WEBVTT 00:02.377 --> 00:24.739 [SPEAKER_00]: Christian parenting you woke up today and said this is the day I am going to have so much self-control and I'm going to ignore all of the distractions and focus completely on homeschool and it's going to be so good and it's going to be so much peace on our home and then within a few minutes you've gotten distracted or maybe it's an hour or so you had a good solid hour and got distracted. 00:24.719 --> 00:25.561 [SPEAKER_00]: I know how it is. 00:25.941 --> 00:27.143 [SPEAKER_00]: We all deal with it. 00:27.164 --> 00:35.218 [SPEAKER_00]: There's so much going on in the world and so many things that are pulling our minds away from the good work that is in front of us. 00:35.900 --> 00:48.583 [SPEAKER_00]: But today's episode, my goal here is to help you identify your biggest distractions right now and then give you steps to resolve those so that you can then focus on what is right in front of you. 00:48.563 --> 01:03.343 [SPEAKER_00]: on your home education and the Christian motherhood of your children this day and be 100 percent present right there in this moment, this minute right now with your kids because that is what your heart truly wants. 01:03.684 --> 01:05.706 [SPEAKER_00]: You know that that is what God wants to. 01:06.067 --> 01:15.820 [SPEAKER_00]: He has given you these precious souls and you have this time to devote to their home education and I'm so glad that you are doing 01:15.800 --> 01:26.500 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want to remind you, as we get into more of the depth into the meat of this episode, that Jesus says in John 1427, he says, peace I leave with you. 01:26.941 --> 01:28.304 [SPEAKER_00]: My peace I give to you. 01:28.645 --> 01:34.776 [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't say, I'm going to leave you all this worry and I'm going to leave you all this stress and all of this commotion. 01:34.977 --> 01:35.698 [SPEAKER_00]: No. 01:35.678 --> 01:42.416 [SPEAKER_00]: piece I leave with you, my piece I give to you, not as the world gives, do I give to you? 01:42.456 --> 01:44.481 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the world's going to offer you some peace. 01:44.722 --> 01:50.397 [SPEAKER_00]: They're going to say they've got peace for you, but that is not the peace that passes all understanding, absolutely not. 01:50.883 --> 01:53.871 [SPEAKER_00]: goes on to say, let not your heart be troubled. 01:54.272 --> 01:55.656 [SPEAKER_00]: Neither let them be afraid. 01:56.318 --> 02:06.867 [SPEAKER_00]: And when we have so many distractions, I know for myself, I get to the end of the day and I was distracted and not stick to my plans and not stick to the good things that I knew I needed to do. 02:06.847 --> 02:10.196 [SPEAKER_00]: at the end of the day my heart was troubled and I think you feel that as well. 02:10.316 --> 02:21.004 [SPEAKER_00]: So let's get into this now we're going to identify some biggest distractions that you're going to face and you do face every day as well as some distractions that your kids face because let's be honest here. 02:21.044 --> 02:22.307 [SPEAKER_00]: That can 02:22.287 --> 02:42.486 [SPEAKER_00]: cause there to be disturbances in the day and not to have peace in the day and so then I'm going to give you some steps on how to resolve them because I really want you just to be there and to have peace because what better way to layer heads down at the end of the day and go to sleep and just have that peace that peace that Jesus believes with you. 02:42.826 --> 02:44.329 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's get into it now. 02:44.663 --> 02:52.040 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for hitting play on this podcast episode and this is little by little homeschool podcasts and I am your host, Lee Nguyen. 02:52.642 --> 02:58.195 [SPEAKER_00]: So, so glad that you are here and I am a homeschool mom, just like you. 02:58.315 --> 03:02.284 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe like you, I wasn't planning on homeschooling but I look back and like it was just 03:02.264 --> 03:11.323 [SPEAKER_00]: Best decision ever and I'm just like, thank you Lord every day for leading me that into that decision Were there times that I wanted to quit and give up? 03:11.343 --> 03:18.298 [SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely yes, but in my sane moments I would take to my husband do not let me quit no matter what I say 03:18.278 --> 03:21.906 [SPEAKER_00]: He's like, all right, I kept him, gotcha. 03:21.926 --> 03:25.815 [SPEAKER_00]: And so in those moments, he would not say, okay, go ahead, that's fine, you can quit. 03:25.835 --> 03:27.379 [SPEAKER_00]: He would say, how can I help? 03:27.740 --> 03:35.578 [SPEAKER_00]: What can I do and what are some things we can resolve and how can we kind of pivot and change so we can make this work for this season? 