WEBVTT 00:02.377 --> 00:13.931 [SPEAKER_00]: Christian parenting welcome to part three of this little mini series that we're just talking about homeschooling specific children and their personalities. 00:13.991 --> 00:15.473 [SPEAKER_00]: Now there are a lot out there. 00:15.493 --> 00:23.663 [SPEAKER_00]: I just kind of picked out the main ones that I'm the most familiar with, but if you have some other questions about different types of personalities, send me a quick email. 00:23.683 --> 00:24.063 [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know. 00:24.124 --> 00:29.430 [SPEAKER_00]: I'd love to maybe encourage you 00:29.410 --> 00:31.838 [SPEAKER_00]: But you hear the phrase compliant child. 00:31.958 --> 00:33.845 [SPEAKER_00]: And of course, we all want one of those. 00:33.905 --> 00:37.095 [SPEAKER_00]: We want three of those, five of those, 10 of those. 00:37.156 --> 00:39.724 [SPEAKER_00]: That would make life so much easier, right? 00:39.940 --> 00:43.987 [SPEAKER_00]: but each personality presents itself with challenges. 00:44.047 --> 00:46.251 [SPEAKER_00]: There are challenges to your personality. 00:46.271 --> 00:55.628 [SPEAKER_00]: There are challenges to your husband's personality and the two of you together are, it becomes very obvious the challenges in his personality from your view and your personality challenges from his view. 00:55.668 --> 01:04.885 [SPEAKER_00]: One of those, when it comes to the compliant child, the challenge is in teaching them and them knowing how to create boundaries. 01:04.865 --> 01:27.284 [SPEAKER_00]: They will very easily say, yes, whether they're two years old, 12 years old or 22 years old, but for their safety, for their physical and mental and emotional safety, they need to know how to create and maintain boundaries and how to use their personality for the good of those around them and for God's glory. 01:27.464 --> 01:29.708 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's what we're going to tackle in today's episode. 01:31.780 --> 01:34.024 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Little By Little Home School podcast. 01:34.064 --> 01:35.246 [SPEAKER_00]: I am your host, Lina Wend. 01:35.326 --> 01:36.087 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad that you're here. 01:36.208 --> 01:44.381 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I mentioned earlier, this is the third episode in just a three episode, little mini series about specific personalities. 01:44.442 --> 01:51.013 [SPEAKER_00]: If you did not listen to the other two, just go ahead, head back, click back two more, and you can find those different episodes. 01:51.053 --> 01:55.881 [SPEAKER_00]: But I am glad that you are here, and we know that homeschooling is not just the academics. 01:55.861 --> 02:10.522 [SPEAKER_00]: There is so much more involved and there should be so much more involved because at the end of the day they aren't going to remember all the dates from that war and all the generals that fought in that war but they will remember the big broader picture and that is what homeschool teaches them. 02:10.542 --> 02:12.044 [SPEAKER_00]: They will remember the time with you. 02:12.344 --> 02:13.706 [SPEAKER_00]: They will have those relationships. 02:13.766 --> 02:17.852 [SPEAKER_00]: They will have that foundation of biblical truth and that is the goal. 02:18.373 --> 02:24.822 [SPEAKER_00]: So let's get into today's episode and specifically talk about the compliant child and encouraging them in creating boundaries. 02:27.282 --> 02:31.727 [SPEAKER_00]: let's start off and talk about some of the signs of a compliant child. 02:32.728 --> 02:37.694 [SPEAKER_00]: This child, again, were there too, 12, 22, and you'll recognize this from a young age. 02:37.994 --> 02:41.398 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you have a child that is 15, you're like, are they compliant? 02:41.538 --> 02:44.201 [SPEAKER_00]: You know already, if they are, or they heard not. 02:44.822 --> 02:50.888 [SPEAKER_00]: As a compliant child is, their default is going to be, yes, it might be follow with a yes ma'am, yes sir. 02:50.949 --> 02:54.032 [SPEAKER_00]: They will just say yes to things. 02:54.012 --> 02:58.602 [SPEAKER_00]: They're often sensitive to what others need and what others are feeling. 02:58.642 --> 03:07.781 [SPEAKER_00]: They're observant, and they take in that observation, and then they grow in sensitivity, and they try to meet the needs of those around them. 03:07.821 --> 03:11.008 [SPEAKER_00]: They're also just very compassionate. 