WEBVTT 00:00.031 --> 00:00.932 [SPEAKER_01]: What's up, everyone? 00:01.012 --> 00:04.737 [SPEAKER_01]: We'll come back to girls with goals with your hosts and Catherine and Caroline. 00:04.797 --> 00:11.426 [SPEAKER_01]: Today, we're talking about these steps that you need to take when you need a big reset, because I need a big reset. 00:12.027 --> 00:15.712 [SPEAKER_01]: And so these are the steps that I need to tell myself, take, why do you feel like you need to reset? 00:16.313 --> 00:24.604 [SPEAKER_01]: I need this personally because I have been in such a rut of feeling like I'm doing the bare minimum, just to get by and get the baseline done of my to-do list, which 00:25.833 --> 00:27.676 [SPEAKER_01]: is likely a factor of the time of year. 00:27.716 --> 00:35.749 [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously, we have slightly less energy and we're less motivated to do the extra things in our lives when it's cold and dark in gross outside. 00:36.550 --> 00:38.614 [SPEAKER_01]: But honestly, I haven't been feeling that that much. 00:38.934 --> 00:52.937 [SPEAKER_01]: I literally just have a mile long to do list of work deadlines and stuff that I have to do for other people that are taking up all of my times, so I'm not able to prioritize the things that I typically do for myself like my base 00:52.917 --> 00:55.985 [SPEAKER_01]: All I do these days is work. 00:56.006 --> 00:58.613 [SPEAKER_01]: And for the last two weeks I've dead, I've been working until like midnight. 00:58.713 --> 01:08.901 [SPEAKER_01]: And then I don't obviously that I don't have time to like do things I do the bareband and I'm like brush my teeth and go to bed, which is not the routines that I have set my setup for myself. 01:08.881 --> 01:15.067 [SPEAKER_01]: which we all know that it took me a lot to get to having a solid routine that I do every morning and every night. 01:15.187 --> 01:18.350 [SPEAKER_01]: So obviously, I just don't have the energy after working late to do that. 01:18.430 --> 01:23.055 [SPEAKER_01]: And then it stuck in such a bad cycle of being exhausted the next day, but then doing it. 01:23.095 --> 01:30.342 [SPEAKER_01]: Again, the next day, and continuing to have the mental energy of knowing I have a ton of stuff to do, and knowing I'm falling behind on like my personal tasks. 01:30.482 --> 01:34.606 [SPEAKER_01]: So when I need to reset a big reset like this, I'm focused more on stability. 01:34.646 --> 01:36.728 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not trying to overhaul my life. 01:36.708 --> 01:42.896 [SPEAKER_01]: I just want to get back to a solid foundation where I feel like I can add in the extra things and can move forward from there. 01:42.936 --> 01:59.458 [SPEAKER_01]: So as we go through this episode, as we go through the different steps to take, don't think of overhauling or overdoing anything, we're just trying to get to a good foundation and good baseline again and get out of that rut of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. 01:59.489 --> 02:12.470 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's a good point to make because a lot of the time, I think there's such an urge to completely overhaul something, especially if you feel like, oh, my habits have not been good or I've been falling behind in this. 02:12.570 --> 02:17.878 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like we almost want to then kind of overdo it in the other direction to compensate for that. 02:18.439 --> 02:23.387 [SPEAKER_00]: That never actually works that never actually goes well because what isn't changing. 02:23.367 --> 02:26.314 [SPEAKER_00]: is the work that is on your plate, right? 02:26.354 --> 02:39.165 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you try to like completely overhaul it in the other direction and you're like, okay, I'm going to, you've just created the new routine and I'm going to go like above and beyond to do that, that's not going to work, but it's also funny how quickly we will like, 02:39.145 --> 03:03.972 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you prioritize ourselves and our routines when other things come up and I feel like everybody has experienced that when it comes to work And when it comes to school, you know, sometimes different phases of life gets so busy that these structures and these baselines that like we've made to pride or it has ourselves They're kind of like the first thing to go which I think I think is fair because that's the the only person you are letting down is yourself 03:03.952 --> 03:07.859 [SPEAKER_01]: Where I don't want to let down, don't want to let down other people who are expecting something from you. 03:07.879 --> 03:11.826 [SPEAKER_01]: So you have complete control over the things that you're doing for yourself. 03:11.947 --> 03:20.602 [SPEAKER_01]: It which is why we all go to that first, then to let down other groups of people or other people whether it be work in your work life or personal life or what have you. 03:20.783 --> 03:23.748 [SPEAKER_00]: That's so real, honestly, because I look back at, oh my god. 03:23.908 --> 03:27.495 [SPEAKER_00]: Last spring, ish, like, 03:27.475 --> 03:29.318 [SPEAKER_00]: It was my final semester of school. 03:29.338 --> 03:40.459 [SPEAKER_00]: I was also working at the same time like I was so burnt out during this phase that I look back at like photos and videos and stuff and I'm like oh my god Like I actually like I looked so tired. 03:40.659 --> 03:43.164 [SPEAKER_00]: I looked so puffy and so inflamed. 03:43.184 --> 03:50.698 [SPEAKER_00]: I have photos of myself, you know like drinking energy drinks on the train like on the way to work and stuff like that and I'm like You got to stop with the energy drinks 03:50.678 --> 04:20.213 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, my family's always on me about it, but what I explained is like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no 04:20.193 --> 04:40.227 [SPEAKER_00]: And it took me a while to kind of reset and get out of it and like come back to prioritizing myself and it's so interesting because I look and I'm like why are someone who cares so much about my health and about, you know, my fitness and my habits and stuff like why did I let myself do that and that actually was. 04:40.207 --> 05:10.180 [SPEAKER_00]: really eye-opening to the point where like, well, I was in school and I was in work and it's a lot easier to let myself down in a way than to let these other deadlines and external things down and sometimes you just you sacrifice that in the moment to say, okay, well, I'm going to graduate and get this degree and then it'll be over and then I can get back to myself and you know, those things and it's not just the easier decision because you don't have to communicate or really put a ton of effort into 05:10.160 --> 05:13.264 [SPEAKER_01]: But it also makes the most sense because you're only letting one person down. 05:13.304 --> 05:18.470 [SPEAKER_01]: And a lot of the things that, you know, you've committed to for yourself are elective. 