03:35.558 --> 03:47.114 [SPEAKER_00]: So at the end of the home swing journey I wasn't a crazy lady and I'm at the end and I don't think I'm a crazy lady I don't know they might say something different But anyway, I'm glad that you are here for this episode. 03:47.235 --> 03:48.960 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's get into today's topic 03:49.767 --> 03:56.234 [SPEAKER_00]: One last thing, before we do get into that topic, I wanted to share with you, and event that is happening next month. 03:56.695 --> 04:02.401 [SPEAKER_00]: Teach them diligently is going to be occurring on May 7th through 9th in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee. 04:02.521 --> 04:04.243 [SPEAKER_00]: And guess what, I'm gonna be there. 04:04.543 --> 04:09.589 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna have a table and I would love to be able to meet you, to interact with you. 04:09.629 --> 04:11.031 [SPEAKER_00]: And we'll do like a little meet up. 04:11.091 --> 04:13.093 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll share some information about that at some point here. 04:13.553 --> 04:15.355 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you are going, send me an email. 04:15.556 --> 04:19.420 [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know so I can put together that information 04:19.400 --> 04:40.497 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you are interested in attending teach some diligently, it is just it's just such a blessing when you get together with other Christian homeschool families who have a similar mission, you know, we have this one big mission and we just have like little different visions and different goals in different ways of accomplishing that, but you just get into a room and when there's times of 04:40.477 --> 04:43.285 [SPEAKER_00]: just worship and you're like, oh, these are my people. 04:43.486 --> 04:49.864 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you have an opportunity, there are other conferences to do and teach them diligently, does have one in Branson, Missouri, but I will not be at that one. 04:50.205 --> 04:55.600 [SPEAKER_00]: I will, however, be in pigeon forge, Tennessee from May 7th through 9th and so you can go to teach them diligently. 04:55.580 --> 04:57.203 [SPEAKER_00]: to get conference tickets. 04:57.744 --> 05:02.031 [SPEAKER_00]: If you would like to go through my affiliate link for it, I would be so blessed and be very thankful for that. 05:02.231 --> 05:04.695 [SPEAKER_00]: I will leave that link for you in the show notes. 05:04.715 --> 05:06.538 [SPEAKER_00]: So hopefully I get to see you next month. 05:06.598 --> 05:13.390 [SPEAKER_00]: And now, as promised, let's talk about the common distractions for you and for your children. 05:13.871 --> 05:16.575 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I'm going to share some ideas 05:16.555 --> 05:18.036 [SPEAKER_00]: then how to help you focus. 05:18.097 --> 05:21.500 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to share a common distraction, and then we're going to talk about some ideas. 05:21.820 --> 05:24.623 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I'll share another common distraction and share some ideas. 05:24.643 --> 05:31.129 [SPEAKER_00]: So for you, I have three, and then I'll close it out with just talking about your kids and some distractions that I noticed. 05:31.209 --> 05:45.043 [SPEAKER_00]: Because remember, the goal is more peaceful homeschool days, just a calmer atmosphere and one that just even when tensions rise and even when there are frustrations, 05:45.462 --> 05:50.728 [SPEAKER_00]: you can deal with the issues at hand because you have taken care of some of those distractions. 05:51.248 --> 06:04.823 [SPEAKER_00]: If you are so distracted and doing other things, when those come up, we don't fully deal with them or we just feel like, okay, I was too distracted doing all this and then some issues came up and we were crying over math again and the whole day's gone at this point. 06:05.684 --> 06:12.972 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, all right, let's get into now how to eliminate distractions for a more peaceful, homeschool day for you and your children. 06:12.952 --> 06:15.895 [SPEAKER_00]: First, I want you to be honest with yourself. 06:15.976 --> 06:20.221 [SPEAKER_00]: You probably already know what your trigger distractions are. 06:21.102 --> 06:22.664 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to share that with anybody. 06:23.124 --> 06:24.626 [SPEAKER_00]: You just need to be honest with yourself. 06:24.906 --> 06:25.687 [SPEAKER_00]: God already knows. 06:26.348 --> 06:29.351 [SPEAKER_00]: But the second part of that is to be honest with yourself and then surrender it to God. 06:29.872 --> 06:36.820 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you don't quite see these as distractions as things that are causing some disturbance, a lack of peace within your homeschool. 