WEBVTT 00:00.131 --> 00:01.232 [SPEAKER_00]: Tell the New Yorkers about it. 00:01.312 --> 00:02.552 [SPEAKER_00]: We can save the rest of America. 00:02.853 --> 00:05.574 [SPEAKER_00]: What they're doing on Love Island U.S. is anti foreplay. 00:05.754 --> 00:06.294 [SPEAKER_00]: It's wrong. 00:06.514 --> 00:07.215 [SPEAKER_00]: It's wrong. 00:07.275 --> 00:08.115 [SPEAKER_01]: It's anti foreplay. 00:08.175 --> 00:09.016 [SPEAKER_01]: It's anti foreplay. 00:09.036 --> 00:10.076 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's wrong. 00:11.077 --> 00:11.757 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's sick. 00:12.197 --> 00:12.758 [SPEAKER_01]: And so wrong. 00:12.898 --> 00:14.579 [SPEAKER_01]: We can save America. 00:15.059 --> 00:16.900 [SPEAKER_01]: We can't with our help. 00:16.940 --> 00:17.981 [SPEAKER_01]: It with our help. 00:18.041 --> 00:19.421 [SPEAKER_01]: But you can, you've made it far. 00:19.581 --> 00:21.442 [SPEAKER_01]: Think about how much further you can go with us. 00:22.863 --> 00:24.524 [SPEAKER_00]: In New York, we do foreplay. 00:24.704 --> 00:25.905 [SPEAKER_01]: In New York, we do foreplay. 00:26.245 --> 00:27.326 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad Lander, listen to me. 00:47.003 --> 01:13.577 [SPEAKER_00]: What's up you guys and welcome back to emotionally online the weekly summer party for heart to heart and hot gossip posted by yours truly The one and only Maddie draw spec co-hosted by the one and only in this corner with a blue shirt and blue iPads just to match it is Meg Roo-o-o-o-o-o Let's give a co toast to the co-host why don't we? 01:14.807 --> 01:23.114 [SPEAKER_01]: Hey, hey, cheers everybody, hey, raise your glass if you are wrong. 01:23.494 --> 01:27.277 [SPEAKER_01]: It all the right ways all my other dogs. 01:27.657 --> 01:31.020 [SPEAKER_01]: We will never be never be anything but loud. 01:31.361 --> 01:34.843 [SPEAKER_01]: Or maybe gritty dirty little freaks. 01:37.265 --> 01:38.827 [SPEAKER_00]: You can only do that within a walla. 01:39.087 --> 01:39.267 [SPEAKER_01]: Yep. 01:40.108 --> 01:40.828 [SPEAKER_00]: Is that in a walla? 01:41.349 --> 01:41.869 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes it is. 01:42.289 --> 01:42.510 [SPEAKER_00]: Nice. 01:46.572 --> 01:48.633 [SPEAKER_01]: It's kind of like how we were both in Maine this weekend. 01:48.753 --> 01:52.616 [SPEAKER_00]: I know you didn't see each other in like perhaps two square miles apart from I know. 01:52.676 --> 01:55.418 [SPEAKER_00]: We did go to all the same places at different times. 01:55.478 --> 01:56.758 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe at the same time, we actually don't know. 01:56.918 --> 01:57.819 [SPEAKER_01]: It's impossible to say. 01:58.279 --> 01:59.100 [SPEAKER_01]: It's better. 01:59.280 --> 01:59.940 [SPEAKER_01]: It literally. 02:00.120 --> 02:00.881 [SPEAKER_00]: And here's what's so crazy. 02:00.921 --> 02:03.903 [SPEAKER_00]: Imagine if you looked in the water and you just like see me in a boat. 02:04.263 --> 02:17.353 [SPEAKER_00]: Just like float on a river in the tubes though like you were at footbridge lobster and the way you like could have looked out to the water and seen just like me floating down the river and like you I wouldn't have been looking at you You would have just like seen purple hair just being in here. 02:17.373 --> 02:18.274 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, that's Maddie. 02:18.374 --> 02:20.595 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, what the hell where are you going? 02:20.635 --> 02:22.096 [SPEAKER_01]: Hey, I'm like who's talking? 02:22.937 --> 02:24.297 [SPEAKER_00]: where is that from land? 02:24.658 --> 02:26.098 [SPEAKER_00]: Where is the noise coming from? 02:28.039 --> 02:28.599 [SPEAKER_00]: Who's just saying? 02:29.319 --> 02:30.159 [SPEAKER_00]: Who's just saying say? 02:30.459 --> 02:30.940 [SPEAKER_00]: But you know what? 02:30.980 --> 02:33.400 [SPEAKER_00]: I've been saying inside my head the last couple days. 02:33.420 --> 02:34.301 [SPEAKER_00]: Not a couple days. 02:34.621 --> 02:35.621 [SPEAKER_00]: The last month of my life. 02:36.641 --> 02:37.842 [SPEAKER_00]: I need to talk to a fat person. 02:38.862 --> 02:51.775 [SPEAKER_00]: Finally someone said it because I feel like I actually am reaching a point in my life now Which this is a beautiful point and I love this point that I'm at but if I spend two long of a time Not talking to fat people. 02:51.895 --> 02:52.536 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like I'm gonna. 02:52.636 --> 02:53.277 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going crazy. 02:53.437 --> 02:54.137 [SPEAKER_00]: I think you're right. 02:54.177 --> 02:58.342 [SPEAKER_00]: I like need fat people in my life Biblically 02:58.962 --> 03:02.203 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, life without fat people, dark and gloomy. 03:02.303 --> 03:03.263 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to know that life. 03:03.343 --> 03:04.724 [SPEAKER_00]: It's actually so sad to me. 03:04.944 --> 03:10.206 [SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like I've been traveling, go, go, go, go for the last month of my life. 03:10.226 --> 03:14.967 [SPEAKER_00]: And this past weekend when I was with my family, I was like, I need to talk to a fucking fat person. 03:14.987 --> 03:15.788 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, my God. 03:15.968 --> 03:20.509 [SPEAKER_00]: All you skinny bitches get away from me, looking at my mom and sister. 03:20.709 --> 03:23.770 [SPEAKER_00]: You skinny bitches get out me way, get away from me. 03:24.130 --> 03:25.491 [SPEAKER_00]: I need to talk to a fat person. 03:27.091 --> 03:43.779 [SPEAKER_01]: No, and it does become that it does because like you're on all these trips and like They're only so many times you're sitting at a table and you can hear someone say like get to zurt if you want it All the like microaggressions like small little slights you just 03:44.199 --> 03:49.481 [SPEAKER_00]: Or it's even just like having to hear about the way that thin people talk about their own bodies. 03:49.521 --> 03:50.761 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 03:51.081 --> 03:51.881 [SPEAKER_00]: I need a break from it. 03:52.101 --> 03:52.701 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, you know what? 03:53.082 --> 03:54.062 [SPEAKER_00]: Bring me to the fat people. 03:54.302 --> 03:59.083 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, there was fully, there were like several times this weekend where I was with my friends and they started talking about their bodies. 03:59.103 --> 04:00.364 [SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, I gotta go. 04:00.624 --> 04:04.345 [SPEAKER_01]: And I just like, I just feel just like left with reason love. 04:04.385 --> 04:04.885 [SPEAKER_01]: I can't. 04:05.125 --> 04:10.207 [SPEAKER_01]: I like you guys can talk about how your bodies, however you want, but I just can't I cannot be here for that anymore. 04:10.247 --> 04:12.308 [SPEAKER_01]: No, I can't participate in that. 04:12.428 --> 04:14.109 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna go hang out with fat people instead. 04:14.209 --> 04:14.609 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 04:16.170 --> 04:18.331 [SPEAKER_00]: You guys have fun doing whatever this is. 04:18.531 --> 04:19.751 [SPEAKER_01]: You just see me posting on Twitter. 04:19.811 --> 04:21.732 [SPEAKER_00]: Where are all the fat people? 04:21.992 --> 04:24.893 [SPEAKER_00]: No, that's like I need like a compass installed into my body. 04:24.974 --> 04:28.355 [SPEAKER_00]: Just like alerts me to where the nearest fat person is at any given moment. 04:29.575 --> 04:30.455 [SPEAKER_01]: like a lie detector. 04:30.535 --> 04:34.576 [SPEAKER_01]: Like a piece more when you get closer or metal detector, I guess, yeah. 04:34.716 --> 04:35.476 [SPEAKER_01]: That's what I need. 04:35.576 --> 04:42.198 [SPEAKER_00]: No, I like do feel like such an affinity and like joint friendship with fat people across the globe. 04:42.798 --> 04:49.580 [SPEAKER_00]: Like you know, people say like when you get on an airplane or you're waiting for your flight and you see like somebody cute your age. 04:50.180 --> 04:51.680 [SPEAKER_00]: There's like a brilliant sexual tension. 04:51.700 --> 04:52.180 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 04:52.320 --> 04:53.801 [SPEAKER_00]: I actually don't give a fuck about that at all. 04:53.921 --> 04:55.881 [SPEAKER_00]: It's me looking for other fat people on the plane. 04:55.961 --> 04:59.002 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, being like who else is experiencing being fat on a plane right now. 04:59.782 --> 05:01.663 [SPEAKER_00]: Me and you brother who else is hell. 05:01.683 --> 05:13.230 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, who else is asked doesn't fit in my fucking seat on a plane solidarity I don't upload like that's what I'm doing in here more Like who's flat who's fat on this flight no literally? 05:13.250 --> 05:20.555 [SPEAKER_01]: Then he'd know I feel that that way like any time I see like a fat woman serving I'm and I'm like your outfit is eating down 05:20.755 --> 05:31.878 [SPEAKER_01]: Completely and I feel that it's like it's one of those things where it's like when I'm giving that compliment or I'm receiving that compliment I know it's coming from like deep within our souls Like we both feel it. 05:32.038 --> 05:36.340 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, so heavy where we're like you look incredible And it's like oh my god. 05:36.380 --> 05:40.041 [SPEAKER_00]: No actually compliments do mean more to me when they come from the mouth of fat women. 05:40.081 --> 05:40.781 [SPEAKER_00]: I completely agree 05:41.321 --> 05:52.034 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm like actually because what's what's unspoken is like I know every step that you've had to take to get to this point to have swag completely Complete and it's like I see you game recognized. 05:52.054 --> 05:52.394 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 05:52.775 --> 05:59.142 [SPEAKER_01]: I had to do I had to crawl to where I'm at now to girl There's a level of being seen that I just appreciate it's so important. 05:59.182 --> 05:59.843 [SPEAKER_01]: It's so important. 06:00.043 --> 06:00.744 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh god 06:04.749 --> 06:06.510 [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm so glad to be here with you today. 06:06.610 --> 06:07.151 [SPEAKER_00]: Me too. 06:07.391 --> 06:07.991 [SPEAKER_00]: It's an honor. 06:08.011 --> 06:09.452 [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I freaking God. 06:09.472 --> 06:10.253 [SPEAKER_01]: I feel honored. 06:10.553 --> 06:15.497 [SPEAKER_01]: And again, we so easily could have either of us texted one another, but you know what? 06:15.817 --> 06:16.698 [SPEAKER_01]: That was a lot of work. 06:16.738 --> 06:17.678 [SPEAKER_01]: It would have been a lot of work. 06:17.758 --> 06:19.540 [SPEAKER_00]: You did go to my favorite restaurant, though. 06:19.560 --> 06:19.760 [SPEAKER_00]: I did. 06:19.780 --> 06:21.121 [SPEAKER_01]: I went to walkers. 06:21.301 --> 06:25.724 [SPEAKER_01]: I literally we couldn't even get a reservation this weekend because it was packed. 06:25.904 --> 06:26.705 [SPEAKER_01]: I knew everybody there. 06:26.745 --> 06:27.525 [SPEAKER_01]: So they let me in. 06:28.186 --> 06:28.506 [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't. 06:28.606 --> 06:30.408 [SPEAKER_01]: But the people that I was with supposedly dead. 06:31.448 --> 06:43.642 [SPEAKER_00]: I love at that restaurant one of my favorite it like looks like a house on the inside Yeah, my favorite thing that they do is they make all of the waiters bring the food over and they like gather out of table and they go And they bring it up together. 06:43.762 --> 06:45.204 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, every individual table. 06:45.224 --> 06:48.708 [SPEAKER_01]: I thought that was so interesting I'm glad that you pointed out because I was watching that happen. 06:48.728 --> 06:49.028 [SPEAKER_00]: I was like 06:49.248 --> 06:50.289 [SPEAKER_00]: What are they doing? 06:50.309 --> 06:55.195 [SPEAKER_00]: I know the first time I went there, I was like, this is crazy, but they really like no matter what table they're serving. 06:55.235 --> 06:55.456 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 06:55.536 --> 06:58.659 [SPEAKER_01]: They all like deliver the food together. 06:58.699 --> 06:58.940 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 06:59.420 --> 07:00.021 [SPEAKER_01]: It was delicious. 07:00.061 --> 07:00.562 [SPEAKER_01]: It was amazing. 07:00.602 --> 07:05.447 [SPEAKER_01]: I did tell my friends that after we got back, I was like, what happened this weekend? 07:05.548 --> 07:07.290 [SPEAKER_01]: Gastrointestinaly can never happen again. 07:08.645 --> 07:30.639 [SPEAKER_01]: Because here's what I will say is that like when you're in a beach town and you're eating the food there, it is anything from like a double cheese burger to like fried had to like shrimp to lobster and then also go it's so indulgent and it's so much different types of stuff. 07:30.919 --> 07:37.264 [SPEAKER_01]: like I was like my body is experiencing like a combination of foods that it just normally does not and I don't know. 07:37.544 --> 07:42.708 [SPEAKER_01]: So it's like, oh you had clam chowder and also Mexican corn tonight, right? 07:43.108 --> 07:44.890 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna freak out on you at four in the morning. 07:44.910 --> 07:46.691 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's exactly what it is. 07:46.771 --> 07:50.994 [SPEAKER_00]: So good though, they have like, it's the best corn and clam chowder ever in the world. 07:51.074 --> 07:51.935 [SPEAKER_00]: It is so good. 07:51.955 --> 07:52.475 [SPEAKER_00]: It is delicious. 07:52.495 --> 07:54.357 [SPEAKER_01]: It was our favorite part of the meal at night. 07:54.557 --> 07:58.640 [SPEAKER_01]: That was like 85 degrees out and there was no AC in there and we were like, we'll take the clam chowder. 