05:19.251 --> 05:28.022 [SPEAKER_01]: Whereas, which are great, but a lot of the things that you've committed to for other people might be contingent on your job might be contingent on your family might, you know, have a snowball effect. 05:28.042 --> 05:31.706 [SPEAKER_01]: If you do change it, I've been staying up working late for the past three weeks. 05:31.767 --> 05:33.148 [SPEAKER_01]: And it's never felt good. 05:34.089 --> 05:36.252 [SPEAKER_01]: But the first week where I 05:37.261 --> 05:48.142 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, wasn't going to my workout classes and was not waking up early enough to like go for a walk or do whatever or do anything that involves leaving my house and not working. 05:48.303 --> 05:49.966 [SPEAKER_01]: It was fine because that's just what I was doing. 05:49.986 --> 05:50.828 [SPEAKER_01]: Like that's totally fine. 05:51.269 --> 05:55.557 [SPEAKER_01]: You have short phases where you put more effort into different things than others. 05:55.537 --> 05:58.643 [SPEAKER_01]: that it's completely normal and appropriate and you should be doing that. 05:58.663 --> 06:01.368 [SPEAKER_01]: Nothing, no week should be exactly the same with where your energy is. 06:01.549 --> 06:12.550 [SPEAKER_01]: The second week started to be like, blah, like again, like I'm really, really run down and tired and I'm not re-energizing myself with the things that I typically do, but I do not have space for it. 06:12.935 --> 06:28.471 [SPEAKER_01]: Now we're in week three and my mom just asked me if I still have a membership at the gym, I haven't been going because the workout classes like sorry, I'm not going in the morning because I'm going to be tired and that would just make it things worse. 06:28.492 --> 06:38.402 [SPEAKER_01]: So I literally haven't been in a place to go, which is unfortunate and I'm making myself go today even though I know it's going to cause me frustration, yeah, but it's going to piss me off because I have to go. 06:38.382 --> 06:42.166 [SPEAKER_00]: No, but you, like, it's not gonna be good for you, but I know what you're saying. 06:42.186 --> 06:44.288 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, oh, the first week of something like that. 06:44.308 --> 06:46.351 [SPEAKER_00]: You're like, oh, this is just, you know, what I have to do right now. 06:46.611 --> 06:47.792 [SPEAKER_00]: By week, it's not gonna catch up. 06:47.812 --> 06:48.713 [SPEAKER_00]: No, for a minute. 06:48.853 --> 06:57.863 [SPEAKER_00]: By week three, not only does it feel like a habit that now you're gonna have to break, but it also, you like, you're starting to actually feel the detrimental effects of not prioritizing yourself. 06:57.943 --> 07:02.128 [SPEAKER_00]: So, today we're running through the steps you're taking to kind of, 07:02.108 --> 07:03.491 [SPEAKER_00]: do this, right? 07:03.511 --> 07:07.158 [SPEAKER_01]: Because my to-do list with the stuff in my deadlines, it's just the list. 07:07.178 --> 07:08.541 [SPEAKER_01]: It's not getting smaller. 07:08.561 --> 07:15.434 [SPEAKER_01]: It's not getting smaller, and because of that, there's no ended site, so I'm going to have to create an end and site, and so that's what this is. 07:16.176 --> 07:18.801 [SPEAKER_01]: It is choosing to have a reset right now. 07:18.781 --> 07:24.971 [SPEAKER_01]: choosing to have reset, brief stabilizing myself so that I can get back to my neutral because I've been in the negative. 07:25.052 --> 07:27.275 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, sometimes you have faiths where you're in the positive. 07:27.295 --> 07:29.960 [SPEAKER_01]: You're doing a lot more socialization. 07:29.980 --> 07:32.164 [SPEAKER_01]: You're doing a lot more fun and elective things. 07:32.484 --> 07:36.030 [SPEAKER_01]: And there are other phases where you're in the negative where 07:36.010 --> 07:46.790 [SPEAKER_01]: You're not doing any of those elective things because you're filling your time with other commitments and responsibilities that may not be energizing or fun or exciting for you in the moment. 07:47.311 --> 07:47.892 [SPEAKER_01]: That's fine. 07:48.633 --> 07:54.103 [SPEAKER_01]: Either way, we always want to come back to a solid neutral and all these habits your teens are that we do and I've talked about this before. 07:54.784 --> 07:59.453 [SPEAKER_01]: It's not to like, raise you into a manic episode of being 07:59.433 --> 08:04.783 [SPEAKER_01]: completely abundantly overwhelmingly positive and happy and excited and living this crazy lifestyle 24-7. 08:04.943 --> 08:05.765 [SPEAKER_01]: That's not the goal. 08:05.785 --> 08:07.127 [SPEAKER_01]: That's actually really uncomfortable. 08:07.488 --> 08:11.154 [SPEAKER_01]: That's fun for short spurts in moments, but that's not uncomfortable. 08:11.174 --> 08:17.266 [SPEAKER_01]: That's really uncomfortable if you do it long term, and it's definitely not sustainable if you do it long term, and that's very to come back to the big crash. 08:17.386 --> 08:23.517 [SPEAKER_01]: So when we do a reset, we're not going to swing the pendulum to go back to like a 08:23.497 --> 08:35.283 [SPEAKER_01]: what we're going to do is just get back to our neutral and stay solidly in the neutral and remind ourselves where that is and what that is and how maintainable that is once you get that reset. 08:35.623 --> 08:41.877 [SPEAKER_01]: So step one to doing so in this may sound counter intuitive but is pushing through. 08:41.857 --> 08:49.027 [SPEAKER_01]: dig yourself deeper into the hole and knock out everything that you have with a deadline that needs to be prioritized. 