WEBVTT 00:00.031 --> 00:00.712 [SPEAKER_01]: What's up, everyone? 00:00.752 --> 00:03.959 [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome back to Girls with Girls with Your Hosts and Catherine and Caroline. 00:03.999 --> 00:10.091 [SPEAKER_01]: Today we're talking about screen free Sundays, which if you've been following along I've been doing screen free Sundays for the last minute. 00:10.251 --> 00:12.035 [SPEAKER_01]: It's a movement for the past four weeks. 00:12.375 --> 00:14.840 [SPEAKER_01]: This last week was the fourth episode. 00:15.421 --> 00:18.327 [SPEAKER_01]: Actually by the time you're listening to this, it will be the fifth episode. 00:18.307 --> 00:22.894 [SPEAKER_01]: Which is kind of nuts because, you know, we took this idea and ran with it and now I can't stop. 00:23.034 --> 00:25.137 [SPEAKER_01]: So do you not try and contact me on Sundays? 00:25.578 --> 00:29.584 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm making all of my friends slash myself with no one wants to hang out with me on a Sunday. 00:29.744 --> 00:33.430 [SPEAKER_01]: Just put our phones away and not go on them for the entire day from Don't To Dusk. 00:33.510 --> 00:34.752 [SPEAKER_01]: So that we're forced to play outside. 00:35.012 --> 00:38.037 [SPEAKER_01]: And those are the only rules I opened my phone the other day. 00:38.077 --> 00:40.640 [SPEAKER_01]: And I had so many I'd text or view it being like, oh, sorry. 00:40.660 --> 00:41.241 [SPEAKER_01]: I forgot. 00:41.261 --> 00:41.682 [SPEAKER_01]: It's interesting. 00:41.662 --> 00:57.038 [SPEAKER_01]: Sunday like I tried to call you even my friend Molly was like being on the other side of screen for a Sunday because she's not in town is hell like trying to contact you, but you can't or Sam texted me two weeks ago was like I know you're not going to see this until tomorrow but like blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah 00:57.018 --> 01:15.988 [SPEAKER_02]: You know, I think it is like it's so fun that so many people in your and our real life But also so many people online are really resonating with this like the amount of shares on the videos You're making the amount of comments of people tagging their friends and being like let's do this on a concept that is so simple Like let's just get off of our phones and go do fun things like 01:15.968 --> 01:32.813 [SPEAKER_02]: on Sunday is really cool and inspiring and I feel like it just goes to show that we're all craving moments like that in like finding simplicity and having fun with our lives and I think that that is kind of what has made the past four weeks in this special is like we have genuinely been having so much fun. 01:32.793 --> 01:42.563 [SPEAKER_02]: And we've been in San Diego and we've had friends around, we've had friends visit like some of our friends have driven down from LA and joined us on Sundays and so we've made an intention to like have really fun days and put our phones away. 01:42.583 --> 01:53.375 [SPEAKER_02]: We had a friend from New York coming visit and she was here for a weekend and we did a screen free Sunday together and our so many friends back home and New Hampshire or so many of our friends in New York and Boston are like next time you're here. 01:53.395 --> 01:59.982 [SPEAKER_02]: Let's do a screen free Sunday and like it just fun that everyone kind of wants to be a part of it, but it is such a simple basic idea at its core. 01:59.962 --> 02:20.814 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I mean, obviously it doesn't have to be Sunday and it doesn't, you don't really like lock your phone up, but the whole point of it is to get both myself and the people around me and the people that, you know, I can connect with on social media off of our phones and doing stuff in real life, which I know has been a key theme for the past couple months on on the show, but it's been really fun to actually do that in practice and there have been a couple of comments. 02:21.395 --> 02:24.400 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, like, one, how did you communicate your friends to do this? 02:24.599 --> 02:44.059 [SPEAKER_01]: It honestly is not that hard like speaking of myself and some of my closer friends like one of our phones too much and we want to get off of them like no one wants to be on the screen but it's so easy and it's not like oh I'm just like being consciously not on my phone but when you actually turn your phone off and put it away and lock it in a box or like leave it at home it's 02:44.039 --> 03:12.932 [SPEAKER_01]: changes things entirely and it's something that you would never probably intentionally do and so that's why I think it's been so impactful at least for me that it's like an intentional choice I'm leaving my phone and I'm there I have no other option but to go to these other things that I know I can do because no shit we all know how to not be on our phone for an hour or two but how frequently are you not on your phone all day and someone I read a comment this morning and it was like if you really can't go on your phone for for one day like you 03:13.098 --> 03:15.261 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, we, okay, everyone on the world does. 03:15.541 --> 03:17.224 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, one, everyone has phone addiction. 03:17.244 --> 03:18.405 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the, that's the point. 