WEBVTT 00:10.173 --> 00:20.785 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to begin this lecture, focusing on the mistake that I belies made for those who know the story of I belies is a tragic one. 00:22.607 --> 00:27.232 [SPEAKER_00]: The narrations tell us that I belies was this worshiper of God. 00:28.713 --> 00:34.700 [SPEAKER_00]: Some narrations say there wasn't a span on the earth that he hadn't did a such that to all of us of Panoads and others. 00:35.621 --> 00:40.146 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, it's very shayt-thong that we curse 00:40.801 --> 00:42.323 [SPEAKER_00]: He was a high worshiper of God. 00:43.524 --> 00:49.011 [SPEAKER_00]: And he had reached such ranks in worship that he was put in charge of Malayika of Angels. 00:50.533 --> 00:56.640 [SPEAKER_00]: And as we all know in the early verses of the Quran, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us that something happened. 00:57.941 --> 01:02.607 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us that this moment came where Allah was creating our Father, Adam. 01:03.802 --> 01:30.383 [SPEAKER_00]: And in that moment, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, He says, but either so way to who one of us to fee, Baha'ula who said G.D. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said to the Malah Iqat, to all of the angels, to all of the jinn, everyone, when I create this Adam, when I make him, when I fashion him, and I blow my spirit and my soul into him, I want you to do one thing, I want you to bow down to him. 01:31.747 --> 01:34.270 [SPEAKER_00]: It was in this moment that Shethon was tested. 01:35.792 --> 01:54.075 [SPEAKER_00]: And my hook but today is about in every relationship that we have, whether it's a relationship of us and our brother are sibling, whether it's a relationship between me and my father, who's aging, whether it's a relationship between me and my wife. 01:55.051 --> 02:01.157 [SPEAKER_00]: And every relationship, the Prophet ﷺ has taught us a profound insight. 02:02.037 --> 02:12.487 [SPEAKER_00]: And the insight is that relationships are not based on my relationship with the person, but the relationship is based on my relationship with God and my proximity to God. 02:13.588 --> 02:24.838 [SPEAKER_00]: The key mistake that Iblis made is in that moment, he looked at Adam, he got the order 02:25.477 --> 02:26.478 [SPEAKER_00]: He sized them up. 02:26.538 --> 02:29.963 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, he's made out of dirt. 02:31.526 --> 02:33.308 [SPEAKER_00]: I made out of fire on this. 02:33.428 --> 02:34.049 [SPEAKER_00]: He's that. 02:34.850 --> 02:38.055 [SPEAKER_00]: And in that moment when he sized them up, he came to a conclusion. 02:38.115 --> 02:42.902 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, I'm not going to bow down to him. 02:44.163 --> 02:52.395 [SPEAKER_00]: And in that moment, Allah SWT in the Quran and another verse, he says, if Amar Tuka, after I've told you this, 02:53.523 --> 02:57.148 [SPEAKER_00]: He failed to realize the quintessential point of my foot today. 02:57.709 --> 03:02.915 [SPEAKER_00]: He failed to realize that this moment was not about his relationship with Adam. 03:03.857 --> 03:06.420 [SPEAKER_00]: This moment was not about who's better. 03:06.500 --> 03:11.367 [SPEAKER_00]: It wasn't about how much he was going to get along with Adam for the course of eternity. 03:11.627 --> 03:14.030 [SPEAKER_00]: This moment wasn't about him and Adam. 03:14.050 --> 03:22.922 [SPEAKER_00]: This moment was about him and his relationship with the Lussepanwata Adam. 03:23.527 --> 03:25.169 [SPEAKER_00]: He forgot who it was really about. 03:25.210 --> 03:27.433 [SPEAKER_00]: It was about him and a lesser panotaula. 03:27.493 --> 03:30.858 [SPEAKER_00]: And as a result, he fell distant. 03:30.878 --> 03:34.103 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, the other day, some of y'all know my kids. 03:34.704 --> 03:36.767 [SPEAKER_00]: Boston, he ain't here. 03:36.787 --> 03:39.751 [SPEAKER_00]: So I could talk about him. 03:39.771 --> 03:44.538 [SPEAKER_00]: He was doing the sibling thing, fighting with his sister. 03:46.161 --> 03:49.686 [SPEAKER_00]: I said, why you hit your sister for the 10th million time? 03:50.729 --> 03:53.355 [SPEAKER_00]: And he said to me, oh, his friends are here. 03:53.715 --> 03:54.597 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't tell them I said this. 03:55.720 --> 03:59.728 [SPEAKER_00]: He said to me, Baba, Dad, she hit me. 04:01.151 --> 04:04.358 [SPEAKER_00]: And I said to him, I said, that's not what I'm asking. 04:05.621 --> 04:09.108 [SPEAKER_00]: In this moment, I'm asking you about a relationship between me and you. 04:09.289 --> 04:10.932 [SPEAKER_00]: I told you, don't hit her. 04:11.266 --> 04:12.769 [SPEAKER_00]: But you made this about you and her. 04:13.750 --> 04:19.160 [SPEAKER_00]: The relationship right now that I'm talking to you about us about me and you, Habibi, has nothing to do with your sister. 