[SPEAKER_00]: Here's the biggest thing, if you don't know who Allah is and if you live your life without knowing who Allah is then you find yourself running to the creation for the thing that only the Creator could give you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You find yourself running to people, looking for gratitude, looking for true love, like love that doesn't care about how you aged over time, you know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: Love that doesn't care about how much money you make.
[SPEAKER_00]: Love that doesn't care what grades you got, like pops sometimes, you know, you only love me when I get good grades, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, love that is because you are his creation, that's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So what happens is if we don't know who Allah is, we find ourselves running to the creation, to fulfill that void.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the reality is that void can only be filled by Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'ada.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's why we're all here tonight to learn another name of Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'ada.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now tonight in Shahla,
[SPEAKER_00]: As we studied before, there are names of Allah, some of the names of Allah, our names of Allah, that we ourselves can embody that name.
[SPEAKER_00]: Meaning Allah, Subhanahu Wa Tata, told us about that name, so that we can know who he is, but also here's the other caveat, so that you can become that name too.
[SPEAKER_00]: So for example, one of the names of Allah is Ashakura.
[SPEAKER_00]: the one who appreciates whatever you do, whatever little bit you do, a lot appreciates it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But we also know that the Prophet has taught us that we as believers should become grateful people too.
[SPEAKER_00]: If someone gives me something, like my man, Marshall, I gave me this nice, it's a, you have to show gratitude for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And, in fact, the Prophet ﷺ taught us, Mellam Yaşkara Nas, La M Yaşkara La, that the one who doesn't show gratitude to people hasn't shown gratitude to Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, this name of Shukur, not only tells us that Allah is the only one that will truly truly appreciate what I do, the things that nobody sees that I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: The way that I help my mother, I help my father, help my sister, the way that I help my children.
[SPEAKER_00]: When nobody sees me running to the store to get medicine, nobody sees that, but Ashakura is the one that sees that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you see in this one name that if you don't know who he is, your whole life, you'll be searching for people to appreciate you when reality Allah was like, I'm here.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm here.
[SPEAKER_00]: I appreciate all that you do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now that's just one name of Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that particular name of Allah taught us something about who we need to become.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now here tonight we do a different name.
[SPEAKER_00]: Tonight we do a name of Allah that not only teaches you what to become, but it also tells you where your limits are and what not to become.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because there are some names of Allah that only be fit him.
[SPEAKER_00]: They only be fit him.
[SPEAKER_00]: So your only share in that name is to not be that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because it doesn't be fit you as a servant.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not the king.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not the one in charge of everything.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me give an example.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're not doing this name tonight.
[SPEAKER_00]: But let me give an example.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the examples is the name Elmata Kabir, or Elmata Ali, the most high.
[SPEAKER_00]: The most high is the name exclusively for God.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you took this name, it's like, oh, Allah's multi-ali, let me become that, I gotta become above everyone.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now you've misunderstood.
[SPEAKER_00]: So some of the names of Allah teach us about ourselves and what not to become.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because now you're becoming, let me give an example.
[SPEAKER_00]: Throughout the Quran, we have the example of Pharaoh.
[SPEAKER_00]: Pharaoh is an archetype of what not to become.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the things that he says when he's debating what Moses is, and Arabukumul Aala, like I'm the most high.
[SPEAKER_00]: See, he took this quality that only was reserved to God and he applied it to himself.
[SPEAKER_00]: And as we'll see tonight, the name we're doing tonight is actually a name that he himself, Pharaoh himself also tried to bring that upon himself as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the premise that I wanted to start with tonight is that this name of Allah that will do is called the name of Allah Al-Manan.
[SPEAKER_00]: Al-Manan is the name of Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this name Al-Manan is one of the names that talks about God's blessings upon us.
[SPEAKER_00]: God's blessings upon us.
[SPEAKER_00]: But all of the names that talk about how Allah blesses us give us a little different aspect of that blessing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me give an example.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the names that we did was al-Khariim.
