[SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to grow?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I'd ask myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to grow, but you also want to be comfortable, or you can't have both.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's normal not to have the motivation sometimes.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's normal for my friend who doesn't want to wake up early, like neither do I, but I'm willing to go through that suffering, that pain of suffering to get there, to get to the feeling that feels good later.
[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to another episode of Success for the Athletic Minded Man.
[SPEAKER_00]: Real talk on harnessing your athletic drive for clarity, consistency, and focus in business and life.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is your host, Jim Marshall Jr., and today I'm bringing you an episode on pain and discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the reason I am bringing you this episode today is because of this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Every once I go back and I look at some of my old podcast episodes and I listen to them and I look at the different titles and see what's working and why not found myself listening to it particular episode and I was like man this was a really good message and it was a message to be honest I really needed to hear myself it was a real kick in the ass that I felt like I needed it was good for me to re-here this re-listen to this
[SPEAKER_00]: I looked at the analytics and here's what I found.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, an average podcast episode, just in general, like all podcasts, when you have people listening to about seventy percent of the entire episode, that's considered sort of a good benchmark.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you hit eighty percent,
[SPEAKER_00]: That's considered really good.
[SPEAKER_00]: This episode has a one hundred and twenty seven percent retention rate, meaning people who listen to it, listen to the whole thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of them went back and listened to it again, or least portions of it again.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I'm bringing you that episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you want some hardcore
[SPEAKER_00]: Accountability as much as you can get accountability through a podcast episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is the episode for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here we go.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's get into it.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is my replay of an episode titled, welcoming pain and discomfort steps to cultivating your path to a more meaningful life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here we go.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, I'm excited for this episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is something that it's been on my mind for a while.
[SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of these episodes, like, as they pop into my head, I jot them down and I keep track of some notes.
[SPEAKER_00]: As other notes pop into my head and I kind of develop the thought and the concept over time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is one that's been on there for a little while, a couple of months, a month or two, I guess.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's this, this idea of welcoming pain in discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this being the path to a meaningful life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think it's some level we all know this, but I want to go
[SPEAKER_00]: deep into this and help you get some insight into why you should welcome pain and how you actually structure your life so you can do this because you're going, yeah, okay, Jim, I understand that I have to go through things that suck in order to get to where I want to get to whether it's, you know, losing weight or building the business or the job or whatever it is, but I just can't seem to get motivated to do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't seem to get out of bed early in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't seem to keep the motivation whenever things get hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a friend of mine who I'm actually trying to recruit right now to do these early morning workouts that I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's usually we usually start at five, thirty in the morning and that means you have to wake up at like five o'clock and it sucks to wake up at five o'clock.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're tired.
[SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, he wants to resolve, but he doesn't want to go through the pain and suffering of, of way, he helped that early, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And we all know that that's required.
[SPEAKER_00]: So we're going to talk about not only the how, but the why.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the thought of this episode came to me literally after I was on a run with my neighbor as I was training for this recent Spartan race that I did.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the Spartan race is nine miles and twenty eight obstacles.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's really hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was really fun.
[SPEAKER_00]: But training for it sucked, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Especially when I first went for my first long run.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I've had this story in my head for a long time that I'm just not a good runner.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever reason this story, I created this story in my head long long time ago and when I ran across country for my senior year in high school and you know, I just couldn't keep up with my
[SPEAKER_00]: fellow wrestling teammates who are also on the team and I thought, man, if I can beat them in wrestling and I must be in good shape, I'm strong, I'm tough, I can beat them in cross country.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I couldn't, and I was always like just struggling and struggling to keep up.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so that kind of planted the seed in my head that I'm just not a good runner.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I, you know, because I thought that I was able to find all kinds of evidence out there.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's that particular activating system was turned on until like, okay, show me proof.
[SPEAKER_00]: that you're not a good runner.
[SPEAKER_00]: Boom, there it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: There it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I found it and it just reinforced this thought over years.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I overcame that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I signed myself up for half marathon a few years ago and overcame that or so I thought.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I got for a run with my neighbor.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's a runner.
[SPEAKER_00]: He like he runs a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we got for this trail run in the neighborhood.
[SPEAKER_00]: We were running, I think, five or six miles.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we get about two miles into it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: This sucks and it's dark.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're running on these trails.
[SPEAKER_00]: My headlamps not very bright.
