WEBVTT 00:01.202 --> 00:17.035 [SPEAKER_01]: I ask Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'ala that just as He has gathered us here today on the day of Jamala, May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'ala gather us along with our families, in jented for those that are in the companionship of RasulAllah, Allah wa'ala wa'ala, and His Sahaba, Amin, yarabara'ala, Amin. 00:18.536 --> 00:25.522 [SPEAKER_01]: Brothers and sisters, a few weeks ago I stood here on this very same member and I talked 00:31.641 --> 00:37.046 [SPEAKER_01]: You know, we see our kids and the way in the direction that we see our kids going in. 00:37.727 --> 00:42.071 [SPEAKER_01]: And many times, we ask ourselves, how did our children become like this? 00:43.052 --> 00:46.335 [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes they will come to the Sheikh saying, my kids need broccoli, yeah. 00:46.956 --> 00:48.137 [SPEAKER_01]: Your kids don't need broccoli, yeah. 00:48.477 --> 00:49.738 [SPEAKER_01]: Your kids need proper therapy, yeah. 00:50.339 --> 00:50.959 [SPEAKER_01]: That's what they need. 00:51.660 --> 00:56.383 [SPEAKER_01]: And what's important to understand is that we are so obsessed. 00:57.143 --> 00:59.285 [SPEAKER_01]: My kids need to learn how to read the Qur'an. 01:00.005 --> 01:06.449 [SPEAKER_01]: I've had parents come to me and tell me, my child's only three years old, when do I start teaching them the Arabic alphabet? 01:06.749 --> 01:09.531 [SPEAKER_01]: When do I start teaching them how to read the Qur'an in Arabic? 01:10.191 --> 01:15.255 [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes we want our kids to know the five pillars of Islam or the six articles of faith. 01:16.015 --> 01:21.559 [SPEAKER_01]: But brothers and sisters, I'm stressing upon this because this is where we are lacking. 01:21.979 --> 01:26.402 [SPEAKER_01]: We are not teaching our kids the basic adab of life. 01:26.922 --> 01:29.684 [SPEAKER_01]: What are our etiquettes of life? 01:30.105 --> 01:31.686 [SPEAKER_01]: How do you behave at home? 01:31.966 --> 01:33.627 [SPEAKER_01]: How do you behave in society? 01:33.907 --> 01:36.689 [SPEAKER_01]: How do you behave when you go to someone else's house? 01:37.009 --> 01:38.490 [SPEAKER_01]: How do you behave with your parents? 01:38.730 --> 01:40.312 [SPEAKER_01]: How do you behave with your siblings? 01:40.892 --> 01:42.593 [SPEAKER_01]: We are lacking etiquettes. 01:43.033 --> 01:44.835 [SPEAKER_01]: We are lacking mannerisms. 01:45.495 --> 01:51.821 [SPEAKER_01]: These are two things that even today when you go out in society, these are two things that are being lost. 01:52.502 --> 01:57.206 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't see people being so generous, so they're exhibiting etiquettes. 01:57.586 --> 01:59.188 [SPEAKER_01]: And how many there are a lot of people? 01:59.268 --> 01:59.908 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't give me wrong. 01:59.928 --> 02:01.610 [SPEAKER_01]: There are a lot of people in this society. 02:02.211 --> 02:05.474 [SPEAKER_01]: Muslim and non-Muslim alike who are very good to each other. 02:05.934 --> 02:09.778 [SPEAKER_01]: But there are a lot of people also that we see, that the morals 02:10.278 --> 02:16.219 [SPEAKER_01]: The mannerisms in society are dipping every single year and every single day for that matter. 02:16.619 --> 02:31.003 [SPEAKER_01]: So that is why, brothers and sisters, we need to understand that before the aspects of EMA come into the picture, before we teach our kids Islam, before we teach them anything, we have to teach them Adab Nakhlock. 02:31.903 --> 02:33.623 [SPEAKER_01]: I saw a child here the other day. 02:34.343 --> 02:36.264 [SPEAKER_01]: He was causing problems in the back of the mosque. 02:37.825 --> 02:43.571 [SPEAKER_01]: There was one other kid with him, and his mother comes in the back, and his mother is telling him that what you're doing is wrong. 02:44.212 --> 02:53.842 [SPEAKER_01]: This kid did not even have the simple decency to show his own mother, respect, he's laughing in front of his mother, he's walking away laughing as if he has not done anything wrong. 02:54.543 --> 02:55.884 [SPEAKER_01]: This is a lack of adab. 02:56.385 --> 02:57.766 [SPEAKER_01]: This is a lack of a chloc. 02:58.813 --> 03:05.440 [SPEAKER_01]: all on the other hand, just two days ago, here in the back, in this back room, I saw two kids doing Sautala-ishah. 03:06.041 --> 03:08.444 [SPEAKER_01]: Doing Sautala-ishah, they are standing behind. 03:08.504 --> 03:14.911 [SPEAKER_01]: This is the third Rekai, by the way, not the beginning of Sallat, or before the Sallat starts, mid-Sallat, third Rekai. 03:15.251 --> 03:15.832 [SPEAKER_01]: I come in. 03:16.112 --> 03:18.574 [SPEAKER_01]: I see two kids standing behind the white board. 03:18.894 --> 03:19.915 [SPEAKER_01]: There's a white board in the back. 03:20.235 --> 03:22.857 [SPEAKER_01]: They're standing behind the white board while Salat is going on. 03:23.298 --> 03:24.239 [SPEAKER_01]: So I looked up both of them. 03:24.259 --> 03:25.940 [SPEAKER_01]: I said, why don't you engage in Salat? 03:26.480 --> 03:29.163 [SPEAKER_01]: And both of them, one of them got in Salat right away. 03:29.203 --> 03:31.564 [SPEAKER_01]: The other one, he's looking back over and over again. 03:32.005 --> 03:32.665 [SPEAKER_01]: Is the Imam look at me? 03:32.845 --> 03:34.347 [SPEAKER_01]: Is the Imam look at me? 03:34.687 --> 03:35.908 [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, why are you worried about me? 03:36.188 --> 03:37.830 [SPEAKER_01]: Look at you have to pray Salat? 