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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for Just this this medium this opportunity this avenue
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've simply entitled this episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be short and sweet.
[SPEAKER_00]: Watch your mouth.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's funny because I remember growing up as a kid and I was very much, I wouldn't say, afraid, I had a healthy fear of my parents in so much as I wouldn't have afraid because I thought they would do harm to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had respect for them because they deserved it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And they established that kind of respect or that kind of honor at a very early age, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Would help me understand the power of having good manners, my son, the other day.
[SPEAKER_00]: My wife would tell him to the story.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wish I would have been able to witness this, but he was in the store.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, and I can just imagine knowing my wife was probably marshes or something like that TJ Maxx those are her her spots.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
[SPEAKER_00]: And um, lady was struggling with her shopping cart.
[SPEAKER_00]: My son is four.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he looks at her as it's my wife sharing this door.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, but he looks at her and said, hi, can I help you?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like he's four, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: He can't do anything physically to help her, but before she could answer, he runs over there and he tries to push her cart for her.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's four years old and she looks at my wife and she says, wow, you ought to do a great job of teaching this young man the power of helping others and he's gonna be a great young man.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was proud of that because we're doing our best.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're not perfect.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is our first and last, whatever God says, but this is our only rodeo right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: We don't have any more, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: We're pouring everything to be canned into our young, our young son.
[SPEAKER_00]: But we're trying to teach him, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: How to watch his mouth.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't say it as direct a blunt as it was told to me as a kid, but every now and again, even though I had healthy respect for my mother and father, every now and again, I made something may have slipped up, or maybe I tried to say something, I heard one of my friends say, and this is every single time I would be hit with the response.
[SPEAKER_00]: You better watch your mouth, boy.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to watch what you're saying.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to watch what comes out of your mouth, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And one of the things that it reminded me of is, there is a scripture in the book of Proverbs written by Solomon, who was full of wisdom, that simply reminds us that the power of life and death is in the tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I want you today to think about the things that you say to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: the things that you say to your kids, the things that you say to your spouse, the things that you say to those around you, you and I have, listen, I think we can take great counsel from that, that three words watch your mouth.
[SPEAKER_00]: You gotta understand that, that you and I have the power.
[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, it's biblical.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's proven.
[SPEAKER_00]: That every day, this is why I believe that there's power in positive affirmations and negative affirmations.
[SPEAKER_00]: I believe that if you tell yourself something negative long enough,
[SPEAKER_00]: that will become your reality.
[SPEAKER_00]: You would think to yourself, listen, um, I kind of write about this and my, my upcoming book, extensively, um, I at one point in my life, I lost a bunch of weight over a hundred pounds, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Prior to losing all that weight, you know what was stopping me?
[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't watching my mouth.
[SPEAKER_00]: kept telling myself, all you big bones.
[SPEAKER_00]: And for those that are not familiar with that terminology, that is a southern way of saying, a big bone, but you just really fat.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
[SPEAKER_00]: You think you big bones, your family is all, you know, all, I just don't say how kind of negative or things in my life that I would speak that would not allow me to get past those thoughts.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so because our thoughts control us and our thoughts are definitely originate in our mouth, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Or even throughout what we see.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had to retrain my mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have to start speaking things about me that would suggest that, hey, Eugene, and you are going to get healthy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Eugene, you are going to lose weight.
[SPEAKER_00]: Eugene, you are going to become everything that you were born to be.
[SPEAKER_00]: Eugene, you are going to get to a place where you feel brand new again.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had to begin to speak to myself, and be out in a way that reminded me,
[SPEAKER_00]: that this is possible.
[SPEAKER_00]: So what is it in your life today that you need to speak life to yourself about?
[SPEAKER_00]: If you keep telling yourself, I can't start a new business.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nine times out of 10, you won't start a new business because you keep telling you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody else is telling you anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's funny.
[SPEAKER_00]: We, the biggest hurdle in our journey is not really getting over what other people are saying about us.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's getting over what you say about you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, join that.
[SPEAKER_00]: The biggest hurdle.
