WEBVTT 00:00.191 --> 00:00.832 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't do this. 00:01.293 --> 00:02.175 [SPEAKER_00]: Dog set. 00:02.195 --> 00:02.275 [SPEAKER_00]: Set. 00:02.896 --> 00:03.517 [SPEAKER_00]: Set. 00:03.537 --> 00:03.617 [SPEAKER_00]: Set. 00:04.418 --> 00:05.059 [SPEAKER_00]: Set. 00:05.260 --> 00:05.340 [SPEAKER_00]: Set. 00:05.360 --> 00:05.520 [SPEAKER_00]: Set. 00:05.560 --> 00:06.502 [SPEAKER_00]: Can we sit? 00:06.702 --> 00:07.584 [SPEAKER_00]: The classic. 00:07.624 --> 00:08.525 [SPEAKER_00]: Can we sit? 00:19.275 --> 00:20.216 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, what's going on, everybody? 00:20.236 --> 00:21.576 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to the podcast. 00:21.676 --> 00:29.961 [SPEAKER_00]: Today we're going to be discussing a topic that so many dog owners make the mistake of doing, which is harmful to your relationship. 00:30.001 --> 00:36.805 [SPEAKER_00]: And so like always, guys, on any piece of content I ever put out, I want to help you have a better relationship with your dog. 00:36.885 --> 00:40.567 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want your dog to live a happier, less confused, 00:41.007 --> 00:42.148 [SPEAKER_00]: less anxious life. 00:42.208 --> 00:47.470 [SPEAKER_00]: So today we're going to be talking about why you should stop asking your dog to do stuff. 00:47.530 --> 00:50.031 [SPEAKER_00]: Now there's a plan words there and there's a caveat to that. 00:50.711 --> 00:56.713 [SPEAKER_00]: Voice inflection matters considerably when you are communicating really with anything. 00:56.913 --> 01:06.457 [SPEAKER_00]: If you think about it, when we're communicating with one another, like for an example, if I came out on this video or on this podcast, whether you're listening or you're watching on YouTube or Spotify, 01:08.298 --> 01:18.042 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, guys, I hate to tell you, but that voice inflection is going to set a tone for what you think is about to happen. 01:18.442 --> 01:23.305 [SPEAKER_00]: That voice inflection, the way that I'm speaking, the way that my body language is, me sane. 01:24.525 --> 01:29.348 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, like that voice inflection in that tone is going to speak volumes to you guys who are listening. 01:30.148 --> 01:34.652 [SPEAKER_00]: same thing if I were to come up here and go, guys, you're never believed what's about to happen. 01:34.872 --> 01:35.773 [SPEAKER_00]: I can't wait. 01:36.273 --> 01:38.775 [SPEAKER_00]: So my voice inflection there is a lot different. 01:39.335 --> 01:42.358 [SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of people don't pick up on these little subtleties. 01:43.119 --> 01:43.739 [SPEAKER_00]: Actually I lied. 01:43.879 --> 01:45.340 [SPEAKER_00]: They do pick up on these subtleties. 01:45.360 --> 01:48.283 [SPEAKER_00]: They just don't realize that they are picking up on these subtleties. 01:49.063 --> 01:54.824 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think mainly it's because we're humans and we've done this our whole lives Quite literally since we were babies. 01:54.864 --> 02:01.106 [SPEAKER_00]: We were able to communicate in ways that May not have anything to do with actual English language, right? 02:01.166 --> 02:02.266 [SPEAKER_00]: There's crying. 02:02.306 --> 02:03.186 [SPEAKER_00]: There's happiness. 02:03.246 --> 02:11.268 [SPEAKER_00]: There's tears There's excitement all these things happen with us humans and so it's the same thing with dogs When we are communicating with dogs 02:12.603 --> 02:18.468 [SPEAKER_00]: we get a lot of things wrong and one of the things that I see a lot of dog owners make. 02:19.789 --> 02:23.653 [SPEAKER_00]: And again, I'm a pro dog trainer that specializes in behavior modification. 02:23.673 --> 02:28.837 [SPEAKER_00]: So this is something I see regularly and it hurts the relationship considerably. 02:29.438 --> 02:32.020 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's when you're asking your dog to do stuff, right? 02:32.080 --> 02:34.683 [SPEAKER_00]: So for an example, I'll keep it super simple. 