WEBVTT 00:00.537 --> 00:02.658 [SPEAKER_01]: I kind of worth a less specifically spoke to us about. 00:02.878 --> 00:08.880 [SPEAKER_01]: If you remember alcohol in toxication, he spoke to us about gambling. 00:09.560 --> 00:14.282 [SPEAKER_01]: That these are external threats that will threaten your well-being, okay? 00:14.762 --> 00:16.202 [SPEAKER_01]: So you have to be mindful about them. 00:16.222 --> 00:17.103 [SPEAKER_01]: What is Muhammad? 00:17.163 --> 00:18.503 [SPEAKER_01]: Muhammad, Muhammad, I'm not a human. 00:18.923 --> 00:28.966 [SPEAKER_01]: Any kind of a benefit that someone tries to sell you on, that could come from these substances, like in toxication or from gambling or the industry surrounding gambling, 00:30.607 --> 00:50.799 [SPEAKER_01]: La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la 00:58.577 --> 01:05.199 [SPEAKER_01]: What are some things you have to be mindful of internally within the community and even within yourself? 01:06.580 --> 01:16.903 [SPEAKER_01]: So one of the things that Allah's Pana Wa'Talah spoke to us about was giving charity, spending in the way of Allah, don't allow yourself to become stingy miserly. 01:18.768 --> 01:29.593 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't become so indulgent within fulfilling your own luxuries and dreams and desires that you would neglect the needs of the community. 01:30.433 --> 01:35.234 [SPEAKER_01]: You would neglect the responsibility of supporting the religious work that's going on. 01:35.894 --> 01:37.094 [SPEAKER_01]: We spoke about that previously. 01:37.454 --> 01:45.436 [SPEAKER_01]: Another thing that Allah SWT spoke to us about was, also there will be the vulnerable people in your community, like the orphans Yatama. 01:46.156 --> 01:48.077 [SPEAKER_01]: And Allah SWT spoke to us about that. 01:48.477 --> 01:53.258 [SPEAKER_01]: We are Saloonika Anil Yatama, Pul Islam, Al-Humkhayid, you have to take care of them. 01:53.558 --> 01:58.899 [SPEAKER_01]: That is your job, that is your responsibility, do your duty by taking care of the orphans. 02:00.534 --> 02:00.814 [SPEAKER_01]: OK? 02:01.955 --> 02:10.842 [SPEAKER_01]: Now that same conversation is continuing, a Los Pano Artala is warning us about other threats to our spiritual well-being. 02:12.863 --> 02:18.447 [SPEAKER_01]: And this is another combination between an internal and an external threat. 02:20.009 --> 02:21.590 [SPEAKER_01]: How is it a combination between the two? 02:21.630 --> 02:25.793 [SPEAKER_01]: Because here, a Los Pano Artala is speaking to us about marriage. 02:26.917 --> 02:35.105 [SPEAKER_01]: And obviously, the motivation for marriage, companionship, desire, wanting to be in a relationship. 02:36.186 --> 02:37.328 [SPEAKER_01]: So on and so forth, right? 02:38.209 --> 02:39.850 [SPEAKER_01]: That obviously comes internally. 02:41.031 --> 02:47.518 [SPEAKER_01]: But how do you go about practicing that in a way that does not sabotage you? 02:47.578 --> 02:49.180 [SPEAKER_01]: How do you not sabotage yourself? 02:50.090 --> 02:52.031 [SPEAKER_01]: and sabotage your own spirituality. 02:52.651 --> 03:00.835 [SPEAKER_01]: That you set out to fulfill a need and maybe you even had some religious motivation and justification in the fulfillment of that need. 03:00.875 --> 03:05.957 [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously, the Prophet ﷺ talked about marriage as completing half of your deem. 03:07.018 --> 03:09.839 [SPEAKER_01]: So there was a religious motivation at the core of that as well. 03:11.039 --> 03:14.441 [SPEAKER_01]: But then you went about it the wrong way and you ended up sabotaging yourself. 03:15.890 --> 03:17.631 [SPEAKER_01]: because you got into the wrong situation. 03:18.652 --> 03:28.777 [SPEAKER_01]: And then the external threat is obviously, because if you end up marrying in the wrong place, you're bringing an external threat into your own life into your own family, into your own community. 03:29.998 --> 03:32.899 [SPEAKER_01]: And so that's where a lost panorama thought I was warning us about this. 03:34.380 --> 03:43.185 [SPEAKER_01]: The other thing is this, before we get into a more specific conversation about the verse and what the verse speaks about, I always like to focus on the principles, the Usuri. 03:44.334 --> 03:48.977 [SPEAKER_01]: What do we learn from this verse in terms of a principle that we can extract? 03:50.458 --> 03:54.740 [SPEAKER_01]: And what this verse is telling us here are a few things. 03:54.840 --> 03:55.961 [SPEAKER_01]: I want you to think about these. 03:56.461 --> 04:11.230 [SPEAKER_01]: Number one is as we just said, that Allah SWT created us and attached to us, certain needs, necessities, desires, wants, things of that nature. 04:12.021 --> 04:12.301 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay? 04:12.901 --> 04:16.143 [SPEAKER_01]: We have certain needs and desires that we all have as human beings. 04:18.444 --> 04:28.107 [SPEAKER_01]: However, the way the manner, the method, the process that we go about in terms of fulfilling those needs and those desires is extremely critical. 04:29.048 --> 04:32.469 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's essentially what we call being, right? 04:32.729 --> 04:34.430 [SPEAKER_01]: That's exactly what the religion is. 04:41.070 --> 04:42.651 [SPEAKER_01]: We have the need to eat. 04:43.692 --> 04:45.513 [SPEAKER_01]: We need to nourish our bodies. 