[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, everyone, and welcome back to room for us a space to work queer voices thrive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm your host, P, and every single week.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like to sit down, get vulnerable, and talk about all things queer with all of you.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm also on a bit of a journey myself in terms of my mental health, myself development, and things that really align with my energy, what is bringing me joy.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like to check in and do segments about that too, because I do look at this podcast as this personal,
[SPEAKER_00]: diary in a way that I enjoy sharing with all of you having open conversations with the community.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's been so amazing to have these open conversations with all of you who have reached out when you have related to an episode that
[SPEAKER_00]: actually is the whole point in why I do this because we're all just trying to figure it out.
[SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, we are all doing our best.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like in a world too, and in social media, in real life, we only really get to see highlights sometimes of the people around us or the people who were really connected with.
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes I think it's rare to always hear the vulnerable
[SPEAKER_00]: things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you do, and I love that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love, especially when you do connect with your friends, your family, and you do get open and vulnerable about sometimes the things that are not like the most ideal to talk about, but most of the time I do think we're getting highlights.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was actually talking to a friend about that today that more often than not, a lot of people are going through something like, and I just think social media can be a place where we forget about that
[SPEAKER_00]: all we're seeing is like the good things that are going on and while that's really good, sometimes if you are struggling or you're trying to figure things out for yourself, sometimes logging on to Instagram and Instagram especially, can be a tough place to be, so I really do empathize with you if
[SPEAKER_00]: You feel that because I myself, even if I'm in a good place, things are happening.
[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, I'm only human and I struggle too.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I like to look at this podcast as a place to talk about my feelings openly, to speak about sometimes the OCD flare-ups, I go through like these are all things I go through often.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I just want to be that voice to show, like, yeah, we're all going through it and I'm constantly working on myself to kind of like create a life where I am vibrating at a high frequency.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is actually what this whole episode is about.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was actually really inspired to talk about this a little bit more because
[SPEAKER_00]: I heard Anita talk about this in an interview and I love Anita.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's a Brazilian singer She's very very popular.
[SPEAKER_00]: She actually really rose to fame.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to say in North America When her single involvement came out.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it had like So many streams.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know the exact number off the top of my head, but I that is when I first discovered her and I just like her energy and
[SPEAKER_00]: Why I talk about frequency is I feel like she is the type of person who you can tell operates at a high frequency and if you're unsure of what I mean by that that is what this episode is going to be about.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would love to open this question up to all of you for the ones who you know you tuned into this episode for a reason this is why you're here and thank you for tuning in
[SPEAKER_00]: But have you ever walked away from a situation feeling lighter or heavier and you didn't know why?
[SPEAKER_00]: Or it doesn't even have to be like walking away from something but it's like if you're consuming content, you're around certain people, do you feel lighter or do you feel heavier?
[SPEAKER_00]: And there's actually like a lot of reasons behind this.
[SPEAKER_00]: This could also have to do with like the frequency levels of what is going on.
[SPEAKER_00]: So what does this really mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: So a high vibration is often associated with emotions like joy, peace, gratitude, and love.
[SPEAKER_00]: A low vibration is linked to fear, resentment, self-doubt, and negativity.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, there is an importance behind this, a lot of it can be emotional, but then it's also can impact like our whole feeling of our wellbeing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, if you're feeling like the energy, the group of friends that are around you, the energy levels are good.
[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't always mean it has to be like
[SPEAKER_00]: super outgoing like loud outrageous.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, do you feel moments of joy when you're with a certain group of friends?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you feel peace, genuinely?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you feel like the love in the room or have you ever been around people that actually trigger your anxiety?
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes that can happen a lot and you could even be hanging out with someone and you leave that situation feeling
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever felt that before and you can't really explain why?
[SPEAKER_00]: This has to usually do with the energy that is in the room and the frequency levels.
[SPEAKER_00]: And these are things I never really paid attention to until later sometimes I would leave a situation feeling low or feeling like, why do I?
