WEBVTT 00:02.413 --> 00:03.554 [SPEAKER_00]: Christian parenting. 00:04.556 --> 00:06.618 [SPEAKER_00]: You had high hopes that this was the year. 00:07.179 --> 00:12.966 [SPEAKER_00]: It was going to be the year that all throughout the entire homeschool year, you were going to be excited about homeschooling. 00:13.287 --> 00:16.831 [SPEAKER_00]: You were not going to use the keyword, you know, the quit word. 00:17.852 --> 00:21.397 [SPEAKER_00]: You combined your rose-colored glasses with lots of planning. 00:21.637 --> 00:24.158 [SPEAKER_00]: You have ideals of how your days are going to be. 00:24.178 --> 00:26.640 [SPEAKER_00]: You have a routine and a rhythm figured out. 00:26.940 --> 00:30.122 [SPEAKER_00]: You chose great books to read together and curriculum. 00:30.882 --> 00:34.985 [SPEAKER_00]: And you're at the point now and you're saying, I just want to throw in the towel. 00:35.245 --> 00:39.087 [SPEAKER_00]: Hold up because I don't think that you really feel that way. 00:40.287 --> 00:42.468 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Little By Little Home School Podcast. 00:42.628 --> 00:47.411 [SPEAKER_00]: I am your host, Lee Nguyen, and I'm really blessed that you are here to listen to these episodes. 00:47.972 --> 00:51.794 [SPEAKER_00]: Today specifically, but all of the episodes, you can scroll back as you can see. 00:51.814 --> 00:54.195 [SPEAKER_00]: There are a lot of episodes and a lot of topics. 00:54.235 --> 01:01.080 [SPEAKER_00]: So enjoy, listen while maybe you are taking a walk or you're cleaning the dishes or you are folding the laundry. 01:01.220 --> 01:06.463 [SPEAKER_00]: But let's get into what you should do when you want to quit homeschooling again. 01:07.962 --> 01:08.302 [SPEAKER_00]: first. 01:08.983 --> 01:11.647 [SPEAKER_00]: You have to stop talking about quitting. 01:12.548 --> 01:15.411 [SPEAKER_00]: Stop saying to yourself, I want to quit homeschooling. 01:15.832 --> 01:18.535 [SPEAKER_00]: Stop saying to your husband, I want to quit homeschooling. 01:18.775 --> 01:22.220 [SPEAKER_00]: Stop talking about quitting homeschooling around your children. 01:22.800 --> 01:26.285 [SPEAKER_00]: Stop telling your friends that you want to quit homeschooling. 01:26.665 --> 01:35.508 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I'm not saying to continue with the thoughts of quitting homeschooling and then just keeping that secretive and keeping it to yourself and just having those thoughts in your head. 01:35.908 --> 01:37.369 [SPEAKER_00]: No, that's not what I'm saying. 01:37.509 --> 01:44.352 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's get to the root of it so that that keyword, that quit word, does not even come into your mind. 01:44.452 --> 01:47.593 [SPEAKER_00]: And if it does, you take that thought captive. 01:48.373 --> 01:49.514 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not the boss of you. 01:49.755 --> 01:51.116 [SPEAKER_00]: It does not dictate your day. 01:51.276 --> 02:06.391 [SPEAKER_00]: It does not dictate your mood, because I really do believe that the way that you're speaking to yourself, the way that you are talking about homeschooling and feeling down about it, and then it coming out in your words, is going to directly affect your actions. 02:07.032 --> 02:09.695 [SPEAKER_00]: And oftentimes, if we are not really into something, 02:10.055 --> 02:13.076 [SPEAKER_00]: we aren't going to put our whole selves into it. 02:13.676 --> 02:23.280 [SPEAKER_00]: So to throw out another gym example for you, if I go to the gym in the morning and I am not feeling it and I let my mind take control, I'm going to do lower weights. 02:23.660 --> 02:26.181 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to even though I know, I physically I can do a higher weight. 02:26.581 --> 02:27.981 [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't feel like it. 02:28.221 --> 02:29.802 [SPEAKER_00]: I said something to my son one time about that. 02:29.822 --> 02:30.822 [SPEAKER_00]: He's like, what are you talking about? 