07:58.700 --> 08:00.021 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's so good. 08:00.141 --> 08:01.381 [SPEAKER_00]: It is the best thing on the menu. 08:01.401 --> 08:02.121 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad you got it. 08:02.201 --> 08:15.847 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I do love seafood to like to be in a town that has such good fresh seafood I was like yes, yeah, no, and I did have a lobster roll first time in a long time that I had a lobster roll I literally had one one today when I was there. 08:16.287 --> 08:18.708 [SPEAKER_00]: So good nothing is as good as that. 08:18.908 --> 08:25.071 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the Footbridge Lobster rolls are deliciosa deliciosa deliciosa just 08:25.651 --> 08:29.175 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll open the Southern Maine York and a Gunquit Vibes. 08:29.255 --> 08:30.336 [SPEAKER_00]: Be there or be square? 08:30.596 --> 08:31.317 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, brother. 08:35.510 --> 08:37.292 [SPEAKER_00]: So I was talking to you about this. 08:37.412 --> 08:47.483 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if the lover roles I've heard about this, new dating app on this series called Breeze, that I like the concept of this one. 08:47.603 --> 08:51.948 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the lover roles on the Croatia trip, tell me about it. 08:52.208 --> 08:54.831 [SPEAKER_00]: But basically the concept of this app, 08:56.012 --> 09:02.482 [SPEAKER_00]: is that the app automatically sets up a date when you match with someone. 09:02.882 --> 09:10.554 [SPEAKER_00]: So you have to be very careful about who you're matching with, because basically they have a bunch of in the cities that it's available in, which it is available in New York. 09:10.954 --> 09:21.464 [SPEAKER_00]: So when you match with someone, it instantly sees what areas of the city you're in and it makes you a reservation at one of their like partnered bars. 09:22.245 --> 09:25.608 [SPEAKER_00]: And you have to pay for your first drink within the app. 09:25.648 --> 09:29.431 [SPEAKER_00]: So it kind of locks you in to officially going on a day with this person. 09:29.451 --> 09:29.771 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 09:30.012 --> 09:34.075 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you bail on the date or cancel last minute, you do not get that money back. 09:34.816 --> 09:35.777 [SPEAKER_00]: They'd refund the person you 09:37.138 --> 09:39.781 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, but I like, and there's no chat once you match with someone. 09:39.801 --> 09:41.643 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like instantly date is planned. 09:42.164 --> 09:45.367 [SPEAKER_00]: Matching schedules to see what works you're out in the next week. 09:45.608 --> 09:45.868 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 09:46.148 --> 09:56.680 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, which I kind of love because so much of dating apps is like just getting stuck with all these people who just want to talk in circles and never actually go out. 09:56.780 --> 09:57.060 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 09:59.442 --> 10:10.068 [SPEAKER_00]: And this kind of just, yeah, takes out all that middle ground is like this is a dating app for people who actually just like want to use it as a way to meet people, but really just want to get off the apps and meet in person. 10:10.248 --> 10:11.569 [SPEAKER_00]: Right, which I kind of fuck with. 10:12.330 --> 10:13.410 [SPEAKER_01]: I really like that. 10:13.530 --> 10:18.693 [SPEAKER_01]: Like I love the idea of, yeah, like cutting out the like having an heart. 10:18.713 --> 10:26.898 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but what I have thought about a lot, I downloaded it to check it all out and see what the girlies are talking about, but as I was setting up my profile, I was like, 10:29.200 --> 10:33.826 [SPEAKER_00]: I really wish, like, as a bisexual person, I wish I could have two different profiles. 10:33.986 --> 10:41.515 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, one for men and one for women because I actually do wish to express the different parts of myself, depending on who I'm dating. 10:42.196 --> 10:43.197 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, so true. 10:43.297 --> 10:46.040 [SPEAKER_00]: If I'm dating men, I'm not gonna like, 10:46.941 --> 10:50.182 [SPEAKER_00]: Center all of my gayest interests on my profile. 10:50.323 --> 10:52.023 [SPEAKER_00]: I have so many interest in hobbies, right? 10:52.123 --> 10:52.323 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 10:52.383 --> 10:57.326 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna center the ones on my profile that I think will most likely have the most overlap with. 10:57.466 --> 10:57.686 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 10:57.766 --> 11:01.387 [SPEAKER_00]: But like I'm not gonna go on a big rant about Lady Gaga on my dating profile. 11:01.407 --> 11:07.830 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm dating men because more likely than not, there's less men that are gonna have an overlap with me there. 11:07.850 --> 11:12.252 [SPEAKER_00]: But when I'm dating women, I'm like, okay, but maybe I would like them to know that I'm a little monster. 11:12.692 --> 11:13.292 [SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean? 11:13.313 --> 11:29.325 [SPEAKER_00]: Like there's a there's other parts of me that I would want to center depending on who I'm dating and I actually think it's absurd that the dating apps haven't allowed you to make like different profiles depending on like who you date if you're a bisexual person. 11:29.365 --> 11:35.690 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I think it's just so hard to use dating apps as like a bisexual or queer person generally because it's just like 11:35.850 --> 11:48.316 [SPEAKER_01]: It's already so difficult to like express yourself period on a dating app and then to like add in the kind of the nuance of like who you might be talking to you. 11:48.856 --> 11:57.600 [SPEAKER_01]: I think it's just like such a difficult thing that like dating apps really have not accomplished yet because even if you are on like exclusively a queer dating app. 11:58.380 --> 12:11.469 [SPEAKER_01]: that is still just like one side of one coin you know what I mean like even if you are on like also like I don't want to have to be on so many I want to be on one dating app like right I want to be on one or zero dating app. 12:11.609 --> 12:24.699 [SPEAKER_00]: I just am not that fucking interesting right in having like a different dating app for every part of myself like I just want to have one or nothing yeah I can't deal with all of this yeah I can't have like one straight dating app and one 12:27.140 --> 12:42.728 [SPEAKER_00]: One dating app that makes me a date instantly and another dating app that doesn't like I just can we just have one can we just make one big mega super ultradating app yeah and make all the rest of them to funk to bring me the big one right 12:43.248 --> 12:46.311 [SPEAKER_00]: Call me up when you guys make the big one and other than that. 12:46.952 --> 12:47.673 [SPEAKER_00]: Get away from me. 12:48.013 --> 12:48.594 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm out. 12:49.134 --> 12:50.376 [SPEAKER_01]: I know, even you're describing that. 12:50.416 --> 12:53.339 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, oh my god, who has time for that? 12:53.359 --> 12:54.020 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 12:54.060 --> 12:55.762 [SPEAKER_00]: That's a full business at this point. 12:55.822 --> 12:57.003 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have all that time. 12:57.183 --> 13:01.488 [SPEAKER_01]: I put up a listing on Facebook Marketplace the other day and forgot about it for eight days. 13:01.928 --> 13:05.591 [SPEAKER_01]: You think I have time to check my dating apps every day? 13:05.611 --> 13:06.853 [SPEAKER_00]: No, I don't want to. 13:06.873 --> 13:09.655 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, I actually, I was just saying this to make before we started rolling. 13:09.675 --> 13:12.337 [SPEAKER_00]: And this was fully what my therapist and I talked about all day today. 13:12.778 --> 13:18.343 [SPEAKER_00]: But I am in this era where I just am really not interested in dating men. 13:18.563 --> 13:18.923 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 13:19.364 --> 13:22.386 [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that it's like so trauma-informed. 13:23.047 --> 13:26.490 [SPEAKER_00]: But also, I'm like, oh, it's just exhausting. 13:26.530 --> 13:26.850 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 13:27.371 --> 13:27.631 [SPEAKER_00]: It is. 13:30.257 --> 13:33.698 [SPEAKER_00]: Catch me only on the women's side of everything for a little while. 13:33.798 --> 13:35.919 [SPEAKER_00]: We are grateful because I can't deal with it. 13:36.399 --> 13:40.380 [SPEAKER_00]: So now I'm only creating my dating profile with women in mind. 13:41.701 --> 13:43.041 [SPEAKER_00]: Men get fucked, challenge. 13:43.621 --> 13:44.782 [SPEAKER_00]: You've lost your privileges to me. 13:48.665 --> 13:55.273 [SPEAKER_00]: I think that's fair, but I am going on a date tomorrow, but that was an accident. 13:56.474 --> 13:59.077 [SPEAKER_00]: I know, I'm like your age set this right there, but I don't want to date. 14:00.058 --> 14:03.382 [SPEAKER_00]: I am going on a date tomorrow, but it's because I was testing out this fucking 14:05.886 --> 14:11.252 [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, I knew that the whole premise of the app was that when you match it instantly sets up a date. 14:11.272 --> 14:11.432 [SPEAKER_00]: Yep. 14:11.893 --> 14:19.261 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if I realized that it was like no way out kind of deal unless you're going to like fully cancel and Ray, whatever I'm going to go. 14:19.588 --> 14:33.472 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna go, and I'm sure I'll have a great time, but after that word on, you know, you'll have a drink, you'll talk to somebody who knows who knows how these things go, and also nice to just chat to a new person. 14:33.492 --> 14:35.513 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm always nice to chat very much. 14:35.653 --> 14:43.375 [SPEAKER_00]: I am like interested in just really testing this app out and like seeing it through, give it a whirl, because I do like the concept of it. 14:43.635 --> 14:44.135 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 14:44.476 --> 14:45.776 [SPEAKER_01]: It's like a very cute concept. 14:45.836 --> 14:51.280 [SPEAKER_01]: They had a very similar app that I wonder if it's the same people that um relaunched it. 14:51.320 --> 14:58.084 [SPEAKER_01]: But of course, the app that I used, which was called bounce, not greased, very similar, though, which makes very similar. 14:58.224 --> 14:58.724 [SPEAKER_01]: I agree. 14:58.744 --> 15:04.007 [SPEAKER_01]: Um, they launched it quite literally in February of 2020. 15:05.228 --> 15:07.909 [SPEAKER_00]: Right, so like the worst time to launch a dating app ever. 15:08.449 --> 15:13.450 [SPEAKER_01]: So I like went on one bad state and then it, you know, completely God right. 15:13.710 --> 15:14.310 [SPEAKER_01]: Just goodbye. 15:14.350 --> 15:14.710 [SPEAKER_01]: Goodbye. 15:15.210 --> 15:15.790 [SPEAKER_01]: It was goodbye. 15:16.511 --> 15:17.471 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's tough for them. 15:17.551 --> 15:18.251 [SPEAKER_01]: That's tough for them. 15:18.271 --> 15:19.031 [SPEAKER_00]: Great idea. 15:19.131 --> 15:26.533 [SPEAKER_00]: Like quite possibly the single worst time to launch that in the entire history of dating apps being a thing really unfortunate. 15:26.913 --> 15:28.554 [SPEAKER_00]: I actually can't think of a worst time. 15:28.574 --> 15:32.057 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, deeply, deeply unfortunate timing on their part. 15:32.397 --> 15:39.602 [SPEAKER_01]: But if it's the same people who congrats to you, I'm glad that you found your way back to this app in this community because I think you had a really good idea. 15:40.283 --> 15:41.764 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, totally. 15:41.844 --> 15:43.765 [SPEAKER_00]: So, excited to hear how you're doing. 15:43.805 --> 15:46.247 [SPEAKER_00]: Good, I totally all update the lower notes. 15:49.572 --> 16:05.616 [SPEAKER_00]: I was talking to my therapist about this and connected here kind of reflecting on this, but when I was in Florida for my friend's Bachelor at, which I guess I haven't done an episode since this Bachelor at, it was kukupu dance crazy sound. 16:05.636 --> 16:07.776 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to talk more about it on the post show. 16:08.857 --> 16:11.857 [SPEAKER_00]: There may or may not have been a stripper involved. 16:12.498 --> 16:13.838 [SPEAKER_01]: I may or may not have seen photos. 16:15.170 --> 16:22.658 [SPEAKER_00]: I got a little bit and the live photo this was a little crazy Yeah, you would not believe what we're happening in the live photo. 16:22.678 --> 16:35.752 [SPEAKER_00]: I actually I have many stories about that night that was crazy But I'll save those for the patrons because they are a little bit too crazy for the main part But we went out one of the nights 16:36.933 --> 16:37.713 [SPEAKER_00]: It was a disaster. 16:38.274 --> 16:50.300 [SPEAKER_00]: It was so much fun, but it was a disaster and it was like the clock struck 1230 and every annoying man in the world just like descended upon our group. 16:50.340 --> 17:00.545 [SPEAKER_00]: We were at the upper level of this club in St. Pete and I swear to God, it was every annoying man that's ever existed just like descended from the rafters at 1230. 17:00.585 --> 17:00.865 [SPEAKER_00]: And it is 17:03.626 --> 17:29.065 [SPEAKER_00]: crazy to me that that works on people yeah because okay a man came up to me picture this and I was like leaning by the balcony and I had my hand against like a couch armrests and I was talking to my friend and some man comes up to me and goes like this runs his fingers up my arm 17:29.486 --> 17:34.328 [SPEAKER_00]: starts at my fingers and just touches me, runs it all the way up my arm and I'm like who's touching me? 17:34.628 --> 17:37.128 [SPEAKER_00]: I turn and look, this guy goes, wink, sat me. 17:37.369 --> 17:37.669 [SPEAKER_01]: What? 17:37.909 --> 17:40.409 [SPEAKER_00]: No, like, hello? 