[SPEAKER_00]: feel off like what is what is going on and then sometimes later when you reflect back on that situation you kind of maybe start to notice like maybe there's been some issues with that friendship there was like certain resentment energies you were picking up on it's it's energy I always say doesn't lie but you can tell when you leave a situation and you feel
[SPEAKER_00]: been going through a tough time, like let's just say you had a tough day at work, maybe you heard some bad news, something happened, but you could connect with a certain individual and all of a sudden feel happy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like they bring out that emotion in you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And happiness is just an emotion, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like obviously that can come in waves, but you know you left that situation and you feel you feel good.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's something that you can't explain.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a feeling
[SPEAKER_00]: So that can also show up in certain people and you can be very intentional if you want to be a person who operates at a high frequency and that is something that I'm trying to work at.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because as I mentioned, I was really inspired by what Anita was saying.
[SPEAKER_00]: There were certain things that she does in her daily practices to help her get to that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not coming from a forced place.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just think it's also changing your perspective over certain things or knowing like, we have a lot more control than we give ourselves credit for.
[SPEAKER_00]: like if you're always someone who maybe has more of that victim mindset like things are always happening to you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to look at the world around you and you are going to be operating at a low frequency because that is also like the perspective you have.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's a really powerful thing when you can meet people.
[SPEAKER_00]: who may not have everything in the world, of course, and they don't have all the material things, but they operate with a lot of gratitude, and they feel you can see like they see the beauty in life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that's like a very positive, not a toxic positivity thing, but it's like how we live, it's like having hope and gratitude is like the best thing you can do.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's kind of like, you're not striving for perfection, you're not seeing things as like if it doesn't work out, it's like the end of the world, you're really living with intention.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think people can kind of sense that energy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I've noticed, too, like, there are certain people I meet that I'm like, you just...
[SPEAKER_00]: emulate this really beautiful energy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like I said, it doesn't have to be like a superficial thing either.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know, you can sometimes meet people who, you know, they might be coming off like very excitable, very high energy, but that doesn't always mean they're operating with a lot of gratitude or a lot of peace.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a very interesting thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this doesn't just happen easily.
[SPEAKER_00]: It actually can take a lot of
[SPEAKER_00]: It takes a lot of like inner work.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like developing that inner confidence and that inner strength.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we're going to continue to get into it because these are the signs you are becoming a high vibrational person.
[SPEAKER_00]: And some of these indicators really do include that you do have self respect.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is the biggest thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, I don't want you to confuse this.
[SPEAKER_00]: with maybe someone who is, they could maybe, let's say, have the most bubbly, energetic personality and they're very excitable, but do they have that self-respect for themselves in the sense, like do they look out for themselves, do they have boundaries, like that is something I really struggled with, because I think I had mentioned this in some past.
[SPEAKER_00]: episodes that I've recorded, younger me, full transparency, I did not have a lot of boundaries.
[SPEAKER_00]: I, you know, operated as a very much like a yes person.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was struggling so much with my people pleasing.
[SPEAKER_00]: And in turn, I was like losing.
[SPEAKER_00]: myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if it was like a self-respect thing, but I definitely wasn't putting myself first in a lot of situations.
[SPEAKER_00]: Very concerned about what people thought of me didn't want to step on any toes, didn't want to rock the boat, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And that would even show up in my work.
[SPEAKER_00]: when I was younger, especially in my 20s, being too fearful to actually ask for what I wanted, settling for salaries that would just not cut it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And why?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because was it coming from a place of fear?
[SPEAKER_00]: It was coming from a place of like thinking I would be too much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm asking for too much.
[SPEAKER_00]: So truly, I don't think I was operating at a high frequency at many times.
[SPEAKER_00]: I might have been more on the lower end.
[SPEAKER_00]: even if I appeared to be a very bubbly person, I think that's where the difference is.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think what it really comes down to is like a lot of that self respect and that self love.