03:18.585 --> 03:19.106 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the little. 03:19.126 --> 03:23.412 [SPEAKER_01]: And two, I know I can not go on my phone for a day, but how often do you actually do right? 03:23.812 --> 03:24.013 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 03:24.053 --> 03:26.516 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, often you actually set the battery and like do that. 03:26.736 --> 03:26.957 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 03:27.157 --> 03:35.308 [SPEAKER_02]: That's such a silly comment because if they get, but like no dull, we've all been programmed to be so heavily dependent and addicted to our phones and so it does take saying, 03:35.288 --> 03:36.351 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm not going to be on it today. 03:36.411 --> 03:37.915 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to leave it at home for the day. 03:37.935 --> 03:47.599 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to get my friends to all hold each other accountable because, you know, the actually locking the phones up on a box we've done that once or twice, but otherwise we're kind of like on an honor system with each other. 03:47.619 --> 03:49.563 [SPEAKER_02]: The honor system did not work last weekend. 03:49.604 --> 03:51.829 [SPEAKER_01]: I was the only one did not have my phone. 03:51.809 --> 03:54.532 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, and like, no, people haven't been perfect with it. 03:54.552 --> 03:59.899 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, you might pick it up, and then what we call it to the other out on it, we're like, like, what texted you to send in, did you have to? 04:00.100 --> 04:00.640 [SPEAKER_02]: That's funny. 04:00.820 --> 04:01.361 [SPEAKER_01]: That's funny. 04:01.421 --> 04:05.627 [SPEAKER_02]: But like what you're doing, I think what we've all realized is like, yeah, we might need it everyone. 04:05.647 --> 04:09.852 [SPEAKER_02]: Someone to like contact a person, respond to something, safety things being touched with family. 04:09.952 --> 04:10.253 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know. 04:10.273 --> 04:11.314 [SPEAKER_02]: And you have to have each other. 04:11.434 --> 04:11.614 [SPEAKER_02]: Okay. 04:11.634 --> 04:12.275 [SPEAKER_02]: Always together. 04:12.315 --> 04:16.961 [SPEAKER_02]: So like, whatever, but we've all realized there's absolutely no need for social media. 04:16.981 --> 04:21.647 [SPEAKER_02]: Like that is at the absolute bare minimum, no scrolling on a Sunday. 04:21.627 --> 04:24.415 [SPEAKER_02]: at the opposite bare minimum social media apps are locked. 04:24.655 --> 04:30.251 [SPEAKER_02]: And I think it's funny, like, one of our best fans the other day was like, I just, I scroll so often. 04:30.412 --> 04:34.423 [SPEAKER_02]: And then when it's a Sunday, and I think about, oh, I want a scroll, but I'm not going to. 04:34.443 --> 04:36.649 [SPEAKER_02]: I realize that there's nothing actually for me there. 04:36.629 --> 04:44.739 [SPEAKER_02]: because it makes you something think what do I actually want from that and a lot of the time there's just nothing for us there and it is just a habit to open and scroll and pass our time. 04:44.760 --> 04:45.100 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 04:45.120 --> 04:48.725 [SPEAKER_01]: I do think it is so much more impactful to like actually not have your phone and safety. 04:48.785 --> 04:49.245 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 04:49.265 --> 04:51.208 [SPEAKER_01]: 100% I'm so safety conscious. 04:51.248 --> 04:55.714 [SPEAKER_01]: There's been like five of us typically and we all just trouble together not doing anything nuts. 04:55.734 --> 04:58.317 [SPEAKER_01]: We're like going to the farmers market and then beach. 04:58.297 --> 05:14.128 [SPEAKER_01]: It's been very chill and we've all been together and that has not been a problem and if it were a problem, you know, we'd handle it But like Caroline has her phone because she's filming anyone else has my phone on her plane, but I'm using it for camera And for the everyone's small navigation that we need if we're driving 05:14.108 --> 05:22.698 [SPEAKER_01]: Or, but then we also like a dummy phone and at the end of the day, we're intentionally not doing things that are going to be dangerous like we're going to the farmers market. 05:22.738 --> 05:28.985 [SPEAKER_01]: We're being very wholesome, which is another good thing about screen free Sunday is like we end up doing so much wholesome stuff. 05:29.166 --> 05:43.322 [SPEAKER_01]: We've played cards so often and we just walk around and you end up just talking more and kind of spending more time doing things that, you know, you're downtime that you could easily just sit with your friends like pick up your phone and scroll. 05:43.302 --> 06:02.577 [SPEAKER_01]: no phones which sounds so silly that you have to intentionally do that but you do have to intentionally do that these days and it's making such a big impact I was even with one of my friends that she's done screened for Sunday with us every week for the past five weeks and I went to the coffee shop she was working at today and she's like oh I didn't even watch her screened for Sunday video yet because I'm making videos of rigged. 06:02.557 --> 06:03.218 [SPEAKER_01]: on a camcorder. 