17:40.429 --> 17:41.810 [SPEAKER_00]: No, what's happening? 17:42.170 --> 17:50.533 [SPEAKER_00]: Uh, so I was like, uh, I'm like turning and I, we have like a photos of the groom blown up on the 17:51.673 --> 17:55.158 [SPEAKER_00]: like paddles and so I was using it as a fan because hard as fuck. 17:55.218 --> 18:03.791 [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm using his face as a fan and then he takes it out of my hand and starts fanning me fanning himself and I was like, oh, yeah, man. 18:03.811 --> 18:04.652 [SPEAKER_00]: Stop talking to me challenge. 18:04.812 --> 18:06.194 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so I am like just like 18:07.055 --> 18:22.643 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to get him to stop talking and then like turning my back and like being really fucking rude because I did not want to talk to him Yeah, and then when it he realizes it's not working on me He just like pivots to doing it to the next girl and it does work on her which good for him But I have to sit there and be like why is this working on anyone? 18:22.664 --> 18:27.706 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah guys wake up challenge wake up Why is this working on anyone that's crazy? 18:27.746 --> 18:30.348 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah also half the guys that were there 18:31.508 --> 18:40.235 [SPEAKER_00]: We're pilots which was greatly concerning to me because why are they flying a plane those guys are the ones flying planes Those guys also for sure have wives. 18:40.556 --> 18:42.217 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not feeling good about the fact that they're flying planes. 18:42.237 --> 18:46.280 [SPEAKER_00]: They're flying planes and they have wives They act like that they're flying planes and they have wives. 18:46.300 --> 18:48.742 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, oh, yeah 3 guys. 18:48.842 --> 18:50.704 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not feeling good about what's happening at Delta. 18:50.804 --> 18:51.044 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not 18:51.244 --> 18:54.205 [SPEAKER_00]: Likeing what I'm seeing on me from the Delta community. 18:54.285 --> 18:55.386 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god. 18:55.426 --> 19:08.512 [SPEAKER_00]: That's so scary But I the way that men act in clubs in bars also just like the touchiness in general When a stranger touches me in a bar, I like feel violent 19:08.832 --> 19:11.936 [SPEAKER_01]: No, I feel quite picky about it. 19:11.976 --> 19:18.385 [SPEAKER_01]: The only times that that has ever worked on me is in the brief two hours when I'm at my drunkest somewhere. 19:18.966 --> 19:23.692 [SPEAKER_01]: And that hasn't happened since I was maybe 24 years old. 19:23.932 --> 19:25.933 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, don't touch someone. 19:26.214 --> 19:27.755 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, they don't know. 19:28.195 --> 19:29.556 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't touch them like that, especially. 19:29.696 --> 19:33.919 [SPEAKER_00]: I hate when they're trying to scooge through the crowd and they touch the like small in your back. 19:34.059 --> 19:35.920 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, don't do that either. 19:35.940 --> 19:37.141 [SPEAKER_01]: That away from me. 19:37.261 --> 19:39.963 [SPEAKER_00]: And also, this is another thing that sometimes I'm like, is this? 19:40.843 --> 19:47.525 [SPEAKER_00]: something that I have learned from being fat that like, this is why I am like, well, fucking, obviously. 19:47.865 --> 19:52.627 [SPEAKER_00]: But if I'm looking at a crowd and there's no clear path through, I don't walk through it. 19:52.927 --> 19:53.287 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 19:53.867 --> 19:54.788 [SPEAKER_00]: Because I don't fit there. 19:54.948 --> 19:55.188 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 19:57.483 --> 19:57.783 [SPEAKER_01]: right. 19:58.403 --> 20:06.647 [SPEAKER_00]: And then when I see men just like push themselves places and there's like no room for them to stand and they'll just push themselves right up next to you and be like sorry, it's nowhere for me to go. 20:06.727 --> 20:07.687 [SPEAKER_00]: Like then why are you here? 20:07.787 --> 20:08.087 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 20:08.368 --> 20:11.069 [SPEAKER_00]: If there's nowhere for you to go, why are you first up against me? 20:11.209 --> 20:11.389 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 20:11.409 --> 20:13.370 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, is this just like a fat person thing? 20:13.610 --> 20:19.672 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I've been so aware of how much space they shake up my whole life that when I see a place I don't fit, I don't bother pushing myself in there. 20:19.872 --> 20:20.092 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 20:20.393 --> 20:21.813 [SPEAKER_00]: And men just like be doing shit all the 20:27.318 --> 20:38.820 [SPEAKER_01]: I see places I do fit and I still end up not fitting right I'm like, oh, oh, sorry, I'm like knocking shit over Yeah, and also it is so great like the audacity of men I actually I didn't tell you this about this weekend. 20:38.840 --> 20:51.083 [SPEAKER_01]: This was like this was a it was a blip on the radar of what happened But part of what happened this weekend because I was also in Maine with my friends and we were with kind of like friends of friends People some people we knew some people we didn't whatever 20:52.183 --> 21:12.088 [SPEAKER_01]: And there was one guy in this group who I pretty quickly assessed that he was checking out like one of my friends intently and I had already kind of seen him do like gears turning of like if it doesn't work out with her I'm gonna go for her meaning me 21:13.908 --> 21:17.211 [SPEAKER_01]: And sure enough, they all ended up going out one night. 21:17.291 --> 21:19.172 [SPEAKER_01]: I ended up going to sleep because I was tired. 21:19.292 --> 21:19.792 [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't want to. 21:20.353 --> 21:29.579 [SPEAKER_01]: And he was like dancing with her, kissing her on her cheek, like pulling her in to like, and she was like not having it. 21:30.079 --> 21:35.343 [SPEAKER_01]: Come to find out that man has a fiance of five years and a kid. 21:39.546 --> 21:41.867 [SPEAKER_00]: The way I just actually felt my blood go cold. 21:44.889 --> 21:45.189 [SPEAKER_00]: I know. 21:45.469 --> 21:46.130 [SPEAKER_00]: What is wrong with him? 21:46.150 --> 21:46.830 [SPEAKER_00]: How'd you find that out? 21:47.311 --> 21:50.693 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, his friends told us, oh my god. 21:50.833 --> 21:58.578 [SPEAKER_01]: And I believe actually on that same trip he ended up making out with a bartender who worked in town. 21:58.598 --> 22:05.322 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not doing anything. 22:05.382 --> 22:06.463 [SPEAKER_00]: Be castrated challenge. 22:08.055 --> 22:11.820 [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone should cast right one man a year men are doing anything. 22:12.101 --> 22:13.142 [SPEAKER_00]: I love saying things like this 22:17.196 --> 22:20.238 [SPEAKER_00]: It's so awesome. 22:20.298 --> 22:21.238 [SPEAKER_01]: He's just crying. 22:21.278 --> 22:22.639 [SPEAKER_01]: No, it was so crazy. 22:22.819 --> 22:25.800 [SPEAKER_01]: We found that out and I was like, I'm not surprised about that at all. 22:26.441 --> 22:33.704 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's so funny because I overheard someone saying what I thought was like, oh, his girlfriend, his wife, whatever. 22:34.184 --> 22:38.346 [SPEAKER_01]: And so I went to my friends later and I was like, guys, I'm pretty sure that that guy has like a wife or something. 22:38.386 --> 22:39.387 [SPEAKER_01]: And they were like, no way. 22:39.407 --> 22:41.068 [SPEAKER_01]: Like no shot he'd be acting like that. 22:41.448 --> 22:45.190 [SPEAKER_01]: If he like very publicly has like a wife or something and I was like, no, I think he does. 22:45.790 --> 22:48.093 [SPEAKER_01]: Turns out that's insane. 22:48.293 --> 22:48.593 [SPEAKER_01]: I know. 22:49.034 --> 22:56.522 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I feel like the as days go on I really do witness something new every day that I'm like no guys that's crazy actually. 22:56.542 --> 22:58.364 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah Don't date them. 22:58.605 --> 23:05.493 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, it just makes it easier and easier to be like don't put up with that Right, it just makes it easier and easier for me to be like well, I'm not going to date you that totally 23:06.033 --> 23:08.436 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, how do you think I've arrived where I've arrived? 23:08.456 --> 23:13.201 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, we didn't get to the point where I'm like actually men revoked access to me. 23:13.281 --> 23:13.501 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 23:13.561 --> 23:14.902 [SPEAKER_00]: Only women are allowed to tape me. 23:15.062 --> 23:15.303 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 23:15.683 --> 23:16.604 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm bisexual. 23:16.884 --> 23:20.128 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, there was a world where men did have access to me. 23:20.148 --> 23:20.828 [SPEAKER_01]: There was a chance. 23:21.349 --> 23:21.909 [SPEAKER_00]: No longer. 23:21.930 --> 23:22.530 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 23:22.590 --> 23:23.411 [SPEAKER_00]: Your own probation. 23:23.491 --> 23:23.831 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 23:24.577 --> 23:44.712 [SPEAKER_01]: that's jail that's jail no it's made my selection process like very yeah particular completely also i do like really get off on being a bitch for sure which is what i'm learning these days oh yeah the Croatian lover girls witnessed something beautiful and gorgeous on the trip 23:45.012 --> 23:51.376 [SPEAKER_00]: When we were on the ferry, we were coming from Havar to Dubrovnik and it's like a super busy ferry. 23:51.416 --> 23:56.879 [SPEAKER_00]: So we just have to drop our luggage off in the bottom part of the ship and then go up to find a seat. 23:57.259 --> 24:01.262 [SPEAKER_00]: There was like no open seats in the regular part of the ship. 24:01.282 --> 24:06.545 [SPEAKER_00]: So we were all just kind of standing around because we caught wind that they were opening up the top part of the ship. 24:06.565 --> 24:10.667 [SPEAKER_00]: So it should just be like a bunch of open seats, smaller than the main part, but still. 24:11.768 --> 24:16.132 [SPEAKER_00]: so they did end up opening the upstairs and there's 25 of us. 24:16.853 --> 24:25.241 [SPEAKER_00]: Some people did find seats on the lower level, but let's say there's like half of us that went up to the upper level of the ship. 24:25.842 --> 24:29.766 [SPEAKER_00]: When we get up there, there is a grown man trying to save 24:30.486 --> 24:33.629 [SPEAKER_00]: Three rows and there's three seats in each row. 24:34.129 --> 24:40.014 [SPEAKER_00]: So he's trying to save nine seats and he's just like yeah They're I'm well, there's people coming. 24:40.315 --> 24:43.517 [SPEAKER_00]: We're like where are they where are the people because we're here now? 24:43.577 --> 24:57.949 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and we are people and we need seats and so we're just kind of all standing around like, okay And we start slowly like overtaking some of his rows because we're like you can't save this many seats That's what we're concerned saying to save a seat for the person next to you is one thing 24:59.811 --> 25:01.132 [SPEAKER_00]: It's all the way you save two seats. 25:01.172 --> 25:03.473 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah any more than that go fuck yourself. 25:03.493 --> 25:04.114 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's fun. 25:04.134 --> 25:05.255 [SPEAKER_00]: Like that's crazy. 25:05.275 --> 25:20.526 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so We slowly start overtaking his section three people sit down that another three people sit down There's one row left that he's standing in and I can tell that he's like realizing that he kind of lost the battle here And might just fully give up and go away. 25:20.566 --> 25:21.807 [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm standing there watching him 25:22.848 --> 25:33.297 [SPEAKER_00]: And there were three men who came up to the upper level right after us, and they were watching us the whole time. 25:33.497 --> 25:37.221 [SPEAKER_00]: They saw that there was a group of a bunch of women trying to get seats. 25:37.621 --> 25:39.643 [SPEAKER_00]: They walk upstairs after us, and they just stand there. 25:40.083 --> 25:48.031 [SPEAKER_00]: And this man who has been hogging all these seats and telling us no, looks at those three guys, and he's like, how just you guys can take this, I'll move. 25:48.671 --> 25:52.533 [SPEAKER_00]: What he slides out of the row and those three guys start to slide in. 25:52.993 --> 25:53.513 [SPEAKER_00]: I see it. 25:53.573 --> 25:56.834 [SPEAKER_00]: I go absolute the fuck not I sit my fat ass down in the middle of the row. 25:56.854 --> 26:05.437 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not even getting they were walking in I go They were so mad at me. 26:05.457 --> 26:08.359 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, they were like um we were gonna sit there. 26:08.399 --> 26:09.299 [SPEAKER_00]: I was like yeah, me too 26:10.931 --> 26:12.853 [SPEAKER_01]: I was bitch. 26:12.913 --> 26:14.595 [SPEAKER_01]: I was being a bitch because I was there. 26:14.915 --> 26:16.116 [SPEAKER_01]: What happened to Shivalry? 26:16.176 --> 26:17.558 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I was here first. 