04:46.734 --> 04:50.156 [SPEAKER_01]: Hunger, thirst, it's normal, it's human, it's natural. 04:51.077 --> 04:54.679 [SPEAKER_01]: But how we go about that is basically our theme. 04:55.920 --> 05:01.304 [SPEAKER_01]: That I can't just eat whatever I want, whenever I want, however I want, but there's certain rules and regulations. 05:01.324 --> 05:04.266 [SPEAKER_01]: There's not many, but there are some rules and regulations. 05:05.386 --> 05:06.547 [SPEAKER_01]: We have to have a roof over our head. 05:06.567 --> 05:08.068 [SPEAKER_01]: We have to have clothes on our body. 05:08.088 --> 05:09.389 [SPEAKER_01]: We have to have shoes on our feet. 05:12.134 --> 05:15.497 [SPEAKER_01]: But there are some rules and regulations about how we go about an earning that money. 05:16.377 --> 05:19.580 [SPEAKER_01]: And just the fact that, but I need to support my family. 05:20.200 --> 05:20.981 [SPEAKER_01]: That's fine. 05:21.041 --> 05:22.742 [SPEAKER_01]: Nobody's disagreeing with the premise. 05:22.842 --> 05:24.043 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I have to feed myself. 05:24.403 --> 05:25.664 [SPEAKER_01]: I have to support myself. 05:26.525 --> 05:28.387 [SPEAKER_01]: Therefore, air go. 05:29.547 --> 05:34.972 [SPEAKER_01]: No, that's not a justification for then for me to go about whatever I want, however I want, whenever I want. 05:35.641 --> 05:36.622 [SPEAKER_01]: know absolutely not. 05:37.462 --> 05:39.163 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the whole point of the religion. 05:39.223 --> 05:41.545 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the discipline, that's the sacrifice. 05:42.025 --> 05:45.287 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's not a huge sacrifice that a lot asks of us. 05:46.248 --> 05:47.328 [SPEAKER_01]: It's very reasonable. 05:47.368 --> 05:48.489 [SPEAKER_01]: It's very moderate. 05:49.510 --> 05:54.853 [SPEAKER_01]: There's a handful of things that we have to be mindful of, but we do have to be mindful of those things. 05:55.233 --> 05:55.974 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the Dean. 05:56.234 --> 06:02.538 [SPEAKER_01]: So when a lost panel of Tala speaks about marriage here, yes, there are some things that are off limits when it comes to marriage. 06:03.491 --> 06:12.935 [SPEAKER_01]: And we can sit here and, right, not we specifically, but I'm saying, you know, people can then wine and cry about it. 06:13.675 --> 06:17.037 [SPEAKER_01]: They can bemoan the fact that there are all these rules and regulations. 06:17.077 --> 06:17.897 [SPEAKER_01]: Why is this not allowed? 06:17.917 --> 06:18.777 [SPEAKER_01]: Why is that not allowed? 06:19.017 --> 06:19.918 [SPEAKER_01]: Why isn't this allowed? 06:19.938 --> 06:21.038 [SPEAKER_01]: That doesn't make any sense to me. 06:21.058 --> 06:22.199 [SPEAKER_01]: And that doesn't make any sense. 06:22.999 --> 06:23.599 [SPEAKER_01]: We can do that. 06:25.260 --> 06:27.001 [SPEAKER_01]: But it's not going to change the fact that it matters. 06:28.421 --> 06:29.502 [SPEAKER_01]: The fact that the matter is, 06:33.674 --> 06:36.015 [SPEAKER_01]: We have to die and go back and answer to a law. 06:36.636 --> 06:39.337 [SPEAKER_01]: We're completely at his disposal in his mercy. 06:40.277 --> 06:41.838 [SPEAKER_01]: There's no getting around that fact. 06:43.679 --> 06:53.044 [SPEAKER_01]: And he, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, with his infinite power and infinite wisdom, has said, here are the rules. 06:55.666 --> 06:58.287 [SPEAKER_01]: And essentially, take it or leave it. 07:00.525 --> 07:01.426 [SPEAKER_01]: He wants us to take it. 07:01.946 --> 07:11.074 [SPEAKER_01]: He encourages us to rise very, very kind, to rise extremely merciful, to take it, take it, take it, listen, do it, it's good for you. 07:11.474 --> 07:13.355 [SPEAKER_01]: Take it, listen, right? 07:13.395 --> 07:14.616 [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously, you're lying, courage is us. 07:15.157 --> 07:17.899 [SPEAKER_01]: But ultimately, there is that point of Allah says, take it or leave it. 07:19.280 --> 07:23.284 [SPEAKER_01]: So I'm from Manchaffa, Luteman, or Manchaffa, liak for him. 07:25.205 --> 07:26.166 [SPEAKER_01]: You want to take it, then take it. 07:26.246 --> 07:28.468 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't want to, set your own, 07:29.658 --> 07:30.418 [SPEAKER_01]: at your own peril. 07:32.659 --> 07:34.540 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's where we exist. 07:34.720 --> 07:36.721 [SPEAKER_01]: Right in between that choices where we exist. 07:38.242 --> 07:40.583 [SPEAKER_01]: Al-Athal Al-Insani, Hino Minadahari. 07:41.103 --> 07:42.324 [SPEAKER_01]: Let me ask you a question. 07:42.364 --> 07:43.104 [SPEAKER_01]: We didn't exist. 07:44.305 --> 07:49.087 [SPEAKER_01]: In the Al-Athal Al-Insani, Mnutafatin, Amshadin, Nevitalihi, Fajalnahu, Samiya, Ambas, Iran. 07:49.567 --> 07:55.830 [SPEAKER_01]: In a lost panohar tala says, we created the human being from basically fluid, from nothing, from filth, 07:57.198 --> 07:59.779 [SPEAKER_01]: And now we are testing the human being. 07:59.859 --> 08:00.680 [SPEAKER_01]: You will be tested. 08:00.700 --> 08:01.920 [SPEAKER_01]: We are testing the human being. 