[SPEAKER_00]: I needed to do batteries.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I didn't know what these trails very well.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he's flying through these trails.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just struggling to keep up.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm rolling my ankle a couple of times I rolled my ankle and it was hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: It freaking sucked.
[SPEAKER_00]: And literally at the end of it, I couldn't keep up to the point there was like a mile left.
[SPEAKER_00]: I said, listen, you just go on ahead without me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just going to slow down.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't keep up.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he said, no, man, let's go.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he kind of slowed down a little bit with me and kept pushing me.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I made it through.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought to myself, during that workout, I'm just going to have to run and do my running training on my own because I can't keep up with this guy.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to slow him down and I just can't keep up.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it reminded me of this story.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah, I'm not good at running.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's more proof.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought I had defeated that a few years ago and I actually had to go through this relearning process.
[SPEAKER_00]: Though the process a few years ago when I signed up for this half marathon was for the first couple of weeks of training were like, oh yeah, I'm not good at this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah, I'm not good at this.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was all this proof, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Proof proof proof.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm running on a treadmill because it was cold outside.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mostly started running a treadmill
[SPEAKER_00]: And I got all this proof.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not good at this.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I kept getting it reinforced.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then a few weeks, three, four weeks, and I'm like, oh, I'm starting to feel better.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I'm okay at this, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe it just took some real significant training to get into this.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then, you know, got to the point, you know, a couple, two, three months later.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're in the half marathon, crushed it, felt fantastic.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I said, oh, it's not that you're not a bad runner.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just that you haven't dedicated yourself to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You haven't failed enough times.
[SPEAKER_00]: You haven't struggled enough times.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, apparently I forgot this story, the relearning that I did there because I'm out running with my buddy and this story comes back.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah, Jim, you're not a good runner.
[SPEAKER_00]: Remember, you're not a good runner.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I just kept pushing through and I wanted to tell this guy that I didn't want to run with them.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I forgot home for that first run.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: I talk about the environment of excellence.
[SPEAKER_00]: I talk about accountability.
[SPEAKER_00]: I talk about having people who can push you and you're about to quit on this.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I stuck with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Train to them again and again, same thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: And listen, I talk about inspired action, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: I talk about how things that you really want to do aren't hard work.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're actually inspired action.
[SPEAKER_00]: I go deep into that in episode, one hundred fifty five.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want to check that one out one five five, but it doesn't always feel like inspired action.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I'm like,
[SPEAKER_00]: Often in puffin' and bloats, not rockets, and struggling to breathe.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it was miserable.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it was dark.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like I said, my flashlight, my head lamp was not bright.
[SPEAKER_00]: It just sucked.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that's part of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to do this Spartan race.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to succeed in it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's how it goes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to grow?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's where I'd ask myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to grow?
[SPEAKER_00]: But you also wanted to be comfortable?
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, you can't have both.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's normal not to have the motivation sometimes.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's normal for my friend who doesn't want to wake up early, like neither do I, but I'm willing to go through that suffering, that pain and suffering to get there, to get to the feeling that feels good later.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not glamorous, like I said, you know, the pain is going to be there, but it's going to end.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be an end to the workout or end of the day or end of the year, end of the season, end of the decade, whatever it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you've got to get through?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to come to an end.
[SPEAKER_00]: And along the way, there's going to be respite, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be laughter or sleep or or a full belly, you know, thinking about if you're like dieting or going through some hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be, you know, that warm cup of coffee on a cold morning, whatever, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: He did steering wheels.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you have a heating steering wheel, like there's going to be that respite, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And for me, you know, the respite came when, you know, the workout was over.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or if we hit a downhill, actually he ran fast down hills to that kind of sucked.
[SPEAKER_00]: but there was respite along the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I knew it's just a matter of minutes before this is over.
[SPEAKER_00]: So let me give you another recent example of welcoming pain and discomfort to get to a meaningful life and to accomplish something meaningful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Back when I did this TEDx talk back in two thousand fourteen in November of fourteen, it spawned eventually this podcast and my coaching curriculum and my speaking career.
[SPEAKER_00]: And over the years I built this business and
[SPEAKER_00]: Almost nobody knew of the pain and suffering, the pain and discomfort that I had to go through, that I chose, I didn't have to, I got to, I got to go through, I chose to go through, in order to build this business.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, people say, ah, you're just good at coaching, Jim, you're good at speaking.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I worked at it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've mentors and coaches.
