[SPEAKER_00]: Imagine, in Muslim, that spends the night in long Kiyam, to He should, and He wakes up in the morning, fasting the optional fast.
[SPEAKER_00]: And during the day He is giving in charity left and right.
[SPEAKER_00]: So from the outside, he looks to me and you, that this is a spiritual giant.
[SPEAKER_00]: But when this person speaks, it's either back-biting, slandering, mocking, all day long, scrolling through the social media, getting involved in things that does not concern him.
[SPEAKER_00]: And on top of that, if he's pushed a little bit, he explodes in fury, and secretly he cannot stand to see any brother or sister blessed with wealth or a health or righteous children.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters
[SPEAKER_00]: Once Iman came to Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and told him that he knows someone that does the above.
[SPEAKER_00]: Iman came to Rasulullah sallam and he said, Ya Rasulallah, I know a woman.
[SPEAKER_00]: She prays all night.
[SPEAKER_00]: Fasts all day.
[SPEAKER_00]: But Yara Sul Allah, she harms her neighbor with her tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is probably one of the most important clothes I've ever given.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because all our focus, and we reach the point that, Allah, I pray, I fast, nobody talk to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am up there, I reach the next level.
[SPEAKER_00]: This woman does not only pray the five daily prayers and fast Ramadan, no, no, she finished that.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is sealed, secured.
[SPEAKER_00]: She has been upgraded.
[SPEAKER_00]: She has promoted herself to Kiyan and Siyam.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is when you ask someone to describe the best Muslim.
[SPEAKER_00]: What do they say?
[SPEAKER_00]: They say, the saw him caught him.
[SPEAKER_00]: This person, he fast, the optional fast, and he up on night and in the hazard.
[SPEAKER_00]: So she has a problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: She harms her neighbor with her tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not she beats them or with her tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and she backed by them.
[SPEAKER_00]: She lies about them spread rumors.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe she curses them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah will help them.
[SPEAKER_00]: What did the doctor of this Ummah say?
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, La Khayyar Afiyyah, he affinar.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, one wake up and listen, this is not my statement.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did not make this judgment because we have this thing coming.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, don't be judgmental.
[SPEAKER_00]: Come on.
[SPEAKER_00]: Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa salamhi said, there's no good in that woman.
[SPEAKER_00]: Rasulullah, how is no good?
[SPEAKER_00]: She prays pyaam and she fast every day.
[SPEAKER_00]: How is no good?
[SPEAKER_00]: Not only there's no good in her, she is in the hell fire.
[SPEAKER_00]: Who would even imagine a person reach the level of performing Kiyam and fasting one day and Thursday and the three wide days and eventually they're going to the fire?
[SPEAKER_00]: So my brothers and sisters, our dean is a badat and
[SPEAKER_00]: transactions, dealings, relationship with the creator, relationship with the creation.
[SPEAKER_00]: Both combined, not one, I pray, I fast all that and like the brother above, no good, useless.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I have great manners, I'm the best, but I don't pray, I don't fast, useless.
[SPEAKER_00]: a true practicing believer.
[SPEAKER_00]: We all know the five pillars of Islam, we all know the six pillars of Eman, and today we will learn the four pillars of Ahlak.
[SPEAKER_00]: The four pillars of Paners.
[SPEAKER_00]: If we work on these four pillars, our manners will be flawless.
[SPEAKER_00]: And those pillars did not come from nowhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: They are derived from four authentic, a hadith of our dear Prophet, Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just because of the time quickly, the first pillar, pillar, you know what pillar mean, yani.
[SPEAKER_00]: When we say five pillars of Islam, I cannot say I'm going to choose four.
[SPEAKER_00]: No Habibi, it has to be five or your out.
[SPEAKER_00]: So this is a pillar of ahlak, number one, half of the lisan controlling the tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is derived from the Hadith of Rasallahu alaihi sallam, Mankind yukminu, Billahi wa liyaum il-a'ikir, Falyakul khayran ou liyasmat.
[SPEAKER_00]: Homesu'a'ir believe in Allah,
[SPEAKER_00]: And the last day, he has two options, no third, two options only.