[SPEAKER_00]: Khariim is the one that gives.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you may say, wait, like Allah gives Khariim, Allah is Manan, He gives.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, there's a difference between the two.
[SPEAKER_00]: Manan, listen closely.
[SPEAKER_00]: Al-Lama Khadabi, He says, that Al-Manan, Al-Athua, Limanla, testethi-buhu.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says that manan is the one that gives abundantly, but doesn't seek any recompense for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, like, a lot doesn't want anything back for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't want anything back from you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Karim is a name of Allah that also talks about giving, but Karim means the one who gives to those who don't deserve.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't even deserve it, but Allah gives.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Manana is different.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's the name we're talking about tonight.
[SPEAKER_00]: But my point is that it may seem redundant.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like Sheikh, we did another name, Wahhab, and Razak, all of these names seem to indicate that God gives us something.
[SPEAKER_00]: So is this redundancy?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, it's not redundancy.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's allowing you to see how he gives
[SPEAKER_00]: and appreciate his giving from a different perspective.
[SPEAKER_00]: So one of the ways to understand Al-Manan is the one who gives, but doesn't want anything back.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to stop right there, full stop.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's three more ways to understand that two more ways, but I want to stop here.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes people think, because as Muslims, we do a lot of Ibadah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, we do a lot of worship.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like, we just came out a Ramadan.
[SPEAKER_00]: Ramadan is like, piyam, standing in prayer at night, fasting, five prayers a day, like, we do a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: And unfortunately sometimes it was taught to us as if it's a transactional relationship with God.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like in order for me to be right with God, I gotta do this.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if I do this God gives me that, but Subhan Allah, this name reminds us,
[SPEAKER_00]: that our Ebadah is not a transaction with a lust of Hanoatahada.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your Ebadah, your worship is all about expressing your love for God, that's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your Ebadah doesn't gain you anything except showing God, I love you, showing a lot, I love you more than everything.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's the reality, let, I gave an example, many, many Holocaust ago that I'm gonna share with you guys.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's this chick.
[SPEAKER_00]: He told this amazing story one time, just to explain how your worship isn't buying anything from Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: This isn't transactional.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, there was this boy who went to school, young boy, four years old, five years old.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he comes back from school and he goes to his dad and he says, Dad, I learned how to count today.
[SPEAKER_00]: I learned how to count.
[SPEAKER_00]: I
[SPEAKER_00]: So the father was like, all right, go ahead.
[SPEAKER_00]: Count.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said one, two, three, four, five.
[SPEAKER_00]: He counts up to 10.
[SPEAKER_00]: The dad was happy.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's my boy, my shot a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he takes the boy to the candy store.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then he goes to the clerk at the store.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, my son's going to count whatever number he counts to give him that much candy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Give him that much candy.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the boy goes to the clerk, and he goes 1, 2, 3, 4, counts up to 10.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the clerk to Amu, he goes here, gives him 10 candies.
[SPEAKER_00]: They go home, his mother's mad, but anyways, but they go home, you know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: Goes home, and that's that.
[SPEAKER_00]: The next day, on his way from school, the kid is like, yo, I got the system down.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he doesn't go home first.
[SPEAKER_00]: He goes straight to the candy store.
[SPEAKER_00]: What does he do?
[SPEAKER_00]: One, he stands in front of the clerk.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm one, two, three, four, five, counts up to 10.
[SPEAKER_00]: The clerk goes, Mashallah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Mashallah, ah, sense.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he thinks maybe, you know, the clerk can't go one, two, counts again.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's going on?
[SPEAKER_00]: It worked yesterday, it didn't work today.
[SPEAKER_00]: The clerk goes, oh, for him, I get it.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, you think that your counting got you candy.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, nah, your counting didn't get you candy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your counting, please, your dad.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your dad gave you candy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you get the analogy?
