WEBVTT 00:04.070 --> 00:08.212 [SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever been on that emotional roller coaster where one day you think you found your soul mate? 00:08.972 --> 00:12.054 [SPEAKER_00]: And the next you wonder if you really know the person sleeping next to you? 00:12.934 --> 00:19.657 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're considering marriage or already in a serious relationship, this episode could save you from years of silence suffering. 00:20.518 --> 00:25.140 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the truth is, no one tells you the really important things before you say, I do. 00:26.681 --> 00:31.183 [SPEAKER_00]: Today we're going to talk about three uncomfortable truths everyone should know before getting married. 00:32.187 --> 00:36.253 [SPEAKER_00]: And no, these aren't the typical magazine tips you've heard a thousand times. 00:37.055 --> 00:44.666 [SPEAKER_00]: These are the true people prefer to keep quiet, the ones that make you uncomfortable but if ignored, can turn your marriage into a silent nightmare. 00:45.802 --> 00:49.244 [SPEAKER_00]: The first truth will make you question everything you thought you knew about love. 00:50.165 --> 00:54.747 [SPEAKER_00]: The second will destroy the romantic fantasy Hollywood has sold you for years. 00:55.528 --> 01:00.611 [SPEAKER_00]: And the third, while the third is so brutal that many people would rather get divorced than face it. 01:01.351 --> 01:06.975 [SPEAKER_00]: But before we continue, if you find value in these episodes, please subscribe and turn on notifications. 01:07.715 --> 01:11.438 [SPEAKER_00]: Your support helps us keep creating content that can truly change lives. 01:12.259 --> 01:17.703 [SPEAKER_00]: And believe me, after this episode, your perspective on relationships will never be the same. 01:20.525 --> 01:23.328 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's begin with the first uncomfortable truth and it's this. 01:24.288 --> 01:26.590 [SPEAKER_00]: Love is not enough to make a marriage work. 01:27.431 --> 01:28.672 [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, you heard that right. 01:29.592 --> 01:35.017 [SPEAKER_00]: That phrase you've been told since you were a child, that romantic idea that love conquers all, 01:36.042 --> 01:39.384 [SPEAKER_00]: is a dangerous lie that has destroyed more marriages than you can imagine. 01:40.324 --> 01:44.947 [SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever wondered why so many couples who deeply loved each other end up divorcing so bitterly? 01:45.787 --> 01:50.410 [SPEAKER_00]: Why those love stories that seemed straight out of a movie and in legal battles and broken hearts? 01:51.710 --> 01:52.571 [SPEAKER_00]: The answer is simple. 01:53.511 --> 01:56.313 [SPEAKER_00]: Love is only one ingredient, not the whole recipe. 01:57.394 --> 01:59.094 [SPEAKER_00]: Imagine marriage like building a house. 02:00.335 --> 02:01.616 [SPEAKER_00]: Love would be the foundation 02:02.395 --> 02:10.179 [SPEAKER_00]: but what good is a strong foundation if you don't have the right tools, the correct materials, or the necessary skills to build. 02:11.260 --> 02:14.602 [SPEAKER_00]: The house is going to collapse no matter how strong those foundations are. 02:15.842 --> 02:23.767 [SPEAKER_00]: Love makes you feel butterflies in your stomach, makes you write cheesy poems, and fills you with that sense that you could conquer the world with that person. 02:24.822 --> 02:26.443 [SPEAKER_00]: But marriage isn't a poem. 02:27.224 --> 02:27.964 [SPEAKER_00]: It's real life. 02:29.005 --> 02:35.809 [SPEAKER_00]: And real life includes bills to pay tough decisions to make crises to face and moments when romantic love simply doesn't show up. 02:37.090 --> 02:40.092 [SPEAKER_00]: What happens when that first serious financial crisis hits? 02:40.793 --> 02:43.475 [SPEAKER_00]: When one of you loses their job and your savings vanish? 02:44.135 --> 02:46.957 [SPEAKER_00]: When you have to care for sick parents and stress consumes you? 02:47.778 --> 02:50.940 [SPEAKER_00]: When the kids come along and you're sleeping three hours a night for months? 02:51.946 --> 02:57.391 [SPEAKER_00]: In those moments butterflies in the stomach won't pay the mortgage, and love poems won't solve the conflicts. 