[SPEAKER_00]: So as we get into it, I mentioned the stronger boundaries, self respect, letting go of draining relationships and environments huge.
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of us actually don't even realize how much the people around us and the environments we choose to be in can actually affect your frequency.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it even goes into how much the energy can get sucked out of you when you're around people who do not lift you up.
[SPEAKER_00]: And do not take that lightly.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think sometimes we do surround ourselves with people we have known forever because you're like, you know, I've known these people forever.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like a comfort thing, but really pay attention to how you feel and how that can be affecting you in the future.
[SPEAKER_00]: People even mention environments are a huge factor if you're living in a space that does not work well for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's the environment you're in.
[SPEAKER_00]: Everything around you is energy, the furniture, the building.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's even sometimes like there are there can be studies that I'm sure of this but it shows people who maybe also live in sometimes basement units because it's more underground.
[SPEAKER_00]: That can really start to affect their mood, and that's like not a coincidence that also feels like energy that is affecting you and You should really pay attention like be intentional and try to choose places that really make you feel
[SPEAKER_00]: Happy like you know when you walk into a space and you can feel like oh, this is a happy vibe Like I feel good in the space or you know, you might walk into something and the place could be nice Like you could look at it and say like there's nothing wrong with how this has been decorated It seems good, but you can sense an energy like something feels a little sad and It was interesting crystal and I have been on the hunt for um
[SPEAKER_00]: some homes, sometimes like in some of the places we have seen we would kind of be like that energy felt a little sad and we couldn't really, we didn't really have the answer for it really but at the end of the day I think it all comes down to like the energy of where you're at.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's really interesting, your environment matters a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: The clothes you wear, like, you know when you feel good, you put on a certain outfit, and you feel confident, increased self-awareness, emotional intelligence, for sure, being aware of yourself absolutely.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I think that also shows your operating at a high frequency, you can take accountability, you know yourself, and
[SPEAKER_00]: you're aware.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I feel like that kind of explains itself.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is good.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're feeling aligned more aligned than anxious when making decisions.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this can be a tough one.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I've always been someone who wants answers like I need a second opinion.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I wonder where that comes from, I think, like,
[SPEAKER_00]: It could come from a lack of self confidence sometimes or not even just that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wonder if it also could be like am I making the right decision because you want everything to go a certain way?
[SPEAKER_00]: You want things to be perfect but what I've been trying to lean into more is like trusting myself and feeling aligned.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like understanding like you know there's no reason to feel anxious about this like if things are meant to be it's meant to be and I don't mean to sound cliche by saying
[SPEAKER_00]: Something that's meant to be for you will never, ever pass you by.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is going to come back into your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to come cross your path in some way.
[SPEAKER_00]: So lean into that, never feel anxious.
[SPEAKER_00]: Feel a lie, no one making your decisions.
[SPEAKER_00]: And whatever's meant to work out, will work out, and if it doesn't.
[SPEAKER_00]: Another door is going to open and I know the sounds very cliche, but I feel like when you don't put that into practice That happens more than not and I'm still working on that all the time I do still get anxious when making certain decisions, but I have to work on feeling more confident and why I'm making those decisions in the first place
[SPEAKER_00]: prioritizing your peace over people pleasing.
