WEBVTT 00:16.068 --> 00:17.229 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, gross squad. 00:17.269 --> 00:20.974 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to another episode of the Eugene Hamilton podcast. 00:20.994 --> 00:21.895 [SPEAKER_00]: Hope you're doing well. 00:22.255 --> 00:23.317 [SPEAKER_00]: Hope that you're healthy. 00:23.617 --> 00:25.259 [SPEAKER_00]: Hope that things are moving right along. 00:25.299 --> 00:32.448 [SPEAKER_00]: And I hope most importantly that you're taking care of this important topic that we're talking about today, your mental. 00:32.948 --> 00:33.289 [SPEAKER_00]: health. 00:33.489 --> 00:34.249 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's pray God. 00:34.309 --> 00:39.294 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for just allowing us to be alive. 00:39.434 --> 00:41.116 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for taking care of us. 00:41.176 --> 00:47.742 [SPEAKER_00]: Now I hope and pray that you would bless us with tools today to help us to take care of ourselves in your name, amen. 00:48.283 --> 00:51.406 [SPEAKER_00]: I've never heard the old saying, oh, maybe it's a reason saying. 00:52.991 --> 00:59.834 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I think it's probably relatively recent that you cannot pour from an empty cup, right? 00:59.854 --> 01:07.998 [SPEAKER_00]: We've heard that before and if it's it would have heard it long ago, if you heard it recently in recent years, I believe it's still applicable right now. 01:09.507 --> 01:19.615 [SPEAKER_00]: What I believe that expression is actually trying to guess understand is that oftentimes we try to give love away. 01:19.675 --> 01:20.536 [SPEAKER_00]: That's for instance. 01:20.776 --> 01:37.950 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say that we are in a married relationship and you're doing your best to give your partner, give your spouse, give your husband, give your wife, all the love that you can give them, but your cup of love is not full. 01:39.498 --> 01:41.079 [SPEAKER_00]: You struggle with loving yourself. 01:42.100 --> 01:43.662 [SPEAKER_00]: You struggle with feeling love. 01:43.722 --> 01:49.767 [SPEAKER_00]: It's difficult to give what you do not have. 01:51.488 --> 01:53.650 [SPEAKER_00]: I can't give you $100 if I don't have $100. 01:57.213 --> 02:07.421 [SPEAKER_00]: I can't give you advice in many cases, if I have not either gone through the experience or have enough training to offer you advice. 02:07.741 --> 02:13.305 [SPEAKER_00]: That's funny because I hear people all the time saying, don't take advice from somebody who hasn't gone through that. 02:13.965 --> 02:19.690 [SPEAKER_00]: I will pump the brakes because I can give advice to someone who 02:22.910 --> 02:26.272 [SPEAKER_00]: It's facing divorce, and I don't have to have gone through a divorce myself. 02:26.572 --> 02:27.153 [SPEAKER_00]: Does it make sense? 02:28.033 --> 02:29.194 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't wish that up on my marriage. 02:29.234 --> 02:31.015 [SPEAKER_00]: I pray that God will continue. 02:31.035 --> 02:35.778 [SPEAKER_00]: And I know He will keep us together strong as I'll get out. 02:36.059 --> 02:37.820 [SPEAKER_00]: In other words, I've heard people say this. 02:38.060 --> 02:42.743 [SPEAKER_00]: People that are in the banking industry, they don't study fraudulent money. 02:43.890 --> 02:46.031 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't study counterfeit dollars. 02:46.551 --> 02:56.334 [SPEAKER_00]: They study the real dollars so that when the counterfeit comes across their desk, they can identify it right off because now because they've been studying that's a different variations of counterfeit money. 02:57.454 --> 03:01.595 [SPEAKER_00]: There's different variations of the fake, but there's only one real, I'm excited. 03:02.275 --> 03:10.358 [SPEAKER_00]: So I can be so focused on ensuring that my marriage is healthy that I can give advice as to how we can recognize 03:11.754 --> 03:14.016 [SPEAKER_00]: That, yeah, that's leading you down the wrong path. 03:14.036 --> 03:16.879 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to go through a divorce. 03:16.939 --> 03:21.804 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to go through a slave for instance. 03:21.844 --> 03:24.807 [SPEAKER_00]: Someone has having struggles with substance abuse. 03:24.827 --> 03:33.375 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to have been, as I say, in the hood, a crack hit for me to give advice to a person who's struggling with drug addiction. 03:34.690 --> 03:36.912 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, the advice may be from a different vantage point. 