WEBVTT 00:00.031 --> 00:07.120 [SPEAKER_00]: To whoever this may impact, sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate as where we're really meant to be. 00:07.260 --> 00:16.212 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, change feels like loss, transformation is scary, and sometimes, to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down. 00:16.232 --> 00:18.314 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to our mystery, your new safe space. 00:18.334 --> 00:20.537 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. 00:24.500 --> 00:28.063 [SPEAKER_00]: Hey Vesties, welcome or welcome back to another episode of I Missed Me. 00:28.124 --> 00:29.044 [SPEAKER_00]: My name is Makan Zudas. 00:29.145 --> 00:31.687 [SPEAKER_00]: I am your host and I am so happy and so grateful I year. 00:32.188 --> 00:35.070 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so happy and so grateful that you found me, that you found the space that you found. 00:35.090 --> 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01:20.432 [SPEAKER_00]: Today, we're going to talk about something that I think needs to be talked about. 01:20.452 --> 01:28.320 [SPEAKER_00]: I made a video about this on my social media and posted it last week, and this is kind of like the extended version of it. 01:28.380 --> 01:40.913 [SPEAKER_00]: This is kind of like the podcast episode of the video that I made on my TikTok because I came across a video of a girl that was doing a huge luxury haul on her TikTok. 01:40.893 --> 01:45.563 [SPEAKER_00]: and then right below that one like she was showing insane things. 01:45.623 --> 01:58.108 [SPEAKER_00]: She was showing like Louis Vuitton bags and she was showing like Louis Vuitton shoes and like Gucci clothes and like whatever she went to Vegas, she bought a shit ton of things and she was showing 01:58.088 --> 02:06.322 [SPEAKER_00]: Everything that she got and everything was diamonds luxury everything was just so extremely expensive And my opinion like a couple of the things weren't even cute. 02:06.342 --> 02:15.979 [SPEAKER_00]: They're just Luxury and they need to be cute just because they're luxury and just because they're expensive And my opinion does she's not my style and then ride below that video 02:15.959 --> 02:35.689 [SPEAKER_00]: There was a grow sharing the total like adding up everything that she had gotten and it was like a $80,000 haul that she had just shown in a one minute video like that is insane that someone spent $80,000 going to Vegas just like buying clothes, buying bags, buying accessories and 02:35.669 --> 02:42.117 [SPEAKER_00]: For me, I am just a time of prison that like sees content and like if I don't agree, I just won't form an opinion around it, like good for you. 02:42.157 --> 02:47.804 [SPEAKER_00]: And if I like it all follow you, that's just not the content that I enjoy consuming, so it's just not a creator that I follow. 02:48.204 --> 02:56.094 [SPEAKER_00]: But for me, it's just it is what it is, like whatever you have that money to spend on a random Tuesday and Vegas, go for it, go ahead, you go. 02:56.114 --> 02:58.977 [SPEAKER_00]: But at the same time, 02:58.957 --> 03:16.308 [SPEAKER_00]: and made me think to myself how many people don't watch this video and think to themselves I am so behind them life because this person is so young and being able to spend so much money and that is literally how much some people make in a whole year. 03:16.488 --> 03:23.901 [SPEAKER_00]: Like what she spent in a few hours just going shopping in Vegas is the amount of money that someone might make in a whole entire year. 03:23.881 --> 03:36.659 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, that is just crazy for me to think, and also I think that there's a lot of people that are very young on social media and that might see that and think that that is normal. 03:37.060 --> 03:43.088 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you don't achieve that level of wealth, you're not successful. 03:43.068 --> 03:50.606 [SPEAKER_00]: or you are quote unquote poor, which is a word that I don't have in my vocabulary, like, I don't like using that word at all. 03:50.807 --> 03:52.812 [SPEAKER_00]: I never call myself poor. 03:52.832 --> 03:54.696 [SPEAKER_00]: I never call other people poor. 03:54.797 --> 03:57.022 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't like using that word just in general. 03:57.082 --> 03:59.929 [SPEAKER_00]: And in my vocabulary, I think that it is an ugly word. 03:59.909 --> 04:02.533 [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't think it attracts anything that into your life. 04:02.614 --> 04:11.148 [SPEAKER_00]: If you use that word literally Eliminate from your book, you guys know that I understand the importance of your words and the words that you use day-to-day. 04:11.228 --> 04:12.751 [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't use that word at all. 04:13.232 --> 04:14.313 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't call myself poor. 04:14.333 --> 04:16.036 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't call myself broke. 