[SPEAKER_02]: Welcome to Homemaker Sheet Podcast.
[SPEAKER_02]: We're rescuing the art of homemaking from the daily grind red lips.
[SPEAKER_02]: No denim jumpers.
[SPEAKER_02]: We have been on this topic of the Homemaker's nervous system.
[SPEAKER_02]: Thanks for your feedback for last week's episode.
[SPEAKER_02]: And we are pleased to continue the conversation today.
[SPEAKER_02]: And we're going to do that with Shay Elliott.
[SPEAKER_02]: May lovely co-host of the show.
[SPEAKER_02]: Alo, gov, hello.
[SPEAKER_03]: I love I'm reading all of her twists right now by the way.
[SPEAKER_02]: So good.
[SPEAKER_03]: I not to dispel your introduction here, but I read kind of a modern language book recently called the Bill of Lingua, about the history of the Italian language, and I went from reading that to reading Dickens.
[SPEAKER_03]: This guy.
[SPEAKER_03]: He's just an amazing, terrible human.
[SPEAKER_02]: Amazing writer.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yep, human.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yes, I think he died in a train accident with his mistress who was like 13 or something.
[UNKNOWN]: 13.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's really a rumor.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think so.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, yeah, what did you say last week two weeks ago George Washington died of like Tooths abscess or something like a bug bite or something like that not true.
[SPEAKER_02]: I corrected myself.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: Somebody died of an infected bug.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, well, this is also a lie.
[SPEAKER_02]: I was just Googling it.
[SPEAKER_03]: I know it's a total lie.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: He died from a stroke.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, he collapsed wall visiting his mistress and was brought back to his home to avoid scandal.
[SPEAKER_01]: to stretcher get him in the back door so I don't know I'm sorry.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think the whole town knew all of London.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god.
[SPEAKER_01]: London town.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, we talked about the depravity of the Romans last week.
[SPEAKER_03]: So a couple weeks ago, spare that conversation.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, that's please.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god.
[SPEAKER_03]: Anyway, I'm happy to be here.
[SPEAKER_03]: early, because somebody's going somewhere to do this.
[SPEAKER_03]: Look, I think we have to do the thing.
[SPEAKER_03]: She is, she's doing it.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm doing it.
[SPEAKER_03]: You guys, I got to tell you this crazy story.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is crazy.
[SPEAKER_03]: Strappin.
[SPEAKER_03]: The providence that took us to Umria specifically is pretty amazing.
[SPEAKER_03]: And look, it's our podcast.
[SPEAKER_03]: So I'm just going to tell you.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not on anyone else with time
[SPEAKER_03]: You good?
[SPEAKER_03]: You got a cup of tea?
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm good.
[SPEAKER_03]: I got a, I got a, I don't know if I left it downstairs.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: So years ago, we started what we called the Italian job, which was this project, this family project that we had, where we wanted to take our kids somewhere for a chunk of time.
[SPEAKER_03]: So we did the thing.
[SPEAKER_03]: We got them their passport, which was so expensive.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh my gosh, she started saying, you even start.
[SPEAKER_02]: You're like, wait, $1,000.
[SPEAKER_02]: Wait, what?
[SPEAKER_02]: They're US citizens.
[SPEAKER_02]: They're going to expire in four years.
[SPEAKER_02]: What?
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: At a whole list, I had a binder.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: It was a whole process.
[SPEAKER_03]: Well, when it came down to choosing where we wanted to go, we knew because we were going to be gone for a big chunk of time, we wanted to go to a place where we could attend a church.
[SPEAKER_03]: And so.
[SPEAKER_03]: are type of church.
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's just keep it simple.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm struggling out.
[SPEAKER_03]: My camera's really exciting.
[SPEAKER_01]: They don't have those kinds of lights.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's church.
[SPEAKER_03]: The kind of church that we attend does not have these kind of lights.
[SPEAKER_03]: There is one in North like in Milan, one in the middle, which is where Umbria is and then one in the South in Puyah.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, so we just were like, okay, well, I don't want to be that far north.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't necessarily want to be that far south.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's much more difficult to get there.
[SPEAKER_03]: So we'll just choose the one in the middle.
[SPEAKER_03]: Don't worry, it is.
[SPEAKER_03]: OK, and as I'm Google and all this stuff, trying to pick a village of which there are many, many, many villages, I just choose this one.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's where we're going to go.
[SPEAKER_03]: I book the Airbnb, let's go.
[SPEAKER_03]: This is now our village, OK?
[SPEAKER_03]: Through the great fine, some friends of ours who had gone to church with forever, who moved to Tennessee during COVID, they hear that we're going to Italy.
[SPEAKER_03]: So they reach out to me, like Che, work, we have, we've just bought a house in Italy.
[SPEAKER_03]: They're older, retired.
[SPEAKER_03]: We just bought a house in Italy.
[SPEAKER_03]: And you guys should stay at our house instead of renting a house.
[SPEAKER_03]: I was like, well, you know, we kind of got this all situated where on this teeny little village, y'all, it was the exact same village.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's just so incredible.
[SPEAKER_02]: You know how many villages there aren't Italy?
[SPEAKER_02]: No, it's just, say, it's just amazing.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's God's Providence.
[SPEAKER_03]: I mean, it's just, yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: This is a village of 8,000 people.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's very picola, okay?
[SPEAKER_03]: So anyway, blah, blah, blah, blah.
[SPEAKER_03]: We do the Italian job, we take our kids, we do the thing.