[SPEAKER_00]: All your e-bada, all of your prayers, all of your fasting,
[SPEAKER_00]: One, two, three.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not getting you that candy, that janna, that, that's not it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what does the counting do?
[SPEAKER_00]: The way it pleased that you're about to please it's gone.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Alas says, raid ma noun, let me give you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me bless upon you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this comes even more.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is so important because we get so caught up on, we get so caught up on the fact,
[SPEAKER_00]: of this transactional relationship.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, no, your e-bad is not buying you jennah.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's all about your heart and it's connection with God.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'll give you one Hadith before I go forward here.
[SPEAKER_00]: The Hadith is so profound because the prophet he's in blessings be upon him.
[SPEAKER_00]: One day he said, nobody enters into heaven by their actions.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody enters into heaven by their actions.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then the Sahaba, they said, well, I anti-yar Rasulullah, what about you?
[SPEAKER_00]: What about you, yar Rasulullah?
[SPEAKER_00]: So the Allah wa'aay wa sallam.
[SPEAKER_00]: They said, what about you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like what they were thinking was, yeah, our actions don't gain as jannah, but maybe yours do.
[SPEAKER_00]: In the Prophet ﷺ said, no, wala anna, illa an-yat-rammad-in-yallah bir-rahma.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, my actions won't gain, gain, gain me jannah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I say that to encourage us that all of our ibadah is flawed.
[SPEAKER_00]: All of our worship is like, it's not perfect y'all, but it doesn't matter.
[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't matter.
[SPEAKER_00]: because it's like that painting or drawing, that a child does for their mother.
[SPEAKER_00]: That your son will give you a drawing and you don't even know what it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you sit in there acting like you know what it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, he's like, can you tell?
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, yeah, but why don't you just tell me?
[SPEAKER_00]: You tell me?
[SPEAKER_00]: But that mother, that father, takes that very same drawing, that in the sight of no one else is worth nothing, and they place it on the refrigerator, and they put it in a file and they keep it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because it wasn't the fact that you drew something amazing, it's the fact that you drew something, it did something, it gave it to them as a gift.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's all that truly matters.
[SPEAKER_00]: So my point here is the first name that we, the first thing we learn about menon is that menon is the one that gives, but doesn't expect anything back from forgiving.
[SPEAKER_00]: All he wants is your love, that's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not a transactional, I pray this minute or a call, I do this many things.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's about gaining God's love, that's who menon is.
[SPEAKER_00]: The next meaning, the next meaning of menon,
[SPEAKER_00]: is mentioned by Ibn Taymiah Rahimahullah to Alah.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, Al-manan al-Ladhiya Judu bin Nahu'ali Khabela Su'el Ya Rabbi.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, Manan is the one that blesses you before you even asked to be blessed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Before you even asked to be blessed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, think of your life and I want us to pause because
[SPEAKER_00]: So many times we gloss over how we're blessed.
[SPEAKER_00]: We just simply like, yeah, okay, cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: But let me start at the base.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have life, you have life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now don't get me wrong.
[SPEAKER_00]: The whole room, all of us is grinding, struggles, drama, fitna, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Not, not, y'all good, okay, cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, maybe it's just me, all right.
[SPEAKER_00]: All of us have difficulties, but right now you're living a life that other people around the world wish they were living.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're living someone's dream right now, like for real.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're living someone's dream right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the first thing I want you to start at is this deep like I'm living today.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm experiencing God's creation today.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I got family drama.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm emotionally unstable sometimes.
[SPEAKER_00]: That was funny, okay, I didn't mean to funny.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, yes, I have financial issues.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I haven't even figured out where my life is going.
[SPEAKER_00]: But Habibi, you have life, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, stop right there, full stop.
[SPEAKER_00]: And just say, at Hamdulillah, what's the do-ah?
[SPEAKER_00]: So Pan Allah, there's a do-ah.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a do-ah when you wake up.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's the do-ah when you wake up?