[SPEAKER_00]: in our lives, oftentimes, whether it be going after a job promotion, whether it be competing a degree, whether it be going through a certification program, whether it be starting a podcast, whatever it is, oftentimes, people outside that the noise isn't loud enough to deter you, you've got to get over your own, there's negative things you say to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to get past the negative thoughts, the negative ideologies, the negative patterns in your own life, oftentimes to get to, but it starts with speaking, it starts with thinking, it starts with affirming yourself in ways that will allow you to realize those hopes, those goals, and those dreams.
[SPEAKER_00]: And oftentimes, it's that tongue that gets in your way.
[SPEAKER_00]: So let me invite you to do a couple of things.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I'm out of your way.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is short, sweet this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to invite you if you're going to get to a place where you begin to watch your mouth positively.
[SPEAKER_00]: But one, you've got to start practicing
[SPEAKER_00]: I like it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to practice intentional, in other words, you've got to guard your tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to be, listen, you've got to be deliberate about those things you say to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to practice intentional communication in so much as you are careful with what you say about your life, your kids' lives, your spouses' life, you've got to be intentional.
[SPEAKER_00]: about the words that are coming out of your mouth.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to be careful.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to be deliberate about those things that come forth from your mouth and your lips.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because the power, so says Proverbs 18 of life and death, is in your tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to invite you also.
[SPEAKER_00]: to begin framing growth conversations with your tongue.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want you to begin to say to yourself, listen, I am going to do my very best.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the things that is man's super powerful, you know, that there are sometimes people that call us and don't know, I can't get in you as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they have so much negative to say,
[SPEAKER_00]: about other people, about life, about themselves and have you ever been there where someone, you know, you picked the phone and man, you were tired when you got out the phone because they were so negative.
[SPEAKER_00]: Everything they say was something that wasn't right or wasn't positive or I mean, they just they just
[SPEAKER_00]: This is a, at the beginning of this year, I, I said to myself, man, I am going to distance myself from people who only speak negative about whatever.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, there are people that I, I know who, I mean, they just, they will come up with, that the thing can be positive and they'll come up with something negative about the thing that's positive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got a degree in this, you got a master in this, you got a doctor in this, why?
[SPEAKER_00]: How can you find something so n-it's almost like, I watch D on Sanders, man, you know, you're not a perfect guy, nobody's perfect.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I watch him as he tries his best to father.
[SPEAKER_00]: his children in a way that sets them up for success.
[SPEAKER_00]: And man, this guy puts out positive quotes and videos where he's speaking life into his sons and his players and somebody, or I mean, every single day come along with something negative to say about what he's doing that's positive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, wow.
[SPEAKER_00]: Those kinds of people, I try my best to distance myself from, you know, why?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because birds of a feather flock together.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the more I'm around that, the more I will lean toward, thinking the thoughts that they're giving, that they're, that they're putting out there.
[SPEAKER_00]: The more I will find myself being a Debbie Downer as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, Senator, instead of me,
[SPEAKER_00]: turning purple, trying to tell them to stop.
[SPEAKER_00]: and the more I tell them to start the more they dig deeper and they're negative, they're negative train.
[SPEAKER_00]: I said, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: And instead of me trying to change them, let me just change me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me just, this is myself from that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you were with me six weeks ago, I said, it's simply, it's simply this.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like that girl.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then it's simply who the boy was messing with her and she removed herself.
[SPEAKER_00]: She says, Mr. Hamilton, the reason why I move is because the only person I can control is me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Can't control their mind, I can't control their mouth, I can't control their hands, I can't control me.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I can't control that negative person that comes along in my life, but I can't control me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to be around that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to listen to that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to endure that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to be nasty or mean about it, but I don't have to get up with that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to think positive thoughts about B and about the life that I've been blessed with.
[SPEAKER_00]: So let me invite you once again.
[SPEAKER_00]: to practice intentional communication and then practice being a part of growth conversations and those growth conversations begin.
[SPEAKER_00]: with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna drop some more information about this art of speaking life and the show notes so that you can have access to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the shoot is not a book, it's not anything super deep but you can have access to a couple of points that will hopefully point you in the right direction and that will change your conversation about you as you aim to watch your mouth.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you again for tuning in today.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for your time and your attention.
[SPEAKER_00]: Please share this out with somebody who's struggling with watching their mouth and conversation.
[SPEAKER_00]: Please share it out with somebody who could benefit from what we share today.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'll see you the same place, same time, next week in the meantime, keep going, keep growing, and keep going.
[SPEAKER_00]: Take care, peace.