WEBVTT 00:00.151 --> 00:02.712 [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome to the way community church podcast. 00:03.192 --> 00:06.332 [SPEAKER_01]: My name is Darahal and I'm the pastor of the way community church. 00:07.013 --> 00:11.354 [SPEAKER_01]: We are showing people the way to life with Jesus and we are thankful that you joined us today. 00:12.114 --> 00:21.276 [SPEAKER_01]: If you want any info about our church or if you're interested in becoming a member of our church, you can email info at the waycc.online. 00:21.796 --> 00:23.576 [SPEAKER_01]: Also, if you like to worship 00:30.318 --> 00:48.768 [SPEAKER_00]: Today, we're going to turn back to Genesis 2 in Genesis 3, and reconsider again, God's original design for marriage, and we'll learn a lot, not just about how God designed Adam and Eve, but where he placed them, and what he assigned them to do in the garden. 00:49.608 --> 00:57.555 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, to be close to your spouse or to God or to yourself requires that you, that you cultivate into missing us. 00:57.575 --> 01:02.559 [SPEAKER_00]: So let's have a conversation that they around what that looks like on each level and each layer. 01:02.599 --> 01:06.562 [SPEAKER_00]: You can follow along and the transcript of this podcast, grab your mibles. 01:06.782 --> 01:07.903 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's study guys work together. 01:08.144 --> 01:11.626 [SPEAKER_01]: We're continuing our series ready for love. 01:12.607 --> 01:14.028 [SPEAKER_01]: And it is. 01:15.353 --> 01:25.155 [SPEAKER_01]: a series about marriage, but not just for married people, and so my hope is, don't the first month of the series you can bless regardless of your marital status. 01:25.935 --> 01:34.056 [SPEAKER_01]: And my hope today as well is to have a conversation that can be a blessing to us, regardless of our marital status now. 01:34.476 --> 01:42.838 [SPEAKER_01]: We try to do our level best this week to communicate with you, the nature of the conversation that they in the ceremony, so that you would not be caught off guard. 01:43.710 --> 01:55.778 [SPEAKER_01]: But I'm going to tell you now that as we contain the series today, I'm going to talk about intimacy, and how important intimacy is for the sexual relationship in marriage. 01:56.219 --> 02:02.423 [SPEAKER_01]: Now next week, we're probably talking more about sex that today, but today we are going to have a conversation around intimacy. 02:02.743 --> 02:04.284 [SPEAKER_01]: And we're going to start that conversation. 02:05.125 --> 02:06.906 [SPEAKER_01]: Or in the first page of the Bible, 02:08.707 --> 02:10.688 [SPEAKER_01]: You can find these notes in the Bible. 02:10.748 --> 02:14.789 [SPEAKER_01]: If you search events, the way community church, these words will be there. 02:15.529 --> 02:22.951 [SPEAKER_01]: For you, Genesis 225, the word of the Lord says, and the man and his wife were both naked. 02:23.972 --> 02:28.653 [SPEAKER_01]: But they were not what church, a shame, chapter 3, verse 11. 02:29.934 --> 02:34.635 [SPEAKER_01]: And God said, who told you that you were naked? 02:36.036 --> 02:41.578 [SPEAKER_01]: Have you eaten for the tree from which I commanded you, not to eat? 02:42.199 --> 02:47.401 [SPEAKER_01]: I want to continue our ready for low series today with this thought in mind, cultivating closeness. 02:47.801 --> 02:51.583 [SPEAKER_01]: You may have seen it in the presence of the living God. 02:54.084 --> 02:58.146 [SPEAKER_01]: Colle too, fading closeness. 03:00.707 --> 03:03.148 [SPEAKER_01]: As a leader and a speaker, 03:04.932 --> 03:24.760 [SPEAKER_01]: and a communicator, I am out and irritated when I see people who use their platform to teach people in a way that makes people dumber. 03:27.421 --> 03:29.882 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't really know another way to say it. 03:31.667 --> 03:44.956 [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm frustrated if I see a video of somebody with a microphone and they get up and they say something and it's so out-wandish and it's not that what they say is out-wandish. 03:45.636 --> 03:53.181 [SPEAKER_01]: It's the fact that everybody in the room starts to clap before they actually think about what the person with the microphone would just say. 03:56.523 --> 03:58.264 [SPEAKER_01]: When I see a speaker say something crazy 04:01.943 --> 04:10.927 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm thinking to myself, are they thinking to them, say I'll do what they just let the person with the microphone just tell them anything and they take it at face and mouth. 04:12.667 --> 04:18.029 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, you live in the same world I live in, perhaps you have a similar social media feed as I do. 04:18.610 --> 04:24.692 [SPEAKER_01]: We know that this is an issue right now in our country, not just politically, but also spiritually. 04:26.227 --> 04:32.030 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, usually, I don't use my sermons to react to what happens in a social media. 04:33.911 --> 04:37.672 [SPEAKER_01]: I am not a homiletic ambulance chaser. 04:39.113 --> 04:40.014 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's what that means. 04:40.574 --> 04:41.994 [SPEAKER_01]: This is not the church you come to. 04:42.595 --> 04:48.638 [SPEAKER_01]: If you want to hear me write a sermon on Sunday to respond to something that just happened in the news on Thursday. 04:49.798 --> 04:53.540 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't allow the news to dictate the prophetic voice in this church. 04:55.316 --> 05:12.368 [SPEAKER_01]: My goal is to seek the Lord, be in sync with God, for where He's taking us as a church, and for you to trust me enough to know that what I lay out sermonically, homiletically, to be your spirits, is to take you somewhere, not just to keep you in a reactionary mode. 05:14.310 --> 05:15.050 [SPEAKER_01]: But this week, 05:25.958 --> 05:27.959 [SPEAKER_01]: Pastor, his wife, get up in front of their church. 05:28.859 --> 05:35.982 [SPEAKER_01]: And the wife gets on the microphone and informs the congregation that her and the pastor are in a poly relationship. 05:38.243 --> 05:49.408 [SPEAKER_01]: Then she proceeds to tell them, they already know who the other woman is, because she's been ministering in this church in all the Rehabila. 05:50.829 --> 05:53.610 [SPEAKER_01]: And they bring up the woman to address the church 05:56.296 --> 06:11.119 [SPEAKER_01]: The kids got a hand-clap of praise, and I got to be honest, I was embarrassed, I would be embarrassed to pastor a church where the people don't think before they react to what would just say. 06:11.319 --> 06:22.742 [SPEAKER_01]: If I bring a guest speaker here and they say something crazy, and y'all are clapping for something that's crazy, I'm gonna turn around and say, hey, that's not even in the 06:26.906 --> 06:28.386 [SPEAKER_01]: It's just not even what that mean. 06:32.887 --> 06:33.607 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm for serious. 06:35.188 --> 06:38.368 [SPEAKER_01]: What I also mean as your pastor, you're in a for serious. 06:38.948 --> 06:44.890 [SPEAKER_01]: What I also mean is you got to know the difference between when Darrell is talking and the Holy Spirit is speaking. 06:48.910 --> 06:51.091 [SPEAKER_01]: So let me make this as plain as I can. 06:52.728 --> 07:00.894 [SPEAKER_01]: intimacy God created for us to enjoy in the marital relationship is lost when you add more people to it. 07:03.015 --> 07:12.542 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, you may be saying, Rev, what about the people in the Bible who had cocky bonds and what about the people in the Bible who who practice polygamy, right? 07:13.022 --> 07:13.603 [SPEAKER_01]: What about them? 07:14.123 --> 07:20.728 [SPEAKER_01]: If you go back and read their stories, was any other people in the Bible who had multiple spouses happy and fulfilled in those relationships? 