02:30.882 --> 02:31.823 [SPEAKER_00]: He's like, you don't. 02:32.603 --> 02:34.784 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't matter how you feel, you just go and do it. 02:34.804 --> 02:37.065 [SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, yeah, that's the difference between men and women. 02:37.445 --> 02:39.566 [SPEAKER_00]: We have to really battle with our minds. 02:39.706 --> 02:42.428 [SPEAKER_00]: And that also applies to homeschool. 02:42.488 --> 02:44.709 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to read to you from the Bible. 02:44.729 --> 02:47.130 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to read to you Luke 645. 02:47.170 --> 02:48.350 [SPEAKER_00]: But this is the end of the verse. 02:48.370 --> 02:51.212 [SPEAKER_00]: This is Jesus speaking and he is... 02:52.212 --> 03:03.079 [SPEAKER_00]: Not very happy with what is going on and he is talking to the Pharisees and at the end of Luke 645, he says, for out of the abundance of the heart, his mouth speaks. 03:03.599 --> 03:05.560 [SPEAKER_00]: Now that applies to us, that applies to me too. 03:06.461 --> 03:10.863 [SPEAKER_00]: What is going on in my heart and what is going on in my mind is going to come out of my mouth. 03:11.264 --> 03:16.747 [SPEAKER_00]: And I think that us as women, we have a very, it's very easy for us to then just say things. 03:16.787 --> 03:17.647 [SPEAKER_00]: We talk a lot, right? 03:18.028 --> 03:19.328 [SPEAKER_00]: It's been scientifically proven. 03:19.368 --> 03:20.629 [SPEAKER_00]: The amount of words that the 03:21.990 --> 03:24.691 [SPEAKER_00]: needs to get out in a day versus the typical man. 03:24.711 --> 03:32.093 [SPEAKER_00]: We have a lot of things and oftentimes we say things that we haven't quite thought through and we haven't quite thought of the ramifications. 03:32.513 --> 03:37.854 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you are talking about how you don't like homeschool, you have a dismal attitude about it. 03:38.114 --> 03:42.615 [SPEAKER_00]: You're talking about quitting homeschool to your kids that is going to directly affect you. 03:42.675 --> 03:45.116 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to tell you I'm going to just shoot it straight to you right here. 03:45.136 --> 03:46.096 [SPEAKER_00]: You have to stop doing that. 03:46.276 --> 03:53.005 [SPEAKER_00]: If you are having trouble in an area, you're having a trouble managing your emotions, your kids are not the people to process that with. 03:53.366 --> 03:58.553 [SPEAKER_00]: So, for example, if you're having an struggles in your marriage, do you go and talk to your kids about that? 03:58.813 --> 04:00.996 [SPEAKER_00]: No, obviously, that's kind of obvious, right? 04:01.436 --> 04:02.898 [SPEAKER_00]: But when it comes to homeschool, 04:03.559 --> 04:11.303 [SPEAKER_00]: If you are disparaging about homeschool and you're complaining about it to your kids or around your kids, it's going to affect their attitude towards it. 04:11.724 --> 04:16.606 [SPEAKER_00]: And then we get into like that tumbleweed right through the west and the dry dry days of summer. 04:16.886 --> 04:23.210 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just as picking up stuff and it's maybe grabbing some more sticks and it's just getting bigger and bigger because in it's kind of like 04:24.111 --> 04:25.372 [SPEAKER_00]: Where did this even begin? 04:26.373 --> 04:26.934 [SPEAKER_00]: What came first? 04:26.954 --> 04:27.755 [SPEAKER_00]: The chicken or the egg? 04:28.175 --> 04:32.921 [SPEAKER_00]: Was it their bad attitudes or their negativity about home school or was it yours? 04:33.081 --> 04:33.922 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't matter though. 04:34.542 --> 04:35.684 [SPEAKER_00]: This is the point we are at. 04:35.764 --> 04:39.348 [SPEAKER_00]: So the first thing that if you are finding yourself talking negatively about home school, 04:39.868 --> 04:50.951 [SPEAKER_00]: Two or around your kids, you have to stop, like put the brakes on immediately and bite your tongue, catch yourself when you start to say that, apologize to them for the way that you've been talking about it, and then make that change. 