[SPEAKER_00]: And by that, I mean, people pleasing is not a good thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think people still think like if you're a people pleaser, you're just very concerned about, you know, not wanting to hurt people or you you want to make sure you're doing things for people, but
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not a good thing because it actually stems from fear.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that there are things that people kind of misconstrued when it comes to boundaries or peace over people pleasing all that stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: They kind of say, like, prioritize your peace, prioritize your peace is like, people are overdoing it now, meaning like, now they're making every excuse to not, like, for example, go out or go to the front's birthday.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm definitely not saying like you need to be a bad friend or flaky because you're, you're now prioritizing your piece.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just mean that you're allowed to choose yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like you are allowed to choose things that make you feel good.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean at the end of the day like the people around you will understand like if you're not people pleasing for them, they would almost be like,
[SPEAKER_00]: You to be okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: They want you to show up to the event where you feel good like you you're not forcing yourself I never really agreed with that like force yourself to do something if it's not gonna align like I just think there's so much talk on social media Where people are so like against the whole boundaries thing like people really run with it But when people don't respect your boundaries it can kind of come from like a selfish place I think practicing gratitude and having that self-compassion is
[SPEAKER_00]: A big sign, you're becoming a high vibrational person because gratitude, I don't know if we practice it enough and I think sometimes it's good to catch yourself in that and know like, look at the things like you can be grateful for and really start to practice it right it down.
[SPEAKER_00]: If yourself some grace as well, I think we can be so hard on ourselves all the time, I know I can be and I don't always take a lot of moments to give myself that compassion when I think
[SPEAKER_00]: Certain things I've been through certain situations I'm always like quick to kind of look at all these scenarios Where maybe where I could have gone wrong, but I think when you start to learn to really trust yourself and Give yourself that love for being like, you know what there's been a lot that's gone on and like you should be proud of yourself for how far you've come like
[SPEAKER_00]: work on giving yourself that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Life is hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, there's so many things we go through, look at the world and what we're living in and we're all just trying to get by while trying to stay sane.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's crazy when you really think about we're just trying to keep going.
[SPEAKER_00]: and make the most of life when it's horrible in the direction we're going in, and there's so much hate, and even in terms of like the Sequere Podcast, I'm a lesbian, I'm like, we're in 2026, and it feels like we're still going backwards in so many cases, and it's crazy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Younger me would have only hoped it would have been a no-brainer, that things would be continuing to go in a progressive direction.
[SPEAKER_00]: Unfortunately,
[SPEAKER_00]: So, yeah, give yourself that self-compassion, and I think it's always important to be your number one fan.
[SPEAKER_00]: And once again, have that self-awareness, understand where like there are times you could go wrong, but it's okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we're always continuing to grow and learn from mistakes, and that's all we can do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Trust your intuition too.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your intuition is strong if you're feeling a good thing about something.
[SPEAKER_00]: Go for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Go take that chance.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't hold back and if something doesn't feel like it's aligning with you anymore, you can give yourself that grace to be like, yeah, I'm going to walk away from this and don't hold that guilt.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are more than okay to do it and how many times like have you had a gut feeling and it was right.
[SPEAKER_00]: Probably all the time every time you have a gut feeling about something.
[SPEAKER_00]: It genuinely is your body.
[SPEAKER_00]: telling you because your body often knows first before maybe truth comes to light.
[SPEAKER_00]: So once again, we live in a world where everything is energy, so really, really pay attention to that.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's also ways to raise your vibration.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're really trying to think, okay, like, well, what are things I can do to improve this?
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I'm developing the signs I'm working on it because I'm like, you know, I have that self-love that's all for spec for myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm really intentional about what is around me who I spend my time with the environment I'm in.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what can I do to really raise this?
[SPEAKER_00]: These are actually like actionable pieces of advice you all can start to do and incorporate in your daily life and I feel like I know people in my life who do this and I get very inspired by it because I sometimes am not the best at really doing this, but we're going to go through it together.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's work on our minds first.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're positive minds.
[SPEAKER_00]: Genuinely, giving yourself that positive self-talk and reframing any limiting beliefs you may have.
[SPEAKER_00]: A blifting content is protecting your mental space.
[SPEAKER_00]: So try to consume uplifting content.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't realize how much of the content you consume.
[SPEAKER_00]: The music you listen to, the movies you watch, the books you read, all of that once again is energy and that can kind of affect your mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I've talked about this before, but I've mentioned I like to watch scary movies.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like true crime documentaries.
[SPEAKER_00]: I get into that stuff even books.