04:19.180 --> 04:20.923 [SPEAKER_00]: It has everything to do with me and you right now. 04:21.363 --> 04:24.088 [SPEAKER_00]: In that moment, it bleeds messed up. 04:24.108 --> 04:26.352 [SPEAKER_00]: But it's a mistake that all of us make every day. 04:26.993 --> 04:29.738 [SPEAKER_00]: Your relationship with your father that is strained right now. 04:30.379 --> 04:32.743 [SPEAKER_00]: Your relationship with your son that is strained right now. 04:33.424 --> 04:36.970 [SPEAKER_00]: The little bit of drama at home between you and wifey right now. 04:36.950 --> 04:45.582 [SPEAKER_00]: The problem is that both of you have felt to realize that the relationship isn't predicated on the relationship between you, too, and has to do everything with the triangulation. 04:45.883 --> 04:49.088 [SPEAKER_00]: It's how much you, too, both, are looking at a Lusupanoata. 04:49.668 --> 04:51.671 [SPEAKER_00]: Let me drive this point home a bit more. 04:52.813 --> 04:59.182 [SPEAKER_00]: In the very next verse that I recited, a Lusupanoata, he tells us about this amazing event that happened in the sea of it. 05:00.684 --> 05:02.066 [SPEAKER_00]: Here's the backdrop of the story. 05:04.410 --> 05:06.012 [SPEAKER_00]: Rumors were spread. 05:06.548 --> 05:11.535 [SPEAKER_00]: about our mother, Aayshara, the Allahu Tata, Anha, that she had committed Zinnah. 05:13.238 --> 05:16.743 [SPEAKER_00]: These rumors were spreading all throughout Medina. 05:16.763 --> 05:19.107 [SPEAKER_00]: They were spreading like wildfire. 05:19.127 --> 05:22.973 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a long backdrop to the story too much to explain in a football. 05:22.993 --> 05:25.536 [SPEAKER_00]: But we'll get the main point of it. 05:25.556 --> 05:27.119 [SPEAKER_00]: So rumors are spreading. 05:28.260 --> 05:35.391 [SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet, so I tell him is confused how are people accusing my case, amazing, 05:36.451 --> 05:44.700 [SPEAKER_00]: Eventually, the verses are revealed, exonerating eyesha, completely absolving her of everything that everyone said about her. 05:45.761 --> 05:47.503 [SPEAKER_00]: Completely, she did nothing like that. 05:49.084 --> 05:55.892 [SPEAKER_00]: But what happened in the process is that the people who spread the rumors, their names became known. 05:57.593 --> 06:00.096 [SPEAKER_00]: One such person, his name was Mr. 06:00.667 --> 06:13.652 [SPEAKER_00]: I say that loudly because he is still a great Sahaba of the Rasul, and so we have so much respect because as the poem says the Khalid Jawad Qibwa, every Italian trips up every now and then. 06:14.493 --> 06:15.455 [SPEAKER_00]: So he made a mistake. 06:16.016 --> 06:16.697 [SPEAKER_00]: But what did he do? 06:17.098 --> 06:20.004 [SPEAKER_00]: He was part of the one spreading these rumors you did you hear? 06:20.104 --> 06:20.525 [SPEAKER_00]: Did you hear? 06:20.585 --> 06:21.747 [SPEAKER_00]: Did you hear? 06:21.912 --> 06:28.058 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, what's interesting is that mistletoe was the nephew or second cousin of Abu Bakr. 06:28.999 --> 06:33.823 [SPEAKER_00]: For those who don't know, Abu Bakr is Isha's father, brother of the Allahu'a'an, how much in my hand. 06:34.524 --> 06:36.626 [SPEAKER_00]: And so that means, let's connect the dots. 06:36.646 --> 06:49.658 [SPEAKER_00]: That means that the young man who I give a stipend to every single month, I pay his rent, I pay for his food, that same individual is the one who's now spreading rumors about my own daughter. 06:51.140 --> 06:55.005 [SPEAKER_00]: I ask you what would a man do for his daughter, anything. 06:55.025 --> 06:55.446 [SPEAKER_00]: Anything. 06:56.747 --> 07:00.352 [SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet ﷺ and his leader for his daughters is Japan a lot. 07:01.353 --> 07:07.942 [SPEAKER_00]: So Abu Bakr, like any one of us in the room, he's thinking like us in this moment. 07:07.962 --> 07:20.758 [SPEAKER_00]: He goes, the man that I pay is rent, the man that I give money for food, I pay his college tuition, he does this to me, stipend his clothes, no more money from me. 07:21.346 --> 07:22.530 [SPEAKER_00]: Like any one of us would do. 07:24.277 --> 07:26.284 [SPEAKER_00]: But Allah is teaching us something so clutch. 07:28.070 --> 07:32.908 [SPEAKER_00]: In every relationship, it's not about you and the person, it's about you and Allah. 07:34.120 --> 07:40.686 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not about you and your mom not being there for you or your father being absentee when he was raising you. 07:41.446 --> 07:49.393 [SPEAKER_00]: What you do for him or what you do for her is not about that horizontal relationship, it's about a vertical one. 07:50.094 --> 08:03.165 [SPEAKER_00]: So a verse is revealed, where Allah addresses Abu Bakr and He says, 08:03.365 --> 08:16.291 [SPEAKER_00]: Let not those people of bounty and wealth, let them not take in oath that they won't spend on the poor immigrants, people and family members. 