WEBVTT 00:00.837 --> 00:12.716 [SPEAKER_01]: If these conversations are awakening something in you and you're ready to create a for full life, I'd love to invite you to join me live for my three three day create your fulfilled life masterclass. 00:13.337 --> 00:15.821 [SPEAKER_01]: Click the link below this video to sign up. 00:18.276 --> 00:22.659 [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome to the Profile's Life Summit, where we explore one powerful question. 00:23.259 --> 00:25.961 [SPEAKER_01]: What does it truly mean to live a full life? 00:26.461 --> 00:29.943 [SPEAKER_01]: And how can we create for full lives, lives who truly love? 00:30.763 --> 00:38.668 [SPEAKER_01]: This summer brings together a curated group of global experts to help you release stress, self-doubt, and then visible barriers that keep you stuck. 00:39.349 --> 00:43.411 [SPEAKER_01]: And help you to step into a life of greater happiness, wealth, and freedom. 00:43.951 --> 00:46.273 [SPEAKER_01]: A life you truly love, a full life. 00:47.053 --> 00:50.715 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm your host, Nicole Musker, founder of the Fulls Life. 00:51.395 --> 00:54.957 [SPEAKER_01]: And today, I'm absolutely thrilled to have Rebecca Whitman joining me. 00:55.578 --> 01:09.005 [SPEAKER_01]: Rebecca, known as the abundance mentor, is an international based selling author, Princeton graduate award-winning mindset coach, and the host of the globally ranked, balanced, beautiful and abundant podcast. 01:09.605 --> 01:17.107 [SPEAKER_01]: Her work is built around the seven pillars of abundance, spiritual, physical, emotional, romantic, mental, social, and financial. 01:17.588 --> 01:24.370 [SPEAKER_01]: Helping people create great alignment, joy, freedom, and abundance, abundance across every area of life. 01:25.090 --> 01:25.910 [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome, Rebecca. 01:26.951 --> 01:27.771 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you, Nicole. 01:27.791 --> 01:28.691 [SPEAKER_00]: It's great to be here. 01:28.751 --> 01:29.371 [SPEAKER_00]: I love that. 01:29.471 --> 01:33.173 [SPEAKER_00]: It's evening in South Africa, morning in Ohio, where I am. 01:34.593 --> 01:37.314 [SPEAKER_01]: It's going to be able to be talking across the world. 01:38.432 --> 01:38.912 [SPEAKER_01]: Wonderful. 01:40.093 --> 01:51.799 [SPEAKER_01]: So Rebecca, I think the first question that I'm asking one of our guests is to just get a sense of what does a fulfilled life mean to you personally and how might this have changed over time? 02:06.242 --> 02:15.735 [SPEAKER_00]: contentment, but also excited for more without any pressure or needing this attached to it. 02:17.377 --> 02:20.901 [SPEAKER_01]: I love that being satisfied and happy with what you have, which I think. 02:21.577 --> 02:27.799 [SPEAKER_01]: is one of the things we speak about, just happiness coming from the inside rather than happiness having to come from getting more. 02:27.819 --> 02:33.341 [SPEAKER_00]: So yes, it's just a decision, not an acquisition, I'd like to say. 02:33.781 --> 02:35.021 [SPEAKER_01]: Hmm, I like that. 02:35.041 --> 02:41.143 [SPEAKER_01]: So on Rebecca, we talk about the seven talents, ten as of the abundance in your, your buyer. 02:41.984 --> 02:45.365 [SPEAKER_01]: Can you walk us through what those pillars are, please? 02:46.290 --> 02:46.670 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 02:47.171 --> 03:06.401 [SPEAKER_00]: So the seven pillars of abundance are a way to look at your life holistically, traditionally abundance used to mean just wealth, but there's so many people who have wealth, but they're unhealthy, or they have wealth, and they're lonely, or they have wealth, and you know, they're just spiritually void. 03:07.082 --> 03:12.885 [SPEAKER_00]: So I created this framework so that you can have abundance in all pillars of life. 03:13.485 --> 03:17.567 [SPEAKER_00]: So, if they're in order of importance, the first pillar is spirituality. 03:17.587 --> 03:29.573 [SPEAKER_00]: I believe having a relationship with the divine, whatever you call that energy, is the foundation of leading a happy fulfilled life, and I'm a huge believer in journaling. 03:29.633 --> 03:34.095 [SPEAKER_00]: They have studied the happiest, most highly productive people, and they all journal. 03:34.835 --> 03:49.120 [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going to give you guys a bunch of gifts at the end of the interview, but one of them is the abundance journal, which has five questions that will help you get your mindset to go in a plane place. 03:51.900 --> 03:55.124 [SPEAKER_00]: The second pillar of abundance is fitness. 03:55.704 --> 03:57.527 [SPEAKER_00]: And I believe that health is wealth. 03:57.787 --> 04:00.750 [SPEAKER_00]: If you have your health, you have every opportunity in the world. 04:01.351 --> 04:04.915 [SPEAKER_00]: If you don't have your health, your whole life becomes about getting healthy again. 