08:02.200 --> 08:08.463 [SPEAKER_01]: Pajalna, Hussami, Ambas, Siddha, we gave the human being all these abilities and faculties and senses and everything, all these blessings. 08:09.163 --> 08:10.864 [SPEAKER_01]: Inna, Hadeena, Hussabila. 08:11.644 --> 08:17.087 [SPEAKER_01]: And then we laid out the path in front of the human being in Mashakir, Anwa, Imaqafura. 08:17.627 --> 08:24.390 [SPEAKER_01]: Now either you can be grateful and then do what you're told, or you can be ungrateful and refused to do what you're told. 08:27.330 --> 08:30.493 [SPEAKER_01]: But then you'll be told on the day of judgment, you made your bed and ally in it. 08:32.294 --> 08:33.215 [SPEAKER_01]: You reap what you sow. 08:34.376 --> 08:40.241 [SPEAKER_01]: And so that's something very important to understand about this injunction that Allah is speaking about here in terms of marriage. 08:40.661 --> 08:55.273 [SPEAKER_01]: Number two, the second thing that Allah's Pana'o Wa'ala as a principle that we learned from this particular verse, verse number 221, is that Allah's Pana'o Wa'ala speaks to us about something, Allah speaks in such a very real manner. 08:56.423 --> 08:59.284 [SPEAKER_01]: The Quran just speaks to us like in a very real way. 08:59.784 --> 09:01.004 [SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't dance around it. 09:01.064 --> 09:03.445 [SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't, you know, kind of like talk around it. 09:03.485 --> 09:04.725 [SPEAKER_01]: It speaks about a very real way. 09:05.065 --> 09:22.149 [SPEAKER_01]: The verse says, you cannot marry someone who fits this description, even if that's the most amazing person you've ever met, your perfect match, right? 09:26.359 --> 09:28.201 [SPEAKER_01]: You're so late, right? 09:30.042 --> 09:32.304 [SPEAKER_01]: But no, you just can't. 09:34.126 --> 09:34.466 [SPEAKER_01]: Why? 09:36.028 --> 09:37.549 [SPEAKER_01]: Because that person doesn't believe in a love. 09:38.911 --> 09:39.411 [SPEAKER_01]: That's why. 09:40.832 --> 09:52.363 [SPEAKER_01]: It's a very powerful reminder of the fact that the most important aspect of who we are, the biggest component of our identity, 09:54.068 --> 10:07.090 [SPEAKER_01]: The most fundamental aspect of our very being, our DNA, if you will, is our belief, our relationship, our connection to Allah. 10:08.411 --> 10:18.553 [SPEAKER_01]: And if that's not there, then every other aspect metric of personality or compatibility is meaningless. 10:22.553 --> 10:28.676 [SPEAKER_01]: And sometimes even, sometimes hearing that, let alone saying that, can be very difficult. 10:31.198 --> 10:32.839 [SPEAKER_00]: We feel skeptical even when we hear it. 10:33.619 --> 10:33.999 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know. 10:36.241 --> 10:36.501 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe. 10:38.402 --> 10:39.943 [SPEAKER_01]: But I absolutely know. 10:39.963 --> 10:40.583 [SPEAKER_01]: Allah SWT says no. 10:40.623 --> 10:41.924 [SPEAKER_01]: Beyond that point, then there's nothing. 10:42.724 --> 10:44.525 [SPEAKER_01]: Like that's the ultimate deal breaker. 10:46.527 --> 10:50.749 [SPEAKER_01]: And if that's not there, then no, then no gain, nothing. 10:52.182 --> 10:53.903 [SPEAKER_01]: There's no point to any other conversation. 10:55.344 --> 11:07.153 [SPEAKER_01]: And unless and until I understand that comprehend that internalized that, that's the most important thing to me. 11:07.213 --> 11:10.055 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the most important part of who I am, what I am. 11:10.996 --> 11:20.283 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's the most important consideration to me in every single decision aspect of life that I haven't figured it out. 11:22.122 --> 11:24.564 [SPEAKER_01]: that I am bound to continue to struggle. 11:26.985 --> 11:30.868 [SPEAKER_01]: And I will continue to feel confused and unstable. 11:32.549 --> 11:36.452 [SPEAKER_01]: Until I can figure this out, I can solve that. 11:37.913 --> 11:41.015 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's a very important thing that Allah SWT. 11:42.376 --> 11:50.362 [SPEAKER_01]: And the third principle is telling us that for the sake of that relationship with Allah, there will be sacrifices that will have to be made. 11:51.616 --> 12:11.907 [SPEAKER_01]: That no matter how much we want something, we desire something, we feel like we need something, but giving it up, sacrificing it, for the sake of our relationship with the lost panoatala, is what ultimately brings us success, happiness, tranquility, felicity, 12:12.972 --> 12:16.294 [SPEAKER_01]: and the eternal bliss of the life of the year after, the pleasure of Allah's Panoatallah. 12:16.934 --> 12:23.638 [SPEAKER_01]: And so these are some of the principles to keep in mind as we go through this particular ayah. 12:24.378 --> 12:26.680 [SPEAKER_01]: So let's take a look at the ayah now. 12:27.900 --> 12:31.982 [SPEAKER_01]: First of all, Allah's Panoatallah here speaks to the men. 12:33.203 --> 12:35.164 [SPEAKER_01]: And Allah says, well, I think you have a mushiri. 12:35.204 --> 12:36.265 [SPEAKER_01]: Gati Hatta, you mean. 12:36.765 --> 12:40.787 [SPEAKER_01]: So one other thing that we always talk about is the background story. 