WEBVTT 00:00.151 --> 00:05.716 [SPEAKER_00]: And so it's in a Khadija finally says to her, well, I've been thinking about proposing to hummets that I don't know how. 00:06.096 --> 00:06.436 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know. 00:06.456 --> 00:10.480 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, not only is it so un-customary of her time, but how do you do this? 00:10.900 --> 00:13.582 [SPEAKER_00]: So being the good friend that Nafi says, she says, I'll take care of it. 00:14.723 --> 00:16.785 [UNKNOWN]: Thank you so much. 00:17.265 --> 00:19.206 [SPEAKER_00]: It's really, you'll do that for me, yes, I'll do that for you. 00:19.286 --> 00:22.447 [SPEAKER_00]: And so she does this in a beautiful, etiquette way because you don't know, right? 00:22.487 --> 00:24.207 [SPEAKER_00]: What if she's already thinking of someone else? 00:24.227 --> 00:27.149 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, how do you, you know, how do you you don't want to put her in an embarrassing situation either? 00:27.569 --> 00:29.849 [SPEAKER_00]: So, Nefisa goes over to say at the Nama Hammond. 00:29.990 --> 00:31.190 [SPEAKER_00]: And she, it's a very beautiful haul. 00:31.230 --> 00:36.932 [SPEAKER_00]: She asks that she says to him, you know, her exact words are, what is preventing you from getting in airing? 00:37.832 --> 00:38.632 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, are you married? 00:38.652 --> 00:39.332 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you interested? 00:39.372 --> 00:40.193 [SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no, no. 00:40.273 --> 00:41.793 [SPEAKER_00]: What's preventing you from getting married? 00:42.353 --> 00:48.114 [SPEAKER_00]: That's so the prophet's a law, I said, I'm telling you, you know, sitting at the feast, and he says to her, I'm not in a financial position to do so. 00:49.494 --> 00:53.175 [SPEAKER_00]: I can't take care of a wife and a family, and I don't have the means. 00:54.015 --> 00:59.056 [SPEAKER_00]: So the feast is very smartly says to him, what if the means or not an issue? 01:02.496 --> 01:03.697 [SPEAKER_00]: What if that wasn't a problem? 01:04.197 --> 01:05.897 [SPEAKER_00]: What if the woman was wealthy? 01:06.649 --> 01:08.310 [SPEAKER_00]: and beautiful and honorable. 01:11.151 --> 01:13.412 [SPEAKER_00]: And so the professor of Salem says, well, who's that? 01:15.533 --> 01:17.354 [SPEAKER_00]: And she says to him, Khadija. 01:18.294 --> 01:23.677 [SPEAKER_00]: And so he didn't say no, he was kind of quiet and he's interested as so she's very excited. 01:24.197 --> 01:24.337 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? 01:24.357 --> 01:26.638 [SPEAKER_00]: And if he says about Rachel, she's not Khadija. 01:27.098 --> 01:30.240 [SPEAKER_00]: It's all her, you know, that there is a potential yours, Phanoma. 01:31.188 --> 01:36.852 [SPEAKER_00]: And you know, she consults, so he, the prophesy, said him, consults his uncle Abu Taliyah, who thinks that this is a good match. 01:37.252 --> 01:39.933 [SPEAKER_00]: And since in a Khadija consults her uncle, right? 01:40.234 --> 01:41.274 [SPEAKER_00]: And they think it's a good match. 01:41.334 --> 01:46.978 [SPEAKER_00]: And Subhanullah, right for Sikha Tamul, just kind of wrapped this piece together and say, both families agree. 01:47.358 --> 01:51.901 [SPEAKER_00]: And Hamdulillah, both are represented by their uncles and their wed. Subhanullah. 01:53.142 --> 01:54.943 [SPEAKER_00]: She's 40, here's 25. 01:55.303 --> 01:58.045 [SPEAKER_00]: She's previously married twice and has three children. 02:01.335 --> 02:04.498 [SPEAKER_00]: What's to come after this is an amazing marriage. 02:04.818 --> 02:18.391 [SPEAKER_00]: Something you can take all week talking about the marriage of Siddha Khadija and say that Muhammad ﷺ, truly when the book say a marriage of bliss and one of hardship and sacrifice, it really is that way. 02:19.231 --> 02:19.812 [SPEAKER_00]: SubhanAllah. 02:20.853 --> 02:25.117 [SPEAKER_00]: But it really was blissful for so many things that we're gonna quickly kind of outline here and explain. 02:27.996 --> 02:31.579 [SPEAKER_00]: unique to Sathina Khadisha is after she's 40 when she marries, right? 02:32.019 --> 02:40.266 [SPEAKER_00]: Which means that because after that point with Sathina Muhammad salai salam she gives birth to six children, 40 onwards. 02:42.488 --> 02:44.850 [SPEAKER_00]: So FanaAllah, right? 