02:58.232 --> 03:00.494 [SPEAKER_00]: This is where many couples crash into reality. 03:01.134 --> 03:13.406 [SPEAKER_00]: They realize that besides love, they need compatibility and core values, communication skills, emotional intelligence, conflict resolution ability, and above all, real commitment beyond feelings. 03:14.206 --> 03:15.487 [SPEAKER_00]: Because feelings come and go. 03:16.490 --> 03:22.692 [SPEAKER_00]: There will be days when your partner drives you crazy when their habits annoy you, when you argue over stupid things. 03:23.712 --> 03:29.494 [SPEAKER_00]: And if your marriage is based solely on romantic love, those days will make you question the entire relationship. 03:30.394 --> 03:38.577 [SPEAKER_00]: The uncomfortable truth is that mature love, the kind that holds successful marriages together, is not that movie style love that makes your knees weak. 03:39.348 --> 03:46.654 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a conscious decision you make every day to choose that person, to work on the relationship, to grow together even when it's hard. 03:47.595 --> 03:51.559 [SPEAKER_00]: It's love with responsibility, with commitment, with constant effort. 03:52.540 --> 04:01.888 [SPEAKER_00]: It's choosing to love even on gray days when routine has killed the passion, when the other person's flaws become more obvious, when life tests you in ways you never imagined. 04:02.865 --> 04:09.469 [SPEAKER_00]: That's why it's so important that before marriage, you honestly evaluate whether you have more than just love to build a life together. 04:10.349 --> 04:14.952 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you share core values about money, family, religion, children? 04:15.632 --> 04:17.953 [SPEAKER_00]: Can you communicate effectively when you disagree? 04:18.854 --> 04:21.895 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you know how to resolve conflicts without destroying each other? 04:22.776 --> 04:25.577 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to work on the relationship when things get tough? 04:26.618 --> 04:28.599 [SPEAKER_00]: If the answer to any of these questions is no, 04:29.295 --> 04:36.178 [SPEAKER_00]: then no matter how much you love each other, you're building on quicksand, and sooner or later, that house is going to collapse. 04:39.399 --> 04:44.341 [SPEAKER_00]: Now let's move on to the second uncomfortable truth, and this one is going to hurt even more. 04:45.241 --> 04:48.402 [SPEAKER_00]: Your partner will not complete you or solve your internal problems. 04:49.343 --> 04:54.745 [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, marriage will amplify all your flaws and insecurities like a giant magnifying glass. 04:55.873 --> 04:58.075 [SPEAKER_00]: Remember that famous line from Jerry Maguire. 04:59.016 --> 04:59.856 [SPEAKER_00]: You complete me. 05:01.318 --> 05:02.219 [SPEAKER_00]: Forget it completely. 05:02.859 --> 05:05.922 [SPEAKER_00]: That's one of the most toxic lies romantic movies have ever sold us. 05:06.843 --> 05:13.388 [SPEAKER_00]: And the reason it's so dangerous is because it creates completely unrealistic expectations about what a partner can do for you. 05:14.169 --> 05:22.917 [SPEAKER_00]: If you enter marriage expecting your partner to fill all your emotional voids, heal your insecurities, resolve your past traumas, or give your life purpose. 05:23.818 --> 05:30.263 [SPEAKER_00]: you're setting yourself up for a monumental disappointment, because no human being can carry that kind of responsibility. 05:31.023 --> 05:31.864 [SPEAKER_00]: Think of it this way. 05:32.604 --> 05:44.132 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're not whole as an individual, if you don't have a healthy relationship with yourself, if you haven't worked on your own emotional issues, how can you expect to build a healthy relationship with someone else? 05:44.813 --> 05:46.714 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like trying to give something you don't have. 05:47.695 --> 05:50.217 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage isn't a safe haven where you can hide from yourself. 05:51.260 --> 05:57.181 [SPEAKER_00]: On the contrary, it's a mirror that will show you exactly who you are with all your light and all your darkness. 