12:43.505 --> 12:55.588 [SPEAKER_01]: One of the narrations, or the primary narration that is mentioned about the background of this particular ayah, is the fact that there was a Sahabi of the Prophet ﷺ. 12:55.928 --> 13:02.650 [SPEAKER_01]: His name is Mirthad, Ibn Abhimirthad. 13:04.551 --> 13:09.892 [SPEAKER_01]: He was originally from Makkah, and he had made the hijra. 13:09.912 --> 13:12.093 [SPEAKER_01]: He became Muslim and made the hijra to Medina. 13:13.446 --> 13:26.112 [SPEAKER_01]: The Prophet ﷺ sent him back to Makkah to help bring some people who were looking to get out of Makkah, escaped the oppression in Makkah and make it to Al-Madina. 13:27.412 --> 13:33.275 [SPEAKER_01]: So he was from Makkah, he came to Medina and then the Prophet ﷺ sent him back to Makkah to bring more people to Medina. 13:43.287 --> 13:50.353 [SPEAKER_01]: that he had an illicit relationship with before Islam in Jagliya. 13:51.014 --> 14:08.190 [SPEAKER_01]: There was a woman in Makkah, she was a musshareka, she did not believe in Allah, she was an idolatist, she worked worship titles, and he happened upon her, she met him, and they had a relationship before Islam, and 14:10.172 --> 14:15.395 [SPEAKER_01]: When he was back in Makashi, basically, tried to rekindle their relationship. 14:18.437 --> 14:23.781 [SPEAKER_01]: When she spoke to him, he said that absolutely no way hacky. 14:24.081 --> 14:25.582 [SPEAKER_01]: He said, no, no, no, no, get away from me. 14:25.982 --> 14:26.723 [SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely not. 14:27.603 --> 14:31.365 [SPEAKER_01]: In the Islamabad halab inana, Islam is a barrier. 14:32.886 --> 14:38.430 [SPEAKER_01]: I cannot engage in an inappropriate relationship because of my Islam. 14:39.737 --> 14:52.444 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so then she said, okay, I understand you guys advocate for marriage as opposed to just having a relationship, you get married, he said, yes. 14:53.244 --> 14:55.806 [SPEAKER_01]: So then she said, Fahal Nakantat is a wedge B. 14:56.506 --> 14:57.987 [SPEAKER_01]: So then why don't we get married? 15:00.254 --> 15:13.302 [SPEAKER_01]: So then he said, okay, I need to go back to the messenger of Allah, and I need to consult with the Prophet of Allah, the Prophet of Allah, the Prophet of Allah. 15:13.322 --> 15:23.069 [SPEAKER_01]: First, when he got back to Medina, he spoke to the Prophet of Allah, who said, I'm about this situation and told him all the details and informed him that she does not believe in Allah, she worships idols. 15:23.369 --> 15:25.090 [SPEAKER_01]: She's not interested in accepting Islam. 15:26.329 --> 15:32.194 [SPEAKER_01]: And then that's when this verse was revealed that brought the ruling, while I think you're holding Mushirikati, Hatayumin. 15:33.415 --> 15:36.658 [SPEAKER_01]: You cannot Muslim men, you may not. 15:36.938 --> 15:47.466 [SPEAKER_01]: You are not allowed to marry Mushirik women, women who worship idols who are not Muslim until they believe. 15:49.688 --> 15:53.952 [SPEAKER_01]: And then Allah SWT stated, while I'm aton, Muqminatun, 15:56.879 --> 16:11.743 [SPEAKER_01]: Instead of marrying a free, wealthy, respectable woman who has social status and comes from an elite family, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. 16:11.803 --> 16:16.485 [SPEAKER_01]: She's very educated, she has a lot of wealth, she has a great career, all of those things. 16:17.145 --> 16:18.505 [SPEAKER_01]: But she does not believe in Allah. 16:18.946 --> 16:19.866 [SPEAKER_01]: She worships idols. 16:21.173 --> 16:40.731 [SPEAKER_01]: Instead of that woman, if you were to marry a poor and educated, illiterate slave woman who is a Muslim, who believes in Allah, fears Allah, worships Allah, has a relationship with Allah, 16:49.314 --> 17:03.259 [SPEAKER_01]: So marrying that woman that doesn't have all those credentials and accolades but she's a believing woman, a pious righteous woman, someone who fears Allah, that is better for you. 17:04.739 --> 17:13.122 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, oh Jabbatkum and then Allah says, even if the mushyiq woman, the woman that doesn't believe in Allah, even though 17:15.160 --> 17:19.182 [SPEAKER_01]: She's someone that really, you're enamored with. 17:21.283 --> 17:22.124 [SPEAKER_01]: She's impressive. 17:23.645 --> 17:27.166 [SPEAKER_01]: She checks every box, doesn't matter. 17:29.588 --> 17:36.751 [SPEAKER_01]: And then Allah's Pana wa Ta'ala says on the flip side, while I don't know how many musshirikina had I known. 17:37.932 --> 17:39.873 [SPEAKER_01]: And because of the custom, 17:41.386 --> 17:49.269 [SPEAKER_01]: of the fact that Muslim women have a wellie, they have a guardian, like the father of the bride, right? 17:50.049 --> 18:07.995 [SPEAKER_01]: So it addresses here, the guardians, the fathers, is saying, do not marry off your women, like your daughters, do not marry them off to mushytic men, until they believe, unless they believe. 18:09.426 --> 18:15.349 [SPEAKER_01]: same thing in the first case, Hattai Yutmin, if they accept Islam, if they become Muslim, then absolutely. 18:16.370 --> 18:21.213 [SPEAKER_01]: But unless and until they believe, that is not an option, that is not on the table. 