26:17.638 --> 26:17.958 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 26:17.998 --> 26:19.319 [SPEAKER_00]: You saw me here first. 26:19.379 --> 26:19.620 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 26:19.720 --> 26:23.864 [SPEAKER_00]: This fucking loser man wouldn't make room for us, but he would make room for you. 26:23.884 --> 26:24.304 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 26:24.324 --> 26:26.807 [SPEAKER_01]: Who came second and you're just gonna let him do that? 26:27.347 --> 26:29.428 [SPEAKER_01]: Fuck no, I'm so I sat my ass down. 26:29.448 --> 26:30.308 [SPEAKER_00]: I was like, I don't give a shit. 26:30.768 --> 26:32.109 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm beefing with my whole row. 26:32.389 --> 26:39.031 [SPEAKER_00]: The two guys that are sitting next to me are pissed They're one boy that I kicked out is over across the berry shoes off, by the way. 26:39.511 --> 26:44.873 [SPEAKER_00]: Now he has of awkward level full of lover girls fucking piss 26:45.353 --> 26:56.895 [SPEAKER_00]: So we're all in the group chat talk to each other and they're like, no, that's crazy We just happened Erin one of the girls on the trip was like that was some real New York City Yeah, I was like I've been training. 26:57.296 --> 27:07.858 [SPEAKER_00]: I love yes with men on public transportation Don't try it, but just this man thought that he was gonna swoop in and take my seat Oh, but there's three of us we were gonna sit there. 27:08.218 --> 27:09.278 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't give a fuck 27:09.458 --> 27:10.619 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I was gonna sit here too. 27:10.740 --> 27:14.383 [SPEAKER_00]: I was also standing here the whole time with a big group of bitches behind me. 27:14.504 --> 27:14.744 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 27:14.844 --> 27:16.426 [SPEAKER_00]: So guess what, I'm here now, bitch. 27:16.666 --> 27:17.527 [SPEAKER_00]: Now we're best friends. 27:17.567 --> 27:17.947 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 27:18.728 --> 27:19.649 [SPEAKER_00]: He's in the other seat. 27:19.669 --> 27:21.651 [SPEAKER_00]: His boys across the boat with no shoes on. 27:22.172 --> 27:23.313 [SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely, actually go full. 27:25.092 --> 27:28.094 [SPEAKER_00]: And then there was other people in the row next to us. 27:28.114 --> 27:30.276 [SPEAKER_00]: There was two seaters across the row. 27:30.716 --> 27:32.098 [SPEAKER_00]: And they got up and left. 27:32.118 --> 27:33.739 [SPEAKER_00]: So there was a fully open row. 27:33.839 --> 27:38.483 [SPEAKER_00]: And for a second, I was like, I could go switch and have my own row right now. 27:39.043 --> 27:41.605 [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm actually so committed to being a bitch. 27:41.645 --> 27:46.249 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that I'm gonna stay here and sit with my boys for the rest of this fairy. 27:47.990 --> 27:50.492 [SPEAKER_00]: We were literally having the time of our lives in that group chat. 27:50.512 --> 27:52.774 [SPEAKER_00]: That was probably one of my favorite parts 27:55.225 --> 28:04.229 [SPEAKER_00]: The absolute rage fest that ensued in that group chat afterwards and everyone's people are like zooming in taking photos of this guy's bare feet on the ferry It was awesome. 28:04.570 --> 28:05.530 [SPEAKER_01]: That's so incredible. 28:06.070 --> 28:13.794 [SPEAKER_01]: And I do love it because they were absolutely right like it is like so New York too to be like To for someone to be like, oh, I was gonna sit there and it's like bitch me too. 28:13.834 --> 28:15.795 [SPEAKER_01]: You saw me Right, I'm here the whole time. 28:15.835 --> 28:16.796 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm here the whole time. 28:16.816 --> 28:19.657 [SPEAKER_01]: You have eyes like you fucking have eyes. 28:19.737 --> 28:20.637 [SPEAKER_01]: What happened? 28:20.657 --> 28:20.878 [SPEAKER_01]: Right 28:22.098 --> 28:30.608 [SPEAKER_01]: What happens to the the era of life where you guys would have act you like would have been like for the lady for the lady right have you You were here first of course. 28:30.648 --> 28:36.776 [SPEAKER_00]: I could not know that's any more no, but yeah, sorry You just got to be mean 28:37.456 --> 29:01.862 [SPEAKER_01]: It is so crazy like I was I think it was like a tweet that I saw the other day that was like This type of like new red pill conservative wave of men is insane because like I'll talk to my dad Who's the most conservative man in the world and I'll like tell him how men are treating women and he's like that's Gastly yeah, like it's like it's like I feel like yeah, there was like Not to say that like conserve like old conservative men 29:07.303 --> 29:22.362 [SPEAKER_00]: women right and we are in their own way it was like we're expecting like a very misogynistic great women are like delicate creatures that they just clean and they stay home with the kids they're motherly they're nurturing and we have to like 29:22.742 --> 29:25.183 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, pre-election that for them, and for that. 29:25.483 --> 29:48.047 [SPEAKER_01]: I will say this though, it's so freeing when you have moments like that, where you feel the years that you've lived in New York like taking over you, and like you meet someone's kind of like hesitancy interacting with a stranger in public with like a New York like, I do this every fucking day, get out of my way. 29:52.948 --> 30:01.313 [SPEAKER_00]: I really, I was laughing my ass off though and I kept wondering if he was like gonna look over and look at my phone because I was laughing Oh, I'm treating all these time points. 30:01.373 --> 30:05.735 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and like he's right next to me I'm like bully talking smack about him in his buddies. 30:05.895 --> 30:06.595 [SPEAKER_01]: That's awesome 30:07.936 --> 30:09.097 [SPEAKER_01]: That's so fucking awesome. 30:09.117 --> 30:12.099 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, the whole thing was really quite something. 30:12.160 --> 30:12.720 [SPEAKER_01]: Perfect trip. 30:13.360 --> 30:14.902 [SPEAKER_00]: Perfect trip. 30:14.962 --> 30:15.602 [SPEAKER_00]: Perfect trip. 30:15.682 --> 30:17.364 [SPEAKER_00]: Men stop touching people at the bar. 30:18.084 --> 30:18.625 [SPEAKER_00]: Please. 30:18.765 --> 30:21.047 [SPEAKER_00]: And just like being menaces overall. 30:21.147 --> 30:21.587 [SPEAKER_00]: Please. 30:22.188 --> 30:22.668 [SPEAKER_00]: How about that? 30:22.808 --> 30:23.349 [SPEAKER_00]: How about that? 30:23.569 --> 30:24.449 [SPEAKER_01]: How about that America? 30:25.370 --> 30:26.671 [SPEAKER_01]: I like that you've started saying that. 30:27.652 --> 30:28.733 [SPEAKER_01]: I do love that. 30:28.793 --> 30:29.153 [SPEAKER_01]: It's fun. 30:29.173 --> 30:31.555 [SPEAKER_01]: It's a new... What now, America? 30:32.016 --> 30:32.876 [SPEAKER_01]: I like it's a new... 30:32.956 --> 30:33.697 [SPEAKER_01]: I like that. 30:35.129 --> 30:38.872 [SPEAKER_01]: I like that every time I put it implies that we're talking to the entirety of America. 30:39.292 --> 30:39.793 [SPEAKER_00]: Totally. 30:39.873 --> 30:40.493 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll enjoy that. 30:40.513 --> 30:42.335 [SPEAKER_00]: And you need to answer for the crimes. 30:42.415 --> 30:42.675 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 30:43.596 --> 30:48.820 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's another male etiquette out at night thing that I'll pitch to you. 30:49.261 --> 30:51.002 [SPEAKER_00]: Man ate this podcast. 30:51.102 --> 30:52.603 [SPEAKER_00]: Man ate this podcast. 30:52.884 --> 30:55.105 [SPEAKER_00]: The men listening to the podcast are the ones that are commenting. 30:55.446 --> 30:56.546 [SPEAKER_00]: You're really negative. 30:57.227 --> 30:58.488 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't like when you are negative. 30:58.508 --> 31:00.690 [SPEAKER_00]: This podcast used to be so much fun to listen to. 31:00.730 --> 31:01.891 [SPEAKER_01]: And now it's so negative. 31:02.011 --> 31:03.892 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's like, what episodes are you listening to, brother? 31:04.613 --> 31:07.155 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's what I will say though, this one's a little bit more polite. 31:07.195 --> 31:08.696 [SPEAKER_01]: It's good, it's goofy. 31:08.736 --> 31:09.557 [SPEAKER_01]: They might like this one. 31:09.577 --> 31:10.517 [SPEAKER_01]: You guys might like this one. 31:10.557 --> 31:11.798 [SPEAKER_01]: Male listeners, don't leave yet. 31:11.838 --> 31:15.561 [SPEAKER_00]: Listen up, you guys might like this one. 31:15.581 --> 31:20.585 [SPEAKER_01]: So something that our friends really like to do is karaoke. 31:21.205 --> 31:24.147 [SPEAKER_01]: Like down, back for karaoke. 31:24.267 --> 31:29.011 [SPEAKER_01]: If they could end every single night out, doing karaoke, they would. 31:31.043 --> 31:50.185 [SPEAKER_01]: And one of, so my friend Tonya, the other day we were driving up to Maine and she was talking about how one of our friends who was a man recently sent her several voice memos in a row practicing one of his new karaoke songs. 31:53.730 --> 32:16.015 [SPEAKER_01]: know I like that and then she proceeded to play those voice memos over car play and it was I'm not kidding it was like anywhere between like 8 to 12 like two minute long voice memos of him being like duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh duh 32:17.253 --> 32:18.194 [SPEAKER_00]: No, I think that's funny. 32:18.234 --> 32:19.374 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, that was my question. 32:19.394 --> 32:25.096 [SPEAKER_01]: Is that was like, do we think that it's ghost to practice your karaoke songs before you sing them out at night? 32:25.256 --> 32:27.036 [SPEAKER_01]: Or do you think that like we should be doing that more? 32:27.176 --> 32:32.918 [SPEAKER_00]: I think that if somebody was like a good singer doing that, I'd be irritated. 32:32.978 --> 32:33.198 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 32:33.258 --> 32:36.419 [SPEAKER_00]: But if it's a bad singer practicing, I think that's actually so funny. 32:36.599 --> 32:41.241 [SPEAKER_01]: It was, and it was like so critically, it was him like trying to figure out the rhythm of a song. 32:41.281 --> 32:41.821 [SPEAKER_01]: Right, right. 32:41.841 --> 32:43.021 [SPEAKER_01]: Like he was not getting it. 32:43.041 --> 32:43.941 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and that's great. 32:44.082 --> 32:45.162 [SPEAKER_00]: I think that's really good. 32:45.802 --> 32:50.506 [SPEAKER_01]: And he would be like, okay, fuck, like, now I'm gonna play it with the Spotify track while I'm watching the YouTube words. 32:50.946 --> 32:51.107 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 32:51.167 --> 32:51.447 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay. 32:51.707 --> 32:53.228 [SPEAKER_01]: He would have different, like, approaches. 32:53.268 --> 32:54.389 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, karaoke at home. 32:54.449 --> 32:55.190 [SPEAKER_01]: Very okay at home. 32:55.210 --> 32:56.571 [SPEAKER_00]: Sharing it via voice memo. 32:56.591 --> 32:56.892 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 32:57.292 --> 32:57.472 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay. 32:57.492 --> 32:58.233 [SPEAKER_01]: I like his vibe. 32:58.273 --> 33:00.294 [SPEAKER_01]: And I think that we should be doing more of that honestly. 33:00.314 --> 33:02.176 [SPEAKER_00]: There's something nice about that also. 33:02.216 --> 33:02.576 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 33:02.596 --> 33:07.941 [SPEAKER_00]: There's something like sweet to me about someone practicing their karaoke in my text messages. 33:08.041 --> 33:08.461 [SPEAKER_01]: I agree. 33:08.501 --> 33:09.802 [SPEAKER_00]: Which does remind me one time. 33:10.583 --> 33:19.652 [SPEAKER_00]: When I was in high school, I was going on like a ski trip that I didn't end up skiing on with some friends of mine at the time, and I was driving us. 33:19.672 --> 33:21.614 [SPEAKER_00]: We had like a five hour drive or something. 33:21.654 --> 33:21.915 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 33:22.335 --> 33:29.782 [SPEAKER_00]: And at the time, my car, I didn't have an ox cord or anything in my car growing up, so I would just burn a bunch of CDs that I kept in my car. 33:29.882 --> 33:30.163 [SPEAKER_00]: Love. 33:30.844 --> 33:39.814 [SPEAKER_00]: And so my friends, when they were coming on the trip, they were like, we're gonna burn a CD of like songs from us that like, we can listen to in the car as well. 33:39.934 --> 33:40.134 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 33:40.294 --> 33:44.779 [SPEAKER_00]: So they burned, it was like a bunch of stuff, songs that they liked, some songs that they knew I liked. 33:45.660 --> 33:56.992 [SPEAKER_00]: And then the last song on the mix, it started out sounding like Lady Gaga's aura, which was off art pop, which was around that time it probably came out the year before. 33:57.432 --> 33:58.413 [SPEAKER_01]: And I love art pop. 33:58.533 --> 34:01.897 [SPEAKER_00]: Our pop's like to this day, my favorite Lady Gaga album. 34:01.917 --> 34:02.117 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 34:04.619 --> 34:16.446 [SPEAKER_00]: Shortly after the song starts, I realized that they recorded themselves singing aura and so it's aura by Lady Gaga saying by two of my guy friends at the time. 34:16.626 --> 34:20.989 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, and I thought it was like the nicest thing anyone had ever done for me. 34:21.049 --> 34:31.936 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I was like I got that you guys are like making fun right into a joke how like you know can't be in ridiculous this song is right but it actually was so sweet to me 34:32.676 --> 34:35.780 [SPEAKER_00]: To see like my friends be like, oh, she loves this song. 34:35.800 --> 34:45.412 [SPEAKER_00]: So we're gonna make this mix tape and the last song is gonna be us singing aura And it's like a joke and it's silly, but we're doing it to make her laugh And this is one of the favorite songs. 