your affirmations, but you're being cynical or skeptical underneath, it's not going to work. 24:15.957 --> 24:18.221 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're like, things always work out for me. 24:18.261 --> 24:18.842 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, right. 24:19.504 --> 24:43.334 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I wish you would tell that to my bank account, you know, like there's like a subconscious negative cynical voice so I would say just if you if you are skeptical and cynical just be really really general and start with gratitude like I'm just grateful I woke up today you know over a hundred thousand people die every day they didn't get today. 24:44.374 --> 24:46.296 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just grateful that my body is working. 24:46.417 --> 24:50.240 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm grateful that I have Wi-Fi to listen to this summit. 24:50.341 --> 24:53.384 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm grateful that I have home appliances. 24:53.664 --> 24:59.170 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm grateful that I have food in the refrigerator and dishes in the cupboard and clothes in the closet. 24:59.210 --> 25:05.877 [SPEAKER_00]: Like you can definitely see that something is working in your favor when you, when you go to gratitude. 25:06.417 --> 25:08.598 [SPEAKER_00]: so that's a myth that it's hard. 25:09.518 --> 25:11.558 [SPEAKER_00]: Another myth is that it's woo woo. 25:11.618 --> 25:19.181 [SPEAKER_00]: I know we talked about that right before we hit record that used to think a lot of attraction was woo woo until it started working for you. 25:20.921 --> 25:22.421 [SPEAKER_00]: It's really not woo woo. 25:22.481 --> 25:26.683 [SPEAKER_00]: It's called quantum physics and vibrations are actually 25:28.563 --> 25:40.410 [SPEAKER_00]: And the ripple effect is proven, you know, the butterfly effect like a butterfly can flap its wings and sing a poor and something But in Cincinnati, Ohio, I mean, it's experiencing it right now. 25:40.530 --> 25:43.072 [SPEAKER_00]: So it's scientifically proven. 25:54.538 --> 26:00.321 [SPEAKER_00]: and he's book lovingly to some and hatefully to some and the water molecules change for the better and the worse. 26:01.102 --> 26:03.783 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, these are, it's scientifically proven. 26:03.843 --> 26:06.825 [SPEAKER_00]: So I would tell people, it's not woo woo. 26:07.746 --> 26:14.469 [SPEAKER_00]: Another misconception with the manifesting is that you're never allowed to have a negative emotion. 26:15.110 --> 26:17.151 [SPEAKER_00]: That's like, oh, I have a negative emotion. 26:17.191 --> 26:19.312 [SPEAKER_00]: I better like slap us mildly face on it. 26:19.732 --> 26:20.013 [SPEAKER_00]: That's 26:20.873 --> 26:21.873 [SPEAKER_00]: You're still human. 26:21.933 --> 26:28.176 [SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be fear, doubt, and worry, and grief, and sadness, and you're allowed to feel negative emotions. 26:28.276 --> 26:32.537 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're living the love attraction, just don't hang on to them. 26:32.677 --> 26:34.438 [SPEAKER_00]: Like you are not a negative emotion. 26:34.498 --> 26:39.159 [SPEAKER_00]: So I like to say, my soul is the sky and my emotions are the weather. 26:39.419 --> 26:42.560 [SPEAKER_00]: Like my soul is untouched, unharmed, and untouchable. 26:43.121 --> 26:44.981 [SPEAKER_00]: But the weather is the emotion. 26:45.081 --> 26:46.622 [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not like I'm going to have 26:47.242 --> 26:53.487 [SPEAKER_00]: Sunny days all the time, it's just that I don't want to attach my identity to the weather. 26:54.048 --> 26:56.830 [SPEAKER_00]: So I had a client who said, I am depressed. 26:56.990 --> 27:01.213 [SPEAKER_00]: I am depressed because I lost my sister in my mom 20 years ago. 27:01.814 --> 27:10.721 [SPEAKER_00]: So instead of just feeling the grief of the sadness and the depression of losing her mom and her sister, which is very sad, she identified with the emotion. 27:10.841 --> 27:12.903 [SPEAKER_00]: She became depressed for 20 years and I said, 27:13.243 --> 27:16.324 [SPEAKER_00]: No, you're not depressed, you're okay, you felt depressed. 27:16.625 --> 27:22.707 [SPEAKER_00]: So these are all different ways to navigate the mess of a law of attraction. 