18:23.154 --> 18:35.841 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, Aragha Dun, Mokminun, and a Muslim believing, devout, righteous, God-fearing, slave-servant is better, 18:39.187 --> 18:41.227 [SPEAKER_01]: Then a man who does not believe in Allah. 18:41.767 --> 18:44.228 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, ah, jabbakum, it doesn't matter how impressive he is. 18:46.048 --> 18:52.709 [SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't matter how illustrious his biodata is, right? 18:52.909 --> 18:54.710 [SPEAKER_01]: His profile is, it doesn't matter. 18:55.910 --> 18:56.870 [SPEAKER_01]: He doesn't believe in Allah. 18:58.731 --> 19:00.191 [SPEAKER_01]: And then Allah's panel with Talas says, 19:08.238 --> 19:10.060 [SPEAKER_01]: They are calling to the hellfire. 19:10.960 --> 19:12.842 [SPEAKER_01]: Now that might seem a bit strong to someone. 19:13.322 --> 19:16.345 [SPEAKER_01]: But just because they don't believe in a love, they're trying to drag everybody to hell. 19:17.926 --> 19:28.215 [SPEAKER_01]: But whether it's being done intentionally or unintentionally is irrelevant, whether it's being done intentionally or unintentionally is irrelevant, it doesn't matter. 19:29.196 --> 19:31.698 [SPEAKER_01]: The point is that a lost panorortal I say, 19:32.896 --> 19:44.749 [SPEAKER_01]: Day, what they believe in, how they live their lives, the choices they inevitably will make, all eventually ends up in leads to the fire of hell. 19:48.594 --> 19:53.019 [SPEAKER_01]: And on the flip side, Wallah, hu'yada, hu'yada, hu'yada, hu'yada, hu'yada, hu'yada. 19:54.055 --> 20:06.808 [SPEAKER_01]: wa l-Maghafirati b-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn-Ibn- 20:16.930 --> 20:32.319 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, sometimes, in certain parts of the world, in certain places, like I studied abroad overseas in a predominantly, not just a majority, it's like a 99% Muslim society. 20:34.421 --> 20:37.803 [SPEAKER_01]: And I've heard, you know, my teachers, 20:39.398 --> 20:41.639 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, speak about like this verse, for example. 20:42.360 --> 20:46.582 [SPEAKER_01]: And when they would speak about it in their context, obviously it's a ruling straightforward. 20:46.602 --> 20:51.825 [SPEAKER_01]: They would speak about it, but to them, it was like a very foreign conversation. 20:51.925 --> 20:57.228 [SPEAKER_01]: Like it's unfathomable, and imaginable, why would a Muslim ever be marrying an Muslim? 20:57.288 --> 21:01.030 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, because 99.9% of the people here are Muslim. 21:02.731 --> 21:08.334 [SPEAKER_01]: But what's very interesting is in our context, this is a very real conversation. 21:10.705 --> 21:33.013 [SPEAKER_01]: And, you know, sometimes when they talk about certain practices, certain experiments, social or otherwise, you sometimes don't know or understand the full implications and ramifications of it until maybe sometimes a generation or two generations down the road. 21:34.074 --> 21:34.254 [SPEAKER_01]: Right? 21:34.394 --> 21:36.635 [SPEAKER_01]: Even Haldune even spoke, speaks about this. 21:37.691 --> 21:48.416 [SPEAKER_01]: that you end up realizing the full, you know, ripple effect of something like two generations down. 21:48.436 --> 21:52.798 [SPEAKER_01]: And for a lot of the younger folks, you might not have that perspective. 21:53.820 --> 22:00.044 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's where we are, it's always fascinating, we're having discussions and conversations with the young folks in our community. 22:00.565 --> 22:20.158 [SPEAKER_01]: And they sometimes will push back or not really understand and I don't see what the big deal is and I don't know, I don't see your perspective, but being old enough to now having seen two, three generations here in this country, in this society, right? 22:21.139 --> 22:22.100 [SPEAKER_01]: We actually really saw. 22:24.198 --> 22:33.200 [SPEAKER_01]: that when people did not respect what Allah SWT said here, that when it talks about, right, it might seem quite extreme. 22:33.220 --> 22:41.182 [SPEAKER_01]: It might seem really heavy to someone that they are calling you to the hell fire, they are leading you to the hell fire, like, whoa. 22:43.623 --> 22:47.684 [SPEAKER_01]: That we saw, we experienced, we witnessed this. 22:55.258 --> 22:57.899 [SPEAKER_01]: And you can imagine at that time, right? 22:57.919 --> 23:01.241 [SPEAKER_01]: Just to give you context, there was not a single must-chid. 23:02.702 --> 23:11.766 [SPEAKER_01]: The first must-jid, place of prayer, Musullah, in the whole DFW Metroplex, was established 40 years ago. 23:12.906 --> 23:13.467 [SPEAKER_01]: I remember it. 23:15.127 --> 23:16.848 [SPEAKER_01]: So now you go back 50, 60 years. 23:17.368 --> 23:18.549 [SPEAKER_01]: There's not even a place to pray. 23:19.609 --> 23:21.250 [SPEAKER_01]: There's no such thing as Salatun Jumwa. 23:22.051 --> 23:22.711 [SPEAKER_01]: There's no must-jid. 23:24.098 --> 23:29.859 [SPEAKER_01]: So imagine now what you're speaking about, what you're talking about, what you're dealing with in terms of the amount of Muslims. 23:30.880 --> 23:34.521 [SPEAKER_01]: It's a very, very dire desperate situation. 