05:58.142 --> 06:04.483 [SPEAKER_00]: That person you're going to share your life with is going to see your most vulnerable moments, your rawst reactions, your deepest fears. 06:05.303 --> 06:08.764 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're a jealous person, marriage isn't going to cure your jealousy. 06:09.364 --> 06:10.625 [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to intensify it. 06:11.225 --> 06:16.846 [SPEAKER_00]: If you have self-esteem issues, your partner isn't magically going to become your constant source of validation. 06:17.804 --> 06:22.351 [SPEAKER_00]: If you have toxic communication patterns, they're not going to disappear like magic on your wedding day. 06:23.232 --> 06:25.295 [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, what often happens is the opposite. 06:26.316 --> 06:33.727 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage puts so much pressure on your weak spots that all those problems you thought you had overcome come back with a force that surprises you. 06:34.730 --> 06:39.452 [SPEAKER_00]: because now there's much more at stake, more vulnerability, more interdependence. 06:40.172 --> 06:42.133 [SPEAKER_00]: And here comes the really uncomfortable part. 06:43.133 --> 06:49.096 [SPEAKER_00]: If you haven't done the inner work before getting married, you'll end up turning your partner into your involuntary therapist. 06:49.976 --> 06:57.659 [SPEAKER_00]: You'll expect them to calm you when you're anxious, to motivate you when you're depressed, to make you feel worthy when your self-esteem is on the floor. 06:58.780 --> 07:01.341 [SPEAKER_00]: Can you imagine the pressure that puts on a relationship? 07:01.961 --> 07:04.422 [SPEAKER_00]: Your partner will feel exhausted, frustrated, 07:05.068 --> 07:08.531 [SPEAKER_00]: Because no matter how hard they try to help, it will never be enough. 07:09.392 --> 07:12.675 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the problem isn't in the relationship, it's in you. 07:13.455 --> 07:14.837 [SPEAKER_00]: And only you can fix it. 07:15.758 --> 07:21.523 [SPEAKER_00]: The reality is that the happiest people in marriage are those who were already complete and happy before they got married. 07:22.601 --> 07:24.621 [SPEAKER_00]: They didn't need their partner to feel fulfilled. 07:25.342 --> 07:29.403 [SPEAKER_00]: They chose them because they wanted to share their already full life with someone special. 07:30.103 --> 07:32.623 [SPEAKER_00]: This doesn't mean you have to be perfect before getting married. 07:33.564 --> 07:35.284 [SPEAKER_00]: We all have areas we can improve on. 07:36.224 --> 07:47.067 [SPEAKER_00]: We all carry wounds from the past, but it does mean that you need to have enough self-awareness to recognize your issues and the responsibility to work on them, not hand them over to your partner. 07:47.953 --> 07:53.795 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage should be the union of two whole people who choose to grow together, not two halves looking to complete each other. 07:54.755 --> 07:58.436 [SPEAKER_00]: Because when two incomplete people come together, they don't make a hole. 07:59.236 --> 08:01.076 [SPEAKER_00]: They create an emotional disaster. 08:04.197 --> 08:08.218 [SPEAKER_00]: And now we come to the third uncomfortable truth, the most brutal of all. 08:08.938 --> 08:11.159 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage is not for the emotionally cowardly. 08:12.183 --> 08:20.328 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're not willing to die to yourself over and over again, if you can't sacrifice your ego for the sake of the relationship, then you're not ready for marriage. 08:21.309 --> 08:27.273 [SPEAKER_00]: This is the truth no one wants to hear because it goes against everything we've been taught about individuality and personal fulfillment. 08:28.313 --> 08:37.640 [SPEAKER_00]: We live in a time where we're constantly told we should prioritize ourselves that no one else is responsible for our happiness, that we must stay true to who we are no matter what. 08:38.600 --> 08:40.802 [SPEAKER_00]: And all of that is perfectly fine when you're single. 08:41.778 --> 08:44.420 [SPEAKER_00]: but marriage requires something entirely different. 08:45.340 --> 08:53.686 [SPEAKER_00]: It requires that you're willing to transform, to compromise, to negotiate, to find solutions that won't always work in your favor. 