[SPEAKER_00]: We live in a world where we do not always receive and proportion to what we give.
[SPEAKER_00]: Could excessive generosity even put our very life at risk?
[SPEAKER_00]: Prepare to be surprised by the hidden, negative effects that unchecked kindness can bring.
[SPEAKER_00]: Today, I will show you five realities that unfold when you are too good.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever ended up emotionally drained after giving your all to others?
[SPEAKER_00]: Only to realize that no one's stopped to ask how you were doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you said yes when deep down you wanted to scream no?
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you felt that your patience was met within difference your empathy treated as an obligation?
[SPEAKER_00]: And your kindness mistaken for weakness?
[SPEAKER_00]: Brother, if you have ever experienced this, you are not alone.
[SPEAKER_00]: All of us who have tried to live with virtue, compassion, and empathy have at some point felt how those very virtues can turn into invisible blades that cut inward.
[SPEAKER_00]: but a stoic does not place himself in the role of a victim.
[SPEAKER_00]: A stoic observes, analyzes, learns, and adapts, and that is exactly what we are going to do today.
[SPEAKER_00]: In this episode, I will share with you five harsh, but essential lessons about the hidden side of kindness, five ways in which being too good may be consuming you from within without you even realizing it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And remember,
[SPEAKER_00]: Stoic lessons is not simply a channel.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is a space for transformation, a refuge for those who have decided to stop pleasing the world and start building the best version of themselves.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you too are ready for that evolution, subscribe now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not tomorrow.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not when you have time.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because what you are about to hear can mark a before and after in your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you have the courage to apply it, let's begin.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lesson one, saying yes to often is saying no to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: This first lesson is brutal because it works in silence.
[SPEAKER_00]: Every time you accept everything without question, you give away a piece of your time, your energy, and your essence.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you often do it not because you truly want to help, but because you fear disappointing others.
[SPEAKER_00]: You fear being seen as selfish.
[SPEAKER_00]: You fear their judgment.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what about your own judgment of yourself?
[SPEAKER_00]: When you become the one who always says, yes, your schedule stops being yours.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your days, your rest, your projects, and your dreams get put on hold to solve everyone else's problems.
[SPEAKER_00]: The stoic understands that serving is a virtue, yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: But he also knows that serving without measure is not virtue.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is slavery.
[SPEAKER_00]: Marcus are really as put it bluntly.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think often about how quickly everything passes and how much is lost by scattering yourself everywhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: saying yes automatically, without reflection, without asking yourself whether it truly benefits you or drains you, is a form of self abandonment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Reflect.
[SPEAKER_00]: How many times have you accepted a commitment, an outing, a meeting or an extra task when you knew you were exhausted or had something more important to attend to?
[SPEAKER_00]: In the end, you arrive empty, without energy for your own life
[SPEAKER_00]: And the most painful part is that no one notices because you taught them that you are always available.
[SPEAKER_00]: A timely know is really a yes to your integrity.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is not selfishness.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is understanding that to truly give, you must first have, and you cannot have anything if you are constantly giving yourself away in pieces.
[SPEAKER_00]: Learn to say no.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do it with firmness, with serenity, and you'll see how self-respect begins to build in silence.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lesson 2.
[SPEAKER_00]: Being understanding with everyone can turn you into prey from manipulation.
[SPEAKER_00]: The second lesson is more subtle but no less dangerous.
[SPEAKER_00]: Having a compassionate heart is valuable.
[SPEAKER_00]: It listens, it understands, it forgives.
[SPEAKER_00]: However, when that understanding is given constantly, without conditions without filters, it becomes the preferred tool of manipulators.
[SPEAKER_00]: Seneca already warned us, we must not confuse virtue with naivety.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you, the one who always justifies, who is always ready to understand, without realizing it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You become fertile ground where others plant their convenience at the expense of your balance.
[SPEAKER_00]: Perhaps you've told yourself, they're going through a hard time.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or, I'm sure they didn't mean it that way.
[SPEAKER_00]: Perhaps you justified the unjustifiable, for gave what tore you apart inside, and by doing so, opened the door for the pattern to repeat.
[SPEAKER_00]: Understanding without discernment is self-deception, because not everyone deserves another chance, not everyone needs to be understood.