08:16.311 --> 08:25.609 [SPEAKER_00]: It is explicitly speaking to Abu Bakr and it is explicitly mentioning Mr. Allah is telling him you shouldn't be doing this. 08:25.859 --> 08:27.661 [SPEAKER_00]: This isn't your level. 08:28.602 --> 08:35.931 [SPEAKER_00]: And then the verse goes forward because this is something that will help each and every one of us in such critical relationship moments. 08:36.792 --> 08:41.578 [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of Hanoat Aides says, well, yeah, fool, bro, you gotta forgive. 08:41.638 --> 08:51.310 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, yeah, but yeah, but he just, he just backed bit my daughter in the community on what's that? 08:53.973 --> 09:00.040 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but I was paying his rent, who were you paying it for him or a law? 09:02.063 --> 09:04.085 [SPEAKER_00]: Who was the action for in the first place? 09:05.447 --> 09:06.808 [SPEAKER_00]: So you know what Allah says next? 09:07.669 --> 09:08.871 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, well, you got food. 09:10.032 --> 09:11.213 [SPEAKER_00]: No, forgive. 09:12.074 --> 09:13.276 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, yes, for who? 09:14.197 --> 09:14.878 [SPEAKER_00]: Overlook. 09:16.540 --> 09:19.804 [SPEAKER_00]: Overlook and look at the crime committed against him. 09:20.144 --> 09:23.608 [SPEAKER_00]: He's being told to forgive, but look what Allah says next. 09:24.213 --> 09:26.415 [SPEAKER_00]: Awesome was saying, but she hit me, she hit me. 09:26.876 --> 09:29.698 [SPEAKER_00]: I said, son, look here, son, look here. 09:30.579 --> 09:31.980 [SPEAKER_00]: It ain't about her, it's about me. 09:33.021 --> 09:33.602 [SPEAKER_00]: You love me? 09:34.743 --> 09:35.604 [SPEAKER_00]: You respect Baba? 09:36.525 --> 09:37.186 [SPEAKER_00]: You love Dad? 09:39.388 --> 09:39.748 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, yeah. 09:39.768 --> 09:40.529 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, what did I say? 09:41.570 --> 09:42.330 [SPEAKER_00]: You said, don't hit her. 09:42.731 --> 09:44.152 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. 09:44.172 --> 09:46.234 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, listen to the words of Allah. 09:46.535 --> 09:51.199 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, I lie to Hibbuna, I help with Allah who look home. 09:51.668 --> 09:54.196 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you not want a lot of forgive you? 09:54.297 --> 09:58.069 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at the scenario, Allah says forgive, forgive, over look. 09:58.471 --> 09:59.594 [SPEAKER_00]: Ya Allah, why should I? 09:59.835 --> 10:02.042 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, look at me, do you not want me to forgive you? 10:03.367 --> 10:04.952 [SPEAKER_00]: You know when the verse was revealed? 10:05.523 --> 10:08.906 [SPEAKER_00]: Abu Bakr heard the verse, the moment he heard the question. 10:08.926 --> 10:09.707 [SPEAKER_00]: This is a question. 10:10.147 --> 10:11.669 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you not want a lot to forgive you? 10:11.909 --> 10:14.051 [SPEAKER_00]: The moment he heard the question, do you know what he said? 10:14.311 --> 10:16.193 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, bala y'allabbi. 10:16.213 --> 10:18.035 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, yes, Allah, I want your forgiveness. 10:18.816 --> 10:20.257 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, Allah, I want your forgiveness. 10:20.277 --> 10:21.238 [SPEAKER_00]: See, it's vertical now. 10:22.059 --> 10:25.622 [SPEAKER_00]: And so what does that impact the horizontal relationship? 10:25.642 --> 10:27.123 [SPEAKER_00]: You know how it impacts it? 10:27.143 --> 10:28.565 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, can someone call Mr? 10:29.406 --> 10:30.266 [SPEAKER_00]: Can someone call him? 10:31.087 --> 10:31.648 [SPEAKER_00]: Mr. comes. 10:31.828 --> 10:32.509 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, Mr. 10:32.729 --> 10:35.091 [SPEAKER_00]: I want it to let you know. 10:36.860 --> 10:44.128 [SPEAKER_00]: I've doubled, you're stipend, I'm doubling it now. 10:44.148 --> 10:44.469 [SPEAKER_00]: Why? 10:45.770 --> 10:50.756 [SPEAKER_00]: Because in that moment, Abu Bakrati Allahu Tata'an may Allah be pleased with him. 10:52.158 --> 10:56.483 [SPEAKER_00]: He learned something, and through his proxy, we learned it today, 1400 years later. 10:58.125 --> 10:59.566 [SPEAKER_00]: It blaced it and understand. 11:00.487 --> 11:02.229 [SPEAKER_00]: It wasn't about you and Adam. 11:02.970 --> 11:04.572 [SPEAKER_00]: It was about you and me. 11:05.750 --> 11:07.813 [SPEAKER_00]: It had nothing to do with you and your dad. 11:08.593 --> 11:09.755 [SPEAKER_00]: It's about you and Allah. 