23:36.221 --> 23:40.802 [SPEAKER_01]: So in that context, you figure like, yeah, what else are people supposed to do? 23:43.023 --> 23:47.264 [SPEAKER_01]: But just because somebody's situation might have been more difficult, it still doesn't change what the outcome is. 23:49.665 --> 23:51.425 [SPEAKER_01]: The vast overwhelming, 23:53.028 --> 24:01.774 [SPEAKER_01]: I can't give you a specific percentage, but I feel pretty comfortable saying like 90 percent. 24:01.814 --> 24:02.914 [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I can say that. 24:04.115 --> 24:19.545 [SPEAKER_01]: The vast overwhelming majority of the situations in which even Muslim men married non-Muslim women, their children didn't remain Muslim. 24:24.855 --> 24:35.963 [SPEAKER_01]: No matter what other argument you have to make, oh, but I feel like if we talk it through and we go to pre-marital counseling and LOL, right? 24:37.545 --> 24:38.565 [SPEAKER_01]: It's just delusional. 24:39.546 --> 24:48.693 [SPEAKER_01]: You're telling me two people, this person is married to someone, the mother of that child does not believe in Allah. 24:50.234 --> 24:50.875 [SPEAKER_01]: Muhammad, 24:52.266 --> 24:55.168 [SPEAKER_01]: sallallahu alaihi wa sallam is just a name. 24:56.669 --> 25:02.312 [SPEAKER_01]: When you say Muhammad, she probably thinks of like your cousin, not a surah alaihi sallahu alaihi sallam. 25:05.034 --> 25:10.418 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's not going to have any effect or impact on the e-man of your children. 25:12.379 --> 25:13.680 [SPEAKER_01]: That's delusional thinking. 25:15.921 --> 25:18.122 [SPEAKER_01]: That is quite literally the definition of delusion. 25:22.560 --> 25:38.308 [SPEAKER_01]: And for those who kind of hung on by a string, right, where they were just given a Muslim name, so they were kind of awkwardly stuck calling themselves a mod for the rest of their lives. 25:39.369 --> 25:41.650 [SPEAKER_01]: And so they had some kind of loose association. 25:43.211 --> 25:45.472 [SPEAKER_01]: I know of an individual like this. 25:47.920 --> 25:58.284 [SPEAKER_01]: And probably from the time when we were kids, like teenagers, I never saw that individual in the must of ever again, not until his father's genazah. 26:01.285 --> 26:02.305 [SPEAKER_01]: And I haven't seen him since then. 26:02.665 --> 26:04.466 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not passing judgment on his e-mon. 26:04.586 --> 26:11.448 [SPEAKER_01]: I have no idea what's in his heart, but I'm pretty sure that's not what that father wanted for his son. 26:13.749 --> 26:16.050 [SPEAKER_01]: For his son to never even see the door of the must of it. 26:17.573 --> 26:18.654 [SPEAKER_01]: So these are realities. 26:21.056 --> 26:29.484 [SPEAKER_01]: These are not stuffy old, religious men sitting around just being angry and being like, no, no, no, there's barking, no at everybody all the time. 26:29.784 --> 26:30.605 [SPEAKER_01]: That's all what it's about. 26:32.342 --> 26:34.423 [SPEAKER_01]: This is not some kind of like fear-mongering. 26:35.003 --> 26:36.564 [SPEAKER_01]: This is very, very real. 26:36.644 --> 26:50.289 [SPEAKER_01]: So as I was saying, even the minority of that generation that barely kind of hung on to some loose connection to maybe being Muslim, their children, their children definitely did not make it to them. 26:52.731 --> 27:00.754 [SPEAKER_01]: And so Hanallah, I've actually known people in the community who took their Shahada, 27:02.211 --> 27:18.221 [SPEAKER_01]: who actually realized later that their grandfather, their grandmother, was a Muslim, who married an on Muslim, and then their own mother or father, product of that marriage, was not Muslim at all. 27:19.021 --> 27:22.564 [SPEAKER_01]: And then the grandchild, then grew up Muslim at all. 27:23.644 --> 27:24.365 [SPEAKER_01]: And then one day, 27:25.474 --> 27:38.577 [SPEAKER_01]: in college, right in MSA, or as an adult, saw a video, or met somebody, and was given a pamphlet, or watched a video, or something like that, and then found their way, and was already interested in Islam. 27:38.617 --> 27:50.280 [SPEAKER_01]: And after themselves, individually, separately, becoming interested in Islam, then they look back and they're kind of like, wow, I have no idea, apparently my grandma was Muslim. 27:53.821 --> 27:55.802 [SPEAKER_01]: And so that's just a pure miracle. 27:55.863 --> 28:02.547 [SPEAKER_01]: And the fact that Allah's Panoat Al-Agaid is going to show you rules, but that does not absolve that person who made that irresponsible choice. 28:03.728 --> 28:05.169 [SPEAKER_01]: Because Allah told you not to do that. 28:06.670 --> 28:09.572 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's what Allah's Panoat Al-Az talking about here in this ayah. 28:10.033 --> 28:13.335 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's a very, very harsh reality. 28:14.056 --> 28:16.718 [SPEAKER_01]: But that's what Allah's Panoat Al-Az telling us to be mindful of. 28:18.159 --> 28:22.182 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, there is one technical detail. 28:23.096 --> 28:43.436 [SPEAKER_01]: that I'd be remiss if I did not mention, and that technical detail is, so the fact that a Muslim woman cannot marry anyone but a Muslim man, definitively, absolutely. 