08:49.527 --> 08:59.361 [SPEAKER_01]: Get it off your plate because what happens when you don't complete these tasks is they continue to be mental energy suckers in the back of the mind because you know you're still going to need to complete them. 08:59.581 --> 09:00.562 [SPEAKER_01]: Monkey on your back. 09:00.582 --> 09:08.353 [SPEAKER_01]: So what you need to do is get them over with power through, push through, don't add new things or unnecessary things to your 09:08.333 --> 09:28.198 [SPEAKER_01]: Identify what is really essential and what is not essential like we talked about in the beginning there are some things that you can choose right now for a short period of time Commitments that you may have made for yourself hopes that you may have had for yourself If you need to depire or ties those two power through and restabilize yourself do that 09:28.178 --> 09:43.335 [SPEAKER_01]: Hmm, but what you don't want to do is keep everything because then you're never going to get out of the state of being overwhelmed or needing a reset the other thing you don't want to do is get rid of all of them because those things. 09:43.315 --> 09:50.724 [SPEAKER_01]: Some of them can just go away and they were completely elective from the beginning, and you can revisit them at a different time when you have the capacity. 09:51.365 --> 09:53.367 [SPEAKER_01]: Some of them need to be done. 09:53.407 --> 09:54.869 [SPEAKER_01]: You may have deadlines with other people. 09:54.909 --> 09:58.373 [SPEAKER_01]: You may have commitments in responsibilities with other people or to yourself. 09:59.114 --> 10:00.496 [SPEAKER_01]: That need to be completed. 10:00.716 --> 10:06.403 [SPEAKER_01]: So you need to complete them before you're able to return to this baseline neutral. 10:06.383 --> 10:08.086 [SPEAKER_01]: where you can continue moving forward. 10:08.106 --> 10:16.661 [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's a powerful skill to be able to say I have too much on my plate and like admit that and say like this is not good for me. 10:16.881 --> 10:17.743 [SPEAKER_00]: It's stressing me out. 10:17.823 --> 10:18.464 [SPEAKER_00]: It's overwhelming me. 10:18.504 --> 10:22.030 [SPEAKER_00]: I cannot continue like this if anybody is 10:22.010 --> 10:45.739 [SPEAKER_00]: kind of has this overachieving go get her type out of to like it's so exciting to put new things on your plate to be like oh my god yeah I want to do that yeah I want to do this and then all of a sudden you've signed yourself up for like right too much and so I assume you know as girls with girls listeners a lot of people are kind of like that in the sentence like you want to chase all the different things sometimes it gets to a point where you realize that 10:45.719 --> 11:09.128 [SPEAKER_00]: you know, you're stressing yourself out and you're burning yourself out and it might show up physically like I've had stress affect my skin a ton and cause really bad breakouts before I've had it effect obviously like my body and my energy or it might just put you in a bad place mentally and so to be able to you know kind of step up and be honest with yourself and say maybe this is too much and maybe I actually do need to clear something off of my play 11:09.108 --> 11:15.198 [SPEAKER_00]: and choose that like I'm not going to do this thing right now, but it is for the greater good of my experience in my well-being. 11:15.418 --> 11:15.638 [SPEAKER_00]: Right. 11:15.699 --> 11:21.989 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, that's a strong thing to be able to do in itself when you're somebody who always wants to just like keep doing more. 11:22.009 --> 11:22.550 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 11:23.030 --> 11:27.117 [SPEAKER_01]: So step one of a reset is actually completing the looming task. 11:27.137 --> 11:29.040 [SPEAKER_01]: So don't add anything new. 11:29.020 --> 11:39.632 [SPEAKER_01]: get rid of the things you can truly get rid of and the things that you can't put your head down and power through it because I promise when you lock in and this goes for anything. 11:39.792 --> 11:42.375 [SPEAKER_01]: You're not going to stay in a state of being locked in 247. 11:42.435 --> 11:51.585 [SPEAKER_01]: You can use that as a power to get you through in moments like these where you need to get a lot done effectively in a short period of time. 11:51.667 --> 11:54.591 [SPEAKER_01]: Because I promise you, there's a lot of dilly dallying. 11:54.611 --> 12:03.001 [SPEAKER_01]: There's a lot of like double checking and confirmation and space for extra creativity in your day-to-day life, which is great. 12:03.041 --> 12:04.884 [SPEAKER_01]: And that is how we should be completing tasks. 12:05.504 --> 12:12.773 [SPEAKER_01]: Until you have a moment where you need to lock in and you need to get rid of the double triple quadruple checking. 12:12.934 --> 12:14.476 [SPEAKER_01]: You need to get rid of the trial and error. 12:14.816 --> 12:17.660 [SPEAKER_01]: You need to get rid of that space for abundant creativity. 12:17.700 --> 12:21.184 [SPEAKER_01]: And just get the things done. 12:21.164 --> 12:43.594 [SPEAKER_00]: I was actually thinking about this yesterday that perfectionism can really work against yourself sometimes because a lot of the time we think that doing something perfectly one time is what is going to get the result or that that's what matters but actually I think most things in life come from the compounding of doing something good enough over and over and over again. 12:43.574 --> 12:46.838 [SPEAKER_00]: Whether it's your fitness, it's not about having one perfect workout. 12:46.938 --> 12:50.303 [SPEAKER_00]: It's about showing up and moving your body the best you can every single day. 12:50.383 --> 12:52.185 [SPEAKER_00]: And like sometimes it's going to be cut short. 12:52.205 --> 12:57.552 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's going to be weaker, but you're actually going to end up making way more progress if you show up every day versus if you do. 12:58.193 --> 13:00.937 [SPEAKER_00]: The world's hardest workout one time in the never again, right? 13:01.117 --> 13:03.500 [SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of the time consistency, like compounds. 13:03.540 --> 13:05.984 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's like anything that you're doing in work as well. 13:06.024 --> 13:11.691 [SPEAKER_00]: When you have tasks that you do like day in and day out, you learn from doing them over and over again, not from doing it perfectly one time. 13:11.671 --> 13:23.907 [SPEAKER_01]: So once we are done with pushing through and maybe digging yourself into a deeper whole of needing a reset, you'll be pleased to get to step number two, which is your immediate surroundings. 