07:22.948 --> 07:23.869 [SPEAKER_01]: Not not a one. 07:25.070 --> 07:31.237 [SPEAKER_01]: Soon as Abraham and Sarah decide they gonna bring Hagar into it, it created conflict in the house. 07:32.479 --> 07:37.745 [SPEAKER_01]: Solomon has 700 wives, 300 curkey burns, and they all let his heart away from God. 07:38.916 --> 07:47.978 [SPEAKER_01]: The Bible says that the king was not even supposed to marry a woman, who was not of the same faith system, because marriage is so key to the heart of the issue. 07:48.598 --> 07:49.218 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's the other thing. 07:49.238 --> 07:55.740 [SPEAKER_01]: If you want to use Old Testament marriages as your pattern for marriage, you miss with the Old Testament as about it. 07:55.760 --> 07:58.820 [SPEAKER_01]: The pastor of a church is not king-dated. 08:02.021 --> 08:05.842 [SPEAKER_01]: The pastor of a church is not a king of a geopolitical territory. 08:06.875 --> 08:09.779 [SPEAKER_01]: The pastor of a church is not a commander of an army. 08:10.720 --> 08:12.382 [SPEAKER_01]: Maybe a game, but not an army. 08:12.582 --> 08:12.682 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 08:12.702 --> 08:12.842 [UNKNOWN]: Yeah. 08:12.882 --> 08:12.983 [UNKNOWN]: Yeah. 08:13.023 --> 08:13.123 [UNKNOWN]: Yeah. 08:13.163 --> 08:13.483 [UNKNOWN]: Yeah. 08:13.503 --> 08:16.567 [UNKNOWN]: Yeah. 08:17.648 --> 08:18.049 [SPEAKER_01]: We are not a game. 08:18.069 --> 08:18.770 [SPEAKER_01]: It's all the guests of the world. 08:21.914 --> 08:23.095 [SPEAKER_01]: We are not a game. 08:23.115 --> 08:24.197 [SPEAKER_01]: It's all the guests of the world. 08:30.911 --> 08:37.336 [SPEAKER_01]: The pastor of a church is not what the Old Testament figures were in Israel. 08:38.496 --> 08:43.600 [SPEAKER_01]: And any time you hear spouses spoken of, biblically, and God is speaking, it's always in the singular. 08:45.622 --> 08:52.566 [SPEAKER_01]: When God made Adam a spouse, he could have made Adam, he could have taken a reels and made ten women, couldn't he? 08:54.468 --> 08:55.288 [SPEAKER_01]: He is God. 08:56.689 --> 08:58.611 [SPEAKER_01]: He took one reel and do what? 09:00.012 --> 09:05.196 [SPEAKER_01]: one woman and he's said for this reason she'll a man leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife. 09:08.878 --> 09:09.479 [SPEAKER_01]: Singular. 09:10.980 --> 09:15.643 [SPEAKER_01]: Now any other way that was skewed after that don't justify or change. 09:15.703 --> 09:16.524 [SPEAKER_01]: Let me say it that way. 09:16.604 --> 09:17.765 [SPEAKER_01]: We got established. 09:17.785 --> 09:24.769 [SPEAKER_01]: Then when we come back to the New Testament, spouse is always spoken of in the Singular and you can't get around his marks. 09:25.390 --> 09:28.272 [SPEAKER_01]: Look at what the qualification of a pastor. 09:29.582 --> 09:36.824 [SPEAKER_01]: First Timothy 3-2, and overseer then must be above reproach. 09:38.245 --> 09:46.848 [SPEAKER_01]: The wet church has made a war in a white, temperate, self-control, respectable, hospitable, skillful and teaching. 09:47.008 --> 09:51.449 [SPEAKER_01]: You're not qualified to lead a church if you are not growing in these virtues. 09:53.670 --> 09:56.251 [SPEAKER_01]: It remained in the past, it has to be married to be a pastor. 09:56.671 --> 09:58.572 [SPEAKER_01]: It means if a pastor is married, 09:59.937 --> 10:10.599 [SPEAKER_01]: than a pastor in the Lord's Church must have one spouse of the opposite gender, faithfully. 10:21.290 --> 10:22.310 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, why is that important? 10:22.331 --> 10:23.611 [SPEAKER_01]: Because there's some people in this room. 10:23.791 --> 10:26.212 [SPEAKER_01]: I read my agency, the video, I don't care when people talk about them. 10:26.913 --> 10:27.473 [SPEAKER_01]: And they church. 10:27.853 --> 10:28.834 [SPEAKER_01]: Also, I'm single. 10:28.894 --> 10:30.895 [SPEAKER_01]: Marriage is not even some of my radar. 10:31.315 --> 10:32.335 [SPEAKER_01]: What does this have to do to me? 10:32.975 --> 10:33.516 [SPEAKER_01]: Do with me. 10:33.556 --> 10:38.098 [SPEAKER_01]: This conversation really, you know, forthwith is about intimacy. 10:39.532 --> 10:48.979 [SPEAKER_01]: And the type of intimacy God has designed for us to enjoy with God, with our sales, then with others. 10:49.860 --> 11:00.107 [SPEAKER_01]: And the marital relationship is the highest expression of human intimacy, but not the only example of human intimacy. 11:00.147 --> 11:01.068 [SPEAKER_01]: Y'all picking up what I'm putting down? 11:02.198 --> 11:11.867 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, when it comes to marriage though, we want to be clear on God's terms because marriage is not about fulfilling all my wishes and dreams. 11:12.868 --> 11:13.669 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's a major key. 11:13.909 --> 11:19.514 [SPEAKER_01]: Sex and intimacy in marriage is more about honoring God than fulfilling all your lusts. 11:21.476 --> 11:27.602 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't get the term marriage into what you want it to be, so it can fulfill all the stuff that you want to do. 11:28.872 --> 11:32.995 [SPEAKER_01]: The primary goal is to honor God, not necessarily to just do things my way. 11:33.395 --> 11:47.605 [SPEAKER_01]: So we've been trying to have an honest conversation around marriage and for the first month, we have looked at, you know, the purpose of marriage, we talked about divorce and remarriage, we talked about communication and conflict. 11:48.205 --> 11:52.688 [SPEAKER_01]: Then in the last week, we had a robust conversation around masculinity and femininity. 11:53.189 --> 11:57.492 [SPEAKER_01]: How God has given the masculine and feminine to be a blessing and a gift to another. 11:58.232 --> 12:05.455 [SPEAKER_01]: Today as we begin this second half of the series, we're going to get into the blended nature of marriage. 12:05.975 --> 12:10.217 [SPEAKER_01]: And so we'll talk about stuff like blended families, blended finances, 12:11.413 --> 12:15.536 [SPEAKER_01]: Blended identity, but still being a unique personality. 12:16.176 --> 12:21.940 [SPEAKER_01]: And today we'll start what it means to have a conversation around blending our bodies of our sacred spaces. 12:22.341 --> 12:23.902 [SPEAKER_01]: So we turn into Genesis 2 and 3. 12:24.642 --> 12:31.928 [SPEAKER_01]: Because it's important, I think, if we go back to the beginning to see what God designed to consider how that desire was flawed. 12:32.668 --> 12:38.212 [SPEAKER_01]: So we can find hope in it for what it can become, even though we live in a broken world. 12:38.993 --> 12:50.662 [SPEAKER_01]: And so what we'll notice from Genesis 2 and 3 is that both Adam and Eve became anxiously aware of something that God meant for them to enjoy without shame. 12:52.744 --> 12:56.967 [SPEAKER_01]: So it could be said that Adam and Eve, when they eat this fruit, they should not eat. 12:57.408 --> 13:02.292 [SPEAKER_01]: It could be said that they both experience post-bite charity. 13:13.163 --> 13:22.611 [SPEAKER_01]: If you know you know, if you don't know, keep not knowing, the Lord has blessed you. 13:24.793 --> 13:25.694 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's a major key. 13:27.435 --> 13:32.580 [SPEAKER_01]: Shane sneaks in the moment after the moment we go to for him. 13:34.367 --> 13:41.211 [SPEAKER_01]: And not just when it comes to sex, when it comes to any area in our life that we've crossed the boundary, we all know what it means to go too far. 13:41.871 --> 13:51.496 [SPEAKER_00]: The moment after that moment is when our eyes are open, and we become anxious about something that God designed us to enjoy in freedom. 13:51.716 --> 13:56.059 [SPEAKER_01]: And so here's my question for you, and I'm only asking you this, because I love you as your pastor. 