03:38.510 --> 03:43.736 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, these kids sometimes, they're not even taught the basics, that what is the purpose of the Mujid? 03:44.157 --> 03:50.284 [SPEAKER_01]: The Mujid you come to the Mujid, the name Mujid means, a place where you worship, a place where you make such that. 03:50.585 --> 03:54.890 [SPEAKER_01]: Yet some of these kids are coming to the Mujid and they're not even praying at the Mujid. 03:55.291 --> 03:57.874 [SPEAKER_01]: That's like going to library and even reading a book. 03:59.038 --> 04:01.600 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, where is, where is our adabinah lap? 04:02.080 --> 04:06.924 [SPEAKER_01]: Parents, you cannot just leave your children and go away thinking that your kids are gibbering out of his salam. 04:07.204 --> 04:08.265 [SPEAKER_01]: Your kids are gonna pray. 04:08.525 --> 04:09.926 [SPEAKER_01]: No, you have to be there. 04:10.226 --> 04:12.268 [SPEAKER_01]: That is your job as a parent. 04:12.828 --> 04:22.435 [SPEAKER_01]: One of the key reasons a lot give you children and one of the key reasons why Allah has given the status to a parent is because they teach their kids. 04:22.915 --> 04:25.437 [SPEAKER_01]: You cannot expect the society to teach your kids. 04:25.838 --> 04:26.978 [SPEAKER_01]: You as a father. 04:27.839 --> 04:30.822 [SPEAKER_01]: You as a mother, you need to teach your kids. 04:31.703 --> 04:37.971 [SPEAKER_01]: And that also includes that you have to make sure that who they're hanging around with, that's also important. 04:38.311 --> 04:41.314 [SPEAKER_01]: Now usually you're gonna have parents say what, but my kids, they need friends. 04:41.895 --> 04:44.278 [SPEAKER_01]: Otherwise they're gonna grow, you know, friendless. 04:44.578 --> 04:45.699 [SPEAKER_01]: They're not gonna have any friends. 04:46.480 --> 04:47.180 [SPEAKER_01]: That's fine. 04:47.861 --> 05:06.471 [SPEAKER_01]: But I rather have, instead of having 100 friends, I rather have two, three friends, or I rather have my kids to be friends with only two, three people, but those who have a clock, those who have a dub, those who have respect, those who have mannerisms, those who understand etiquettes, I would rather make my kids to be friends with those kids. 05:07.011 --> 05:10.533 [SPEAKER_01]: Even if it's two or three, because we are not teaching them right. 05:11.113 --> 05:14.515 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, that is not the point in my, the topic of today's hotbaugh. 05:14.995 --> 05:30.568 [SPEAKER_01]: Today's Hogba is about something else that we are not teaching our kids, which goes back to the basic fundamental teachings that we got to teach our kids, and that is the importance of higher and modesty. 05:31.412 --> 05:37.977 [SPEAKER_01]: Brothers and sisters, the Prophet ﷺ he's made it very clear, al-Hayah umin al-Iman. 05:38.558 --> 05:47.485 [SPEAKER_01]: If you say you are a Muslim, if you say that I'm a believer in Allah, then modesty comes with being a believer in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. 05:47.805 --> 05:56.292 [SPEAKER_01]: As the Prophet ﷺ says another Hadith, Wal-Hayah, oh short-betumy al-Iman, Hayah in modesty is part of who you are as a Muslim. 05:56.632 --> 05:59.154 [SPEAKER_01]: These two things cannot be separated. 05:59.494 --> 06:01.095 [SPEAKER_01]: Hayat also means life. 06:01.496 --> 06:08.501 [SPEAKER_01]: Meaning that the only way you can have meaning to your life is if you apply Hayat in your life. 06:09.101 --> 06:13.465 [SPEAKER_01]: And that is why in another Hadith, the Prophet ﷺ makes it very clear. 06:13.785 --> 06:18.408 [SPEAKER_01]: The on one hand, there is faith and faith and modesty go hand in hand. 06:18.829 --> 06:22.652 [SPEAKER_01]: But then why do we see people doing completely illicit? 06:23.272 --> 06:24.373 [SPEAKER_01]: things in society. 06:24.654 --> 06:29.119 [SPEAKER_01]: We see the immodesty, the immorality that is spreading in society. 06:29.580 --> 06:30.621 [SPEAKER_01]: And we see all this. 06:30.901 --> 06:34.405 [SPEAKER_01]: And once again, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ has also talked about that. 06:34.706 --> 06:42.675 [SPEAKER_01]: And he says in a Hadith, if you have no Hayah, then go do whatever you want. 06:43.336 --> 06:51.265 [SPEAKER_01]: You know when you see people doing absurd things, absolutely absurd things, you know why because they have no Hayah in modesty. 06:51.585 --> 06:58.513 [SPEAKER_01]: They have Hayah means shameless, I mean shamefulness, I mean they have to have shame in their life. 06:59.253 --> 07:04.936 [SPEAKER_01]: We live in a society that is considered as shameless and is getting worse every single year. 07:05.297 --> 07:11.981 [SPEAKER_01]: That is why brothers and sisters, when modesty disappears, when Hayah disappears, everything else collapses. 07:12.341 --> 07:13.661 [SPEAKER_01]: Family bonds are broken. 07:13.982 --> 07:22.767 [SPEAKER_01]: Respect between generations is lost and shamelessness becomes entertainment and sin becomes normalized in society. 07:23.087 --> 07:27.970 [SPEAKER_01]: And that is why Subhanallah, when you saw what happened during the last administration. 07:28.610 --> 07:32.912 [SPEAKER_01]: You saw people, there are people who belong to the LGBTQ community. 07:33.372 --> 07:41.796 [SPEAKER_01]: And we said this before that whatever they want to do, they can do it behind closed doors, but we saw how they were going into schools, indoctrinating children. 07:42.136 --> 07:46.418 [SPEAKER_01]: And not only that, but see, we see even our society when you go to gyms. 07:47.424 --> 07:49.625 [SPEAKER_01]: When you go to gyms, you go to the locker rooms. 07:49.685 --> 07:53.006 [SPEAKER_01]: You'll find many people who have no Hayah, who have no shame. 