13:23.968 --> 13:33.240 [SPEAKER_01]: There is a lot that we think about that contributes to this feeling of being overwhelmed of having a bunch of looming tasks of feeling disheveled and feeling like we need a reset. 13:34.672 --> 13:37.415 [SPEAKER_01]: There's a lot of that that we can't see and we can't identify. 13:37.455 --> 13:44.662 [SPEAKER_01]: But there's a lot that we can, like, your room, your desk, your purse, like even the bag you bring to work. 13:44.702 --> 13:50.828 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you ever feel when I get hit with like, I have so much to do, so many of them we text like, okay, and my fucking bag is messy. 13:50.848 --> 13:54.832 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, you know, and you have to dig through to find your charger and you can't find it. 13:54.852 --> 13:58.475 [SPEAKER_01]: Like that is the, it's like the straw that broke the camel's back. 13:58.495 --> 14:03.480 [SPEAKER_01]: But it's such a snowball effect where you're like, oh my god, like I'm, the walls are caving in. 14:03.460 --> 14:05.322 [SPEAKER_01]: And my top left door is messy. 14:05.462 --> 14:06.163 [SPEAKER_01]: Like that, you know. 14:06.863 --> 14:22.618 [SPEAKER_01]: So step number two is to Clean and reset and restabilize the things that you can immediately see and touch and feel obvious answers your room your desk your bag Your self also. 14:22.658 --> 14:30.025 [SPEAKER_01]: I think that's a huge one If you are dressed like shit, your hair is dirty like you're gonna feel like shit 14:30.663 --> 14:53.143 [SPEAKER_01]: Sorry, there's no other answer than to wash your hair and maybe put on things other than sweats or maybe put a little extra effort into your outfit to make yourself feel good and make yourself feel re-energized and make yourself feel revived because that I promise will do wonders for how productive you continue to be and how motivated you continue to be. 14:53.123 --> 15:20.177 [SPEAKER_01]: Getting dressed and like putting yourself together to a point where you feel comfortable and normal and clean Is the small dope meat hit that you need to continue to attack other things throughout your day in the same way that you're showing up as yeah Look good feel good is is actually such a real thing this morning I went out for a quick run in the neighborhood and as I was like you were wearing my jacket So you can't say no no no 15:20.157 --> 15:49.033 [SPEAKER_00]: But I, like, you know, put an outfit on and obviously it's winter and so for the most part I'm just like, I want to put on things that make me feel warm I put on like a hoodie and I put on a hat that I didn't actually like and my face looked really hard and I looked at myself and I was like, 15:49.756 --> 15:54.380 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know what I mean, like that feeling where it's like, I don't want to like look gross and be to shovel them also. 15:54.420 --> 16:00.966 [SPEAKER_00]: Any person that I pass on the street, it's just going to make me like hyper aware of how like junky I look when I don't actually have to. 16:00.986 --> 16:06.651 [SPEAKER_00]: I just like, very quickly, I was like, I put like a little bit of concealer on my face and I swapped the hat. 16:06.711 --> 16:10.535 [SPEAKER_00]: I swapped it, you know, my jacket for a fleece of in Catherine's as she said. 16:10.555 --> 16:19.763 [SPEAKER_00]: And I felt like just a little bit better enough that I actually was like more energized and motivated to do it. 16:19.743 --> 16:28.856 [SPEAKER_00]: How it honestly does make a really big difference in your energy if you feel like you've at least put yourself a little bit together, and you're putting somewhat of a better foot forward. 16:29.056 --> 16:41.093 [SPEAKER_01]: Other immediate things that you can do are for sureself to eat a good meal because I feel like that's a really easy thing to deprive our ties Is like cooking for yourself and putting extra effort into them into a meal if you need an immediate hit and it doesn't have to be 16:41.073 --> 16:44.016 [SPEAKER_01]: From right now, I never eat a bad meal again. 16:44.437 --> 16:53.327 [SPEAKER_01]: No, like you can revert back to de-paratizing that, but in the moment for a quick turnaround and a quick burst of motivation and hope. 16:53.347 --> 16:54.548 [SPEAKER_01]: I've just a little bit of hope. 16:55.189 --> 17:03.739 [SPEAKER_01]: You can snap out of it and take an extra five minutes one time to cook a better meal or put something better together. 17:03.719 --> 17:20.445 [SPEAKER_00]: You know what I think it is is like when we get in these ruts, it almost becomes an excuse to depower it has ourselves when we get really comfortable doing that for a minute, but the second you do something to actually make yourself feel good, like have one meal with vegetables or take one like everything shower. 17:20.425 --> 17:27.035 [SPEAKER_00]: It reminds you how you actually should feel and that's like a big way to call it to just do one of those things one time. 17:27.075 --> 17:49.167 [SPEAKER_00]: It can honestly really help to snap you out because it makes you realize like, oh my god, I've been really using this as an excuse and like not keeping myself put together, not eating good meals and using this as an excuse to like, You know, kind of treat myself like junk and if you do one thing to treat yourself well, it kind of reminds you who you are a little bit right and honestly a lot of that is 17:49.147 --> 17:55.618 [SPEAKER_01]: It becomes mental clutter for yourself too because you walk around with the weight of like I feel like shit. 17:55.778 --> 17:56.880 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm performing like shit. 17:57.100 --> 17:58.162 [SPEAKER_01]: I have no motivation. 17:58.182 --> 18:15.390 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't Like who I am right now, but I'm gonna ignore that because I have x-y and z to still do and because I have All of these other things to still do, but that continues to weigh on you and like hold slow you down Old you back whatever it may be 18:15.370 --> 18:21.101 [SPEAKER_01]: other forms of like mental clutter are the loop of I'll do it tomorrow. 