WEBVTT 00:00.945 --> 00:16.910 [SPEAKER_00]: There's social media here, there's connection here, there's external validation here, there's friends here, there's pornography here, there's movies here, there's games here, all and used in use, and do algebra. 00:19.670 --> 00:20.791 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, let's have him in rubber. 00:25.152 --> 00:27.853 [SPEAKER_00]: So I asked my students as a young man, take out your phone. 00:29.228 --> 00:40.115 [SPEAKER_00]: So they take it out and I say, go through your screen time on the weekend, how many hours were you on your phone on the weekend? 00:40.796 --> 00:43.918 [SPEAKER_00]: And I say break it down to a Saturday and a Sunday. 00:46.920 --> 00:54.225 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to ask you what do you think that is how many hours do you think a young individual is on their phone on a Saturday and on a Sunday? 00:57.652 --> 01:02.334 [SPEAKER_00]: No, per day, so per day, give me an answer per day. 01:04.534 --> 01:08.676 [SPEAKER_00]: Per day, so each day, yes, segment, two hours, much of a lot. 01:09.576 --> 01:17.958 [SPEAKER_00]: Anyone else, four, ten hours, about three hours, a lot of guesswork, yeah, it's either guesswork or you guys know what you're doing, you know? 01:19.959 --> 01:20.579 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, have you? 01:21.400 --> 01:22.680 [SPEAKER_00]: Ayyya Mashallah. 01:26.042 --> 01:35.564 [SPEAKER_00]: So what I found from doing an informal survey is that the average is nine hours. 01:38.985 --> 01:41.126 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a very important point here. 01:42.466 --> 01:50.028 [SPEAKER_00]: So then I asked them, I said, going to your phones and go to the analysis of the nine hours. 01:51.349 --> 01:52.829 [SPEAKER_00]: What did you spend most of it on? 01:54.985 --> 02:00.928 [SPEAKER_00]: So 70%, 60% to 70%, seems to be on TikTok. 02:06.050 --> 02:07.891 [SPEAKER_00]: I could say TikTok slash Instagram. 02:10.092 --> 02:11.172 [SPEAKER_00]: The rest is Snapchat. 02:11.613 --> 02:15.975 [SPEAKER_00]: The rest is a bit of scrolling, good or bad. 02:17.775 --> 02:23.178 [SPEAKER_00]: Videos, games, friends, and so on. 02:25.770 --> 02:28.671 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure if you feel the gravity of the situation. 02:30.391 --> 02:47.996 [SPEAKER_00]: So here is a young person in a stage of life where he's supposed to build stamina, build mental capacity, build intellectual capacity, build rigour, build knowledge, build character. 02:56.300 --> 02:59.842 [SPEAKER_00]: then he's spending the next 10 hours a scrolling. 02:59.883 --> 03:01.764 [SPEAKER_00]: The highest I have found is 14 hours. 03:03.225 --> 03:06.667 [SPEAKER_00]: The lowest I have found is six hours per day. 03:09.689 --> 03:17.855 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't know its consequences because your distant from students, I'll tell you some of the consequences. 03:19.416 --> 03:22.038 [SPEAKER_00]: One of the students was told, 03:26.712 --> 03:31.174 [SPEAKER_00]: So she went reluctantly, then came back crying to the teacher. 03:31.254 --> 03:32.534 [SPEAKER_00]: Why did you force me to pray? 03:35.975 --> 03:43.238 [SPEAKER_00]: So as soon as I heard this, you see, I have done a lot of work in this space. 03:45.959 --> 03:48.060 [SPEAKER_00]: I joined dots that normal people don't know. 03:49.460 --> 03:53.582 [SPEAKER_00]: So as soon as I heard this, they sent the young lady to me. 03:54.423 --> 03:56.205 [SPEAKER_00]: And I said, sweet, how can you take out your phone? 03:56.805 --> 03:58.687 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm very polite this way like Kaiser. 03:58.707 --> 03:59.507 [SPEAKER_00]: They took out their phone. 04:00.008 --> 04:04.451 [SPEAKER_00]: I said, how many hours were you on the phone on the weekend? 04:04.491 --> 04:07.233 [SPEAKER_00]: So she said 11 hours Saturday 12 hours Sunday. 04:08.334 --> 04:12.137 [SPEAKER_00]: I said, off that, how many percentage of time were you on TikTok? 