04:16.397 --> 04:19.041 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think anyone should call themselves either poor or broke. 04:19.081 --> 04:21.225 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think that it attracts anything that into your life. 04:21.205 --> 04:22.327 [SPEAKER_00]: that was just a side note. 04:22.987 --> 04:31.018 [SPEAKER_00]: My point just is there are a lot of people, young people that might watch that and be like, wow, like this is all social media is. 04:31.539 --> 04:38.989 [SPEAKER_00]: You're supposed to post on social media to make this amount of money to them be able to spend it or with social media you can become rich. 04:39.009 --> 04:40.111 [SPEAKER_00]: You can become a millionaire. 04:40.251 --> 04:42.374 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I need to start posting because that is the goal. 04:42.895 --> 04:46.099 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to become a millionaire by posting on social media. 04:46.079 --> 04:50.686 [SPEAKER_00]: And if I don't achieve that level of wealth, then I am just not successful. 04:51.387 --> 04:58.878 [SPEAKER_00]: And I am a failure, and this is how much I, like, this is my life goal, and this is my life achievement. 04:58.939 --> 05:01.262 [SPEAKER_00]: To be able to go to Vegas and spend $80,000. 05:01.502 --> 05:05.809 [SPEAKER_00]: That reason, like, that inspired this episode in this video. 05:05.789 --> 05:16.026 [SPEAKER_00]: But also the fact that I myself post the life that social media has given me like I post a lot of events I post a lot of calls. 05:16.446 --> 05:26.262 [SPEAKER_00]: I post a lot of unboxings I don't really post a lot of shopping halls or shopping content And if I do is just like things that I got for my apartment or things that I'm actually gonna use 05:26.242 --> 05:34.637 [SPEAKER_00]: or clothes, I really, really love, but I, I would never post huge halls of like how much I spent today or how much I spent in three hours. 05:34.677 --> 05:37.182 [SPEAKER_00]: Like that's just not the type of content that I enjoy sharing. 05:37.222 --> 05:41.950 [SPEAKER_00]: I would never post how much I've made on social media how much I make a month. 05:42.070 --> 05:46.258 [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't think it's numbers that should be publicly posted number one to, 05:47.369 --> 05:55.002 [SPEAKER_00]: Protect my privacy and number two, I would never want someone to watch me and compare themselves to me and how much I make so that's how much they should be making. 05:55.103 --> 06:06.543 [SPEAKER_00]: I would hate that would hate that I would hate for people that know me to know how much I'm making and maybe try to take advantage of me in some type of way like I would hate that as well. 06:06.583 --> 06:12.313 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm really protective of the things that I really care about and money and how much I make is one of them. 06:12.293 --> 06:15.739 [SPEAKER_00]: so I'm very protective and private over that. 06:16.320 --> 06:18.564 [SPEAKER_00]: But that's again besides the point. 06:19.265 --> 06:25.516 [SPEAKER_00]: I post a lot of the opportunities that social media gives me because that is the only way that I continue to receive opportunities. 06:26.057 --> 06:31.146 [SPEAKER_00]: I post going to Coachella in traveling and I went on a cruise and I received the car. 06:31.126 --> 06:43.562 [SPEAKER_00]: GMC sent me a car and now I'm working with Toyota, which is also going to send me a car and a flow gave me an apartment in version inviting me to the festival and like just so many blessings there's no other word for me to call them than blessings. 06:44.644 --> 06:57.100 [SPEAKER_00]: That I understand that some people might look at it and generally feel proud for me because you guys look for the past six years and lately I've been seeing like the fruits of it, it's not been easy, it's not been 06:57.080 --> 07:05.155 [SPEAKER_00]: Quick, it's not been fast and I spend a lot of time in making high quality content so I acknowledge that I deserve everything that happens in my life. 07:05.776 --> 07:09.062 [SPEAKER_00]: And there's people that might see me and feel proud for me and happy for me. 07:09.102 --> 07:11.546 [SPEAKER_00]: But there is also people that might see me in number one. 07:12.207 --> 07:14.211 [SPEAKER_00]: Fuel jealousy. 07:14.191 --> 07:20.140 [SPEAKER_00]: which I can't control, but number two, feel comparison of, wow, like, why am I not there? 07:20.701 --> 07:26.690 [SPEAKER_00]: Why are brands not taking me or why are brands not inviting me or why am I not traveling or why I'm not am I not receiving all of these things? 