18:21.762 --> 18:28.454 [SPEAKER_01]: That is such a big one and definitely when you let our like me and have them to do less that is a mile long or a list of deadlines that's a mile long. 18:28.575 --> 18:34.426 [SPEAKER_01]: I obviously am going to deprive twice the things that I did not get to that day but then it becomes a shit I have more to do tomorrow. 18:34.927 --> 18:37.311 [SPEAKER_01]: And then things get pushed and pushed and pushed and pushed 18:37.291 --> 18:47.575 [SPEAKER_01]: And not only do you continue to have the actual list of things that you need to do, you're carrying the mental clutter of continuing to have that on your plate longer than you had intended to. 18:47.615 --> 18:56.295 [SPEAKER_00]: As often as I can, I try to follow the five-minute rule with things which is that if a task is going to take you less than five minutes, you do it the second you think about it. 18:56.275 --> 19:03.627 [SPEAKER_00]: because if you don't do it and you add it here to do list, it creates this mental clutter that wears you down and it makes the task feel like so much bigger than it is. 19:04.188 --> 19:11.640 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you can just do the one thing in the moment and get it done, it's going to create momentum for you to just continue doing more things and staying on top of your stuff, right? 19:11.920 --> 19:15.105 [SPEAKER_00]: Especially when it is something that literally takes five minutes, like responding to an email. 19:15.426 --> 19:16.748 [SPEAKER_00]: So often I'm like, 19:16.728 --> 19:21.915 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I'll respond to that email later and I put it on my to-do list when realistically writing a response could take five minutes in the wrong. 19:21.935 --> 19:22.596 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need to put it on. 19:22.636 --> 19:22.857 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 19:22.897 --> 19:24.599 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to be something in your to-do list. 19:24.619 --> 19:26.382 [SPEAKER_00]: You just just write a response right now. 19:26.682 --> 19:30.728 [SPEAKER_01]: Email's in text that you know you have to answer and that you intend to answer, but you won't. 19:30.748 --> 19:33.412 [SPEAKER_01]: Like, obviously we all do this. 19:33.952 --> 19:37.357 [SPEAKER_01]: And you create an additional task for yourself that doesn't need to be there. 19:37.457 --> 19:39.460 [SPEAKER_00]: I like do that with text all the time. 19:39.520 --> 19:43.005 [SPEAKER_00]: I could just respond to something in 15 seconds and it's not actually that big of a deal. 19:42.985 --> 20:01.399 [SPEAKER_01]: the more often that i can just do those things right away in the moment the the less you just create all of these this random added stress for yourself other things that are mental clutter that are really getting me is half done tasks that you keep like remembering you have to do or you get in that loop similar to the loop of all due to tomorrow but if you like 20:01.379 --> 20:12.683 [SPEAKER_01]: Start something and don't get to finish it or you you lose steam while finishing it Which is completely normal and you might want to switch to something else in every game motivation or you know get started on something I'll take that's not a problem at all. 20:12.844 --> 20:16.070 [SPEAKER_01]: But then tomorrow comes you're like oh shit I have to do that too. 20:16.111 --> 20:17.734 [SPEAKER_01]: Like let me add that and you know 20:17.714 --> 20:20.477 [SPEAKER_01]: It continues on the cycle of things that you have to do. 20:20.537 --> 20:31.808 [SPEAKER_01]: And not only energy that you have to put out to complete these tasks, but energy in the back of your mind that is spinning and being used up while you just think about them and know that they're there and know that you have to do them. 20:31.928 --> 20:32.949 [SPEAKER_01]: Can I touch this earlier? 20:32.989 --> 20:42.519 [SPEAKER_01]: But just like saying yes to things or when you commit to things or promise things and especially as we've talked about with things that pertain to other people and our commitments to other people. 20:42.579 --> 20:46.843 [SPEAKER_01]: If you do that out of a sheer place of like feeling 20:46.823 --> 21:10.148 [SPEAKER_01]: obligated to do so or feeling guilty if you don't then you carry not only the task that you have to do it but also the mental weight of like I don't want to do the same thing goes for plans if you have plans that you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed about and you don't actually want to go to them anymore but you go through the week and you know that I don't want to go these plans and you're thinking about your to do list you're overwhelmed 21:10.128 --> 21:15.975 [SPEAKER_01]: with whatever you're over on with the fact that you haven't caught up on your habits and your own personal commitments to yourself. 21:16.475 --> 21:27.047 [SPEAKER_01]: And then you're like, oh fuck, and now I have to go to the X, Y and Z plan, what you should enjoy wanting to go to dinner with a friend or go do this, go for a walk with someone or do something else. 21:27.067 --> 21:39.882 [SPEAKER_01]: You should enjoy doing that and be excited to do that, and that should be a relaxing and rejuvenating thing. 21:39.862 --> 21:56.824 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I definitely have a bad habit of getting excited about something in the moment, liking an idea in the moment and committing to something or saying that I'll do something like a lot of the time I might be talking to people about. 21:56.804 --> 22:04.939 [SPEAKER_00]: Like whether it's their business and they're looking for social media marketing advice and I love their idea and I'm like, oh my god, let me let me think of ideas for you Let me write something up. 22:04.959 --> 22:08.004 [SPEAKER_00]: They could help you because in the moment I'm like, oh, I would love to do this. 22:08.024 --> 22:18.323 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think about the actual, you know, time that I have and to be able to do that and then I get myself in a mess where I'm like, oh, I just created this task, but now 22:18.303 --> 22:44.091 [SPEAKER_00]: it's been a couple weeks and so now I feel like they're waiting on me to do it and I probably shouldn't have come into this in the first place knowing that I didn't have the time because now it looks like I'm not following through with like what I told somebody I would do and like I actually and maybe it seems like I'm uninterested but I actually am and then I got myself in this mental route where I'm like ah damn now I feel like I seem like a bad person because I've taken so much time to do this or it seems like I'm uninterested when I'm not all of this to 22:45.556 --> 22:48.682 [SPEAKER_01]: We are not here to create more work for ourselves. 