07:53.326 --> 07:54.966 [SPEAKER_01]: They're walking around naked at times. 07:55.386 --> 07:57.107 [SPEAKER_01]: This is the society, unfortunately, we live in. 07:57.147 --> 08:00.908 [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not saying every person does this, but there are people who do these kind of things. 08:01.088 --> 08:04.409 [SPEAKER_01]: I've seen these kind of things, and I'm like, hello, I'm not going to this gym again. 08:04.509 --> 08:04.949 [SPEAKER_01]: You understand? 08:05.249 --> 08:07.530 [SPEAKER_01]: Because I need to protect my faith. 08:07.930 --> 08:09.590 [SPEAKER_01]: I got to protect my E-man. 08:09.930 --> 08:12.211 [SPEAKER_01]: So this is the society that we live in. 08:12.311 --> 08:14.992 [SPEAKER_01]: And that is why the Prophet ﷺ, he says, and another Hadith. 08:15.432 --> 08:18.462 [SPEAKER_01]: Al-Hay'a'u l'ay'a'yat'i ill'a'bi'khay'din. 08:19.428 --> 08:22.270 [SPEAKER_01]: Modesty brings only in only good. 08:22.771 --> 08:25.413 [SPEAKER_01]: A person who is modest in the way they speak. 08:25.953 --> 08:28.295 [SPEAKER_01]: A person who's modest in the way they dress. 08:28.775 --> 08:34.240 [SPEAKER_01]: A person who's modest in the way they interact with others, this brings you only only good. 08:34.540 --> 08:36.201 [SPEAKER_01]: And that is why another Hadith. 08:36.481 --> 08:43.567 [SPEAKER_01]: Though this is a Dhaiv Hadith, but nonetheless it is a Hadith and Dhaiv Hadith and Moldu Hadith did not, they are not in the same category. 08:43.847 --> 08:46.089 [SPEAKER_01]: So we have to have some kind of understanding. 08:46.389 --> 09:01.582 [SPEAKER_01]: The Prophet ﷺ says in a Hadith, in Nalikul livi, in in Hulukah, that every single religion has a defining trait and the defining trait of Islam, of Muslims is that they observe higher in modesty and everything they do. 09:01.723 --> 09:10.650 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, when we talk about modesty, there's few things examples I want to give you, there are things that are taking place in our homes and once again, if you have known me, 09:11.680 --> 09:12.961 [SPEAKER_01]: I am very straightforward. 09:13.522 --> 09:15.444 [SPEAKER_01]: I don't sugarcoat things, you know what I'm saying? 09:15.804 --> 09:20.509 [SPEAKER_01]: So I'm going to be straightforward about these kind of things because these things are happening today in our families. 09:20.930 --> 09:27.957 [SPEAKER_01]: First of all is, when it comes to inside our homes, brothers listen to me very carefully when I say this, okay? 09:28.497 --> 09:30.439 [SPEAKER_01]: Brothers listen to me very carefully when I say this. 09:31.180 --> 09:33.382 [SPEAKER_01]: Your knee is part of your aura. 09:34.183 --> 09:36.305 [SPEAKER_01]: Your knee is part of your aura. 09:36.825 --> 09:42.070 [SPEAKER_01]: It bothers me when I see people coming here to the musjid and They're wearing shorts. 09:42.250 --> 09:56.562 [SPEAKER_01]: You can wear a short that goes below below your knees You can praise Salat in that as long as your knee is not exposed during the Salat But there are men who come here Muslim men who come here with such short shorts Their knee is exposed. 09:56.722 --> 10:01.847 [SPEAKER_01]: It does not matter whether you're playing basketball or doing whatever you want your knee is part of your aura 10:02.047 --> 10:07.949 [SPEAKER_01]: Brothers, listen to me and understand why I'm trying to say, you come here to the budget and you're not even dressed properly. 10:08.549 --> 10:11.390 [SPEAKER_01]: I understand you're just coming even to the basketball court. 10:11.410 --> 10:12.991 [SPEAKER_01]: You might not even come to the budget. 10:13.591 --> 10:15.152 [SPEAKER_01]: You come to just play basketball. 10:15.492 --> 10:17.653 [SPEAKER_01]: Still have some respect for the budget. 10:17.933 --> 10:24.455 [SPEAKER_01]: Have some respect for this building when you come in, wear some pants, brothers and sisters, parents. 10:25.015 --> 10:29.677 [SPEAKER_01]: I see so many of you sending your kids to Salat, Sunday school. 10:30.537 --> 10:35.391 [SPEAKER_01]: In short, you teach your kids from when they're young, what is right, and what is wrong. 10:35.631 --> 10:38.640 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, you don't want the basic argument, oh, you're too conservative. 10:39.538 --> 10:43.181 [SPEAKER_01]: or the other argument is, all these are small kids, okay? 10:43.642 --> 10:45.584 [SPEAKER_01]: There's small kids, let me tell you. 10:46.084 --> 10:47.706 [SPEAKER_01]: Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. 10:47.946 --> 10:49.407 [SPEAKER_01]: Because this is who we learn from. 10:49.868 --> 10:52.210 [SPEAKER_01]: The Prophet sallam, he saw his grandson. 10:52.791 --> 10:57.875 [SPEAKER_01]: There was some dates, as we all know, the Prophet sallam would never eat from donation. 10:58.276 --> 11:03.621 [SPEAKER_01]: He was allowed to eat if someone gave him a gift, but he was not allowed to consume anything that was given in Sadaqa. 11:04.061 --> 11:10.882 [SPEAKER_01]: He saw his grandson taking one date, just one, listen to me very carefully, one date, that's it. 11:11.302 --> 11:15.063 [SPEAKER_01]: Now today, if it was just one date, it's just one date, let it go. 11:15.583 --> 11:17.423 [SPEAKER_01]: Brother's was wrong with you, sister's was wrong with you. 11:17.643 --> 11:18.484 [SPEAKER_01]: It's just one date. 11:19.104 --> 11:23.425 [SPEAKER_01]: Brother's was also a law who had he was sent unwanted to set the standard straight. 11:24.165 --> 11:26.385 [SPEAKER_01]: Right is right, wrong is wrong. 11:27.165 --> 11:30.806 [SPEAKER_01]: He said he took that one date from his hand, even though he was a child. 