27:24.748 --> 27:38.015 [SPEAKER_01]: That's amazing because you just counted so many and as you were talking, I was thinking that it all makes so much sense and it almost seems nonsense to go that we would have to defend against that. 27:41.151 --> 27:47.859 [SPEAKER_01]: and it feels like the way which people are regularity taught is so unnatural and it's kind of top-key through me. 27:48.921 --> 27:49.241 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 27:50.603 --> 27:55.048 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we're taught to be very logical and linear. 27:56.265 --> 27:58.708 [SPEAKER_00]: But we're truly unscripted. 27:58.768 --> 28:01.411 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, we're really magical. 28:01.892 --> 28:08.801 [SPEAKER_00]: And we have way more intuition and way more connection to spirit than we know. 28:09.642 --> 28:11.944 [SPEAKER_00]: And when I think about animals and nature, 28:12.525 --> 28:17.190 [SPEAKER_00]: They're not like, oh my god, I've got a like project a lot of traction today. 28:17.390 --> 28:18.832 [SPEAKER_00]: I thought a negative thought. 28:18.972 --> 28:26.880 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to like mess it up like they're just like for giving themselves or in the moment and they're you know fully present. 28:26.920 --> 28:30.704 [SPEAKER_00]: So I like to say as an affirmation be present, not perfect. 28:31.445 --> 28:34.308 [SPEAKER_00]: And that helps me a lot as a recovering perfectionist. 28:36.691 --> 28:39.514 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, this is such an amazing conversation. 28:39.574 --> 28:41.236 [SPEAKER_01]: Could you share it with us, Rebecca? 28:41.296 --> 28:42.918 [SPEAKER_01]: What is in your leakage? 28:42.958 --> 28:46.583 [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like you've given us a few sneak peeks but with the full package. 28:47.312 --> 28:51.797 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, the free gift is something you definitely want to not sleep on this free gift. 28:51.937 --> 28:53.919 [SPEAKER_00]: It's called the balance beautiful bundle. 28:54.579 --> 29:06.370 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to get a digital copy of my book how to make a six figure income working part time where you're going to get 21 affirmations, which will absolutely change your life and all seven pillars. 29:07.031 --> 29:08.792 [SPEAKER_00]: So you're going to love the book. 29:08.812 --> 29:13.973 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to get the abundance journal prompts, which have taken my thinking from negative to positive. 29:14.573 --> 29:22.555 [SPEAKER_00]: And I promise you if you write for 10 days, write these journal prompts out, you will have a dramatic shift in your life, which I call a miracle. 29:23.116 --> 29:28.497 [SPEAKER_00]: The third thing is ageless beauty tips, so you can feel radiant and unstoppable at every age. 29:28.897 --> 29:34.839 [SPEAKER_00]: And then the fourth thing is you can get a daily journal reminder so you remind yourself to journal every day. 29:35.759 --> 29:40.981 [SPEAKER_00]: And these are all for you, four gifts and one, a balanced, beautiful bundle. 29:41.561 --> 29:53.764 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'd love to stay in touch with you guys and see what happens when you start doing the affirmations and writing in the journal and really embodying some of the things that we talked about today. 29:55.805 --> 29:58.166 [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you so much Rebecca for your generous gift. 29:58.266 --> 30:02.187 [SPEAKER_01]: It sounds amazing and I think I'm going to go get it for myself right now. 30:04.063 --> 30:05.204 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm excited for you. 30:05.264 --> 30:07.485 [SPEAKER_00]: Tell me what happens when you did the abundance journal. 30:08.725 --> 30:11.046 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, thank you so much for your time today Rebecca. 30:11.106 --> 30:20.911 [SPEAKER_01]: It's been such a blast and I really appreciate how you you tie everything together and you make it sound easy and you make it so relatable. 30:21.151 --> 30:23.792 [SPEAKER_01]: So thank you so much for your insights today. 30:24.677 --> 30:26.199 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much, Nang. 30:26.279 --> 30:29.522 [SPEAKER_00]: It's great to be here and great to be a part of this summit. 30:29.563 --> 30:32.226 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want to live my life and scripted to today. 30:32.306 --> 30:34.048 [SPEAKER_00]: So this was a great way to start my day. 30:34.949 --> 30:35.389 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you. 30:35.409 --> 30:36.130 [SPEAKER_01]: That's a good one. 30:36.791 --> 30:37.011 [SPEAKER_00]: Bye.