34:45.432 --> 34:47.174 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like that was actually so nice. 34:47.234 --> 34:48.195 [SPEAKER_00]: That is really nice 34:49.156 --> 34:52.357 [SPEAKER_00]: I actually thought about that a lot, just being like, that is so cute. 34:52.638 --> 34:57.700 [SPEAKER_00]: Then it's also something that can't be replicated, because how the fuck am I gonna listen to a CD now? 34:57.940 --> 34:59.601 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, that's true. 34:59.741 --> 35:02.002 [SPEAKER_00]: If someone gave me a CD now, I wouldn't even know what to do with it. 35:02.542 --> 35:05.744 [SPEAKER_01]: I guess make it a frame it or something, I don't know. 35:06.564 --> 35:07.865 [SPEAKER_01]: Make it like a craft, right? 35:07.885 --> 35:08.665 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I don't know. 35:08.685 --> 35:11.606 [SPEAKER_01]: But if you're gonna have to buy a CD player, I'm like, okay, I guess I will. 35:11.666 --> 35:13.127 [SPEAKER_00]: I guess I will to listen to this. 35:14.268 --> 35:15.908 [SPEAKER_00]: If it's that important to you, I guess I'll do it. 35:17.970 --> 35:19.653 [SPEAKER_00]: There is something about like singing 35:21.225 --> 35:24.266 [SPEAKER_00]: poorly, yeah, and sharing that with someone. 35:24.546 --> 35:26.146 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a kind of intimacy that I like. 35:26.246 --> 35:27.727 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's like very endearing. 35:27.827 --> 35:28.267 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 35:28.287 --> 35:31.328 [SPEAKER_01]: They did the karaoke challenge on Love Island, USA the other day. 35:31.748 --> 35:32.688 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's what I will say. 35:32.888 --> 35:33.908 [SPEAKER_01]: That's where I draw the line. 35:34.008 --> 35:34.909 [SPEAKER_01]: I actually put it. 35:34.969 --> 35:36.129 [SPEAKER_01]: I couldn't watch it. 35:36.169 --> 35:37.369 [SPEAKER_01]: karaoke challenge. 35:37.429 --> 35:38.850 [SPEAKER_01]: They sing karaoke. 35:38.890 --> 35:41.991 [SPEAKER_01]: And then at the end, each couple sings karaoke, sings a duet. 35:42.051 --> 35:44.611 [SPEAKER_01]: And then one is crowned karaoke, King karaoke. 35:44.751 --> 35:46.192 [SPEAKER_00]: OK, I actually hate that. 35:46.352 --> 35:47.832 [SPEAKER_00]: And I haven't done that on UK. 35:47.872 --> 35:48.973 [SPEAKER_00]: And I hope they never do. 35:49.093 --> 35:50.413 [SPEAKER_01]: I physically couldn't watch it. 35:50.633 --> 35:52.674 [SPEAKER_01]: I actually just like straight up could have watched it. 35:52.714 --> 35:56.876 [SPEAKER_01]: They started singing and I was like, this is horrendous. 35:57.256 --> 36:04.059 [SPEAKER_01]: It was truly astonishing how no one could carry a single tune. 36:05.680 --> 36:06.120 [SPEAKER_01]: No one. 36:06.240 --> 36:07.941 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not asking for perfection right away. 36:08.381 --> 36:10.122 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm asking for just basic. 36:11.468 --> 36:13.009 [SPEAKER_00]: Follow the notes. 36:13.089 --> 36:14.669 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not hard. 36:15.490 --> 36:16.970 [SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, that's where I draw the line. 36:17.310 --> 36:23.133 [SPEAKER_01]: But if you're singing earnestly and you're kind of bad at it in my phone and a voice my mouth, that's going to love it. 36:23.233 --> 36:23.713 [SPEAKER_01]: I like that. 36:23.933 --> 36:26.094 [SPEAKER_00]: So you are watching Love Island U.S. Yeah, I am. 36:28.335 --> 36:30.456 [SPEAKER_01]: I know I need to watch UK as well. 36:30.776 --> 36:32.937 [SPEAKER_00]: This season of UK is really good. 36:32.997 --> 36:33.277 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 36:33.837 --> 36:36.599 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean this season of US is pretty good as well. 36:36.619 --> 36:43.121 [SPEAKER_00]: There's one I think honestly probably she's my favorite islander of all time and she's become it. 36:43.602 --> 36:44.442 [SPEAKER_00]: Her name is Jasmine. 36:44.462 --> 36:46.103 [SPEAKER_00]: She's on love island UK right now 36:56.520 --> 36:57.341 [SPEAKER_00]: I love Mora. 36:57.481 --> 36:59.963 [SPEAKER_00]: I love Mora is more like an all-timeer. 37:00.003 --> 37:02.785 [SPEAKER_00]: Mora and Eccansu have been my favorite. 37:03.226 --> 37:13.674 [SPEAKER_00]: Jasmin is genuinely very smart and direct and probably comes off as like the most 37:14.995 --> 37:24.249 [SPEAKER_00]: feminist islander i've ever seen on the show interesting like she just she actually seems like someone that i'd want to be friends with Yeah, which is not common on my way. 37:24.269 --> 37:29.597 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, and I just like really fuck with her and how she moves and carries herself and 37:30.178 --> 37:36.560 [SPEAKER_00]: I love the demand that she's with in this like there's no man in that villa that's good enough for her. 37:36.620 --> 37:39.621 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, she is so far out of all of their leagues. 37:39.661 --> 37:41.102 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a bananas to me. 37:41.202 --> 37:45.203 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but in the man that she's with I don't understand why the fuck she's in a couple with him. 37:45.223 --> 37:46.823 [SPEAKER_00]: It makes no sense. 37:47.143 --> 37:51.445 [SPEAKER_00]: He is a normie as hell and she's like the coolest bitch to ever live. 37:51.485 --> 37:51.685 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah 37:51.925 --> 38:07.679 [SPEAKER_00]: But I said this on Instagram the other day and some people told me that I guess the UK public really doesn't like her and she's been getting a lot of hate online and I was just like, okay, that's fucking insane to me if that's true because she is like so likable. 38:19.328 --> 38:25.830 [SPEAKER_00]: So, to me, it was almost like a beautiful reminder that, like, truly the baddest of bitches. 38:26.710 --> 38:27.971 [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of the world can't handle you. 38:28.231 --> 38:29.231 [SPEAKER_00]: That's so true. 38:29.611 --> 38:33.792 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's because you are, like, so far beyond them. 38:33.852 --> 38:33.952 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 38:34.252 --> 38:36.453 [SPEAKER_00]: They can't even come pre-hend. 38:36.933 --> 38:39.334 [SPEAKER_00]: They can't handle the stuff through that you're spitting. 38:39.354 --> 38:56.784 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, while being as sexy and brilliant fun to be around intelligent like they hate you because they ain't you in a major way Whoever said that way back in the day they hate me because they Amy they ate with that that was so true tour 38:58.445 --> 39:17.858 [SPEAKER_01]: We're fucking real for that this reminds me of and I'm gonna forget her name now, but in the early early seasons of love island UK There was this like incredible woman who was on the show where I'm like how did she even find this show she was She went and she she would like diffuse. 39:17.998 --> 39:18.959 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, mom. 39:18.999 --> 39:19.279 [SPEAKER_00]: Camille 39:19.839 --> 39:21.319 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, yes, Camille. 39:21.619 --> 39:22.560 [SPEAKER_00]: She was also brilliant. 39:22.580 --> 39:23.280 [SPEAKER_00]: I was obscene. 39:23.300 --> 39:25.300 [SPEAKER_00]: She was like a true like feminine. 39:25.320 --> 39:37.123 [SPEAKER_01]: She was like true feminist and she like spent the entire season of love I'm just waiting around haven't really found my diet and then the hottest mother fucker came on He's like I'm Italian. 39:37.383 --> 39:37.923 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm a model. 39:38.223 --> 39:44.845 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm obsessed with you and they I believe are still married and have kids Yes, they are and now I know one of my favorite stories 39:49.846 --> 39:51.027 [SPEAKER_00]: She was so smart. 39:51.047 --> 39:52.209 [SPEAKER_01]: She was so smart. 39:52.429 --> 39:53.250 [SPEAKER_01]: She was so smart. 39:53.270 --> 39:54.311 [SPEAKER_01]: She was so hungry. 39:54.331 --> 39:54.591 [SPEAKER_01]: Yes. 39:54.832 --> 39:59.316 [SPEAKER_00]: And there actually was a conversation that season where some guy was, like, I don't believe in feminists. 39:59.336 --> 39:59.557 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes. 39:59.637 --> 40:06.784 [SPEAKER_00]: She, like, very, had she, like, basically just so parent to them, yeah, into being, like, I think you have, like, a fundamental misunderstanding of what feminism is. 40:06.804 --> 40:07.105 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 40:08.419 --> 40:09.979 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, she was incredible. 40:10.059 --> 40:13.340 [SPEAKER_00]: Jasmine is like, she's like the fight's to your version of her. 40:13.400 --> 40:17.221 [SPEAKER_00]: Because Jasmine is a little bit more, um, no nonsense. 40:17.241 --> 40:19.702 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, because Camille was very like, she was very sweet. 40:19.802 --> 40:21.322 [SPEAKER_01]: She was very gentle. 40:21.382 --> 40:23.643 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, came off in a different way. 40:23.723 --> 40:26.484 [SPEAKER_00]: Jasmine is like, firecracker. 40:27.124 --> 40:29.004 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I love her. 40:29.104 --> 40:29.704 [SPEAKER_00]: I love her. 40:29.945 --> 40:31.445 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, sounds really hot. 40:33.561 --> 40:34.582 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I'll give it a watch. 40:34.922 --> 40:39.286 [SPEAKER_00]: But I will say, oh, so when I was on the Bachelor Rat, they were watching LeBailon US. 40:39.306 --> 40:43.569 [SPEAKER_01]: So they kind of told me, sorry, I just got like so confused because we were watching React. 40:43.589 --> 40:44.971 [SPEAKER_01]: We were talking about reality TV. 40:45.231 --> 40:50.715 [SPEAKER_01]: And then when he said, when I was on the Bachelor Rat, and I was like, sorry, sorry, sorry. 40:51.216 --> 40:52.297 [SPEAKER_01]: What are you wearing? 40:52.317 --> 40:53.138 [SPEAKER_01]: That's happening. 40:53.158 --> 40:53.998 [SPEAKER_01]: When did that happen? 40:54.038 --> 40:55.700 [SPEAKER_00]: What the fuck are you talking about? 40:55.720 --> 40:57.801 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you're on the part of Bachelor Nation. 40:57.922 --> 40:58.462 [SPEAKER_01]: That's news. 40:58.482 --> 40:59.123 [SPEAKER_00]: You guys didn't know. 41:01.284 --> 41:06.046 [SPEAKER_00]: What no, I was on my friend's bachelor right they were all watching love island U.S. 41:06.126 --> 41:10.568 [SPEAKER_00]: So they were I asked them to sort of give me the run down because they wanted to watch an episode. 41:10.588 --> 41:15.450 [SPEAKER_00]: And I was like sure the clue me in what's the vibes I watched one episode of love island U.S. with them 41:16.784 --> 41:25.746 [SPEAKER_00]: They were like fucking like they were like fucking oh, they're fucking crazy stuff in in in in the challenge It was like they they were basically just like doing sex. 41:25.826 --> 41:30.287 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah on the screen I was like whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa This is like more than four play guys. 41:30.487 --> 41:42.990 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm like actually can we like do a little bit of teasing like you guys have totally lost the art of like trying to be sexy Yeah, this I actually thought it was a very bad look for Americans in terms of like if we know how to sell sex or not No, and we don't 41:43.250 --> 41:47.775 [SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm like, you guys have gone, you've gone, you didn't, you missed every single step. 41:47.976 --> 41:48.176 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 41:48.196 --> 41:54.884 [SPEAKER_00]: You went straight to level a thousand and that's your way of like selling sex and like winning a sexy challenge. 41:55.424 --> 41:57.226 [SPEAKER_00]: I think you've gone about this all wrong. 41:57.447 --> 41:59.849 [SPEAKER_00]: I was actually gobsmacked and disappointed to see. 42:00.650 --> 42:02.332 [SPEAKER_00]: What the American people have come up with? 42:02.412 --> 42:09.117 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I was like, guys We have to ride the wave Slowly increasing it over time. 42:09.157 --> 42:10.238 [SPEAKER_00]: That's what sexy. 42:10.398 --> 42:11.880 [SPEAKER_00]: They're not doing that on the U.S. 42:12.080 --> 42:13.101 [SPEAKER_00]: Skip 4 play. 42:13.141 --> 42:24.690 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the American Season of Lov Island U.S. What I saw on Lov Island U.S. would suggest to me that Americans don't believe in 4 play And I just believe we're sending the wrong message 42:25.982 --> 42:37.068 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, what now America what now America what now America what are we doing we want for play guys We want everyone chant it at home. 42:37.528 --> 42:39.229 [SPEAKER_00]: We want for play. 42:39.629 --> 42:41.270 [SPEAKER_00]: We want for play. 42:41.630 --> 42:43.251 [SPEAKER_00]: We want for play. 42:43.271 --> 42:55.558 [SPEAKER_00]: We want for play Okay Everyone really we've just meant into your school Now it's in there okay walk in everybody We gotta go back to the ancient texts 42:56.058 --> 42:57.278 [SPEAKER_01]: Get a little fingered first. 42:57.338 --> 42:58.018 [SPEAKER_00]: It's awesome! 42:58.118 --> 43:01.719 [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen the clip of me saying making out of nothing else start to take the rounds again. 