11:31.659 --> 11:35.820 [SPEAKER_01]: he took that one day from his hand because he wanted to teach him what is right. 11:36.800 --> 11:40.001 [SPEAKER_01]: Today, if we were in that position, we would just let it go. 11:40.562 --> 11:44.363 [SPEAKER_01]: The problem is, the probably something's telling us, you don't let go of these kind of things. 11:45.103 --> 11:49.204 [SPEAKER_01]: It bothers me that how we're taking these things so lightly, why? 11:49.224 --> 11:49.964 [SPEAKER_01]: Because there are kids. 11:50.464 --> 11:52.045 [SPEAKER_01]: One thing you're gonna teach them when they grow up, 11:52.805 --> 11:55.726 [SPEAKER_01]: When you grow up, when they grow up, no, you teach them when they were kids. 11:56.126 --> 11:57.947 [SPEAKER_01]: That is your job as a parent. 11:58.287 --> 12:01.028 [SPEAKER_01]: Your job is to provide proper therapy. 12:01.348 --> 12:03.188 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't look at what your kids want. 12:03.448 --> 12:04.569 [SPEAKER_01]: You know what our kids want? 12:04.869 --> 12:06.129 [SPEAKER_01]: Our kids want complete freedom. 12:06.689 --> 12:08.870 [SPEAKER_01]: If you gave them the choice, do you want to go to school or not? 12:09.090 --> 12:10.030 [SPEAKER_01]: They don't want to go to school. 12:10.511 --> 12:12.071 [SPEAKER_01]: I'll tell you what they want in their life. 12:12.351 --> 12:16.893 [SPEAKER_01]: Give them Wi-Fi, give them a computer, or give them a gadget, give them food and bathroom. 12:17.053 --> 12:17.793 [SPEAKER_01]: They're set for life. 12:18.073 --> 12:19.153 [SPEAKER_01]: This is what our kids are. 12:19.553 --> 12:21.034 [SPEAKER_01]: If you gave them complete freedom, 12:21.454 --> 12:23.615 [SPEAKER_01]: We as parents, we have to make choices for them. 12:24.215 --> 12:26.096 [SPEAKER_01]: We have to make the right choices for them. 12:26.456 --> 12:29.797 [SPEAKER_01]: So that is why brothers and sisters, we have to set this standard straight. 12:30.057 --> 12:33.819 [SPEAKER_01]: That also means that brothers and sisters, we teach our kids. 12:34.870 --> 12:37.952 [SPEAKER_01]: that if you want to change, you don't change in front of each other. 12:38.632 --> 12:40.233 [SPEAKER_01]: You go into the bathroom and you change. 12:40.273 --> 12:41.094 [SPEAKER_01]: These are small things. 12:41.114 --> 12:42.735 [SPEAKER_01]: You might think, why is he talking about this? 12:43.035 --> 12:44.116 [SPEAKER_01]: These are big things. 12:44.556 --> 12:47.357 [SPEAKER_01]: Because these small habits, they turn into your part. 12:47.417 --> 12:48.638 [SPEAKER_01]: They become part of your nature. 12:49.058 --> 12:49.839 [SPEAKER_01]: We teach our kids. 12:49.859 --> 12:50.840 [SPEAKER_01]: You want to change your clothes? 12:50.960 --> 12:51.420 [SPEAKER_01]: Go with their. 12:51.840 --> 12:59.526 [SPEAKER_01]: If we have children and they're of the opposite gender, we have to teach them to dress properly, dress in a decent way. 12:59.926 --> 13:03.569 [SPEAKER_01]: A loss of Ahana, what Thala has declared that there's a certain aura of a woman. 13:03.789 --> 13:05.291 [SPEAKER_01]: There's a certain aura of a man. 13:05.571 --> 13:10.334 [SPEAKER_01]: We have to respect the things that a loss of Ahana, what Thala has declared as aura. 13:10.595 --> 13:15.078 [SPEAKER_01]: That means that even within our family, we have to be very punctual about these kind of things. 13:15.478 --> 13:19.722 [SPEAKER_01]: And so that is why brothers and sisters, please take this very, very seriously. 13:22.180 --> 13:28.945 [SPEAKER_01]: Even if you're at home alone, even if you are at home alone, does that give you the right to walk around with an enclosed? 13:29.525 --> 13:30.986 [SPEAKER_01]: I've heard people saying these kind of things. 13:31.827 --> 13:33.208 [SPEAKER_01]: What kind of dunya are we living in? 13:33.548 --> 13:34.609 [SPEAKER_01]: What does our dean taught us? 13:35.049 --> 13:37.511 [SPEAKER_01]: Even if there's no one there, the Malayika are there. 13:37.531 --> 13:39.653 [SPEAKER_01]: They're writing your deeds and so forth. 13:39.913 --> 13:40.954 [SPEAKER_01]: Have some respect for them. 13:41.094 --> 13:42.915 [SPEAKER_01]: Have some shame for them, you understand? 13:43.175 --> 13:48.039 [SPEAKER_01]: So that is why even if we're at home alone, we have to apply proper haya in modesty. 13:48.399 --> 13:52.502 [SPEAKER_01]: And that goes even for the sisters, sisters do not wear tight clothing inside. 13:52.542 --> 13:54.944 [SPEAKER_01]: There's something called Hayah and Modesty. 13:55.004 --> 13:58.767 [SPEAKER_01]: Please apply this because at the end of the day, we are human beings. 13:59.347 --> 14:04.511 [SPEAKER_01]: The Quran says that Allah has created human beings as his greatest creation. 14:05.932 --> 14:10.355 [SPEAKER_01]: Animals, animals on one hand, you don't see them wearing clothes. 14:11.445 --> 14:12.545 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't see them wearing clothes. 14:13.286 --> 14:17.347 [SPEAKER_01]: They would do things even if they made, they made an opening for everyone. 14:17.467 --> 14:18.307 [SPEAKER_01]: Because they're animals. 14:18.807 --> 14:19.687 [SPEAKER_01]: They have no Hayat. 14:19.747 --> 14:20.608 [SPEAKER_01]: They have no Shalom. 14:20.908 --> 14:21.988 [SPEAKER_01]: They have no modesty. 14:22.688 --> 14:25.349 [SPEAKER_01]: Human beings are the greatest creation of God. 14:25.549 --> 14:27.390 [SPEAKER_01]: Greatest creation of Allah, Subhanahu Wa'Ta'ala. 14:27.810 --> 14:32.711 [SPEAKER_01]: The difference between us and them is that we have Hayat and we're supposed to apply that Hayat in our life. 14:33.291 --> 14:39.293 [SPEAKER_01]: The second area where we need to apply Hayat is often what happens is, 14:40.547 --> 14:42.849 [SPEAKER_01]: The family gets together because they want to watch something. 