[SPEAKER_03]: And as we're there, just all these pieces are falling into place.
[SPEAKER_03]: It just feels like the most magical thing and out of that came K Vita because things were just falling into place so well.
[SPEAKER_03]: So anyway, my friend Sarah is also friends.
[SPEAKER_03]: with our mutual friends who have this house.
[SPEAKER_03]: So she went to go visit them while they were there and she also visited this village.
[SPEAKER_03]: She loved it so much that she wants to buy a house there.
[SPEAKER_03]: Her and her husband are world travelers.
[SPEAKER_03]: She's like, why not?
[SPEAKER_03]: Why not?
[SPEAKER_03]: They sold their house, built a little tiny house.
[SPEAKER_03]: So, you know, they're just at that phase of life where they're down, sizing everything.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: So Sarah calls me last week.
[SPEAKER_03]: Do you want to go to Adelaide next week?
[SPEAKER_03]: Hold, please.
[SPEAKER_03]: Stay out.
[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
[SPEAKER_01]: Great.
[SPEAKER_03]: She had some places she wanted to see.
[SPEAKER_03]: I have some work that my camera is really excited.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's really shocking me out, Shay.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm sorry.
[SPEAKER_03]: My life's not even on.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know why it's doing that.
[SPEAKER_03]: Anyway, I guess long story long.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm going to go because I, you know, it was wild.
[SPEAKER_03]: I sat there thinking, I have work to do there.
[SPEAKER_03]: Like I actually work in this place.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: So it's not, it's not just funcies, but part of it was like, hey, I'm turning 40.
[SPEAKER_03]: I wanted to go to Italy for my 40th birthday.
[SPEAKER_03]: We can't pull that off, but we could pull one person off.
[SPEAKER_03]: We could pull one person leaving, right?
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
[UNKNOWN]: Right.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's just, it's just amazing.
[SPEAKER_03]: My mind told me all the reasons that I shouldn't go to the tuna.
[SPEAKER_03]: I was like, my, I need to clean my white tennis shoes and
[SPEAKER_03]: No way.
[SPEAKER_03]: I swear, I'm told you I'm being super wear on my thoughts.
[SPEAKER_03]: I was like, well, Sue's gonna have to move the lawn on Saturday and then you won't have anything for dinner if he's outside working all day, and I'm here.
[SPEAKER_03]: What?
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh my God, that's so crazy, right?
[SPEAKER_03]: And it dawned on me.
[SPEAKER_03]: Why am I coming up with reasons why this can't work?
[SPEAKER_03]: I was supposed to coming up with reasons that it could.
[SPEAKER_03]: existential thought right there.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, fit for a virus cafe, right?
[SPEAKER_02]: Anyway, suffising.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, so grab in my passport, grab in a suitcase, and go in.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm going to go to a spend, spend a week there.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yep, Stu's holding down the floor.
[SPEAKER_03]: Finishing up the home school year.
[SPEAKER_02]: So many, go to Fartuna!
[SPEAKER_02]: Ha ha ha ha!
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh my gosh, that's funny.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, anyway, here we go.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm really excited about it.
[SPEAKER_03]: So Angela agreed to a, so record our episode a little bit early.
[SPEAKER_03]: So if something major has happened by the time this has aired, and we don't address it, so I'm right, right?
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm always worried about that.
[SPEAKER_03]: Anyway, I'm pretty cool.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm pretty happy for you.
[SPEAKER_03]: Are you?
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: Do you want to come?
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: You still have four days to decide.
[SPEAKER_03]: Just got fired.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh.
[SPEAKER_02]: Directed.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh my gosh.
[SPEAKER_02]: Stop.
[SPEAKER_02]: I think my family would have a freak out.
[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, I was just gone for, you know, I just got back.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: Fine, let's read comments instead of planning and that's fine, get away.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, we're, we're, we're in my, we're in my, we're in my, I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are one.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm scrolling.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, remember what a few weeks ago when we talked about keeping our homes clean.
[SPEAKER_03]: We're going to talk about kind of a version of that today.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, but this is a comment from rough.
[SPEAKER_02]: Like doyelable?
[SPEAKER_02]: Sister-in-law.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, because I like to type a clean house.
[SPEAKER_03]: I like a clean house.
[SPEAKER_03]: Her house smells strong with capy.
[SPEAKER_03]: So...
[SPEAKER_03]: I wish what's the reply you should have clicked on the reply there's a drop down somebody come and did you guys I have to tell you I'm sorry chatting Okay, I got to tell you about the most incredible Instagram comment.
[SPEAKER_03]: I've ever gotten you ready for this.
[SPEAKER_03]: I took a picture of it because it was so epic.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, man.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, I did a real couple of weeks ago on Instagram of
[SPEAKER_03]: me jokingly saying just do it like oh you know I have a favorite house and he's like oh what is it and oh it's like oh it's you make a coffee okay it makes me a coffee and it's funny and this person commented on that real and said do you think he might feel a little exploited I'm not trying to be mean but all I see is the frustrated body language and a smile that seems like it's holding back a scream.
[SPEAKER_03]: I responded.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, I normally don't respond, but you did respond.
[SPEAKER_03]: I just go, no.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's funny.
[SPEAKER_02]: I really do like the analysis.
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, like the one I sent you, I got a few weeks ago about home torturing.
[SPEAKER_02]: Home torturing.
[SPEAKER_02]: How I am torturing my precious husband.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh chill torturing.
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm torturing them.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: Interesting.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh sometimes I love it.
[SPEAKER_03]: Get me.