03:10.988 --> 03:27.367 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, they will recognize things that maybe that strongwill child that we talked about in the last episode just might not recognize, but they want to help others and they are often a company these feelings of being sensitive and being observant and being compassionate. 03:27.828 --> 03:32.473 [SPEAKER_00]: It also typically follows with some type of action. 03:32.453 --> 03:43.261 [SPEAKER_00]: For example, they notice that you, the mom that you're sitting on the couch, you look weary, downtrodden, maybe they know that there was just a power struggle between you and their strong wheels sibling. 03:43.823 --> 03:45.467 [SPEAKER_00]: And they might say, you know what? 03:46.223 --> 03:52.757 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom actually likes a cup of tea right now, or you know, I think I know where that secret status of chocolate is that mom has. 03:52.777 --> 03:53.298 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, you know what? 03:53.860 --> 03:57.047 [SPEAKER_00]: I think she just needs someone's hand to hold right now. 03:57.668 --> 03:59.171 [SPEAKER_00]: And they will take action on that. 04:00.093 --> 04:04.182 [SPEAKER_00]: But they also are just very readily willing to say yes. 04:04.162 --> 04:08.371 [SPEAKER_00]: they could be just a couple years old and you could say go and get that for me or go clean up those toys. 04:08.551 --> 04:09.674 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, and they'll go and do it. 04:09.914 --> 04:14.103 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe they're young and they don't quite get them the yes, quite out, but they just go and do that. 04:14.163 --> 04:15.727 [SPEAKER_00]: They want to be helpful. 04:16.167 --> 04:17.490 [SPEAKER_00]: They want to hear you sing their praises. 04:17.611 --> 04:20.797 [SPEAKER_00]: They want to hear you say, thank you so much or that was a really good job. 04:20.817 --> 04:23.283 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's important for compliant children to hear. 04:23.343 --> 04:24.465 [SPEAKER_00]: So don't 04:24.800 --> 04:44.623 [SPEAKER_00]: Think that those are not important that they are always just doing it for sometimes for the self gratification just inward, but they also really do thrive on that thank you very much and being Recognized recognizing just a little things that the compliant child does but there can be a secret rebellion underneath and we'll get into that in a little bit. 04:45.203 --> 04:48.327 [SPEAKER_00]: There are pros and cons when it comes to the compliant child. 04:48.577 --> 04:51.842 [SPEAKER_00]: The pros are that people often love these children. 04:52.263 --> 04:53.404 [SPEAKER_00]: They are trustworthy. 04:53.945 --> 05:00.916 [SPEAKER_00]: They are the ones that can maybe be the teacher can leave the Sunday school classroom and leave them in charge for a couple of minutes. 05:01.457 --> 05:03.039 [SPEAKER_00]: I was totally that as a young child. 05:03.380 --> 05:04.241 [SPEAKER_00]: I was the teacher's pet. 05:04.281 --> 05:05.042 [SPEAKER_00]: I went to public school. 05:05.423 --> 05:10.230 [SPEAKER_00]: I was always the teacher's pet and I didn't always win me awards with the other students, but. 05:10.210 --> 05:34.902 [SPEAKER_00]: People in general tend to love the compliant children because it's so much easier right with a compliant child with someone who's going to say yes, I'll do that math worksheet as opposed to the child's going to say no you're going to have to make me do that math worksheet. 05:35.067 --> 05:41.446 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, the cons, which we're going to focus in a bit today, is that they can be easily taken advantage of. 05:42.750 --> 05:48.908 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is my focus today that latter part that the fact that they can be easily taken advantage of who want to teach them how to create boundaries. 05:49.529 --> 05:51.391 [SPEAKER_00]: so that they are not taking advantage of. 05:52.172 --> 06:05.325 [SPEAKER_00]: First, I do want to say that a compliant child can fool you into thinking that they believe and trust the gospel and they love Jesus and they can very easily recite all the words. 06:05.345 --> 06:08.188 [SPEAKER_00]: They can be in Bible quizzing and be the number one kid in Bible quizzing. 06:08.529 --> 06:16.397 [SPEAKER_00]: They could have all of their for American heritage girls, all of those badges and all of those words and maybe trail life 06:16.647 --> 06:21.934 [SPEAKER_00]: whatever organization they could they could talk to talk and walk the walk. 06:21.954 --> 06:23.856 [SPEAKER_00]: But their heart has not been shaped. 