14:42.909 --> 14:44.050 [SPEAKER_01]: They want to watch a movie or something. 14:44.811 --> 14:47.673 [SPEAKER_01]: And what happens is there's some kind of a scene that comes. 14:48.654 --> 14:50.716 [SPEAKER_01]: And we tell our kids, hide your eyes. 14:52.217 --> 14:55.500 [SPEAKER_01]: But the parents are Mashallah, Muhammad Haban. 14:56.420 --> 14:57.421 [SPEAKER_01]: They're looking at all this. 14:57.982 --> 15:02.906 [SPEAKER_01]: What are you teaching your kids when you tell your kids to hide your eyes, to close your eyes? 15:02.926 --> 15:03.587 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't look at this. 15:03.867 --> 15:06.369 [SPEAKER_01]: But you as a parent, mother and father, you're watching all this. 15:07.710 --> 15:08.571 [SPEAKER_01]: This is Hayah. 15:09.820 --> 15:11.241 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, the question is, where is the haya? 15:11.902 --> 15:14.524 [SPEAKER_01]: You're telling your kids, but you're doing something different. 15:14.844 --> 15:28.116 [SPEAKER_01]: When your kids know that you're watching all these kind of movies, mom and dad are watching different movies, different shows, that have complete indecency in them, but you tell your kids that don't do this. 15:28.216 --> 15:28.836 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't watch this. 15:28.856 --> 15:29.517 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't watch that. 15:29.997 --> 15:31.379 [SPEAKER_01]: You cannot be hypocritical. 15:32.059 --> 15:39.941 [SPEAKER_01]: If you're going to teach your kids not to watch this in decent things on television, then you have to understand that that same thing applies to YouTube rather than sisters. 15:40.261 --> 15:46.302 [SPEAKER_01]: And this is how, by the way, the entertainment industry understands that what works and what doesn't work. 15:46.622 --> 15:52.684 [SPEAKER_01]: They understand that the more shameless they have in their TV shows and in their movies, the more the movie was sell. 15:52.944 --> 15:55.044 [SPEAKER_01]: The more the TV show will be a hit, you're a son. 15:55.344 --> 16:00.206 [SPEAKER_01]: And when there is no love making in these kind of movies and these kind of TV shows, 16:02.246 --> 16:25.458 [SPEAKER_01]: We are living in that kind of society, yet we allow our kids to watch these kind of things and then we or We are we're watching them and we're telling our kids not to watch it But the insistence doesn't work like that if you really want to teach your kids Hiya because part of modesty is what you see also is what you see also That is why the Quran says to the men lower your gaze when you go outside 16:26.338 --> 16:27.259 [SPEAKER_01]: lower your gaze. 16:27.559 --> 16:29.622 [SPEAKER_01]: Do not look at things you're not supposed to be looking at. 16:29.902 --> 16:35.067 [SPEAKER_01]: So this is another area where we need to really put our foot down and we need to do proper therapy. 16:36.088 --> 16:45.118 [SPEAKER_01]: Another area that we need to apply higher is, often what it has been seen is that when two people get engaged, they think that they're married. 16:46.557 --> 16:51.701 [SPEAKER_01]: When two people get engaged, okay, or as we call it in our subcontinent language, okay? 16:52.301 --> 16:57.325 [SPEAKER_01]: When that happens, then they start holding hand, they start acting as if they are husband and wife. 16:58.145 --> 17:01.187 [SPEAKER_01]: Just because you're engaged, does not change your status. 17:01.788 --> 17:03.789 [SPEAKER_01]: Until the Aqdu Nika has not taken place. 17:04.470 --> 17:09.353 [SPEAKER_01]: People engage, they go here and there and they're acting as if they're married a couple. 17:10.014 --> 17:11.074 [SPEAKER_01]: You're not a married couple. 17:11.114 --> 17:13.916 [SPEAKER_01]: You're still considered as a non-mahalam to each other. 17:16.498 --> 17:22.000 [SPEAKER_01]: To any person who is considered as a non-mahram or an adjunabi or adjunabi, they apply to you. 17:22.420 --> 17:35.644 [SPEAKER_01]: That's why brothers and sisters, we have to be very careful, young brothers and young sisters, just because you get engaged, does not allow you, Shariah does not allow you to cross all the limits, just like you are living as a married couple. 17:36.504 --> 17:42.646 [SPEAKER_01]: Another thing I've seen, so Biharullah is, and this is something you will see many times in marriages. 17:45.170 --> 17:49.913 [SPEAKER_01]: You will see men in their 50s, 60s. 17:51.374 --> 17:52.555 [SPEAKER_01]: And they will see their daughter. 17:52.595 --> 17:57.659 [SPEAKER_01]: Their daughter is probably like 20, 21 years old or something like that, or somewhere in that same age range. 17:58.119 --> 17:59.320 [SPEAKER_01]: And they will have their friends. 17:59.480 --> 18:02.382 [SPEAKER_01]: So that you have the daughter, daughter brings her friends. 18:03.203 --> 18:06.845 [SPEAKER_01]: And Mashallah, the father comes and he's hugging all those girls. 18:08.427 --> 18:09.587 [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, these are like my daughters. 18:10.768 --> 18:12.870 [SPEAKER_01]: Does that mean that Allah has given you permission 18:16.270 --> 18:23.577 [SPEAKER_01]: Or you see sisters going and hugging, like 22, 25 year old boys, okay? 18:24.518 --> 18:27.101 [SPEAKER_01]: Where has a lot given you permission, sister, to do this? 18:27.982 --> 18:29.643 [SPEAKER_01]: This happens often, why? 18:30.064 --> 18:31.585 [SPEAKER_01]: Because they're the same age of my son. 18:31.845 --> 18:33.167 [SPEAKER_01]: They're the same age as my daughter. 