11:11.357 --> 11:13.560 [SPEAKER_00]: Sister is nothing to do with you and your husband. 11:14.501 --> 11:16.583 [SPEAKER_00]: It's with you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. 11:18.586 --> 11:23.392 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala in this story has reminded us. 11:24.653 --> 11:32.803 [SPEAKER_00]: But this is exemplified in the life of Rasulullah because sometimes the people around you will want you to do something. 11:34.100 --> 11:35.521 [SPEAKER_00]: But for the sake of Allah, you can't. 11:37.203 --> 11:40.066 [SPEAKER_00]: I take you back to the moment in the Siddha. 11:40.086 --> 11:42.989 [SPEAKER_00]: Where Rasulullah, it has just started spreading this message. 11:43.870 --> 11:45.432 [SPEAKER_00]: He's knocking on every door. 11:45.692 --> 11:46.873 [SPEAKER_00]: He's spreading the message. 11:47.073 --> 11:48.595 [SPEAKER_00]: He's soapbox preaching. 11:48.635 --> 11:51.718 [SPEAKER_00]: If you know what that means, he's giving this message to everyone. 11:52.599 --> 11:55.241 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's causing a havoc in the community. 11:56.222 --> 11:57.464 [SPEAKER_00]: It's causing a disturbance. 11:58.525 --> 12:00.026 [SPEAKER_00]: He's making fun of the idols. 12:00.086 --> 12:02.689 [SPEAKER_00]: And he's calling people to this new religion. 12:04.053 --> 12:05.394 [SPEAKER_00]: So his uncle comes to him. 12:05.435 --> 12:07.116 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to look at this moment closely. 12:08.017 --> 12:19.951 [SPEAKER_00]: His uncle who loved him so much, loved him so much, protected him in every instance, had his back when nobody had his back. 12:19.971 --> 12:23.755 [SPEAKER_00]: His uncle comes to him and he says, nephew, sit down. 12:23.815 --> 12:24.556 [SPEAKER_00]: I need to talk to you. 12:26.558 --> 12:28.060 [SPEAKER_00]: Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallallam. 12:28.100 --> 12:28.781 [SPEAKER_00]: He comes over. 12:28.821 --> 12:32.845 [SPEAKER_00]: He sits down and it's a heart to heart moment. 12:34.057 --> 12:36.019 [SPEAKER_00]: hard to heart moment. 12:36.039 --> 12:39.664 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, nephew, you know how much I love you. 12:39.684 --> 12:40.785 [SPEAKER_00]: You know I'm always here for you. 12:41.586 --> 12:43.068 [SPEAKER_00]: You know I'll always be here for you. 12:44.169 --> 12:44.930 [SPEAKER_00]: Horizontal, right? 12:45.711 --> 12:46.632 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm always here for you. 12:48.194 --> 12:49.235 [SPEAKER_00]: But I need you to do something. 12:50.316 --> 12:51.738 [SPEAKER_00]: I need you to stop this message. 12:52.759 --> 12:55.002 [SPEAKER_00]: I need you to stop preaching this message. 12:56.129 --> 13:09.811 [SPEAKER_00]: I need you to just go back to the old ways, where everybody loved you, where everybody loved me, where we had no drama, please, for my sake, for Azanto, for my sake, please stop this message. 13:11.614 --> 13:12.435 [SPEAKER_00]: And here's the test. 13:13.698 --> 13:14.940 [SPEAKER_00]: Talk to us by the beloved. 13:16.081 --> 13:17.684 [SPEAKER_00]: He looks his uncle in the eyes. 13:19.046 --> 13:23.233 [SPEAKER_00]: And with tears in his own eyes, that's the beautiful part. 13:23.888 --> 13:30.477 [SPEAKER_00]: With tears in his own eyes, he says the most profound statement that we've heard since Sunday school. 13:31.379 --> 13:38.829 [SPEAKER_00]: He says uncle, if you ask me anything, anything, I'll do it for you. 13:39.731 --> 13:42.154 [SPEAKER_00]: If you ask me anything, I would do it for you. 13:43.616 --> 13:46.180 [SPEAKER_00]: But regarding what you're asking me now, he's looking vertical. 13:47.001 --> 13:51.027 [SPEAKER_00]: Aloha Akiba, he's looking vertical now. 13:52.087 --> 14:01.661 [SPEAKER_00]: If you took the sun and put it in my right hand and the moon and put it in my left hand, or Allah, He, or Allah, He, uncle, I'm never stopping this message. 14:01.681 --> 14:07.570 [SPEAKER_00]: And He gets up tears rolling down His eyes because I would love to do whatever you want me to do. 14:07.851 --> 14:11.076 [SPEAKER_00]: But now, I'm triangulating. 14:11.116 --> 14:12.037 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm looking up now. 14:14.260 --> 14:18.547 [SPEAKER_00]: Rasulullah sallaihi wa sallam is telling us I'll do anything for you. 14:19.428 --> 14:21.351 [SPEAKER_00]: But I won't risk my relationship. 14:22.765 --> 14:24.207 [SPEAKER_00]: Exact opposite of Iblice. 14:25.808 --> 14:28.952 [SPEAKER_00]: Iblice just do one says that, but look at him. 14:30.293 --> 14:32.756 [SPEAKER_00]: It's about me, no, but look at him, I can't do it. 14:33.677 --> 14:34.899 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at him, I can't do it. 14:36.921 --> 14:38.643 [SPEAKER_00]: My dad, I wanna bring this home. 14:39.624 --> 14:46.832 [SPEAKER_00]: How many of us struggle in our families with family issues and drama. 