06:03.618 --> 06:09.004 [SPEAKER_01]: And I mean, she's like, yeah, I haven't even watched you're like, I haven't even opened Instagram in the past, like, like, a sense Saturday night. 06:09.364 --> 06:09.905 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 06:09.925 --> 06:10.745 [SPEAKER_01]: She's like, I haven't scrolled. 06:11.086 --> 06:12.007 [SPEAKER_01]: She's like, I haven't watched it. 06:12.027 --> 06:14.249 [SPEAKER_02]: It almost makes me anxious to open it the next time. 06:14.650 --> 06:15.150 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know why. 06:15.170 --> 06:16.071 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know why. 06:16.271 --> 06:16.872 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know why. 06:17.452 --> 06:18.634 [SPEAKER_02]: No negative side effect. 06:19.094 --> 06:23.399 [SPEAKER_02]: Well, because I think I realized how nice it is to not be looking and then I'm like, I don't want to laugh. 06:23.419 --> 06:23.599 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 06:23.619 --> 06:27.263 [SPEAKER_01]: But even during the week, if I go and, you know, I'm like, I'm bored. 06:27.283 --> 06:28.784 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to scroll anymore. 06:28.924 --> 06:30.606 [SPEAKER_01]: Or if I am scrolling, I'm like, 06:30.586 --> 06:40.018 [SPEAKER_01]: This is kind of dumb like I don't want to be doing this and then it's so much easier now because how often have you've been scrolling You're like, wait, I don't want to do this, but then you keep scrolling. 06:40.038 --> 06:40.979 [SPEAKER_01]: So what else am I going to do? 06:41.480 --> 06:55.497 [SPEAKER_01]: But we have now so much practice and put so much time into the other alternatives that aren't scrolling, which again, it sounds so stupid that this even is like a conversation that is possible to have like, oh, I don't know what to do and I'm not scrolling, but 06:56.253 --> 06:56.814 [SPEAKER_01]: It's hard. 06:56.914 --> 07:00.781 [SPEAKER_01]: We've been primed that this is our first line of defense when we get bored. 07:00.841 --> 07:05.230 [SPEAKER_01]: It's just pick up a phone and scroll and not even seek out other options because it's so easy. 07:05.270 --> 07:09.437 [SPEAKER_01]: But now when I'm and it gives you the immediate like dopamine hit, you get satisfied immediately. 07:09.778 --> 07:16.911 [SPEAKER_01]: But now when I go to do that, I'm not satisfied anymore, because it's then practice that these other things. 07:16.891 --> 07:32.976 [SPEAKER_01]: literally walking around or just like sitting and fucking looking outside, you can slow down and actually be more okay with a slower dopamine hit with a slower like lead up to getting that interest satisfied rather than like, oh, I'm bored scrolling me out of it. 07:32.956 --> 07:39.544 [SPEAKER_02]: What I really enjoyed is how social we've been, the past fews and years that we've been here and being around people where we're not all on our phones. 07:39.704 --> 07:41.727 [SPEAKER_02]: Our phones are such a social buffer. 07:41.787 --> 07:53.020 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, you could be in a group of people or one-on-one with a person, but you're just both sitting on a couch or you're both in the car and everyone is looking at their phones, and you're not really engaging with each other. 07:53.261 --> 07:57.546 [SPEAKER_02]: And it really does act like that buffer sometimes to not have to, 07:57.526 --> 08:19.045 [SPEAKER_02]: make conversation to like act as if you're a little bit distracted or keep yourself like a little bit removed It is this like comfortable social thing in a way to have your phone on you so that like when there ever is a moment of downtime When there ever is a transition or something it's like, oh, let me pick up and check my phone as if like yeah, that's important as if that's if you know as if you're busy with it rather than having to like 08:19.025 --> 08:46.348 [SPEAKER_02]: Feel that space and engage with people and I think it's been really really fun the things that we've done to fill our time with friends in the past few Sundays But also just being around friends where you are all making the intention to be present like it's really nice You actually like have better conversation and you joke around and I feel like you get to know the people around you so much more when you're not defaulting to your phone every down moment or just enjoy your time more I also even like driving in the car or playing music and we're like 08:46.328 --> 09:06.953 [SPEAKER_01]: talking and joking and like sitting there scrolling while we're driving yeah or even if we're sitting there silent like yeah you actually feel like you're connecting with people around the rather than like oh I'm blocked by my phone there blocked by their phones similarly I mean it's been so great to be able to spend very intentional and a lot of time with our friends over here especially Coroner and San Diego 09:06.933 --> 09:08.235 [SPEAKER_01]: I've been here six weeks. 09:08.295 --> 09:13.321 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, I've been here five, four or five weeks and like that was a short it's been a short amount of time. 09:13.341 --> 09:20.271 [SPEAKER_01]: We're not here permanently, so that's been really fun to maximize it and get a lot of good time with our friends that are here. 09:20.431 --> 09:24.376 [SPEAKER_01]: But we've also been talking to and connecting with so many strangers that you've had. 09:24.396 --> 09:26.839 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, this is not like, oh, I just made friends with this person. 