04:04.935 --> 04:11.983 [SPEAKER_00]: So I say body before business and schedule your appointments around your health practices. 04:12.977 --> 04:15.540 [SPEAKER_00]: The third pillar of abundance is emotions. 04:16.181 --> 04:22.108 [SPEAKER_00]: And I believe that all emotions are from scarcity, which is fear-based or abundance, which is love-based. 04:22.688 --> 04:29.056 [SPEAKER_00]: And you could be having a conversation about anything and look at it as a scarcity conversation or abundance conversation. 04:29.496 --> 04:38.919 [SPEAKER_00]: and people don't even realize, they say, oh my God, I'm so busy, I don't have enough time or I don't have enough money, I don't have enough love, I don't have enough, you know, energy. 04:39.239 --> 04:44.701 [SPEAKER_00]: Those are all scarcity conversations that can be flipped to an abundance conversation. 04:45.221 --> 04:53.583 [SPEAKER_00]: And at the end of this interview, I'm going to show you a great way to go from scarcity to abundance or a framework I have called the four A's of transformation. 04:54.324 --> 04:58.685 [SPEAKER_00]: The next pillar after fitness, I mean, after emotions is romance. 04:59.445 --> 05:18.811 [SPEAKER_00]: And romance really affects every single pillar because if you're with the wrong partner, if you're in a toxic relationship with somebody that is bringing you down, putting you down, criticizing you, not believing in your goals and dreams, it's going to be very challenging to lead a fulfill life. 05:19.231 --> 05:21.812 [SPEAKER_00]: So I encourage my clients to leave. 05:22.592 --> 05:26.356 [SPEAKER_00]: toxic relationships and there's no such thing as a neutral partner. 05:26.796 --> 05:31.781 [SPEAKER_00]: They're either lifting you up and supporting you or they're draining you and they're bringing you down. 05:32.182 --> 05:36.045 [SPEAKER_00]: So neutral is considered non-existent in my world. 05:36.125 --> 05:41.290 [SPEAKER_00]: So you want to go with the romantic partners, the friends, the business partners that are 05:42.391 --> 05:50.880 [SPEAKER_00]: pushing you up and sharing you on after romance is mental and that's working on your mind learning thing. 05:50.980 --> 05:55.545 [SPEAKER_00]: So it could be right now you're doing the mental pillar and the fulfilled life summit. 05:55.925 --> 05:57.386 [SPEAKER_00]: It could be traveling. 05:58.027 --> 06:12.584 [SPEAKER_00]: playing a musical instrument, writing, painting, learning a new recipe, taking a class, listening to a YouTube video, listening to my podcast, a balanced beautiful and abundant show, whatever you're doing to grow your mind. 06:13.365 --> 06:15.207 [SPEAKER_00]: After mental is social. 06:16.008 --> 06:25.177 [SPEAKER_00]: When a lot of people, especially adults, they don't think friends are important, and they're very undefeiled because they don't have enough fun. 06:25.197 --> 06:37.669 [SPEAKER_00]: So I, my clients, to have at least one social event a week, where it's not about work, it's purely about fun and connection, and I also believe in the power of community. 06:38.410 --> 06:50.499 [SPEAKER_00]: I say that community creates immunity because you want to have a group of people that believe in you, that support you, that mentor you, and as well you want to have someone to lift up a mentor. 06:50.900 --> 06:55.743 [SPEAKER_00]: You can be just a half a step ahead of someone on the mountain and you could be a mentor. 06:56.404 --> 06:58.606 [SPEAKER_00]: And finally, financial and people, 06:59.306 --> 07:17.442 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I said at the beginning, think that finance means abundance, but finance is the culmination of all these things, because when you are spiritually and physically fit, have friends, have romance, have energy, you are going to be magnetic and attract. 07:18.142 --> 07:19.742 [SPEAKER_00]: opportunities financially. 07:19.782 --> 07:22.863 [SPEAKER_00]: That's when my nickname is the Magnetic Abundance Mentor. 07:23.183 --> 07:25.524 [SPEAKER_00]: For example, I'm in Cincinnati, Ohio. 07:25.964 --> 07:31.366 [SPEAKER_00]: You're in South African Nicole, but somehow through the lava traction, you found me. 07:31.386 --> 07:32.706 [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't find you. 07:33.266 --> 07:37.327 [SPEAKER_00]: So you become magnetic to people places, things, and opportunities. 07:37.867 --> 07:40.568 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I also believe that everybody should have three to 07:48.170 --> 08:16.960 [SPEAKER_00]: on it's exciting and remember in school we had I have one here a five we had these five subject notebooks with mass science English and history well we know how to multitask we've learned it since you're a little kids and I think it brings stability in your income because the fun business is having a bad year or bad month and another business is having a good year or a good month so I believe in creating a six figure side hustle and that is one of my share programs 08:18.278 --> 08:39.448 [SPEAKER_01]: amazing that those songs like they really work together to ultimately give people then inner happiness as well as there is auto feelings of abundance like it's the well that people generally measure so that's a great framework and what happens if one of those places out of alignment like do you see their like ripple effect in the other ones? 08:41.208 --> 08:42.851 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, they're all connected. 