[SPEAKER_00]: If he believes in Allah, that means he's a moحد, he's a person that knows that no one is worthy of worship except Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he believes in the day of judgment, it means that he knows and believes that he will be accountable for everything that he's doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Say something good or be quiet.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no third.
[SPEAKER_00]: Say something good or be quiet.
[SPEAKER_00]: The speech is divided to three kinds of speech, either completely higher, completely good or completely evil, or am doubtful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is it good or is it bad?
[SPEAKER_00]: The first Bismillah and the second and the third Aoudu illa.
[SPEAKER_00]: do not approach.
[SPEAKER_00]: Today, our tongues have become more dangerous.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because the speech is not limited to what comes out from the mouth.
[SPEAKER_00]: What I comment on the posts is included.
[SPEAKER_00]: The things
[SPEAKER_00]: And we have to remember that Allah SWT told us may I help you to come in calling?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I give you an example.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes somebody comes and tell you something about someone, he, the person who told you, is not sure himself about the truth of the matter.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he comes and tell you so and so that this, so you go and you start spreading this news.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah, I was told, Allah, He people are saying and you start spreading it without any verification.
[SPEAKER_00]: You start forwarding it without any clarification.
[SPEAKER_00]: Listen to this Hadith.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah He, it should make my heart and your heart tremble.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, call a fee, moot min.
[SPEAKER_00]: Ma'ala is a fee.
[SPEAKER_00]: Asking Allah, or rather at al-Qadal, Hattah, yakh, ruj, min, ma'acal.
[SPEAKER_00]: whom so ever say about a believer, what's not true about him, about her.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah will make him dwell in a place where it is the bus and the dirt and the filth of the people of the hellfire until he or she retract what they said.
[SPEAKER_00]: how many times, how many times we spread things without checking their authenticity.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, the believer does not speak just because he can speak.
[SPEAKER_00]: The believer speaks because there is benefit, because there is mercy, because there is wisdom in what he utteres, ask yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: before you utter anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is this statement I'm about to say?
[SPEAKER_00]: Is it pleasing to Allah?
[SPEAKER_00]: Will it bring benefit to others?
[SPEAKER_00]: Will I be happy to see it in my book on the Day of Judgment?
[SPEAKER_00]: When I am told Iqara, Kitabak, read your own book.
[SPEAKER_00]: If that's the case, Allah, Akbar, Bismillah, go ahead.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if it's not, seize, stop immediately.
[SPEAKER_00]: Silence is not a weakness.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a sign that you became the master of your tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: Second pillar.
[SPEAKER_00]: Staying away from what does not concern you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that has been derived from the Hadith of Rasulullah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
[SPEAKER_00]: Minhusni islam ilmar tarquhu malayani.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the signs that your Islam is excellent is that you do not get concerned.
[SPEAKER_00]: You do not pry on what does not concern you.
[SPEAKER_00]: we interfere in the private affairs of our relatives.
[SPEAKER_00]: We gossip about the marriage of our neighbors.
[SPEAKER_00]: We are obsessed about dramas, about people online strangers, whether we have no idea who they are.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why did this person get divorced?
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it was her fault.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why did they move to a new house?
[SPEAKER_00]: What's wrong with their old house?
[SPEAKER_00]: Why did they buy a new car?
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, listen to this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we throw a bomb, and we leave.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me give you an example.
[SPEAKER_00]: You go visit someone and you say, so I heard your son got married.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will let him do a lot of the enemy and he got married.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my bro, congratulations.
[SPEAKER_00]: So how often does he visit you after he got married?
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah He wants a weak one, so every other weak.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Subhanallah, these kids, and you leave.
[SPEAKER_00]: The fire of the Father sits down.
[SPEAKER_00]: They are Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: What kind of sun is this?
[SPEAKER_00]: So...
[SPEAKER_00]: You got a new baby?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a broke, I'm broke Congratulations, Allah, Iqbar, l-handle Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: So what did your husband get you because you have a new baby, you suffered for nine months and you pushed into this?