[SPEAKER_03]: Those ones like, oh, they just kind of make me laugh.
[SPEAKER_03]: Um, okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: Here's a comment all the time.
[SPEAKER_02]: It's funny, but I like Miss Tidy.
[SPEAKER_02]: Well, I like her.
[SPEAKER_02]: She ends her comment.
[SPEAKER_02]: She's like, so.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: Here's a comment from Shannon Durbin.
[SPEAKER_03]: The idea of shopping for a month feels like such a learned skill.
[SPEAKER_03]: Learn skills for home makers.
[SPEAKER_03]: That sounds more like what we need to hear.
[SPEAKER_03]: I love this Shannon because you're totally right.
[SPEAKER_03]: So it's a good segue into saying thank you to season sponsor Azure Standard because Azure does do their delivery runs with their big trucks once a month and if you aren't used to that set up, it can feel crazy.
[SPEAKER_03]: Right?
[SPEAKER_03]: We're used to especially if you're used to running to the grocery store three times a day or four times a week or whatever.
[SPEAKER_03]: The guy forgot to our cream.
[SPEAKER_03]: I won't just get in and get it.
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
[SPEAKER_03]: So the way that it works with Azure standard and then,
[SPEAKER_03]: The way that Azure Standards works is you can visit AzureStandard.com, create an account, and go shopping do all of your shopping from the comfort of your home.
[SPEAKER_03]: I do mine on my laptop in bed on Saturday nights.
[SPEAKER_03]: I know wild stuff.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I shop for everything there from non-dairy cheeses for my daughter to 525 pound bags of lentils, grains, flowers, olive oils, vinegar.
[SPEAKER_03]: I mean, any food you can think of, Azure will have it.
[SPEAKER_03]: and they're extending a 15% off promotion to new customers.
[SPEAKER_03]: So you create your account, you go shopping for all the amazing organic non-GMO high quality foods that you need.
[SPEAKER_03]: And then that order will be delivered to your area to the drop location of your choosing.
[SPEAKER_03]: once a month by a driver.
[SPEAKER_03]: And so you go, we always take our pickup truck because we order all of our organic animal feed from them as well.
[SPEAKER_03]: So, you know, a month's worth of chicken layer bags, for example.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I know that can seem a little bit overwhelming at the beginning, but once you get
[SPEAKER_03]: in the routine of it, and once you sort of learn out your system, it saves you so much time.
[SPEAKER_03]: And for us, we live out of town.
[SPEAKER_03]: So every time we forget something at the grocery store, or we have to run into the feed store for another bag of feet, because we're out.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's, that's a lot of gas money.
[SPEAKER_03]: and it's a lot of time.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yes, it's a lot of time.
[SPEAKER_03]: So when you create your account and you place your first order of $100 or more shipped to the drop location of your choice, Azure is extending a 15% off to new customers.
[SPEAKER_03]: So there's details, all those details that I just said are in the show notes if you forget any of them, but use the code homemaker chic all one word to claim
[SPEAKER_03]: Now back to this comment from Shannon I'm curious how you do this, but I keep I'm I actually keep a spreadsheet and it's here's what I need in my pantry here's what I need every month so we're not at the phase of life where we can like be out of stuff that's really got a little like me on the bounty.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's really difficult.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's bad.
[SPEAKER_02]: So I don't keep it spreadsheet.
[SPEAKER_02]: I do have a Google Doc, a master shopping list.
[SPEAKER_03]: OK, master shopping.
[SPEAKER_03]: I am a master shopping.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, it's exactly.
[SPEAKER_03]: So do we need salt?
[SPEAKER_03]: Do we need cottage cheese?
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know what people hate on cottage cheese.
[SPEAKER_03]: I just eat it straight up plain and I love it.
[SPEAKER_02]: I went like my most of my life thinking I didn't like it like as a kid at the salad bar.
[SPEAKER_02]: Remember the salad bar in it.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, sure.
[SPEAKER_02]: 90s.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah.
[SPEAKER_02]: I always would be like, oh, gross.
[SPEAKER_02]: And now it's just like a pleasure.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah love it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love it for beloved.
[SPEAKER_03]: I think it's fantastic.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, so the one once a month grocery shopping, I don't plan out a month's worth of meals that would be.
[SPEAKER_03]: that would be your total waste of time.
[SPEAKER_03]: Our life and schedule will move a little bit too quickly for that.
[SPEAKER_03]: So what I do is with this one some month grocery shopping, I will, by the way, I typically run to the grocery store for things I forgot once a week.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, or main.
[SPEAKER_03]: Come on.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's just a real hit.
[SPEAKER_03]: But having all the staples in place makes a really, really big difference.
[SPEAKER_03]: So I make sure we have popcorn and peppercorns and all these kinds of things.
[SPEAKER_03]: Google sheets, Google docs, those are your friends.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
[SPEAKER_03]: But it is a learn skill.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah,
[SPEAKER_03]: And it just says, looking from scratch is a learned skill.
[SPEAKER_03]: So I did a class with Azure, which you can learn more about on my website, the lehomeset.com forward slash beginners.
[SPEAKER_03]: Because they're, they're are really wanting to encourage people like keep cooking is a learned skill.
[SPEAKER_03]: There's not an easy button.
[SPEAKER_03]: You actually have to trial an error and learn and and shift and learn some more and and I think it's important to remember that we can learn skills.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yes.
[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, I think yeah, all my home making is learn skills like it you don't like to start and know how to do this stuff.