08:43.071 --> 08:46.756 [SPEAKER_00]: Usually people have one or two pillars where they are crushing it. 08:47.117 --> 08:49.521 [SPEAKER_00]: And one or two pillars where they're in breakdown. 08:49.541 --> 08:52.585 [SPEAKER_00]: That is why it's good to have a coach. 08:52.625 --> 08:56.511 [SPEAKER_00]: Someone like myself or Nicole to bring that pillar into alignment. 08:57.632 --> 09:03.136 [SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, it just, like for me for a long time, I had the romantic pillar out of alignment. 09:03.176 --> 09:08.540 [SPEAKER_00]: I had all the other pillars of life working, but I was picking the wrong romantic partners. 09:08.640 --> 09:12.823 [SPEAKER_00]: I was attracted to emotionally unavailable narcissistic men. 09:12.843 --> 09:14.365 [SPEAKER_00]: I have a married one. 09:15.345 --> 09:16.945 [SPEAKER_00]: and we all know how that turned out. 09:17.065 --> 09:25.948 [SPEAKER_00]: So I divorced him after three years, but then I learned how to be healthy from the inside and I attracted a healthy partner who's my soulmate. 09:26.468 --> 09:35.430 [SPEAKER_00]: And now I'm happily married to my soulmate for four years and we moved from Los Angeles to Cincinnati, Ohio and we're living in our dreamhouse and living our best life. 09:35.450 --> 09:39.231 [SPEAKER_00]: So another of my programs is how to magnetize your soulmate. 09:39.271 --> 09:41.991 [SPEAKER_00]: But especially love, I mean any of them. 09:42.131 --> 09:43.052 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're if you're 09:45.473 --> 09:49.977 [SPEAKER_00]: In your physical health or in your finances, it affects the others. 09:50.037 --> 09:55.863 [SPEAKER_00]: If you don't have any money to go out and meet your friends for dinner or drinks, that affects your friendship. 09:55.923 --> 10:01.649 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're constantly fighting with your spouse or your partner, that's going to affect your health. 10:01.769 --> 10:04.091 [SPEAKER_00]: If you are too unhealthy to leave the house, 10:04.652 --> 10:09.074 [SPEAKER_00]: You are going to have a hard time, you know, going on dates and being in a romance. 10:09.114 --> 10:12.235 [SPEAKER_00]: So literally they're all spokes of the same bicycle wheel. 10:12.595 --> 10:19.078 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, but what I was going to say, I was like crushing it in six out of the seven areas, but not in my love life. 10:19.658 --> 10:21.819 [SPEAKER_00]: I was constantly like and breakdown there. 10:22.199 --> 10:33.144 [SPEAKER_00]: So I had a coach and he said, Rebecca, why don't you apply the same principles that you're using in your health and in your finances and in your friendship group to your love 10:34.344 --> 10:35.805 [SPEAKER_00]: And then everything changed. 10:35.945 --> 10:36.506 [SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't. 10:36.646 --> 10:38.867 [SPEAKER_00]: So I had to anxious attachment style. 10:39.268 --> 10:47.374 [SPEAKER_00]: But when I came to money or sales or friendship, I was just like going with the flow and I had total faith that God was in charge. 10:47.494 --> 10:51.457 [SPEAKER_00]: And I started to apply that to my love life and things started to shift. 10:52.962 --> 10:55.304 [SPEAKER_01]: So that's actually an interesting point that you make. 10:55.744 --> 10:58.907 [SPEAKER_01]: And so many I'd like to kind of get a little deeper on. 10:59.707 --> 11:18.462 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you see that being sort of a trend like that your attachment style or your style in relationships is very similar to what people are doing money and then when they fix it in the finances, does it fix some of the other pins or how do you see those relating to each other? 11:20.645 --> 11:36.602 [SPEAKER_00]: I think it is connected, you mean both finance and romance are connected to your sacro chakra and it's like survival of yourself and the species and if you're anxious to attach with 11:38.145 --> 11:56.137 [SPEAKER_00]: friends, you might be anxious to tattoo his romance, anxious to attach to business, and I think if you can master being secure and protecting your piece in one of the areas, you will learn how to apply it to the other area, unless you have severe trauma. 11:56.597 --> 12:03.021 [SPEAKER_00]: And in that case, definitely need a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist or a coach, 12:06.103 --> 12:15.561 [SPEAKER_00]: abuse, molestation, seeing some charitable thing, then that is a lot deeper than what we're talking about. 