06:24.117 --> 06:25.959 [SPEAKER_00]: They are just going through the motions. 06:26.360 --> 06:41.980 [SPEAKER_00]: Do not let their compliance or just simply their attendance or their willingness to attend all of the different Bible camps and to go to church every Sunday without ever saying anything like, oh, I don't really want to go where oh. 06:41.960 --> 06:44.323 [SPEAKER_00]: I got to get dressed into nice clothing to go to church. 06:44.963 --> 06:50.790 [SPEAKER_00]: They might just very easily go along with everything, but don't assume that that's their heart posture. 06:51.511 --> 06:54.014 [SPEAKER_00]: And so watch and observe as a parent. 06:54.634 --> 06:59.780 [SPEAKER_00]: And just like I talked about in the last episode and the one before that relationship is really important. 06:59.980 --> 07:02.743 [SPEAKER_00]: We don't always know what's going on in a child's heart in mind. 07:02.863 --> 07:06.027 [SPEAKER_00]: And I remember specifically, 07:06.007 --> 07:12.557 [SPEAKER_00]: just by mind being blown with, I will say my firstborn because obviously is the first child that I have raised. 07:13.246 --> 07:18.752 [SPEAKER_00]: And when they're little, everything, there is no inner dialogue going on in their head. 07:18.772 --> 07:20.855 [SPEAKER_00]: There's nothing going on inside their head. 07:20.875 --> 07:23.638 [SPEAKER_00]: It's basically what I think is coming right out. 07:23.738 --> 07:28.804 [SPEAKER_00]: And you know all of their thoughts and their feelings about everything, right? 07:29.365 --> 07:35.492 [SPEAKER_00]: That can be draining for us because we're like, it's can we have a moment of silence here? 07:35.512 --> 07:38.976 [SPEAKER_00]: There's just lots of talking and multiple kids and there's just a lot of things. 07:39.096 --> 07:40.097 [SPEAKER_00]: And then 07:40.077 --> 07:41.379 [SPEAKER_00]: They start to think more in their head. 07:42.020 --> 07:44.263 [SPEAKER_00]: And as they get older, just more and more is in their head. 07:44.683 --> 07:46.546 [SPEAKER_00]: Some kids are going to be natural just gabbers. 07:46.566 --> 07:48.949 [SPEAKER_00]: They're going to still tell you a lot that's going on. 07:49.129 --> 07:51.793 [SPEAKER_00]: But I just never be like, oh, I don't know everything. 07:51.973 --> 07:53.395 [SPEAKER_00]: That's going on in their head anymore. 07:53.956 --> 08:00.705 [SPEAKER_00]: And so we need to be observant, we need to have conversations, we need to take time, one on one, which each with each child doesn't have to be anything extravagant. 08:01.125 --> 08:05.171 [SPEAKER_00]: It can simply be maybe just sitting in the backyard with that child or everybody else's inside. 08:05.671 --> 08:09.797 [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, everybody else's inside is okay. 08:10.148 --> 08:10.996 [SPEAKER_00]: But, please. 08:11.296 --> 08:19.283 [SPEAKER_00]: Applying at children can easily just go through the motions and fool you and it's not always in a conniving kind of way. 08:20.004 --> 08:32.135 [SPEAKER_00]: They've just been so much just saying yes that they didn't realize that there really is a relationship that needs to be cultivated and sanctification and the relationship of the Jesus that needs to be grown in them. 08:32.395 --> 08:33.796 [SPEAKER_00]: So watch out for that. 08:33.916 --> 08:41.303 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the part of that rebellion is and then they can become rebellious afterwards after they get out of your 08:41.283 --> 08:48.231 [SPEAKER_00]: But the number one fear of a parent with a compliant child is that this child will be taken advantage of. 08:49.732 --> 08:54.217 [SPEAKER_00]: Those strong-willed children that we talked about earlier this week, it can be a bit harder. 08:54.297 --> 08:59.383 [SPEAKER_00]: Doesn't mean they can't be taken advantage of, but they are going to let you know what they think about things. 09:00.144 --> 09:07.392 [SPEAKER_00]: And they might not go along with things, but a compliant child often wants to make those around them happy. 09:08.148 --> 09:16.352 [SPEAKER_00]: And therefore this can be a bit of a challenge when it comes to this because we want to we have to protect them. 09:16.518 --> 09:23.466 [SPEAKER_00]: And one of those ways of protecting them, especially as they get older, is allowing them to see your own boundaries. 09:23.867 --> 09:27.050 [SPEAKER_00]: The fact that mom doesn't say yes to everybody. 09:27.871 --> 09:36.301 [SPEAKER_00]: And a very big thing, especially if you recognize that you have a young child that is very compliant, we'll go along with things. 