28:45.738 --> 28:47.280 [SPEAKER_01]: When it comes to a Muslim man, 28:49.393 --> 29:00.361 [SPEAKER_01]: He should is encouraged to marry a Muslim woman but one exception exists, so we'll say it like this. 29:00.481 --> 29:06.425 [SPEAKER_01]: A Muslim man should only marry a Muslim woman, but there is one exception. 29:06.825 --> 29:13.910 [SPEAKER_01]: The one exception is that a Muslim man can get married to a Jewish or Christian woman. 29:15.105 --> 29:27.734 [SPEAKER_01]: And that exemption exists is provided by diverse in suratul maida, where Allah SWT gives us that particular exemption. 29:28.615 --> 29:41.364 [SPEAKER_01]: Waul moch sanati min al-Mahsanaatul min al-Mahsanaatul min al-Mahsanaatul min al-Mahsanaatul min al-Mahsanaatul min al-Mahsanaatul min al-Dinautul Kitabah min al-Kabilikum da ataytumuhun na ujurahun suratul maida surrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr 29:46.609 --> 30:11.903 [SPEAKER_01]: And however, I will share with you a fascinating narration about Umar bin l-khattabra, the Allah Qutjala Anhu, that is narrated in Qutjabul-Athar, a vimam Muhammadul bin l-Hassana Shabani, Rahmullah Qutjala, in which Umar l-Allah Qutjala Anhu, he found out about two of the companions of the Prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. 30:12.223 --> 30:13.564 [SPEAKER_01]: Tullah had to obey the Allah, 30:16.490 --> 30:23.311 [SPEAKER_01]: that they had gone to Beladosham, the Levant, the region of Palestine, Syria, they went there. 30:23.591 --> 30:27.872 [SPEAKER_01]: And obviously there were a lot of Christian people there and then Islam went to those places. 30:28.872 --> 30:38.894 [SPEAKER_01]: So when they went there, he found out that they had entertained the idea of marrying, you know, a Christian woman from there, okay? 30:38.914 --> 30:41.275 [SPEAKER_01]: They both were thinking about marrying Christian women there. 30:43.052 --> 30:49.193 [SPEAKER_01]: And that because of them doing that, entertaining that idea, other Muslim men were considering that as well. 30:49.933 --> 30:53.814 [SPEAKER_01]: And Umar al-Radiya l-Aqut al-Anhu reached out to them. 30:54.814 --> 31:04.456 [SPEAKER_01]: And he basically said, I demand that you give up this pursuit of marrying these Christian women immediately. 31:06.617 --> 31:07.677 [SPEAKER_01]: Umar al-Radiya l-Aqut al-Dim? 31:08.037 --> 31:08.357 [SPEAKER_01]: Stop. 31:11.222 --> 31:18.225 [SPEAKER_01]: Haditha Radilakut al-Anhu asked, Omaradil al-Anhu, his leader, his Khalifa, he asked him, he is Amir. 31:19.145 --> 31:22.927 [SPEAKER_01]: At az'a'amu anna'aharaan, Ya'amir al-Mumminin, I ask. 31:23.807 --> 31:24.988 [SPEAKER_01]: To learn, I inquire. 31:26.268 --> 31:32.391 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you consider it to be hara like not allowed, because it's in a verse in the Quran that it's allowed? 31:33.972 --> 31:34.352 [SPEAKER_01]: He said, 31:35.390 --> 31:55.000 [SPEAKER_01]: Because if I'm, oh, yeah, I don't think it's Haram, because of the verse and the Quran, but if your interpretation is that it's Haram, you are the leader, following you is important, and I will give it up for O'Halli, Sabil Hayah, I will immediately give up this pursuit. 31:57.141 --> 32:00.623 [SPEAKER_01]: Omar al-Radi al-Laghut al-Anu responded to him, and he said, La Az'A'A'Mu'Anah Haram, 32:02.133 --> 32:03.334 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not saying that it's haram. 32:03.494 --> 32:07.415 [SPEAKER_01]: The verse of the Quran allows it, makes an exception for it. 32:08.135 --> 32:09.716 [SPEAKER_01]: I cannot overrule the Quran. 32:11.057 --> 32:16.099 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, I can meet a half, but I worry, I am concerned. 32:16.699 --> 32:26.523 [SPEAKER_01]: Unto atu al-Mumisat minhum, that I am afraid that there will be unintended consequences to this. 32:27.083 --> 32:28.684 [SPEAKER_01]: One of the things that he mentioned is 32:32.973 --> 32:44.456 [SPEAKER_01]: One of them is that by doing this, you are actually ignoring the Muslim women in your community who are looking to get married. 32:46.117 --> 32:51.258 [SPEAKER_01]: So you are ignoring the needs of your own community and going outside of your community. 32:51.999 --> 32:56.780 [SPEAKER_01]: Number two is that the effect that this will have on your future progeny and generations. 32:57.993 --> 33:02.536 [SPEAKER_01]: Number three is, these are not people who share your same beliefs. 33:03.497 --> 33:06.819 [SPEAKER_01]: And therefore, they won't always have your same morals and your same ethics. 33:07.580 --> 33:11.323 [SPEAKER_01]: And you might end up getting into a situation that you will regret down the road. 33:12.984 --> 33:17.947 [SPEAKER_01]: So because of all of these concerns, Arma Radega Lakvita Laan who said that I do not think that this is wise. 33:18.368 --> 33:19.869 [SPEAKER_01]: And it is for this reason, 33:21.382 --> 33:49.210 [SPEAKER_01]: that the scholars have written, the Ursul Yun, the scholars of Ursul have written, and Ibrahim Hattaz Iwajil Muslimi Bil Kitabiyati, who, in Filwaki, Ibrahim Hattun, is Tithnaigian Waleysat Aslan, that the exemption that exists in the verse of Svetlanaida of a Muslim man marrying a Christian or Jewish woman is an exception to the rule and we don't make rules out of exceptions. 