09:26.919 --> 09:31.065 [SPEAKER_01]: No, it's literally like you're on the street and I don't have a phone on me, so I'm not scrolling. 09:31.305 --> 09:32.046 [SPEAKER_01]: So I'm open. 09:32.026 --> 09:52.363 [SPEAKER_01]: To people talking to me, I'm more attentive to people that are maybe like you make on contact with someone and you smile You be like, oh that coffee looks good like what you get rather than just being like closed off and in your own little bubble Which it sounds like your phone wouldn't make that big of an impact, but you know think about it If you're waiting in line at a coffee shop and you have your phone in your hand It's really easy to just check 09:52.343 --> 10:15.921 [SPEAKER_01]: Your phone or maybe like you answer a text or like you look at your email or something and then you're so closed off that you're not making eye contact with the people around you're not looking around and being like oh even internally I like that sweatshirt or I like her style or like that's a good vibe or maybe not even reading the menu maybe next time I'll get this like I should come back here or looking around oh that place across the street looks pretty sick like these are all basic things that we have lost because 10:15.901 --> 10:17.104 [SPEAKER_01]: We just pull out our phones. 10:17.204 --> 10:19.389 [SPEAKER_01]: And we, we are closer ourselves off to other people. 10:19.469 --> 10:21.012 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, we're on the beach and we get bored. 10:21.273 --> 10:23.518 [SPEAKER_01]: Spring for us, and we're like, hey, they've spike while over there. 10:23.538 --> 10:27.106 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, I wonder if they'll let us play when they're done, or can we hop in on a game? 10:27.246 --> 10:28.609 [SPEAKER_01]: And then you do that. 10:28.669 --> 10:32.357 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's not to say that you can't do those things without a phone, but 10:32.337 --> 10:47.477 [SPEAKER_01]: It's so easy when you do have a phone or do have other things to be closed off and to just remain in your little bubble, whether that be you and your phone waiting in line or in public somewhere or like you and your immediate friends not wanting to talk with other people even just like 10:47.457 --> 10:49.260 [SPEAKER_01]: on the street passing one sentence. 10:49.280 --> 10:50.021 [SPEAKER_01]: So like, hey, how are you? 10:50.041 --> 10:53.267 [SPEAKER_01]: Like those little things make such a larger impact than you think. 10:53.287 --> 10:55.811 [SPEAKER_01]: And the more you do them, the more you practice them, the better you'll get at them. 10:55.851 --> 10:58.515 [SPEAKER_01]: And I got it intimidating at first if you're not maybe not used to it. 10:58.555 --> 11:06.208 [SPEAKER_01]: Which is why having a very solid, and strict is free Sunday with no phones, changes that entirely in it. 11:06.188 --> 11:20.087 [SPEAKER_01]: kind of catapult you into being better at that and with that comes so much like confidence and reassurance in yourself that hey, I can show up to strangers or in new spaces or, you know, and things that might otherwise not even be an option for me. 11:20.107 --> 11:28.959 [SPEAKER_02]: In Catherine and I have both been living out of Airbnb's and temporary apartments for the past six months 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feel that time? 12:57.333 --> 13:04.201 [SPEAKER_02]: And we've done a lot of fun stuff and then I also think we can talk about moving forward because not every Sunday is going to be social and with friends. 13:04.261 --> 13:06.443 [SPEAKER_02]: Some ideas for like how you 13:06.423 --> 13:14.117 [SPEAKER_02]: yourself from your family or like with one other person, you know, your siblings, because I'm sure there are going to be days where it is like just the two of us or the dog or the family. 13:14.157 --> 13:20.989 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, we've had a lot of larger groups for this just because we're to do gas when I said just does. 13:21.492 --> 13:22.914 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I'm going to do one alone. 13:24.495 --> 13:26.217 [SPEAKER_01]: We can do independence for a reason. 13:26.297 --> 13:27.799 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm very excited for an independent spring. 13:27.819 --> 13:29.841 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, it's so nice because there is a lot that you can do. 13:30.042 --> 13:37.610 [SPEAKER_01]: And so many comments were like, I need friends to do this with because we've been with a lot of friends and been doing a lot of like social things and it's been fun because of that. 13:37.750 --> 13:44.137 [SPEAKER_01]: I got that people are commenting that, but I'm like, no, you guys, just wait and talk like in the middle of nowhere by myself, I'm going to we will make this fun. 13:44.217 --> 13:47.541 [SPEAKER_01]: I promise it will prove to you that anyone can do a screen free Sunday. 13:47.561 --> 13:48.462 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need. 13:48.442 --> 13:49.605 [SPEAKER_01]: Friends, you don't need a big group. 