14:48.196 --> 14:51.400 [SPEAKER_00]: how many of us are just looking horizontally and not looking vertically. 14:51.660 --> 14:55.004 [SPEAKER_00]: I used to contemplate and think, when you go to a niqah, right? 14:55.024 --> 15:09.482 [SPEAKER_00]: You come to a niqah and shake up the nasser as conducting a niqah, mashallah, and he reads, quote the Bataul Hajjah, there are three verses recited at every niqah, almost every single marriage and every single one of them has the frame of reference of Taqwa. 15:10.543 --> 15:11.024 [SPEAKER_00]: Taqwa. 15:11.885 --> 15:15.469 [SPEAKER_00]: And I used to wonder, well, you're about to get married, why isn't Taqwa? 15:16.158 --> 15:17.659 [SPEAKER_00]: Shouldn't it be the Muad-Dahaya? 15:18.580 --> 15:20.662 [SPEAKER_00]: Al-Jalabana Kumawad-Dahonwarahama? 15:21.303 --> 15:23.284 [SPEAKER_00]: Shouldn't that be the verse for a marriage? 15:24.085 --> 15:28.209 [SPEAKER_00]: Shouldn't it be the verse about the spouse being a place of tranquility? 15:29.430 --> 15:29.710 [SPEAKER_00]: Uh-uh. 15:30.851 --> 15:33.173 [SPEAKER_00]: Because in that moment, Rasulullah taught us something. 15:34.114 --> 15:36.336 [SPEAKER_00]: And he reiterated it at Hajjatul-Wi-Dah. 15:36.937 --> 15:45.304 [SPEAKER_00]: That the foundation for you to be a righteous husband, the foundation for you to be a righteous son, the foundation for you to be a righteous father. 15:46.010 --> 15:47.893 [SPEAKER_00]: It's for you to always be God conscious. 15:48.073 --> 15:49.836 [SPEAKER_00]: You're always looking at the vertical relationship. 15:51.278 --> 15:54.322 [SPEAKER_00]: That is the message that we learned through Abu Bakr in this moment. 15:54.823 --> 16:10.566 [SPEAKER_00]: And so Rasulullah Sayyidina, when he set this sunnah for the next 1400 years, he says, I want everyone conducting a marriage to remind the two people in that marriage that the foundation of this horizontal relationship is based on their vertical consciousness of God. 16:12.419 --> 16:14.281 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I want you to self-analyze now. 16:15.082 --> 16:17.104 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to self-assess the relationships. 16:18.405 --> 16:22.889 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to assess the relationship between you and your boss, Roger. 16:23.430 --> 16:23.970 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, Roger. 16:25.592 --> 16:26.813 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah, you got a Roger at work? 16:29.736 --> 16:31.558 [SPEAKER_00]: I always say Becky and people made fun of me. 16:31.578 --> 16:33.340 [SPEAKER_00]: So I said, I want you to use Becky's name no more. 16:34.701 --> 16:40.907 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to take this to your relationship with a coworker you have, who's always hating on you. 16:42.288 --> 16:51.117 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want to ask you now, if you stopped focusing on the horizontal relationship and focused on the vertical relationship, what would you do for Roger? 16:53.420 --> 16:55.041 [SPEAKER_00]: You might bring him some semosas tomorrow. 16:57.324 --> 16:59.066 [SPEAKER_00]: My bring on some Briani tomorrow. 17:01.168 --> 17:03.250 [SPEAKER_00]: Roger gave you no reason to like him. 17:05.372 --> 17:07.975 [SPEAKER_00]: Roger gave you no reason to be good to him. 17:09.473 --> 17:13.378 [SPEAKER_00]: The same way, Mr. Radi Allahuan, the same way, Mr. 17:13.698 --> 17:15.881 [SPEAKER_00]: Gave no reason to Abu Bakr to like him. 17:18.324 --> 17:23.250 [SPEAKER_00]: But how do we become almost superhuman? 17:24.752 --> 17:36.426 [SPEAKER_00]: Superhuman, one of our teachers they explained that there's volume, which is oppression, Adal, which is fair, and Esan. 17:37.807 --> 17:43.235 [SPEAKER_00]: Lulim is to oppress someone, to treat them ill. A Muslim is far away from that. 17:43.835 --> 17:45.858 [SPEAKER_00]: We try every moment to be far away from oppression. 17:46.699 --> 17:47.921 [SPEAKER_00]: I, that is to be fair. 17:48.943 --> 17:51.005 [SPEAKER_00]: Roger sends you a salty email. 17:51.046 --> 17:52.468 [SPEAKER_00]: You send a salty email back. 17:53.749 --> 17:54.991 [SPEAKER_00]: That's odd then. 17:55.011 --> 17:58.496 [SPEAKER_00]: The Islam that we have is beautiful because it allows others to. 17:59.477 --> 18:02.802 [SPEAKER_00]: It allows others because sometimes Roger needs to be saturated. 18:04.570 --> 18:08.219 [SPEAKER_00]: But there's a higher level that every Muslim strives for. 18:08.720 --> 18:09.883 [SPEAKER_00]: It's called Ahsan. 18:10.645 --> 18:14.254 [SPEAKER_00]: And the meaning of Ahsan is goodness to those who wrong you. 18:15.117 --> 18:17.422 [SPEAKER_00]: But I ask you, I've heard this clip of a foreshake. 