WEBVTT 00:00.419 --> 00:01.660 [SPEAKER_00]: in the last one hundred years. 00:03.381 --> 00:07.723 [SPEAKER_00]: So many things have changed globally. 00:08.964 --> 00:13.306 [SPEAKER_00]: So many things have developed at an exponential rate. 00:13.646 --> 00:18.168 [SPEAKER_00]: So many things have devolved as well, mainly from a holochemoral perspective. 00:20.170 --> 00:26.433 [SPEAKER_00]: And perhaps nothing has evolved as fast as the means of communication. 00:28.505 --> 00:36.946 [SPEAKER_00]: If we go through a quick breakdown of what communication was like since antiquity, in the beginning it was largely an oral transmission. 00:38.027 --> 00:43.928 [SPEAKER_00]: People saying something, hearing it, memorizing it, and then passing it onto others. 00:45.788 --> 00:55.890 [SPEAKER_00]: Then this would gradually develop, and people would start engraving things on stone tablets, and then stone became bones, 00:57.412 --> 01:00.515 [SPEAKER_00]: bones became leather patchments that they would write on. 01:01.896 --> 01:14.045 [SPEAKER_00]: And then there was leather patchments became scrolls of sophisticated paper and communication was growing and becoming more effective and more detailed. 01:16.547 --> 01:22.132 [SPEAKER_00]: And then things began to evolve yet further and now there was the invention of what they call the homing pigeons. 01:23.147 --> 01:29.291 [SPEAKER_00]: giving a pigeon or training badge to take a message and to transfer it from country to country. 01:31.752 --> 01:40.718 [SPEAKER_00]: And then human messengers would also take messages transferring it from person to person country to country, continent to continent, on foot or on horseback. 01:42.698 --> 01:48.859 [SPEAKER_00]: They would also develop the technique or the technology of relay stations using fire to communicate messages. 01:49.379 --> 02:00.061 [SPEAKER_00]: So one station would light up with fire, which would ignite another station, which would ignite another station, and a message is communicated from country to country, or province to province. 02:02.801 --> 02:12.003 [SPEAKER_00]: The biggest shift in communication, however, was around, you can see in the early parts of the nineteen nineties 02:13.482 --> 02:29.485 [SPEAKER_00]: When commercial internet service providers emerged, an internet had become a household product for everyone to use to communicate for the first time in human history at the speed of light. 02:31.566 --> 02:35.967 [SPEAKER_00]: So the post office had happened, the newspaper had happened, magazines were printed, 02:36.887 --> 02:37.748 [SPEAKER_00]: This was in Europe. 02:38.308 --> 02:46.414 [SPEAKER_00]: Now you have communication at the speed of light from Europe to China within a fraction of a second. 02:48.555 --> 02:59.043 [SPEAKER_00]: Then we fast forward to around two thousand and four, where you had a gentleman, Harvard University student at the time. 03:00.224 --> 03:05.948 [SPEAKER_00]: By the name of Mark Zuckerberg, who 03:07.420 --> 03:10.723 [SPEAKER_00]: developed the first social media platform known as Facebook. 03:12.004 --> 03:18.389 [SPEAKER_00]: And the intention of Facebook was just to be used by other fellow students at his university at Harvard in America. 03:19.890 --> 03:21.672 [SPEAKER_00]: And everyone in the university started using it. 03:21.712 --> 03:23.593 [SPEAKER_00]: It just exploded in popularity. 03:24.354 --> 03:28.577 [SPEAKER_00]: Then most of the universities in Boston started to use it. 03:29.358 --> 03:35.263 [SPEAKER_00]: And within just two years, in two thousand and six, the whole globe 03:36.554 --> 03:44.502 [SPEAKER_00]: was familiar with this product called Facebook, with hundreds of millions of subscribers. 03:46.504 --> 03:57.534 [SPEAKER_00]: And then since then, you had the likes of LinkedIn and my space, of course, Twitter and Instagram, more recently TikTok, 03:58.521 --> 04:02.885 [SPEAKER_00]: And soon, this very lecture, whoever watches it on the video will become outdated. 04:02.945 --> 04:03.745 [SPEAKER_00]: It'll be out of date. 04:04.066 --> 04:06.307 [SPEAKER_00]: It loses shelf life because we stopped that take talk. 04:06.327 --> 04:10.331 [SPEAKER_00]: There's going to be a whole range of other social media platforms that we haven't listed. 04:10.771 --> 04:12.652 [SPEAKER_00]: Things are still evolving. 04:14.214 --> 04:25.463 [SPEAKER_00]: What is interesting, dear brothers and sisters, is that I want to be profits Allah wa alayhi wa sallam predicted that there will be towards the end of time a change in the way that people communicate. 04:27.188 --> 04:30.770 [SPEAKER_00]: He said in the Hadith which Ahman narrates on the authority of Abu Sayyidin al-Qudri. 04:31.371 --> 04:33.892 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, well, that in F.C. 04:33.912 --> 04:34.013 [SPEAKER_00]: B.B. 04:34.073 --> 04:45.600 [SPEAKER_00]: Adi Hila, Taqou, M.S.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A. 04:54.006 --> 05:00.669 [SPEAKER_00]: until a day comes when man will be speaking to wild creatures. 05:02.570 --> 05:08.372 [SPEAKER_00]: And the day will come when man will speak into the tip of his whip. 05:24.952 --> 05:29.454 [SPEAKER_00]: and will speak to the shoelace of his sandal, the lace of his sandal. 05:30.354 --> 05:37.477 [SPEAKER_00]: And his thigh will tell him about what his family were getting up to since he left them. 05:38.397 --> 05:39.457 [SPEAKER_00]: What does this mean? 05:39.938 --> 05:43.179 [SPEAKER_00]: Is this in reference to mobile phone technology Allah knows best? 05:44.239 --> 05:48.441 [SPEAKER_00]: The point is that he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prophesies that there's going to be what? 05:49.161 --> 05:51.562 [SPEAKER_00]: A changing communication. 