33:50.052 --> 34:14.530 [SPEAKER_01]: It was allowed for exceptional scenarios when Islam was initially spreading and Muslim armies and Muslim men were going to places and then they were given the responsibility of like establishing a community, establishing Islam there that that was like an initial way to start setting up the community and starting to establish a Muslim society there but that was never meant to be the norm. 34:14.891 --> 34:16.952 [SPEAKER_01]: That was never meant to be the standard. 34:17.352 --> 34:19.294 [SPEAKER_01]: You're not supposed to pursue that. 34:20.762 --> 34:23.863 [SPEAKER_01]: And so that's a very clear understanding that we also have. 34:24.183 --> 34:42.650 [SPEAKER_01]: So I have to mention, as a way of almost like a legal responsibility, that Allah's Pano-Athala and the verse of Salat al-Mahida allows as an exceptional scenario that a Muslim man can marry a Jewish or Christian woman, but that was never intended to be the standard, the norm and the general practice. 34:43.560 --> 34:48.865 [SPEAKER_01]: It's an exceptional scenario that should be practiced when and as needed. 34:49.505 --> 34:56.011 [SPEAKER_01]: But if and when it starts to become the norm, there will be dire consequences. 34:57.172 --> 35:00.716 [SPEAKER_01]: As we spoke about earlier, that you will be literally 35:02.320 --> 35:06.023 [SPEAKER_01]: sacrificing the faith of your future progeny and future generations. 35:06.304 --> 35:14.111 [SPEAKER_01]: And if we think that we won't be held accountable before Allah's Panoatala, for that decision, then we are sorely mistaken. 35:15.532 --> 35:20.817 [SPEAKER_01]: And I'll conclude with this Allah's Panoatala in the IA. 35:22.122 --> 35:23.764 [SPEAKER_01]: At the conclusion of the ayah Allah says, 35:40.493 --> 35:44.015 [SPEAKER_01]: But there's a very important qualifier, Allah says, by his will, by his permission. 35:44.375 --> 36:01.665 [SPEAKER_01]: And Imam Arasay, Muhammad Allah, who to Allah, the great exegi, the great mufasir of the Quran, he says that whenever Allah's para'atalla talks about the success of the life of the hereafter, forgiveness, going to genna, going to paradise, pleasing Allah, whenever he talks about that Allah always has be even a he. 36:02.145 --> 36:02.426 [SPEAKER_01]: Why? 36:02.826 --> 36:08.089 [SPEAKER_01]: Because any kind of a blessing that comes from, especially our spiritual blessings, 36:08.409 --> 36:09.830 [SPEAKER_01]: It's always important for us to remember. 36:10.130 --> 36:13.032 [SPEAKER_01]: It is only by the will in the permission of Allah that we are able to do good. 36:13.452 --> 36:23.339 [SPEAKER_01]: Allah SWT tells us in Surat Yunus when Makan il-e-Nafsen and Tukmina il-e-Lab ifnillah no one can believe, have iman unless Allah allows them to. 36:23.839 --> 36:33.126 [SPEAKER_01]: When Makan il-e-Nafsen and Tumutah il-e-Lab ifnillah in Surat al-e-Mran, no soul can die upon Islam unless Allah allows them to. 36:33.726 --> 36:52.787 [SPEAKER_01]: Wamakum bidar reina bhihimin ahadin illa bhi ibn ila bhi ibn ila in suratul bhakar al-allahu al-allahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu alahu al 36:53.047 --> 37:03.970 [SPEAKER_01]: make dua and we ask Allah to give us forgiveness to grant us peace and tranquility, to grant us success of this life in the year after and to allow us to enter paradise by His permission. 37:04.430 --> 37:09.172 [SPEAKER_01]: And finally Allah says, while you beg you, you know, Iatahili Nasi, la Allahum yatah de karun. 37:09.532 --> 37:18.694 [SPEAKER_01]: This is how Allah's panorama explains His signs, His verses, His instruction to us, so that we may reflect upon it. 37:19.454 --> 37:19.654 [SPEAKER_01]: Right? 37:19.935 --> 37:21.315 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's what we spoke about earlier. 37:22.536 --> 37:27.141 [SPEAKER_01]: With the first time when we hear these rulings, we can scoff at them. 37:28.022 --> 37:29.444 [SPEAKER_01]: We can be offended by them. 37:30.185 --> 37:31.606 [SPEAKER_01]: We can be bothered by it. 37:32.747 --> 37:39.795 [SPEAKER_01]: Or we can actually sit and deeply think and reflect upon what Allah said and why Allah said what He said. 37:40.750 --> 37:46.994 [SPEAKER_01]: and what are the outcomes, what are the consequences, what are the implications, what are the repercussions of what Allah has said? 37:47.575 --> 37:54.019 [SPEAKER_01]: And if we put that time in, essentially the exercise we're talking about is, tadapur, that's what Allah tells us. 37:54.139 --> 38:03.245 [SPEAKER_01]: A falagat tadaparun al-Koran reflect on this Quran, because if we put that time and energy into it, if we invest that time and energy into it, 38:04.406 --> 38:06.288 [SPEAKER_01]: We will profoundly benefit from it. 38:06.328 --> 38:17.923 [SPEAKER_01]: And we'll understand how remarkable, how wise, and how powerful the Quran is, and that the only way to live a life of meaning, purpose, dignity, honor, 38:19.414 --> 38:25.238 [SPEAKER_01]: is to live a life that is in accordance with the command and the order of Allah SWT. 38:25.578 --> 38:29.581 [SPEAKER_01]: May Allah SWT grant us all the ability to practice everything we've said and heard. 38:29.881 --> 38:32.022 [SPEAKER_01]: Some Hana Allah He will be happy to be here, some Hana Allah will be happy to be here. 38:32.042 --> 38:32.823 [SPEAKER_01]: Nasha'u la ilaha illa'a'a'anta. 38:32.843 --> 38:35.845 [SPEAKER_01]: Nasa'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a