18:17.463 --> 18:19.367 [SPEAKER_00]: I've heard beefy good to those who wrong you. 18:19.387 --> 18:21.212 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to teach you how. 18:21.547 --> 18:23.310 [SPEAKER_00]: Where's the motivation come for that? 18:24.052 --> 18:29.763 [SPEAKER_00]: The motivation came in this verse where Allah said, the motivation came when I looked at cost, cost him. 18:30.003 --> 18:31.506 [SPEAKER_00]: And I said, don't look at Karima. 18:31.707 --> 18:32.849 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at me, Habibi. 18:33.290 --> 18:33.891 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at me. 18:33.931 --> 18:35.374 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you love me? 18:35.394 --> 18:36.937 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you respect me? 18:36.997 --> 18:38.480 [SPEAKER_00]: He goes, yes, I do. 18:38.540 --> 18:43.369 [SPEAKER_00]: In this verse, Allah said to Abu Bakr, don't look at Mr. Don't look at him. 18:43.349 --> 18:43.889 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at me. 18:44.230 --> 18:45.291 [SPEAKER_00]: I lie to him. 18:45.311 --> 18:46.192 [SPEAKER_00]: I lie to him. 18:46.212 --> 18:46.612 [SPEAKER_00]: I lie to him. 18:46.952 --> 18:49.374 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you want me to forgive you right away? 18:49.655 --> 18:53.138 [SPEAKER_00]: Abu Bakr said, Bela, yes, I want you to forgive me. 18:53.158 --> 18:54.719 [SPEAKER_00]: How do you do, eh, son? 18:55.620 --> 19:00.464 [SPEAKER_00]: In every relationship, you have a father that was absent your whole life, bro. 19:02.046 --> 19:06.009 [SPEAKER_00]: You have a, he was present, but you know emotionally, you know, I'm talking about. 19:06.029 --> 19:12.495 [SPEAKER_00]: You have a sibling that's been hating on you and jealous of you since you are. 19:13.133 --> 19:20.821 [SPEAKER_00]: You've been struggling with these family relationships for so long, and you've been told, be good to those who wrong you, be good to those who wrong you. 19:21.221 --> 19:22.543 [SPEAKER_00]: Where's the motivation come? 19:23.383 --> 19:25.626 [SPEAKER_00]: The motivation comes from a vertical triangulation. 19:26.647 --> 19:28.288 [SPEAKER_00]: Keep your eyes focused on the prize. 19:29.750 --> 19:31.191 [SPEAKER_00]: Keep your eyes focused on the prize. 19:31.231 --> 19:36.056 [SPEAKER_00]: And when we're able to do that, we're able to please a less of Hannover to Adam. 19:37.898 --> 19:40.761 [SPEAKER_00]: Imam Ahmah had been humbled, Rahimah Allah. 19:41.973 --> 19:51.588 [SPEAKER_00]: He's of one of the four great imams of thick and jurisprudence, but he went through a great, great trial, a great trial, because he was holding on to certain beliefs. 19:52.830 --> 19:57.977 [SPEAKER_00]: And he was lashed, public lashing, extremely painful and humiliating. 19:59.420 --> 20:05.749 [SPEAKER_00]: After it was over, they asked him, so how do you feel about what, what, what, what, tell some, what, tell some was the Khalifa at the time? 20:05.769 --> 20:07.592 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, how do you feel about him? 20:07.876 --> 20:15.999 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, oh, every time I got hit, by the time the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the person, jellat by the time he lifted his hand, I forgave him. 20:17.303 --> 20:21.615 [SPEAKER_00]: He would hit me by the time he was lifting his hand again, I was forgiving him. 20:21.983 --> 20:23.485 [SPEAKER_00]: They said, well, that doesn't make sense. 20:23.525 --> 20:24.206 [SPEAKER_00]: What type of human? 20:24.446 --> 20:25.668 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, how are you rational? 20:25.768 --> 20:26.970 [SPEAKER_00]: What's going on in your brain? 20:27.290 --> 20:29.633 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, oh, I was thinking about the day of judgment. 20:30.034 --> 20:32.176 [SPEAKER_00]: Mortism is a descendant of the prophet. 20:32.417 --> 20:42.810 [SPEAKER_00]: And I said to myself, what would it look like in front of the prophet, if it's announced on the day of judgment, that Imam Ahmed bin Humble did not forgive a family member of Rasulullah al-Assalam. 20:42.830 --> 20:50.320 [SPEAKER_00]: So by the time he lifted up the whip to hit me again, I had already forgiven him for the previous whip. 20:50.553 --> 20:54.278 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a vertical look, it's a vertical look. 20:54.298 --> 21:01.088 [SPEAKER_00]: He's looking at Ahira, and that look at Ahira is making him interact in such a beautiful way horizontally. 21:02.350 --> 21:13.787 [SPEAKER_00]: And so when we talk about character development and we talk about overcoming and being good to people, it won't happen as efficiently as it will happen with what we have in our dean. 21:15.129 --> 21:18.113 [SPEAKER_00]: And the dean keeps you focused on what God wants from you. 21:18.953 --> 21:39.503 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I began with the Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Where the Rasulullah alayhi wa sallam he said, Mellayyar, he said, He said, have a heart that is forgiving to the people on earth, Look at the indignity of Hadith. 