07:27.231 --> 07:29.134 [SPEAKER_00]: And I hate the thought of that. 07:29.715 --> 07:33.540 [SPEAKER_00]: I hate the thought of someone looking at me and feeling about about them. 07:34.001 --> 07:34.562 [SPEAKER_00]: I hate that. 07:34.542 --> 07:35.383 [SPEAKER_00]: I hate that. 07:35.984 --> 07:52.247 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is the main reason is to why I'm making this episode to give you guys a little bit of peace of what a normal, quote unquote normal life actually looks like and things that social media has glamorized or romanticized or normalized. 07:52.227 --> 08:07.806 [SPEAKER_00]: that aren't actually normal, that are privileges, and that you should never feel bad for not doing or not having, and that is kind of the video that I posted on social media last week, and I decided to make an extended version on my podcast as well. 08:07.786 --> 08:16.262 [SPEAKER_00]: Because I know that a lot of people that listen to my podcast also post on social media or Come from following me on social media. 08:16.302 --> 08:29.727 [SPEAKER_00]: You guys know that I post a lot of social media tips and the people that consume my content is because they want to grow on social media And everyone's journey is different some people might get their faster than others social media is something that takes time and 08:29.707 --> 08:58.566 [SPEAKER_00]: social media has portrayed growth as something that's supposed to happen rapidly and quick and if it doesn't happen instantly then you're just never going to be able to achieve anything ever but that's not true social media is literally like the gym if you want long lasting results You have to show up every single day consistently for a long period of time You go to the gym and you don't see apps Immediately you go to the gym you do legs and you don't see yourself having a fight us immediately like that's not how it happens 08:58.546 --> 09:09.760 [SPEAKER_00]: You go to the gym for months, you eat properly, you take care of yourself, you're disciplined, you show up even on days where you don't really want to show up and even on days where you don't really want to go to the gym. 09:10.140 --> 09:16.729 [SPEAKER_00]: And then after months and after time passes, you start seeing results in your body and the same thing happens with social media. 09:16.989 --> 09:26.781 [SPEAKER_00]: You post and you post and you post and months later, you will start seeing results and eventually brands will notice you and eventually you will build an audience and eventually it will happen for you. 09:26.761 --> 09:28.564 [SPEAKER_00]: but it's not supposed to happen instantly. 09:28.924 --> 09:31.108 [SPEAKER_00]: Has it happened for people instantly and overnight? 09:31.328 --> 09:31.569 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes. 09:32.310 --> 09:35.855 [SPEAKER_00]: Charlie the Million, Alex Earl, huge celebrities. 09:36.136 --> 09:41.004 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, it has, but it is very few people and it is not normal. 09:41.404 --> 09:47.554 [SPEAKER_00]: And for most of the people that are growing a community in an audience, it takes time. 09:47.534 --> 09:58.990 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's the most important thing to build a community and to build an audience because a community trusts you a community cares about what you do and to build a community you need to spend time with them. 09:59.030 --> 10:05.880 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like when you make friends you don't immediately tell them your whole life story unless you're an extreme overshare and that's how you like trauma bonds. 10:05.860 --> 10:11.309 [SPEAKER_00]: But normally when you meet someone and you become best friends You don't meet them and you're like, hey, stranger. 10:11.369 --> 10:12.230 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's become best friends. 10:12.671 --> 10:13.472 [SPEAKER_00]: No, you meet them. 10:13.552 --> 10:16.196 [SPEAKER_00]: You hang out with them You share things about yourself. 10:16.657 --> 10:26.733 [SPEAKER_00]: You hang out multiple times over and over and over and over again And eventually after months or after years, you consider them one of your best friends How does the same with people that fall you online? 10:27.174 --> 10:29.978 [SPEAKER_00]: Why would someone fall you were falling love with you immediately? 10:29.958 --> 10:36.848 [SPEAKER_00]: they have to keep coming back to see the type of content that you create to see what you show to see if they connect with you does simply how it happens. 10:37.349 --> 10:51.269 [SPEAKER_00]: So first thing that I want to say in this episode is if you're someone that posts on social media and if you are someone that has social media goals just keep in mind that the most important thing to work on is building a community and our community doesn't happen overnight. 