06:37.241 --> 06:39.904 [SPEAKER_00]: And so maybe just right now, 06:39.884 --> 06:46.892 [SPEAKER_00]: Show me right now reveal if this is an area that I'm struggling in and that I'm in denial over and then just surrender to God. 06:46.972 --> 07:00.749 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, God, I need you to help me walk me through making the corrections and the right steps that I need for this distraction so I can pour into our days and at the end of the day say thank you Jesus for your peace. 07:00.889 --> 07:07.697 [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I should insert a drum roll right now for the first one and you probably already know what it is. 07:07.846 --> 07:08.447 [SPEAKER_00]: it is your phone. 07:09.048 --> 07:14.095 [SPEAKER_00]: Your phone is a huge distraction and it is a huge distraction for everyone. 07:14.436 --> 07:16.058 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't care what anybody says. 07:16.178 --> 07:20.124 [SPEAKER_00]: Even if you don't have social media on your phone, it can still be a distraction. 07:20.445 --> 07:28.977 [SPEAKER_00]: And when you do have social media or games or other ways of maybe Marco Polo and just all these things will be able to communicate with other people. 07:28.957 --> 07:30.279 [SPEAKER_00]: it is a distraction. 07:30.599 --> 07:32.261 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a distraction for me as well. 07:32.662 --> 07:44.737 [SPEAKER_00]: So whether you are 25 or 50, which is my age, it's still as a distraction and we can see it so much in other people and then we say to ourselves, oh, I have it under control. 07:45.238 --> 07:58.255 [SPEAKER_00]: And maybe if you think you have it under control, maybe turn on your screen, I guess the screen time will tell you how much time you're spending on different apps 07:58.235 --> 07:59.938 [SPEAKER_00]: That might be the wake-up call that you need. 08:00.398 --> 08:02.522 [SPEAKER_00]: Because you might think, oh, I'm not on there very much. 08:02.822 --> 08:07.810 [SPEAKER_00]: And then you look at the end of the day and you're like, holy moly, I was on my phone for four hours today. 08:07.850 --> 08:09.753 [SPEAKER_00]: What kind of done with those four hours? 08:10.133 --> 08:13.599 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not saying that all that time is a waste of time. 08:14.019 --> 08:16.303 [SPEAKER_00]: But our phones are a big distraction. 08:17.345 --> 08:19.568 [SPEAKER_00]: Number one is you have to set boundaries. 08:20.020 --> 08:22.383 [SPEAKER_00]: Set some boundaries around your homeschool time. 08:22.644 --> 08:26.449 [SPEAKER_00]: Now I'd have talked about time blocks and I will put a link in the show notes. 08:26.489 --> 08:27.471 [SPEAKER_00]: It talks about time blocks. 08:27.831 --> 08:31.797 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot more about time blocks and how to set that up in your homeschool blueprint. 08:32.177 --> 08:40.890 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're like, I need a little more than just this episode and that other one in the show notes that go ahead and check out your homeschool blueprint, but you have to set some boundaries. 08:41.871 --> 08:45.797 [SPEAKER_00]: Tell the people that are maybe texting you often or calling you often. 08:46.077 --> 08:48.981 [SPEAKER_00]: Look, these are my homeschool hours. 08:49.400 --> 09:03.061 [SPEAKER_00]: I know that there's such a push to be like, oh, it's just kind of a free for all, okay, maybe there's a free for all, but you need maybe some undistracted time right then, set some boundaries and to say, I will not be answering your phone call from this time to this time. 09:03.883 --> 09:08.490 [SPEAKER_00]: Your husband maybe he's at work and you can just say, listen, don't call him unless there's an emergency. 09:08.790 --> 09:09.491 [SPEAKER_00]: There's something really important. 09:09.511 --> 09:16.302 [SPEAKER_00]: If there's just something you kind of forgot, you can text me and maybe you leave on, so, all right, let's get into silencing notifications. 09:17.311 --> 09:21.197 [SPEAKER_00]: maybe just put it on to you can just put it on to like a sleep mode. 09:21.498 --> 09:30.933 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if that's what it's called, but you can turn those certain notifications and only receive notifications from certain people, maybe it's only phone calls from certain people, only text messages from certain people. 09:31.354 --> 09:33.798 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, those still come through the text messages. 