13:49.625 --> 14:04.982 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need like something crazy going on or that comes like all right now try this and like the Midwest and the middle of the winter like you guys know we're from New Hampshire like I'll go I can do that the biggest snowman you've ever seen shovel the driveway like 14:04.962 --> 14:06.284 [SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm. 14:06.304 --> 14:07.286 [SPEAKER_01]: Which I like so much. 14:07.346 --> 14:08.749 [SPEAKER_01]: We watched a call last week. 14:08.769 --> 14:10.392 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, we did a call last week. 14:11.093 --> 14:15.120 [SPEAKER_01]: So the first few screen for Sundays, I hid it out of the park because we had great weather. 14:15.200 --> 14:23.295 [SPEAKER_01]: We're in San Diego so easy to make things fun, you know, go to the beach, go to the farmers market, do all these things, and we had a lot of friends in town, which made it extra fun. 14:23.475 --> 14:24.557 [SPEAKER_01]: The first time. 14:24.537 --> 14:28.005 [SPEAKER_02]: We went for a walk to a bakery, and we all got coffee. 14:28.045 --> 14:30.912 [SPEAKER_02]: And pastry is in croissant and sourdough. 14:31.173 --> 14:34.360 [SPEAKER_02]: I got a big loaf of sourdough, and then I proceeded to use it throughout the week. 14:34.380 --> 14:35.182 [SPEAKER_02]: So that was awesome. 14:35.343 --> 14:39.012 [SPEAKER_02]: We played some ping pong because there was a ping pong table at the rental that we were in. 14:39.192 --> 14:40.816 [SPEAKER_02]: At the moment, we went to the beach. 14:41.097 --> 14:42.580 [SPEAKER_02]: We brought cards to the beach. 14:42.560 --> 14:45.004 [SPEAKER_02]: We don't have our own like spike ball or balls or activities. 14:45.044 --> 14:46.747 [SPEAKER_02]: We brought cards to the beach and we also did. 14:46.948 --> 14:48.911 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, you did find a quite a football on the street. 14:49.973 --> 14:51.897 [SPEAKER_02]: We did the word all but without screen. 14:51.917 --> 14:56.485 [SPEAKER_02]: So like we were playing word all but we were all making a word and making them up and doing that. 14:56.565 --> 14:59.370 [SPEAKER_02]: And then that got like a little bit complicated so we did hangman. 14:59.350 --> 15:01.995 [SPEAKER_01]: These are all things that we are like, all right, it's 4pm. 15:02.015 --> 15:03.117 [SPEAKER_01]: We've already been to the beach. 15:03.137 --> 15:03.999 [SPEAKER_01]: We've been for a walk. 15:04.019 --> 15:06.864 [SPEAKER_01]: We've like made breakfast, Bob, what do we do now? 15:06.965 --> 15:07.165 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 15:07.185 --> 15:10.832 [SPEAKER_01]: Those are the times that you would just pick up your phone and go nonverbal with your friends. 15:10.852 --> 15:17.605 [SPEAKER_01]: And like you can still go nonverbal, but you can do other things that are more stimulating and relaxing and like not detrimental to you. 15:17.645 --> 15:18.106 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. 15:18.266 --> 15:20.110 [SPEAKER_01]: Then sitting on your phone. 15:20.090 --> 15:28.125 [SPEAKER_02]: I also took a nap on the beach, instead of sitting there and what otherwise I might default to look into my phone while I'm on the beach, like I just shut my eyes and listen music on the speaker. 15:28.826 --> 15:30.209 [SPEAKER_02]: And I let myself do those off of it. 15:30.489 --> 15:31.751 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, and that is the best. 15:31.952 --> 15:39.746 [SPEAKER_01]: But this most recent week was proof positive that, you know, you don't need a big group or crazy things to do to make it fun. 15:39.966 --> 15:42.992 [SPEAKER_01]: I had the most goddamn fun of my entire life at the car wash. 15:43.158 --> 15:46.682 [SPEAKER_01]: And in the coffee shop, and at the coffee shop, yes, that's another thing. 15:46.783 --> 15:53.631 [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't make this connection with the coffee shop because I was afraid, but I've definitely been more aware of when I'm standing in line. 15:53.651 --> 15:59.979 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not going to pick up my phone like I can stand in line even if it's 10 minutes and just fucking think or look around. 16:00.140 --> 16:01.401 [SPEAKER_01]: Point being, I go to this coffee shop. 16:01.421 --> 16:04.245 [SPEAKER_01]: I've been there a couple of times the guy is so nice to coffee so great. 16:04.365 --> 16:06.147 [SPEAKER_01]: And I got there and he was still he was running late. 16:06.167 --> 16:08.110 [SPEAKER_01]: So he was so opening, oh, no worries. 16:08.170 --> 16:10.633 [SPEAKER_01]: I go away while you're waiting. 16:10.934 --> 16:11.836 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you have good handwriting? 16:12.917 --> 16:20.691 [SPEAKER_01]: I do, but I'm nervous now to say, yes, if you're going to ask me to write something you're like, well, we have avocado toasts and I want it to make a sign, but like I don't have good handwriting. 16:20.711 --> 16:23.335 [SPEAKER_01]: I was wondering if maybe you could say absolutely. 16:23.415 --> 16:26.901 [SPEAKER_01]: So I was waiting for him to open and make my coffee. 16:26.881 --> 16:27.582 [SPEAKER_01]: I made a sign. 16:27.622 --> 16:29.506 [SPEAKER_01]: We have first I put my all into this. 16:29.607 --> 16:31.711 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm I'm no artist. 