10:51.470 --> 10:52.371 [SPEAKER_00]: That's number one. 10:52.351 --> 11:04.710 [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, let me get into actual today's actual episode, which is things social media has normalized that aren't actually normal and that you should not feel bad for not having or not doing. 11:05.170 --> 11:06.652 [SPEAKER_00]: Number one, traveling. 11:07.354 --> 11:19.692 [SPEAKER_00]: Only two to four percent of the world's population, meaning only two to four percent of eight billion people in this world, leave the country once a year. 11:21.528 --> 11:34.403 [SPEAKER_00]: That is very few people in this world that are able to leave the country, leaving the country in traveling all the time and constantly being in a new place and constantly being on an airplane is not normal. 11:34.944 --> 11:44.515 [SPEAKER_00]: It is a privilege and it is a blessing to travel and I say that being a world travel person where I've seen my parents were 11:44.495 --> 11:51.564 [SPEAKER_00]: really, really, really hard to take his on vacation, and I know the amount of hours that it has taken my dad to work so that he can take his on a trip. 11:52.365 --> 11:56.731 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't take it for granted, and I don't think it's normal for me to constantly travel. 11:57.432 --> 12:11.751 [SPEAKER_00]: Traveling is expensive, traveling requires documents, traveling requires papers, it requires a passport, and it is something that not everyone has access to, not a lot of people have access to, not a lot of people have, 12:11.731 --> 12:20.307 [SPEAKER_00]: the resources or the documents or the right papers or the time to be able to travel and to see people constantly traveling online. 12:21.535 --> 12:22.296 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not normal. 12:22.917 --> 12:23.598 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not normal. 12:23.799 --> 12:33.994 [SPEAKER_00]: It is for people who have the time, who have the money, who have a stable job that allows them to travel without having to worry, who have the right documents. 12:34.455 --> 12:42.548 [SPEAKER_00]: It is very few people who constantly travel the world all the time, and it is not something that you should feel bad for not doing. 12:43.489 --> 12:44.411 [SPEAKER_00]: It's traveling amazing. 12:44.471 --> 12:45.973 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, traveling is amazing. 12:45.953 --> 12:54.826 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you not successful or is it is life not happy if you don't travel or if you don't have access to traveling yet? 12:55.487 --> 13:05.903 [SPEAKER_00]: No, no, it is not traveling is also tiring Traveling is a whole hustle and it is a like traveling is a whole journey 13:05.883 --> 13:12.716 [SPEAKER_00]: and the way that it's glamourized and painted online is something that everyone should do to like open their mind. 13:13.317 --> 13:23.537 [SPEAKER_00]: Travelling is a blessing, traveling is a privilege and it is not something that I think should be normalized or it is not something that you should punish yourself for not being able to do. 13:23.517 --> 13:27.262 [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, having a thousand million different products. 13:28.303 --> 13:37.194 [SPEAKER_00]: You guys know, and it might sound a little ironic, and some people might listen to me talking about all of this, and are going to be like, yeah, but you do it all the time. 13:37.234 --> 13:38.235 [SPEAKER_00]: So it's easy for you to say. 13:38.295 --> 13:50.250 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, I acknowledge that everything that I do, and everything that I have is a privilege and a blessing, and I acknowledge that some things are more of a privilege to me than what is normal. 13:50.230 --> 14:00.912 [SPEAKER_00]: But talking about number two and having a bunch of million different products, I am aware of the amount of products I receive weekly. 14:01.534 --> 14:10.753 [SPEAKER_00]: It is insane for a brand to send me a box with 20 different foundations where my shade is only one of them. 14:10.733 --> 14:29.907 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, like I acknowledge it, and I recognize it, and that is the reason is to why I let my family go through the boxes, the PR boxes, I let my sisters go through the boxes, I let my best friends go through the boxes, every single time that someone comes to my apartment or to my house, they leave with a bag of products. 14:29.887 --> 14:31.829 [SPEAKER_00]: Because I acknowledge I'm not going to use everything. 14:32.069 --> 14:38.857 [SPEAKER_00]: I know that I need one out of the 20 and I give everything away I do a lot of giveaways. 