[SPEAKER_00]: The world is full of people who are not seeking help, but rather someone to exploit.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you don't learn to recognize the difference, you'll end up being the shoulder everyone cries on while you silently drown.
[SPEAKER_00]: Epictetus put it bluntly.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do not let yourself be dragged down by those who complain about everything.
[SPEAKER_00]: Their weight is heavier than their pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: Remember, your understanding should be a gift not a revolving door.
[SPEAKER_00]: You must use it with wisdom, not guilt.
[SPEAKER_00]: because the one who understands everyone but protects himself from no one, ends up devoured by the very people he thought he was helping.
[SPEAKER_00]: do not be afraid to cut ties with those who drain you, do not be afraid to stop justifying the unjustifiable.
[SPEAKER_00]: That, too, is self-love.
[SPEAKER_00]: That, too, is strength.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here in Stoic lessons we repeat it, to live with virtue is not to live weak.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is to walk with a serene strength that does not need to shout to be noticed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Up to this point we've covered the first two lessons.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I want you to reflect.
[SPEAKER_00]: How many people did you say yes to this week when deep down you truly wanted to say no?
[SPEAKER_00]: How many times did you excuse someone who failed you, just to avoid conflict or to avoid seeming cold?
[SPEAKER_00]: If all of this resonates with you, if you feel that the moment has come to draw boundaries, write it in the comments.
[SPEAKER_00]: Today I begin to put myself first.
[SPEAKER_00]: Write it with strength with conviction.
[SPEAKER_00]: That way I'll know you're not only watching, but also integrating.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if this content brings value to your life, support it with a like, that way, I'll know I'm not speaking into the void, but to warriors who are ready to evolve.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's keep building together.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lesson 3.
[SPEAKER_00]: True value lies in scarcity.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me tell you something that may sting, but it's necessary to hear.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you give yourself away all the time, your value diminishes.
[SPEAKER_00]: because true appreciation is born from scarcity.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you noticed how people value most what is hardest to obtain?
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you realized that when you're always available in the end, they take you for granted?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's not an accident.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's human nature.
[SPEAKER_00]: when you constantly do favors when you listen without fail, when you make yourself present for everyone, that gesture stops being extraordinary.
[SPEAKER_00]: It becomes routine, a silent expectation.
[SPEAKER_00]: What once was an act of support turns into an imposed obligation, not because people are evil, but because you yourself normalized it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Santaca warned that even acts of virtue must be managed with intelligence.
[SPEAKER_00]: not because we should calculate goodness, but because if we distribute it without measure, it loses its power.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: That person you always help, do they truly appreciate your support?
[SPEAKER_00]: Or do they now see it as their right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do they value you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Or are they unconsciously exploiting your presence?
[SPEAKER_00]: When you give without pause, you erase surprise and anticipation, and the sense of effort.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why it's essential to hold something back.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not out of selfishness, but a strategy, so that whenever you give your act carries weight, is remembered and feels transformative.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your time, your presence, your support should feel like gifts, not obligations.
[SPEAKER_00]: Never forget this, even the water that gives life if offered without limit will eventually drown.
[SPEAKER_00]: Measure your giving, measure your kindness, because if you don't set boundaries, others will assume none exist, and at that point what began as genuine love turns into exhaustion born of habit.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lesson four, living to avoid disappointing others' traps, you in an emotional prison.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever said what others wanted to hear just to avoid discomfort?
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever chosen the easy path simply to avoid letting down someone's expectations?
[SPEAKER_00]: That is an invisible prison, and the longer you remain inside it, the harder it becomes to tear down its walls.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you live to avoid disappointing others, you disconnect from your own truth.
[SPEAKER_00]: and though it may sound harsh, that's a betrayal, not of them, but of yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You become a domesticated version of who you are, a mask that society finds acceptable, someone who pleases but never expresses.
[SPEAKER_00]: Epictetus put it with precision.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you wish to be free, do not concern yourself with what others think.
[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, saying it is simple.
[SPEAKER_00]: The real challenge is to look into the eyes of someone who expects something from you, and tell them you can't, you won't, or you've chosen another path.
[SPEAKER_00]: Many live trapped in the endless need for approval.