04:51.031 --> 04:54.691 [SPEAKER_00]: But change in your behavior doesn't just start in your behavior. 04:55.192 --> 05:01.493 [SPEAKER_00]: It starts in how you're thinking about it and what you are putting into your mind into your heart. 05:02.173 --> 05:05.076 [SPEAKER_00]: And in these verses, it's basically the same thing, your mind, your heart. 05:05.336 --> 05:08.439 [SPEAKER_00]: So your mouth is going to speak what is in your heart. 05:08.479 --> 05:10.100 [SPEAKER_00]: So therefore, let's get to your heart. 05:10.901 --> 05:14.865 [SPEAKER_00]: First thing I would mention under that is to think differently about homeschool. 05:15.906 --> 05:21.671 [SPEAKER_00]: You need to renew your mind daily as a woman of God, as a wife, as a mother. 05:22.011 --> 05:24.492 [SPEAKER_00]: not just a homeschool mom, but just motherhood in general. 05:24.532 --> 05:45.637 [SPEAKER_00]: Be intentional about your praying and your confession to God, about your attitude, about how you're thinking about homeschool, and about how you're struggling, and specifically the areas just lay it all out, you're ready nose, surrender those areas, surrender the highs, surrender the lows, surrender it all, when it comes to homeschool, obviously you're whole life, but when it comes to homeschool, 05:46.217 --> 05:47.979 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not a part that we leave God out of. 05:48.159 --> 05:56.929 [SPEAKER_00]: He needs to be in it at very deep in it and you get to choose is he's deep into it Am I allowing God to shape my heart in this as well? 05:57.649 --> 06:04.957 [SPEAKER_00]: Because there is a lot of sanctification that can happen to the homeschool mom during the homeschool years if 06:05.495 --> 06:28.758 [SPEAKER_00]: You are the same mom when you start homeschooling as you are at the end, I mean, obviously you are still say your name is Sarah Smith you are still Sarah Smith from the first day of homeschooling to the end it is still you the same body it is I mean you're looked different we're going to age but if you're way of living you're if you haven't grown in wisdom if you haven't grown in stature haven't grown in patients and in kindness and then 06:29.518 --> 06:33.402 [SPEAKER_00]: And just in so many ways, you missed the plot when it came to homeschool. 06:33.902 --> 06:34.443 [SPEAKER_00]: You missed it. 06:34.743 --> 06:35.844 [SPEAKER_00]: You completely missed it. 06:36.304 --> 06:41.409 [SPEAKER_00]: You should complete your homeschool of very different women than when you began. 06:42.390 --> 06:43.851 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is a really good thing. 06:44.091 --> 06:44.672 [SPEAKER_00]: But guess what? 06:44.812 --> 06:45.192 [SPEAKER_00]: It hurts. 06:45.253 --> 06:45.733 [SPEAKER_00]: It's hard. 06:46.133 --> 07:00.690 [SPEAKER_00]: And this episode right here as hopefully maybe we're confronting some of that where you're confronting that desire to quit and saying, okay, this desire to quit might not actually be real, it's just me wanting to throw in the towel because I don't want to do this hard work. 07:00.990 --> 07:04.853 [SPEAKER_00]: The heart work then it comes to you and the heart work that comes to your kids. 07:05.213 --> 07:10.858 [SPEAKER_00]: There is so much when it comes to homeschool and you're confronted with it day after day with them. 07:11.298 --> 07:20.626 [SPEAKER_00]: And they're bad attitudes in the constant, come back to the table, come back here, let's do this, let's do that in the lots of the wrangling and all of those things I understand it's hard. 07:20.746 --> 07:27.131 [SPEAKER_00]: It really is hard and it's okay to name those things as hard, but it's what you do after that that really counts. 07:28.192 --> 07:31.935 [SPEAKER_00]: There is so much heart work, but God called you to this homeschool. 07:32.316 --> 07:35.458 [SPEAKER_00]: Therefore, He is not going to leave you alone in it, right? 07:35.538 --> 07:37.500 [SPEAKER_00]: Confess surrender, give it to Him. 07:37.800 --> 07:41.463 [SPEAKER_00]: Allow Him to work through your homeschool and watch how it can change. 