02:44.870 --> 02:50.274 [SPEAKER_00]: And two of them are boys who pass away, Al-San and Abdullah. 02:51.255 --> 02:54.478 [SPEAKER_00]: And four of them are girls who live into their adulthood. 02:56.131 --> 02:58.632 [SPEAKER_00]: Zaynab, Rokayya, Unkalthur, and Fatima. 02:59.212 --> 03:07.716 [SPEAKER_00]: And when you think about who she is as a wife to the prophets on Allah wa'ala wa'ala wa'ala, remember, she has her business, and she's independently wealthy, and she's educated. 03:08.476 --> 03:13.198 [SPEAKER_00]: And she knows, and has been told, that this is gonna be a hard path. 03:14.278 --> 03:15.199 [SPEAKER_00]: But she's signed up for it. 03:16.279 --> 03:20.961 [SPEAKER_00]: She's already surrendered her life to whatever Allah Subhan Allah has given her. 03:22.436 --> 03:27.319 [SPEAKER_00]: And something about being a beautiful life, like a really honorable life, he isn't her property. 03:28.680 --> 03:40.828 [SPEAKER_00]: He has a family, and he has parents, and he has siblings, and he has extended members of his family, and he needs to do right by them, just like he needs to do right by her and this new family that he's creating. 03:42.229 --> 03:47.112 [SPEAKER_00]: And a good wife pushes her husband towards his family not away from his family. 03:49.174 --> 03:50.755 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is what we see in St. Nachadjah. 03:51.683 --> 03:58.227 [SPEAKER_00]: She reminds him that his milk mother, let's say them how much milk mother's name, Halima. 03:59.568 --> 04:01.569 [SPEAKER_00]: He's out there and how is she doing? 04:01.609 --> 04:11.254 [SPEAKER_00]: So she reminds him, check up on the people that were important in your life and they invite her over and was that the Halima comes over to visit was that the Nadija, can you imagine? 04:11.494 --> 04:14.176 [SPEAKER_00]: She tells her that there's hardships and there's famine and so on. 04:14.715 --> 04:25.421 [SPEAKER_00]: and out of her generosity, Sittana Khadija gives her all these sheep and all this, you know what I mean to go back with her, not out of honor of the family of our husband. 04:26.882 --> 04:27.662 [SPEAKER_00]: She honors them. 04:29.143 --> 04:32.685 [SPEAKER_00]: There was a milk mother that the Prophet ﷺ had another one. 04:34.046 --> 04:36.607 [SPEAKER_00]: That was the slave of Abu Lehab. 04:38.343 --> 04:38.543 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? 04:39.324 --> 04:44.206 [SPEAKER_00]: And she tells the prophets, although I said no, why don't we free her? 04:45.587 --> 04:48.589 [SPEAKER_00]: Purchase to free, and he says this is an amazing idea. 04:49.229 --> 04:51.490 [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't have the wealth but she did, right? 04:52.331 --> 04:56.513 [SPEAKER_00]: So she's honoring his family, watering him through honoring his family. 04:57.487 --> 04:58.187 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you see what I'm saying? 04:58.828 --> 05:04.171 [SPEAKER_00]: It turns out that Abu Lahab said no because Abu Lahab is, you know, from the Surah Abu Dhab, Abu Lahab and Mutab, right? 05:04.511 --> 05:09.914 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, he's not going to agree to this, but later on in this milk mother does get freed. 05:10.591 --> 05:13.633 [SPEAKER_00]: So, Paolo, I'm not in that story because they do actually try and they, he says no. 05:14.053 --> 05:19.456 [SPEAKER_00]: But the story here is the point is that she honors her husband and honors her husband's family as well. 05:20.156 --> 05:27.620 [SPEAKER_00]: She also surrenders in that whenever the professor, I said him now, as kind of imagine kind of keep going forward, keep going forward in time. 05:28.441 --> 05:29.421 [SPEAKER_00]: And they have had their children. 05:30.182 --> 05:35.645 [SPEAKER_00]: And years into this, 15 years into this, because how old was the professor, I said, I want to first receive your revelation? 05:37.192 --> 05:37.392 [SPEAKER_00]: 40. 05:38.253 --> 05:44.978 [SPEAKER_00]: So they were married for 15 years and had their six children, right, in that period of time before revelation even comes. 05:45.758 --> 05:48.580 [SPEAKER_00]: But when it does come, it's heavy. 05:49.181 --> 05:50.662 [SPEAKER_00]: It's difficult, right? 05:50.702 --> 05:52.863 [SPEAKER_00]: And the professor said, I'm doesn't know what this is. 05:53.264 --> 05:53.784 [SPEAKER_00]: That's coming. 