[SPEAKER_00]: What did he get you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah, l-handle Allah, not much.
[SPEAKER_00]: Really, after all that happened, nothing.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should see what my husband got me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what, when the husband comes home, come over here, Habibi.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's going on?
[SPEAKER_00]: You threw a bomb and you laughed.
[SPEAKER_00]: things that does not concern you?
[SPEAKER_00]: What does that have to do with you?
[SPEAKER_00]: How is this can end prove your life?
[SPEAKER_00]: How is this going to bring you closer to Allah be very careful of what you say constant 24 hour surveillance on other people's lives?
[SPEAKER_00]: A believer is not someone who's busy exposing others.
[SPEAKER_00]: A believer is a person who's busy fixing themselves.
[SPEAKER_00]: A believer is a person that is busy repenting, trying to fix the shortcomings, the faults that he has.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, the believer knows that the time in this dunya is very short and he cannot waste it in useless matters, the third pillar, controlling your emotions.
[SPEAKER_00]: The third pillar is to pose when you're a blood boil.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is based on the Hadith of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the man came to him and he said, ya Rasulullah, advise me.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the man was expecting a whole list of things to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: But Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, la tarad up towards, do not get angry.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the man, okay, next, he repeated his request, and Russell lost our Selam for three times, he repeated the same answer.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not because he has nothing else to say.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let talk about three times.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, he did not say, Russell was, I said, I don't ever get angry.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because anger is an emotion.
[SPEAKER_00]: What he meant here is that do not let your anger control you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do not let your anger take over all your behavior.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll rub up a well-o'hu'ju'n'un, ahiru'hu'n'edam.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anger, the beginning of it is craziness.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever seen yourself in the mirror when you're angry?
[SPEAKER_00]: You do not even recognize yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: The beginning is Junon, craziness, and the end of it is regret.
[SPEAKER_00]: I control the word before it comes out.
[SPEAKER_00]: When the word comes out, it controls me.
[SPEAKER_00]: The minute it comes out, I cannot retract it anymore.
[SPEAKER_00]: The damage is done, the poison is shot.
[SPEAKER_00]: how many marriages have been shattered because of anger.
[SPEAKER_00]: How many brothers and sisters stopped talking to each other?
[SPEAKER_00]: For years and years because of anger.
[SPEAKER_00]: How many crimes have been committed?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because of anger.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, because of one hated argument, one harsh message, one impulsive decision, all years and years of good will disappear.
[SPEAKER_00]: Islam teaches us self-control,
[SPEAKER_00]: You're standing and you got angry, sit down.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're sitting, lie down, go and make Odo, leave the room, be quiet.
[SPEAKER_00]: And especially, I want to take a minute for the spouses.
[SPEAKER_00]: Most of the people, when they utter the word divorce, they come to the Shiyuh and they say, I was angry.
[SPEAKER_00]: obviously you're angry.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, this is where you need to control yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: And my sister, this has been happening unfortunately, a lot lately.
[SPEAKER_00]: My sister, when the husband is angry, just leave him, the whole thing is just two minutes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Can you imagine, because I could not control myself two minutes, my wife has to go and marry another man in order to come back to me?
[SPEAKER_00]: For two minutes I ruined my life, for two minutes my father or my mother became angry with me forever.
[SPEAKER_00]: So my sister, when the husband is angry, do not say in Contaraj al-Tallani, if you're a man divorce me.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are just looking for trouble.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are just looking to ruin your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, remember that Rasulullah Sallim told us that the strongest person is not the one who beat everybody in wrestling.
[SPEAKER_00]: The strongest person is the one who control his anger.
[SPEAKER_00]: The shaytan loves anger.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
[SPEAKER_00]: because silence is a wisdom, and he doesn't like you to be wise.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anger is one letter short of danger.
[SPEAKER_00]: Fourth pillar, Salam at his suburb.
[SPEAKER_00]: having a pure sound, the heart.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is based on the Hadith of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, layu minu aadukum.