08:54.687 --> 08:57.649 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you know what the difference is between a dating relationship and a marriage? 08:58.809 --> 09:01.631 [SPEAKER_00]: In dating when things get hard, there's always an exit door. 09:02.372 --> 09:05.254 [SPEAKER_00]: You can break up, go your separate ways, and that's it. 09:06.244 --> 09:10.825 [SPEAKER_00]: but in marriage, especially when kids are involved assets are shared and a life has been built together. 09:11.345 --> 09:12.705 [SPEAKER_00]: That exit door closes. 09:13.366 --> 09:14.826 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's when many people panic. 09:15.506 --> 09:23.248 [SPEAKER_00]: Suddenly they realize they're stuck with someone who won't always agree with them, who has different needs, who makes decisions that directly affect them. 09:24.048 --> 09:27.469 [SPEAKER_00]: And if they're not prepared for that reality, marriage turns into a prison. 09:28.709 --> 09:32.610 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage is going to force you to face parts of yourself you didn't even know existed. 09:33.372 --> 09:36.677 [SPEAKER_00]: It will show you how selfish you can be when things don't go your way. 09:37.558 --> 09:42.525 [SPEAKER_00]: It will reveal how immature you are when you have to share resources, time and attention. 09:43.547 --> 09:46.771 [SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever lived with someone who leaves dirty dishes in the sink for days? 09:47.732 --> 09:52.394 [SPEAKER_00]: or spends money without asking you, or makes major decisions without considering you. 09:53.495 --> 09:58.697 [SPEAKER_00]: Those little things that seem insignificant can become epic battlefields if you're not willing to work on solutions. 09:59.757 --> 10:01.478 [SPEAKER_00]: And here's the really uncomfortable part. 10:02.279 --> 10:05.200 [SPEAKER_00]: Many times the solution won't be for your partner to change. 10:05.800 --> 10:07.001 [SPEAKER_00]: It'll be for you to change. 10:07.821 --> 10:12.783 [SPEAKER_00]: It'll be about finding a way to adapt, to be more flexible, to pick your battles wisely. 10:13.724 --> 10:16.645 [SPEAKER_00]: This doesn't mean becoming a dormant or losing your identity. 10:17.348 --> 10:23.134 [SPEAKER_00]: It means recognizing that marriage is a living organism that requires both people to constantly evolve. 10:24.175 --> 10:24.976 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like a dance. 10:25.936 --> 10:28.139 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow. 10:28.739 --> 10:31.742 [SPEAKER_00]: And the goal isn't to win, but to create something beautiful together. 10:33.204 --> 10:35.886 [SPEAKER_00]: Stoic philosophy teaches us something valuable here. 10:36.807 --> 10:41.171 [SPEAKER_00]: You can't control your partner, but you can control how you respond to them. 10:42.050 --> 10:47.251 [SPEAKER_00]: You can't change their annoying habits, but you can change how you allow those habits to affect you. 10:48.112 --> 10:49.732 [SPEAKER_00]: Your partner never washes the dishes. 10:50.412 --> 10:55.353 [SPEAKER_00]: You can become the one who always washes them, or you can find a system that works for both of you. 10:56.114 --> 10:57.094 [SPEAKER_00]: Your partner is messy. 10:57.774 --> 11:04.296 [SPEAKER_00]: You can learn to live with a little more chaos, or you can negotiate designated spaces where each person can be themselves. 11:05.036 --> 11:08.477 [SPEAKER_00]: But this requires emotional maturity that many people simply don't have. 11:09.275 --> 11:19.321 [SPEAKER_00]: It requires the humility to recognize that you're not always right, that your way of doing things isn't the only right way, and that sometimes love means giving in even when you don't want to. 11:20.341 --> 11:21.942 [SPEAKER_00]: This is where many marriages fail. 11:22.722 --> 11:30.947 [SPEAKER_00]: People go into it expecting their partner to fully adapt to them, to change everything that bothers them, to become the perfect version they've imagined in their minds. 11:31.878 --> 11:36.540 [SPEAKER_00]: And when that doesn't happen because obviously it won't, they feel betrayed, deceived, trapped. 11:37.660 --> 11:41.822 [SPEAKER_00]: The truth is, marriage is a constant exercise in death and rebirth. 