07:41.523 --> 07:44.366 [SPEAKER_00]: Is it going to be a flip like in one day? 07:44.946 --> 07:50.411 [SPEAKER_00]: Probably not because we as humans don't typically make a sudden change or a sudden shift like that. 07:50.731 --> 07:56.156 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's not always super obvious, but you can say, yes, this is day one of me changing my attitude. 07:57.076 --> 07:59.358 [SPEAKER_00]: And either might be a setback day 30. 07:59.458 --> 08:00.860 [SPEAKER_00]: There might be a setback, but that's okay. 08:01.200 --> 08:02.881 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not like you're starting over at day one. 08:03.262 --> 08:03.522 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. 08:03.702 --> 08:04.523 [SPEAKER_00]: All right, day 30. 08:04.543 --> 08:05.283 [SPEAKER_00]: That was a rough day. 08:05.744 --> 08:08.066 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to do what I need to do to be able to patch things up. 08:08.106 --> 08:10.348 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to apologize to my kids. 08:10.488 --> 08:14.732 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to surrender it to God again and we are going to day 31. 08:15.152 --> 08:16.413 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to get things back going. 08:16.493 --> 08:17.714 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to get back on the horse. 08:17.874 --> 08:18.154 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. 08:19.195 --> 08:24.080 [SPEAKER_00]: Second thing here is I want you to talk through your options realistically. 08:25.273 --> 08:27.876 [SPEAKER_00]: actually sit down and say, okay, I want to quit homeschool. 08:28.377 --> 08:30.579 [SPEAKER_00]: What does that look like for my family? 08:30.980 --> 08:33.482 [SPEAKER_00]: What does that look for me like for me as my as the mom? 08:33.803 --> 08:34.804 [SPEAKER_00]: What does it look for my husband? 08:34.884 --> 08:40.130 [SPEAKER_00]: What does it look for my children and not the children just as a whole for each child that you have? 08:41.411 --> 08:53.160 [SPEAKER_00]: To be honest, this is what really got me when I sat down and realized what our experience would actually be if I decided to quit homeschooling has like, that's not what I want from my family. 08:54.021 --> 08:55.081 [SPEAKER_00]: So guess what? 08:56.182 --> 09:20.607 [SPEAKER_00]: I gotta keep doing it now the most common option if you say I want to quit home school your most common option is for your kids to go into public school yes you could do private school and maybe you're like oh I don't want this is talking about like straight up quitting homeschool this isn't talking about okay I need to find something else from type of hybrid or maybe a co-op that's a that's a different podcast episode okay go back and look and make sure there's some 09:26.028 --> 09:31.373 [SPEAKER_00]: In this day and age, your children are required to attend some type of educational school. 09:31.733 --> 09:34.895 [SPEAKER_00]: There is compulsory ages that they have to attend school. 09:35.356 --> 09:39.099 [SPEAKER_00]: Therefore, if you're not going to homeschool, there has to be another option. 09:39.119 --> 09:40.580 [SPEAKER_00]: They have to be doing something, right? 09:40.600 --> 09:41.901 [SPEAKER_00]: They have to be in some type of school. 09:42.361 --> 09:46.845 [SPEAKER_00]: And most of us then, the other option, because maybe finances don't dictate it. 09:46.865 --> 09:49.007 [SPEAKER_00]: There isn't an option of a private school or anything. 09:49.467 --> 09:54.049 [SPEAKER_00]: But even if you do a private school, the model is still the same for the education. 09:54.109 --> 09:55.789 [SPEAKER_00]: So the most common option is public school. 09:56.429 --> 10:03.572 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want you, if you are seriously thinking about home schooling, I want you to go and talk to some parents of kids that are in public school. 