22:48.722 --> 22:50.386 [SPEAKER_01]: We're not here to create more mental clutter. 22:50.406 --> 22:54.474 [SPEAKER_01]: We're not here to make more physical commitments for ourselves. 22:54.895 --> 23:03.693 [SPEAKER_01]: And we're definitely not here to overhaul our lives in this reset phase to create more work for ourselves and make things harder for ourselves. 23:04.174 --> 23:05.877 [SPEAKER_01]: We are here to 23:06.025 --> 23:13.877 [SPEAKER_01]: Stabilize, where a reset is resetting yourself back to the baseline, putting yourself on solid ground, getting back to that foundation. 23:13.917 --> 23:15.519 [SPEAKER_01]: That is what this is all about. 23:15.900 --> 23:30.743 [SPEAKER_01]: So those previous things like clean your room, put yourself together, maybe like clean out the immediate things that you see in touch and that overwhelm you immediately like your work bag or your car or whatever it may be, you know, see that's a thing your car even you slow down. 23:30.763 --> 23:33.687 [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly for me, it's like I'm tidying away the laundry. 23:33.667 --> 23:58.932 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, like, putting away my lemon because my closet stresses me out a little bit because I always feel like it's too cluttered and I have too much stuff I've talked about this before and I don't know what I like and what I don't like anymore, so then what I have laundry and it's clean and it's folded and then like, I have to put it away and then that means that I have to face the organization of my closet that gets me so step number three in this reset. 24:00.346 --> 24:04.175 [SPEAKER_01]: is to move on to things that will set you up for continued success in the future. 24:04.536 --> 24:14.218 [SPEAKER_01]: So this is what we're doing a little bit more time intensive things than just cleaning our room or cleaning our immediate space and putting ourselves together one time. 24:14.639 --> 24:16.583 [SPEAKER_01]: This is where we are 24:17.018 --> 24:36.618 [SPEAKER_01]: deep cleaning or reorganizing your closet so that you reset which then makes it easier for you to get dressed in the morning because you know that the only things in your closet are things that you want to wear because you've taken inventory and you know what you want to wear and you have kind of outfits pre-picked out and it makes the mornings easier and it makes you feel more put together and feel more elevated which are both wins. 24:36.838 --> 24:38.622 [SPEAKER_01]: This may be meal prepping. 24:38.602 --> 24:50.537 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, or just cooking, um, I don't know if I said I'm the last episode, but I'm this is me making like a cable, like people cable, um, human cable, human cable, that sounds so bad. 24:50.777 --> 25:00.829 [SPEAKER_01]: I have not meal prepped, I should because I really do like my issue is not that I don't like vegetables and that I don't like eating healthy and that I don't like eating, 25:00.809 --> 25:03.393 [SPEAKER_01]: high-protein and well-planned out things. 25:03.754 --> 25:25.990 [SPEAKER_01]: It's that I just don't have any interest in doing that so I'm going to try Doing that by people And it's like literally I Don't just write it, but I'm picturing like ground beef cucumbers Tomatoes more like cruciferous vegetables that don't break down maybe some beans and I'm also getting better like my food touching 25:26.628 --> 25:45.953 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I'm like combining because I also used to avoid that because I didn't like my food combining and touching and like I'm not trying to have eat every ingredients separately, but I'm liking soup nowadays really yeah, I had chilly a while ago and I really like to what you've always been so anti chili I said that I said that an anti chili, but I had turkey chili at dear valley and 25:47.097 --> 25:48.401 [SPEAKER_01]: A mid mountain snack. 25:48.482 --> 25:48.742 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 25:49.204 --> 25:49.545 [SPEAKER_00]: Wow. 25:49.565 --> 25:49.906 [SPEAKER_00]: It's great. 25:50.187 --> 25:51.231 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sure it's really good. 25:51.251 --> 25:52.214 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, meal prepping. 25:52.354 --> 25:59.638 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not on a perfect cadence of meal prepping, but I do know that when I do it, which is probably 26:00.445 --> 26:04.070 [SPEAKER_00]: more like every other week than every week at this point, you know, I'm working towards it. 26:04.251 --> 26:05.052 [SPEAKER_00]: Not a perfect person. 26:05.853 --> 26:08.357 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, not a perfect. 26:08.497 --> 26:09.439 [SPEAKER_00]: That was okay. 26:09.499 --> 26:09.659 [SPEAKER_00]: Sorry. 26:09.679 --> 26:10.620 [SPEAKER_00]: I thought that was an invitation. 26:10.981 --> 26:13.024 [SPEAKER_01]: It wasn't and you were really off beat. 26:13.665 --> 26:21.677 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, but I know that when I do it, I like feel so much better because otherwise, 26:21.910 --> 26:27.982 [SPEAKER_00]: I am pretty much just putting meals together with whatever is in my fridge in the moment. 26:28.222 --> 26:33.834 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't like to cook and clean for every meal and so I will avoid that but just like, you know, putting together things that are in my fridge. 26:33.854 --> 26:35.196 [SPEAKER_00]: It's why I love a yogurt bowl so much. 26:35.256 --> 26:36.278 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't require any cooking. 26:36.298 --> 26:37.120 [SPEAKER_00]: You just put it together. 26:37.280 --> 26:41.168 [SPEAKER_00]: But when I take like one day out of a week, 26:41.148 --> 26:56.980 [SPEAKER_00]: and I prep proteins and meat and I cut up vegetables or I cook vegetables or I make one big salad or I cook rice or quinoa or bake sweet potatoes and have some sort of carb source so that those are the things that I can just pick in the moment. 