[SPEAKER_02]: You got to go through your awkward period and do your research and get your supply, like whatever it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: My Italian tutor asked me a couple of weeks ago, just they have these conversation prompts when we're in a class as students.
[SPEAKER_03]: So he was asking, is there any special skill that you were born with just kind of knowing how to do?
[SPEAKER_03]: And everyone's responses were like, no, do people go out and do snow?
[SPEAKER_03]: So I was like, I can do this.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I wrote, I wrote the clovered my tongue.
[SPEAKER_03]: Is that what it's called clovered clovered clover?
[SPEAKER_03]: You can write.
[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't know it.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, or you can like crease it clover it.
[SPEAKER_04]: Uh-huh.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh my gosh I didn't know it was a name.
[SPEAKER_02]: I thought it was like just a weirdo.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know anybody else could do that Yeah, that's what I bring to my Italian glasses.
[SPEAKER_03]: Great Did you do that for everyone?
[SPEAKER_03]: I did do that
[SPEAKER_01]: All the Americans look what I can do right this is what I bring to the world.
[SPEAKER_02]: That's great.
[SPEAKER_03]: Exactly.
[SPEAKER_02]: No, I always think about that.
[SPEAKER_02]: So I always think like if I watch like something like Jean Kelly like dancing in the rain or something I look at those dancers that are just so blind and I think.
[SPEAKER_02]: They all took their first dance step and it blows my mind like they all they might have had rhythm or like a knack like not too left feet, but everyone had to learn it just I find it fascinating.
[SPEAKER_03]: Gardening.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: Big time I used to.
[SPEAKER_03]: I've told you guys this I used to work at a flower shop.
[SPEAKER_03]: I worked at a flower shop for a really long time and I learned how to arrange plants and flowers and in a very particular way because this flower shop where I worked it was called a European garden house and so there was a very set aesthetic that that things had to.
[SPEAKER_03]: look like.
[SPEAKER_03]: So these weren't like that.
[SPEAKER_02]: No tell a floral.
[SPEAKER_03]: Tell a floral.
[SPEAKER_03]: There was no videos for right.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I think this much, much, much different.
[SPEAKER_03]: Cool.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I remember being, I just turned 16 and went in and did my first arrangement and took a picture of it because we can't be kept
[SPEAKER_03]: And, you know, of course you couldn't see them.
[SPEAKER_03]: You had to like get them on your computer and do all the things.
[SPEAKER_03]: So, don't have phones back then like that.
[SPEAKER_03]: But, took a picture of it and I just like it was the most beautiful thing.
[SPEAKER_03]: And you look back and you're like, what, put it, but I'm very capable now.
[SPEAKER_03]: Basically, because you just do bad bad bad bad, right, maybe a little bit better, just liver of hope bad bad.
[SPEAKER_03]: Right, do you remember your first garden?
[SPEAKER_03]: Was it bad?
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, yeah.
[SPEAKER_02]: It was what it could be on my little tiny budget.
[SPEAKER_02]: It was all.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it was really small.
[SPEAKER_02]: It was like 20 by four.
[SPEAKER_02]: Maybe.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, that was just a strip of, yeah, it was just a strip of, yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: It was sweet.
[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.
[SPEAKER_03]: Mine was a little vegetable garden that sat catty corner, just like one little raised bed.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I planted every vegetable at the exact same time.
[SPEAKER_03]: I didn't know.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, awesome.
[SPEAKER_03]: I was just like, peas and peppers same day.
[SPEAKER_03]: They're both vegetables.
[SPEAKER_03]: So, right.
[SPEAKER_02]: So why not?
[SPEAKER_03]: So I know.
[SPEAKER_03]: Exactly.
[SPEAKER_03]: Um, it's great.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: There was one other comment that I was going to read that we had before we jump in.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, Anna, Anna picked up on something that we often say.
[SPEAKER_03]: You're on the podcast.
[SPEAKER_03]: She says, don't worry about sounding new agey.
[SPEAKER_03]: They have taken concepts of Christianity and instead of verbally thanking God through those words, they are thanking the universe.
[SPEAKER_03]: They are doing things that we should do as Christians but given the glory to themselves for the universe and not to God.
[SPEAKER_03]: That is what makes it new agey and wrong.
[SPEAKER_03]: I hope that makes sense, but I totally know how to say it.
[SPEAKER_03]: Totally.
[SPEAKER_03]: Totally makes sense.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: There's a really great book called You Are What You Love that deals with this exact concept of people being made to worship.
[SPEAKER_03]: And everybody worships.
[SPEAKER_03]: Everybody has truths.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's just a matter of what you worship and what truths you hold.
[SPEAKER_03]: So it's a great book,
[SPEAKER_03]: we can't help but worship, even if all we're worshiping as ourselves.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I just wrote that down.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, it's a great book.
[SPEAKER_02]: All right, so this is going to be sort of a continuation of last week's conversation where we just introduced this idea of the homemaker paying attention to her nervous system.
[SPEAKER_02]: And at the end, we closed with
[SPEAKER_02]: that sometimes like on the outside it can feel okay or you think you're doing okay you're like okay I had the hot bath I did I did the thing but your nervous system is like yeah we're not good here over here so I should say that we should continue that and look at how to like what how our environment affects that or what are you thinking for today yeah I want to talk about
[SPEAKER_03]: creating how the homemaker creates the right environment to thrive in.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, so remember last week we talked about that like front entrance to our, what did I call it, the front end.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: What?
[SPEAKER_03]: Within our control, obviously.