10:04.392 --> 10:09.634 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to tell you that right now, you're going to hear about some of the difficulties in some of the challenges that they face. 10:10.354 --> 10:12.715 [SPEAKER_00]: It is possibly some different challenges. 10:12.775 --> 10:15.176 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, they might be like, oh, it's so challenging at the end of the day. 10:15.516 --> 10:16.577 [SPEAKER_00]: We have homework to do with them. 10:16.597 --> 10:17.577 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't want to do the homework. 10:17.957 --> 10:19.678 [SPEAKER_00]: And you might think, oh, well, yeah. 10:19.758 --> 10:21.599 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm kind of getting that with homeschool, but guess what? 10:21.639 --> 10:22.659 [SPEAKER_00]: There isn't advantage. 10:22.959 --> 10:28.461 [SPEAKER_00]: You actually were there and have either whether you gave the lessons, say the math lesson, to them. 10:28.501 --> 10:29.842 [SPEAKER_00]: You presented the math lesson, to them. 10:30.222 --> 10:34.906 [SPEAKER_00]: or you have access to the math lesson that maybe they watched in a video or that they read through. 10:34.986 --> 10:40.209 [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever it is, you actually have a leg up on that because you can see what exactly that they were taught. 10:40.530 --> 10:43.492 [SPEAKER_00]: You were there, so you can easily find out. 10:44.232 --> 10:47.955 [SPEAKER_00]: Whereas the parent who has a child in the school, they weren't there for that math lesson. 10:47.975 --> 10:52.158 [SPEAKER_00]: They had to figure out plus you know what they're doing math a way differently than they used to do it. 10:52.699 --> 10:58.183 [SPEAKER_00]: But you'll still hear from parents whose kids go to public or private school that there's still some difficulties. 10:58.963 --> 11:08.507 [SPEAKER_00]: And basically, if you decide, okay, I am going to quit homeschooling, I'm going to put my kids into public school, you are just trading one set of problems for another set of problems. 11:08.567 --> 11:10.788 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I'm going to put problems in air quotes, okay? 11:10.808 --> 11:13.329 [SPEAKER_00]: Because it's kids aren't a problem. 11:13.689 --> 11:14.989 [SPEAKER_00]: There's challenges or difficulty. 11:15.009 --> 11:16.110 [SPEAKER_00]: So maybe I should use one of those words. 11:16.150 --> 11:20.672 [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going to use problems anyway, just because I think it really kind of owns it on the point. 11:20.752 --> 11:24.013 [SPEAKER_00]: You are just trading one set of problems for another set of problems. 11:24.213 --> 11:25.774 [SPEAKER_00]: And is that what you want? 11:26.654 --> 11:28.775 [SPEAKER_00]: Literally ask yourself, is this what I want? 11:29.116 --> 11:32.958 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to trade name the problems the in-air quotes the problems you are experiencing. 11:33.618 --> 11:37.901 [SPEAKER_00]: Then take a look at what are the problems that your children will experience in public school. 11:38.885 --> 11:43.707 [SPEAKER_00]: and I want you to, like I said earlier, to think about each one of your children. 11:44.627 --> 11:46.468 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe like me, you have three kids. 11:47.028 --> 11:54.731 [SPEAKER_00]: And if I wanted to quit home school, I would sit and I would say, okay, this child, what is it going to look like for them in school? 11:54.771 --> 11:57.232 [SPEAKER_00]: How are they going to do educationally? 11:57.272 --> 11:58.292 [SPEAKER_00]: How are they going to do socially? 11:58.712 --> 11:59.693 [SPEAKER_00]: Then move on to the next one. 12:00.173 --> 12:01.213 [SPEAKER_00]: And move on to the next one. 12:01.533 --> 12:02.934 [SPEAKER_00]: And you might start to realize, 12:03.894 --> 12:04.635 [SPEAKER_00]: Wow, okay. 12:04.915 --> 12:08.217 [SPEAKER_00]: Some of them, all of them, or one of them, might not thrive. 