09:36.321 --> 09:41.968 [SPEAKER_00]: You have to talk to them about inappropriate behavior from other people. 09:41.948 --> 09:47.056 [SPEAKER_00]: There are many resources, there are books out there, there are speakers, there are all kinds of things out there. 09:47.336 --> 09:59.436 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to get into the details here, I'm not an expert on this, but I want you to make sure that you're having conversations with your children about what is appropriate with other people and with other children as well. 09:59.896 --> 10:05.425 [SPEAKER_00]: Because other children can take advantage physically, mentally, emotionally, with other children. 10:06.097 --> 10:13.204 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I want you to make sure that you are having conversations, you're reading books, you're using resources so that this child knows that they can say no. 10:13.572 --> 10:20.704 [SPEAKER_00]: to this adult, this adult that's possibly starting to try to groom them, or they're skipping all the grooming and is just inappropriately touching them. 10:21.345 --> 10:30.179 [SPEAKER_00]: They have to know that that is not okay, and a compliant child will very easily go along with things because there is an authority figure and they want to make that person happy. 10:30.720 --> 10:33.345 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is not the goal of life is to make everybody happy. 10:33.405 --> 10:34.567 [SPEAKER_00]: We're not going to make everybody happy. 10:35.728 --> 10:40.356 [SPEAKER_00]: And they need to say no and you need to teach them how to say no and how to get out of the situation. 10:40.893 --> 10:47.562 [SPEAKER_00]: So we don't want them to be taken advantage of and that is a great fear that parents have of compliant children, especially when they're younger. 10:47.722 --> 10:56.394 [SPEAKER_00]: As they get older, it might not necessarily be them being taken advantage of in some type of physical way, but some type of emotional or mental way. 10:56.454 --> 10:59.519 [SPEAKER_00]: And so it kind of can shift a little bit as they get older. 10:59.699 --> 11:07.930 [SPEAKER_00]: But please don't assume that you're a young child or elementary school student knows how to say no and how it knows how to say 11:07.910 --> 11:11.696 [SPEAKER_00]: in a firm way and knows how to get out of a situation if you don't teach them that. 11:11.756 --> 11:22.051 [SPEAKER_00]: So teach them with directions and words that are appropriate to their age and sometimes with compliant children, they're more sensitive and they don't maybe kind of understand as much. 11:22.111 --> 11:26.418 [SPEAKER_00]: So you have to just kind of take things whereas a strong will child you can maybe let out say it to them. 11:26.959 --> 11:35.031 [SPEAKER_00]: A compliant child we just need to be a little more sensitive to how we're saying it because if you were to say the same thing that you would say to a strong will child they might just take it as like 11:35.011 --> 11:37.396 [SPEAKER_00]: but hurt our feelings way even more. 11:37.416 --> 11:38.017 [SPEAKER_00]: They just take it. 11:38.037 --> 11:40.081 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just too harsh of words. 11:40.281 --> 11:45.592 [SPEAKER_00]: So a compliant child, unfortunately, can be very easily influenced. 11:46.554 --> 11:48.578 [SPEAKER_00]: Influence for good, influenced for bad. 11:49.279 --> 11:52.646 [SPEAKER_00]: And so we need to teach them that it's okay to say no. 11:53.347 --> 11:56.293 [SPEAKER_00]: And teach them how to say no in different situations. 11:56.813 --> 12:01.019 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, going back to maybe an adult taking advantage of them or doing something inappropriate. 12:01.359 --> 12:07.107 [SPEAKER_00]: That is a time that we say no firmly and loudly and we get out of the situation. 12:07.888 --> 12:11.593 [SPEAKER_00]: And then as I get older, we teach them how to say no graciously. 12:12.194 --> 12:23.008 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe an adult has asked them, I don't know, they volunteer at church and an adult has asked us, trade them times and for maybe kids church or something like that. 12:23.148 --> 12:26.533 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just isn't really necessarily going to work 12:26.513 --> 12:29.638 [SPEAKER_00]: be in that specific classroom and teaching kids is a teen. 12:30.419 --> 12:41.315 [SPEAKER_00]: Teach them how to say no graciously, but also teach them it's okay sometimes to be a little uncomfortable, maybe teaching the that certain age of kids that we don't really feel comfortable and we got to teach you something through that. 12:41.996 --> 12:51.390 [SPEAKER_00]: But as they get older, teaching them how to say no to a lot of different situations and watch out for them, watch out for your compliant child. 