[SPEAKER_03]: The things that are within our control, how are we setting up our environment in a way so that not as many, let's just call them triggers.
[SPEAKER_03]: get into the back end of our brain.
[SPEAKER_03]: So if you missed our conversation, what I was talking about is the front end, like, defense of your body.
[SPEAKER_03]: Think of front end, like, like a front office that you would walk into and you have to talk to the secretary and she's like, you don't have an appointment here, sir.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm sorry, but you're not allowed back in the offices.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, and you have things set up in a certain way, maybe you have a waiting room, maybe there's a little coffee station, maybe she has her schedule a certain way, but there's like there is a structure in place to manage what's going on behind the scenes.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's a part of it that we do have control over.
[SPEAKER_03]: There's so many things that we do not have control over.
[SPEAKER_03]: And the harder we try to hold onto them, the more frustrated we're going to become.
[SPEAKER_03]: My camera is so frustrated right now.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know what to do.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know why it's doing that.
[SPEAKER_03]: If you're watching the video, I'm very sorry.
[SPEAKER_02]: I feel like waking me out.
[SPEAKER_02]: I know.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's like, and it's completely off.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know why.
[SPEAKER_03]: Technology.
[SPEAKER_03]: Anyway, there's so much that goes on that we don't have control over.
[SPEAKER_03]: The harder we try to hold on to that, the more frustrated that we can get.
[SPEAKER_03]: how essentially, how do we set ourselves up in our homes for success?
[SPEAKER_03]: And I've always known that people have different particularities, but it didn't dawn on me until recently when my doctor was like, unapologetically, you have to set your home right because in order for you to do well mentally,
[SPEAKER_03]: The environment has to be as good as it can be.
[SPEAKER_03]: So here's a very simple example to kind of, you know, get your mind going on the possibilities of this.
[SPEAKER_03]: We all know what it's like to wake up in the morning and just feel completely overwhelmed at the amount of work that we have in front of us for any given day, big schedules, big to do's, maybe you have an extra curricular thing or to the throne in there for no extra space.
[SPEAKER_03]: So you get up out of bed and you're already kind of like, oh shoot, this is going to be, this is going to be a rough one.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's a very important thing to take note of, because it's all the more important on those days to set your environment right so that you can thrive.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It doesn't have to be really organized.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't mind flying by the sea to my pants for dinner.
[SPEAKER_03]: And that's probably totally true for some people.
[SPEAKER_03]: I am not like that at all.
[SPEAKER_03]: And so my doctor said, when you get up, especially, you know, school days work days, when you get up in the morning, you put your face on because for me, that's part of me feeling good.
[SPEAKER_03]: You make sure your hair is clean.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_02]: And I think what you just pointed out, like it's not the same for everyone.
[SPEAKER_02]: Like other people's nervous systems are, when you're nervous system reacts, when it goes into that fight or flight mode, it is because it doesn't feel safe.
[SPEAKER_02]: So some people can be spontaneous and in a messy, like maybe a messy environment or kind of flying by the seat of their pants.
[SPEAKER_02]: And they feel safe operating that way.
[SPEAKER_02]: Other people don't feel safe.
[SPEAKER_02]: People's triggers are all going to be different.
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what that nervous system responses.
[SPEAKER_02]: It's something inside going like, I don't feel safe this way.
[SPEAKER_02]: We can talk about setting up our homes to have predictable routines so that we can't, you know, no matter what type of person we are, we can feel safe, quite frankly, in our own space.
[SPEAKER_03]: Sure.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_02]: That is peaceful.
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, if something, if you know you're going to thrive, you've just removed part of you've removed the chaotic part of the equation for you.
[SPEAKER_02]: It doesn't remove the work.
[SPEAKER_03]: It doesn't change the circumstances at all.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's what's so fascinating about it, right?
[SPEAKER_03]: But it's saying, if I know what's for dinner, I can handle a podcast recording session in the afternoon, better, where they camera is going crazy.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, it's okay now.
[SPEAKER_03]: Now it's okay.
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's do it till I'm making a point and then it'll.
[SPEAKER_03]: Two interesting things about this.
[SPEAKER_03]: I think it's good.
[SPEAKER_03]: If you're listening to this, check in with yourself.
[SPEAKER_03]: I love this.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm going to be 40, where the time this airs, I'm going to be 40 next week.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I love that I'm still learning stuff about myself, like really paying attention to things about myself and a lot of times it takes somebody else from the outside being like, hey, you're like this.
[SPEAKER_03]: Shoot.
[SPEAKER_03]: I am right.
[SPEAKER_03]: So check in with yourself and and take note.
[SPEAKER_03]: So.
[SPEAKER_03]: For example, you were talking last week about the nervous system and things that trigger it and sometimes it's not as predictable, but sometimes it is like that four o'clock hour where you're you're kind of trying to wrap up the day move on to the next phase of the day that is like a notoriously difficult time for a lot of people Monday mornings kind of the same way.
[SPEAKER_03]: like a notoriously difficult time.
[SPEAKER_03]: So if you once you start paying attention to it, you can identify where those tension points live in your actual timeline of your week.
[SPEAKER_03]: And once you identify those, you get self-awareness is like the majority of the solution to this.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, when it's like this, I get like this.
[SPEAKER_03]: See?
[SPEAKER_03]: No, it's totally different.
[SPEAKER_03]: Point, that's point one.
[SPEAKER_03]: Point two is that just like you want people to appreciate that you're an individual.