12:08.257 --> 12:08.797 [SPEAKER_00]: They might too. 12:09.197 --> 12:11.499 [SPEAKER_00]: They might really be the downfall of them. 12:12.299 --> 12:14.361 [SPEAKER_00]: And then you have to weigh the pros and the cons. 12:15.001 --> 12:16.062 [SPEAKER_00]: And you, but guess what? 12:16.422 --> 12:17.142 [SPEAKER_00]: You get to decide. 12:17.603 --> 12:22.606 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I'm not going to tell you that you can't put up quit homeschooling, but I'm going to encourage you not to quit homeschooling. 12:23.386 --> 12:23.807 [SPEAKER_00]: Because 12:24.847 --> 12:31.215 [SPEAKER_00]: Just because, as my friend Abby Halberstatt says, just because it is hard, it does not mean that it is bad. 12:31.576 --> 12:33.418 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, you're going to be trading one set of problems. 12:33.838 --> 12:39.746 [SPEAKER_00]: One set of difficulties, one kind of schedule and routine and way of living for a different one. 12:40.995 --> 12:59.630 [SPEAKER_00]: Hard situations can produce goodness if you let it going back to what my friend Abby says hard does not is not equal I just have that literally written my notes hard does not equal bad and she writes that as well you are training hearts hearts that are bent towards sin and so is yours. 13:00.290 --> 13:03.693 [SPEAKER_00]: your children, your husband, you, we are bent towards sin. 13:04.213 --> 13:05.334 [SPEAKER_00]: We live in a sin for world. 13:05.414 --> 13:07.075 [SPEAKER_00]: We are bent towards that. 13:07.415 --> 13:09.297 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is what we are up against with our kids. 13:09.337 --> 13:16.362 [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes I can feel so overwhelming when it's one of us and two of them, three of them, four of them. 13:16.402 --> 13:22.686 [SPEAKER_00]: Even if it's one on one, it's just as it can be at some seasons of life and in some kids, a constant pushback. 13:23.647 --> 13:31.890 [SPEAKER_00]: I experienced that, and I'm going to tell you it's not fun, but we weren't promised fun in motherhood, where we, we weren't promised much. 13:32.350 --> 13:37.692 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if there's many, there's promises in the Bible that talk about if you're just keep at it. 13:37.892 --> 13:43.814 [SPEAKER_00]: There are promises for the other side and there, the guarantees, not necessarily, there aren't formulas or anything, but I'm going to tell you. 13:44.514 --> 13:55.767 [SPEAKER_00]: I have one thing on it and don't hear in just a moment that really is hopefully going to steal the deal for you, but just remember that hard is not equal bad, and I'm going to say this and I've said this before in other podcast episodes. 13:56.167 --> 14:03.695 [SPEAKER_00]: If you are having a bad homeschool day, a hard homeschool day, based with a lot of challenges, a lot of difficulties, do not quit. 14:04.596 --> 14:05.177 [SPEAKER_00]: in that day. 14:05.737 --> 14:08.779 [SPEAKER_00]: Do not quit when things are not going well. 14:08.839 --> 14:15.544 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's my goal here is to help you to reorient and say, yes, you're maybe just having a bad day, bad week, bad month, bad season. 14:16.612 --> 14:26.715 [SPEAKER_00]: But maybe, honestly, sometimes, I've talked to many homeschool moms, and they, and I'm like, that's not, I'm sorry to say this, but that's not really that bad. 14:27.175 --> 14:27.855 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just hard. 14:28.115 --> 14:30.616 [SPEAKER_00]: You're just going through hardness, and that's what motherhood is. 14:30.656 --> 14:31.976 [SPEAKER_00]: There is a lot of hardness. 14:32.397 --> 14:34.257 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm on the other side of homeschooling right now. 14:34.577 --> 14:39.359 [SPEAKER_00]: So my kids are all 18 and above, and does that mean it's gotten easier in some ways, yes? 14:39.899 --> 14:41.379 [SPEAKER_00]: But have the stakes gotten higher? 