12:18.271 --> 12:19.332 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, agree. 12:19.472 --> 12:26.416 [SPEAKER_01]: So if there is someone who is feeling and, like, unfulfilled, they're very successful on the outside. 12:26.436 --> 12:34.822 [SPEAKER_01]: They've got some of the pillows, you know, around finances, possibly maybe even social romantic sorted, but they're not feeling fulfilled. 12:34.842 --> 12:37.224 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, what are you, what are you suggest to them? 12:38.084 --> 12:38.885 [SPEAKER_01]: Where should they begin? 12:40.408 --> 12:53.716 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I would suggest not in this sounds counterintuitive, but not focusing on the area that is going poorly, but to celebrate what's going well and to ignore what's going poorly. 12:54.237 --> 12:57.098 [SPEAKER_00]: Because human nature is to focus on what's wrong. 12:57.139 --> 13:07.605 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, if I go to a party and 99 people say they love my necklace, and one person doesn't say anything, I'm gonna be like, well, why didn't that person say they love my necklace? 13:07.685 --> 13:08.285 [SPEAKER_00]: Or whatever. 13:09.786 --> 13:26.965 [SPEAKER_00]: human condition, instead of celebrating, wow, and I knew that people said they'll have my necklace or whatever, but it's all about celebrating what's going well in your life, and then being aware, okay, this area is not going so well, and seeking help. 13:27.606 --> 13:38.450 [SPEAKER_00]: and that could be through hiring coach, it could be listening to a podcast, reading books, but not in a way that is to be yourself out more and just an interested curious way. 13:38.530 --> 13:41.011 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, huh, I wonder what I could learn. 13:41.411 --> 13:49.774 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say you have a great income, but you're, you know, lonely, you're single and you want to be with someone and you might be single and not want to be with someone and that's totally cool too. 13:50.114 --> 13:52.635 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you're feeling that colleague to want to partner, 13:53.415 --> 13:56.836 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't want to beat yourself up and say, oh my God, what's wrong with me? 13:57.196 --> 14:03.557 [SPEAKER_00]: Like if I could be a younger, funnier, you know, wittier, you know, I would attract a partner. 14:03.617 --> 14:04.937 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't want to do it that way. 14:05.377 --> 14:19.360 [SPEAKER_00]: You want to do it more like, oh, well, I guess there's some things that I meant to learn about relationships, maybe I can study with a coach, maybe I could read a book on attachment theory or listen to a podcast and just do it more in a curious way. 14:19.980 --> 14:21.940 [SPEAKER_00]: rather than a way to beat yourself up. 14:22.200 --> 14:33.962 [SPEAKER_00]: That is why I have seven pillars of abundance because I have sought expertise, books, seminars, webinars, workshops, coaches, and all these areas. 14:34.863 --> 14:38.023 [SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like I have a lot of tips, tools, and strategies. 14:38.503 --> 14:44.724 [SPEAKER_00]: And one of my gifts, yes, you guys are going to be more than one for me, is a book that I wrote called How to Make a Six Figure 14:49.485 --> 14:53.527 [SPEAKER_00]: and I give you tips, tools, and strategies to get each pillar to a level 10. 14:53.907 --> 14:59.570 [SPEAKER_00]: And you also get three affirmations for each pillar to get that to a level 10. 14:59.610 --> 15:05.533 [SPEAKER_00]: So affirmations really help to get an area where you feel stuck moving again. 15:06.753 --> 15:07.253 [SPEAKER_01]: Amazing. 15:07.614 --> 15:08.114 [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you. 15:08.294 --> 15:10.855 [SPEAKER_01]: Thanks that everyone to hear more about the gifts, Vaze. 15:11.215 --> 15:14.837 [SPEAKER_01]: But just to come back to what you've said, I mean, you mentioned the up to a level 10. 15:15.276 --> 15:25.571 [SPEAKER_01]: How do you help people actually assist or where they are on their pillars and where they mean help or focus? 15:26.967 --> 15:34.332 [SPEAKER_00]: that I can give people and that was pretty much show you if you're in or out of alignment in each pillar. 15:34.712 --> 15:46.080 [SPEAKER_00]: But I think people know, I mean, I do like a complimentary break through call and I just ask people, you know, what area of your life is causing you challenge or frustration? 15:46.100 --> 15:51.924 [SPEAKER_00]: And people know, well, and then I could say what area of your life is working well on people know right away. 15:52.745 --> 15:54.126 [SPEAKER_00]: it's not such a mystery. 