02:35.563 --> 02:35.984 [SPEAKER_00]: When we 02:38.354 --> 02:39.214 [SPEAKER_00]: ask a command. 02:39.855 --> 02:42.896 [SPEAKER_00]: We really want to tell our dog to do something. 02:43.376 --> 02:45.817 [SPEAKER_00]: So the difference is your voice inflection in your communication. 02:46.418 --> 02:49.359 [SPEAKER_00]: So if I said, hey, go ask that person in this question. 02:49.999 --> 02:56.402 [SPEAKER_00]: You might go, uh, hey, can we, um, is it possible? 02:56.502 --> 02:57.583 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you know what, right? 02:57.623 --> 02:58.223 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's like an 03:08.962 --> 03:09.763 [SPEAKER_00]: assertiveness. 03:09.843 --> 03:11.745 [SPEAKER_00]: It's very like, hey, I don't know what I'm doing. 03:11.765 --> 03:13.087 [SPEAKER_00]: Can I ask you how to do it? 03:14.168 --> 03:14.408 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? 03:14.989 --> 03:17.712 [SPEAKER_00]: We'll ask for directions or we ask for help at Home Depot or Lowe's. 03:18.212 --> 03:19.474 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, do you know where the 03:20.863 --> 03:21.704 [SPEAKER_00]: So you guys can hear that. 03:22.264 --> 03:25.947 [SPEAKER_00]: You can even see it if you, I'm fascinated by body language in general. 03:25.967 --> 03:29.750 [SPEAKER_00]: That's one of my favorite things to do, especially at airports. 03:29.990 --> 03:37.856 [SPEAKER_00]: I just kind of read people and I, you know, can only speculate how they're feeling or what they're saying or the conversations they're having of course. 03:38.656 --> 03:42.999 [SPEAKER_00]: But I think over the years, I've been pretty good about picking things up. 03:43.760 --> 03:45.941 [SPEAKER_00]: And so with dogs, it's very similar. 03:46.822 --> 03:49.103 [SPEAKER_00]: you really want to tell your dog to do something, right? 03:49.143 --> 03:50.863 [SPEAKER_00]: So hey, go over there. 03:51.823 --> 03:53.183 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, can I have that please? 03:53.624 --> 03:54.564 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, you can't do that. 03:55.904 --> 04:03.906 [SPEAKER_00]: So that voice inflection in the way that I'm speaking there is a completely different tone. 04:05.266 --> 04:08.107 [SPEAKER_00]: So when we tell our dogs to do something, we want to say, 04:09.405 --> 04:22.009 [SPEAKER_00]: Lakota sit down stay so that voice inflection is different so you might be saying like oh well my dog may be sensitive to that and they may be they may think that I'm mad at them. 04:22.269 --> 04:24.690 [SPEAKER_00]: Well there's a big difference between what did you do? 04:25.410 --> 04:26.430 [SPEAKER_00]: Why did you do this? 04:26.650 --> 04:38.074 [SPEAKER_00]: Get back here versus fight us sit down stay so that neutral middle line is where you guys want to live with your dog. 04:39.065 --> 04:43.609 [SPEAKER_00]: And I find a lot of dog owners make the mistake of begging and clean with their dogs. 04:44.549 --> 04:52.636 [SPEAKER_00]: And the two big, two big things happen there is the dog knows that you're shaky about this. 04:53.616 --> 04:56.539 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not that confident about this, right? 04:56.579 --> 05:03.124 [SPEAKER_00]: So a perfect example would be, Lakota said, please, right? 05:03.144 --> 05:06.306 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not super confident with that, right? 05:10.557 --> 05:18.041 [SPEAKER_00]: So, and then the anger, angerly, yelling would be, look over to sit, big difference. 05:19.282 --> 05:21.663 [SPEAKER_00]: So, there's three levels there, right? 05:21.703 --> 05:23.044 [SPEAKER_00]: And you want to be right in the middle. 05:23.864 --> 05:27.766 [SPEAKER_00]: And I've just seen this play out over and over and over and over again. 05:28.827 --> 05:38.172 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's why I want people to really understand how important and crucial your voice inflection and your tone is. 05:39.225 --> 05:42.826 [SPEAKER_00]: And so don't continue to beg your dog to do stuff. 05:43.706 --> 05:46.067 [SPEAKER_00]: Because then, again, first thing I didn't finish, sorry. 