03:37.652 --> 03:41.475 [SPEAKER_00]: There may be some things that a person who has recovered, right? 03:41.895 --> 03:44.337 [SPEAKER_00]: Can give differently than I can give. 03:44.537 --> 03:47.099 [SPEAKER_00]: That doesn't say that I cannot give that advice. 03:47.119 --> 03:47.839 [SPEAKER_00]: Does it make sense? 03:50.561 --> 03:51.402 [SPEAKER_00]: But here's what is true. 03:52.983 --> 03:56.365 [SPEAKER_00]: If there's nothing there, I can't give a thing. 03:57.786 --> 04:02.029 [SPEAKER_00]: I cannot pour from an indicate, why is it that? 04:03.547 --> 04:07.188 [SPEAKER_00]: It's so difficult for working professionals. 04:08.389 --> 04:20.733 [SPEAKER_00]: Why is it difficult for the average man or woman or boy or girl in the world today to take their mental health seriously? 04:23.174 --> 04:28.576 [SPEAKER_00]: You cannot go, you cannot grow, and you definitely cannot 04:33.986 --> 04:34.807 [SPEAKER_00]: What's on the inside? 04:34.827 --> 04:39.632 [SPEAKER_00]: Because you, well, you know this and not, you lead and live from the inside out. 04:39.952 --> 04:41.394 [SPEAKER_00]: You just dress everything else up. 04:43.256 --> 04:46.119 [SPEAKER_00]: We live in, we live and lead from what's in our hearts. 04:47.039 --> 04:49.602 [SPEAKER_00]: We live and lead from what's in our minds. 04:50.183 --> 04:53.266 [SPEAKER_00]: People see the exterior and sometimes are fooled. 04:55.212 --> 04:58.915 [SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever seen something that looked shiny, looked good on the outside? 04:58.935 --> 05:04.780 [SPEAKER_00]: Remember I had an old car that I would take to get washed every single week. 05:05.241 --> 05:07.563 [SPEAKER_00]: I would take, I would get the tires, armor, all. 05:07.923 --> 05:10.485 [SPEAKER_00]: I would get the, I had a little vinyl top. 05:10.545 --> 05:11.926 [SPEAKER_00]: I'd get that signed up. 05:12.347 --> 05:19.973 [SPEAKER_00]: But people unless you drove the car unless you looked under hood, did not know that my car was on its last leg. 05:20.153 --> 05:21.495 [SPEAKER_00]: The engine was going bad. 05:22.255 --> 05:31.040 [SPEAKER_00]: I, you know, I had all kinds of things that were that were wrong with the car and sooner than later I had to get rid of that vehicle, but from the outside people like, why you get rid of that car? 05:32.121 --> 05:34.182 [SPEAKER_00]: Because to them it looked and it did look good. 05:34.962 --> 05:45.508 [SPEAKER_00]: And for so many of us, we go to our spaces and places of employment, our spaces and places of education and schooling, our spaces and places of of where it is to be operate and we look like. 05:47.830 --> 05:48.430 [SPEAKER_00]: We're doing well. 05:51.186 --> 05:59.971 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you don't take the time to take care of your mental health, through therapy, through counseling. 05:59.991 --> 06:07.436 [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, I'm going to encourage you to do a mental wellness check this week. 06:07.476 --> 06:11.278 [SPEAKER_00]: Go for a walk, go for their possession, take a day off, have that conversation. 06:11.719 --> 06:16.382 [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever you've got to do to ensure that your cup 06:21.966 --> 06:27.510 [SPEAKER_00]: put it on your calendar, don't wait until tomorrow, put it on your calendar two day. 06:29.171 --> 06:29.452 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? 06:29.552 --> 06:31.553 [SPEAKER_00]: Because you deserve it? 06:33.274 --> 06:35.236 [SPEAKER_00]: I promise you, you deserve the best version of you. 06:36.457 --> 06:37.978 [SPEAKER_00]: You deserve a version of you. 06:39.303 --> 06:42.825 [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, I saw a shirt, you know, I'm a shirt bander. 06:42.845 --> 06:46.346 [SPEAKER_00]: You want to send me some shirts, feel free, right? 06:46.366 --> 06:50.408 [SPEAKER_00]: You get some pub on, especially on the YouTube side of things. 06:50.768 --> 06:59.292 [SPEAKER_00]: But I saw a shirt that the data said, I became the father that I needed, right? 07:00.800 --> 07:14.809 [SPEAKER_00]: and it goes to say, it goes to show that many people have suffered in silence and their response is, I'm going to become the best version of what I needed, right? 07:15.210 --> 07:27.638 [SPEAKER_00]: And so when you think about your mental health and some of you grew up in the homes where it was off limits to talk about mental health, it was off limits to talk about things that in fact there was a lady in my neighborhood growing up who one day she just disappeared. 