[SPEAKER_00]: I pay a lot of money to a lot of different coaches to learn how to get better at this.
[SPEAKER_00]: To read a lot of books.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did a lot of studying.
[SPEAKER_00]: I invested in this.
[SPEAKER_00]: I invested in myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I invested in you.
[SPEAKER_00]: The listener, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: You're benefiting from it too.
[SPEAKER_00]: And all my clients are betting funding from it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And all the people who they impact
[SPEAKER_00]: I've been a fitting from it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I had to invest.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had to go through pain and discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had to wake up early.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lunch break.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, I'm recording podcasts.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing coaching sessions.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, I fit it in every little nook and cranny.
[SPEAKER_00]: I fit this business.
[SPEAKER_00]: This, in anything to be productive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had no downtime.
[SPEAKER_00]: And guess what?
[SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't complain.
[SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't go home to Ali and say, hey, this sucks.
[SPEAKER_00]: And because she'd say, well, stop doing it, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: So it was my choice.
[SPEAKER_00]: I chose it, but I knew why I had this vision for something greater, something greater for me, something greater for my family, something greater for the world.
[SPEAKER_00]: What about you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you have some pain and discomfort that you're avoiding right now?
[SPEAKER_00]: I do, we all do.
[SPEAKER_00]: I look back at Mark McLaughlin.
[SPEAKER_00]: He was up so, two, twenty three, two, two, three.
[SPEAKER_00]: Mark McLaughlin wrote a book called a cognitive dominance, a brain surgeon's quest to outthink fear, fascinating read, fascinating individual.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've been coaching this guy for, I don't know, three years now.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I walked with him through this effort for him to write this book.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's an amazing book.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not just a book.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some people just crank out books.
[SPEAKER_00]: He says, it's a really well-written book.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, he really invested in himself.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it was hard, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: This guy's a freaking neurosurgeon.
[SPEAKER_00]: He founded the practice.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's a speaker.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's a youth wrestling coach.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's a philanthropist.
[SPEAKER_00]: This guy is busy and he put running a book on top of that.
[SPEAKER_00]: pain and discomfort in order to achieve something meaningful.
[SPEAKER_00]: I look back at other examples in my own life, like, the sport of wrestling itself, or any of people out there will be listeners who have wrestled before you know.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's suffering.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not a game, you don't play.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not that fun, but it's very rewarding.
[SPEAKER_00]: To the point where I actually chose
[SPEAKER_00]: There's twenty two pounds over one time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I chose to lose twenty two pounds and two and a half days to make weight.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to absurd story and you know, I've talked about it a little bit before and you know, if you've never experienced losing water weight like that, you may not believe me and then I get it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it was a massive, massive amount of suffering that I put myself through.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I know others who have gone through worse in terms of cutting weight to make weight and those rules have changed.
[SPEAKER_00]: They couldn't us.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I chose that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I chose no summer vacations when I was growing up as a kid and all my friends going on having fun and remembering my family went to Merrill Beach and I chose to go wrestle out in Fargo, North Dakota at the National Championship and put myself through pain and discomfort at the Pennsylvania National Team Camp.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, misery, misery, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I remember I used to skate.
[SPEAKER_00]: Skateboard when I was growing up had a half pipe in my yard and just had launch ramp and had a bunch of cool stuff, you know, but didn't get to use it all that much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I remember my buddies were always going to these skateboarding demos and I never went to a single one.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I always so jealous, man, I'm like, I want to go with those guys.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I had something bigger in mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: And thank goodness because it opened the door for me to go to a great school like the University of Virginia.
[SPEAKER_00]: Change my life, change my life.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I have a fear of heights, but I have chosen to go bungee jumping.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've chosen to jump out of perfectly good airplanes more than once.
[SPEAKER_00]: I rock climb like I choose this stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: My fear, but I choose it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I welcome the pain discomfort so I can have a meaningful experience.
[SPEAKER_00]: You think about moms who have babies.
[SPEAKER_00]: Gosh, we have four of those little things.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they're not babies anymore.
[SPEAKER_00]: But, you know, once you have one, you go wholly macro.
[SPEAKER_00]: The pain, you know, never felt it, of course, but man, watching my wife go through that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then just even, you know, the early days of having a baby in the sleepless nights and wholly macro, you wonder like, how does somebody ever have a second child?
[SPEAKER_00]: You literally think that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I remember thinking at my wife and I alley and I both thought it, but it goes away and you kind of say, okay, I'm willing to go through that pain and discomfort again to have a meaningful experience, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And low and behold, four kids later, we've had a bunch of those meaningful experiences.