15:54.166 --> 15:58.871 [SPEAKER_00]: We all know, you know, what area is giving us pain right now. 16:00.232 --> 16:07.819 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I think every even if you don't want to admit it often, people will, will know intuitively as well where they really are blocked. 16:08.978 --> 16:36.808 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and you can look at each area that's another thing you can do on your own without taking the quiz and you can rate it on a scale of 1 to 10 and kind of you can ask yourself, you know, what action do I need to do to get this to a level 10 or what kind of change and perception what I need to get this to a level 10 and you can kind of just look at your life through this framework and just ask yourself, 16:37.828 --> 16:46.376 [SPEAKER_00]: like what are my next steps to get to the next level of gross excellence and unfoldment in these areas? 16:47.156 --> 16:50.639 [SPEAKER_01]: Hmm, like a step, but I can also help. 16:50.980 --> 16:54.062 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's certainly somewhat, some things people can do. 16:54.603 --> 17:02.269 [SPEAKER_01]: And as you work with people over the years, I mean, what have you seen as the most common blocks that people have from, from receiving more 17:05.048 --> 17:18.913 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, usually for women, because my clients are usually high achieving mid-life women, it's usually a self-worth, who think they're worthy of financial abundance. 17:18.933 --> 17:23.255 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't think they're worthy of having the right romantic partner. 17:23.935 --> 17:27.577 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't think they're worthy of feeling radiantly healthy. 17:28.537 --> 17:30.638 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's a self-worth issue. 17:32.227 --> 17:38.512 [SPEAKER_01]: And how do you help people move through that softwares? 17:38.532 --> 17:42.095 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, there are a lot of different ways to do it. 17:42.936 --> 17:49.301 [SPEAKER_00]: One of them is gratitude to set of, you know, looking at what they don't have. 17:49.861 --> 17:51.723 [SPEAKER_00]: Happiness is not getting what you want. 17:51.803 --> 17:54.065 [SPEAKER_00]: It's wanting what you have and celebrating it. 17:54.885 --> 17:57.888 [SPEAKER_00]: And you celebrate what you have through a gratitude practice. 17:58.568 --> 18:24.344 [SPEAKER_00]: So in the abundance journal prompts that I'm going to give you guys, one of the prompts is a gratitude list and gratitude is the fastest way to go from a scarcity conversation to an abundance conversation and just to look at how much you have like there are people in the world that would only dream of having your problems in your life like your living is wow to streaming you don't even realize it. 18:25.883 --> 18:28.347 [SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's such a big one, right? 18:28.407 --> 18:31.692 [SPEAKER_01]: Is this just actually being grateful for what we have? 18:32.553 --> 18:34.677 [SPEAKER_01]: Always the compensation as well. 18:34.697 --> 18:36.079 [SPEAKER_01]: So, first we'll problem, right? 18:36.099 --> 18:38.382 [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, we've got problems, but it's a first we'll problem. 18:38.422 --> 18:38.983 [SPEAKER_01]: It's not bad. 18:40.281 --> 18:45.205 [SPEAKER_00]: For a billion people, don't even have indoor plumbing. 18:45.265 --> 18:47.907 [SPEAKER_00]: They're living on less than $3 a day of income. 18:48.507 --> 18:58.295 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, just the fact that we're all here now having these conversations about fulfillment means that we are not seeking food and shelter. 18:58.335 --> 18:59.796 [SPEAKER_00]: We're out of survival mode. 18:59.856 --> 19:07.983 [SPEAKER_00]: We can have a fulfilling life and have deeper conversations like just by being here, you guys are really crushing it. 19:09.272 --> 19:10.413 [SPEAKER_01]: amazing, I agree. 19:11.273 --> 19:15.176 [SPEAKER_01]: So Rebecca, the full A's of transformation. 19:15.556 --> 19:18.278 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you think you could tell us a little bit more about those? 19:19.219 --> 19:25.944 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so that's another way to go from stuck to unstuck in one of the seven pillars. 19:25.984 --> 19:28.185 [SPEAKER_00]: So I was going to use you as an example. 19:28.205 --> 19:29.066 [SPEAKER_00]: Is that okay, Nicole? 19:29.366 --> 19:31.048 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, okay, happy to be a guinea pig. 19:32.068 --> 19:35.371 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, which of the seven pillars of abundance do you feel stuck? 