13:56.099 --> 13:58.280 [SPEAKER_01]: I care about you as your brother and Christ, and that is this. 13:59.412 --> 14:05.475 [SPEAKER_01]: Is there any shame that keeps you from the joy of thoughtless freedom? 14:07.716 --> 14:12.918 [SPEAKER_01]: God designed us to live in thoughtless freedom, not anxious awareness. 14:14.318 --> 14:24.203 [SPEAKER_01]: Usually, shame is the bridge we take when we leave thoughtless freedom and live in anxious awareness. 14:25.499 --> 14:30.703 [SPEAKER_01]: And so my question is, is there any shine that keeps you from the joy of thought and spirit? 14:30.763 --> 14:40.972 [SPEAKER_01]: So I want to have a conversation about intimacy because it does hold up sex and marriage, but intimacy holds up so much more and I'll like then, Jess, our sexual lives. 14:40.992 --> 14:44.795 [SPEAKER_01]: So here's the first thing we'll look at, we'll look at cultivating the layers of intimacy. 14:45.696 --> 14:50.320 [SPEAKER_01]: Then number two, we're going to look at protecting the sacredness of intimacy. 14:51.591 --> 14:55.955 [SPEAKER_01]: Then number three will end with redeeming the possibility for intimacy. 14:56.656 --> 15:01.340 [SPEAKER_01]: So here's the first thing we'll notice, and that is this cultivating the layers of intimacy. 15:02.101 --> 15:08.867 [SPEAKER_01]: Jimi says, then the Lord God took the man, put him in the garden of Eden to watch arch 2. 15:10.208 --> 15:19.793 [SPEAKER_01]: cultivated and what tended, God said plainly that the task of human beings was to cultivate beauty. 15:20.213 --> 15:21.674 [SPEAKER_01]: He gave them as a gift. 15:22.795 --> 15:26.076 [SPEAKER_01]: He says, I'm a give you the garden, I'm a give you each other. 15:27.317 --> 15:34.721 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm a give you the gift of potential beauty, but an order for that gift to really maximize in your life you have to cultivate. 15:35.521 --> 15:35.621 [SPEAKER_01]: Now 15:39.198 --> 15:43.120 [SPEAKER_01]: meaning any garden or any agricultural is any horticulturalism house. 15:43.160 --> 15:45.981 [SPEAKER_01]: I know we got one educated horticulturalism that I know about. 15:46.061 --> 15:54.165 [SPEAKER_01]: In this house, you know that nothing grows in the garden or from the earth if it's not cultivated, it will work, it's not a part of the process. 15:55.165 --> 16:00.788 [SPEAKER_01]: So the idea is that what's beautiful must be cultivated. 16:01.946 --> 16:14.716 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, then applies to gardeners, then applies to marriages, then applies to skills and abilities, then applies to the children, that God has entrusted to our lives, whether you mother father or auntie Uncle, you picking up on him right now. 16:15.814 --> 16:25.496 [SPEAKER_01]: that applies to churches, that God gives us as a gift who has cultivate the way community church, so that the beauty of this church can continue to grow for the glory of God. 16:25.937 --> 16:26.697 [SPEAKER_01]: It's a part of life. 16:27.217 --> 16:28.037 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's a major key to. 16:28.357 --> 16:34.579 [SPEAKER_01]: Like gardens, intimacy in relationships must be cultivated. 16:35.779 --> 16:42.681 [SPEAKER_01]: If it was one of the things that I learned from Dayton to marriage is that in Dayton, you just turned on. 16:45.858 --> 16:48.201 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, we have my under-conversational rest there for 10. 16:48.981 --> 16:49.862 [SPEAKER_01]: Tell me now. 16:52.445 --> 16:54.127 [SPEAKER_00]: And day in this, what do I miss you? 16:54.207 --> 16:56.489 [SPEAKER_01]: Ooh, that's all, ooh, that's eat, ooh, that's... 16:58.031 --> 17:02.395 [SPEAKER_01]: So as you get married, you're like... Yeah. 17:02.415 --> 17:02.576 [UNKNOWN]: Yeah. 17:02.656 --> 17:06.219 [SPEAKER_01]: All right, guess I'll turn it on today. 17:08.001 --> 17:08.522 [SPEAKER_01]: It's work. 17:08.542 --> 17:09.463 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know what happens. 17:10.945 --> 17:37.189 [SPEAKER_01]: You put the rain all the thing and it's going to be more day in and you realize it can be better than day here, but it won't be as easy as day in, because you've got a cultivated, you have to work it, intimacy does not happen by mistake, it takes what church work, now when you hear intimacy don't think sex, right, don't think sex, also when you hear sex, don't think dirty. 17:39.713 --> 17:41.475 [SPEAKER_01]: All right, but we'll save that conversation. 17:41.655 --> 17:42.676 [SPEAKER_01]: Nor will it for another week. 17:43.076 --> 17:45.258 [SPEAKER_01]: When you hear intimacy, don't think sex. 17:45.478 --> 17:47.580 [SPEAKER_01]: When you hear intimacy, think closeness. 17:49.202 --> 18:00.092 [SPEAKER_01]: intimacy could be defined as a state of close familiarity, emotional or physical closeness, and mutual vulnerability between people. 18:00.978 --> 18:14.527 [SPEAKER_01]: It is the capacity emotionally to want to know and be known by others, and it's cultivated on multiple layers, and it's expressed in different ways. 18:14.767 --> 18:21.071 [SPEAKER_01]: So intimacy don't just mean sex, intimacy means I'm open to be known by you, and I really desire to know you. 18:21.950 --> 18:26.133 [SPEAKER_01]: In whatever healthy, dynamic we're supposed to relate to each other in. 18:26.793 --> 18:33.697 [SPEAKER_01]: And so if you think about it, we have intimacy, we experience intimacy with people in different ways in our life, right? 18:33.737 --> 18:36.079 [SPEAKER_01]: My father, I have an intimate relationship with my father. 18:37.059 --> 18:44.364 [SPEAKER_01]: Me and my dad, my dad would be 60 on his next birthday, praise the Lord, my dad, and me talk about stuff that has a 40-year-old man, I need to know. 18:45.765 --> 18:50.968 [SPEAKER_01]: I talk to stuff, I talk to my dad about stuff, I do not talk to my mom about. 18:52.917 --> 18:53.457 [SPEAKER_01]: You see, I'm saying? 18:54.298 --> 18:56.659 [SPEAKER_01]: If I'm frustrated, I stressed out, I'm gonna call my dad. 18:57.520 --> 19:01.322 [SPEAKER_01]: When I call my mom, it's just, Greena, I love you, I hate you a lot. 19:02.842 --> 19:03.583 [SPEAKER_01]: What's you doing today? 19:04.183 --> 19:06.464 [SPEAKER_01]: And I just like to fall down on the metal talk, that's what he means. 19:06.484 --> 19:06.805 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:06.825 --> 19:07.025 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:07.045 --> 19:09.046 [SPEAKER_00]: Uh-huh, uh-huh. 19:09.066 --> 19:09.266 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 19:09.426 --> 19:09.746 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:09.766 --> 19:09.866 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. 19:12.708 --> 19:13.348 [SPEAKER_01]: What? 19:13.488 --> 19:14.028 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:14.109 --> 19:14.609 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:14.649 --> 19:14.949 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:16.530 --> 19:17.190 [SPEAKER_01]: No, they did. 19:17.210 --> 19:17.310 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:17.350 --> 19:19.391 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:19.411 --> 19:19.872 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 19:20.572 --> 19:22.153 [SPEAKER_01]: That's a different kind of intimacy. 19:23.923 --> 19:28.367 [SPEAKER_01]: Right, even between my parents, I got a different kind of intimacy with my sons. 19:28.467 --> 19:30.629 [SPEAKER_01]: All right, I got sisters, right? 19:30.650 --> 19:31.170 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm a big brother. 19:31.210 --> 19:32.331 [SPEAKER_01]: One of my younger sisters is here. 19:32.651 --> 19:33.973 [SPEAKER_01]: There's a different type of intimacy. 19:34.193 --> 19:38.357 [SPEAKER_01]: And the end of this service, I'm gonna shut, hug and shake hands with a few people. 