04:12.177 --> 04:13.639 [SPEAKER_00]: So she smiled 75%. 04:15.420 --> 04:17.562 [SPEAKER_00]: So now I just think about this. 04:17.802 --> 04:21.345 [SPEAKER_00]: This is Yang Muslim, Muslima, on TikTok. 04:22.582 --> 04:26.265 [SPEAKER_00]: She's not watching the Islamic lectures, there's no, there's no. 04:26.285 --> 04:28.907 [SPEAKER_00]: So what is she watching for 11 hours? 04:29.808 --> 04:32.731 [SPEAKER_00]: Other girls, her own age, or bit older, a bit younger. 04:34.092 --> 04:45.482 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe doing makeup tutorials, maybe doing dancing, maybe talking about relationships, maybe making fun of their parents, maybe making fun of strictness, maybe giving 04:51.860 --> 04:55.061 [SPEAKER_00]: in a very innocent fertile head and heart. 04:56.922 --> 05:07.647 [SPEAKER_00]: The problem with seeds, you see boulders, you know what a boulder is, you know, those big massive rocks, so there's a two-metre big rock. 05:08.967 --> 05:12.649 [SPEAKER_00]: Occasionally those rocks crack, do you know why they crack? 05:14.665 --> 05:28.895 [SPEAKER_00]: Because a little gap foams in the rock, a seed falls into that rainwater dirt over many years, a little weed grows, the weeds roots grow, eventually that pushes and it cracks a formidable rock apart. 05:31.376 --> 05:37.320 [SPEAKER_00]: So the seeds of this belief are like this, they enter the heart, as nothing. 05:38.761 --> 05:39.882 [SPEAKER_00]: And then before you know it, 05:42.319 --> 05:46.082 [SPEAKER_00]: A weed has come out, a tree has come out, and it's breaking the heart. 05:47.683 --> 05:55.608 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is why the Hadith that our Sheikh used to quote, used to be a Rajul al-Mukminah, wa yumsikafir, wa yumsimukminah, wa yusbih okafirah. 05:56.409 --> 06:03.013 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we already, a time will come where a person will go to sleep or Muslim wake up at this believer. 06:03.113 --> 06:05.535 [SPEAKER_00]: He will wake up at this believer, go to sleep. 06:06.035 --> 06:07.977 [SPEAKER_00]: Wake up at believer, go to sleep at this believer. 06:08.753 --> 06:15.597 [SPEAKER_00]: You know when I read the Hadith, most people read it as something to be afraid of and it is. 06:16.777 --> 06:19.439 [SPEAKER_00]: The question is, is this will not happen ordinarily? 06:20.459 --> 06:25.842 [SPEAKER_00]: Like what type of environment conditions would have to be created for this to become a reality? 06:27.103 --> 06:31.465 [SPEAKER_00]: Like it's, and this is the condition that it needs, 11 hours of programming. 06:39.455 --> 06:48.337 [SPEAKER_00]: So the religious ruling is that if the being is being mocked, you're not allowed to sit in that gathering. 06:48.998 --> 06:53.199 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're not allowed to sit in that gathering, you're not allowed to sit in that gathering. 06:53.899 --> 06:58.540 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't sit in that gathering until they change topics, then you can come back. 07:01.621 --> 07:08.163 [SPEAKER_00]: And when they mocked religion, or matters of religion, they told the prophet in Nama Kunna, 07:10.713 --> 07:15.554 [SPEAKER_00]: We were just joking, and this is called Abilahi, Sayyid, Allahi wa Jawking. 07:16.035 --> 07:19.155 [SPEAKER_00]: The matters of religion were joking, Halar and Harami wa Jawking. 07:19.475 --> 07:21.796 [SPEAKER_00]: Had Qafar, Tumbah, the Emanicum. 07:22.016 --> 07:24.337 [SPEAKER_00]: You have become disbelievers after you believe. 07:24.637 --> 07:26.237 [SPEAKER_00]: And the scoffer is Qafri Akbar. 07:27.337 --> 07:31.318 [SPEAKER_00]: It is a Khrajo, Khrajo, Minal, Minal, Minal, Minal. 07:31.638 --> 07:33.299 [SPEAKER_00]: And it requires not to come back in. 07:40.959 --> 07:44.001 [SPEAKER_00]: of Muslims hearing ill talk about religion. 07:44.221 --> 07:54.429 [SPEAKER_00]: Muslim seeing Islamic values being transgressed or trampled upon that he did not even allow us to sit in religion called it kofur. 