05:46.107 --> 05:50.768 [SPEAKER_00]: The first thing is is the dog will know that you're not serious, right? 05:50.808 --> 06:05.152 [SPEAKER_00]: But the second thing is more importantly, bridged with that is your relationship with your dog will get pretty bad, pretty quick, because the dog knows that the person 06:08.432 --> 06:12.534 [SPEAKER_00]: that is obviously supposed to be in charge because we have thumbs and they don't. 06:13.234 --> 06:16.736 [SPEAKER_00]: We feed them, we walk them, we love on them, we give them fresh water. 06:17.556 --> 06:28.922 [SPEAKER_00]: But when it comes to structure and it comes to having that relationship with your dog, where they listen to you and they respect you and they pay attention to when you talk, we don't wanna be clean. 06:29.482 --> 06:34.744 [SPEAKER_00]: Please, right, like if you, if my three-year-old, now four-year-old, 06:37.474 --> 06:56.497 [SPEAKER_00]: You may get that a lot of times like please type of thing and that's I know that I I know the answers know and I know you're going to say no anyway, but I'm just going to throw it out there right so we do not ever want that with our dogs in our training in our relationship. 06:57.427 --> 06:58.608 [SPEAKER_00]: just go right through the middle. 06:59.309 --> 07:01.430 [SPEAKER_00]: Dog sit, you guys should practice this. 07:02.111 --> 07:04.373 [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, like pause this and practice it right now. 07:04.953 --> 07:07.916 [SPEAKER_00]: It's important for you guys to understand the differences. 07:08.696 --> 07:09.837 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, don't do this. 07:10.298 --> 07:17.544 [SPEAKER_00]: Dog sit, set, set, can we sit, the classic, can we sit? 07:18.785 --> 07:21.387 [SPEAKER_00]: That is, this is a partnership 07:24.308 --> 07:34.171 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to beg you to do something or I'm going to ask you to do something and really you want to be more assertive than that. 07:34.511 --> 07:37.071 [SPEAKER_00]: You want to just say dog sit good. 07:38.032 --> 07:45.574 [SPEAKER_00]: So then you reward and then all the rewards start to come out and that's kind of a different time, you know, a different story for a different time. 07:46.174 --> 07:46.414 [SPEAKER_00]: So, 07:48.652 --> 07:54.534 [SPEAKER_00]: don't ask your dog to do like have that in your mind like don't ask your dog to do something tell your dog to do something. 07:55.675 --> 07:58.416 [SPEAKER_00]: It's very important for you and your relationship with your dog. 07:59.396 --> 08:10.660 [SPEAKER_00]: They will pick up on it so quickly and they will understand that you are serious, you are to be taking serious, you are in charge, you are a leader and that will 08:12.206 --> 08:31.715 [SPEAKER_00]: eliminate many, many, many issues down the road, anxiety, fear, insecurity, not listening, not respecting you, not coming back when called, not sitting when you say there's a laundry list of of really bad things that can happen if you're walking around begging your dog to do stuff all day. 08:32.295 --> 08:36.637 [SPEAKER_00]: That'd be like me walking around begging my one-year-old and my three-year-old to do something. 08:38.332 --> 08:39.774 [SPEAKER_00]: it would be a nightmare, right? 08:39.794 --> 08:44.718 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, that's why you see, and this is objective, right? 08:44.759 --> 08:52.706 [SPEAKER_00]: This isn't my observation, but because they've done many, many, many studies on this and tests on this and you can just see it in real time. 08:53.307 --> 09:09.469 [SPEAKER_00]: that's why when you go to a restaurant and you see a very add-it-control little human yelling sshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshshsh 09:10.290 --> 09:13.492 [SPEAKER_00]: you know, but we're not dealing with the talking back. 09:13.532 --> 09:16.854 [SPEAKER_00]: We're not dealing with the spitting. 09:16.894 --> 09:18.175 [SPEAKER_00]: We're not dealing with the hitting. 09:18.215 --> 09:22.738 [SPEAKER_00]: We're not dealing with running away into traffic because we're we're not paying attention. 