19:38.497 --> 19:40.379 [SPEAKER_01]: When she walked up to me, the hug is gonna be different. 19:41.400 --> 19:43.562 [SPEAKER_01]: I changed the girl diaper for Christ's sake. 19:44.223 --> 19:46.525 [SPEAKER_01]: I took now her plaques for Christ's sake. 19:48.882 --> 19:54.263 [SPEAKER_01]: And there's a different kind of closeness there, and it's a unique kind of closeness I have with Ebony. 19:55.223 --> 19:59.444 [SPEAKER_01]: And God's design is that we're intimate and close with each other, right? 19:59.504 --> 20:05.765 [SPEAKER_01]: And there's a different kind of way that closeness is expressed, depending upon the relational dynamic. 20:06.806 --> 20:09.846 [SPEAKER_01]: But in marriage, it's supposed to be the ultimate closeness. 20:09.866 --> 20:13.047 [SPEAKER_01]: It's supposed to be as close as two humans can be. 20:13.387 --> 20:14.947 [SPEAKER_01]: And you see it in Genesis 225. 20:15.167 --> 20:17.728 [SPEAKER_01]: Genesis 225 says, and the man and his wife, 20:18.665 --> 20:23.228 [SPEAKER_01]: We're both making it, and they were not ashamed. 20:23.248 --> 20:24.609 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't get no closer than that. 20:24.629 --> 20:24.809 [SPEAKER_01]: What? 20:25.830 --> 20:28.692 [SPEAKER_01]: They just out here. 20:31.814 --> 20:33.535 [SPEAKER_01]: Happy as can be. 20:33.955 --> 20:38.718 [SPEAKER_01]: Thoughtless, free, enjoy the blessings of God. 20:39.899 --> 20:48.185 [SPEAKER_01]: They were unassigned in the relational gift they received from God, but they knew, at least intuitively, that they had to cultivate it. 20:48.902 --> 20:54.246 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's a major key, failure to do the work can cause us to lose the freedom in the blessing. 20:56.147 --> 21:03.492 [SPEAKER_01]: It's some people here right now who was married but not married because in one way or another somebody failed to do work. 21:06.274 --> 21:10.517 [SPEAKER_01]: One way or another somebody failed to do the work and we're not point fingers we just have an conversation. 21:11.838 --> 21:14.200 [SPEAKER_01]: When you fail to do the work you lose the freedom of the blessing. 21:15.601 --> 21:16.822 [SPEAKER_01]: All right, so if you hear data, 21:18.628 --> 21:19.929 [SPEAKER_01]: And they're not doing the work now? 21:25.114 --> 21:26.995 [SPEAKER_01]: I ain't trying to get into people business, I'll just say it. 21:28.677 --> 21:32.060 [SPEAKER_01]: If they're not doing the work now, take note of that. 21:33.101 --> 21:33.961 [SPEAKER_01]: Let me move on. 21:36.664 --> 21:40.907 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, we are blessed to relate to God, ourselves, and others. 21:41.228 --> 21:43.710 [SPEAKER_01]: And that's the relationships that we must cultivate. 21:44.973 --> 21:49.816 [SPEAKER_01]: intimacy, we must cultivate intimacy with God without self and with others. 21:50.117 --> 21:52.378 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's how we cultivate intimacy with God. 21:52.758 --> 21:59.683 [SPEAKER_01]: We cultivate intimacy with God by spending time in His presence just to delight in knowing God. 22:01.024 --> 22:07.709 [SPEAKER_01]: Because intimacy is cultivated through unhury time for the purpose of what church a deeper knowing. 22:08.829 --> 22:10.511 [SPEAKER_01]: It's unhury time just to know you better. 22:14.758 --> 22:36.382 [SPEAKER_01]: If you only talk the guy, when you need something, or if you only want to hear from a guy, when you come to church at 10, 30, on Sunday mornings, I'm not even judging, I'm really sad for you because you have not even tapped into the true beauty of knowing God and being known by God. 22:36.682 --> 22:43.844 [SPEAKER_01]: That's why the Psalmist says in Psalm 16, verse number 11, says in your presence, there is fullness of joy, 22:45.541 --> 22:51.944 [SPEAKER_01]: At your right hand, Psalm 16, verse 11 says, there is pleasure ever more. 22:54.244 --> 22:58.046 [SPEAKER_01]: Right, just to know you, just to be in your presence brings mutual. 22:58.286 --> 23:02.108 [SPEAKER_01]: Not just Psalm 16, but also look at Jeremiah 9, verse 23 through 24. 23:02.748 --> 23:06.289 [SPEAKER_01]: Jeremiah 9, 23 through 24 says, this is what the Lord says. 23:07.590 --> 23:10.511 [SPEAKER_01]: Durham boasts if you wise about your wisdom. 23:11.280 --> 23:13.422 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't boast if you strong about your strength. 23:14.062 --> 23:16.765 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't boast in your money if you got a lot of it. 23:16.945 --> 23:17.806 [SPEAKER_01]: Look at verse 24. 23:18.786 --> 23:24.291 [SPEAKER_01]: But let the one who boast of this, that he understands me and knows me. 23:25.612 --> 23:32.678 [SPEAKER_01]: God said, when you want to brag about everything you got going on, don't brag about the things that really in the end don't amount anything. 23:32.738 --> 23:34.720 [SPEAKER_01]: If you want to brag, brag that I know you. 23:36.268 --> 23:37.750 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad, that you know means. 23:38.590 --> 23:41.013 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad, that when I speak you hear my voice. 23:42.074 --> 23:46.158 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad, that we got a close relationship that stabilizes you from the inside out. 23:46.278 --> 23:50.883 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad, that I've given you some that money came by and that life came take away. 23:51.904 --> 23:54.147 [SPEAKER_01]: Brad, that we're close, that we spent on her return. 23:54.367 --> 23:56.109 [SPEAKER_01]: But it's not just on her return with God. 23:56.149 --> 23:59.032 [SPEAKER_01]: We also need to cultivate intimacy with ourselves. 24:01.405 --> 24:05.989 [SPEAKER_01]: In every season of your life, you got to get to know yourself again. 24:07.610 --> 24:08.391 [SPEAKER_01]: Am I telling them the truth? 24:10.212 --> 24:19.420 [SPEAKER_01]: Because you'll grow in your age and time will happen and you'll look in the mirror and if you're not careful, you won't recognize who's looking at it. 24:20.661 --> 24:27.727 [SPEAKER_01]: Because this whole time you just been focused on what other people need that you didn't stop the considered was going on with me. 24:29.509 --> 24:34.513 [SPEAKER_01]: And then you lose yourself in roles and identities that may be good, but they are not God. 24:34.533 --> 24:38.756 [SPEAKER_01]: And then it's almost impossible to find you again. 24:40.057 --> 24:45.501 [SPEAKER_01]: God meant for us to dwell in the we he never meant for me to lose me and we. 24:51.566 --> 24:54.028 [SPEAKER_01]: But if you're not cultivating intimacy with yourself, 24:55.902 --> 24:59.643 [SPEAKER_01]: You're not reflecting on the good and bad realities that I'm shaped who you are. 25:00.603 --> 25:07.085 [SPEAKER_01]: If you're not cultivating intimacy with yourself, you leave yourself vulnerable to whatever the world of flesh and the devil brings. 25:07.365 --> 25:10.526 [SPEAKER_00]: If you don't know yourself, you only know what not to be around. 25:12.426 --> 25:13.346 [SPEAKER_01]: Come on, tell them the truth. 25:15.067 --> 25:17.307 [SPEAKER_01]: But when you know yourself, you're like, you know what? 25:18.008 --> 25:19.088 [SPEAKER_01]: Who are going to be over there? 25:25.652 --> 25:28.995 [SPEAKER_01]: And my tell them a truth, you said, who now I'm gonna go on this day? 25:29.015 --> 25:49.115 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on 25:50.172 --> 25:55.694 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling the truth, if you know you got anger issues, no, I'mma go on and stay on with it. 25:57.934 --> 25:58.995 [SPEAKER_01]: What's our gonna be doing? 25:59.075 --> 26:00.555 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, cool, what's our gonna be doing, drink it? 26:00.655 --> 26:01.935 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, yeah, I'mma go on with it. 26:02.316 --> 26:03.996 [SPEAKER_01]: We're gonna be smoking till a y'all gonna be smoking. 