43:01.759 --> 43:02.199 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 43:02.359 --> 43:05.820 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, this is the mid-year reminder of the making out of nothing else of it all. 43:05.880 --> 43:09.121 [SPEAKER_00]: I said that in the beginning of the year, it maintains now. 43:09.421 --> 43:10.601 [SPEAKER_01]: Making out of nothing else. 43:10.901 --> 43:14.222 [SPEAKER_00]: Guys, we got to ramp up the sensuality, the sexuality, okay? 43:14.242 --> 43:19.123 [SPEAKER_00]: We've got to get real sensual with it, teasing, forplay. 43:19.363 --> 43:19.983 [SPEAKER_00]: Awesome things. 43:20.723 --> 43:22.504 [SPEAKER_00]: Yep, that makes the sex better. 43:22.524 --> 43:24.005 [SPEAKER_01]: Totally way better! 43:24.405 --> 43:26.386 [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like people are like, oh, it takes so much time. 43:26.406 --> 43:31.368 [SPEAKER_01]: It's like, with that support, that's the part, that's the part, that's the part. 43:31.788 --> 43:42.673 [SPEAKER_00]: And you know, I, the stripper, I will, again, I'm going to save most of this or the poster, but what I will say about the stripper is that he also didn't understand this, not sensual, I would say. 43:42.693 --> 43:42.753 [SPEAKER_01]: No. 43:44.713 --> 43:45.513 [SPEAKER_01]: More on that later. 43:45.573 --> 43:46.334 [SPEAKER_00]: More on that later. 43:46.674 --> 43:47.775 [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't understand this at all. 43:47.915 --> 43:48.235 [SPEAKER_00]: No. 43:48.895 --> 43:51.376 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's, I was, what's happening? 43:52.657 --> 43:53.717 [SPEAKER_01]: America, what's happening? 43:53.737 --> 43:54.438 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:54.498 --> 43:54.878 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:54.918 --> 43:55.238 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:55.258 --> 43:55.578 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:55.598 --> 43:55.938 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:55.958 --> 43:56.299 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:56.319 --> 43:56.659 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:56.679 --> 43:57.019 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:57.039 --> 43:57.399 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:57.419 --> 43:57.799 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:57.819 --> 43:58.159 [SPEAKER_01]: We're losing it. 43:58.180 --> 43:58.520 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 43:58.540 --> 43:58.900 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 43:58.920 --> 43:59.560 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 43:59.740 --> 44:00.361 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:00.381 --> 44:00.721 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:00.741 --> 44:01.061 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:01.081 --> 44:01.921 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:01.941 --> 44:02.522 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:02.562 --> 44:03.022 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:03.042 --> 44:03.382 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:03.402 --> 44:03.722 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:03.742 --> 44:04.062 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:04.082 --> 44:04.402 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:04.423 --> 44:04.823 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:04.843 --> 44:05.383 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:05.443 --> 44:05.763 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:05.783 --> 44:06.163 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:06.183 --> 44:06.544 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:06.564 --> 44:06.884 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:06.904 --> 44:07.224 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:07.244 --> 44:07.564 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:07.584 --> 44:07.924 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:07.944 --> 44:08.264 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:08.284 --> 44:08.745 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:08.765 --> 44:09.265 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it. 44:09.285 --> 44:09.625 [SPEAKER_00]: We're losing it 44:09.765 --> 44:11.026 [SPEAKER_00]: It awesome things are happening. 44:11.046 --> 44:12.208 [SPEAKER_00]: York around the open up. 44:12.328 --> 44:14.730 [SPEAKER_00]: So New Yorkers, lock in on the four play of it. 44:14.770 --> 44:16.512 [SPEAKER_00]: All of you can save America. 44:16.572 --> 44:19.095 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, Donnie, we're talking directly to you. 44:19.115 --> 44:23.480 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, Donnie, we need to bring four play back to the four fronts. 44:23.540 --> 44:24.881 [SPEAKER_00]: We've done a lot for this city. 44:24.901 --> 44:26.182 [SPEAKER_00]: You've done a lot for this city. 44:26.222 --> 44:27.744 [SPEAKER_01]: And I really respect you for that. 44:27.904 --> 44:28.525 [SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely. 44:29.146 --> 44:29.746 [SPEAKER_01]: We know. 44:30.907 --> 44:32.228 [SPEAKER_01]: That you and your wife are fucking. 44:32.508 --> 44:34.290 [SPEAKER_00]: I urge you to take this seriously. 44:34.310 --> 44:35.250 [SPEAKER_00]: These are on mom Donnie. 44:35.270 --> 44:41.835 [SPEAKER_00]: Please We need to make sure this doesn't become a sexless state spread the good word. 44:41.955 --> 44:49.381 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay on for play for play We cannot be going dick and balls in the first three seconds. 44:49.481 --> 44:49.861 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 44:49.901 --> 44:50.862 [SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no 44:51.762 --> 45:03.832 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, say no to Dick and Balls in the first three seconds completely that could be your next memo that you send to the city I don't really know or like the slogan of whatever campaign is running next. 45:03.852 --> 45:03.952 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 45:03.972 --> 45:13.960 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, for play for yay for yay Yes, everybody slow and sensual wins the race. 45:14.540 --> 45:15.861 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that's what it is 45:16.722 --> 45:17.182 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, Donnie. 45:17.443 --> 45:18.964 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, Donnie, come on. 45:19.084 --> 45:19.685 [SPEAKER_01]: Listen to us. 45:19.725 --> 45:22.347 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, Donnie, I will literally be the happiest I've ever been. 45:23.368 --> 45:24.208 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, Donnie, please. 45:24.228 --> 45:25.069 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, Donnie, I'm Donnie. 45:25.490 --> 45:26.590 [SPEAKER_01]: Donnie, please. 45:26.630 --> 45:26.891 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, wait. 45:26.931 --> 45:28.232 [SPEAKER_01]: Mom, Donnie, listen, listen. 45:28.312 --> 45:29.193 [SPEAKER_01]: And this isn't a joke. 45:29.373 --> 45:33.656 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad Lander does follow me on Instagram. 45:33.676 --> 45:35.678 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad Lander, you did it on this, too, buddy. 45:35.698 --> 45:37.540 [SPEAKER_01]: He can directly to you now, Brad. 45:38.561 --> 45:42.064 [SPEAKER_01]: Slow and sensual wins the race. 45:42.424 --> 45:42.784 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. 45:44.158 --> 45:45.159 [SPEAKER_00]: making out another thing else. 45:46.300 --> 45:47.401 [SPEAKER_00]: Tell the New Yorkers about it. 45:47.481 --> 45:48.722 [SPEAKER_00]: We can save the rest of America. 45:49.002 --> 45:51.745 [SPEAKER_00]: What they're doing on Love Island US is anti-forplay. 45:51.905 --> 45:52.446 [SPEAKER_00]: It's wrong. 45:52.666 --> 45:53.386 [SPEAKER_00]: It's wrong. 45:53.427 --> 45:54.287 [SPEAKER_01]: It's anti-forplay. 45:54.327 --> 45:55.168 [SPEAKER_01]: It's anti-forplay. 45:55.208 --> 45:56.229 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's wrong. 45:57.250 --> 45:57.931 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's sick. 45:58.371 --> 45:58.932 [SPEAKER_01]: It's wrong. 45:59.072 --> 46:00.733 [SPEAKER_01]: We can save America. 46:01.234 --> 46:03.075 [SPEAKER_01]: We can't with our help. 46:03.115 --> 46:04.497 [SPEAKER_01]: It with our help. 46:04.857 --> 46:05.598 [SPEAKER_01]: You've made it far. 46:05.758 --> 46:07.579 [SPEAKER_01]: Think about how much further you can go with us. 46:09.020 --> 46:10.661 [SPEAKER_00]: In New York, we do four play. 46:10.841 --> 46:12.062 [SPEAKER_01]: In New York, we do four play. 46:12.402 --> 46:13.443 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad Lander, listen to me. 46:19.406 --> 46:20.426 [SPEAKER_01]: That is actually crazy. 46:20.446 --> 46:21.807 [SPEAKER_01]: The Brad Lander follows you. 46:21.927 --> 46:22.648 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know why. 46:26.450 --> 46:30.812 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know why, but I'm listen so glad that you do. 46:30.912 --> 46:31.852 [SPEAKER_01]: Shout out Brad Lander. 46:31.932 --> 46:32.893 [SPEAKER_01]: I love what you're doing, brother. 46:40.387 --> 46:45.052 [SPEAKER_00]: If you guys would like to submit to the show, tell us all your juicy secrets, the gossip. 46:45.212 --> 46:47.715 [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever's going on in your life, we wanna commentate on it. 46:48.296 --> 46:57.766 [SPEAKER_00]: The same way we love to commentate on the life and secrets of the cast of Vanderpump rolls, we also wanna commentate on your juicy gossip and secrets. 46:57.866 --> 46:59.048 [SPEAKER_01]: We really do. 46:59.908 --> 47:07.554 [SPEAKER_01]: We would love, consider us to be like your digital confessional boot completely, where the priest. 47:07.694 --> 47:09.916 [SPEAKER_00]: But like no religion necessary. 47:09.936 --> 47:13.019 [SPEAKER_00]: No, where the religion is love or girls. 47:13.079 --> 47:13.599 [SPEAKER_01]: Love or girls. 47:14.279 --> 47:14.640 [SPEAKER_00]: HQ. 47:14.780 --> 47:15.981 [SPEAKER_01]: The religion is love. 47:19.431 --> 47:22.573 [SPEAKER_00]: Peace love you love all love all love. 47:22.913 --> 47:26.256 [SPEAKER_01]: Let us know what the fuck is going on with you Tell me your gosh. 47:26.336 --> 47:27.536 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's really it. 47:27.556 --> 47:30.258 [SPEAKER_01]: We just want to gossip with you and it's anonymous So like who cares? 47:30.298 --> 47:36.082 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm not opposed to someone calling someone out on the show again Yeah, it has happened at other times. 47:36.122 --> 47:38.363 [SPEAKER_01]: It has happened before and that was delicious. 47:38.824 --> 47:43.687 [SPEAKER_00]: It was awesome So if you know someone you hate or beeping with currently lessons to the show 47:45.365 --> 47:46.125 [SPEAKER_00]: submit to the box. 47:46.165 --> 47:46.705 [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know. 47:46.946 --> 47:47.646 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll probably read it. 47:47.706 --> 47:52.587 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 47:53.147 --> 48:04.431 [SPEAKER_00]: I've been consuming a lot of reddit slash amy the asshole content for the drama and the algorithm suggested me a conservative podcast in which people call in and ask for advice. 48:05.091 --> 48:09.612 [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't notice it was conservative at first and I had my hands busy as I was doing the disses. 48:09.732 --> 48:10.813 [SPEAKER_00]: So I just listened to it. 48:11.553 --> 48:22.022 [SPEAKER_00]: A woman called asking if she should allow her daughter to go to sleepovers because she doesn't want her to be exposed to spicy content slash conversations as the other girls are starting to go there. 48:22.583 --> 48:24.465 [SPEAKER_00]: To me, this sounds like a terrible idea. 48:24.625 --> 48:28.028 [SPEAKER_00]: Sleepovers are a place to experiment and learn and to be vulnerable with friends. 48:28.488 --> 48:40.237 [SPEAKER_00]: I understand that some people are worried about letting their kids sleep in other people's places, but I wanted to know what you think, because to me, this whole thing sounds like a war against twin self-discovery, and it looks like there's no pushback. 48:40.437 --> 48:41.278 [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for everything. 48:41.638 --> 48:42.679 [SPEAKER_00]: You are so inspiring. 48:50.300 --> 49:03.843 [SPEAKER_00]: You have me in Chile and I thought they were complimenting us I got that there was saying like this podcast is I thought the next one was gonna be like awesome or something I think the podcast they're referring to is called Delo's okay got it. 49:03.963 --> 49:07.824 [SPEAKER_01]: No, thank you so much You're saying this podcast is Deloni the podcast is Delonus. 49:08.124 --> 49:12.745 [SPEAKER_00]: I was like Deloni is Deloni this podcast is Deloni Okay, I don't know that word. 49:12.765 --> 49:13.425 [SPEAKER_00]: Come on Deloni. 49:13.465 --> 49:13.585 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. 49:13.605 --> 49:15.126 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm assuming the other podcast is called 49:22.089 --> 49:24.491 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, T. Here's my thing. 49:25.492 --> 49:30.417 [SPEAKER_00]: Sleepovers to me were the most important fundamental part of my childhood. 49:32.739 --> 49:35.602 [SPEAKER_00]: And I listen, I'm not a parent. 49:36.603 --> 49:37.223 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not a parent. 49:38.124 --> 49:40.686 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't claim to be a parent to understand what goes on. 49:40.886 --> 49:45.650 [SPEAKER_00]: Famously we are to single 29-year-olds sitting in a bedroom. 49:45.951 --> 49:47.892 [SPEAKER_01]: Totally talking into a microphone. 49:47.952 --> 49:49.574 [SPEAKER_00]: Totally, okay. 49:49.954 --> 49:52.016 [SPEAKER_00]: It's 10 30 PM on a Tuesday. 49:52.056 --> 49:53.597 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you know where your children are? 49:54.197 --> 49:55.198 [SPEAKER_00]: We do. 49:55.499 --> 49:56.700 [SPEAKER_01]: Because we don't have them. 49:56.720 --> 49:56.880 [SPEAKER_01]: Exactly. 