18:33.527 --> 18:34.268 [SPEAKER_01]: That is going to happen. 18:34.308 --> 18:38.171 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't worry, and this is the problem that we have, too. 18:39.072 --> 18:42.295 [SPEAKER_01]: We have to understand, we are doing so many things wrong. 18:42.896 --> 18:45.258 [SPEAKER_01]: And we think that, don't worry, let it go. 18:45.519 --> 18:47.080 [SPEAKER_01]: Qul Lusha Yimshi, everything goes. 18:47.100 --> 18:47.921 [SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying? 18:48.281 --> 18:49.202 [SPEAKER_01]: That's not the way it works. 18:49.302 --> 18:52.546 [SPEAKER_01]: Allah has given us strict rules that we have to stick by. 18:52.606 --> 18:57.911 [SPEAKER_01]: And the reason why Allah gave us strict rules, because a person can say, all of the Qur'an has so many rules. 18:57.991 --> 19:01.294 [SPEAKER_01]: The reason why Allah gave us so many rules is to protect us. 19:02.175 --> 19:05.676 [SPEAKER_01]: When you cross all these boundaries, you see what's happening today in society. 19:06.397 --> 19:10.698 [SPEAKER_01]: Another area where Haya is abused is on social media. 19:11.939 --> 19:15.060 [SPEAKER_01]: Often you find people that go to places they're not supposed to be going. 19:15.740 --> 19:19.622 [SPEAKER_01]: Arden has taught us, you go to certain places, you don't go to certain places. 19:20.202 --> 19:28.445 [SPEAKER_01]: But even if you go to a place where you're not supposed to be, where the disobedience of Allah Subhanahu Wa'Tala is taking place, 19:29.252 --> 19:35.835 [SPEAKER_01]: When you go to these kind of places, then instead of keeping it to yourself, people go on social media and they start spreading it. 19:36.316 --> 19:37.556 [SPEAKER_01]: I went here, I went there. 19:37.956 --> 19:44.720 [SPEAKER_01]: The Prophet ﷺ says that every one of my Ummah will be forgiven except for those who flaunt their sins. 19:45.340 --> 19:47.082 [SPEAKER_01]: Brothers and sisters, this is flaunting your sin. 19:47.142 --> 19:49.925 [SPEAKER_01]: If you did something that was not right, you keep it to yourself. 19:50.326 --> 19:52.148 [SPEAKER_01]: You only need to show everyone how cool you are. 19:52.408 --> 19:54.531 [SPEAKER_01]: You only need to show everyone how open-minded you are. 19:54.751 --> 19:57.054 [SPEAKER_01]: You only show everyone how liberal you are and so forth. 19:57.294 --> 19:58.695 [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm just like you and so forth. 19:59.096 --> 20:00.057 [SPEAKER_01]: No, you don't need to do that. 20:00.437 --> 20:02.540 [SPEAKER_01]: If you did something that is wrong, keep it to yourself. 20:03.841 --> 20:04.983 [SPEAKER_01]: The last thing I will share is this. 20:06.805 --> 20:10.770 [SPEAKER_01]: We think that when it comes to modesty, is only an Islamic concept. 20:11.270 --> 20:11.951 [SPEAKER_01]: It is not only. 20:12.452 --> 20:16.136 [SPEAKER_01]: There are many even people of secular sciences who have written about this. 20:16.717 --> 20:19.860 [SPEAKER_01]: There's a book on Amazon, you can even find it is called the Return of Modesty. 20:19.881 --> 20:22.223 [SPEAKER_01]: It's written by Lady by the name of Wendy something. 20:23.258 --> 20:33.065 [SPEAKER_01]: But she even she wrote in her book, the importance of modesty, and she actually writes, she says that our culture has lost something very precious. 20:33.105 --> 20:37.869 [SPEAKER_01]: This is from her own book, the dignity and self-respect that comes with modesty. 20:37.909 --> 20:38.749 [SPEAKER_01]: This is what we have lost. 20:39.470 --> 20:41.912 [SPEAKER_01]: She then says that when modesty is mocked, 20:43.225 --> 20:48.711 [SPEAKER_01]: And when society loses its sense of boundaries, it's respect and it's moral compass. 20:49.172 --> 20:53.577 [SPEAKER_01]: This is what happens when we lose our morality, this is what happens when we lose modesty. 20:54.297 --> 20:59.924 [SPEAKER_01]: Allah SWT, if you look at the Qur'an, there's not a single place in the Qur'an where Allah says apply Hayat. 21:01.008 --> 21:07.074 [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, there are words such as in the Allah alayhi wa s-tahih, Allah is not shy from setting an example. 21:07.515 --> 21:13.060 [SPEAKER_01]: But if there's any, is there any place in the Quran where the word Hayat, modesty is mentioned in the Quran, the answer is no. 21:13.581 --> 21:14.882 [SPEAKER_01]: So does that mean it's not important? 21:15.282 --> 21:18.045 [SPEAKER_01]: I'll tell you why Allah did not mention Hayat in the Quran. 21:18.345 --> 21:20.047 [SPEAKER_01]: He did not mention modesty in the Quran. 21:20.527 --> 21:21.929 [SPEAKER_01]: It's because you and I, 21:22.389 --> 21:25.712 [SPEAKER_01]: When we were born, we were born with innate human nature. 21:26.292 --> 21:28.954 [SPEAKER_01]: Part of that nature is that we have high up. 21:29.554 --> 21:31.456 [SPEAKER_01]: Why do people become shameless? 21:31.976 --> 21:34.058 [SPEAKER_01]: Why do people start doing illicit things? 21:34.438 --> 21:36.259 [SPEAKER_01]: Why do people start doing wrong things? 21:36.619 --> 21:41.043 [SPEAKER_01]: It's because they become a byproduct of their society and their surrounding. 21:41.223 --> 21:42.724 [SPEAKER_01]: And their friendship and so forth. 21:43.104 --> 21:46.647 [SPEAKER_01]: Whoever they hang around with, whoever they are around, you will see that. 21:47.427 --> 21:49.708 [SPEAKER_01]: And this is what we have seen over and over again. 21:50.068 --> 21:52.570 [SPEAKER_01]: You see people, much a lot, they come from good families. 21:53.030 --> 21:57.032 [SPEAKER_01]: Everyone is good, everyone talks decent, everyone dresses decent. 