[SPEAKER_00]: Had thai yuhib bune afi, may yuhib binefse.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allayhi, this is the peak of manners.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are not a true believer.
[SPEAKER_00]: Until you love to your brother, you love to your sister, what you love to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is, this means that I have to cleanse the dark sicknesses that no one sees, the envy, the malice, the hatred, the resentment, the arrogance, all of them they are inside, and no one sees them except Allah as the Wajjal.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I have to work on my inner self way more.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then I have to work on my appearance.
[SPEAKER_00]: This brother, he cannot stand that his brother got promoted.
[SPEAKER_00]: She cannot stand that her cousin moved to a bigger house.
[SPEAKER_00]: They cannot stand that there enough you finished the Quran and their child did not.
[SPEAKER_00]: They boil inside.
[SPEAKER_00]: They burn inside.
[SPEAKER_00]: They rejoice.
[SPEAKER_00]: when they see others divorce, they rejoice when they heard that someone is sick or they're having a financial difficulty.
[SPEAKER_00]: The true believer is exactly the opposite.
[SPEAKER_00]: He is so happy when his brother or his sister are blessed with any blessings.
[SPEAKER_00]: As a matter of fact, not only he is happy, he goes in the middle of the night.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he raises his hands.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he makes dua for them that Allah will put Baraka in everything that they bless them with.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is the true believer.
[SPEAKER_00]: How can I have great manners when inside of my heart
[SPEAKER_00]: I have had so much sicknesses towards others, how, how can I make dua to a brother that I hate?
[SPEAKER_00]: Selamat, a father, you know, my brothers and sisters, the scholars said, those for Ahadith, these for pillars of Ahlak, they are
[SPEAKER_00]: The combination of every Hadith about Aqlaq that Rasulullah sallallam Everatur'd.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll tell you this, Rasulullah, Fastah Firuhu, Ina'uhu al-Gafur al-Rahim.
[SPEAKER_00]: Bismillah yuhada wa sallatu wa sallam al-amallahu al-Nabiyyabata.
[SPEAKER_00]: Ya Rasulullah, what is
[SPEAKER_00]: the heaviest thing on the scale on the day of judgment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yara Sul Allah, what guarantees me a house in general?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yara Sul Allah, what is the thing if I do, I will be the closest to you on the day of judgment and many, many, many more ahead of you and the answer is one.
[SPEAKER_00]: from the man who gets revelation, he alaihi salatu wa salam, answered all the above with good manners, not has every year, not to feed beard, no, no good manners.
[SPEAKER_00]: good manners in Nama.
[SPEAKER_00]: In Nama, in Arabic, at that house or that means whatever comes after in Nama, it means exclusive in Nama, boi, tu, li, utam, mima, makari, mal, ahlak.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was execlusevly sent to perfect manners.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what Prophet ﷺ said.
[SPEAKER_00]: Manors, because you might say, where is the Salat?
[SPEAKER_00]: Manors with the Creator?
[SPEAKER_00]: which includes all the acts of worship and manners with the creation.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, as you leave the message today, you go back to your home to your business, back to your phone, take these four pillars with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Remember that when you feel the urge to gossip, remember either say good or be quiet,
[SPEAKER_00]: You're tempted to pry into other people businesses.
[SPEAKER_00]: Remember, mind your own business.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when another driver cuts you off, when a relative pushes your buttons, remember, let talk about, do not get angry.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when you see someone thriving, smile from the bottom of your heart, raise your hands, and make do out for them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Be Hayes, may Allah Subhanahu ta'ala make us from the people who listen and apply.
[SPEAKER_00]: May Allah Subhanahu ta'ala just like He perfected our image perfect our manners.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah Almighty has said to us, He has said to us, Ya Allah, just like you have perfected the way you created us.
[SPEAKER_00]: Please, Ya Allah, we beg you perfect our manners.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah Almighty has said to us,
[SPEAKER_00]: And I would like to thank the Qaferin, Allah the Almighty, the Islam and the Muslim.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allah the Almighty, the Islam and the Muslim.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I would like to thank the Muslims and the Muslims.
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