14:39.218 --> 14:49.009 [SPEAKER_00]: I give a lot back to my community I literally send three PR boxes every single month so that girls are able to post their first unboxings and talk of the brands So that brand see them and recognize them. 14:49.049 --> 14:58.780 [SPEAKER_00]: I like I try to get back as much as I can because I acknowledge that receiving so many products is a privilege And it is a gift and even me I have really sensitive skin so my 14:58.760 --> 15:05.070 [SPEAKER_00]: Skincare routine consists in Clancer and Moisturizer to literally wrote. 15:06.032 --> 15:07.494 [SPEAKER_00]: That's literally my Skincare routine. 15:07.515 --> 15:11.000 [SPEAKER_00]: If you ever wonder what my Skincare routine is, Clancer and Moisturizer. 15:11.621 --> 15:15.067 [SPEAKER_00]: And my makeup routine has been the same makeup routine for the past six years. 15:15.969 --> 15:17.471 [SPEAKER_00]: Literally is four products. 15:17.491 --> 15:19.655 [SPEAKER_00]: Concealer, bronzer, blush, eyeliner. 15:19.915 --> 15:20.797 [SPEAKER_00]: That's literally all I use. 15:21.257 --> 15:22.319 [SPEAKER_00]: That's literally all I use. 15:22.379 --> 15:24.683 [SPEAKER_00]: I carry the same bag with the same products. 15:24.663 --> 15:40.984 [SPEAKER_00]: Everywhere and all of my trips and all of my events my makeup routine has been the same and has not changed in the past five years And I know that I do not need a hundred thousand different makeup products to do my makeup I acknowledge it, but there are so many people 15:40.964 --> 16:05.031 [SPEAKER_00]: Online that post constant halls constant shopping trips to Sapphira Constant do my makeup with me with new products or my 10 different Favorite blushes or let's try new concealer or let's try this or let's try that and then they have a huge there are people that even have Show online that have 16:05.011 --> 16:10.024 [SPEAKER_00]: Beauty rooms with a hundred thousand different products. 16:11.107 --> 16:13.533 [SPEAKER_00]: When do you think they're going to run out of all of them? 16:14.736 --> 16:15.458 [SPEAKER_00]: It is impossible. 16:15.578 --> 16:20.050 [SPEAKER_00]: There's not even enough time during a day to do your makeup that many times 16:20.030 --> 16:23.073 [SPEAKER_00]: It takes a really long time to run out of a product. 16:23.774 --> 16:25.516 [SPEAKER_00]: Imagine 10, we're imagine 20. 16:26.037 --> 16:28.199 [SPEAKER_00]: There's just simply no way and no time. 16:28.780 --> 16:33.626 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not normal for your makeup collection to have 100,000 million things. 16:34.126 --> 16:34.807 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not normal. 16:35.307 --> 16:41.334 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's not necessary to have a good, pretty looking skin, and pretty looking makeup. 16:41.435 --> 16:45.379 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not necessary just because someone has a concealer. 16:45.359 --> 16:54.168 [SPEAKER_00]: that everyone has, or like, someone buys a concealer and then everyone's certifying that concealer rate does not mean that you have to go ahead and buy that concealer, just to fit in or just to try it out. 16:54.689 --> 16:56.631 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not necessary, it is not normal. 16:57.491 --> 16:59.594 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is called overconsumption. 16:59.634 --> 17:04.238 [SPEAKER_00]: And it is not necessary to be happy and to be at peace. 17:04.258 --> 17:05.580 [SPEAKER_00]: I promise you, that's number two. 17:06.180 --> 17:08.383 [SPEAKER_00]: Number three, repeat and close. 17:09.063 --> 17:12.767 [SPEAKER_00]: This one is so crazy for me to even have to say out loud. 17:12.747 --> 17:21.467 [SPEAKER_00]: But some people think that just because you've posted a picture with a certain outfit, or with a certain shirt, or with certain pants, you can't wear them again. 17:21.988 --> 17:25.897 [SPEAKER_00]: Or you can't take a picture with them ever again because you already posted with that outfit. 17:26.679 --> 17:29.305 [SPEAKER_00]: How ridiculous is that? 17:29.285 --> 17:37.477 [SPEAKER_00]: Generally, how dumb it is to think that because you already wore certain genes in a video, you can't wear them again. 17:37.497 --> 17:46.369 [SPEAKER_00]: Or because you already went to a party with a certain outfit, and then there's another party or another event, you just can't wear that because you're ready to party. 17:46.389 --> 17:51.917 [SPEAKER_00]: So now you have to go buy more clothes so that the pictures don't look the same. 17:51.897 --> 18:10.125 [SPEAKER_00]: So you spend your money on a shirt once and then that money is just wasted because you're never going to wear that shirt again You have to go shopping again because now you have another event or you have another party or you have something else to go to but because you're already wore that shirt one time You already took pictures with that shirt one time now you have to go shopping again 18:10.105 --> 18:14.652 [SPEAKER_00]: besties, besties, besties, besties, besties, besties, what do you mean? 18:15.052 --> 18:15.553 [SPEAKER_00]: What do you mean? 18:15.874 --> 18:17.476 [SPEAKER_00]: Clothes are expensive for a certain reason. 