16:31.831 --> 16:33.675 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, but it's my own hard sign. 16:33.755 --> 16:34.817 [SPEAKER_01]: Hard warden Sharpie. 16:34.957 --> 16:35.418 [SPEAKER_01]: It's the best. 16:36.240 --> 16:37.943 [SPEAKER_01]: And I made this sign and he hung it up. 16:38.324 --> 16:43.294 [SPEAKER_01]: And so the next day took Caroline and our friend to go see my artwork and also to get coffee. 16:43.374 --> 16:44.877 [SPEAKER_01]: And he was like, thank you so much. 16:44.917 --> 16:46.000 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, he was being so kind. 16:46.080 --> 16:47.202 [SPEAKER_02]: He was so grateful. 16:47.182 --> 16:48.464 [SPEAKER_02]: for writing a sign. 16:48.564 --> 16:53.031 [SPEAKER_02]: I was like, brother, it was nice of her, but she didn't do that much. 16:53.051 --> 16:54.212 [SPEAKER_02]: It was a beautiful sign. 16:54.232 --> 16:57.197 [SPEAKER_02]: I know, but he was like so, so appreciative of his awesome. 16:57.317 --> 16:58.459 [SPEAKER_02]: It was like, no, it was so great. 16:58.499 --> 16:59.841 [SPEAKER_01]: And then he came for Richard. 17:00.421 --> 17:02.725 [SPEAKER_01]: And we had a lovely ass on today too. 17:02.745 --> 17:05.208 [SPEAKER_02]: Literally, and Catherine introduced me as her sister. 17:05.269 --> 17:08.033 [SPEAKER_02]: And he was like, your sister is so down to earth. 17:08.053 --> 17:11.037 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, I was really nervous to ask somebody to make a sign. 17:11.097 --> 17:12.379 [SPEAKER_02]: And she was just like, so 17:12.359 --> 17:20.672 [SPEAKER_02]: Excited and willing to help and ball-bought and he was so excited and he gave her a t-shirt And he gave us chocolate and he was just like really appreciative and it was so sweet. 17:20.792 --> 17:22.855 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so sick And he got a customer's for life. 17:22.875 --> 17:23.336 [SPEAKER_01]: We'll be back. 17:23.917 --> 17:24.498 [SPEAKER_01]: We will be back. 17:24.598 --> 17:28.044 [SPEAKER_01]: You've been back twice But that's something that I don't know. 17:28.084 --> 17:31.549 [SPEAKER_01]: She probably wouldn't have asked me if I was just like standing there on my phone or 17:31.529 --> 17:34.653 [SPEAKER_01]: had a bad vibe to me in that moment. 17:35.233 --> 17:39.198 [SPEAKER_01]: And these are all things that you can practice without being on your front. 17:39.439 --> 17:41.821 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, it's such an aura blocker. 17:41.861 --> 17:49.370 [SPEAKER_02]: And then after that in the same day, because it was kind of a gloomy day, what we wanted to go, I say he bowls, which in San Diego, I have only had one assayable. 17:49.471 --> 17:53.976 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm like not a frequent assayable person, but whenever I have them, I like them, and we went and got like, 17:53.956 --> 17:58.043 [SPEAKER_02]: These really big loaded balls and the challenge there was it was a 30 minute wait. 17:58.423 --> 18:13.568 [SPEAKER_02]: So we waited and sat and put all our thumbs screen free and so that was a nice challenge as well because usually if you have a 30 minute wait You would just scroll on your phone, but we were looking around we were chatting with each other probably pet a couple dogs I honestly don't even remember 18:13.548 --> 18:14.009 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 18:14.329 --> 18:17.693 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, the other thing about that is like, well, we have all day to kill. 18:18.253 --> 18:24.500 [SPEAKER_01]: Let's walk there and it was a 45-minute walk, which, you know, you're not always going to be available for a 45-minute walk. 18:24.641 --> 18:29.887 [SPEAKER_01]: But on a Sunday when you have no other plans, but to just hang out and fill the time, we'll take the 45-minute walk. 18:29.967 --> 18:40.939 [SPEAKER_01]: So we took a long show, we took some detours to add it some time. 18:40.919 --> 18:44.244 [SPEAKER_01]: everyone feeling are one friend those with us last week. 18:44.264 --> 18:45.666 [SPEAKER_02]: Well, we did the coffee stand. 18:46.087 --> 18:48.330 [SPEAKER_02]: We want to go to our sayables and we ate them at the beach. 18:48.350 --> 18:50.594 [SPEAKER_02]: And then one of our friends was serving at a Burundra restaurant. 18:50.614 --> 18:53.458 [SPEAKER_02]: So we walked by the restaurant and we just like popped in and said hi to her. 18:53.759 --> 18:57.003 [SPEAKER_02]: And then we drove through a car wash because our friend needed to wash her car. 18:57.064 --> 18:57.644 [SPEAKER_02]: Yes. 18:57.745 --> 18:58.486 [SPEAKER_02]: That was really fun. 18:58.506 --> 19:02.332 [SPEAKER_02]: I did the soap in the brush in the scrubbed up because it was like a DIY. 19:02.412 --> 19:03.674 [SPEAKER_02]: It wasn't like a you drive through. 19:03.694 --> 19:04.615 [SPEAKER_02]: It was like... 19:05.101 --> 19:16.042 [SPEAKER_02]: You get the water in the soap and you get yourself just like the old days when you're in the driveway except it was a public car wash those are still I know I think if like when we were kids and we would help down washes car haven't done that in a really long time. 19:16.082 --> 19:17.064 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm sure you have the one. 19:17.084 --> 19:17.304 [SPEAKER_02]: Yes. 19:17.685 --> 19:19.168 [SPEAKER_01]: I want to share car. 19:19.348 --> 19:20.190 [SPEAKER_02]: So I watch car. 19:20.170 --> 19:22.913 [SPEAKER_01]: Well, for me, I like this project because it's not something I've done recently. 