26:04.036 --> 26:06.117 [SPEAKER_01]: No, I'mma go on and stay home. 26:07.437 --> 26:08.997 [SPEAKER_01]: I had to put the weed down. 26:10.338 --> 26:11.718 [SPEAKER_01]: I came here around the weed. 26:13.239 --> 26:14.699 [SPEAKER_01]: You know who I used to be? 26:16.840 --> 26:17.640 [SPEAKER_01]: Am I telling the truth? 26:19.102 --> 26:23.645 [SPEAKER_01]: But if you're not cultivating intimacy with yourself, you can't even set your light up for righteousness. 26:25.306 --> 26:27.248 [SPEAKER_01]: Cause you're not aware of your own weaknesses. 26:27.748 --> 26:34.192 [SPEAKER_01]: But when I'm aware of my weaknesses, I can pattern my life to at least not walk into temptation. 26:34.232 --> 26:37.534 [SPEAKER_01]: But then I also want to cultivate intimacy with others. 26:38.475 --> 26:42.178 [SPEAKER_01]: But first being willing to be known then genuinely wanting to know. 26:43.739 --> 26:46.060 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you genuinely want to know the people in your life? 26:46.821 --> 26:48.182 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna tell you, if you sell center, 26:49.437 --> 26:51.918 [SPEAKER_01]: you have yet to tap into the beauty of intimacy. 26:52.479 --> 26:58.742 [SPEAKER_01]: Because when you so consume with you, you don't have space to realize how wonderful all the people around you are. 27:00.403 --> 27:02.984 [SPEAKER_01]: And everybody in your life is wonderful for a different reason. 27:03.964 --> 27:06.366 [SPEAKER_01]: And when you wanna know and be known, you can experience that place. 27:06.446 --> 27:11.448 [SPEAKER_01]: So we cultivate the layers of intimacy, but then on with two, we must protect the sacredness of intimacy. 27:12.669 --> 27:13.729 [SPEAKER_01]: Antimacy is sacred. 27:15.390 --> 27:18.552 [SPEAKER_01]: To be close is sacred, that matters. 27:20.293 --> 27:28.298 [SPEAKER_01]: God created the garden for sacred intimacy, but notice God didn't put a fence around the garden to keep the snake out. 27:30.599 --> 27:35.983 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, Lord, why would you put us in this beautiful garden but not put a fence around it to keep the snake out? 27:37.043 --> 27:44.668 [SPEAKER_01]: I think because the fence around the garden wasn't a true protection, it was God's word to them that should have been a true protection. 27:45.644 --> 27:46.224 [SPEAKER_01]: I want you to hear me. 27:46.865 --> 27:47.726 [SPEAKER_01]: God put him in the garden. 27:47.986 --> 27:50.268 [SPEAKER_01]: He said, you can eat too many treats, Excel. 27:51.009 --> 27:52.590 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't eat from the tree to not much good in evil. 27:52.990 --> 27:54.852 [SPEAKER_01]: Because if you do, you'll surely die. 27:55.693 --> 27:56.774 [SPEAKER_01]: That was the fix. 27:58.075 --> 28:04.640 [SPEAKER_01]: Because the real garden was not eating the real garden was the heart. 28:04.660 --> 28:04.780 [SPEAKER_01]: Good. 28:06.402 --> 28:09.625 [SPEAKER_01]: And he said, I gave you my word to put a guard around your heart. 28:10.783 --> 28:17.649 [SPEAKER_01]: So that wherever you go in terrain or geographically, you steal spiritually, you have safety and protection. 28:17.669 --> 28:18.750 [SPEAKER_01]: You like Rebby making this up. 28:18.990 --> 28:21.092 [SPEAKER_01]: Emma, look at Proverbs 24, 23. 28:21.372 --> 28:31.420 [SPEAKER_01]: Watch over your heart, Proverbs 24, 23, says, for from it, Florida Springs, I'm like. 28:31.440 --> 28:31.760 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 28:31.981 --> 28:32.181 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 28:32.201 --> 28:35.684 [SPEAKER_01]: Mark 7, 23, 23, 23, Jesus said that which comes out of a person. 28:36.604 --> 28:38.046 [SPEAKER_01]: That is what defiles the person. 28:38.823 --> 28:59.298 [SPEAKER_01]: For firm with end, out of what church the hearts of people come evil thoughts, acts of sexual immorality, thefts, murder, acts of adultery, deeds of greed, wickedness, to see, in decent behavior, in the slender pride, and foolishness, all these evil things come from within and defile the person. 28:59.858 --> 29:03.661 [SPEAKER_01]: So say in slithers into sacred space, 29:05.323 --> 29:15.613 [SPEAKER_01]: And when he slid us in the sacred space, his goal is to attack worship, identity, and marriage. 29:17.214 --> 29:24.819 [SPEAKER_01]: He slanders in and his goal is to attack worship, identity, and your ability to connect with each other. 29:25.059 --> 29:29.062 [SPEAKER_01]: He's coming after every layer of your intimacy when he slanders in. 29:29.902 --> 29:41.170 [SPEAKER_01]: So when he speaks to Eve and ends attempting them to fall, when he does is he tips her with an unchecked desire in her own heart. 29:44.210 --> 29:55.692 [SPEAKER_01]: And when the fence around her heart is open by desire, it's easy to close God's boundary when you'd been convinced not to trust God's Word. 29:57.953 --> 29:59.413 [SPEAKER_01]: And we all have been here, haven't we? 30:00.433 --> 30:01.974 [SPEAKER_01]: Say it slow to zen, what is his goal? 30:02.154 --> 30:07.695 [SPEAKER_01]: His goal is to attack your worship, your identity, and your ability to connect with others. 30:08.618 --> 30:09.819 [SPEAKER_01]: He's coming still killing the stroke. 30:09.999 --> 30:10.819 [SPEAKER_01]: That's what he's after. 30:11.119 --> 30:15.601 [SPEAKER_01]: And if you got any unchecked desire in your soul, that's what he's going to use to try to pull you out. 30:16.722 --> 30:19.223 [SPEAKER_01]: That's what he's going to use to call you shame. 30:19.923 --> 30:23.545 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the moment before the moment, shame sees in. 30:24.585 --> 30:31.288 [SPEAKER_01]: And she takes and eats the Bible says, in Genesis 3, verse 6, she gives it to her husband and he eats for the reason she ate. 30:31.348 --> 30:34.330 [SPEAKER_01]: It's because she looked at it and saw that it would make her wise. 30:37.310 --> 30:40.493 [SPEAKER_01]: It looked good, it was desirable, it was delightful. 30:40.993 --> 30:43.235 [SPEAKER_01]: Uncheck desire calls vulnerability. 30:44.156 --> 30:50.641 [SPEAKER_01]: So then she calls God's boundary, he calls God's boundary, because it's easy to do that and what's that disbelief God's goodness. 30:52.142 --> 31:03.731 [SPEAKER_01]: Then Shane Creep said, here's a major key, Shane makes intimacy impossible because thoughtless freedom is replaced with anxious awareness. 31:07.422 --> 31:11.523 [SPEAKER_01]: What are you anxiously aware of that you should be thoughtlessly free in? 31:14.344 --> 31:15.624 [SPEAKER_01]: That was walking around y'all. 31:16.204 --> 31:16.924 [SPEAKER_01]: Unclosed. 31:18.285 --> 31:18.745 [SPEAKER_01]: Free. 31:20.165 --> 31:27.187 [SPEAKER_01]: Soon as they cross God's boundary, their eyes are open, and they're not just aware, now their anxious ranks. 31:28.667 --> 31:31.688 [SPEAKER_01]: They can't be free like they used to be free. 31:32.815 --> 31:37.759 [SPEAKER_01]: Because now where they have been made aware of, is causing them anxiety in their place, they would not design the field. 31:39.941 --> 31:48.649 [SPEAKER_01]: And all of us in World War another have had an experience where we went from thought to freedom, to anxious and anxious awareness. 31:49.349 --> 31:51.631 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling you right now, my children they got caught in this freedom. 31:52.932 --> 31:55.615 [SPEAKER_01]: They go to the refrigerator, they open it food and fridge. 31:57.866 --> 31:59.666 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, damn, mom, we forgot to tell you. 32:00.227 --> 32:01.827 [SPEAKER_01]: I need you to sign on a surface on. 32:02.207 --> 32:02.607 [SPEAKER_01]: When is it? 32:02.887 --> 32:03.587 [SPEAKER_01]: It's tomorrow. 