[SPEAKER_03]: So I want, for example, my family to recognize that I am incredibly impacted by my environment.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I am a much better mother when my environment is set up in a way for us to thrive as a family.
[SPEAKER_03]: That's true, but two things can be true at the same time.
[SPEAKER_03]: I also need to hold space for them, for the people in my life who aren't that way, right, right and what this looks like this doesn't look like letting people walk all over you, but for me what this looks like is.
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, not being such a martyr about just like putting stews, shoes away and folding his clothes and putting them in front of his dresser.
[SPEAKER_03]: And you know, I don't leave his side of the bed unmade.
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't expect him to come in and clean the bathroom.
[SPEAKER_03]: Because those, while he appreciates those things, he doesn't have like a visceral response to them like I do.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I think that's where a lot of that tension in the home comes from.
[SPEAKER_03]: I want it like this.
[SPEAKER_03]: You want it like this.
[SPEAKER_02]: So, let's say I'm trying to look at your notes, what do you mean by setting the stage you've got setting the stage in our notes?
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's think about taking an inventory of our day.
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's brainstorm right now.
[SPEAKER_03]: I encourage people to find spots in their week where there tends to be a pattern of
[SPEAKER_03]: Ugh, frustration, maybe, do you have those pockets?
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, and do you think there's always an out, though?
[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, I don't know what mine is.
[SPEAKER_02]: Mine's Wednesdays.
[SPEAKER_02]: Wednesdays are nasty for me because that's the day that I film.
[SPEAKER_02]: That's the day that if I haven't advertised her on YouTube, the ad is due to the ad agency.
[SPEAKER_02]: I have to get it edited, filmed.
[SPEAKER_02]: I have to school people, can't, can't not school people, can't not feed people like Wednesdays are just like,
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, I'm filming weeks, you know, um, there isn't always a solution to that.
[SPEAKER_03]: I mean, no, the solution and the solution unfortunately is typically never just don't do it.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, the solution at this stage of life for us looks like figure out how to do it in the best way that you can.
[SPEAKER_03]: Right, I could spend the rest of my life with my kids in my home, just pitching about how much groceries they eat, how many or I could just know that that responsibility is on my shoulders and I am going to whatever.
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's say I do my big Azure order once a month and then I plan for every Saturday, pick up anything else we need from the grocery store
[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.
[SPEAKER_03]: So that's kind of what I mean by setting this stage looking for the opportunities.
[SPEAKER_03]: Because look, if there's no dinner on the table, my family's impacted by that, but not in the same way that I am.
[SPEAKER_03]: Because they're not, they're not the ones who are going to problem solve that situation.
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
[SPEAKER_03]: Now, I mean, if we want to take it further,
[SPEAKER_03]: We talk about organizing our life and our home in a way that helps it to thrive.
[SPEAKER_03]: This might look like going to your husband or to your older kids and be like, actually, Wednesday's a doozy of a day for me.
[SPEAKER_03]: So Wednesday's is going to be a day for you to make.
[SPEAKER_03]: How made Mac and Cheese?
[SPEAKER_03]: Or, yeah, I'm going in and cheese for whatever.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, like changing the situation to eliminate some of those places.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, you know, you said, like, sorry, I'm laughing.
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm laughing at something my kids said this week.
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, you said Mondays and I kind of want to talk about your Mondays Monday morning.
[SPEAKER_02]: It's a little bit more.
[SPEAKER_02]: You're trying to make an adjustment on Monday.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_02]: Sunday's are real mic drop for me like I don't I think my I get this from my mom.
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to blame her like my mom did not make dinner on Sunday I remember this was like old school 80s where you went to search church like twice a day on Sundays And we'd be pulling out of the church parking lot in the evening.
[SPEAKER_02]: What's for dinner mom?
[SPEAKER_02]: Serial
[SPEAKER_02]: She'd say and last weekend somebody came in the kitchen like at four and they're like, what's for dinner?
[SPEAKER_02]: Anyways, I'm sorry.
[SPEAKER_02]: Do you live here?
[SPEAKER_02]: We don't get to eat on Sundays like Sunday nights.
[SPEAKER_02]: What are you talking about?
[SPEAKER_02]: But that's just a way that I'm like, look, you can scrounge.
[SPEAKER_02]: You can make popcorn.
[SPEAKER_02]: You're not going to starve.
[SPEAKER_02]: There's plenty of food,
[SPEAKER_02]: But it's just Sunday nights, I'm not going to do the cleanup the kitchen until 730 and be expected to hit the ground running like Monday morning.
[SPEAKER_02]: It's like, it's kind of like a, I guess a protect protective it's one of the ways I just protect my sanity.
[SPEAKER_02]: What?
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, you can't just like not do things though.
[SPEAKER_02]: Like I have to make sure they're scrounge food, you know, on Sunday.
[SPEAKER_02]: So like Monday comes and you're styling your Monday morning.
[SPEAKER_02]: It's a little bit differently.
[SPEAKER_02]: Where are you bumping those?
[SPEAKER_02]: Like how are you finding time to do that?
[SPEAKER_02]: How did you make that adjustment?
[SPEAKER_03]: Well, it's complicated.
[SPEAKER_03]: Another two weeks in, right?
[SPEAKER_03]: It's complicated because what I found was look,
[SPEAKER_03]: We talked about the nervous system last week, but try to set how much I want to say.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, well, I'm genuinely working, actively working through depression.
[SPEAKER_03]: So I was diagnosed a couple months ago.
[SPEAKER_03]: I shared that on my sub-stack.