[SPEAKER_00]: They smile when they want to scream, they accept when they wish to walk away, and little by little they lose contact with their inner world.
[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot live in truth if your greatest fear is to disappoint.
[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot move forward if you spend your life trying to fit into someone else's mold.
[SPEAKER_00]: growth hurts, changes uncomfortable, and sometimes the price of your evolution will be the disappointment of others.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are not here to fulfill expectations.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are here to fulfill your purpose.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your inner peace is worth more than any external applause, and though it may hurt to disappoint, it hurts far more to abandon yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: because when you renounce who you are to avoid judgment, you become a stranger within your own life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Break the cage.
[SPEAKER_00]: Except the disappointing others is part of being authentic.
[SPEAKER_00]: Understand that your true freedom begins the day you stop asking permission to be yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lesson five, avoiding conflict weakens your boundaries.
[SPEAKER_00]: This last teaching is one of the hardest to face because almost no one likes conflict.
[SPEAKER_00]: Most prefer to stay quiet, smile, give in, anything to avoid discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: But hidden in that escape lies one of the deepest reasons for your lack of power.
[SPEAKER_00]: Avoiding conflict at all costs is not peace, it's repression.
[SPEAKER_00]: Marcus Aurelius made it clear, harmony is not achieved by hiding discomfort, but by facing it with wisdom.
[SPEAKER_00]: conflict is not the enemy.
[SPEAKER_00]: The real enemy is your fear of confrontation.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you stay silent when you fail to set boundaries, when you let people walk over you, you teach them that it's acceptable.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if they do it once, they will do it again.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you, out of fear of breaking a false sense of peace, let it happen once more.
[SPEAKER_00]: With every silence every, it's fine, every fake smile.
[SPEAKER_00]: You weaken your personal wall until one day there's no wall left.
[SPEAKER_00]: Only people invading your space, draining your energy, and you too exhausted to defend yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: The stoics were not submissive.
[SPEAKER_00]: They were balanced, yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Serene, yes, but also firm as stone.
[SPEAKER_00]: They defended their values not with shouting, but with clarity.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when conflict was necessary, they faced it because they knew avoiding it was far more dangerous.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can do the same.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to be aggressive just clear.
[SPEAKER_00]: Say, I don't accept this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here is my boundary.
[SPEAKER_00]: This doesn't sit right with me.
[SPEAKER_00]: True peace is not found in the absence of conflict but in the presence of clear and respected boundaries.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't fear the brief discomfort of a no.
[SPEAKER_00]: Fear the lifelong resentment you build when you always give in just to avoid making others uncomfortable.
[SPEAKER_00]: Speaking up is hard, yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: But swallowing every discomfort poisons you from within, raise your voice, not to dominate, but to protect.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are not here to be a shadow.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are here to be a solid, firm, and valuable presence.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is not about ceasing to be good.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's about learning how to be good without ceasing to be strong, because the true stoic is not the one who lets himself be crushed with a smile, but the one who offers his hand with compassion while holding the sword of his boundaries in the other.
[SPEAKER_00]: Marcus are really a Seneca and Epictetus never preached submission, but self-discipline.
[SPEAKER_00]: They never promoted weakness disguised as kindness, but strength wrapped in virtue.
[SPEAKER_00]: be one of the few who honor themselves enough to say no when necessary, to cut ties when it's wise, and to walk away when it's the right choice.
[SPEAKER_00]: Repeat this if you must.
[SPEAKER_00]: Being good does not mean being weak.
[SPEAKER_00]: Being kind does not mean everyone has access to you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You choose.
[SPEAKER_00]: You decide.
[SPEAKER_00]: You govern your energy.
[SPEAKER_00]: stoic lessons is not a channel for passive spectators, but for those who have decided to transform their lives and refuse to live halfway.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're one of them subscribe now because every episode is another step in your transformation and I'll be here to stand with you in every battle because in this space we're not here to surrender.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're here to rebuild.
[SPEAKER_00]: See you in the next fight soldier.
[SPEAKER_00]: And remember,
[SPEAKER_00]: Every boundary you set with respect is an act of self-love.
[SPEAKER_00]: Every time you choose your piece over someone else's comfort, you become freer.
[SPEAKER_00]: And every time you defend your truth, even with a trembling voice you grow stronger.