[SPEAKER_00]: I sometimes read like kind of intense books.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I start to get a little anxious.
[SPEAKER_00]: I start to have trouble sleeping.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's not a coincidence.
[SPEAKER_00]: Those are things that are really affecting my mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: But when I
[SPEAKER_00]: light, like my energy feels light, my mind feels light, I'm kind of, I'm just happy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And even if something maybe was affecting me from that day, no matter what it is, I know if I put on something happy or I listen to a good song, like an uplifting song,
[SPEAKER_00]: You feel good, you're operating at like a high vibration.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think that makes so much sense to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not to say you need to cut all those things out, but I definitely think you should be mindful about how much you consume because it really, really can affect your mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've been talking about this so much because this is the journey I'm on, but raising your vibration also starts in the body.
[SPEAKER_00]: Daily movement, whole foods, nourishing foods.
[SPEAKER_00]: hydration, drink your water and do not lose your quality of sleep.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sleep is so important.
[SPEAKER_00]: It really, really is and spending time in nature.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've mentioned like this moved of Vancouver has been so good to spend time in nature because just every day you have access to the ocean.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're around so many trees.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's so lush.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it rains here so much.
[SPEAKER_00]: Everything is just green.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a really good place to be for your mind in terms of how beautiful
[SPEAKER_00]: So try to find that anywhere you can and wherever you are, definitely make those efforts to go seek out nature.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like the people who I'm around who I consider to be like high vibrational, they really do have a good relationship with nature.
[SPEAKER_00]: For sure, not one of them has them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Ever shown signs of not appreciating the nature around them, even stopping to smell the flowers, like genuinely, you know, you're actually present in your moment, you're not always in a rush.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like that is a sign of someone who's kind of operating in that high frequency type of way.
[SPEAKER_00]: The spirit, you know, this is a practical way to raise your vibration is meditation, journaling, breath the work.
[SPEAKER_00]: Affirmations, prayers, practicing that gratitude, that mindfulness, speak it out loud, and while you may even feel silly, like you might, as you're saying, things out loud, don't, don't be.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's also kind of working through that fear.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a really beautiful place to get to speak it out.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why they even say too, like when you are speaking, let's say with a friend and you're gossiping and it's like mean gossip, you know, like that's a very low vibrational energy to be in.
[SPEAKER_00]: So always be cautious about that kind of energy around you.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like really important when you're actually
[SPEAKER_00]: Speaking positive thoughts and I sometimes like to catch myself in that too, especially if like I start complaining And I go on a tangent later.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, yeah, that didn't make me feel good actually like I actually feel more anxious after doing that This goes without saying but like the environment as I mentioned is huge for your vibration decluttering
[SPEAKER_00]: actually creates a really calm space.
[SPEAKER_00]: So try your best to do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know life happens and sometimes it's not like you can be doing all these deep cleans all the time, but even just making sure that everything has a place.
[SPEAKER_00]: So when you walk into something, you feel like you can breathe and it's intentional.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not like things are just everywhere and it's like a chaotic mess.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's a really good sign that you're mentally doing well, actually.
[SPEAKER_00]: They always say, as if a space is neat, that person is probably operating at a high frequency, truly, and it happens, you know, sometimes you have messy days, but try to be intentional and create that calming space for yourself because your home is meant to be your sacred space.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that also goes with saying, be careful with who you will allow into your life, but also into your home.
[SPEAKER_00]: Be careful about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've never really used to think about it that much because I just remember, you know, younger me loved a good house party.
[SPEAKER_00]: And while I still love a good house party, you know, you're think about how many energies you're allowing into your sacred space.
[SPEAKER_00]: And at those times, of course, I was renting, I had lived in a few places in Toronto, mostly condos, lived in some like more detached, older homes and everything.
[SPEAKER_00]: And my roommates and I loved to have house parties, honestly.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you're not thinking about that stuff as much when you're younger, obviously you're just having fun.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you really think about how many energies are coming into your home in and out, be cautious of that.