[SPEAKER_00]: Alhamdulillah, he ledhi, ahyana badama, amatena, wa ilahi nushur.
[SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet said, when you wake up, the first thing you say is all praise to Allah who gave me life.
[SPEAKER_00]: All praise to Allah who gave me life.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was with a shake in London, and he was talking about this.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what he said?
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, everything above a breath is a blessing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the first place I want to begin is he, this demeaning of menin is the one that gives you before you even ask.
[SPEAKER_00]: Before you even open your mouth and know what to ask for, Allah is blessing and bestowing upon you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sheikh, why is this important?
[SPEAKER_00]: You know why this is important?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because Sheikh Bon always reminds us of what we don't have.
[SPEAKER_00]: The devil always reminds us of what we don't have, what we don't have.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have this right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have that right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have this right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: What a lot does this, he reminds you what you do have.
[SPEAKER_00]: And here's the thing, when you are content with what you have, a lot of see spiritual maturity in you and gives you more.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna say that one more time.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you are content with what you do have,
[SPEAKER_00]: And you wake up and you say, and Hamdulillah, I'm breathing.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Hamdulillah, I have a house, y'all Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, the rent is crazy, but y'all, I got a house.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Hamdulillah, once you show maturity, then Allah says, ah, my servant is ready for more.
[SPEAKER_00]: My servant is ready for more.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if he gives you more, may Allah protect us from what I'm about to say.
[SPEAKER_00]: But he gives you more without contentment.
[SPEAKER_00]: How many people do we see that have everything miserable?
[SPEAKER_00]: If he gives you more without contentment, what is he giving you?
[SPEAKER_00]: What is he giving you?
[SPEAKER_00]: So the meaning of this is the one who gives before you even ask.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this brings me brothers and sisters to the third meaning of menin.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this one's gonna hit home literally.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man-Nan is not only the one that gives but the one that keeps reminding you that he's the one that gave you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a repeat that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man-Nan is not only the one that gives you and doesn't walk back, the one that gives you before you ask.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the word Man-Nan in the Quran is actually for the ones who remind of favors after they give them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now hold on shake, wait, wait, I don't like people that remind me of favors.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should, and I'm gonna talk about them all night tonight.
[SPEAKER_00]: But here's what you forget.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you like arrogant people?
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you like people that think they're above everyone else?
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what is one of the names of Allah?
[SPEAKER_00]: Al-Ali, the most high.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because that is what befits him.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the names of Allah, Al-Mutah Kabbib.
[SPEAKER_00]: In creation, what the cupboard is the one who thinks they're big.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what the cupboard for the Allah is the one who knows who he is.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like your arrogance because this misplaced.
[SPEAKER_00]: But arrogance is not it, you can't even use the word arrogant with Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just no, it's a reality.
[SPEAKER_00]: So now bring it to this name.
[SPEAKER_00]: Remember how I started tonight?
[SPEAKER_00]: I said, tonight we're gonna learn a name that part of it is something you can embody in yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: But part of this name is to teach you what not to become.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this brings me to an important and important lesson.
[SPEAKER_00]: There are a number of Ahadith that the prophets of the Ladi was sent them.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said,
[SPEAKER_00]: that this person will never enter into paradise, who is a man, a man, a man is the one who gives you, but keeps reminding you that they gave you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Keep reminding you that you gave you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, like imagine, you go to your boy, you're like, yo, I need a job.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, yo, I got connections with the boss, you know?
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, where?
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Put it in the app, I got you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You put the application in it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You get the gig.
[SPEAKER_00]: One day, you let your cubicle type in it with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I mean.
[SPEAKER_00]: And your boy Abdullah walks past.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yo, I ain't gonna say hate them cause they're gonna addicted to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm done, I gotta switch up, yo.
[SPEAKER_00]: I gotta switch up.
[SPEAKER_00]: Moas.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have the cubicle moas.
[SPEAKER_00]: You there?