07:57.871 --> 08:06.438 [SPEAKER_00]: Because of how pertinent and how important and how effective this medium is to the heart. 08:08.076 --> 08:14.541 [SPEAKER_00]: What do you think the ruling would have been on a child watching endless hours of encouragement to Haram? 08:16.262 --> 08:18.584 [SPEAKER_00]: Endless hours of encouragement to sin. 08:19.665 --> 08:27.992 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you see 10 different girls have boyfriends, and you don't have a boyfriend, you feel like you're abnormal and not doing the right thing. 08:29.179 --> 08:38.665 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you're parents or the one telling you don't do it, all of a sudden, the parent that is trying to protect his daughter is now becoming an oppressive, over-regulated father. 08:40.527 --> 08:47.992 [SPEAKER_00]: All of a sudden, the teenager is now talking about, I am being abused, I am being restricted, domestic violence at home. 08:55.315 --> 08:58.777 [SPEAKER_00]: So this is the fruits, the real question, D1s. 08:59.778 --> 09:12.666 [SPEAKER_00]: And I have told Shuyuk, I had an element, I had a little trouble, to talk about this in Yohodbas because the Umarah oblivious, the慢慢 dad are so out of touch with technology, they don't even know what's going on. 09:14.307 --> 09:20.311 [SPEAKER_00]: Or they're so such a big generational gap that they might know, but they don't want to let this business be. 09:22.272 --> 09:23.073 [SPEAKER_00]: But with his own, 09:24.248 --> 09:25.709 [SPEAKER_00]: hard earned money. 09:27.069 --> 09:32.312 [SPEAKER_00]: He comes, it gives his daughter, and son, a smartphone. 09:33.673 --> 09:39.455 [SPEAKER_00]: With his own hard money, he buys plans for them, internet data. 09:41.817 --> 09:46.939 [SPEAKER_00]: And his own house in which he's paying rent or mortgage, the child is housed. 09:49.460 --> 09:52.502 [SPEAKER_00]: In a room that you have furnished he locks himself. 09:54.065 --> 10:03.047 [SPEAKER_00]: For 14 hours, he's reeling, like where is the wisdom in the Umma Ghan? 10:06.428 --> 10:14.711 [SPEAKER_00]: Dear ones, many things on normal, many things are prevalent, many things are fashion, they're not necessarily right. 10:15.971 --> 10:19.652 [SPEAKER_00]: When Allah makes you a parent, he makes you responsible, 10:20.862 --> 10:25.123 [SPEAKER_00]: to save the child from Haram and direct him towards Halal. 10:25.843 --> 10:39.586 [SPEAKER_00]: Bideri liqawli lillahi t'ayla, y'a yuhallavi n'ayamanu, Quham fusakum wa ahli kumnara, save yourselves in your family from the fire. 10:40.467 --> 10:42.247 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a double problem here for you. 10:44.488 --> 10:46.188 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a double problem here for you. 10:48.155 --> 11:10.046 [SPEAKER_00]: His failure of the Ahira is a sin on you, like if you as the Lord of the House, as the Master of the House, as the Father of the House, if you are equipping your child with tools to do harm, 11:11.398 --> 11:15.579 [SPEAKER_00]: and pushing them towards Jahannam and fast-tracking them. 11:15.619 --> 11:23.881 [SPEAKER_00]: That way, you have failed in the task that Allah passed you with because he passed you with it. 11:25.601 --> 11:29.062 [SPEAKER_00]: In these matters, you don't worry about fashion. 11:30.042 --> 11:39.325 [SPEAKER_00]: You sit with the child, you research a little bit, you show him all the data, you show him all the research, you say sweetheart, I can't trust the old with you. 11:41.980 --> 11:47.104 [SPEAKER_00]: but the world is an ugly world, and I can't trust your reman to this. 11:48.985 --> 11:51.147 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's the matter of Achaera. 11:52.228 --> 12:08.980 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a, if you even leave Achaera aside, and the matter of dunya, my dear parents, my dear parents, on which planet, on which planet, will a young child 12:11.926 --> 12:20.330 [SPEAKER_00]: have a smartphone, data enabled, endless access, better at it than you, better at it than the government. 