32:03.787 --> 32:04.788 [SPEAKER_01]: How much does it cost? 32:05.288 --> 32:06.168 [SPEAKER_01]: Or on in the lead. 32:06.188 --> 32:06.308 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 32:06.328 --> 32:06.428 [UNKNOWN]: Yeah. 32:08.728 --> 32:09.869 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. 32:09.889 --> 32:10.609 [SPEAKER_01]: Thought it's freedom. 32:12.329 --> 32:14.310 [SPEAKER_01]: All they think about is where they got to do it. 32:15.190 --> 32:17.050 [SPEAKER_01]: They don't think about what we got to do. 32:18.131 --> 32:24.072 [SPEAKER_01]: The date on the calendar no matter where you are in your cash flow and your budget don't matter. 32:25.145 --> 32:32.947 [SPEAKER_01]: Thoughtless freedom, leave the refrigerator open, leave the lights always like they just run through the house. 32:35.887 --> 32:36.908 [SPEAKER_01]: And I just go behind. 32:43.209 --> 32:48.410 [SPEAKER_01]: Because I am anxiously aware of Georgia Power. 32:53.834 --> 32:56.797 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm anxiously aware of the grocery bill. 32:58.858 --> 33:01.620 [SPEAKER_01]: So you know what it's like to go from in, thought, listen, you know freedom. 33:01.941 --> 33:05.684 [SPEAKER_01]: Somebody taking care of you, to anxiously aware, and then you got to work and put food on the table. 33:06.945 --> 33:09.987 [SPEAKER_01]: But spiritually, we know what it's like to. 33:10.968 --> 33:19.015 [SPEAKER_01]: Because when we start comparing ourselves against others, and this area of intimacy is really a source or doorway for anxiety. 33:20.292 --> 33:24.353 [SPEAKER_01]: Because you compare yourself to others, you compare yourself to others, you compare yourself to other people. 33:26.034 --> 33:30.836 [SPEAKER_01]: You got images in your mind, what you thought it should be, and then you can't even show up in what it really is. 33:32.856 --> 33:40.359 [SPEAKER_01]: And he realized that the things you were allowing into your mind, into your soul are creating, and anxiety, and making intimacy difficult. 33:40.659 --> 33:42.540 [SPEAKER_01]: So we've got to protect sacred space, how do we do that? 33:43.420 --> 33:46.421 [SPEAKER_01]: We protect sacred space by having a secret space with God, 33:50.362 --> 33:51.742 [SPEAKER_01]: and share a space for others. 33:53.363 --> 34:03.566 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you have a secret space where you and God, either a time on your calendar or somewhere you go, where did you win the Lord? 34:05.166 --> 34:06.627 [SPEAKER_01]: I got three that I can think of. 34:07.067 --> 34:09.068 [SPEAKER_01]: One is a chair in my office at home. 34:09.368 --> 34:10.508 [SPEAKER_01]: I got a chair in my office at home. 34:10.588 --> 34:11.868 [SPEAKER_01]: I'll do no work in this chair. 34:13.289 --> 34:16.910 [SPEAKER_01]: When I send that chair, it's me and it's the Lord. 34:18.025 --> 34:30.530 [SPEAKER_01]: I got my Bible open, I'm studying, I'm letting the Lord speak, I'm journaling, I'm praying, I'm reflector, it could be, I got a house, you know, we got keys, and these is nothings, you know what I mean? 34:30.550 --> 34:35.072 [SPEAKER_01]: I put them on hand for arms, put it on a choir mode, I'm right there with the Lord. 34:36.172 --> 34:37.313 [SPEAKER_01]: That's my secret space we got. 34:37.513 --> 34:41.055 [SPEAKER_01]: My other secret space we got is the golf course, praises land. 34:43.015 --> 34:44.376 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh my God, we're sorry. 34:47.599 --> 34:59.245 [SPEAKER_01]: a secret space we've got, and go, right, just be in the Lord, I'm out there, if I get a bit of breeze after a bad shot, right when I want to complain to my Lord, thank you. 35:00.606 --> 35:05.869 [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you to somebody like me, Boer, while I was born, raise, while I was raised, even have the opportunity to play a game like this. 35:08.190 --> 35:15.054 [SPEAKER_01]: Look at me out here, I hint of suburbs, us statistics in every way. 35:16.584 --> 35:20.685 [SPEAKER_01]: I hear him in a golf club, enjoying freedom, praise and glory. 35:20.925 --> 35:24.046 [SPEAKER_01]: My other secret space with God is the general, is where I go to be with the Lord. 35:25.406 --> 35:29.487 [SPEAKER_01]: To embrace my limits and be with the Lord. 35:29.667 --> 35:31.227 [SPEAKER_01]: Where is your secret space with God? 35:31.527 --> 35:32.568 [SPEAKER_01]: Do you have a secret space? 35:32.788 --> 35:43.330 [SPEAKER_01]: So I'm not even one who wants to say the one who dwells in the shelter or the secret place of the most high will lodge in the shadow of the Almighty. 35:44.810 --> 35:48.453 [SPEAKER_01]: But not just the secret space we got, a special space with self. 35:49.494 --> 35:57.720 [SPEAKER_01]: There should be somewhere when you need to get you together or you need to check on you that you can go to, that you can tap into. 35:57.760 --> 35:58.220 [SPEAKER_01]: Where is it? 35:59.441 --> 36:01.182 [SPEAKER_01]: Where you can go and make sure you're okay. 36:02.303 --> 36:03.684 [SPEAKER_01]: And then also share space with others. 36:03.924 --> 36:05.506 [SPEAKER_01]: And what I'm giving you is not somewhere made up. 36:05.626 --> 36:06.887 [SPEAKER_01]: Jesus lived this pattern. 36:08.062 --> 36:15.504 [SPEAKER_01]: Jesus maintained secret space with God, special place with Himself, so He can have share space with others. 36:16.284 --> 36:26.386 [SPEAKER_01]: Jesus oftentimes, look at Luke 5, 16, it says with Jesus Himself, would often slip away to the wilderness and pray. 36:26.986 --> 36:27.506 [SPEAKER_01]: What does that mean? 36:27.526 --> 36:29.346 [SPEAKER_01]: That means we see all these stories of miracles. 36:29.366 --> 36:30.827 [SPEAKER_01]: You know what's between these stories? 36:31.487 --> 36:32.387 [SPEAKER_01]: Secret space with God. 36:33.912 --> 36:34.832 [SPEAKER_01]: Special place with self. 36:35.753 --> 36:37.094 [SPEAKER_01]: Jesus lied, man, I love all these people. 36:37.234 --> 36:42.716 [SPEAKER_01]: I want to be a share space with him, but I can't be close to them if I'm not close to me and I can't be close to me if I'm not close to God. 36:43.977 --> 36:44.857 [SPEAKER_01]: So it was his rhythm. 36:45.298 --> 36:46.238 [SPEAKER_01]: And he's showing up so wait. 36:46.278 --> 36:47.319 [SPEAKER_01]: Number three and I'll be done. 36:48.219 --> 36:50.140 [SPEAKER_01]: Redeming the possibility of intimacy. 36:50.180 --> 36:53.121 [SPEAKER_01]: So we talked about cultivating the layers, protecting the cycliness. 36:53.602 --> 36:55.162 [SPEAKER_01]: Now let's talk about redeming the possibility. 36:55.302 --> 36:58.224 [SPEAKER_01]: Because some of us like rare, you're up here to tell about being close to people. 36:58.804 --> 37:00.245 [SPEAKER_01]: But you even hurt like I'm hurt. 37:01.938 --> 37:06.499 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't even believe it's possible to be close to somebody like that. 37:07.399 --> 37:10.740 [SPEAKER_01]: Margie, we're a planet to marriage, but it don't just about a marriage, doesn't. 37:11.820 --> 37:12.720 [SPEAKER_01]: It'll plot a church too. 37:14.221 --> 37:17.861 [SPEAKER_01]: Some of us have shamed from church up. 37:20.242 --> 37:24.423 [SPEAKER_01]: And because of the shame we have from church up, you can share space with others. 37:26.363 --> 37:28.944 [SPEAKER_01]: You say, and I'm gonna be a Christian, but I ain't never joining another church. 37:31.736 --> 37:34.196 [SPEAKER_01]: Some of us, you do not go to your family reunion. 37:36.077 --> 37:50.739 [SPEAKER_01]: You just would rather not have a heart attack from the stress of being around people that you can't figure out why God let me share bloodline with you. 37:51.899 --> 37:52.660 [SPEAKER_01]: Am I telling the truth? 37:54.080 --> 38:00.221 [SPEAKER_01]: So the possibility of intimacy is not just in marriage, it's in every relational dynamic. 38:01.085 --> 38:03.486 [SPEAKER_01]: So it's gonna be hard for us to believe that it's possible. 