[SPEAKER_00]: And your boy Abdullah walks past, hey, how's it going?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm good bro, thank you, just like a little kid.
[SPEAKER_00]: How you like the job?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's good, thank you, yeah, he leaves.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to keep your code next day, Tuesday.
[SPEAKER_00]: He walks past, hey, how you doing, what's?
[SPEAKER_00]: How you like the job, you like, bro?
[SPEAKER_00]: After a while, how do you feel?
[SPEAKER_00]: You feel like SubhanAllah?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you're gonna keep reminding me of what you've done for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the Prophet ﷺ he said, now this Hadith seems strong and I'm going to help us contextualize it in Shahlaq.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the Hadith said, the person that is Manan reminding of favors, you got your man a gig, but every time you walk past you're like, you're like, you like the job.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he's like, man, how many times this is going on?
[SPEAKER_00]: After a while, I don't even want to work there.
[SPEAKER_00]: After a while, I would rather you not have given it to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I was talking about some Randall person that gave you a job.
[SPEAKER_00]: What if it's your mother all the time saying, I did this for you?
[SPEAKER_00]: I told you I was gonna bring it home.
[SPEAKER_00]: What if it's your father saying, yo, you know how much I paid for your college?
[SPEAKER_00]: Over and over again.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know how much I paid for your college?
[SPEAKER_00]: And you're like yo.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, now, hold on.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why is this name?
[SPEAKER_00]: Why is becoming this quality so bad for us?
[SPEAKER_00]: Two reasons.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number one, you seem to have forgotten who gave you the ability to do that in the first place.
[SPEAKER_00]: Full pause right there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your boy who walks past and reminds you of the job he just got you.
[SPEAKER_00]: He forgot who gave him a job, you know?
[SPEAKER_00]: Your father who's reminding you how much of your tuition he paid seems to have forgotten he didn't always have that money.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your mother who's reminding you, shake, why are you going hard on the family because this is why.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is the place we remind favors the most.
[SPEAKER_00]: We rarely walk up to random people and remind the favors because it's like someone but you know.
[SPEAKER_00]: But how often does an argument get heated at home?
[SPEAKER_00]: And the moment it gets heated, all of us we start reminding each other what we did for one another.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did this for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: So why is this so bad?
[SPEAKER_00]: Number one reason.
[SPEAKER_00]: This person seems to have forgotten who the true man non is.
[SPEAKER_00]: The true man not, the true source is a law.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not you, not you, not I want to stop here.
[SPEAKER_00]: because some of us are the ones who's good.
[SPEAKER_00]: These are appreciated by our siblings, by our father, by whoever.
[SPEAKER_00]: So there's some people in the room right now, Loki sought to at me, but I got you.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a whole another lecture about being grateful to people for what they do.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a whole another talk where the prophet taught us if you can't show gratitude to people you haven't shown gratitude to God.
[SPEAKER_00]: But right now I'm talking about a whole another side of our spirituality.
[SPEAKER_00]: The spirituality I'm talking about is what happens to you when you give to people?
[SPEAKER_00]: What happens to you when you're the giver?
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, shake, but how much I help my sister all the time?
[SPEAKER_00]: And she never says thank you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's what I'm gonna ask you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I need you to ask yourself this question.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you gave your son that money for college, when you stayed up those nights for your children, when you gave Moaz a job, he's got a job, he's good, but I'm just saying.
[SPEAKER_00]: Who did you do it for?
[SPEAKER_00]: What did you do it for?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because there's a verse in sort of to death,
[SPEAKER_00]: in namanutreimo cum liwa jihillah la nuri du minkum jizaan wala shukura Allah describes the believers and he says that true believers they say in namanutreimo cum i fed you i took care of you liwa jihillah because i want reward for from Allah like i did all of this and i'm asking i'm thinking about myself right now
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm taking care of awesome.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm taking care of Karima.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm taking care of Maria.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm taking care of my wifey as much as I can.