21:40.244 --> 21:41.145 [SPEAKER_00]: That's horizontal, right? 21:41.646 --> 21:44.009 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at the indignity of Hadith. 21:44.951 --> 21:47.374 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the one in the heavens will have mercy upon you. 21:47.810 --> 21:49.351 [SPEAKER_00]: Why did you bring Roger Samosas? 21:49.832 --> 21:52.274 [SPEAKER_00]: I really, Roger, this is about me and a lion. 21:53.595 --> 21:54.857 [SPEAKER_00]: Roger, this is about me and a lion. 21:54.877 --> 21:59.121 [SPEAKER_00]: If you really wanna know, y'all, I've been so mean to you, I've been so ill to you, but you've been so kind to me, why? 22:00.622 --> 22:02.464 [SPEAKER_00]: Trying to be like my prophet. 22:02.484 --> 22:05.347 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to keep my eyes focused on what would please a less of Hanway to Ad. 22:06.668 --> 22:08.129 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, there's another side to this coin. 22:09.711 --> 22:17.378 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we could be hyper focused on our Ibadah, worship, and forget what God truly wants from us. 22:18.168 --> 22:18.849 [SPEAKER_00]: Listen closely. 22:18.889 --> 22:20.270 [SPEAKER_00]: This is the other side of the coin. 22:22.293 --> 22:48.141 [SPEAKER_00]: But Rasūdu Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llāhi Llā 22:48.948 --> 22:53.353 [SPEAKER_00]: So someone comes in the mustard, he says, you're even a bass, Abdullah, I need to talk to you. 22:54.194 --> 22:54.975 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll talk, what's up? 22:55.556 --> 22:57.799 [SPEAKER_00]: He goes, I'm having this issue at home, I'm having this. 22:58.239 --> 23:01.003 [SPEAKER_00]: My dad, can you come and talk to my dad for me? 23:02.444 --> 23:04.327 [SPEAKER_00]: Even our bass, he goes, yeah, sure, let's go. 23:05.388 --> 23:10.534 [SPEAKER_00]: So even our bass begins to walk with this man out of the mustard. 23:11.307 --> 23:12.692 [SPEAKER_00]: Walk me out of the moustache. 23:13.756 --> 23:16.186 [SPEAKER_00]: Right when they get to the door of the moustache, the man stops. 23:16.788 --> 23:17.571 [SPEAKER_00]: He has an epiphany. 23:17.973 --> 23:19.057 [SPEAKER_00]: He goes, wait, wait, I'm Dulla. 23:19.820 --> 23:21.486 [SPEAKER_00]: Aren't you an anticath? 23:22.023 --> 23:25.048 [SPEAKER_00]: I actually, I know I asked you, but I forgot you're in the attic. 23:25.288 --> 23:30.537 [SPEAKER_00]: You're about to walk out of the moustache, meaning you're engaged in this ebada, this worship right now. 23:31.198 --> 23:33.682 [SPEAKER_00]: You're engaged in this worship vertical, right? 23:34.123 --> 23:37.268 [SPEAKER_00]: You're engaged in this worship, and I'm bringing you horizontal. 23:37.348 --> 23:38.530 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm bringing you to come help me. 23:39.372 --> 23:41.355 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't you realize you're about to step out of the moustache? 23:41.976 --> 23:42.837 [SPEAKER_00]: He goes, hold on, hold on. 23:43.759 --> 23:44.520 [SPEAKER_00]: He goes. 23:44.618 --> 23:50.146 [SPEAKER_00]: And he points to the grave of the prophet, Salah ala ala ala. Because he wants us to know where he got it from. 23:50.566 --> 24:05.007 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, I heard my friend who's buried right there in the grave, saying, the one who walks with their brother to help them in their necessity, Allah will give him the reward of a hundred air at the calves. 24:06.289 --> 24:07.150 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's go, bro. 24:09.273 --> 24:11.457 [SPEAKER_00]: the horizontal relationship. 24:12.019 --> 24:14.483 [SPEAKER_00]: He left what would look like vertical to me and you. 24:15.145 --> 24:18.131 [SPEAKER_00]: To me and you, you're any bad to how dare you disturb my bad. 24:19.914 --> 24:22.780 [SPEAKER_00]: Babas in his low, you know, got his test B. 24:24.443 --> 24:26.708 [SPEAKER_00]: You walk over, you're like, yo, dad, he's like, don't you see today? 24:32.003 --> 24:38.329 [SPEAKER_00]: O Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa salam was in prayer one time, leading the Fart Salat, leading the Fart Salat. 24:38.349 --> 24:43.313 [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to understand how a good relationship with Allah should not break you from the horizontal. 24:43.593 --> 24:45.535 [SPEAKER_00]: Rasulullah salam was leading the Salat. 24:46.216 --> 24:48.678 [SPEAKER_00]: The Salat got long, Sahaba after their prayer. 24:48.858 --> 24:50.359 [SPEAKER_00]: They said, Ya Rasulullah, what happened? 24:50.379 --> 24:51.601 [SPEAKER_00]: That was a long, Sagida. 