09:34.218 --> 09:35.961 [SPEAKER_00]: Your phone just isn't going to notify you. 09:35.941 --> 09:45.258 [SPEAKER_00]: So you put it aside, put it into another room, and maybe your husband only is allowed to feeling one that you have available is for him to be able to call you. 09:45.559 --> 09:52.552 [SPEAKER_00]: And so you'll hear that from another room, but all of those distractions of the text messages and everything won't be popping up. 09:53.473 --> 09:55.958 [SPEAKER_00]: A huge thing to do. 09:56.242 --> 09:58.769 [SPEAKER_00]: go into your email and turn off the notifications. 09:59.270 --> 10:02.178 [SPEAKER_00]: So that, the little box isn't popping up on your phone. 10:02.498 --> 10:09.617 [SPEAKER_00]: That's a district when you see how the corner your eye, like a little light, kind of, you know, the light on the screen, pop up, or social media. 10:09.797 --> 10:13.086 [SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely, there is no reason. 10:13.066 --> 10:20.594 [SPEAKER_00]: for you to have notifications on for Facebook or Instagram because you don't know these people personally. 10:20.895 --> 10:22.536 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, I don't know you personally. 10:22.637 --> 10:23.858 [SPEAKER_00]: I wish that we that I did. 10:24.439 --> 10:28.523 [SPEAKER_00]: But even from my social media, please turn off the notification for that. 10:28.623 --> 10:30.806 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to know the moment I post something. 10:31.346 --> 10:37.313 [SPEAKER_00]: When you have time, when it is a good time, you can go in and watch those stories and check up on people's posts. 10:37.753 --> 10:38.374 [SPEAKER_00]: That's fine. 10:38.394 --> 10:40.356 [SPEAKER_00]: When you have that time set aside. 10:40.336 --> 10:51.391 [SPEAKER_00]: But in the middle of a math lesson, you don't need to see that maybe your favorite home school account or maybe your favorite makeup account has posted a new real. 10:51.832 --> 10:53.154 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to know about that then. 10:53.234 --> 10:55.497 [SPEAKER_00]: That takes your brain into another zone. 10:55.958 --> 10:56.979 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's keep in the zone. 10:56.999 --> 10:58.922 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's keep in that math lesson zone. 10:58.942 --> 11:01.205 [SPEAKER_00]: So completely turn off those notifications. 11:01.486 --> 11:07.474 [SPEAKER_00]: I have really, I think the only notifications I have are my text messages. 11:07.454 --> 11:12.547 [SPEAKER_00]: My calendar, and then, okay, I do have Facebook Messenger notifications. 11:12.968 --> 11:15.233 [SPEAKER_00]: However, that is for Facebook Marketplace. 11:16.316 --> 11:18.842 [SPEAKER_00]: And otherwise, I wouldn't ever check Facebook Messenger. 11:18.942 --> 11:21.087 [SPEAKER_00]: I wouldn't even notice that there were any messages. 11:22.050 --> 11:23.353 [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm currently right now. 11:23.333 --> 11:24.776 [SPEAKER_00]: I've got a bunch of things listed. 11:24.896 --> 11:26.779 [SPEAKER_00]: I am trying to clear out some things from the house. 11:26.820 --> 11:31.769 [SPEAKER_00]: And so if someone messages me, like I want to be able to get back to them soon, because I would really like them to come and purchase these things. 11:32.230 --> 11:32.991 [SPEAKER_00]: So it goes both ways. 11:33.011 --> 11:36.217 [SPEAKER_00]: If I'm looking at things and setting a message in, I'd like to really hear those. 11:36.237 --> 11:38.902 [SPEAKER_00]: So otherwise, I don't get many messages on there. 11:39.042 --> 11:41.126 [SPEAKER_00]: But those are the only notifications I have. 11:41.607 --> 11:43.671 [SPEAKER_00]: Every single other app, 11:43.651 --> 11:44.672 [SPEAKER_00]: are silenced. 11:44.852 --> 11:48.997 [SPEAKER_00]: And I've had that for years and guess what, I'm alive and doing well and you can too. 11:49.397 --> 11:50.799 [SPEAKER_00]: And I definitely have more peace. 11:51.199 --> 11:53.101 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have that stress when I have time. 11:53.381 --> 11:54.963 [SPEAKER_00]: I go in and I check my emails. 11:55.624 --> 11:56.865 [SPEAKER_00]: And then that is that. 11:57.185 --> 11:57.546 [SPEAKER_00]: I move on. 11:57.566 --> 12:03.392 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're waiting for an important email, it's okay to not know for a couple of minutes that it didn't come through. 12:03.772 --> 12:08.157 [SPEAKER_00]: And you go ahead and check maybe there's an important email like, okay, I need to check today every hour. 12:08.137 --> 12:11.905 [SPEAKER_00]: Then check every hour real quick so that email came through and then put the phone aside. 12:12.266 --> 12:15.733 [SPEAKER_00]: But most of the time, we don't need to know the moment that that email comes through. 12:15.873 --> 12:27.698 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so you have set up some boundaries by telling people you have your notifications, silenced, tell your kids that during these homeschool hours this is a mom phone free time. 12:28.184 --> 12:28.605 [SPEAKER_00]: guess what? 12:28.745 --> 12:29.667 [SPEAKER_00]: They will hold you accountable. 