19:39.135 --> 19:49.002 [SPEAKER_01]: I think that you see probably physical the sleep sleep is a challenge for me. 19:50.383 --> 19:51.924 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so you feel tired a lot? 19:52.325 --> 19:52.605 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes. 19:54.126 --> 20:03.353 [SPEAKER_00]: So what is it that you tell yourself either when you can't fall asleep or when you feel tired all day like what is a negative or limiting belief around that? 20:05.618 --> 20:08.219 [SPEAKER_01]: Probably, I'm never feeling good sleeper. 20:08.700 --> 20:09.680 [SPEAKER_01]: I wake up lots of night. 20:09.760 --> 20:10.781 [SPEAKER_01]: That's just normal. 20:12.061 --> 20:16.083 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so the limiting belief is I'm just not a good sleeper. 20:16.564 --> 20:18.165 [SPEAKER_01]: I never had a good sleeper. 20:18.365 --> 20:19.705 [SPEAKER_00]: Never been. 20:19.725 --> 20:24.048 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so the four A's of change works like this. 20:24.148 --> 20:28.110 [SPEAKER_00]: The first A is awareness that you have a limiting belief. 20:28.750 --> 20:32.112 [SPEAKER_00]: So your limiting belief, Nicole, is I'm just not a good sleeper. 20:33.032 --> 20:40.916 [SPEAKER_00]: The second A of transformation is not to beat yourself up and say, oh my God, I should know better. 20:41.137 --> 20:44.198 [SPEAKER_00]: I listen to Rebecca's balance, beautiful and abundant show. 20:44.778 --> 20:46.619 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm a coach, I'm a thought leader. 20:46.780 --> 20:49.461 [SPEAKER_00]: I know all about how words affect our reality. 20:49.501 --> 20:51.782 [SPEAKER_00]: Why am I still so negative about sleep? 20:51.882 --> 20:52.943 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't beat yourself up. 20:53.743 --> 20:54.344 [SPEAKER_00]: Accept it. 20:54.624 --> 20:56.305 [SPEAKER_00]: So the second A is acceptance. 20:57.125 --> 20:59.148 [SPEAKER_00]: The third A is affirmation. 20:59.529 --> 21:01.892 [SPEAKER_00]: So it's pretty easy to make an affirmation. 21:01.932 --> 21:05.236 [SPEAKER_00]: What is the opposite Nicole of I'm just not a good sleeper? 21:05.697 --> 21:07.119 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm an incredible sleeper. 21:08.381 --> 21:12.607 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I mean, I easily an effortlessly fall asleep and stay asleep, right? 21:15.122 --> 21:15.862 [SPEAKER_00]: I would say that. 21:15.982 --> 21:18.704 [SPEAKER_00]: I easily and effortlessly fall sleep and say sleep. 21:19.144 --> 21:25.028 [SPEAKER_00]: And then the fourth A is a contrary action that is the opposite. 21:25.088 --> 21:28.350 [SPEAKER_00]: How would you act as if you were a good sleeper? 21:28.450 --> 21:30.332 [SPEAKER_00]: You wouldn't have anxiety about it. 21:30.792 --> 21:36.376 [SPEAKER_00]: You would be, you know, excited to go to bed early because you know you're gonna get a good night's sleep. 21:37.056 --> 21:47.263 [SPEAKER_00]: you would be excited about waking up rested and schedule something early in the morning, you know, in that you know, you're asleep. 21:47.283 --> 21:53.947 [SPEAKER_00]: And so the fourth A is to take a contrary action that isn't the opposition of your limiting belief. 21:54.687 --> 21:58.050 [SPEAKER_00]: So the fourth A is to reiterate awareness, 22:03.486 --> 22:21.556 [SPEAKER_01]: And that makes sense and I think actually the second one is just so critical because yes, people can become aware of it, but it's at acceptance because I think we have a tendency to go into this real self-bashing when we realize that we're actually doing something wrong. 22:21.837 --> 22:29.541 [SPEAKER_01]: And I mean understanding that actually as part of that, you do need to accept a draw 22:32.417 --> 22:37.196 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, have you seen that be an important part of the journey for people? 22:38.535 --> 23:02.972 [SPEAKER_00]: It is because what you resist persists and resist something about yourself and like oh my god I can't believe I'm still so negative about sleep or relationships or I can't believe I still have a lot of those 10 pounds I've been trying to lose them since college like if you're in resistance that is going to just push that away and I know you wanted to experimental exercise. 23:04.743 --> 23:05.603 [SPEAKER_00]: So let's do this. 23:05.684 --> 23:11.886 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're in resistance, Nicole, and if you're watching this, and this is my highly fashionable woke watch. 23:11.926 --> 23:13.406 [SPEAKER_00]: So don't be intimidated. 23:14.506 --> 23:22.069 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so resistance, hold this to your knuckles turn white and you tense and you could even put your nails into your hands like 23:31.381 --> 23:40.414 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just going to give it to God or the universe and whether I get two hours of sleep or 10 hours of sleep, I trust that I'm going to get exactly the amount of sleep I need. 23:41.837 --> 23:43.798 [SPEAKER_00]: and just let it go and surrender it. 23:43.818 --> 23:51.180 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's another journal prompt you're going to get and the gift, the abundance journal, you'll get a gratitude list and a surrender list. 23:51.200 --> 23:59.922 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you have an area like this that keeps causing you anxiety, you just keep surrendering it and keep visualizing, just giving it to God. 24:00.582 --> 24:02.583 [SPEAKER_00]: And nobody died of lack of sleep Nicole. 