12:52.113 --> 13:14.526 [SPEAKER_00]: As they continue to get older, we're going to watch out for our children of all ages, but specifically that compliant child just kind of keep an eye and an ear out at all times and often with those children we can sense that's something just a little bit off that maybe they are feeling a little uncomfortable, but just knowing them really well and just kind of having an ear to the ground and saying, 13:14.506 --> 13:19.381 [SPEAKER_00]: This person is going to contact you, they ask me for your, this is a real-life situation, they ask me for your number. 13:19.421 --> 13:21.608 [SPEAKER_00]: And is it okay if I give them your number? 13:21.648 --> 13:26.102 [SPEAKER_00]: Because I think they want to ask you about something to help out volunteer, whatever. 13:27.280 --> 13:29.642 [SPEAKER_00]: It is okay to say no. 13:30.122 --> 13:32.524 [SPEAKER_00]: And we can talk through how to graciously do that. 13:33.045 --> 13:35.767 [SPEAKER_00]: But also just, I don't think we always have the dance around. 13:35.787 --> 13:39.170 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think I'm playing at children have to be taught to like, obviously not to lie. 13:39.530 --> 13:41.952 [SPEAKER_00]: And we don't always have to soften the blow for somebody. 13:42.152 --> 13:43.754 [SPEAKER_00]: We can simply say no, I'm sorry. 13:43.814 --> 13:44.855 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not able to do that. 13:45.175 --> 13:46.316 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the kind way to do it. 13:46.957 --> 13:52.681 [SPEAKER_00]: But it's teaching our compliant children to say no, from a young age, all the way up. 13:53.402 --> 13:57.085 [SPEAKER_00]: And as they get older, we get to model. 13:57.065 --> 14:01.734 [SPEAKER_00]: and talk them through boundaries for different relationships. 14:02.135 --> 14:03.257 [SPEAKER_00]: So these are made for friends. 14:03.457 --> 14:06.483 [SPEAKER_00]: This would be relationships maybe grandparents or aunts and uncles. 14:06.904 --> 14:18.185 [SPEAKER_00]: This could be as they get older for bosses and co-workers and you know like you don't need to give your phone number out to every co-worker and just because you work with them doesn't mean that you have to be friends with them. 14:18.245 --> 14:19.107 [SPEAKER_00]: You can just 14:19.087 --> 14:21.349 [SPEAKER_00]: simply work and work well together. 14:21.529 --> 14:23.571 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to hang out with them outside of work. 14:23.692 --> 14:26.715 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't need to be your be, you know, new BFF, maybe they are. 14:27.135 --> 14:30.158 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a great fit, but we don't have to do those things. 14:30.238 --> 14:34.923 [SPEAKER_00]: We can create those boundaries and just interact with that person at work. 14:34.943 --> 14:44.352 [SPEAKER_00]: But as there's different relationships when it comes to dating, how do we create those boundaries to be able to protect ourselves? 14:44.332 --> 14:49.971 [SPEAKER_00]: And just overall the fact that they don't have to say yes to every request that somebody has. 14:50.643 --> 14:55.189 [SPEAKER_00]: It is very nice of compliant children to want to please others and to be helpful. 14:55.229 --> 14:59.035 [SPEAKER_00]: That's often what is at the root of it is they want to be helpful. 14:59.195 --> 15:00.677 [SPEAKER_00]: They want to be a blessing. 15:00.757 --> 15:03.641 [SPEAKER_00]: And so they look at it as if all of I create some boundaries. 15:03.681 --> 15:07.166 [SPEAKER_00]: And I say no, then that isn't me being helpful. 15:07.807 --> 15:18.962 [SPEAKER_00]: And as compliant children get older, it is I've just found that I say more and more that you don't have to solve everybody's problems. 15:18.942 --> 15:23.208 [SPEAKER_00]: and if you're not available to do that, they'll find somebody else. 15:23.568 --> 15:31.999 [SPEAKER_00]: Just like when I've asked somebody, maybe to do something and they have said no, I didn't sit around and lament and grieve over the fact that somebody said no. 15:32.160 --> 15:34.102 [SPEAKER_00]: I just said, okay, well, that person's not going to work out. 15:34.262 --> 15:35.724 [SPEAKER_00]: Let me move on to the next person. 