11:42.822 --> 11:49.204 [SPEAKER_00]: Every day, you have to die to the version of yourself that only thinks of you, and be reborn as part of a team. 11:50.064 --> 11:54.926 [SPEAKER_00]: You have to sacrifice some of your preferences, your whims, your comforts, for the greater good. 11:55.846 --> 12:00.008 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is especially difficult in a culture that has taught us that compromise is weakness, 12:00.650 --> 12:04.234 [SPEAKER_00]: that giving in is losing, that we must always put our needs first. 12:05.315 --> 12:08.018 [SPEAKER_00]: But a successful marriage requires exactly the opposite. 12:09.019 --> 12:12.703 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not talking about abusive relationships where one person dominates the other. 12:13.644 --> 12:21.533 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking about the ongoing, loving negotiation, where both people are willing to give something up in order to create something greater than themselves. 12:22.456 --> 12:28.158 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to wake up early on weekends because your partner likes to work out together, even though you'd rather sleep in? 12:29.099 --> 12:32.660 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to move to another city for your partner's career opportunity? 12:33.440 --> 12:35.241 [SPEAKER_00]: Even if it means leaving your comfort zone. 12:36.261 --> 12:40.643 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to spend holidays with your partner's family even when you'd rather go somewhere else? 12:41.543 --> 12:47.205 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to change your routine, your habits, your lifestyle when the situation calls for it? 12:48.346 --> 12:51.287 [SPEAKER_00]: If the answer to these questions makes you anxious or resistant, 12:52.163 --> 12:53.723 [SPEAKER_00]: then maybe you're not ready for marriage. 12:54.404 --> 13:00.705 [SPEAKER_00]: Because these are exactly the kinds of situations that will come up again and again, over the course of a shared life. 13:01.666 --> 13:05.147 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage is not for people seeking comfort or who want everything to be easy. 13:06.067 --> 13:16.210 [SPEAKER_00]: It's for brave souls willing to grow, to be challenged, to constantly step out of their comfort zone for love of another person, and for love of the relationship they're building together. 13:17.462 --> 13:22.544 [SPEAKER_00]: But here comes the question no one dares to ask, what if you're not willing to make those sacrifices? 13:23.265 --> 13:26.486 [SPEAKER_00]: What if you discover that deep down you're more selfish than you thought? 13:27.447 --> 13:31.229 [SPEAKER_00]: What if you realize you prefer your own comfort over your partner's well-being? 13:32.229 --> 13:33.950 [SPEAKER_00]: Then my friend, it's better to stay single. 13:34.870 --> 13:43.955 [SPEAKER_00]: Because a marriage where one or both people aren't willing to yield to sacrifice, to die to themselves for the greater good, becomes a hell for everyone involved, 13:45.222 --> 13:49.025 [SPEAKER_00]: and this brings us to one final reflection that could save you years of suffering. 13:50.086 --> 13:55.391 [SPEAKER_00]: Before asking if your partner is the right person for you, ask yourself if you are the right person for marriage. 13:56.432 --> 14:00.535 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you have the emotional maturity to handle conflict without destroying the other person? 14:01.396 --> 14:06.821 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you have the patience to work through problems that will take years, not days or weeks, to resolve? 14:07.722 --> 14:11.505 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you have the humility to admit when you're wrong and to sincerely apologize? 14:12.495 --> 14:16.717 [SPEAKER_00]: Can you communicate effectively when you're angry, hurt, or frustrated? 14:17.798 --> 14:21.040 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you know the difference between love and emotional dependence? 14:22.060 --> 14:26.042 [SPEAKER_00]: Have you resolved your past traumas enough not to project them onto your partner? 14:26.963 --> 14:28.744 [SPEAKER_00]: Because here comes another brutal truth. 