19:23.013 --> 19:31.882 [SPEAKER_01]: The other big thing that I think I've noticed and has like made such a big impositive impact from showing for Sundays for me is being more spontaneous. 19:31.922 --> 19:37.048 [SPEAKER_01]: Like you have so much more availability instead of making a big plan in, you know, planning a few days in advance. 19:37.068 --> 19:40.812 [SPEAKER_01]: Hey, guys, let's go do XYZ and like make a reservation and go to this restaurant. 19:40.832 --> 19:42.453 [SPEAKER_01]: It's more like, wait, this place looks sick. 19:42.473 --> 19:43.574 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, I'm going to what we walk past. 19:43.594 --> 19:44.115 [SPEAKER_01]: Let's pop in. 19:44.175 --> 19:44.676 [SPEAKER_01]: Let's do this. 19:45.376 --> 19:46.077 [SPEAKER_01]: And to, 19:46.057 --> 19:51.002 [SPEAKER_01]: Yesterday we went to this I walked past this like fish taco restaurant. 19:51.022 --> 19:52.163 [SPEAKER_01]: I was like, wait, that looks cute. 19:52.723 --> 19:53.564 [SPEAKER_01]: It's busy in there. 19:53.624 --> 19:54.965 [SPEAKER_01]: It's in a nice outdoor space. 19:54.985 --> 19:55.926 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, let's keep that in mind. 19:56.507 --> 19:59.289 [SPEAKER_01]: So when we were ready, we wanted like a snack. 19:59.690 --> 20:00.771 [SPEAKER_01]: And I wanted a fish taco. 20:00.791 --> 20:01.011 [SPEAKER_01]: Is it? 20:01.331 --> 20:01.972 [SPEAKER_01]: We're going here. 20:02.492 --> 20:03.273 [SPEAKER_01]: So we made our way. 20:03.333 --> 20:06.015 [SPEAKER_01]: We walked there and had a lovely time. 20:06.035 --> 20:08.097 [SPEAKER_01]: And I probably never would have been otherwise. 20:08.117 --> 20:10.439 [SPEAKER_01]: There was a free dinner fish taco before we rode burgers. 20:10.640 --> 20:13.262 [SPEAKER_01]: Something like, 20:13.242 --> 20:14.585 [SPEAKER_01]: For PM. 20:15.787 --> 20:19.253 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know what to do with myself, but I kind of need a haircut. 20:19.314 --> 20:31.116 [SPEAKER_01]: I said, I'm going to try so I said out I tried three different places and there were all kind of enough after turning me down to refer me to someone down the street that may have space and you know, it was just Sunday night 20:31.096 --> 20:51.805 [SPEAKER_01]: no one's going to take me for a last minute walk in haircut like that was completely expected but i did spend a couple hours of my time walking around trying to find someone to cut my hair still not haircut no haircut still not haircut but that's okay because i just i needed to film my time and what i would have done otherwise was probably i don't even know what i would do otherwise probably work that's the other thing i feel like i'm working on some days and i like 20:51.785 --> 21:08.795 [SPEAKER_02]: I can't I can't guys can't I can't work which is a good excuse sometimes but last night we we grilled too because we went to the farmers market and we got ground beef and vegetables there and then we brought it back and we made burgers and grilled vegetables, heavily enjoyed that, enjoyed getting everything out the farmers market and then making it. 21:08.956 --> 21:13.624 [SPEAKER_01]: So if you have seen stream free Sundays and have wanted to implement it or 21:13.604 --> 21:40.185 [SPEAKER_01]: You're in San Diego and you want to pull up actually where we're taking this on the roads If you're in Chicago next weekend New York, the weekend after that and then New Hampshire for this summer And here's in New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, New York, 21:40.165 --> 21:41.829 [SPEAKER_01]: You do whatever you can tailor this for anything. 21:41.849 --> 21:44.355 [SPEAKER_01]: If you say, hey, I have work in the morning, do it in the evening. 21:44.536 --> 21:46.020 [SPEAKER_01]: Like you can, you can do whatever you want. 21:46.040 --> 21:52.937 [SPEAKER_01]: The whole point of this is that we're actively choosing not to be on our phones and to do other things and practicing living in real life and not. 21:52.997 --> 21:53.959 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, not on the screen. 21:54.200 --> 21:57.448 [SPEAKER_02]: I arguably think it's a better Sunday reset than like, 21:57.428 --> 22:14.872 [SPEAKER_02]: a classic Sunday reset and that was part of the motivation for me is like I am just sick of every single day needing to have a way to be productive and a reason to be productive and I think there are times where I love a Sunday reset maybe you're meal prepping, maybe you're doing your laundry, maybe you're like getting yourself completely organized and a clean slate for the week ahead. 22:14.912 --> 22:16.855 [SPEAKER_02]: I think that can be really refreshing. 22:16.835 --> 22:20.699 [SPEAKER_02]: But in a way that someone can make you feel like you are still on the hamster wheel. 22:20.719 --> 22:22.420 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, oh, I did everything this week. 22:22.841 --> 22:27.165 [SPEAKER_02]: And now I need to spend this day productively cleaning my slate so I can start again. 22:27.225 --> 22:32.510 [SPEAKER_02]: And it's kind of like, okay, but when do we have time to just have fun and live and do things spontaneously? 