21:57.072 --> 21:59.834 [SPEAKER_01]: You see those kind of kids who come from those kind of families. 22:00.094 --> 22:03.956 [SPEAKER_01]: And then you see families where they don't observe these kind of rules and etiquettes. 22:04.196 --> 22:06.757 [SPEAKER_01]: You see the families, you'll see the kids coming from that family. 22:07.297 --> 22:11.520 [SPEAKER_01]: Brothers and sisters, this is, by the way, if you go back to social art off. 22:12.300 --> 22:21.984 [SPEAKER_01]: So the out-of talks about a lot telling Iblis, a lot telling Shethan to make such that to prostrate to Adam Ali Hisselam, our father Adam Ali Hisselam. 22:22.584 --> 22:26.906 [SPEAKER_01]: And Iblis, he refused to make such that in front of Adam Ali Hisselam. 22:27.626 --> 22:29.808 [SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, we all know what happened. 22:30.289 --> 22:31.950 [SPEAKER_01]: But then what did Shethon do? 22:32.551 --> 22:36.074 [SPEAKER_01]: What did Shethon do in order to get even with Adam Ali Islam? 22:36.094 --> 22:37.596 [SPEAKER_01]: The Quran makes it very clear. 22:38.056 --> 22:39.157 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, Benny Adam. 22:39.197 --> 22:40.919 [SPEAKER_01]: This is Allah not just talking to Muslims. 22:40.939 --> 22:42.501 [SPEAKER_01]: He's talking to all the mankind. 22:42.961 --> 22:43.982 [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, Benny Adam. 22:44.282 --> 22:45.383 [SPEAKER_01]: O' Sands of Adam. 22:45.644 --> 22:46.524 [SPEAKER_01]: O' Sands of Adam. 22:47.285 --> 22:55.593 [SPEAKER_01]: Yabani Adama, pada Anzallana alaykum libasan yuari s-a-tikum wa risha wa libasut takawaiwa lika khayit. 22:55.954 --> 22:57.675 [SPEAKER_01]: First of all, his Allah gave us garments. 22:58.016 --> 23:06.024 [SPEAKER_01]: When our father Adama liyasam and his wife hawa liyasalam, when they were in general, when they were in paradise, Allah covered them. 23:06.564 --> 23:19.198 [SPEAKER_01]: There is one garment that you and I we wear, and then there is another garment that Allah says He has given us, which is called the garment of piety, the garment of this consciousness and this awareness of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. 23:19.639 --> 23:23.403 [SPEAKER_01]: But then in the next ayah Allah says something interesting, He says, yeah, bunny Adam. 23:23.743 --> 23:26.867 [SPEAKER_01]: Again, He's talking to all the mankind from beginning to end. 23:27.227 --> 23:31.691 [SPEAKER_01]: Yabani Adam, O son of Adam, la yftinannakumus shaytan. 23:32.152 --> 23:34.334 [SPEAKER_01]: Dunah, la shaytan deceive you. 23:34.814 --> 23:36.996 [SPEAKER_01]: Dunah, la shaytan tempt you. 23:37.477 --> 23:46.445 [SPEAKER_01]: La yftinannakumus shaytan, kama ahraja abawaykum miral jannati yanzi yuan huma, libasa huma, liyuriya huma, sautati huma. 23:46.725 --> 24:00.195 [SPEAKER_01]: He says that, do not let Shethon tempt you as he expeled your parents from Jenna and not only that but stripping away from them, they're covering, and because of that, their nakedness was exposed. 24:00.535 --> 24:03.918 [SPEAKER_01]: The Rulama, they say the scholars, they say that what this ayah means is, 24:04.338 --> 24:08.101 [SPEAKER_01]: the Shethon in order to get even with the son of Adam. 24:08.361 --> 24:16.346 [SPEAKER_01]: With all of us is that the only thing he does, the first thing that he does is he makes every society a shameless society. 24:16.646 --> 24:18.047 [SPEAKER_01]: Because he understands. 24:18.828 --> 24:24.892 [SPEAKER_01]: Shethon understands, the more a society is shameless, the more a society does not have haya. 24:25.172 --> 24:29.055 [SPEAKER_01]: It does not have modesty, then their moral compass will be shot. 24:29.495 --> 24:31.296 [SPEAKER_01]: They have no morals anymore. 24:31.556 --> 24:35.058 [SPEAKER_01]: And when you don't have any morals, will lie you have nothing left in society. 24:35.338 --> 24:38.820 [SPEAKER_01]: When you look at the society, every day there's something that is coming on in the news. 24:39.140 --> 24:43.163 [SPEAKER_01]: Everything we see, what's happening on our society, what's happening in this country and so forth? 24:43.403 --> 24:45.044 [SPEAKER_01]: And you wonder where this is all coming from? 24:45.364 --> 24:47.285 [SPEAKER_01]: It's coming when people don't have Hayah. 24:47.525 --> 24:49.746 [SPEAKER_01]: They don't have the simple modesty of life. 24:50.086 --> 24:51.547 [SPEAKER_01]: This is why where we are today. 24:51.827 --> 24:53.908 [SPEAKER_01]: And this is all because of Shethon. 24:54.269 --> 24:56.150 [SPEAKER_01]: We should not let Shethon succeed. 24:56.490 --> 24:58.351 [SPEAKER_01]: We need to teach our kids a double. 24:58.571 --> 25:03.355 [SPEAKER_01]: teacher, kids, achlop, and teacher, kids, had to apply Hayat in their life. 25:03.615 --> 25:10.861 [SPEAKER_01]: Brothers and sisters, take it light as much as you want, but we're lawy, if you don't teach your kids this, you have no one to blame in the future. 25:11.181 --> 25:13.964 [SPEAKER_01]: Don't come to the Sheikh and the Imam and say, my kizni rukhliya. 25:14.544 --> 25:15.485 [SPEAKER_01]: No, they don't need Rukia. 25:15.565 --> 25:17.167 [SPEAKER_01]: You should have done a better job in Turbia. 25:17.228 --> 25:18.149 [SPEAKER_01]: That's what you should have done. 25:18.489 --> 25:20.712 [SPEAKER_01]: May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'ala protect our kids. 25:20.972 --> 25:24.477 [SPEAKER_01]: May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'ala give us ability to apply Hayah in our life. 25:24.857 --> 25:25.698 [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, what do I mean? 25:26.099 --> 25:28.862 [SPEAKER_01]: So just to quickly recap the importance of modesty. 