18:18.057 --> 18:37.125 [SPEAKER_00]: Clothes are expensive because people that make it and people that sell it or stores that sell it, stores that or stores that put a certain price tag on that piece of cloth thing, expect you to wear that multiple times over and over and 18:37.105 --> 18:38.549 [SPEAKER_00]: Besties. 18:38.569 --> 18:51.165 [SPEAKER_00]: It makes me so frustrated to even like have to say that out loud, but there are people that are convinced that just because their favorite influencers don't repeat outfits They're supposed to have a different shirt for every single different occasion 18:52.478 --> 18:53.119 [SPEAKER_00]: every single day. 18:53.639 --> 18:57.504 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I already wore the shirt to school, so I can't wear the shirt to school anymore. 18:57.864 --> 19:09.437 [SPEAKER_00]: Because then people are going to think that I don't have any clothes because people are going to remember that I already wore this outfit and that is just embarrassing because everyone is just always wearing something new every single day, so I can't repeat an outfit or a shirt. 19:09.457 --> 19:12.321 [SPEAKER_00]: And I am sure that some people that listen to this relate to it. 19:12.341 --> 19:19.549 [SPEAKER_00]: And now that I say it out loud or that you're listening to it from me, I hope that it clicks or like I 19:19.529 --> 19:45.368 [SPEAKER_00]: because even I have fallen to that mistake and not anymore lately because I'm just in my own little bubble when it comes to social media I consume a lot of self-development content and I try to like lower the volume of over a consumption on my social media like you will not find that type of content on my algorithm because it was generally like fucking with my head but there was a period of time where I was just like I need to go shopping because I 19:45.348 --> 20:13.078 [SPEAKER_00]: I literally used the same three jeans in every single video like I then and then I was like who cares like why Why why would I make what I'm wearing the most interesting thing about me like the plane of my video is a message not what I'm wearing like It's just so frustrating to me, but this is just your reminder besties that you are allowed to repeat your outfits like Use bent money on your clothes for a reason make that money worth make that money Put that money to you. 20:13.098 --> 20:15.220 [SPEAKER_00]: It was like where that money? 20:15.200 --> 20:23.876 [SPEAKER_00]: People forget that everything that you spend your money on, don't forget that everything that you have is money transformed into something physical. 20:24.477 --> 20:27.182 [SPEAKER_00]: Put that money to work, make that money worth it. 20:27.482 --> 20:33.493 [SPEAKER_00]: You are not wearing a shirt, you are wearing your heart earned money that you chose to spend on that shirt. 20:34.175 --> 20:35.537 [SPEAKER_00]: Make it worth it. 20:35.737 --> 20:36.458 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't throw it away. 20:36.478 --> 20:40.861 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't let society and don't let social media convince you that you shouldn't. 20:41.102 --> 20:57.175 [SPEAKER_00]: Before, publicly oversharing, this might be a little controversial and some people might not agree with me, but I don't think that it is necessary to overshare about the intimacy of your life in order to be successful in social media. 20:57.716 --> 21:05.322 [SPEAKER_00]: I think there is a way to connect with your audience without having to share every little detail of your life with your audience. 21:05.302 --> 21:13.952 [SPEAKER_00]: I think, if there is something really, really important in your life that you really care about and that you really love, don't share details about it online. 21:14.633 --> 21:19.479 [SPEAKER_00]: I truly believe that not every single person that watches you has the best intentions for you. 21:20.220 --> 21:26.567 [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't think that if, I think, if you have a relationship with God, 21:26.547 --> 21:32.579 [SPEAKER_00]: Nothing that someone else thinks is going to affect you like I don't I don't necessarily believe in evil. 21:32.940 --> 21:45.265 [SPEAKER_00]: I think that if Like evil I as canceled by you having a secure company relationship with God because if you're with God Literally nothing and no one is against you 21:45.245 --> 22:04.805 [SPEAKER_00]: But I do think that not everything should be shared and that there are things in your life that should only be kept private for people that you've really trust and just because you don't overshare intimate parts of your life that are really important and sacred for you. 22:04.825 --> 22:08.909 [SPEAKER_00]: It does not mean that you're not going to be able to build trust with your community. 