24:52.421 --> 24:53.702 [SPEAKER_00]: Ya Rasulullah, what happened? 24:53.722 --> 24:54.944 [SPEAKER_00]: Did a new verse come down? 24:56.024 --> 24:57.045 [SPEAKER_00]: Did Gabriel come? 24:57.746 --> 24:59.968 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, no, my grandmothers on my back. 25:00.893 --> 25:02.315 [SPEAKER_00]: and I didn't want to pull him off. 25:03.437 --> 25:07.523 [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't want to make a negative correlation to prayer in his connection with me. 25:08.124 --> 25:13.252 [SPEAKER_00]: I waited till my grandson got off my back and then I came up from Sujuud. 25:14.995 --> 25:22.506 [SPEAKER_00]: Even a boss walked out of that must it because he understood that that good relationship was not going to break his ebada. 25:22.687 --> 25:25.952 [SPEAKER_00]: It was going to be the best form of ebada. 25:25.972 --> 25:28.656 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a story and I'll conclude when I time is up. 25:30.104 --> 25:31.947 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a story about a man named Jurej. 25:33.749 --> 25:35.592 [SPEAKER_00]: It's in Sahibu Khadi, it's in all the books of Hadith. 25:36.713 --> 25:40.859 [SPEAKER_00]: And Jurej, it's from Benny Islaaile, it's from the old nations. 25:42.041 --> 25:49.311 [SPEAKER_00]: And the prophet Alayh Serehta was said, I'm, he taught us this story for such a deep implication that I'm gonna, that relates to what we're talking about today. 25:50.388 --> 25:52.851 [SPEAKER_00]: Juraj had chosen a life of a monasticism. 25:53.372 --> 25:56.136 [SPEAKER_00]: He was a abid, a worshiper of God. 25:56.196 --> 26:03.667 [SPEAKER_00]: He was, you know, when those, you know, Mashallah, when the 18 year old guy kind of wakes up and he's on his dean now, you know what I mean? 26:03.687 --> 26:04.828 [SPEAKER_00]: Now you ain't seen it, okay, whatever. 26:05.750 --> 26:09.515 [SPEAKER_00]: He's like, and remember you were in college, freshman, you're like, go on hard, Mashallah. 26:10.116 --> 26:10.376 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? 26:11.157 --> 26:16.925 [SPEAKER_00]: So Juraj is at his, at his, like, sophomore year MSA type dude, right? 26:17.086 --> 26:18.167 [SPEAKER_00]: He's going hard. 26:19.075 --> 26:20.197 [SPEAKER_00]: And he starts praying. 26:20.818 --> 26:21.579 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah, how I can borrow. 26:22.580 --> 26:26.987 [SPEAKER_00]: And the Hadith says he's in his soul, he's in his room of prayer. 26:28.389 --> 26:29.430 [SPEAKER_00]: His mother walks over. 26:30.572 --> 26:32.395 [SPEAKER_00]: And she knows he's there in his room praying. 26:32.435 --> 26:33.636 [SPEAKER_00]: And she says, Yajuraj. 26:35.279 --> 26:36.000 [SPEAKER_00]: Yajuraj. 26:37.282 --> 26:43.351 [SPEAKER_00]: And Rasulullah Sallam, he says that Yuraj says in his mind, he says, umi wasalati. 26:44.773 --> 26:46.315 [SPEAKER_00]: Umi, my mom. 26:48.792 --> 26:54.340 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm on, but my prayer, he can tell you's the prayer. 26:55.662 --> 26:57.565 [SPEAKER_00]: He ignores his mother. 26:57.585 --> 27:05.416 [SPEAKER_00]: The narration says that around the same time the next day, Jurej, MSA sophomore, going. 27:06.798 --> 27:08.380 [SPEAKER_00]: He starts his prayer, Allahhu Akbar. 27:08.541 --> 27:11.825 [SPEAKER_00]: Ironically, mother comes same time, same time. 27:12.867 --> 27:16.352 [SPEAKER_00]: Jurej, Jurej, he's in his prayer. 27:17.277 --> 27:18.759 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is my connection with Allah. 27:19.380 --> 27:19.760 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm here. 27:22.043 --> 27:45.512 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, 27:45.745 --> 27:51.653 [SPEAKER_00]: And the scholars, they say that he had Vertical, but no understanding what God wanted from him in the moment. 27:53.115 --> 27:58.362 [SPEAKER_00]: When I've been a boss walked out of the moustache, he was in a bad, but he understood what God wanted from him. 27:58.803 --> 28:09.738 [SPEAKER_00]: When the prophet was praying Salah and his grandson was on his back, he was connected Vertical, but the Vertical connection never disconnected him from the horizontal and doing what Allah wanted from him in the moment. 28:09.758 --> 28:12.462 [SPEAKER_00]: My Qutba today is simple, brothers and sisters. 28:15.209 --> 28:17.913 [SPEAKER_00]: All of our relationships need to be based on this question. 28:19.055 --> 28:24.342 [SPEAKER_00]: What does Allah want from me in this relationship right now? 28:25.624 --> 28:26.686 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't look at the person. 28:27.487 --> 28:29.390 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at your relationship with Allah. 28:29.410 --> 28:31.973 [SPEAKER_00]: Al-Qul-Kawari-Hada wa-Astaghfirullah al-Iwadakum. 28:31.993 --> 28:35.158 [SPEAKER_00]: Wa-Di-Sahir al-Nusimif-Astaghfirul in the Hul-Wadakfirullah.