12:29.727 --> 12:37.342 [SPEAKER_00]: And even if they don't, I just remember being convicted that if I told them, I'm not going to be using my phone during this time and I picked up my phone. 12:37.823 --> 12:45.619 [SPEAKER_00]: Even if they didn't notice, I felt like their eyes were like looking right at me like, mom, like lasers on me like mom, you said that you were going to be on your phone at this time. 12:45.734 --> 12:46.315 [SPEAKER_00]: tell your kids. 12:46.976 --> 12:56.211 [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay for them to hold you a little bit of countable as long as they aren't getting rude about it or anything like that, but allow them to know what your boundary is. 12:56.912 --> 12:59.336 [SPEAKER_00]: And then pray for self-control over all. 12:59.857 --> 13:04.124 [SPEAKER_00]: God, I'm starting the surrendering this to you, please just give me this self-control that I need. 13:04.624 --> 13:09.312 [SPEAKER_00]: And the moment that you pick up your phone, when you aren't supposed to have your phone, 13:10.456 --> 13:12.441 [SPEAKER_00]: You say, God, I need self control right now. 13:12.682 --> 13:14.306 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to go and check my Instagram. 13:14.326 --> 13:15.289 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to check my email. 13:15.550 --> 13:16.853 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to listen to that Marco Polo. 13:16.973 --> 13:23.611 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to check to see that game how my friend and I was her turn to play in that was my turn. 13:24.032 --> 13:24.313 [SPEAKER_00]: No. 13:24.867 --> 13:36.625 [SPEAKER_00]: put it down and just pray, God, just give me self control in this moment, help this desire, this stress, this cortisol level that I wanna check this, help this to go down and put it down and walk away. 13:37.225 --> 13:38.367 [SPEAKER_00]: It's gonna feel hard at first. 13:39.208 --> 13:40.610 [SPEAKER_00]: It's gonna get easier and easier. 13:40.911 --> 13:45.197 [SPEAKER_00]: And then hopefully get to the point where you don't feel like you have to check knowing that you have time that you can check that. 13:45.898 --> 13:47.441 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, done with the phone. 13:47.801 --> 13:49.744 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's move on to your home. 13:50.804 --> 13:53.828 [SPEAKER_00]: Our houses can be a distraction with all of the chores. 13:54.449 --> 13:55.951 [SPEAKER_00]: Seeing all this needs to be done. 13:56.211 --> 13:57.633 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that paint needs to be touched up. 13:57.733 --> 13:59.256 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, the laundry has to be put away. 13:59.456 --> 14:00.517 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, there's toys everywhere. 14:00.898 --> 14:05.424 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's projects or maybe it's just everyday type of chores that need to be done. 14:06.345 --> 14:08.468 [SPEAKER_00]: Have a plan for when you're going to get that done. 14:08.969 --> 14:11.652 [SPEAKER_00]: And that might not be during your homeschool hours. 14:11.913 --> 14:13.555 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe your plan is, 14:13.720 --> 14:17.747 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, we need you to get some things on a control or just this season of life. 14:18.168 --> 14:20.692 [SPEAKER_00]: I really need more time and I need all hands-on deck to help. 14:21.113 --> 14:22.235 [SPEAKER_00]: And you might say, you know what right now? 14:22.716 --> 14:25.761 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to do homeschool really well Monday through Thursday. 14:26.082 --> 14:29.468 [SPEAKER_00]: Or Monday Tuesday and Thursday Friday whatever day you want to choose. 14:29.448 --> 14:36.437 [SPEAKER_00]: But one day a week, we are going to take those hours and get three, four hours that we would have done on homeschool and we are going to get this house under control. 14:36.457 --> 14:38.500 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to change the sheets and we're going to do the vacuuming. 14:38.520 --> 14:39.662 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to wipe down the bathrooms. 14:39.682 --> 14:40.483 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to declutter. 14:40.503 --> 14:43.166 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to do all of the things during that time. 14:43.527 --> 14:46.871 [SPEAKER_00]: Can you imagine them, the rest of those other days, you feel like, oh, okay, this is good. 14:47.352 --> 14:48.533 [SPEAKER_00]: But maybe that doesn't work for you. 14:48.894 --> 14:51.237 [SPEAKER_00]: You might say, I would rather have. 14:51.217 --> 15:00.209 [SPEAKER_00]: My house got a picked up throughout the week instead of taking one time to go ahead and do that and maybe you like to do zones or maybe you just like to do specific chores and everything. 