49:58.845 --> 50:10.841 [SPEAKER_00]: So I, I like understand parents having concerns about their kids going to sleep over as if they don't like know the adults of the house or like not trusting other adults. 50:11.462 --> 50:12.323 [SPEAKER_00]: I understand that. 50:12.363 --> 50:12.643 [SPEAKER_00]: Sure. 50:13.484 --> 50:15.907 [SPEAKER_00]: That seems kind of like a different conversation than this. 50:17.692 --> 50:35.988 [SPEAKER_00]: I, in general, like the idea of someone's parent not wanting their kid to go to a sleepover because they don't want their kid being exposed to like swear words or like their kid talking about hot sexy movie stars or whatever the fuck else tween girls talk about. 50:36.008 --> 50:38.189 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, like I think that's crazy. 50:38.350 --> 50:38.590 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 50:39.090 --> 50:42.853 [SPEAKER_00]: And I look back at like this, my parent's never gave a fuck. 50:42.893 --> 50:45.395 [SPEAKER_00]: I think I started having sleepovers in like preschool. 50:46.305 --> 50:49.330 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, my parents were like, shh, oh, yeah, friends can come over. 50:49.370 --> 50:50.471 [SPEAKER_00]: You can go there, we don't give you shit. 50:50.792 --> 50:51.052 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 50:51.092 --> 50:55.499 [SPEAKER_00]: So I feel like all of my childhood is like, I remember it in sleepovers. 50:55.999 --> 50:59.605 [SPEAKER_00]: All of my young friendships, I remember those moments in sleepovers. 51:00.226 --> 51:00.426 [SPEAKER_00]: And... 51:01.487 --> 51:06.251 [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I learned how to be a good friend by going to sleepovers. 51:06.531 --> 51:17.398 [SPEAKER_00]: I just feel like the kind of intimacy and vulnerability you get with people when you've been together for, you know, a long period of time you're talking, you're on fucking hour 15 of talking. 51:17.418 --> 51:19.960 [SPEAKER_00]: It's 3 a.m. and you can barely keep your eyes open. 51:20.721 --> 51:28.926 [SPEAKER_00]: And I just feel like you go places, you hit levels of closeness with people that you just can't get if you don't spend the extended amount of time. 51:29.967 --> 51:30.348 [SPEAKER_00]: with them. 51:31.189 --> 51:33.712 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, and that's not to say that I didn't have shitty experiences. 51:33.732 --> 51:34.833 [SPEAKER_00]: That's leap over screwing up. 51:35.254 --> 51:37.957 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I was absolutely bullied at some sleepovers. 51:38.118 --> 51:42.703 [SPEAKER_00]: I did, you know, hang out with people that ended up not being long-term friends of mine. 51:42.743 --> 51:45.006 [SPEAKER_00]: The same as every other fucking kid on planet Earth. 51:45.687 --> 51:50.412 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, but I don't think that shielding your kid from those experiences makes them a better person. 51:51.212 --> 52:00.481 [SPEAKER_00]: I think that it just, yeah, kind of halts them in real time and just pushes that learning off to a later date. 52:00.721 --> 52:01.022 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 52:01.702 --> 52:07.667 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, I don't really understand like what the benefit would be in keeping someone from going to a sleepover. 52:07.707 --> 52:09.829 [SPEAKER_01]: They are like keeping a kid from going to a sleepover. 52:09.869 --> 52:15.413 [SPEAKER_01]: Like I think if anything that question shows that you like also like fundamentally don't trust your child. 52:15.694 --> 52:23.960 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, because like my thing is like if I was ever uncomfortable at like a friend's house because of their parents or something like that. 52:25.061 --> 52:39.250 [SPEAKER_01]: Best believe I'm going to my mom and saying I don't want to go over there again totally that that was it was not even a question of like Oh, I'm just gonna like try to save face and be be polite over here like I was like no I'm going to my mom and I'm like I don't want to play kids house again I'm going to the bathroom. 52:39.290 --> 52:43.153 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm calling my mom and saying please come pick up get me out of here I don't want to stay the night right? 52:43.633 --> 53:04.277 [SPEAKER_01]: that has happened so many times that happened to me when I was a kid I did want to sleep over with my friend and I was at her house but I was feeling really anxious because I had gotten my first F on a math assignment and I thought that my mom was going to be really mad so I like worked myself up until like an anxiety spiral and called my mom and was like 53:04.457 --> 53:07.219 [SPEAKER_01]: Please come pick me up and she, of course, thought something was really wrong. 53:07.239 --> 53:13.463 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, and then when I told her she was like, oh, she's like, you didn't need to like punish yourself right. 53:13.844 --> 53:22.049 [SPEAKER_01]: I calling yourself to leave sleep over, but no, I mean, I think like, yeah, this idea that your kid isn't like, 53:23.210 --> 53:28.014 [SPEAKER_01]: has a good enough head on their shoulders to race when they feel uncomfortable. 53:28.114 --> 53:31.117 [SPEAKER_01]: This is the thing about like, to me, that's a failing of the parent. 53:31.157 --> 53:31.677 [SPEAKER_01]: For sure. 53:31.697 --> 53:33.799 [SPEAKER_01]: I think that's a failing of strict parent. 53:33.879 --> 53:34.139 [SPEAKER_01]: Yes. 53:34.399 --> 53:34.920 [SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely. 53:34.960 --> 53:37.502 [SPEAKER_00]: You did not have strict parents growing up. 53:37.562 --> 53:40.704 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, I, I actually feel like, 53:41.785 --> 53:44.866 [SPEAKER_00]: I was very much a rule follower throughout my whole life, me too. 53:45.026 --> 53:48.227 [SPEAKER_00]: And I actually think that's a product of not having strict parents. 53:48.387 --> 53:48.847 [SPEAKER_00]: I agree. 53:49.167 --> 53:50.308 [SPEAKER_01]: I completely agree. 53:50.588 --> 53:54.189 [SPEAKER_01]: I always, I mean, I know that we have the difference of like your eldest daughter. 53:54.349 --> 53:59.890 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm youngest daughter, but like, and and also critically eldest kid, youngest kid. 53:59.910 --> 54:00.150 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 54:00.490 --> 54:05.132 [SPEAKER_01]: But like, I think similarly, my parents also were like, 54:06.132 --> 54:08.954 [SPEAKER_01]: Really chill by the time they got to me. 54:08.974 --> 54:13.638 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, and as a result like none of those things were taboo or exciting to me, right? 54:13.798 --> 54:14.298 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you know what I mean? 54:14.318 --> 54:17.700 [SPEAKER_01]: Because I was like, yeah, I could access these things if I wanted to. 54:17.720 --> 54:19.682 [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't really want to yet. 54:19.722 --> 54:19.922 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 54:20.042 --> 54:27.367 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, there's no part of me that feels like I'm getting some sort of glee out of this thing because it's always been available to me. 54:27.387 --> 54:28.168 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you know. 54:28.588 --> 54:36.593 [SPEAKER_00]: I just feel like with the strict parenting and about and again, I'm not a fucking parent right who knows take this all with the greatest or one Not parents put a sock in it. 54:36.693 --> 54:37.914 [SPEAKER_00]: I love these are my opinions. 54:37.934 --> 54:38.735 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I can I have them. 54:38.795 --> 54:39.255 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, thank you. 54:39.515 --> 54:39.775 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you. 54:39.795 --> 54:40.115 [SPEAKER_00]: America. 54:40.816 --> 54:41.816 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so I 54:44.802 --> 54:54.526 [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like, when you are a strict parent, you don't end up actually forming any kind of mutual respect with your child. 54:54.626 --> 54:59.508 [SPEAKER_00]: I actually really disagree with parents who take the position of like, I'm your parent. 54:59.548 --> 54:59.928 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 55:00.249 --> 55:03.330 [SPEAKER_00]: You owe me a respect that I don't also owe you. 55:03.530 --> 55:03.850 [SPEAKER_00]: Agreed. 55:04.130 --> 55:09.292 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't feel like that's how you create a space of trust with your child. 55:09.352 --> 55:09.572 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 55:11.173 --> 55:13.095 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I just don't I'm not down with that. 55:13.436 --> 55:16.199 [SPEAKER_00]: I think that's like that's a way to get your child to hate you. 55:16.419 --> 55:18.802 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so I am more down with like 55:21.347 --> 55:31.994 [SPEAKER_00]: If you have like a very mutual respect with your child, where it's like, you're not strict with them, you let them be themselves, you let them explore, you help reroute them when they need to be. 55:32.974 --> 55:43.801 [SPEAKER_00]: But otherwise, there's like this expectation that I'm respecting you by letting you be who you are and letting you grow and learn and whatever and helping and guiding you, but not controlling you? 55:43.861 --> 55:44.122 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 55:45.082 --> 56:05.493 [SPEAKER_00]: And as a result, you're able to be more vulnerable and trusting with me and you feel comfortable to come to me if something's wrong, because you know that I'm not going to crucify you for making a mistake or for finding yourself in a position where you do feel uncomfortable, like I'm just going to help you. 56:05.713 --> 56:07.654 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because I'm your parent. 56:08.194 --> 56:08.495 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 56:09.035 --> 56:10.136 [SPEAKER_00]: And like also I chose to 56:15.077 --> 56:32.250 [SPEAKER_01]: No, and here's what I will say, too, is that I've seen, like, in our adult lives now, I have seen, you know, friends and close ones in my life, like, reckon with the now kind of sorted relationship that they have with their parents, who's still act like, I'm the parent, you're the kid. 56:32.270 --> 56:32.590 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 56:32.890 --> 56:35.312 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's like, well, actually I'm 30 now. 56:35.632 --> 56:35.832 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 56:35.912 --> 56:36.553 [SPEAKER_01]: So now what? 56:36.933 --> 56:47.757 [SPEAKER_01]: and the reality is is that they really struggle to then have that like mutual respect relationship with their parent and vice versa because their parent never actually saw them as like a human being. 56:47.897 --> 56:48.097 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 56:48.898 --> 56:54.240 [SPEAKER_01]: And I think that parents sometimes forget about that, that like your kid will grow up. 56:54.600 --> 56:54.760 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 56:54.820 --> 56:56.621 [SPEAKER_01]: And one day they won't be a kid any more. 56:56.841 --> 57:01.303 [SPEAKER_01]: And like you're you're you're still you're going to want them to come to you in there. 57:01.363 --> 57:01.483 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 57:02.323 --> 57:11.555 [SPEAKER_01]: Life and the reality is is that if you put these like really strict parameters and Borders around what they can and can't do when they're younger. 57:11.695 --> 57:13.037 [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously to a degree, right? 57:13.077 --> 57:15.901 [SPEAKER_01]: It's like, you know, I'm not my parents weren't like handing me drugs. 57:15.921 --> 57:16.962 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean like go for it. 57:16.982 --> 57:19.766 [SPEAKER_00]: That's not, you know, out by the creek, you know, that's what they were doing. 57:20.106 --> 57:24.488 [SPEAKER_00]: And like, for the record, if I did do anything like that, I would have gotten in trouble. 57:24.508 --> 57:30.150 [SPEAKER_00]: Of course, it's not like because my parents weren't strict and meant that they never disciplined me. 57:30.210 --> 57:30.750 [SPEAKER_01]: Of course. 57:30.810 --> 57:39.033 [SPEAKER_00]: It just meant that if I was being disciplined, it was because I really fucked up and not because I was like a normal teenager doing normal teenage things. 57:39.093 --> 57:39.353 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 57:39.593 --> 57:39.874 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 57:40.354 --> 57:41.554 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's a thing too. 57:41.574 --> 57:45.796 [SPEAKER_01]: It's like, yeah, it's at some point you have to be able to trust your child. 57:46.276 --> 57:57.503 [SPEAKER_01]: And I also think in general, it sounds silly, but like I do think that children are just afforded, it's like some of the least amount of rights and as like groups of human beings. 57:58.023 --> 58:10.491 [SPEAKER_01]: And that really, it was really frustrating to me as a kid to experience that and to experience people like talking down at me and like being condescending towards me when I knew that they were 58:15.815 --> 58:31.376 [SPEAKER_01]: That is something that like I see in like parent children dynamics today right when parents treat their kids that way yeah when they they it's like they act as though this child will never grow up right which to me is really I'm like 58:31.656 --> 58:51.250 [SPEAKER_01]: Have you thought through the whole parenting thing or what right like this just kind of this goes on and on and up You know like what I don't know, but it's yeah, it's like I think within reason, you know, if like if the kid is going over to like The known crack den in your neighborhood right and that's the other side of it where it's like I understand not trusting other adults 58:51.870 --> 59:01.815 [SPEAKER_00]: and being like, I don't know this person's parents, like, I feel a little nervous to send my kid to over to like, more for the adults, not for like, worry of other kids, right? 