12:21.511 --> 12:27.153 [SPEAKER_00]: The government has my social media illegal, prohibited. 12:28.034 --> 12:32.496 [SPEAKER_00]: I have great seven kids come to me, sir, they have this video of you on TikTok. 12:32.536 --> 12:34.337 [SPEAKER_00]: I said, Habibi, where did you get TikTok from? 12:34.377 --> 12:36.538 [SPEAKER_00]: Because all don't worry, sir, there's why it's around it. 12:37.558 --> 12:40.600 [SPEAKER_00]: So smarter than the government, and get in their way. 12:42.712 --> 12:54.241 [SPEAKER_00]: Phone is here, book is here, in which planet, in which human will choose the book over this? 12:59.666 --> 13:00.847 [SPEAKER_00]: Like this is not rocket science. 13:02.922 --> 13:18.871 [SPEAKER_00]: there's social media here, there's connection here, there's external validation here, there's friends here, there's pornography here, there's movies here, there's games here, all a news, a news, and do algebra. 13:21.632 --> 13:22.753 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, let's have a minroba. 13:25.574 --> 13:30.557 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, and I have people I know, 13:33.632 --> 13:35.152 [SPEAKER_00]: out of a hundred, fourteen percent. 13:36.773 --> 13:45.595 [SPEAKER_00]: And mom and dad do not have the wisdom to say, Habibi, phone after you get to uni. 13:46.716 --> 13:50.797 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying it becomes halal there, it's slow to call us until at least get to uni. 13:53.898 --> 13:58.179 [SPEAKER_00]: So push this through the ones, phone after school finishes. 13:59.219 --> 14:00.980 [SPEAKER_00]: There is no need on the planet. 14:02.212 --> 14:06.253 [SPEAKER_00]: for a student, school age, to have a smartphone. 14:08.734 --> 14:12.035 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the distractions are much more. 14:12.976 --> 14:14.396 [SPEAKER_00]: So this is the second point. 14:15.137 --> 14:17.637 [SPEAKER_00]: Third point, psychologically damaging. 14:19.498 --> 14:23.619 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how much, like I look around that faces I'm scanning, who knows what here, you know. 14:24.220 --> 14:26.000 [SPEAKER_00]: Like a who's a aware of what. 14:26.901 --> 14:27.861 [SPEAKER_00]: But you see my face. 14:29.381 --> 14:30.642 [SPEAKER_00]: My face has its blemishes. 14:31.962 --> 14:33.643 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, I have a red spot on this side. 14:33.723 --> 14:36.584 [SPEAKER_00]: My nose is going to be red, I have a normal. 14:38.065 --> 14:39.506 [SPEAKER_00]: No, you understand. 14:40.847 --> 14:42.447 [SPEAKER_00]: This is a normal human face. 14:43.788 --> 14:46.710 [SPEAKER_00]: What a child sees online is not a normal human face. 14:47.810 --> 14:50.292 [SPEAKER_00]: They see a digitally enhanced face. 14:51.392 --> 14:52.813 [SPEAKER_00]: So faces look a lot smoother. 14:53.873 --> 14:56.295 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, there's no more spots in there this day. 14:57.335 --> 14:58.796 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you look at yourself, you go, 15:01.294 --> 15:02.315 [SPEAKER_00]: You look at your own picture. 15:03.035 --> 15:06.298 [SPEAKER_00]: You see reality, the digital one is much better than the real one, you know. 15:08.700 --> 15:11.922 [SPEAKER_00]: So these little girls boys for 11 hours. 15:12.843 --> 15:24.632 [SPEAKER_00]: And on age, where the psychologically emotionally delicate are 11 hours comparing nature to filter. 15:26.616 --> 15:31.357 [SPEAKER_00]: and feeling frustrated, annoyed, depressed, anxious. 15:32.458 --> 15:48.582 [SPEAKER_00]: His skin doesn't look like that skin, the shape of the body, not like that shape, the flower on his coffee, the Sheikh Burham shares sometimes on his WhatsApp, not like the dull coffee that he's having, family not as cool as his 11 hours of comparison. 