25:29.762 --> 25:48.114 [SPEAKER_01]: As a professor of law audio, some of you have said, we teach modesty to our kids when it comes to dressing, that goes also for the parents, applying high in our homes, applying high in when we're watching things, such as media or entertainment, teaching our kids boundaries from a very young age, respect the limits of engagement. 25:48.454 --> 25:55.999 [SPEAKER_01]: This is something important, as I said earlier, but when people get engaged with each other for marriage purposes, avoid inappropriate physical interaction. 25:56.039 --> 25:57.380 [SPEAKER_01]: This is something that our dean has taught us. 25:57.820 --> 25:59.883 [SPEAKER_01]: and stop flaunting your sins in public. 25:59.943 --> 26:05.971 [SPEAKER_01]: These are all aspects of Hayah, and there's many other aspects of Hayah, and that is why I ask Allah to Bahāna wa Ta'ala. 26:06.310 --> 26:08.591 [SPEAKER_01]: that he grants a stop law. 26:08.931 --> 26:10.652 [SPEAKER_01]: He protects our upcoming generations. 26:10.672 --> 26:12.613 [SPEAKER_01]: May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Tala protect our kids. 26:12.933 --> 26:15.154 [SPEAKER_01]: May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Tala protect our upcoming generations. 26:15.515 --> 26:18.136 [SPEAKER_01]: We don't know how the upcoming generations are going to unfold. 26:18.476 --> 26:26.820 [SPEAKER_01]: The things are going to be taking place, but we ask Allah Azza wa Jalla, that no matter what the situation is, may Allah protect our generations and our kids going forward, I mean what I mean. 26:27.220 --> 26:31.582 [SPEAKER_01]: The last thing I quickly want to mention, something that was mentioned earlier before 26:34.310 --> 26:44.913 [SPEAKER_01]: before the whole bus started, is that as you have seen, many of you have seen, as you're coming to the budget, there are some, there are people from, you know, from the Christian faith, sending outside. 26:45.853 --> 26:49.535 [SPEAKER_01]: And first of all, is that we need to understand as Muslims, this is something that's part of our dean. 26:50.155 --> 26:54.636 [SPEAKER_01]: That we are not just, we're not rude, we're not disrespectful, we don't make a mockery. 26:55.076 --> 26:57.157 [SPEAKER_01]: You have to treat people with dignity and respect. 26:57.977 --> 27:09.392 [SPEAKER_01]: But along with that, I'm requesting all of you, especially our young brothers, or much of our young brothers, who are overzealous and dawa and so forth, to take a workshop and dawa and now they think that they're dawa warriors, you know? 27:09.832 --> 27:13.237 [SPEAKER_01]: So those kind of young brothers and so forth, or even other brothers. 27:14.806 --> 27:16.848 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need to engage with them, okay? 27:16.968 --> 27:18.108 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need to engage with them. 27:18.689 --> 27:21.571 [SPEAKER_01]: If they give you something to read, you don't have to take it, okay? 27:21.991 --> 27:23.132 [SPEAKER_01]: And you should not be taking it. 27:23.772 --> 27:26.615 [SPEAKER_01]: And especially there are a lot of brothers who want to go and engage with them. 27:27.135 --> 27:30.758 [SPEAKER_01]: If you don't know your own dean first, how can you give that what someone else? 27:31.558 --> 27:36.242 [SPEAKER_01]: You think that you can give that what to them and they're probably will take their Shahada and so forth. 27:36.823 --> 27:39.185 [SPEAKER_01]: They're not coming here to listen to what you have to say. 27:39.645 --> 27:41.587 [SPEAKER_01]: They're coming here to tell you what they think of us. 27:41.807 --> 27:42.248 [SPEAKER_01]: You understand? 27:42.648 --> 27:45.671 [SPEAKER_01]: That's why there's just really no point of engaging with them. 27:46.151 --> 27:47.052 [SPEAKER_01]: And let's be smart. 27:47.292 --> 27:51.016 [SPEAKER_01]: We have told them in the past that if you want to come and talk to us about religion, 27:51.436 --> 28:03.203 [SPEAKER_01]: We've asked them to come inside the budget in a dignified way, talk about it, instead of standing on the corner of the street with a loud speaker, and just causing disruption and, you know, heckling other people who are coming around. 28:03.523 --> 28:03.943 [SPEAKER_01]: You understand? 28:04.363 --> 28:08.586 [SPEAKER_01]: The thing is we've told them to come inside and talk to us, but they did not want to come inside and talk to us. 28:09.186 --> 28:19.472 [SPEAKER_01]: Now, we're going to be gentle, we're going to be compassionate, in the sense that we are not going to be rude, disrespectful, we're not going to make a mockery, but at the same time, you don't need to stop and give Dawa. 28:20.112 --> 28:21.173 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need to be engaging. 28:21.553 --> 28:23.374 [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need to be taking any kind of material. 28:23.735 --> 28:24.535 [SPEAKER_01]: Make dua for them. 28:24.575 --> 28:27.057 [SPEAKER_01]: If there's really anything that you want to do, make dua for them. 28:27.157 --> 28:28.278 [SPEAKER_01]: You're in a sense. 28:28.498 --> 28:34.202 [SPEAKER_01]: And once again, to our young brothers, if you want to learn how to give Dawah, you want to give Dawah first learn your own dean. 28:34.662 --> 28:36.804 [SPEAKER_01]: You have to be in this process for for many years. 28:37.264 --> 28:41.027 [SPEAKER_01]: Inshallah one day comes, you can give Dawah, but now is not the right time inshallah. 28:41.267 --> 28:43.529 [SPEAKER_01]: May Allah Subhanahu alaikum alaikum alaikum alaikum alaikum alaikum alaikum alaikum.