[SPEAKER_00]: You always want to make sure that the energy you bring into your home is genuine.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's authentic.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's people wishing good things for you because the evil eyes are real things seriously and just be cautious of that.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's more people that might be wishing on your downfall.
[SPEAKER_00]: more than you think and the people that you wouldn't even expect.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the connection part really ties in with this, surround yourself with supportive, authentic people.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you'll be able to tell who those people are.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you can sense there's judgment, there's a weird energy, do not be hesitant to cut that off.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're honestly doing that for your own good.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, simple habits to do this, start the day, do not check your phone because our phone is a place where we have access to so much information, so many energies are even seeing on an app.
[SPEAKER_00]: You need to be in a simple kind of mindset when you start your day, and that is being with yourself, so you start it with yourself, with your morning routine, and romanticize it a little bit.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can keep a journal, if you want to do a little journal entry, start to write things you're grateful for, and that will really start to show up the way you show up to people and to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'll really start to notice that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And don't be afraid to say no without guilt.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's something I'm always working on as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to talk about how being high vibrational does not mean being happy all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, you might, maybe look at someone who's very bubbly, they're out going, they're very energetic.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you might think that's high vibrational.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is definitely not what that means.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, that kind of like the high vibration actually comes within and how you feel about yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of times, like, a lot of people are operating in more of a selfish mindset.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're like competitive and not like a healthy competitive.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like competing with others.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe not wishing welfare others because they want to succeed over their peers.
[SPEAKER_00]: And because they have this insecurity, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: They need to be like on the top because how they show up.
[SPEAKER_00]: around other people matters a lot, like that is something they care about a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is definitely not high vibrational.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's actually coming from a very low vibrational place even if it comes off.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, as I mentioned, this person seems happy all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, definitely don't get that confused.
[SPEAKER_00]: High vibration comes with the peace within yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is how you can actually show up and be happy for other people.
[SPEAKER_00]: Genuinely, happy for other people.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because there was something I read that I was like, yes, like, retweet this a million times.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, someone else's success will never debunk your own success.
[SPEAKER_00]: But,
[SPEAKER_00]: Interestingly enough, sometimes when we're around people and you start to see like things that they're doing, people compare themselves all the time, especially if you're in the same vicinity or in the same age group, you're comparing, oh, this person is getting married, oh, I'm very single.
[SPEAKER_00]: This person is buying a house.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm nowhere near ready to buy a house.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like we are all on our own journey is but we as humans always compare and That is not a good thing to do and in that comparison you might be not even intentionally doing it But you might be low key like putting out this energy where you might not want someone to do
[SPEAKER_00]: as well because you're comparing yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, I'm not really there yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's funny because what does that even mean in terms of like doing well in life?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like does that does being married or being in a serious relationship or
[SPEAKER_00]: owning property, or someone who's traveled all around the world, like, is that what defines, like, success?
[SPEAKER_00]: Everyone is on their own individual journey.
[SPEAKER_00]: So make sure that you are paying attention to that, and knowing that that is not the case.
[SPEAKER_00]: And comparison is the worst thing you can do for yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: The myth is that...
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't ignore your real emotions.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should be able to feel all these things.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's the way how you can work on your emotions, to kind of continue to lean into that frequency.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're like, yes, you're going to be always experiencing different emotions throughout your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to be going through sad times, angry times the hard times.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's how you can like channel that and then lean into.
[SPEAKER_00]: back into yourself so you don't get too lost in those emotions and good example is that like I can get very excitable or attached and maybe something doesn't work out in the way I'd hoped I will be upset right and while that is a very human reaction to have it's how I can channel that and continue to move forward.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think those are signs of showing like you're increasing your frequency, you're not like stewing in that for so long or feeling upset that something didn't work out when you really wanted to.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that like leaning into this is knowing nothing will pass you if it's actually meant for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you're actually more leaning into like alignment with yourself and less of like I wanted this and then it didn't work out kind of mentality.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, we all know this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, and I've talked about this so many times, growth is not linear.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be so many low moments, there's going to be really high moments, and that's all a part of the human experience.