05:54.544 --> 05:59.188 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is where Sittina Khadisha plays an incredibly important and pivotal role, right? 05:59.348 --> 06:00.269 [SPEAKER_00]: Because what does she say? 06:01.122 --> 06:07.126 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the first thing that ever happens that the first thing that ever, but the thing, the first thing that the prophet notices that happens, right? 06:07.506 --> 06:10.809 [SPEAKER_00]: Is he actually sees, say, in the Jibit, in the archangel Gabriel? 06:11.969 --> 06:15.131 [SPEAKER_00]: He sees him and he cut his frozen, because he sees him in the sky. 06:15.191 --> 06:17.173 [SPEAKER_00]: He kind of sees him, he's just frozen, right? 06:17.193 --> 06:19.955 [SPEAKER_00]: Not sure what this is or what to do with this, Supanama. 06:20.335 --> 06:25.719 [SPEAKER_00]: And he hears, he hears him, say, oh, Muhammad, you are the messenger of God. 06:26.519 --> 06:27.860 [SPEAKER_00]: And I am the archangel Gabriel. 06:30.896 --> 06:37.318 [SPEAKER_00]: And he's frozen, and he stays frozen like that until Javier leaves and at that point he's you can imagine. 06:37.338 --> 06:41.540 [SPEAKER_00]: So he's one of the ones talking to his family, right, runs back to Zina Khadija. 06:41.860 --> 06:47.462 [SPEAKER_00]: And he's just, you know, you know, just very, very unsure of what all of the says and she calms him down. 06:48.402 --> 06:49.563 [SPEAKER_00]: And the rest of her wealth. 06:50.390 --> 06:52.131 [SPEAKER_00]: is given all to Islam. 06:52.672 --> 06:59.977 [SPEAKER_00]: Because soon after there's that embargo as you know, where they embargo, right, they put a embargo on the Muslim and they went along to trade, and they're starving. 07:00.637 --> 07:17.889 [SPEAKER_00]: And at the very end of Sittana Khadizha's life, she goes from this wealthy, wealthy, noble woman to having given away everything to Muslims and to early Islam, to the point that she's on her deathbed, she is so starved and skinny, 07:18.680 --> 07:22.784 [SPEAKER_00]: because she's given away everything, but she herself has starved. 07:22.804 --> 07:28.890 [SPEAKER_00]: And she's diseased, ridden, and she's on her deathbed, and she isn't going to recover. 07:30.111 --> 07:32.373 [SPEAKER_00]: And the profits on the love audio, Selam, is tearful. 07:33.875 --> 07:40.901 [SPEAKER_00]: This is very difficult for him to see, and he says to her, what if you've had difficulty here, you won't have difficulty there? 07:41.982 --> 07:42.623 [SPEAKER_00]: Subhanuma. 07:44.226 --> 08:09.677 [SPEAKER_00]: And there she is at the very end of her life until the very end in full support and dedication to Islam to allow us to have this Islam and full dedication as the wife who's able to allow her husband to do this great and noble work and dedication to her children to allow them to become the mothers of the meaning that we're going to hear about at least verses and I'll falten yesterday and when she passes away is the 27th night of Ramadan. 08:12.229 --> 08:15.292 [SPEAKER_00]: And there she is of her 65 years of life. 08:15.753 --> 08:18.996 [SPEAKER_00]: She spent 25 years of them with the profits on the La Huadei who was sent them. 08:19.937 --> 08:34.493 [SPEAKER_00]: And in that period of time, like I said, her name is Khadija, bored ahead of her time, not just physically, but ahead of her time in breaking all kinds of stereotypes and barriers experienced by women. 08:36.260 --> 08:55.083 [SPEAKER_00]: And not for the sake of feminism, which is not for the sake of doing what's right, for the sake of standing up to her beliefs, for the sake of charting her own path, but that path is a path even though it's charted, it's surrendered to a lost panelist's eye. 08:56.682 --> 08:59.303 [SPEAKER_00]: And she's strong, she's independent, she's courageous. 08:59.723 --> 09:04.204 [SPEAKER_00]: She is supportive of her husband, but the dunya never gets to her head. 09:04.764 --> 09:09.485 [SPEAKER_00]: That wealth that she has, never enters into her heart. 09:10.505 --> 09:12.866 [SPEAKER_00]: She gives and gives and gives, SubhanAllah. 09:13.126 --> 09:23.208 [SPEAKER_00]: And with that we conclude, MashaAllah, Satsana Khadija, not just as the wealthy, noble woman that we often refer to her as, but somebody with nobility and intelligence and independence. 09:24.115 --> 09:32.148 [SPEAKER_00]: becomes that role model for all of the women here, who have a chart to path in life that's different than others.