24:04.982 --> 24:05.763 [SPEAKER_01]: No, exactly. 24:05.903 --> 24:18.579 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, you do get used to it, but I do, I know that it's, as you say, it's a limiting belief and it's something that it's already possible for everyone to have a good night's sleep. 24:19.467 --> 24:36.111 [SPEAKER_01]: most of it, most nights, you know, and as I have worked on my nervous system and you know, stress and triggers and stuff, this just hasn't shifted as much as what I thought it would, but I think you're very right, you know, it's that limiting belief that that is still there. 24:36.751 --> 24:40.412 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, and I guess that's a critical part of this. 24:40.472 --> 24:42.853 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, how is mindset actually affecting 24:49.998 --> 25:00.401 [SPEAKER_00]: mindset is everything, you know, mindset and heart set and it's all about just being compassionate with yourself and loving yourself. 25:01.774 --> 25:08.637 [SPEAKER_00]: You're exactly where you're supposed to be on your journey and you cannot get to the next stage by beating yourself up. 25:09.297 --> 25:26.184 [SPEAKER_00]: So I like to say, take the words, what of could have and shut up out of your vocabulary so as there are words we need to be ourselves up and just accept that you're exactly where you're supposed to be and everything is right about you and go celebrate that if you wanna have a fulfilled life. 25:26.344 --> 25:29.025 [SPEAKER_00]: I am celebrating you all the way from Cincinnati, Ohio. 25:30.621 --> 25:38.526 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, just just even saying that to yourself, like I accept, it kind of raised me just as a lot inside the body. 25:38.546 --> 25:41.047 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 25:41.787 --> 25:42.988 [SPEAKER_01]: True. 25:43.948 --> 25:48.651 [SPEAKER_00]: Yourself a big hug and say, I love an accept myself no matter what. 25:49.151 --> 25:49.531 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 25:49.932 --> 25:51.993 [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm myself no matter what. 25:52.873 --> 25:53.253 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 25:53.574 --> 25:55.735 [SPEAKER_00]: I love an accept myself no matter what. 25:57.735 --> 26:09.960 [SPEAKER_00]: So I would love to share a poem that I wrote, which is also part of your gift, called the elegant warrior manifesto, and it's a way of being in the world that sums up everything that we've been talking about today. 26:10.000 --> 26:11.461 [SPEAKER_00]: So is it okay if I share it to Cole? 26:11.741 --> 26:13.002 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, please. 26:14.113 --> 26:16.694 [SPEAKER_00]: It's called the elegant warrior manifesto. 26:17.515 --> 26:24.339 [SPEAKER_00]: An elegant warrior satisfies her own needs first so that she can be loving and supportive to others. 26:25.359 --> 26:29.442 [SPEAKER_00]: She seeks validation not from others but from herself. 26:30.362 --> 26:33.504 [SPEAKER_00]: She knows that true happiness is an inside job. 26:34.344 --> 26:40.688 [SPEAKER_00]: She honors her ascetic individuality above societal values and expectations. 26:41.627 --> 26:47.910 [SPEAKER_00]: No matter what kind of energy is directed at her, she responds with love and kindness. 26:48.731 --> 26:51.472 [SPEAKER_00]: She lives delightfully outside the box. 26:52.173 --> 26:56.215 [SPEAKER_00]: She strives for imperfection and self-acceptance. 26:56.975 --> 27:00.077 [SPEAKER_00]: She is quick to forgive others and herself. 27:00.897 --> 27:02.940 [SPEAKER_00]: She lives in a friendly universe. 27:03.580 --> 27:05.283 [SPEAKER_00]: She trusts her intuition. 27:05.903 --> 27:07.906 [SPEAKER_00]: She believes the best about people. 27:08.527 --> 27:14.554 [SPEAKER_00]: She easily leaves relationships and situations that no longer serve her highest good. 27:15.395 --> 27:19.660 [SPEAKER_00]: She shines brightly so that others have the courage to be themselves. 27:20.441 --> 27:24.607 [SPEAKER_00]: She is a spiritual seeker and a perpetual student of life. 27:25.388 --> 27:27.952 [SPEAKER_00]: She is powerful yet feminine. 27:28.633 --> 27:32.438 [SPEAKER_00]: She is a resilient resourceful and brave leader. 