15:00.770 --> 15:05.677 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you have a plan, then that leads to knowing that you have time to get it done. 15:05.897 --> 15:09.562 [SPEAKER_00]: Therefore, it doesn't have to be done during the homeschool hours. 15:09.883 --> 15:18.895 [SPEAKER_00]: So you can have that peaceful homeschool day with them getting the lessons in having those conversations and all that goes into it. 15:19.060 --> 15:20.422 [SPEAKER_00]: knowing that it's okay. 15:21.023 --> 15:26.111 [SPEAKER_00]: I know that there's a big huge pile of laundry in the corner, but that laundry will be taken care of after lunch. 15:26.511 --> 15:29.776 [SPEAKER_00]: We are now focused on our homeschool and our lessons. 15:29.916 --> 15:34.143 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's not going, we're not going to let that laundry pile, but let it steal your piece, okay? 15:34.783 --> 15:39.250 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're struggling with basically how to create a plan, that's what I do in the tidy home. 15:39.410 --> 15:45.279 [SPEAKER_00]: I have been following the tidy home, I created it on my own, was doing it, and I decided to share it with everybody. 15:45.299 --> 15:48.544 [SPEAKER_00]: I've kind of tweaked it and everything, 15:48.524 --> 15:58.061 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't even think about any of the chores that need to be done during our homeschool hours because I know that I'll get to it because again those time blocks I have that time set aside. 15:58.602 --> 16:01.528 [SPEAKER_00]: I know what needs to be done and it's kind of a fluid thing. 16:01.548 --> 16:05.875 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not always a this it's not I'm not like Monday through Friday from 1 to 2 p.m. 16:05.896 --> 16:06.256 [SPEAKER_00]: I do this. 16:06.457 --> 16:10.043 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm a type A person in some areas and type B and other areas 16:10.023 --> 16:15.891 [SPEAKER_00]: But the tidy home I help you to create what is going to work for your family just at right now in this season. 16:15.971 --> 16:19.095 [SPEAKER_00]: But so for your home and your chores, you have to have a plan. 16:19.856 --> 16:24.623 [SPEAKER_00]: Because then you know that there is time to get it done and it won't be a distraction for you during home school time. 16:24.703 --> 16:26.946 [SPEAKER_00]: And now what about that random to do list? 16:26.966 --> 16:28.307 [SPEAKER_00]: You know those things that you need to do. 16:28.668 --> 16:33.955 [SPEAKER_00]: For me, one of those random things I might to do list right now is as of the time of the recording this and like, oh, 16:33.935 --> 16:37.600 [SPEAKER_00]: I get to get my snow tires off of my vehicle and get my regular tires on. 16:37.620 --> 16:38.601 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's not my to-do list. 16:38.962 --> 16:41.545 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, I get a call to shop and have that taken care of. 16:41.886 --> 16:47.934 [SPEAKER_00]: So the random to-do list is just all of those little things that are in your mind that need to be done. 16:48.014 --> 16:49.356 [SPEAKER_00]: Need a call and make an appointment. 16:49.376 --> 16:51.679 [SPEAKER_00]: You might need to check up on some type of appointment. 16:51.699 --> 16:54.543 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you need to drop something off and add the post office. 16:54.583 --> 16:57.867 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just random errands and just a random to-do list. 16:57.847 --> 17:00.191 [SPEAKER_00]: that is just in your mind. 17:00.411 --> 17:03.737 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's why I do like a random to do this because it gets it out of my mind. 17:03.757 --> 17:07.924 [SPEAKER_00]: So here is how you eliminate those distractions when you're thinking, oh, I have to go and do this. 17:08.325 --> 17:08.946 [SPEAKER_00]: Write it down. 17:09.627 --> 17:10.608 [SPEAKER_00]: Get it out of your head. 17:10.969 --> 17:14.034 [SPEAKER_00]: Put it someplace that you know then that you will then follow up with it. 17:14.535 --> 17:16.218 [SPEAKER_00]: The distraction of thinking, oh, I have to do this. 17:16.378 --> 17:17.160 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I have to do that. 17:17.720 --> 17:18.762 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, what about that? 17:19.223 --> 17:21.627 [SPEAKER_00]: Is taking your brain to a non-peasable place. 