15:50.122 --> 15:52.943 [SPEAKER_00]: At the end of it, you'll be lucky if you don't have psychosis. 15:55.708 --> 15:57.909 [SPEAKER_00]: And why do you think the government finally banned it? 15:57.929 --> 15:59.010 [SPEAKER_00]: Because they get money from it. 15:59.850 --> 16:05.794 [SPEAKER_00]: But finally, a tokenistic ban, because they have a duty to care at some stage. 16:05.874 --> 16:13.438 [SPEAKER_00]: Someone will say, Rabi, the child is, I am a child, committed suicide. 16:15.019 --> 16:16.960 [SPEAKER_00]: Because he couldn't get the perfect selfie. 16:17.761 --> 16:19.242 [SPEAKER_00]: He was trying what different angles. 16:19.262 --> 16:21.423 [SPEAKER_00]: There wasn't really hitting the thing. 16:23.802 --> 16:25.483 [SPEAKER_00]: So how does a child reach that level? 16:27.103 --> 16:30.685 [SPEAKER_00]: So there's a very small number of us sitting here in front of me here tonight. 16:32.306 --> 16:34.186 [SPEAKER_00]: But each one of you have four or five friends. 16:37.708 --> 16:40.429 [SPEAKER_00]: Guys, spread the word. 16:40.789 --> 16:43.750 [SPEAKER_00]: We need to take control of this problem. 16:45.271 --> 16:49.172 [SPEAKER_00]: As an educator, I tell you, there's no need for a child to have a phone. 16:52.185 --> 16:53.886 [SPEAKER_00]: UNICEFIN, until school is finished. 16:54.146 --> 16:57.886 [SPEAKER_00]: Having said that, I don't want you to do foolish things. 16:57.906 --> 17:00.567 [SPEAKER_00]: You go home, break the phone, just add in that Chaka tantrum. 17:01.747 --> 17:05.228 [SPEAKER_00]: And then before you know what you've created, ten other problems for yourself and for me. 17:05.968 --> 17:08.429 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I'll go away to this come from, and then I'll be whole done. 17:08.449 --> 17:09.609 [SPEAKER_00]: There was a man from the north. 17:12.050 --> 17:12.610 [SPEAKER_00]: Come to this. 17:13.697 --> 17:17.538 [SPEAKER_00]: Simple people of the South, and they said these things, and the consequent. 17:17.979 --> 17:28.623 [SPEAKER_00]: So with Hechema, with wisdom, as I say, search, research, make a case, sit with your children, talk to them, listen from them, advise them very hard for them. 17:28.643 --> 17:32.224 [SPEAKER_00]: They're addicted to let us go, but process, I have good news. 17:32.264 --> 17:34.585 [SPEAKER_00]: I told my students, I said, find the car. 17:35.616 --> 17:36.757 [SPEAKER_00]: the biggest car in your house. 17:37.518 --> 17:39.219 [SPEAKER_00]: Get this phone, put it under the tire. 17:39.800 --> 17:40.881 [SPEAKER_00]: Let someone reverse on it. 17:41.641 --> 17:42.582 [SPEAKER_00]: So I thought that was a joke. 17:42.843 --> 17:44.544 [SPEAKER_00]: Then someone came to me and said, I didn't. 17:45.845 --> 17:46.506 [SPEAKER_00]: No, no, we'll lie here. 17:46.586 --> 17:47.687 [SPEAKER_00]: I consider it an achievement. 17:48.648 --> 17:53.652 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, if you get rid of this, and one of the parents said, he goes, it's waste of money. 17:53.933 --> 17:55.554 [SPEAKER_00]: I said, money is better than life. 17:56.295 --> 17:57.636 [SPEAKER_00]: To waste money, better than life. 17:58.357 --> 17:59.558 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm okay with you breaking it. 18:01.579 --> 18:03.962 [SPEAKER_00]: If a child breaks it themselves, I'm not okay with you breaking it. 18:04.002 --> 18:06.065 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe if he's asleep and you accidentally break it, different story. 18:06.085 --> 18:07.628 [SPEAKER_00]: But point is figure out why around it. 18:08.669 --> 18:13.355 [SPEAKER_00]: I think people are here for Salashih and I don't want to overstay my welcome. 18:14.337 --> 18:16.219 [SPEAKER_00]: For your time and patience, I thank you. 18:16.260 --> 18:18.623 [SPEAKER_00]: My Allah, Allah, is accepted from us and from you. 18:18.643 --> 18:28.617 [SPEAKER_00]: And Allah, Allah, is a maker of those who, in this gathering, ends are called to, and Qumumah, Quhura, Laqum, Qadbud, Dilat, Sayyid, Alikum, Hassanat.