14:29.404 --> 14:36.108 [SPEAKER_00]: If you can't answer yes to these questions, it doesn't matter how perfect your partner is, or how deep your love goes. 14:37.240 --> 14:42.724 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage will bring all your shortcomings to the surface, and those shortcomings will poison the relationship. 14:43.685 --> 14:51.031 [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen couples who genuinely loved each other destroy themselves because neither had the emotional tools needed to navigate the complexities of marriage. 14:51.852 --> 14:57.837 [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen marriages that looked perfect from the outside become silent battlefields because no one wanted to do the inner work. 14:58.780 --> 15:00.080 [SPEAKER_00]: And I've also seen the opposite. 15:00.621 --> 15:11.844 [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen couples who weren't perfect, who had significant differences, build extraordinary marriages, because both were committed to growing, to changing, to constantly working on themselves. 15:12.704 --> 15:14.824 [SPEAKER_00]: The difference isn't in perfect compatibility. 15:15.364 --> 15:17.445 [SPEAKER_00]: It's in the mutual willingness to evolve. 15:18.185 --> 15:20.066 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not about the absence of problems. 15:20.646 --> 15:23.927 [SPEAKER_00]: It's about the ability to face those problems as a united team. 15:25.167 --> 15:32.033 [SPEAKER_00]: So before planning that dream wedding, before picking the perfect dress or the ideal honeymoon destination, do the inner work. 15:32.834 --> 15:36.957 [SPEAKER_00]: Know your destructive patterns, your defense mechanisms, your areas for growth. 15:37.898 --> 15:39.399 [SPEAKER_00]: Learn to communicate effectively. 15:40.160 --> 15:49.027 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't mean speaking nicely when everything is fine, I mean expressing your needs, boundaries and feelings clearly and respectfully even when you're upset. 15:50.201 --> 15:59.250 [SPEAKER_00]: develop emotional intelligence, learn to regulate your emotions, to avoid reacting impulsively, to create space between what you feel and how you act. 15:59.810 --> 16:03.194 [SPEAKER_00]: Because in marriage, your emotional reactions don't just affect you. 16:03.814 --> 16:06.437 [SPEAKER_00]: They affect another person you've promised to love and protect. 16:07.346 --> 16:18.554 [SPEAKER_00]: Work on yourself a steam in a genuine way, not that fake confidence based on comparing yourself to others or external achievements, but that inner security that comes from truly knowing and accepting yourself. 16:19.635 --> 16:23.178 [SPEAKER_00]: And please, please learn to be alone with yourself without feeling uncomfortable. 16:24.438 --> 16:29.182 [SPEAKER_00]: If you can't enjoy your own company, if you need constant external validation, 16:29.860 --> 16:44.695 [SPEAKER_00]: If your self-worth depends on what others think of you, you're not ready to share your life with someone else because marriage paradoxically requires you to be a whole independent person in order to create something beautiful with another whole independent person. 16:46.116 --> 16:48.078 [SPEAKER_00]: Now I know all of this may sound discouraging. 16:48.723 --> 16:54.307 [SPEAKER_00]: You might be thinking that marriage is impossible, that the bar is too high, that it's better to stay single forever. 16:55.327 --> 16:56.788 [SPEAKER_00]: But here's the beauty in all of this. 16:57.529 --> 17:03.673 [SPEAKER_00]: When two people who have done this inner work meet and decide to build a life together, the result is magical. 17:04.413 --> 17:14.402 [SPEAKER_00]: not the fake magic of romantic movies, but the real magic of two human beings growing together, supporting each other, creating something greater than the sum of their parts. 17:15.242 --> 17:21.748 [SPEAKER_00]: It's the magic of having someone who knows you completely, who has seen your worst moments, and still chooses to stay. 17:22.769 --> 17:29.695 [SPEAKER_00]: It's the magic of facing life's storms with someone by your side, of celebrating victories with someone who deeply understands them. 17:30.664 --> 17:39.890 [SPEAKER_00]: It's the magic of building family traditions of creating a home that becomes a refuge for both of you, of watching your partner become their best self with your love and support. 