15:35.784 --> 15:37.246 [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay. 15:37.587 --> 15:38.969 [SPEAKER_00]: They will find somebody else. 15:39.529 --> 15:40.090 [SPEAKER_00]: And 15:40.525 --> 15:42.207 [SPEAKER_00]: That's going to, that goes both ways. 15:42.248 --> 15:45.492 [SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be times of the compliant child that's going to be told no. 15:46.173 --> 15:48.517 [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes, compliance children are very shocked. 15:48.978 --> 15:49.438 [SPEAKER_00]: What do you mean? 15:49.639 --> 15:49.799 [SPEAKER_00]: No. 15:49.999 --> 15:51.541 [SPEAKER_00]: I thought we'd just all said, yes, to everything. 15:51.942 --> 15:53.705 [SPEAKER_00]: And talking them through that and say, just didn't work with them. 15:54.025 --> 15:54.686 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't take offense. 15:55.327 --> 15:56.268 [SPEAKER_00]: It don't take it personal. 15:56.989 --> 15:57.590 [SPEAKER_00]: Go move on. 15:57.851 --> 15:59.153 [SPEAKER_00]: Find someone else to fill that position. 16:00.194 --> 16:00.795 [SPEAKER_00]: But 16:01.298 --> 16:03.583 [SPEAKER_00]: The compliance can be a gift. 16:03.844 --> 16:14.607 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know why I talked a little bit about the cons because that's kind of the bit of the focus is helping them to create boundaries and that can be something that is negative and hard and not natural for the compliant child. 16:15.369 --> 16:16.692 [SPEAKER_00]: But this can be a gift. 16:16.672 --> 16:32.908 [SPEAKER_00]: show them that, show them that their willingness to love others and to be helpful and to be kind and generous and compassionate, that that is a good thing and that God has given them that gift, that gift of wanting to be helpful to other people. 16:32.888 --> 16:35.811 [SPEAKER_00]: There are some of us who that is not a natural bent. 16:36.251 --> 16:47.701 [SPEAKER_00]: And so if God has given that to them as a natural bent, show them that it is a good thing and help them to channel it into good things, while creating some boundaries and protecting them physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. 16:48.382 --> 16:52.045 [SPEAKER_00]: But we also need to teach our children as they get older, the compliant ones. 16:52.846 --> 17:02.254 [SPEAKER_00]: We need to teach them that in some areas of life that compliance isn't going to be the best solution. 17:02.234 --> 17:06.321 [SPEAKER_00]: if you have a compliant boy, yes, me, I'm yes, and they just go along with things as they get older. 17:06.361 --> 17:08.253 [SPEAKER_00]: Some day they're going to be leading a family. 17:08.656 --> 17:09.038 [SPEAKER_00]: And... 17:10.402 --> 17:39.801 [SPEAKER_00]: they're going to be told no and times and how do you lead a family and how do you not say yes to everything if you are leading a family someday you have a wife and you have children and you say yes to every single request that somebody has of you you're not going to be around your family you're going to busy or you're going to get your family so busy and so overrun with so many things so teaching them when they're young to create those boundaries and that goes for young women too that goes for our girls as well but I just kind of want to specifically talk about that 17:39.781 --> 17:45.109 [SPEAKER_00]: with boys if you have a boy that is kind of lean towards being compliant but this is a good gift. 17:45.210 --> 18:03.358 [SPEAKER_00]: It is just a gift of compassion and mercy and understanding and sensitivity and a willingness and a wanting to help others and when their heart is focused on the gospel they want to use that to give God glory and to share their faith with others and so it can be a really good thing. 18:03.338 --> 18:05.403 [SPEAKER_00]: but it's also teaching them as parents. 18:05.423 --> 18:07.528 [SPEAKER_00]: This is more than just the academic so many homeschool. 18:07.869 --> 18:21.482 [SPEAKER_00]: It's teaching them how to navigate through life with the natural vents and the way that God has created them and seeing those things as gifts and how can we do that in a way that protects them mind, body, and spirit? 18:21.462 --> 18:23.064 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for listening to today's episode. 18:23.104 --> 18:30.153 [SPEAKER_00]: If you enjoy little by little homeschool podcasts, there is one way that you can really specifically bless the podcast. 18:30.173 --> 18:32.316 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is to leave a podcast review. 18:32.396 --> 18:34.980 [SPEAKER_00]: No matter what app you're on, I think you can probably leave review. 18:35.520 --> 18:37.383 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