27:34.290 --> 27:37.612 [SPEAKER_01]: that is beautiful and that really does some everything at. 27:37.772 --> 27:53.620 [SPEAKER_01]: From following your, you know, your soul's calling and not being feeling judged to, you're living from happiness inside, as he said, to, to wealth to just the way you show up in the world that that really is beautiful. 27:53.660 --> 27:56.341 [SPEAKER_01]: So thank you for writing it and thank you for sharing it. 27:57.161 --> 27:58.122 [SPEAKER_01]: You are so welcome. 27:59.589 --> 28:04.666 [SPEAKER_01]: So, Rebecca, you've mentioned a couple of gifts to you to share with the audience. 28:04.706 --> 28:06.392 [SPEAKER_01]: Can you tell us a little bit about this? 28:07.368 --> 28:14.373 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, so I have, it's called the Balance Beautiful Bundle, you're going to get life changing journal prompts. 28:14.634 --> 28:33.308 [SPEAKER_00]: I met this woman when I was 20 years old at an A&A meeting, yes, I am sober, and she gave me these five questions that I have been writing out every morning for 30 years and they've completely changed my life from negative to positive, and I promise you, if you write 28:36.110 --> 28:38.050 [SPEAKER_00]: You will have a miracle happen in your life. 28:38.190 --> 28:40.011 [SPEAKER_00]: So that is my challenge to all of you guys. 28:40.051 --> 28:42.431 [SPEAKER_00]: So make sure you get that gift. 28:42.451 --> 28:43.992 [SPEAKER_00]: So you can get the abundance journal. 28:44.452 --> 28:48.353 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to get the poem that I just read, the elegant warrior manifesto. 28:49.173 --> 28:51.354 [SPEAKER_00]: You are going to get ageless beauty tips. 28:52.054 --> 28:53.914 [SPEAKER_00]: So you can feel healthy and radiant. 28:54.614 --> 28:59.055 [SPEAKER_00]: And then you're also going to get a free digital copy of my bestselling book. 28:59.195 --> 29:01.776 [SPEAKER_00]: How to make a six figure income working part time. 29:02.016 --> 29:05.217 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's all of the gifts that you're going to get 29:06.457 --> 29:08.579 [SPEAKER_01]: That sounds incredible, so thank you. 29:08.659 --> 29:12.501 [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for your generosity and for sharing it with the audience. 29:13.382 --> 29:18.645 [SPEAKER_00]: You are so welcome and thank you for having me on the fulfilled life summit when great talking to you Nicole. 29:18.946 --> 29:29.112 [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you Rebecca and in closing I'd love to just ask you like if you were to tell people to take one thing away from today's conversation as to how they can live a more full life. 29:29.813 --> 29:31.394 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you have a final thought? 29:32.867 --> 29:33.227 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes. 29:33.487 --> 29:45.996 [SPEAKER_00]: I would say to stay in the moment to live a fulfilled life because if you're thinking about the paths, you're usually beating yourself up or questioning yourself, questioning other people. 29:46.016 --> 29:50.319 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're thinking about the future, it usually is anxiety. 29:50.339 --> 29:52.520 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my God, what's going to happen? 29:52.580 --> 29:53.141 [SPEAKER_00]: What if this? 29:53.201 --> 29:53.901 [SPEAKER_00]: What if that? 29:54.402 --> 29:58.484 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you're right here in the moment, you can make it that decision 30:02.947 --> 30:14.779 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you can't find the moment, just feel your feet, be where your feet are, that helps ground you in the present moment and take a breath and just do the next indicated action. 30:14.799 --> 30:25.469 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you keep doing the next right thing and the next right thing and the next right thing, you'll end up having happy hours, happy days, happy weeks, happy months, happy years, and a happy life. 30:26.425 --> 30:26.885 [SPEAKER_01]: amazing. 30:27.045 --> 30:33.689 [SPEAKER_01]: I love that, and that does seem to be quite a theme of just presents, theme here in the moments, so that's wonderful. 30:34.049 --> 30:34.910 [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you, Rebecca. 30:35.870 --> 30:36.731 [SPEAKER_00]: You are so welcome. 30:37.995 --> 30:40.297 [SPEAKER_01]: And thank you to our audience for joining us today. 30:40.537 --> 30:45.542 [SPEAKER_01]: I hope this conversation has given you fresh insight into what a truly means to live a full life. 30:46.182 --> 30:49.806 [SPEAKER_01]: And offered practical tools, you can begin applying your own life right away. 30:49.826 --> 30:58.613 [SPEAKER_01]: Untention with the summit is not only to inspire, but support you in creating greater happiness, wealth, and freedom, and life you truly love. 30:59.194 --> 31:03.338 [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for being here, and we look forward to having you with us again for the next conversation.