17:41.191 --> 17:43.212 [SPEAKER_00]: But that magic doesn't happen by accident. 17:43.793 --> 17:48.376 [SPEAKER_00]: It's built day by day, decision by decision, sacrifice by sacrifice. 17:49.116 --> 17:54.700 [SPEAKER_00]: It's built with patience, with forgiveness, with constant work on yourself and on the relationship. 17:55.420 --> 17:59.182 [SPEAKER_00]: So before taking that huge step, be brutally honest with yourself. 18:00.063 --> 18:01.183 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you looking for a partner? 18:01.703 --> 18:04.224 [SPEAKER_00]: Or are you looking for a solution to your internal problems? 18:04.884 --> 18:07.665 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to do the work a successful marriage requires? 18:08.285 --> 18:10.425 [SPEAKER_00]: Or are you expecting it to be easy and natural? 18:11.266 --> 18:14.186 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you understand that romantic love is just the starting fuel? 18:14.786 --> 18:17.947 [SPEAKER_00]: But that you need many other tools to keep the engine of marriage running? 18:18.827 --> 18:24.909 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you prepared for the hard times, for the crises, for the challenges that will test everything you think you know about love? 18:25.809 --> 18:28.850 [SPEAKER_00]: If after honestly reflecting on these questions you feel ready? 18:29.737 --> 18:30.477 [SPEAKER_00]: then go for it. 18:31.398 --> 18:35.601 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage can be one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences of human life. 18:36.481 --> 18:40.524 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you have doubts, if you feel like you need to work on yourself first, then do it. 18:41.484 --> 18:42.165 [SPEAKER_00]: There's no rush. 18:43.206 --> 18:47.308 [SPEAKER_00]: It's better to wait and do things right than to hurry and deal with the consequences later. 18:48.589 --> 18:51.771 [SPEAKER_00]: Remember, marriage is not a destination to be reached. 18:52.342 --> 18:53.762 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a journey to be walked. 18:54.643 --> 19:02.905 [SPEAKER_00]: And like any important journey, the preparation makes all the difference between an extraordinary adventure and a nightmare you'd rather forget. 19:03.945 --> 19:07.066 [SPEAKER_00]: At the end of the day, these uncomfortable truths aren't here to discourage you. 19:07.606 --> 19:08.627 [SPEAKER_00]: They're here to prepare you. 19:09.547 --> 19:21.030 [SPEAKER_00]: Because when you know what you're facing, when you have realistic expectations, when you've done the necessary inner work, marriage stops being a leap into the unknown and becomes a conscious informed decision. 19:22.168 --> 19:25.990 [SPEAKER_00]: and that is the difference between marriages that work and those that don't. 19:26.971 --> 19:30.273 [SPEAKER_00]: The ones that work are built on truth, not fantasy. 19:31.173 --> 19:33.254 [SPEAKER_00]: They're built on effort, not luck. 19:34.255 --> 19:40.038 [SPEAKER_00]: They're built by two people who chose to grow together, not by two people who thought love would be enough. 19:41.339 --> 19:46.842 [SPEAKER_00]: If this episode is made you reflect if it is made you uncomfortable or opened your eyes to realities you hadn't considered. 19:47.578 --> 19:55.866 [SPEAKER_00]: then it's done its job, share it with someone who is considering marriage, because these difficult conversations are the ones that can truly change lives. 19:56.646 --> 20:00.110 [SPEAKER_00]: And remember, it's not about being perfect before getting married. 20:01.171 --> 20:03.613 [SPEAKER_00]: It's about being conscious and willing to do the work. 20:04.554 --> 20:12.982 [SPEAKER_00]: Marriage is not for cowards, but for those who have the courage to face it with honesty and commitment, it can be the most rewarding adventure of their lives. 20:13.836 --> 20:18.783 [SPEAKER_00]: Because in the end, as a wise person once said, marriage is not about finding the right person. 20:19.324 --> 20:21.006 [SPEAKER_00]: It's about becoming the right person. 20:21.707 --> 20:25.513 [SPEAKER_00]: And that work my friend begins with you here and now.