[SPEAKER_00]: But am I taking care of them so that they can say, Dad, thank you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't get me wrong.
[SPEAKER_00]: It will be nice.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, this is heavy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because gratitude is nice when it comes.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the reality is, people are flawed.
[SPEAKER_00]: People forget, people move on.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you'll be left feeling like, wow, nobody appreciates what I've done.
[SPEAKER_00]: No one appreciates what I've done.
[SPEAKER_00]: So this name of a Lusupanoataata, if you don't know this name and I created this like cycle here, you give to someone, now you need acknowledgement, but when the acknowledgement doesn't come, disappointment comes.
[SPEAKER_00]: So what do you do?
[SPEAKER_00]: You remind of the favor.
[SPEAKER_00]: Son, do you remember what I did for you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Daughter, do you remember what I did for you?
[SPEAKER_00]: You remind them you feel better a little bit, but the cycle completes why because the creation can never truly show you gratitude for everything that you've truly done.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's only from Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: So what I'm saying to you in myself right now is don't take care of wifey because she'll be grateful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't take care of your sons and daughters because one day they're gonna say, this great speech about what great father you were.
[SPEAKER_00]: From this point right now, make up your mind that I'm going to do good, no matter whether the people acknowledge it or not.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's why, here's why.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want anyone controlling my ability to do good.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if I base my goodness, if I base my goodness on the reciprocation of gratitude,
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm fluctuating, but what if my goodness just came?
[SPEAKER_00]: What if my goodness just flowed?
[SPEAKER_00]: From those who showed gratitude and those who didn't show gratitude?
[SPEAKER_00]: And somebody says, man, what, how do you just keep giving?
[SPEAKER_00]: And you said, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: When I gave it, I was giving it because God saw me giving.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now don't get me wrong.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know this is hard to get to.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to explain something.
[SPEAKER_00]: The Hadith that I said is that the one who is a reminder of favors doesn't intergenerate.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought about this because how many times have you slipped up and be like, do you forget what I did for you?
[SPEAKER_00]: But here's what I think it is in Chalwa.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not if you do it one off.
[SPEAKER_00]: We all slip up.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's when this is just who you are.
[SPEAKER_00]: when this becomes your natural state that you're always reminding people of what you've done for them.
[SPEAKER_00]: So what have we learned?
[SPEAKER_00]: The reason why this is such a dangerous quality to bring in yourself is that you forget who blessed you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you get deluded, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: You get deluded.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I mentioned that Pharaoh in the Quran when he was debating Moses,
[SPEAKER_00]: And Moses is trying to tell him, like, yo, humble yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Humble yourself before God.
[SPEAKER_00]: Pharaoh used the same word.
[SPEAKER_00]: Alam Nourabika Fina, Wadidan, Wala Bithafina, Minamidika Sini, you know what Pharaoh said?
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, yo, didn't I raise you, man?
[SPEAKER_00]: Didn't I raise you?
[SPEAKER_00]: How many dads say exactly what Pharaoh said?
[SPEAKER_00]: He said, didn't I raise you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, a bit of a phenomenon in America, see me, then you live in my house, yo, crazy, crazy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then Moses recognizes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Moses says, what tilakha, nettmatun, tumun nualeya, that blessing you're reminding me of it, was self-serving by the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: That blessing you're reminding me of, that served your best interest, not mine.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why am I bringing this up?
[SPEAKER_00]: I need us to understand what this does.
[SPEAKER_00]: The other thing that is slightly related to what becoming manan does is that it's slightly related but it's disconnecting the person who you blessed, it's disconnecting them from God.
[SPEAKER_00]: How, let me explain what I'm saying here.
[SPEAKER_00]: I should become a person that always reminds you that everything you got came from Allah.
[SPEAKER_00]: The manna not gets in the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: The manna not gets in the way and reminds you, hey don't forget to thank me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't forget to thank me.