22:08.929 --> 22:14.695 [SPEAKER_00]: Like there is ways to build trust with your community that don't include sharing things 22:14.675 --> 22:22.629 [SPEAKER_00]: For example, I've been in a two-year relationship and I post him here and there, like, I have videos with him that are really funny. 22:22.730 --> 22:28.119 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, my most viral videos have been with him, is just like, really eatable seven second videos. 22:28.580 --> 22:32.447 [SPEAKER_00]: I've made videos with him where he, like, embosses my PR. 22:32.427 --> 22:40.986 [SPEAKER_00]: or I've made videos with him like talking and stuff but I would never share when we are you, what we are you about things that we're going through. 22:41.006 --> 22:44.073 [SPEAKER_00]: I would never share details about my relationship. 22:44.534 --> 22:51.870 [SPEAKER_00]: People that share breakups I think are really brave because I don't think it's anyone's business to know why or when. 22:51.850 --> 23:07.397 [SPEAKER_00]: People break up like I think sometimes people share with their art with their audience so that they stop asking questions but I also think that sometimes people share it in order to bring attention to themselves and I don't believe that that attention is necessary. 23:07.417 --> 23:13.588 [SPEAKER_00]: I think grieving breakups are hard on its own, like going through a breakup is really hard. 23:13.568 --> 23:22.057 [SPEAKER_00]: now going through a breakup with a bunch of different people telling you like please get back together or this person said this or this person said that or did you see this person out? 23:22.377 --> 23:38.614 [SPEAKER_00]: I saw this person followed this other person like grieving a breakup is hard on its own grieving a public breakup I can't even imagine and that's why I would never put myself in the position in the first place but not only with relationships but also 23:38.594 --> 24:01.530 [SPEAKER_00]: Things about other people, things about friendships, details about like this is why I'm not friends with this person anymore or this creator that this to me are like just like T or private details about your life turned into T. I don't necessarily think that that is the right audience to build because not everyone has the best intentions for you like 24:01.510 --> 24:13.210 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, how much you make, or how much money you're earning, or how much you spend, or what you eat in a day, or relationship problems, or relationship issues, things that are important to you, keep them private. 24:13.611 --> 24:23.788 [SPEAKER_00]: This is your reminder that you do not need to overshare in order to build a community that loves you, and a community that loves you will understand you wanting to keep certain things private. 24:23.768 --> 24:26.712 [SPEAKER_00]: And number five, last but not least, over productivity. 24:27.013 --> 24:27.974 [SPEAKER_00]: It is okay to be tired. 24:28.495 --> 24:30.578 [SPEAKER_00]: It is completely normal to procrastinate. 24:31.179 --> 24:48.585 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not realistic for some people who work early, or maybe have a nine to five, and then open their for you page and watch a video of a girl waking up at 5am, going to the gym, and then eating super healthy in these, and then yoga, and then shopping, and then traveling, and then coming back, and then meditating, and then reading, and then journaling. 24:48.625 --> 24:53.472 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not, it is not the everyday normal to be productive, 24:53.452 --> 24:57.618 [SPEAKER_00]: It is normal to have periods in your life or your tired. 24:57.758 --> 25:01.523 [SPEAKER_00]: It is normal to go through days where you're just exhausted and don't want to do anything. 25:02.104 --> 25:12.579 [SPEAKER_00]: It is normal to wake up one day and feel a little sick or a little tired or to just do one thing or to achieve one thing throughout the day. 25:12.619 --> 25:17.265 [SPEAKER_00]: It is okay to do a lot of things one day and then not want to do anything the next. 25:17.245 --> 25:38.747 [SPEAKER_00]: It is okay to have your own routine that works for you and that keeps you energized and motivated and it's gonna look different for everyone But I think There has been this like Code and quote it girl lifestyle Remanticized and normalized on social media of like green juices 5 a.m. meditation yoga 25:38.727 --> 25:47.270 [SPEAKER_00]: Pilates every single day, that is expensive, eating healthy, every single day is expensive, eating whole foods is expensive, eating organic foods is expensive. 