[SPEAKER_00]: Always know that even if you feel like things are going in the right direction and I'm going up if something sets you back, that's okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's also part of the journey.
[SPEAKER_00]: Avoid toxic positivity.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think people might think that like being high vibrational means like,
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I can be sad, but I have to make sure like I channel this happiness because that's the only way I can like increase my frequency.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is definitely not it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can you can feel sad and you can feel emotions or you can feel anger.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's about staying true to those emotions, feeling the feelings and dealing with it in more of a healthy way, not in a way that's going to keep getting you down the rabbit hole, which is going to ultimately lower your vibration.
[SPEAKER_00]: But always be authentic.
[SPEAKER_00]: People really appreciate authenticity.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you can kind of sense when there's like a toxic positivity.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's definitely like a very clear thing and people just appreciate the realness.
[SPEAKER_00]: the true alignment or choosing that high vibration is acknowledging when things maybe aren't working your way or acknowledging like when you thought things would work out in a certain way but it's not but you're continuing to choose that growth and learn from the lessons and it's not always an easy thing to do but when you start to do it you'll notice yourself feeling better.
[SPEAKER_00]: So people talk about this all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've seen it on social media, too, like choosing the soft life, which I like, I actually really do like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think choosing a soft life, meaning we're slowing down, like even when you're moving throughout your day, you're making sure you're intentional with your mornings, you're starting it off, slow and soft.
[SPEAKER_00]: And yeah, even if you have a busy day, it's you're moving in a way that's more intentional.
[SPEAKER_00]: because when you're rushing, it's causing you stress, it's causing your cortisol to rise, and that's never a good feeling.
[SPEAKER_00]: Start to heal in community spaces that make you feel really, really good, and this kind of helps with your social time too.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're protecting your energy in professional spaces too, social spaces.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's why so many of us, especially as we like millennials who are in their 30s are now kind of navigating that, as you're navigating
[SPEAKER_00]: You want to pursue things that actually do make you feel aligned, what is something that makes you feel happy, you're not settling.
[SPEAKER_00]: So to the room for us listeners, I do want to ask you this and feel free to send me a message once you answer these questions because I kind of want to open this up for you to really really think about.
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe these can be some like journal prompts for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: The prompts are what currently drains my energy.
[SPEAKER_00]: What makes me feel most aligned?
[SPEAKER_00]: Where in my life do I need stronger boundaries?
[SPEAKER_00]: What does my eyes self look like if I had to picture it?
[SPEAKER_00]: And what is one habit I can adopt to raise my vibration this week?
[SPEAKER_00]: really really think about that and I'm going to do the same thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to write my journal entries down and for anyone who's comfortable I can also share what I wrote back.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think this is a pretty good practice to start to place if you want to kind of work on your frequency and channel that Anita energy in a way that is like
[SPEAKER_00]: Literally why I wanted to do this episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was really inspired by her interview.
[SPEAKER_00]: It made me feel like these are things I also really want to work on because I can catch myself when I'm on a little bit more of a low vibe and I want to change that and not in a toxic positivity way.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a way where I think that I can look at life in a different lens.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, and it makes me feel a lot better internally for sure.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I catch myself all the time when I get into these negative mindsets.
[SPEAKER_00]: I start speaking a little more negatively.
[SPEAKER_00]: I start speaking like, you know, it's the be all end all.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, I think that's that happens.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm human as long as I'm aware of those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can consciously like start to work and let those things go.
[SPEAKER_00]: but I hope that you enjoyed this episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for tuning in and listening in as you do every week and let me know what you thought and let me know if you have any tips yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would be really really curious to hear.
[SPEAKER_00]: I hope you have a really great night or day wherever you are and I will see you all next week.