17:21.607 --> 17:29.978 [SPEAKER_00]: you aren't 100% present and focused during maybe that math lesson or that history read aloud, because you're thinking about all the other things that you need to do. 17:30.819 --> 17:31.800 [SPEAKER_00]: And we don't want to do that. 17:32.381 --> 17:41.894 [SPEAKER_00]: So I think it's perfectly fine to have a random to do list somewhere nearby a piece of paper you can write those things down the moment it pops into your head and then move on. 17:42.494 --> 17:49.183 [SPEAKER_00]: For me, I found that when especially when I had all through my kids in homeschooling and just life was 17:49.163 --> 17:54.172 [SPEAKER_00]: for some reason on Sunday mornings, I would then be flooded with all those things that I need to do. 17:54.192 --> 17:57.257 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, Lord, I'm trying to focus on the sermon here and think about it. 17:57.358 --> 18:04.270 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I would just have a piece of paper and I would just write down just like two words that kind of remind myself to then 18:04.250 --> 18:14.148 [SPEAKER_00]: really think about that and put a plan into place when I would get home and I would just write it down and then I was 100% present to what was going on in the sermon when I would just get those couple things out of my head. 18:14.168 --> 18:27.372 [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's just because the time was just quiet, there weren't other distractions and so therefore these things would flood into my brain and so I often think that it happens during homeschool too when we're sitting there like okay we're doing the math lesson here. 18:27.352 --> 18:27.793 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. 18:28.013 --> 18:28.254 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, no. 18:28.334 --> 18:28.895 [SPEAKER_00]: I have to do this. 18:28.915 --> 18:31.740 [SPEAKER_00]: I have to make an appointment at the vet for the dog, all those things. 18:32.301 --> 18:36.548 [SPEAKER_00]: So have some place to write it down and then keep that list handy. 18:37.510 --> 18:40.415 [SPEAKER_00]: But don't stress about the fact that you're not doing those things right now. 18:40.796 --> 18:43.260 [SPEAKER_00]: And then set aside time for you to tackle it. 18:43.420 --> 18:45.023 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, those time blocks. 18:45.307 --> 18:53.543 [SPEAKER_00]: Here is something that I really have learned because I will write things on there and when you write something on a to-do list, everything appears equal. 18:53.943 --> 18:56.929 [SPEAKER_00]: But there's always that one or two things that you don't wanna do. 18:57.390 --> 18:59.754 [SPEAKER_00]: For example, I do not like to make phone calls. 18:59.915 --> 19:05.445 [SPEAKER_00]: So making that phone call to set up an appointment for my car and the tires, I do not wanna do that. 19:06.066 --> 19:07.028 [SPEAKER_00]: However, 19:07.008 --> 19:28.442 [SPEAKER_00]: when I decide to, okay, I'm going to do that one or two things that I really don't want to do, I'm going to do them first and I do them and guess what, everything else on that random to-do list seems much easier to do because I took care of the ones that I had been procrastinating and I'm like, oh, okay, so prioritize then what you can do, don't 19:28.422 --> 19:30.846 [SPEAKER_00]: This to do this doesn't mean that it has to be everything done today. 19:31.267 --> 19:36.978 [SPEAKER_00]: Prioritize what actually does need to get done today and understand that there's only so much time in a day. 19:37.779 --> 19:48.439 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, before we close out real quick, we are going to cover some distractions that your kids might be experiencing and their lack of peace then leads to a lack of peace overall in your homeschool. 19:49.634 --> 19:52.879 [SPEAKER_00]: episode 451 is going to be a gem for you. 19:53.580 --> 20:00.171 [SPEAKER_00]: That was just a couple back when you have kids who are just taking forever to do their homeschool and so tie that in with this one. 20:00.952 --> 20:05.980 [SPEAKER_00]: So let's talk about creating an environment that works for your kids, not against them. 20:06.982 --> 20:10.267 [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of parents like, oh, they're doing their math lesson in their bedroom. 20:10.908 --> 20:12.891 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe that works for some kids? 20:13.124 --> 20:19.936 [SPEAKER_00]: that did not work for my kids, they had to earn the right to be able to do some of their independent lessons in their bedrooms. 20:20.036 --> 20:25.004 [SPEAKER_00]: And this was not until maybe middle school, definitely in high school. 20:25.525 --> 20:28.751 [SPEAKER_00]: But then sometimes in high school, like I can't do it in my room, I get too distracted. 20:28.771 --> 20:31.335 [SPEAKER_00]: They have the wisdom, the charity, you say, you know what? 20:31.315 --> 20:41.836 [SPEAKER_00]: I thought that would be cool, but I'm too distracted by all the things that are in there that I would rather be doing than this math lesson or this language arts or writing this paragraph that I'm supposed to write. 