38:04.246 --> 38:05.106 [SPEAKER_01]: But I believe it is. 38:05.186 --> 38:11.449 [SPEAKER_01]: I believe the Lord shows us in Genesis what He provides to make it possible for us to be close. 38:11.769 --> 38:14.110 [SPEAKER_01]: Close to God, close to our sales and each other. 38:14.490 --> 38:15.150 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's the last thing. 38:15.190 --> 38:19.472 [SPEAKER_01]: Genesis, three tournament, redeeming the possibility of intimacy as a last thought. 38:19.812 --> 38:27.954 [SPEAKER_01]: Genesis, the three tournament says, and the Lord God, did what church made garments of skin for Adam and Eve and did what, 38:30.110 --> 38:32.571 [SPEAKER_01]: So Adam and Eve, thoughtless freedom. 38:32.691 --> 38:34.192 [SPEAKER_01]: They walking around, they unashamed. 38:35.673 --> 38:36.493 [SPEAKER_01]: They go too far. 38:37.033 --> 38:39.714 [SPEAKER_01]: The moment after the moment, they have clarity. 38:40.835 --> 38:47.538 [SPEAKER_01]: In this moment, where they used to be thoughtless about and freeing, now they're aware of and anxious for it. 38:49.379 --> 38:51.940 [SPEAKER_01]: So they try to hide from God. 38:53.566 --> 39:01.110 [SPEAKER_01]: And what happens is, is when we're hiding from God, we're also hiding from each other and really hiding from ourselves. 39:02.191 --> 39:03.732 [SPEAKER_01]: And Shane will make us do that, won't it? 39:05.033 --> 39:06.994 [SPEAKER_01]: You ever say somebody hiding and playing daylight? 39:08.295 --> 39:11.817 [SPEAKER_01]: I think I can see it easy now, because I can see me and them. 39:14.058 --> 39:15.178 [SPEAKER_01]: How did they play daylight? 39:16.039 --> 39:20.602 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, somebody hiding and playing daylight behind a fake smile, right? 39:21.660 --> 39:22.801 [SPEAKER_01]: You smile, good morning. 39:22.921 --> 39:23.941 [SPEAKER_01]: Thanks, ma'am. 39:23.961 --> 39:24.862 [SPEAKER_01]: They hurt it as well. 39:28.264 --> 39:29.025 [SPEAKER_01]: Good morning. 39:29.145 --> 39:29.965 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, God, it's good. 39:29.985 --> 39:30.706 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm blessing on it. 39:30.786 --> 39:32.167 [SPEAKER_00]: If we don't do it, it's just so wonderful. 39:32.207 --> 39:32.807 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just school. 39:33.407 --> 39:38.571 [SPEAKER_01]: And you like, I just say, good morning, I just, I really did. 39:41.532 --> 39:46.876 [SPEAKER_01]: Cause we have a hug, big smiles, and we have a hug, religious words. 39:48.822 --> 39:55.265 [SPEAKER_01]: because I can say the right thing, don't mean I feel that when I'm saying it's true, I'm just throwing this up so you won't see my shame. 39:56.946 --> 40:00.287 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, I'm not saying we have our gifts and abilities. 40:00.868 --> 40:01.208 [SPEAKER_00]: I got it. 40:02.748 --> 40:11.412 [SPEAKER_01]: Had you ever wondered, how can somebody who was so gifted and skilled in one area of daylight, the other area of daylight be completely tall of? 40:13.714 --> 40:16.535 [SPEAKER_01]: We have our own, what we're good at. 40:19.254 --> 40:30.404 [SPEAKER_01]: We have a hard will we excel at, because oil and ability is effortless to be well and healthy, has be cultivated. 40:32.226 --> 40:45.338 [SPEAKER_01]: So I run from cultivating intimacy, so I can do what I'm good at, then I measure myself who it, by the output of what I'm good at, not realize that abilities and intimacy is not the same thing. 40:49.295 --> 40:50.536 [SPEAKER_01]: So God don't want us to hide. 40:51.938 --> 40:52.919 [SPEAKER_01]: He's saying, have you come to me? 40:53.179 --> 40:53.920 [SPEAKER_01]: I'll tell you what I'm gonna do. 40:53.940 --> 40:55.281 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna renew the possibility. 40:55.341 --> 40:58.224 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna redeem the possibility for you to be close again. 40:58.425 --> 40:59.486 [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm gonna show you how I'm gonna do it. 40:59.946 --> 41:01.628 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not gonna expect you to do it for you. 41:01.788 --> 41:02.529 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna do it for you. 41:03.710 --> 41:04.891 [SPEAKER_01]: They come out from hiding. 41:05.912 --> 41:06.993 [SPEAKER_01]: They got leaves on. 41:08.575 --> 41:09.436 [SPEAKER_01]: Have a good day, my good job. 41:18.530 --> 41:25.132 [SPEAKER_01]: The Father tells the Spirit, the Spirit tells them, look at him, oh, Jesus, they don't worry about him. 41:25.152 --> 41:26.653 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to come and die for him a little bit. 41:26.673 --> 41:27.513 [SPEAKER_01]: They down bad. 41:30.294 --> 41:33.495 [SPEAKER_01]: Before my son come and die for you, I'm going to give you a picture of how I'm going to cover you. 41:33.555 --> 41:36.836 [SPEAKER_01]: This is how I'm going to redeem your capacity for intimacy. 41:37.436 --> 41:41.537 [SPEAKER_01]: Because you don't even know the leap you just use to cover you is already dead. 41:42.918 --> 41:44.118 [SPEAKER_01]: It's going to turn around in a week. 41:47.555 --> 41:50.436 [SPEAKER_01]: You're gonna wake up more than what you use to cover you is gonna be in the shambles. 41:50.456 --> 41:51.536 [SPEAKER_01]: You have to go get them to leave. 41:51.916 --> 41:52.816 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't worry about it. 41:55.177 --> 41:57.697 [SPEAKER_01]: Let me sacrifice an animal for you. 41:59.358 --> 42:02.998 [SPEAKER_01]: He makes no agarment of animal skins where you think he got a scan from. 42:03.198 --> 42:06.359 [SPEAKER_01]: An animal, where he had to do to an animal, sacrifice it. 42:06.379 --> 42:07.799 [SPEAKER_01]: The first sacrifice was an eating. 42:08.920 --> 42:10.180 [SPEAKER_01]: God kills an animal. 42:11.425 --> 42:21.111 [SPEAKER_01]: God takes the blood from that animal, and takes the skin from that animal, and makes them tailor-made, he the leather outfits. 42:21.572 --> 42:21.972 [SPEAKER_00]: I got it. 42:24.394 --> 42:25.755 [SPEAKER_01]: So it's possibly a cow. 42:31.658 --> 42:34.120 [SPEAKER_01]: It could have been a lamb, we know that Jesus is the lamb of God. 42:34.140 --> 42:35.741 [SPEAKER_01]: The Bible tells us where animal it is. 42:36.262 --> 42:38.443 [SPEAKER_01]: So it's okay to have an imagination about what it could be. 42:39.344 --> 42:43.165 [SPEAKER_01]: But they walk out in Taylor May and match her. 42:43.205 --> 42:45.125 [SPEAKER_01]: But they walk out in Taylor May and match her. 42:45.145 --> 42:48.326 [SPEAKER_01]: But they walk out in Taylor May and match her. 42:48.346 --> 42:51.487 [SPEAKER_01]: But they walk out in Taylor May and match her. 42:51.507 --> 42:52.887 [SPEAKER_01]: Because God said, oh, my kill to animal. 42:53.487 --> 42:56.968 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to make sure the garment fits you and covers everything you don't want to say. 42:59.469 --> 43:01.669 [SPEAKER_01]: Because your measurements is different and her measurements. 43:02.509 --> 43:05.070 [SPEAKER_01]: But I got enough coverage for whatever you'll measure me is. 43:10.178 --> 43:18.247 [SPEAKER_01]: He covers their shine, now they can be close again, now they can experience the intimacy again. 43:19.462 --> 43:24.106 [SPEAKER_01]: If it's something that you're like, you hired him from, I want to challenge you to bring it to the Lord at him cover. 43:24.146 --> 43:24.767 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's a major key. 43:25.047 --> 43:28.050 [SPEAKER_01]: God covers our shame and makes intimacy possible again. 43:28.070 --> 43:40.422 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, often says in this way, one of the most common reasons that believers make struggle with enjoyment of sex is the sense of guilt that arises from immoral sexual activity in their paths. 