[SPEAKER_03]: So it's not, it's not hidden knowledge or anything.
[SPEAKER_03]: But you know, the kind where you just kind of can't pull yourself out of the swamp.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_03]: So I'm hyper aware of everything because I'm really trying to get a new lay of the land.
[SPEAKER_02]: What are you?
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, so let me kind of rephrase it.
[SPEAKER_02]: Do you find your eliminating things to accommodate those changes?
[SPEAKER_02]: Because that's what I want to try to do.
[SPEAKER_02]: I want to tell people like you can't just there's not a magic wand You're probably gonna have to let some stuff go.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh 100%.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, okay, that's what I was trying to get 100%.
[SPEAKER_03]: But the thing is like it's all intertwined, right?
[SPEAKER_03]: Because
[SPEAKER_03]: money is intertwined with work and work is intertwined with mental well-being and all that's all this big soup.
[SPEAKER_03]: So it looks like eliminating a lot of things and just unapologetically guarding my heart in my mind.
[SPEAKER_03]: What that means is that I actually am a much better employee
[SPEAKER_03]: That's what I can like whole heart give right now.
[SPEAKER_03]: The interesting thing is like when you show up, when all these other things are accounted for and you can show up and just bust it for three days, you accomplish the same amount.
[SPEAKER_03]: There's no one like, I'm always amazed, I can sit in my desk and I can work and work and I get done and there's no one who is giving me a high five when I leave.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, I also imagine because I know this for myself like we're we've gotten so much better between the two of us or I guess me and he's gotten better at responding or I will go to him the day before and say like this is what's on my plate tomorrow and this is what I need from you and not in a condescending like you work for me way I don't mean it like that at all it means that I'm actually asking for help that's the number one thing on my list
[SPEAKER_02]: Ask for help.
[SPEAKER_02]: And it's made just the world of difference.
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not expecting him to be a mind reader.
[SPEAKER_02]: He feels useful.
[SPEAKER_02]: He's providing me with a solution.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_02]: What even if it's just like whatever it is, it doesn't matter.
[SPEAKER_02]: It helps.
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, yeah, this also looks like, I don't know, just in case anyone needs to hear this, I am letting go of a lot of things financially.
[SPEAKER_03]: What does that mean?
[SPEAKER_03]: I guess I saw it.
[SPEAKER_02]: What do you mean?
[SPEAKER_03]: I think there was a time when you and I were doing what we were doing and you know, I was publishing books and doing the pilot for the food network and you think these opportunities come up and you think this is going to work.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, you're saying so, like financially, I am really content.
[SPEAKER_03]: to just say what you're saying.
[SPEAKER_03]: have already read.
[SPEAKER_03]: There's no like grand mountain.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm trying to climb.
[SPEAKER_03]: There's no crazy achievement.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's so cliche, but it's like what I'm finding is like, if your home is healthy and you're your heart and your mind, your healthy, and you feel good, and you know, frankly, there's groceries and the floors are cleaned and like you love your husband and you have a good relationship with
[SPEAKER_03]: all the money.
[SPEAKER_03]: And you know, that's a tricky balance to hold is an entrepreneur because you have to be self-motivated.
[SPEAKER_03]: Sure.
[SPEAKER_03]: You're not an employee.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's not a clock in and clock out kind of job.
[SPEAKER_02]: But there's a huge difference between self-motivated and like audience, I'll share something private that Shay and I say to each other like when we're encouraging each other like, you know, we're both in this like,
[SPEAKER_02]: We both kind of like, home-make on a stage, like people see our homes and they see what we do.
[SPEAKER_02]: And we're very ideas, we're ideas women, you know, we have ideas and we like to bring them to life and execute them.
[SPEAKER_02]: But we have this joke between us, like, never going to be joined against.
[SPEAKER_02]: And like, we don't want to be.
[SPEAKER_03]: Join against is not even joined against.
[SPEAKER_02]: That's what I mean, she's got team, but that's the that's the the private joke between us is like the daily bride we've got our little ideas or trips or like this is it we're going to take care of this that's right so like the playing smaller to me it's like been this sweet
[SPEAKER_03]: We relief and just like beautiful and tenderness.
[SPEAKER_03]: So like Mondays, for example, I just I'll clock into the office for a couple of hours at the end of day.
[SPEAKER_03]: When when things are counted for in the home, but I'm letting myself have Mondays to do I'm we have four kids.
[SPEAKER_03]: like in a very important time of life and we home educate them.
[SPEAKER_03]: So when I say it's thick, like it's thick, they need their clothes washed, they need help cleaning their rooms, they need food to take to co-op tomorrow, they deserve to have a mom who is present and emotionally,
[SPEAKER_03]: available and stable.
[SPEAKER_03]: And they deserve to live in an environment that is healthy and thriving.
[SPEAKER_03]: And in order to do that, you have to protect yourself from forces that take some of that away.
[SPEAKER_03]: Everyone has to work.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's a fact of life.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not limiting work at all.
[SPEAKER_03]: I love what I do for a living.
[SPEAKER_03]: But
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, I think you're doing the same thing like we both just took half of YouTube off of our plate, it's still very important.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's a very special place for us to connect with people, but it was depriving our family of a ton of time to do a video a week and it wasn't healthy and so instead we just look we're going to give it truly we're going to like give it our heart every other week.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, so I'm going to truly show up for work in a powerful and meaningful and honest way to stay through Thursday.