25:47.611 --> 25:54.188 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think people realize that having a really healthy lifestyle is not affordable for everyone. 25:54.168 --> 26:14.218 [SPEAKER_00]: And there is a way to achieve a healthy lifestyle that keeps you healthy and that looks healthy for you Within your budget and within what you can't afford and within what's normal for you if that doesn't sound wrong I hope I hope this is coming off in the way that I intended to come off like what's healthy? 26:14.198 --> 26:16.421 [SPEAKER_00]: for people will look different. 26:16.801 --> 26:17.763 [SPEAKER_00]: For every single person. 26:17.803 --> 26:23.970 [SPEAKER_00]: What's healthy for me will look different than what's healthy for you and it doesn't make my lifestyle better than yours. 26:24.111 --> 26:25.112 [SPEAKER_00]: It just makes us different. 26:26.113 --> 26:26.914 [SPEAKER_00]: That's all I'm trying to say. 26:27.475 --> 26:37.708 [SPEAKER_00]: But do not normalize and do not glamorize and do not romanticize over productivity or productivity 247 because every day is going to look different for you. 26:37.688 --> 26:46.304 [SPEAKER_00]: And the fact that you didn't do anything one day or you decided to rest or you decided to not do anything does not make you a Lee C person or an unproductive person. 26:46.405 --> 26:47.246 [SPEAKER_00]: It just makes you human. 26:47.286 --> 26:58.608 [SPEAKER_00]: It just makes you normal and it just means that you need days where you recharge in order to come back next week or the next day or Wake up my energized and more productive. 26:59.349 --> 26:59.730 [SPEAKER_00]: That's it 26:59.710 --> 27:01.133 [SPEAKER_00]: That's it for today's episode besties. 27:01.173 --> 27:03.117 [SPEAKER_00]: If you want a part two, I can make so many of these. 27:03.377 --> 27:04.199 [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know if you like it. 27:04.239 --> 27:07.545 [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know if you want more social media related episodes. 27:07.645 --> 27:16.943 [SPEAKER_00]: I would love to keep talking about social media and the struggles and the realness and the behind the scenes of social media because you know that I do this for a living. 27:16.923 --> 27:38.593 [SPEAKER_00]: And I also consider myself a pretty self-aware person to know that social media, lifestyle is not realistic and it's not the normal for everyone and I will forever truly appreciate and feel grateful for the lifestyle that I live, but I also feel very comfortable sharing their reality of it so that you guys, 27:39.721 --> 27:48.857 [SPEAKER_00]: Stop putting it on a pedestal so much and romanticizing it more than it should actually be romanticized I hope that comes off the right way as well. 27:49.559 --> 27:55.249 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know I'm overthinking when I talk about like the specific topics about social media because I never want to 27:55.229 --> 28:02.739 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, sound not appreciative, but I also want to relate with you because I think I still live a pretty normal life. 28:03.059 --> 28:08.466 [SPEAKER_00]: Without that being said, besties don't forget to follow me on social media at mafia and so on TikTok on Instagram on YouTube. 28:08.806 --> 28:19.260 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're watching this on YouTube, don't forget to subscribe to MSTV's podcast channel so that you don't miss any episode every single Monday, don't forget to follow MSTV on Instagram and TikTok at MSTV podcast. 28:19.280 --> 28:24.747 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're listening on Spotify, don't forget that you can watch the video on YouTube and if you're watching on YouTube, don't forget that you can listen. 28:24.727 --> 28:27.231 [SPEAKER_00]: on any streaming platform, whenever, wherever. 28:27.491 --> 28:28.773 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, thank you so much for listening. 28:28.873 --> 28:32.098 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for watching, and I will see you guys next Monday. 28:32.299 --> 28:33.560 [SPEAKER_00]: With love, Muffie. 28:33.621 --> 28:37.506 [SPEAKER_00]: Besties, if you enjoy today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. 28:37.567 --> 28:38.548 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't forget to follow Ms. 28:38.568 --> 28:39.329 [SPEAKER_00]: Neon Social Media. 28:39.429 --> 28:41.352 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Ms. Ne podcast on Instagram and TikTok. 28:41.372 --> 28:42.214 [SPEAKER_00]: And subscribe to Ms. 28:42.254 --> 28:43.035 [SPEAKER_00]: Neon Social Media. 28:43.115 --> 28:43.355 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Ms. 28:43.375 --> 28:43.916 [SPEAKER_00]: Neon Social Media. 28:43.936 --> 28:45.739 [SPEAKER_00]: I will see you guys on our next episode.