14:41.459 --> 14:42.940 [SPEAKER_00]: Have they gone way up? 14:43.400 --> 14:43.660 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes? 14:44.100 --> 14:47.603 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's, I don't mean to be too dramatic, but sometimes it's like a life or death. 14:47.623 --> 14:50.746 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, they're out driving and they're out in the world. 14:50.806 --> 14:53.508 [SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of situations that they've encountered. 14:53.528 --> 14:57.052 [SPEAKER_00]: And I hear about, and boy, sometimes I'm like, oh my goodness, okay. 14:57.804 --> 15:05.810 [SPEAKER_00]: Just, you know, mere like near accidents or an actual something that happens and I'm just like, thank you God for protecting him that could have been so much worse. 15:06.630 --> 15:12.635 [SPEAKER_00]: So just because I'm done and over with it doesn't mean that parenting doesn't have its challenges. 15:12.815 --> 15:14.756 [SPEAKER_00]: It really does and it's just going to continue. 15:14.776 --> 15:15.817 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't mean that in a bad way. 15:15.837 --> 15:19.339 [SPEAKER_00]: You just know that right now this, these are the challenges that you're facing right now. 15:20.260 --> 15:25.164 [SPEAKER_00]: So I want you to go back to your why for homeschooling and I want you to go back often. 15:25.444 --> 15:27.125 [SPEAKER_00]: You might need to do this every single day. 15:27.806 --> 15:35.772 [SPEAKER_00]: If you are feeling good about homeschool, I always encourage you at the beginning of the homeschool year and then halfway through the home school year, maybe during your Christmas break, to go ahead and take a look at your why. 15:36.593 --> 15:40.458 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you are struggling, look at your why every single day. 15:40.818 --> 15:44.362 [SPEAKER_00]: If you haven't written down your why, at the end of this episode, I want you to go and do that. 15:44.983 --> 15:49.068 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you're like, I don't, I don't know how to actually pull that out of myself. 15:49.188 --> 15:52.893 [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to do that together in your homesville blueprint, and you can do that as joined that as well. 15:53.754 --> 15:57.018 [SPEAKER_00]: But I want you to look at homeschool and the big picture. 15:57.839 --> 15:59.400 [SPEAKER_00]: What are you trying to accomplish here? 15:59.601 --> 16:05.908 [SPEAKER_00]: What do you hope to be able to say and to see in your family and your children when you're all done? 16:06.528 --> 16:08.190 [SPEAKER_00]: Because I didn't believe that was ever going to happen. 16:08.210 --> 16:09.071 [SPEAKER_00]: And suddenly here I am. 16:09.171 --> 16:11.414 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, oh, okay, it does happen. 16:11.774 --> 16:14.537 [SPEAKER_00]: Time sure does fly by the older the kids get. 16:15.538 --> 16:24.065 [SPEAKER_00]: and I can look back and say, okay, I'm glad I kept that big picture of what do I want the experiences and the time that we have as a family and the education for my kids. 16:24.405 --> 16:26.047 [SPEAKER_00]: What is the big picture that I'm looking at? 16:26.067 --> 16:27.728 [SPEAKER_00]: So go back to your why often. 16:28.809 --> 16:35.935 [SPEAKER_00]: I want to close out here and I want you to ask your future self, what you would want yourself today to do? 16:37.416 --> 16:39.279 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so I want you to think about your future self. 16:39.639 --> 16:45.847 [SPEAKER_00]: Yours may be, let's just say four years into homeschooling and you have another maybe eight to go. 16:46.568 --> 16:53.116 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, you say to yourself, what does myself in eight more years which that I would do right now at year four? 16:53.536 --> 16:54.538 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I want you to do that. 16:54.918 --> 17:00.940 [SPEAKER_00]: And if yourself in a year says, oh, man, I sure do wish that I had quit homeschooling, then go ahead and quit homeschooling. 