20:41.897 --> 20:48.590 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you are finding that they are distracted and they're doing lessons in their room, you got to pull them out of their room. 20:48.751 --> 20:50.153 [SPEAKER_00]: They can't be doing it in their bedroom then. 20:50.354 --> 20:51.957 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's okay. 20:51.937 --> 20:53.060 [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's perfectly fine. 20:53.301 --> 20:58.094 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, in my family, they had to earn the right to be able to do that, and I had to be able to see that they were doing their work. 20:58.555 --> 21:01.744 [SPEAKER_00]: They were getting it done at a timely manner, and they were doing it well. 21:02.095 --> 21:04.719 [SPEAKER_00]: So, making an environment that works for them overall. 21:04.899 --> 21:08.384 [SPEAKER_00]: So, let's talk about the fact that, okay, they're not doing it in the room, they're just somewhere else. 21:08.865 --> 21:10.868 [SPEAKER_00]: You might need to declutter a bit in your house. 21:11.148 --> 21:18.680 [SPEAKER_00]: You might need to eliminate things that are going to be distraction, what you can do is you can have maybe specific subjects in certain areas, for example. 21:19.321 --> 21:22.025 [SPEAKER_00]: Dining rooms tend to be kind of boring for kids, right? 21:22.245 --> 21:26.331 [SPEAKER_00]: There's not really much in there, except for maybe some decorations, 21:26.311 --> 21:54.732 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe some cabinets, I don't know, it's not typically not a place that a lot of kids that there aren't early toys that aren't really attracted to the dining room So that might be a good place to do some of those subjects that they can easily let their minds wander and get distracted So maybe do the math in the dining room and then switch out for going into a living room to do their reading or their writing Because that feels like a more creative and cozy place to do this and your kids might not always appreciate 21:54.712 --> 22:03.825 [SPEAKER_00]: the change that you might be making, you might say, you know, this isn't working for you to do your math on your living room while the little kids are playing around or doing it in your bedroom. 22:04.025 --> 22:12.617 [SPEAKER_00]: They might push back a little bit, but your goal is to eliminate that distraction so they can do their work and do it well and then you guys can have a more peaceful days. 22:12.717 --> 22:19.386 [SPEAKER_00]: And so there might be a little contention at first, but just say, can you trust me on this and let's make this change whenever you are the parent? 22:19.366 --> 22:23.470 [SPEAKER_00]: Alright, there's been a lot in this episode and I hope that it has been helpful for you. 22:23.530 --> 22:32.879 [SPEAKER_00]: Earlier I had mentioned about the tidy home if you're looking for a way to kind of figure out that chore system and I know a lot of people right now are talking about spring cleaning but guess what? 22:33.300 --> 22:34.961 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't necessarily do spring cleaning. 22:35.442 --> 22:40.427 [SPEAKER_00]: I have that kind of stuff spread throughout the year and therefore my spring doesn't feel hectic. 22:41.027 --> 22:47.854 [SPEAKER_00]: I would rather spend my spring cleaning outside 22:47.834 --> 22:56.403 [SPEAKER_00]: Pots of flowers and who knows all the things so that I can enjoy it over the summer instead of having all of these Intour tours. 22:56.823 --> 23:05.152 [SPEAKER_00]: I do a lot of those types of things over the winter while we're snowed in and that was because I took a look What do I really wanted to get done and figure it out? 23:05.372 --> 23:06.734 [SPEAKER_00]: What's going to work best for me? 23:06.754 --> 23:09.697 [SPEAKER_00]: What's going to actually give me that piece? 23:09.717 --> 23:12.960 [SPEAKER_00]: What is actually going to help our family to thrive and therefore? 23:12.980 --> 23:17.385 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't get all stressed about the spring cleaning that I know you'll see everywhere on social media that everybody's doing and 23:17.365 --> 23:18.066 [SPEAKER_00]: Nothing wrong with that. 23:18.146 --> 23:19.949 [SPEAKER_00]: If you like doing it, doing a spring, that's fine. 23:19.969 --> 23:21.692 [SPEAKER_00]: My choice is not to. 23:21.712 --> 23:24.416 [SPEAKER_00]: But I want to help you work on creating your tour system. 23:24.456 --> 23:31.486 [SPEAKER_00]: You can get more information at the tidy homes, so you can go to littlebylittlehomeschool.com slash tidy home and the link is also in the show notes. 23:31.566 --> 23:37.956 [SPEAKER_00]: I hope that this episode has helped you to identify your biggest distractions and then give you some steps to resolve those.