59:01.975 --> 59:05.137 [SPEAKER_00]: And as a serily, but for like, are the adults in that house safe? 59:05.277 --> 59:16.082 [SPEAKER_01]: And I think now that I'm thinking about it, I do think that whenever I had a sleepover with somebody new, I'm fairly certain that like, my parents would meet their parents, like, deaf and hour or an hour, whatever. 59:16.683 --> 59:19.344 [SPEAKER_01]: And just like, talk and gather, what have you? 59:21.165 --> 59:23.207 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, have fun, like, see you later. 59:23.427 --> 59:31.314 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, but I do think that there was that kind of like thing in place of like, first day, let's like, see the house and see the parents, whatever, go talk. 59:31.374 --> 59:44.286 [SPEAKER_01]: And just kind of, I just, I've never, as a kid had any moment where I felt like I couldn't go to my parents and be like, I don't feel comfortable being at that point, being with those people anymore. 59:45.247 --> 59:59.842 [SPEAKER_01]: And whenever that happened I would just be able to use the my mom said I can't excuse right which was awesome I wish that I still have yeah, I know I do that with like other stuff sometimes Sorry my mom said I can't my mom said I can't sorry for like make your 29. 59:59.942 --> 01:00:03.085 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like I know Yeah, it's rules rules rules rules. 01:00:03.125 --> 01:00:03.425 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know 01:00:04.666 --> 01:00:05.266 [SPEAKER_00]: I have a bet time. 01:00:05.987 --> 01:00:06.327 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know. 01:00:06.427 --> 01:00:06.947 [SPEAKER_01]: I have a bet time. 01:00:06.967 --> 01:00:07.567 [SPEAKER_00]: She won't let me. 01:00:07.767 --> 01:00:16.551 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I don't have enough time for this No, I remember if I didn't want to go to something my mom would be like just say I won't let you Yeah, my mom would do the same thing. 01:00:16.931 --> 01:00:27.235 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, just say just say just say just say we can pretend I'm being strict Yeah, like my mom's being such a bit We might want to say good job good job 01:00:33.077 --> 01:00:41.361 [SPEAKER_01]: So, you know, obviously it's tough to say because it's like, yeah, we're so pro sleep over and I think we're both like we both come from like cool parent houses. 01:00:41.381 --> 01:00:41.662 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 01:00:41.842 --> 01:00:43.503 [SPEAKER_00]: So it's tough because it's like, I don't know. 01:00:43.863 --> 01:00:45.344 [SPEAKER_00]: I was the person throwing the parties. 01:00:45.384 --> 01:00:46.024 [SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean? 01:00:46.584 --> 01:00:51.567 [SPEAKER_01]: And yes, it was with my small little circle of friends and I told none of them were rangers by any means, but 01:00:52.267 --> 01:00:53.728 [SPEAKER_01]: Um, but certainly I was throwing them. 01:00:53.748 --> 01:00:59.011 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, my parents were like, you know, they were the kind of it was like, I'd rather you do it in the house You know, like that type of life. 01:00:59.031 --> 01:01:03.273 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, I fully I didn't smoke or drink until I was 17 or 18. 01:01:03.293 --> 01:01:03.553 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 01:01:03.893 --> 01:01:04.774 [SPEAKER_00]: I like didn't even care. 01:01:04.994 --> 01:01:05.434 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, same. 01:01:05.734 --> 01:01:16.260 [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't want to and it was always here's a thing not in like a Not in like a scary way, but it was like when I was like 14 that offer was on the table totally and I was just like 01:01:17.042 --> 01:01:18.064 [SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm cool. 01:01:18.244 --> 01:01:19.446 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, actually, I want to be a kid. 01:01:19.546 --> 01:01:20.849 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, like, I'm chill. 01:01:21.209 --> 01:01:23.994 [SPEAKER_00]: And I felt really comfortable just being like, no. 01:01:24.214 --> 01:01:24.615 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 01:01:24.735 --> 01:01:25.516 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm only 14. 01:01:25.577 --> 01:01:26.478 [SPEAKER_00]: Why would you offer me that? 01:01:27.262 --> 01:01:29.203 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't think we're out on 14. 01:01:29.243 --> 01:01:34.004 [SPEAKER_01]: We would have been so like this just just twin in a high school. 01:01:34.264 --> 01:01:39.486 [SPEAKER_01]: Because straight up I was so the kid that was like, I'd actually like to enjoy my childhood. 01:01:39.626 --> 01:01:41.806 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't think so was I. I can rush. 01:01:42.267 --> 01:01:43.087 [SPEAKER_01]: Thanks very much. 01:01:43.767 --> 01:01:45.407 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm all set over here. 01:01:45.427 --> 01:01:48.768 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know and I don't know like where that came. 01:01:48.808 --> 01:01:51.589 [SPEAKER_00]: The like urge that other people felt to grow up quickly. 01:01:51.689 --> 01:01:52.470 [SPEAKER_00]: I never felt. 01:01:52.530 --> 01:01:53.550 [SPEAKER_01]: I never had that. 01:01:53.930 --> 01:01:54.630 [SPEAKER_01]: And we still don't. 01:01:54.650 --> 01:01:58.851 [SPEAKER_00]: We talked about that, where we're like, we're just enjoying the phase of life that we're in now. 01:01:59.331 --> 01:01:59.972 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's nice. 01:02:00.092 --> 01:02:01.032 [SPEAKER_00]: Excited to be here. 01:02:01.152 --> 01:02:01.432 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 01:02:01.652 --> 01:02:02.952 [SPEAKER_00]: Excited to be 30 next year. 01:02:02.992 --> 01:02:03.593 [SPEAKER_00]: That'll be awesome. 01:02:03.613 --> 01:02:04.593 [SPEAKER_01]: That's going to be sick too. 01:02:04.813 --> 01:02:06.053 [SPEAKER_01]: Everything sounds awesome, guys. 01:02:06.073 --> 01:02:08.514 [SPEAKER_01]: Sure when I've turned 40, I'll be excited for that as well. 01:02:08.594 --> 01:02:09.234 [SPEAKER_01]: Totally. 01:02:09.394 --> 01:02:09.814 [SPEAKER_01]: Come on. 01:02:10.634 --> 01:02:12.455 [SPEAKER_00]: Have you seen what Katie Maloney looks like? 01:02:12.515 --> 01:02:13.035 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god. 01:02:14.602 --> 01:02:15.463 [SPEAKER_00]: She's slaying. 01:02:15.543 --> 01:02:19.605 [SPEAKER_00]: The amount of swag she has, four-year-olds are allowed to be so much swag year now. 01:02:19.785 --> 01:02:20.446 [SPEAKER_00]: I know. 01:02:20.886 --> 01:02:22.147 [SPEAKER_00]: That's what our generation is doing. 01:02:22.167 --> 01:02:24.628 [SPEAKER_00]: We're expanding this swag capacity. 01:02:24.668 --> 01:02:25.028 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 01:02:26.722 --> 01:02:28.844 [SPEAKER_00]: Swag doesn't have an age not anymore. 01:02:28.925 --> 01:02:37.334 [SPEAKER_01]: I think yeah, I think you can be swaggy till you're hitting dirt completely Yeah, and I think that that's really great Anyway, send your kid to the sleepover. 01:02:37.414 --> 01:02:38.935 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, whatever come on. 01:02:38.955 --> 01:02:40.157 [SPEAKER_01]: We can have fun chill. 01:02:40.537 --> 01:02:44.321 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, come on Shocked that our answer is different than the conservative podcast 01:02:50.922 --> 01:02:51.843 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no, come on. 01:02:52.363 --> 01:02:56.027 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, let him prank, call the phone number on the back of a chip bag. 01:02:56.147 --> 01:02:57.988 [SPEAKER_01]: Let him like practice making out with each other. 01:02:58.008 --> 01:02:59.610 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, why not, whatever. 01:02:59.730 --> 01:03:00.731 [SPEAKER_01]: Whatever. 01:03:00.891 --> 01:03:03.834 [SPEAKER_01]: Someone talks about giving, giving like a guy and they're great a hand job. 01:03:04.054 --> 01:03:05.355 [SPEAKER_00]: Woo! 01:03:06.203 --> 01:03:06.683 [SPEAKER_01]: whatever. 01:03:07.003 --> 01:03:07.664 [SPEAKER_01]: What freaking ever. 01:03:07.684 --> 01:03:08.124 [SPEAKER_01]: That's a part. 01:03:08.144 --> 01:03:09.244 [SPEAKER_01]: They're doing it anyway. 01:03:09.545 --> 01:03:11.705 [SPEAKER_01]: I guess what your kid goes to fucking school. 01:03:12.006 --> 01:03:13.146 [SPEAKER_01]: So they're hearing all this shit. 01:03:13.226 --> 01:03:13.526 [SPEAKER_00]: All right. 01:03:13.606 --> 01:03:13.946 [SPEAKER_01]: Cool. 01:03:14.027 --> 01:03:20.109 [SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, Bover is not the thing that like, you know, if they don't go to sleep over, they're never going to have this conversation. 01:03:20.169 --> 01:03:22.490 [SPEAKER_00]: That's like, they're talking about a regardless. 01:03:22.550 --> 01:03:25.252 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, they're going to have these conversations in the back of English class. 01:03:25.332 --> 01:03:25.572 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, 01:03:26.432 --> 01:03:29.435 [SPEAKER_01]: Whatever, you might as well send them to like a sanctioned time for it. 01:03:29.535 --> 01:03:29.875 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 01:03:30.095 --> 01:03:37.521 [SPEAKER_01]: Because guess what, here's what's happening is your kid is then just either going to school and getting like updated on what they missed at the sleep over. 01:03:37.781 --> 01:03:39.563 [SPEAKER_01]: So they're learning about all of it anyway. 01:03:39.823 --> 01:03:41.464 [SPEAKER_00]: While feeling left out at the same time. 01:03:41.484 --> 01:03:45.267 [SPEAKER_01]: While feeling left out or they're just not those kids aren't talking to your kid. 01:03:45.427 --> 01:03:46.848 [SPEAKER_01]: So now kids just left out. 01:03:47.049 --> 01:03:47.289 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 01:03:47.489 --> 01:03:48.610 [SPEAKER_01]: You want your kid to be a loser? 01:03:50.442 --> 01:03:51.502 [SPEAKER_00]: Now we're threatening them. 01:03:51.702 --> 01:03:52.663 [SPEAKER_00]: Now we're threatening them. 01:03:52.683 --> 01:03:54.824 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, so you want your kid to be a loser then? 01:03:54.844 --> 01:03:56.484 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, we would be great parents. 01:03:57.264 --> 01:03:58.265 [SPEAKER_00]: I know I actually think we would. 01:03:58.365 --> 01:04:01.206 [SPEAKER_01]: Sorry, they think you actually want your kid to be a fucking loser. 01:04:01.346 --> 01:04:05.767 [SPEAKER_00]: I actually, I think, often, it's a shame that I don't want kids because I think I'd be so good at everything. 01:04:05.787 --> 01:04:06.968 [SPEAKER_01]: I think it'd be an amazing parent. 01:04:06.988 --> 01:04:08.488 [SPEAKER_00]: I think I'd be fucking, and I don't want to do it. 01:04:08.628 --> 01:04:09.328 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 01:04:09.608 --> 01:04:10.589 [SPEAKER_00]: Sorry, don't care too. 01:04:10.769 --> 01:04:11.789 [SPEAKER_00]: I think I'd be awesome at it though. 01:04:12.409 --> 01:04:14.050 [SPEAKER_00]: But that also feels like the same way. 01:04:14.710 --> 01:04:18.771 [SPEAKER_00]: It feels like the same thing as someone being like, yeah, you know, I'm probably like an awesome singer. 01:04:18.792 --> 01:04:19.652 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm just like never trying. 01:04:21.233 --> 01:04:29.677 [SPEAKER_00]: You're so right you're probably doing kicks like by tried right now Like I've just never nobody ever gave me like a skateboard right right But I just feel in my bones that I would be good at parenting. 01:04:29.757 --> 01:04:44.065 [SPEAKER_00]: No like I could have gone pro baseball I just like come out Not like if you'd be shocked at how good I would be at those things Yeah, yeah, haven't had the opportunity to have it even try and like don't plan to yeah, but I'd be awesome I trust that I'd be the best at it. 01:04:44.245 --> 01:04:46.446 [SPEAKER_01]: If I did it trust that I'd be the best at it 01:04:48.667 --> 01:04:50.008 [SPEAKER_00]: That's it for today's episode. 01:04:50.128 --> 01:04:53.669 [SPEAKER_00]: I think next week we should do a big audience submission episode. 01:04:53.729 --> 01:05:13.799 [SPEAKER_00]: I would love that and just like really get into it Yeah, so load up that box this week and next week we'll be back here and we'll hit those audience submissions Hard all your confessional Yeah, we're a dirty little secret give us the Jews or any like if you see something online that you're like I need to hear your take on this put it in the submission 01:05:13.879 --> 01:05:23.225 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I see sometimes you guys will DM me that stuff on Instagram, which sometimes I remember to write it down if you do that But if you put it in this submission box, it's way easier. 01:05:23.345 --> 01:05:30.750 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I mean that's for Vanderpump a lot, too But would love to see about just the world and totally yeah, yeah 01:05:31.871 --> 01:05:36.797 [SPEAKER_00]: You can follow the show at emotionally online pod on Instagram and TikTok. 01:05:36.817 --> 01:05:38.659 [SPEAKER_00]: You can follow me at Maddie Drawspack. 01:05:38.679 --> 01:05:40.501 [SPEAKER_00]: You can follow me at Meguruoko. 01:05:40.701 --> 01:05:49.372 [SPEAKER_00]: And we will see you guys next week for both the pump cast and a very special audience submission version of emotionally online.