[SPEAKER_00]: but it requires pain and discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you want to look back on any episodes, I've talked to a lot of other people who have gone through pain and discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've talked a lot about that on these episodes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Listen to any of my Navy's steel episodes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, list them off right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Also have these in the action plan.
[SPEAKER_00]: And matter of fact, you can go to gymharsherjourner.com slash seals, SALS, and you can get all these episodes.
[SPEAKER_00]: So gymharsherjourner.com slash seals.
[SPEAKER_00]: They are also, I'll just give you the episode numbers if you want to check them out.
[SPEAKER_00]: Episode forty five, episode one, three, two, episode one, six, three, one, six, six, and one, seven, four.
[SPEAKER_00]: Again, just Jim Harshard Jr.com slash seals.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can get access to all four of those.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I urge you to get the action plan from those two.
[SPEAKER_00]: You just go to Jim Harshard Jr.com slash action.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have all these links in the action plan.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you can just download all the links.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you can get all the links to those episodes.
[SPEAKER_00]: a good if you know the one Charlie angle episode two hundred thirteen so not that long ago this guy suffered across thousands of miles of desert four thousand five hundred miles of running across the Sahara desert I mean talk about a pain discomfort to have a meaningful experience for him just just climbing out of the pit of drug addiction
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm used to found by a cop passed out in his car just totally wasted on drugs.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's where he started.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that was pain discomfort in itself.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the pain and discomfort of he talks about it in the episode just running that first mile that first two miles.
[SPEAKER_00]: He had no idea who was going to be, you know, setting off to run four thousand five hundred miles.
[SPEAKER_00]: He was just putting one foot in front of another.
[SPEAKER_00]: under a calic episode two zero five this guy passed out he was hanging out with somebody's got drunk somehow got separated from them passed out
[SPEAKER_00]: on train tracks, subway tracks, woke up in the hospital and his legs were gone.
[SPEAKER_00]: He got run over by a train, amputated because his legs cut off by the train.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this guy think about the pain, discomfort he had to go through.
[SPEAKER_00]: So then he starts going, you know, becoming an endurance athlete and he's got all these world records.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, this guy's a world class athlete.
[SPEAKER_00]: Pain and discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to go through pain and discomfort?
[SPEAKER_00]: Brian Balland, gosh, this is just friend of mine.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's the former head men's tennis coach at the University of Virginia.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's now a Baylor, but episode one, four one.
[SPEAKER_00]: This guy talks about suffering through failures to eventually win the National Championship.
[SPEAKER_00]: This guy came so close.
[SPEAKER_00]: This team came so close several times.
[SPEAKER_00]: They could taste the natural championship, but they failed.
[SPEAKER_00]: He had to go through that pain and discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's part of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's part of your journey.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're going to aim high, guess what?
[SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're going to aim high, there will be pain.
[SPEAKER_00]: There will be discomfort.
[SPEAKER_00]: There will be failures, and there will be setbacks.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's worth it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I promise this is inspired action.
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, if you want to learn more about inspired action, go to episode one, fifty five, or just download the action plan.
[SPEAKER_00]: Go to jemarshajuner.com slash action, grab the action plan for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that's what it requires.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so how do you welcome this?
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to give you a little bit of how to.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to just talk about, yeah, make yourself suffer and in great things will happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: How do we do this?
[SPEAKER_00]: How do we go about setting meaningful goals?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because you're saying, okay, GM, I'm in.
[SPEAKER_00]: I get it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But how do you make sure it's meaningful as opposed to just, okay, I'm gonna go do something that sucks.
[SPEAKER_00]: We have to identify something that you want.
[SPEAKER_00]: And not just something that you want, but the why behind it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll be honest, it's hard to do that on your own.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've gotta get outside of your own head.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've gotta do the work.
[SPEAKER_00]: The first thing we start with when I work with my clients is core values.
[SPEAKER_00]: We go backwards before we go forward.
[SPEAKER_00]: What is that meaningful thing that you want?
[SPEAKER_00]: The job, the lifestyle, the target way, the relationship, the accomplishment, the achievement, the metal, whatever it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: What is it?
[SPEAKER_00]: Why is it meaningful?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's number one I'm going to give you four.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why is it meaningful to you?