17:01.220 --> 17:02.000 [SPEAKER_00]: I give you permission. 17:02.520 --> 17:12.123 [SPEAKER_00]: But if yourself in a year says, I am glad that I pushed through, I'm glad that I stuck with it because of the experiences in the time and how I was able to form relationship with my kids and 17:12.743 --> 17:20.225 [SPEAKER_00]: to be able to share the gospel with them every day and us to grow in sanctification and me to be there to be on the front lines of raising them. 17:20.765 --> 17:21.365 [SPEAKER_00]: Then guess what? 17:21.385 --> 17:22.606 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to quit homeschooling. 17:23.046 --> 17:25.246 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to put your head down and you're going to do the thing. 17:25.626 --> 17:26.607 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to do it today. 17:26.687 --> 17:27.607 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to do it tomorrow. 17:27.647 --> 17:28.887 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to do it the next day. 17:28.947 --> 17:33.468 [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't mean just like a, I have to do this in a, in a dreary kind of way. 17:33.808 --> 17:35.569 [SPEAKER_00]: Put your heart into it. 17:36.529 --> 17:54.548 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to put some episodes in the show notes for you that I want you to listen to after this as well to help flesh out a little bit more this to add a little bit more meat to the bones, but please don't quit homeschooling on a bad day and then ask yourself, what does my future self wish for me to do right now today? 17:55.973 --> 18:01.894 [SPEAKER_00]: And as a mom who's at the end of that homeschooling journey, I am so glad that I pushed through. 18:02.334 --> 18:07.736 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so glad that the options that possibly I wished for when it came to quitting weren't better. 18:08.836 --> 18:15.137 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad that I sat down and really looked at it and said to myself, what does my future self wish that I would do right now? 18:15.278 --> 18:16.498 [SPEAKER_00]: And I want you to go and do that. 18:16.878 --> 18:23.940 [SPEAKER_00]: If you need some help, you need some guidance, you need some direction, you want to write down your why, you want to have a vision statement, and you really want to flesh things out, 18:26.320 --> 18:29.121 [SPEAKER_00]: of scheduling your days and specifically morning time. 18:29.141 --> 18:35.942 [SPEAKER_00]: There's an entire episode, this is an episode, a entire lesson about morning time in your home school blueprint. 18:36.082 --> 18:37.582 [SPEAKER_00]: I really do want to rally around you. 18:37.602 --> 18:48.485 [SPEAKER_00]: You can get more information at littlebylittlehomeschool.com slash blueprint, but even if you don't go ahead and join that, I think you have some good information here today to release it down and to think and to analyze it. 18:48.525 --> 18:54.506 [SPEAKER_00]: And I pray that it blesses you and hopefully, helps change a little bit of the trajectory of your home school. 18:54.906 --> 18:56.287 [SPEAKER_00]: you are doing a good thing. 18:56.667 --> 19:08.453 [SPEAKER_00]: And if I can talk to you, if you want to pretend that I'm your future self, your future self is saying, you actually are probably doing a lot better than you think you are, and you will not regret continuing to homeschool. 19:08.553 --> 19:11.054 [SPEAKER_00]: This is a really good decision for you and your family. 19:11.694 --> 19:19.359 [SPEAKER_00]: One, that is going to have ripple effects within you and your children is going to have ripple effects within future generations, but guess what? 19:19.639 --> 19:29.546 [SPEAKER_00]: Your kids are going to have ripple effects as they go out as they form relationships in the community and church and jobs and all the things and they go and branch out and form their own families. 19:29.746 --> 19:31.587 [SPEAKER_00]: I can tell you that it is 100% worth it.