26:56.960 --> 27:01.085 [SPEAKER_00]: Then I am so much better for it because I eat so much more healthy. 27:01.145 --> 27:10.136 [SPEAKER_00]: I feel way more on top of my shit but I still don't have to cook and clean at every meal and so that is a huge thing. 27:10.317 --> 27:12.840 [SPEAKER_00]: That is helpful for me and I'm trying to be more consistent with it. 27:13.220 --> 27:18.587 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so step three are things that will set you up for future success and these things take a little bit more effort. 27:19.007 --> 27:23.473 [SPEAKER_01]: So we're only doing these things after we've knocked out our to-do list and we feel 27:23.453 --> 27:24.835 [SPEAKER_01]: more available to do things. 27:24.955 --> 27:33.668 [SPEAKER_01]: We're only doing these things after we've reset our immediate environment, so our space is clean and free of mental and physical clutter. 27:33.949 --> 27:40.398 [SPEAKER_01]: In step three, when we're adding in these bigger, take it things, that will help us long-term, but take more initial energy. 27:40.579 --> 27:49.512 [SPEAKER_01]: This is where we can add back in those elective things that we de-prioritized, because those are essential for maintaining our own personal, 27:50.875 --> 28:04.075 [SPEAKER_01]: homeostasis and habits and like health, but it's really easy and it's almost appropriate to depirialize these when we're in faces where we need to cut back on. 28:05.590 --> 28:07.974 [SPEAKER_01]: things like we're so busy that we need to cut things out. 28:08.134 --> 28:12.020 [SPEAKER_01]: So whatever that me may be for you for me, my like morning routines. 28:12.060 --> 28:17.730 [SPEAKER_01]: This is literally just hey, let me let me I'm gonna go to Whole Foods and get all the things that I've ran. 28:17.830 --> 28:19.432 [SPEAKER_01]: I have ran out of and didn't hurry up. 28:20.354 --> 28:25.422 [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm gonna take some extra time and I'm gonna make my juice at Christie so that I actually have sour juice. 28:25.442 --> 28:32.914 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I feel like I have all of my habits prepared for me in the 28:34.261 --> 28:35.323 [SPEAKER_00]: not willing to share. 28:36.124 --> 28:37.186 [SPEAKER_00]: But that's understandable honestly. 28:37.266 --> 28:38.669 [SPEAKER_00]: It did a lot to you, sorry. 28:38.689 --> 28:39.611 [SPEAKER_00]: You can get one serving. 28:39.891 --> 28:45.942 [SPEAKER_01]: The juice I always do, so I'll read you, sorry, lemon, kale, cucumber, ginger, and that's my base. 28:46.563 --> 28:47.024 [SPEAKER_01]: Green apple. 28:47.144 --> 28:47.605 [SPEAKER_01]: Green apple. 28:47.925 --> 28:48.486 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, little. 28:48.827 --> 28:52.253 [SPEAKER_01]: And it can't be red apple because one time I went to the juicer and they gave me. 28:52.233 --> 28:53.615 [SPEAKER_00]: Why would that be red apple in a juice? 28:53.655 --> 28:55.537 [SPEAKER_00]: No one's ever done that was always green apple. 28:55.557 --> 28:56.318 [SPEAKER_00]: Did you street us that? 28:56.598 --> 28:56.839 [SPEAKER_00]: Really? 28:56.919 --> 28:59.422 [SPEAKER_01]: I said excuse me, this tastes like sugar. 28:59.482 --> 29:06.150 [SPEAKER_00]: May ask what apple was used in green apple's like so much nicer because it has that sourness to it that just like works with juice. 29:06.471 --> 29:06.711 [SPEAKER_01]: Right. 29:07.132 --> 29:11.797 [SPEAKER_01]: But apple, then you think you're drinking apple juice like a toddler's apple juice, which is just not what you ordered. 29:11.818 --> 29:15.422 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because I feel like regular apple juice gives red apple. 29:15.402 --> 29:23.645 [SPEAKER_01]: something that you're going to pair with celery, lemon, green apple, that's why I haven't been going to get it on my own because the juice place around here, which is great. 29:23.785 --> 29:28.398 [SPEAKER_01]: They just use red apples these days and I always ask before I get something and then if it's red, I don't get it. 29:29.441 --> 29:30.424 [SPEAKER_01]: Or get something else. 29:30.404 --> 29:54.015 [SPEAKER_01]: So this is the step where we're going to add those things back in and put effort into making sure you're setting yourself up for success with bringing in your morning routines and your habits back in or aspects of health that may be let go that weren't that are not beneficial for you to let go long term so we're prioritizing bringing them back in in a sustainable and beneficial way. 29:54.772 --> 29:59.119 [SPEAKER_01]: And then number four is restore your energy and do things you enjoy. 29:59.159 --> 30:02.064 [SPEAKER_01]: This is where your tasks are off your plate. 30:02.384 --> 30:05.289 [SPEAKER_01]: You've reset, you know, all you're to do less. 30:05.369 --> 30:07.573 [SPEAKER_01]: You've reset your lifestyles and your habits. 30:08.855 --> 30:20.374 [SPEAKER_01]: This is where we have space and interest in bringing in relaxing things and bringing in social things and bringing in the extra things that are completely 30:20.354 --> 30:33.352 [SPEAKER_01]: elective, things like hobbies, things like getting offline and completely disconnecting because you're able to disconnect because you don't have tasks and obligations to respond to other people or be available to other people. 30:34.193 --> 30:37.137 [SPEAKER_01]: These are the stress-free relaxing activities that we're bringing in. 30:37.377 --> 30:39.340 [SPEAKER_01]: This is step four, the final step. 30:39.480 --> 30:48.032 [SPEAKER_00]: When you get back into a balance of things where you're prioritizing your fitness, your social life, some sort of fun hobbies, 30:48.012 --> 30:53.404 [SPEAKER_00]: and you're also able to, you know, be productive and get your work done. 30:53.444 --> 30:55.589 [SPEAKER_00]: It feels so good. 30:55.629 --> 31:05.751 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, that's, I feel like that's honestly one of the best feelings of life to feel like you are completely on your routine and pouring into all different aspects of your life. 31:05.731 --> 31:28.026 [SPEAKER_00]: And so this is kind of the most exciting step once you've stripped back other things down a bit of a reset of your environment and your routines that now you can get back to that when I'm feeling stress overwhelmed about work in tasks and also because obviously every single one of us is on our computer all the no matter what work we do like we're attached to the internet. 