[SPEAKER_03]: Hey, man, do that.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, that's what I mean about creating the right environment to thrive in for me, you may be totally different, but for me, I do not thrive just log in hours in.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not, I don't thrive when I'm a slave to my work.
[SPEAKER_03]: really, really love being a homemaker.
[SPEAKER_03]: Those are my best days.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm fill in the spice jar and cleaning out the little fridge and ironing great clothes.
[SPEAKER_03]: I love that stuff.
[SPEAKER_03]: And my family does too.
[SPEAKER_03]: It's so anyway, I'm setting the stage because we are impacted.
[SPEAKER_03]: We are impacted by our environment, and part of our environment is our schedule.
[SPEAKER_03]: Part of our environment is our budget.
[SPEAKER_03]: Lane, but true.
[SPEAKER_03]: So per lame.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, so, um, so that's what kind of, that's what some of those stages are changes look like in terms of setting the stage, but I think every homemaker is going to hear this in a different
[SPEAKER_03]: in a different way.
[SPEAKER_03]: So I think budgets, I think money is actually where a lot of this comes home to ruse because how many of you have ever had because some kind of like nervous system response to your budget.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Your nervous system, your body, your physical response is so impacted by your budget, about your bank account.
[SPEAKER_03]: You'll ever open that up and you're like, well, there goes my good day.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, it's not a good feeling or yeah, when there's, when there's chaos, I think the right environment to throw to thrive in for the homemaker for not everybody, but
[SPEAKER_03]: for a lot that I talked to.
[SPEAKER_03]: It is smaller and tidier, and I think that's kind of culturally taking root a little bit.
[SPEAKER_03]: Have you noticed this?
[SPEAKER_03]: Like I haven't even noticed this in like people's houses and things.
[SPEAKER_03]: Like people are choosing smaller, used, less expensive.
[SPEAKER_03]: It seems like that's
[SPEAKER_03]: Disenchanted maybe have you noticed that that's probably yeah, I can see that I can see I can see that word for sure So so you mentioned you were talking about Sunday night not cooking dinner, but you were you were going to tell people where your those friction points are in your week or maybe we can we can Wednesday's my big Wednesday's my big one and for me, okay, so For me it's
[SPEAKER_02]: when I feel like I'm not going to be able to get XYZ done and we'll subsequently let people down.
[SPEAKER_02]: That's when I start to panic being the first born daughter that I am.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_02]: That is, I don't like letting people down at all.
[SPEAKER_02]: And I don't like,
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so when I start to feel like how will I do all this and and mostly it's my family.
[SPEAKER_02]: So I always try to keep my work is like on the side, you know, it's like a side thing.
[SPEAKER_02]: And I don't ever want them to feel like, oh, my mom has to do XYZ, but that's how they end up feeling in particular on filming days.
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like filming days.
[SPEAKER_02]: I love the end result.
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like everything it takes to get to get there.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's just it's it's where I've maybe on a day where I've just chosen to I think probably just do too much.
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, so that actually reminds me of something my doctor said I'd never had anybody say it to me before so I'll share in case it's helpful.
[SPEAKER_03]: She said when you're planning out your day.
[SPEAKER_03]: Especially if you're a people pleaser or you're an achiever or you do have ideas or you're like to express yourself hate a thing and then the stuff.
[SPEAKER_03]: She said you but you need to build your day at a 80% capacity.
[SPEAKER_03]: Fill your day to 80%.
[SPEAKER_03]: Because if you fill it to a hundred just because you can.
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, well then what about when the glass breaks?
[SPEAKER_03]: What about what the cat throws up on the what you know,
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't I don't do that anymore.
[SPEAKER_02]: I cannot do that anymore.
[SPEAKER_02]: I can't do that anymore.
[SPEAKER_02]: No, I can't.
[SPEAKER_02]: I just I went for so I went for so long like not even just having time to sit down.
[SPEAKER_02]: And I don't know, last year or so or whatever, I just like, yeah, I'm not going to live that hot anymore.
[SPEAKER_02]: If I can't just sit and be unproductive for a little bit, it's just not.
[SPEAKER_03]: And now feeling like you have to turn your rest.
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, yeah, I'm a big that's a big that was a big work through or earning it for sure.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I can sit and enjoy this glass of wine outside because I did eight hours of work in the garden.
[SPEAKER_03]: You can also just sit.
[SPEAKER_03]: You, right here it out, just, you weirdo.
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I would love to hear comments this week on this because there's such a cool, this is such a core thing of what we share here on the podcast.
[SPEAKER_03]: And I think there's more to parse out here, but I would love to hear how your body's impacted by your environment, how you set the stage in your home.
[SPEAKER_03]: what this kind of looks like or even if you're older, if you can weigh in, so we can share that information with the younger.
[SPEAKER_03]: Sure.
[SPEAKER_03]: How you've listened to listen to your body?
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I want to hear all the things.
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
[SPEAKER_03]: I want to hear all the things things for being here with us this week.
[SPEAKER_03]: I will be back, state side, for next week's episodes.
[SPEAKER_02]: You won't even know she's
[SPEAKER_03]: for a guy.
[SPEAKER_02]: All right, ladies, who will feed him dinner after he moves the lawn?
[SPEAKER_02]: Somebody's going to have that sad for lawn posture.
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, holding screens.
[SPEAKER_01]: Holding silent screen.
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm screen.
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, very good.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, ladies, thanks for being with us.
[SPEAKER_03]: We'll see you next week.
[SPEAKER_03]: Cheers.
[SPEAKER_00]: Cheers.