[SPEAKER_00]: By the way, if you want to do that work with me, you can always sign up for a call with me, for starters.
[SPEAKER_00]: Jim Marshall, junior.com slash apply.
[SPEAKER_00]: We can have this conversation, but that's number one.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number two, welcome accountability.
[SPEAKER_00]: I told you about my neighbor Jeff.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, he helped me accountable.
[SPEAKER_00]: It sucked, but it was worth it.
[SPEAKER_00]: By the way, I finished seventh in my age group.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was pretty stoked about that in the Spartan race out of fifty, seven or fifty, sixty or something like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it was worth it, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be emotional.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're thinking you're wrestling with that demon inside you right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, maybe I kind of want to.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I don't want to.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to tell other people.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to join that group or sign up or make that commitment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if I do, then other people are going to hold me accountable.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I might just want it back off for a little bit.
[SPEAKER_00]: I might want to just like, a little quit part way long.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I might want to kind of take the easy route.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to do it with accountability.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's your choice.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you know, it works.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it works.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want that thing, welcome the accountability.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number three, commit to something hard, commit to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, make the commitment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't just say, yeah, maybe it maybe I'll do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I make the commitment.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will blank sign up for the race, submit the job application, have the hard conversation that you have to have, commit to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You will be amazed at what you are capable of if you commit
[SPEAKER_00]: You're holding yourself back by not committing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I promise you, I promise you, there's more inside of you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to find out what that more is unless you commit to something hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: And yeah, listen, you may commit to something hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: And as you go down the path, as you go down that track toward that thing, you go way to second.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is an exactly the right thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's actually, you know, one or two or three or five degrees over this direction.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to figure out what that adjustment is that you have to make until you take off.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's the cliche story of, you know, I don't even know exact quote is, but pilots and airlines, airlines are, they're off course like ninety-nine percent of the time, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: They're constantly course correcting.
[SPEAKER_00]: But guess what?
[SPEAKER_00]: You can't get to that destination unless you take off.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to make the commitment.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to take off.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to fly from Pittsburgh to Los Angeles.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can't get there and make those mistakes and have to course correct unless you take off.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you fill the gas tanks, you start the engines, you get everybody on board the stink of plane, and you freaking take off.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then you go, oh, wait a second.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're kind of off course here.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's course correct.
[SPEAKER_00]: And guess what?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's your airplane.
[SPEAKER_00]: You get to decide if you say, man, I don't want to fly to LA.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, I'm going to fly to Spokane.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to fly to Atlanta or Dallas.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to go wherever I go.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can't make that decision unless you take off.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can make the adjustment near, maybe it's one degree, maybe it's five, maybe it's sixty degrees, ninety degrees.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's okay, but commit, commit to taking action.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, now here's the last one, fourth and finally, reward yourself, reward yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whenever you have accomplishments along the way, reward yourself, find little ways to celebrate.
[SPEAKER_00]: give yourself a chance to celebrate and to recognize your victories.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you don't, you don't really have those small benchmarks, those small metrics to hit that are worth celebrating.
[SPEAKER_00]: I should remember we know when I was building this business, once the revenue started coming, the idea was just keep stocking it away until you finally get to the point where you can go full time.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it was like, wait a second, let's celebrate, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: We took money out of the business, took the whole family.
[SPEAKER_00]: We went to Mexico.
[SPEAKER_00]: We went on a week long amazing, you know, lifelong memory, you know, vacation to Mexico.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it was awesome.
[SPEAKER_00]: We celebrated.
[SPEAKER_00]: We celebrated these victories.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so you can't do and you should too.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I hope that helps, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it's a little bit of tough love.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know, pain discomfort, pain of suffering.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not fun, but it's Joe DeSena said back when I interviewed him in episode number twenty seven.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's the founder of Spartan races.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said if you take everything away in your flooding for milk every day, then you could just be happy eating a cracker in the rain.
[SPEAKER_00]: He did this.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's talking about happiness.
[SPEAKER_00]: He said always knew that happiness was not an absolute.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was relevant.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's really easy to make yourself happy by making yourself uncomfortable and then going back to comfortable.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's hard to make yourself happy if you're constantly raising the bar.
[SPEAKER_00]: First, you get a new car, then you get a new expensive gold watch, and then you need a new house, the ability to make yourself happier diminishes.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if you take everything away and you're fighting for milk every day, then you could just be happy eating a cracker on the rain.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, enough said, man, that's a great way to wrap up this episode.