22:32.530 --> 22:37.975 [SPEAKER_02]: And so I've really enjoyed holding space for that on Sundays instead of a reset. 22:37.995 --> 22:46.723 [SPEAKER_01]: And just kind of like reminding myself that not every single day has to be productive. 22:46.703 --> 22:49.949 [SPEAKER_01]: because being bored is so beneficial. 22:50.049 --> 22:59.205 [SPEAKER_01]: When your brain is not forced to be on, when you can use it in more relaxing ways, when you can get creative and maybe try things or do things that you didn't typically do. 22:59.285 --> 23:08.121 [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes I'll get bored at home and this will probably be a solo screen free Sunday if I'm just, you know, and on a friends around, make art for your room like, 23:08.101 --> 23:26.278 [SPEAKER_01]: Deep clean your closet like all these things screen-free Sunday does not have to be some like crazy thing But you can do that and you know put music on or do that and it's all these things that you can be because you've cleared your schedule Mm-hmm and cleared your mental clutter of having your phone and having you know tasks on your phone and you know 23:26.258 --> 23:28.843 [SPEAKER_01]: a million videos to watch when you're scrolling from. 23:28.943 --> 23:42.169 [SPEAKER_01]: It makes it so much more enjoyable and easy and acceptable to take your time with things and to slow down and actually benefit from that relaxation time rather than, okay, this is my Sunday Reset to do list. 23:42.189 --> 23:47.980 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to do XYZX with above and you can do the same stuff, but it's just the approach that makes it different and it's not. 23:47.960 --> 23:53.828 [SPEAKER_01]: you know a direct result of not having your phone, but I think it's the intentional choice of I'm going to choose to do other things. 23:53.848 --> 23:54.949 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to choose to slow down. 23:54.990 --> 24:00.076 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to choose to actually be present rather than keeping this crutch on me. 24:00.297 --> 24:09.028 [SPEAKER_01]: Listen, we all have our phones every single other day and you don't have to do screen free Sunday, every single Sunday or even on a Sunday, you can just choose a time to put some intention behind that. 24:09.189 --> 24:16.819 [SPEAKER_01]: So if you take one hour of one day away from this and just make a choice to leave your phone at home and go sit outside 24:16.799 --> 24:20.224 [SPEAKER_01]: that, I will be so happy with if that is something that you do. 24:20.725 --> 24:22.828 [SPEAKER_01]: Hmm, after listening to this after seeing screen free Sunday. 24:23.089 --> 24:33.265 [SPEAKER_02]: I actually was thinking without you were just saying, I said no Sunday reset, but actually I feel like you could do the same Sunday reset and not be on your phone and it would like still have the exact same impact. 24:33.425 --> 24:34.667 [SPEAKER_02]: You can still do your laundry. 24:34.687 --> 24:38.212 [SPEAKER_02]: You can still meal prep, but maybe you're going to do it in a more relaxed way. 24:38.433 --> 24:43.701 [SPEAKER_02]: Just going through the flow of doing those things and you're not every minute in between putting stuff in the laundry. 24:43.681 --> 24:52.372 [SPEAKER_02]: going and doing the dishes, picking up your phone and looking at your phone and starting to do them scroll or just like being on for every single person that wants to get in touch with you. 24:52.432 --> 25:01.183 [SPEAKER_02]: I also think it's really refreshing to have a day where like you just don't respond to texts or you're just like not available for other people and you're just kind of only spending it with yourself. 25:01.524 --> 25:07.772 [SPEAKER_02]: So I am looking forward to screen free Sundays that are solo or that are at home this summer or like just with family as well. 25:07.872 --> 25:12.017 [SPEAKER_02]: I think that'll be really nice because you can do 25:11.997 --> 25:15.764 [SPEAKER_02]: but you free up so much more time and mental space when you're doing them just with yourself. 25:16.345 --> 25:19.431 [SPEAKER_02]: And it also is fun to, you know, do some arts and crafts read a book. 25:19.451 --> 25:21.635 [SPEAKER_02]: Especially in the summer, go to the beach without your phone. 25:21.875 --> 25:22.356 [SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely. 25:22.717 --> 25:27.205 [SPEAKER_01]: So I hope you guys try a screen free Sunday or a screen free something in the next week. 25:27.285 --> 25:31.753 [SPEAKER_01]: And if you do and want to DM us or comment on this episode, please do let us know how it goes. 25:32.374 --> 25:33.837 [SPEAKER_01]: If you want to pull up, 25:33.817 --> 25:35.300 [SPEAKER_02]: Hello, let us know and pull up. 25:35.440 --> 25:37.645 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, if you do a screen free Sunday, let us know. 25:37.685 --> 25:47.585 [SPEAKER_02]: We would love to hear about it and how you feel and what you do You can always message us and Katha's Instagram and TikTok is out in Katha and Kineen Mine is at Caroline Kineen and the podcast page is at girls with girls pod. 25:47.686 --> 25:52.616 [SPEAKER_02]: Make sure you're following the show wherever you listen on Spotify and Apple and We will see you guys next Monday. 25:53.157 --> 25:53.698 [SPEAKER_02]: Bye