31:28.006 --> 31:33.733 [SPEAKER_00]: It honestly makes me more addicted to my phone and my devices because it's really hard to shut off. 31:33.753 --> 31:39.861 [SPEAKER_00]: And the more that I'm on answering emails and doing work, the more that I get distracted by doing other scrolling and stuff like that. 31:39.981 --> 31:50.134 [SPEAKER_00]: So when we're stripping this back and getting back to our basics and creating more time for the other parts of your routine, you can also go listen to our digital detox episode to get some good ideas for how you can strip that back. 31:50.154 --> 31:56.562 [SPEAKER_00]: And our episode next week is going to talk all about how to focus on yourself, 31:56.542 --> 31:59.666 [SPEAKER_00]: actions and activities that you can do to really focus on yourself. 31:59.887 --> 32:04.112 [SPEAKER_00]: Because if everyone says, oh, focus on yourself, focus on yourself, but like, what does that actually mean? 32:04.133 --> 32:04.934 [SPEAKER_00]: And how do you actually do it? 32:04.974 --> 32:06.876 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's what we're going to get into next week as well. 32:07.277 --> 32:08.799 [SPEAKER_00]: So you can listen to the digital detox. 32:09.159 --> 32:11.583 [SPEAKER_00]: You can pair that with what we're talking about for the reset here. 32:11.703 --> 32:15.789 [SPEAKER_00]: And then it'll be a pretty good segue into an episode on focusing on yourself. 32:16.069 --> 32:21.897 [SPEAKER_01]: So as a reminder, as we reset some ground rules are, don't overhaul your life. 32:21.997 --> 32:23.019 [SPEAKER_01]: We are stabilizing. 32:23.159 --> 32:24.000 [SPEAKER_01]: We are not 32:25.043 --> 32:25.944 [SPEAKER_01]: over correcting. 32:25.964 --> 32:31.092 [SPEAKER_01]: We're not swinging the pendulum and, you know, creating a whole new life and creating more work for ourselves. 32:31.653 --> 32:39.024 [SPEAKER_01]: We are going back to our baseline to our foundations that we've already established because you've been listening to this podcast and, you know, how to do that. 32:39.104 --> 32:46.615 [SPEAKER_01]: We're simplifying mental and physical energy because both have a really strong impact on us, mental, mental clutter, physical clutter. 32:46.715 --> 32:52.924 [SPEAKER_01]: We've talked with this and I really like the idea of mental and physical clutter because it's tangible and intangible, but both 32:53.950 --> 32:58.680 [SPEAKER_01]: are overwhelming and I think they feel the same and evaluate your priorities. 32:58.720 --> 33:05.995 [SPEAKER_01]: Check in with yourself, see what you can take off your plate and what is appropriate to take off your plate and what you need to double down on and what you need to knock out. 33:06.476 --> 33:11.487 [SPEAKER_01]: Because it is not benefiting you to have half-assed tasks or, you know. 33:11.467 --> 33:14.452 [SPEAKER_01]: Keep pushing things off tomorrow tomorrow and keep them on your plate. 33:14.613 --> 33:31.703 [SPEAKER_01]: Grab a chunk of things that you are capable of doing and do them and then you will still long-term accomplish all of those things But it's just about how much you are keeping in that space of mental clutter and how much you're keeping as a looming task that is negatively impacting you 33:31.683 --> 33:40.715 [SPEAKER_01]: So if you reevaluate your priorities, it will set you up for a better chance of getting things done more effectively and more enjoyable. 33:40.915 --> 33:58.618 [SPEAKER_01]: So the four steps to having a successful and effective reset when you feel like you are overwhelmed and need a reset on your life are number one, keep pushing through, thought get out, get the 33:58.598 --> 34:04.711 [SPEAKER_01]: then we can move on to step number two, which is creating visible progress immediately. 34:05.011 --> 34:14.751 [SPEAKER_01]: So clean your room, put yourself together, clean your desk, clean your car, everything that you can see and touch in a immediately feel reset individually. 34:14.731 --> 34:21.480 [SPEAKER_01]: Then we can move on to step number three, which are bigger, take it things that can set you up for longer term success. 34:21.540 --> 34:28.009 [SPEAKER_01]: So deep cleaning or reorganizing meal prepping, resets don't stick if you create more work for yourself. 34:28.189 --> 34:35.880 [SPEAKER_01]: So these things are more effort when you do them, but take a lot of effort away long term. 34:36.080 --> 34:39.084 [SPEAKER_01]: And then finally, restore your energy by doing things you enjoy. 34:39.144 --> 34:41.768 [SPEAKER_01]: So get offline, practice your hobbies, 34:43.334 --> 34:47.720 [SPEAKER_01]: any stress-free thing that helps you relax and restore your energy, do it. 34:48.080 --> 34:50.143 [SPEAKER_01]: And that is the reset. 34:50.223 --> 34:57.432 [SPEAKER_01]: That is a life-free set focused on stabilisation, not continuing to overwhelm yourself, not continuing to add things to your plate. 34:57.572 --> 35:01.778 [SPEAKER_01]: We are simplifying, and we are prioritizing the correct things. 35:02.238 --> 35:09.207 [SPEAKER_01]: And in happens going back to the gym today. 35:11.093 --> 35:11.614 [SPEAKER_00]: What is it? 35:11.674 --> 35:12.155 [SPEAKER_00]: Is it spin? 35:12.355 --> 35:31.549 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, hopefully this is an episode that you guys can come back to when you need a big life reset or if you're feeling it now because it is kind of that time of year where I feel like maybe we've all gone ourselves in a little bit of a rut and you can use this as motivation and steps to get yourself out of that when you need to reset. 35:31.529 --> 35:32.691 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for listening. 35:32.731 --> 35:35.236 [SPEAKER_00]: You can follow us on Instagram at Caroline Kineen. 35:35.476 --> 35:36.318 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't count their Kineen. 35:36.458 --> 35:37.661 [SPEAKER_00]: And our girls with goals pod. 35:38.122 --> 35:41.247 [SPEAKER_00]: Make sure you're following the show on Spotify and Apple Podcasts where I'll be listening. 35:41.268 --> 35:42.851 [SPEAKER_00]: It's on this to a friend who might need it. 35:43.612 --> 35:45.235 [SPEAKER_00]: And we will see you guys next week.