07:29.075 --> 07:34.757 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, some days she would have what we now know as mental health episodes, we just said she went off. 07:35.377 --> 07:35.657 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 07:36.218 --> 07:37.498 [SPEAKER_00]: We didn't have language. 07:37.518 --> 07:50.143 [SPEAKER_00]: We didn't have the terminology to use, but during the late 80s, early 90s, at least am I neighborhood to describe what she was going through, but she just disappeared and eventually about a year to let somebody say, oh, she had the crazy house. 07:51.283 --> 07:51.523 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 07:52.004 --> 07:53.064 [SPEAKER_00]: And again. 07:54.433 --> 08:12.562 [SPEAKER_00]: In my neighborhood, the response to somebody who's struggling with their mental health was to lock them in a psych ward in a street jacket, right, and medicate them day and night until such time as either felt that they were good enough to be released, or they can put them in a lower grave facility, many times for the rest of their days. 08:15.363 --> 08:17.064 [SPEAKER_00]: It's interesting because now. 08:18.725 --> 08:19.465 [SPEAKER_00]: We live in a world. 08:21.424 --> 08:32.350 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, you're in the corporate space and the home space and wherever you are, it's important for you to take care of your mind. 08:34.384 --> 08:52.910 [SPEAKER_00]: It's important for you, um, my wife does these ever heard of Sudoku, look it up Sudoku, um, she does these, um, their numbers exercises, number exercises, uh, it looks like a crossword it pulls up but it's numbers. 08:52.990 --> 08:53.450 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not ladders. 08:53.470 --> 08:54.110 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just numbers. 08:54.630 --> 08:55.931 [SPEAKER_00]: It kind of stretches your thinking. 08:56.251 --> 08:56.511 [SPEAKER_00]: All right. 08:57.011 --> 09:02.373 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's how she feels as if she's, she needs to be stretched or she needs, um, 09:04.173 --> 09:10.234 [SPEAKER_00]: Some new thought waves coming her way, she will heavily engage. 09:10.994 --> 09:19.116 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's talk about a binge on some Sudoku to get her her mind in juices flowing with regard to her thinking. 09:19.716 --> 09:20.316 [SPEAKER_00]: That works for her. 09:21.336 --> 09:22.176 [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever works for you. 09:23.116 --> 09:29.057 [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever works for you to get your, as Martian Lynn said, to get your mentors in the right space. 09:34.091 --> 09:40.072 [SPEAKER_00]: You can't show up for kids as a school teacher and your mind is not right. 09:40.773 --> 09:45.794 [SPEAKER_00]: The devil to show up in your marriage and give your marriage everything that you can. 09:46.634 --> 09:49.455 [SPEAKER_00]: If your mind isn't right, it's difficult to show up for your kids. 09:50.735 --> 09:58.377 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're struggling with thoughts and challenges in your mind, it's difficult for you to show up and give your work. 10:00.377 --> 10:01.517 [SPEAKER_00]: You're very best effort. 10:05.305 --> 10:06.486 [SPEAKER_00]: is not in the right space. 10:08.067 --> 10:17.975 [SPEAKER_00]: So let me encourage you, and I believe we just we just wrapped up mental health awareness month. 10:20.156 --> 10:24.640 [SPEAKER_00]: And we understand at this point that that is nothing to play with. 10:26.701 --> 10:31.325 [SPEAKER_00]: I think we're living in a time now where more people are going quote unquote off the rails 10:36.512 --> 10:37.172 [SPEAKER_00]: Take care of your mind. 10:38.173 --> 10:38.733 [SPEAKER_00]: Take care of you. 10:40.114 --> 10:41.415 [SPEAKER_00]: Send this to somebody today. 10:42.416 --> 10:43.777 [SPEAKER_00]: You might even know what they're going through. 10:44.662 --> 10:46.764 [SPEAKER_00]: but send this to someone, just share it out. 10:47.524 --> 10:58.292 [SPEAKER_00]: Just ask for God's leading, send it out to somebody, all you know can benefit from our conversation a day and don't you ever, ever neglect your own cup. 10:59.032 --> 11:05.237 [SPEAKER_00]: Keep it full, keep it focused, so that you can go, grow and glow every single day. 11:05.257 --> 11:06.017 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for your time. 11:06.958 --> 11:09.660 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for tuning in and thank you for taking action. 11:10.320 --> 11:11.781 [SPEAKER_00]: See you next time, take care of yourself. 11:12.342 --> 11:12.722 [SPEAKER_00]: Peace.