43:43.661 --> 43:46.943 [SPEAKER_01]: And that a moral sex or activity could be something we did. 43:46.983 --> 43:48.424 [SPEAKER_01]: It could be something that was done to us. 43:49.304 --> 43:51.206 [SPEAKER_01]: It could be something that happened to somebody else. 43:51.406 --> 43:52.166 [SPEAKER_01]: And we were around. 43:53.327 --> 43:57.570 [SPEAKER_01]: I think it's a trick of the enemy that when we was in the world, we had fun having sex. 43:57.590 --> 43:59.671 [SPEAKER_01]: Then when you get to say, you only need an enjoyable? 44:00.451 --> 44:03.093 [SPEAKER_01]: That is not the will of God concerning you. 44:06.470 --> 44:11.453 [SPEAKER_01]: He's not going to have the most fun outside of the will of God and not have as much fun inside of the will of God. 44:11.673 --> 44:14.235 [SPEAKER_01]: In sex it's not the only way to have fun, y'all get what I'm saying. 44:15.135 --> 44:24.721 [SPEAKER_01]: But we're not going to let what we did outside of the will of God cause a shame that we can't have thought this freedom and joy, now that I know the Lord, right? 44:25.261 --> 44:27.002 [SPEAKER_01]: So here were days of possibility and intimacy. 44:27.222 --> 44:27.882 [SPEAKER_01]: How does he do that? 44:28.103 --> 44:29.663 [SPEAKER_01]: By helping us find safety in God. 44:31.224 --> 44:31.945 [SPEAKER_01]: God is safe. 44:33.928 --> 44:39.250 [SPEAKER_01]: And I need you to hear me say that, because if you struggle intimacy, it's probably because you struggle with safety. 44:40.871 --> 44:45.073 [SPEAKER_01]: If you don't trust enough to be close, it's probably because you don't feel safe enough to be close. 44:46.053 --> 44:47.294 [SPEAKER_01]: The has to start with God. 44:47.694 --> 44:53.976 [SPEAKER_01]: God is safe, and God, the Charles Stanley said, that the safest place for you and me is in the center of the will of God. 44:57.198 --> 45:02.560 [SPEAKER_01]: But not just safety and God, so Trinity would self, that works so Trinity means peace. 45:04.135 --> 45:05.055 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's a major key. 45:05.756 --> 45:10.478 [SPEAKER_01]: You must first enjoy peace in yourself. 45:12.179 --> 45:15.801 [SPEAKER_01]: Before you can share a piece of yourself. 45:20.123 --> 45:24.585 [SPEAKER_01]: You must first enjoy peace in yourself. 45:25.366 --> 45:27.467 [SPEAKER_01]: Before you can share a piece. 45:34.540 --> 45:39.144 [SPEAKER_01]: And that don't just about a marriage that applies to every area of life. 45:39.364 --> 45:45.349 [SPEAKER_01]: Before you can have a brother and a friend, brothers that you trust, you've got to have PC yourself. 45:46.830 --> 45:50.313 [SPEAKER_01]: Sisters, before you have a sister and a friend that you can trust, you've got to have PC yourself. 45:51.794 --> 45:56.057 [SPEAKER_01]: Before you can give yourself away as a leader, a CEO, a boss, you've got to have PC yourself. 45:58.059 --> 45:58.860 [SPEAKER_01]: And before you can 45:59.967 --> 46:05.270 [SPEAKER_01]: enjoy holy matrimony, you got to have peace in yourself before you give away a peace of yourself. 46:06.711 --> 46:09.693 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's the third thing, security around others. 46:10.854 --> 46:13.436 [SPEAKER_01]: See, we were dating the potential and possibility for intimacy. 46:13.996 --> 46:15.457 [SPEAKER_01]: First, I find safety in God. 46:16.237 --> 46:18.099 [SPEAKER_01]: Then I have serenity in myself. 46:18.419 --> 46:23.282 [SPEAKER_01]: And what I realize is, if I'm not close to God and if I'm not close to me, I'm not no good to anybody else anyway. 46:24.524 --> 46:30.767 [SPEAKER_01]: But when I'm curious, establish, regardless of what happens to me on this earth, I'm safe in God's hands. 46:32.148 --> 46:43.234 [SPEAKER_01]: Then when I have peace in myself, I have nothing to do with my roles, responsibilities, or any other outside in influence, now I don't just have security with others. 46:43.694 --> 46:45.515 [SPEAKER_01]: I bring security to others. 46:47.558 --> 46:48.259 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's a magic key. 46:48.459 --> 46:53.763 [SPEAKER_01]: The security you want to find in your marriage, you must first bring to your marriage. 46:55.364 --> 46:58.827 [SPEAKER_01]: Say, Ralph, if you're insecure, marriage is not going to fix that. 47:02.330 --> 47:05.272 [SPEAKER_01]: You've got a brain security to the marriage. 47:05.993 --> 47:10.096 [SPEAKER_01]: And you've got to get that from the peace you've got in yourself, from the safety you have in God. 47:11.597 --> 47:17.022 [SPEAKER_01]: If you come into a relationship seeking security from a relationship, you will not find it. 47:18.489 --> 47:25.011 [SPEAKER_01]: You're going to be mad at your friend, you're going to be mad at your spouse, you're going to be mad at whoever else you're relating to, that they are not God. 47:26.492 --> 47:32.373 [SPEAKER_01]: When you bring that security into a relationship, and I'm telling you, if you're going to be married, you've got to be secure. 47:33.954 --> 47:43.057 [SPEAKER_01]: Because if you just got a spouse who would oppose, don't let them be good at something. 47:44.838 --> 47:47.379 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't let them, don't let them, don't let them have a good outfit. 47:47.399 --> 47:48.300 [SPEAKER_01]: They look good in it. 47:50.641 --> 47:52.722 [SPEAKER_01]: Your insecureness is going to be all exposed. 47:56.224 --> 47:57.385 [SPEAKER_01]: So secure to be mine. 47:57.425 --> 47:58.645 [SPEAKER_01]: Here are my questions that I'm going to be done. 47:59.106 --> 48:01.167 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, I got to ask for the marry people. 48:01.187 --> 48:07.510 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to just look this way while I ask you because I don't want nobody to think I'm talking to them. 48:09.031 --> 48:10.472 [SPEAKER_01]: Here's the ask for all the marry people. 48:17.323 --> 48:22.868 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm just over here, just asking, all right, here's the ax for the American people. 48:22.888 --> 48:24.290 [SPEAKER_01]: This is based on the Bible, right? 48:24.590 --> 48:30.596 [SPEAKER_01]: Genesis chapter two, can you be fully naked around your spouse? 48:33.318 --> 48:36.882 [SPEAKER_01]: Who said it, had it to read the Jesus? 48:38.303 --> 48:39.845 [SPEAKER_01]: Let me get it out, Blacks, you, let me get it out. 48:46.106 --> 48:53.570 [SPEAKER_01]: Alright, here's the question, can you be fully naked around your spouse without shame? 48:54.170 --> 48:54.751 [UNKNOWN]: That's the book? 48:55.071 --> 48:55.911 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the book. 48:58.213 --> 48:58.953 [SPEAKER_01]: That's the question. 49:01.895 --> 49:03.256 [SPEAKER_01]: And if you cannot not, why not? 49:05.297 --> 49:06.818 [SPEAKER_01]: Who's comparing somebody to who? 49:08.479 --> 49:10.500 [SPEAKER_01]: Where's that shame that's keeping you from that freedom? 49:13.938 --> 49:17.380 [SPEAKER_01]: All right, here's the acts with those who desire to be married. 49:19.021 --> 49:25.564 [SPEAKER_01]: Are you seeking for marriage to cover you in the way only Jesus can cover you? 49:28.646 --> 49:31.307 [SPEAKER_01]: Marriage is not the leather outfit that's gonna cover your shame. 49:34.229 --> 49:36.810 [SPEAKER_01]: Because the person you hold the hands with need they shame covered too. 49:36.970 --> 49:37.350 [SPEAKER_01]: Wow. 49:39.639 --> 49:42.200 [SPEAKER_01]: They both need a God to cover them each. 49:43.100 --> 49:44.081 [SPEAKER_01]: Y'all picking up what I'm putting down? 49:44.661 --> 49:47.242 [SPEAKER_01]: All right, here's an action item for everybody. 49:47.942 --> 49:49.763 [SPEAKER_01]: Come back next week for the six army. 49:52.544 --> 49:54.445 [SPEAKER_01]: Give a load of heck up a praise if you can.