09:22.758 --> 09:24.299 [SPEAKER_00]: We're running into the parking lot. 09:24.719 --> 09:25.839 [SPEAKER_00]: We're not dealing with any of that. 09:25.859 --> 09:27.300 [SPEAKER_00]: We're dealing with normal kid stuff. 09:27.380 --> 09:28.221 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I'm hungry. 09:28.321 --> 09:29.422 [SPEAKER_00]: When's the food going to be here? 09:30.162 --> 09:56.636 [SPEAKER_00]: can I have some ice cream like you know those are all normal things that are inevitable and you don't want to get rid of that's just part of being a kid but what we don't get is disrespect and dangerous situations because we don't we don't beg our kids to do stuff and it's the same thing for dogs and and that's just how it is like you know it just in in general if you go out into society you will see if you see an individual act a certain way there's 09:59.497 --> 10:01.419 [SPEAKER_00]: to everything I'm talking about. 10:01.859 --> 10:02.580 [SPEAKER_00]: Same thing with kids. 10:02.600 --> 10:03.240 [SPEAKER_00]: You guys know this. 10:03.280 --> 10:22.437 [SPEAKER_00]: If you have kids, you've seen this, you go to the playground, you go to school, you go to soccer practice, you go to your gypsy practice, you go to these things and you can see if there's a kid absolutely out of their mind, out of control, you can immediately immediately know that it's the parent, 100% it's the parent, right? 10:23.498 --> 10:25.159 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, outside of certain things, right? 10:25.219 --> 10:33.445 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know, severe, you know, other things that go on that are out of your control, but you guys get the point. 10:33.645 --> 10:34.766 [SPEAKER_00]: It's the same thing with dogs. 10:35.566 --> 10:43.111 [SPEAKER_00]: When we're walking around and we're playing and begging them to do stuff, it'll beat your butt so fast and you will be in really rough shape. 10:43.592 --> 10:50.957 [SPEAKER_00]: And again, this is coming from somebody who quite literally sees the dogs that, like, all of the things that I'm talking about, guys, 10:52.910 --> 10:56.194 [SPEAKER_00]: accumulated into the dogs that I see on a regular basis. 10:56.654 --> 11:03.301 [SPEAKER_00]: So they react if the aggressive, the dogs with the bite history, the dogs that have killed other dogs, these are all dogs that have this issue. 11:03.982 --> 11:07.125 [SPEAKER_00]: And all the other things that I talk about on my podcast and everywhere else. 11:07.685 --> 11:11.249 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to be proactive for people to say, hey, you know all the dog, it'd be like a doctor. 11:12.250 --> 11:21.078 [SPEAKER_00]: or a mechanic or anybody that deals with something on a regular as a specialist and they say, hey, if you continue to eat this sugar, you're going to continue to get these cavities. 11:21.118 --> 11:24.881 [SPEAKER_00]: If you continue to eat this junk food every day, you're going to continue to feel like this. 11:24.941 --> 11:27.944 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're going to continue to not put oil in your car, your car is going to continue to 11:28.304 --> 11:28.704 [SPEAKER_00]: decline. 11:28.724 --> 11:33.329 [SPEAKER_00]: I see it over and over and over and over again just like that, like clockwork. 11:33.509 --> 11:45.600 [SPEAKER_00]: I can look at a dog when they come in and I know immediately how their owner talks to them, what equipment they use, what equipment they don't use, how much training they've done, how much they talk to their dogs, how much they baby their dogs, if their dog sleeps in the bed. 11:45.821 --> 11:50.065 [SPEAKER_00]: Like instant, I can do all of that just by looking how a dog behaves. 11:51.288 --> 11:53.269 [SPEAKER_00]: So anyway, guys, hopefully this was helpful. 11:53.289 --> 11:55.671 [SPEAKER_00]: I just wanted to let you guys know we have our brand new. 11:56.192 --> 11:57.773 [SPEAKER_00]: This is our pro dog training leash. 11:57.833 --> 11:58.894 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a four foot leash. 11:58.994 --> 12:02.456 [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of people ask me, Tom, what equipment do you use? 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