05:53.231 --> 06:10.970 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, without doubt, and it goes without saying, social media has brought with it so much good, from an Islamic perspective, the ability to advertise a talk like this, record it, publish it, share it, allowing people from the corners of the globe to benefit from it. 06:13.015 --> 06:21.940 [SPEAKER_00]: The countless brothers and sisters who spend their evenings thinking about how to carefully craft that next Islamic reminder to help people find their way back to their religion. 06:22.360 --> 06:25.962 [SPEAKER_00]: The origins of people who found their way to Islam through social media. 06:26.762 --> 06:31.164 [SPEAKER_00]: Quran, that is recited, hadith, that is promoted, misinformation, that is corrected. 06:31.344 --> 06:32.405 [SPEAKER_00]: La ilaha illallah. 06:32.525 --> 06:33.285 [SPEAKER_00]: So much hair. 06:35.806 --> 06:42.290 [SPEAKER_00]: And when someone does a good because of something new post, expect the same reward without any of their reward detracting. 06:43.221 --> 06:51.246 [SPEAKER_00]: That's brought with it opportunities, not just from an Islamic perspective, from a non-Muslim secular perspective, a business perspective, career perspective. 06:52.587 --> 07:02.073 [SPEAKER_00]: LinkedIn, to know the other fellow professionals out there, to know your tribesmen, to know your family, to communicate with people in filistine, or in Yemen, or Pakistan, Somalia. 07:02.353 --> 07:05.315 [SPEAKER_00]: It helps you discover who your cousins are, your aunties are, your greats are. 07:07.143 --> 07:10.144 [SPEAKER_00]: Those who want to further their career, climb up the ladder, the corporate ladder. 07:10.364 --> 07:12.885 [SPEAKER_00]: It helps you do that by a lot of Han Talisman mission. 07:15.066 --> 07:15.926 [SPEAKER_00]: Someone in Sylvain. 07:17.146 --> 07:28.590 [SPEAKER_00]: That's on one side of the spectrum, but on the other side of the spectrum, it has also brought with it a heap full of harms on the adults and on the children as well, social media. 07:29.171 --> 07:35.653 [SPEAKER_00]: Although this is not the focus of this particular talk, but what are some of these harms to list just a few? 07:38.410 --> 07:43.596 [SPEAKER_00]: A person's nightlife is quite ruined if you become obsessively addictive with social media. 07:44.236 --> 07:46.319 [SPEAKER_00]: You can't sleep a proper full night anymore. 07:47.520 --> 07:52.926 [SPEAKER_00]: These blue light emissions that you are absorbing all of the time, it affects your sleep rhythms. 07:53.965 --> 08:09.720 [SPEAKER_00]: And then if you add to that that obsessive twitch to quickly remove the fly mode from your phone and to check your latest notification and then you get that next hit of dopamine and adrenaline and now you're awake and you can't sleep and it becomes even shorter of a night. 08:10.861 --> 08:16.707 [SPEAKER_00]: So you're knackered in the night you can't sleep and by day you're knackered because you haven't slept and then your whole life becomes a misery. 08:18.160 --> 08:23.684 [SPEAKER_00]: That's one thing, a second thing, think about your ability to be alone with Allah, alone with yourself. 08:24.084 --> 08:25.945 [SPEAKER_00]: Young boys, young girls can't do that anymore. 08:27.507 --> 08:32.070 [SPEAKER_00]: Because social media has, for the most part, remove that ability from us. 08:33.211 --> 08:42.717 [SPEAKER_00]: Because every opportunity that you're not speaking to someone or working or doing something, it's an opportunity to put your head in your pocket and to see what's going on on the other side of the world. 08:43.117 --> 08:44.819 [SPEAKER_00]: So you have no time for yourself. 08:45.977 --> 08:51.798 [SPEAKER_00]: So with the passage of five, ten, fifteen years, you lose the ability of finding contentment with just being alone. 08:54.059 --> 08:56.820 [SPEAKER_00]: To sit in Khalwa, I will see you with Allah. 08:57.120 --> 08:59.180 [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of us can't do that, especially the young generation. 09:00.621 --> 09:05.662 [SPEAKER_00]: Because you're looking inwardly, or you're looking outwardly all of the time, outwardly outwardly outwardly outwardly. 09:05.722 --> 09:09.843 [SPEAKER_00]: And then when you're set alone, you're looking outwardly into what the world is doing. 09:10.840 --> 09:15.663 [SPEAKER_00]: you are unable to sit and to think inwardly for a moment about your loads of Hannah or Tallah. 09:15.703 --> 09:16.964 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is an issue. 09:18.045 --> 09:27.050 [SPEAKER_00]: One of the greatest ways of boosting Eman is learning how to sit alone without a phone, without a friend, without the apparent for a moment in your day or night. 09:28.491 --> 09:30.712 [SPEAKER_00]: And for many of us, we can't do that anymore. 09:32.894 --> 09:37.056 [SPEAKER_00]: Because we feel that there's value in us that's missing, so we try to find that value elsewhere. 09:38.137 --> 09:39.418 [SPEAKER_00]: That's number two, number three. 09:41.361 --> 09:51.227 [SPEAKER_00]: There's heaps of evidence now to prove beyond fact that some of the loneliness sadists most depressed and anxious people on planet earth are those who use their phones or social media specifically most. 09:52.428 --> 10:00.773 [SPEAKER_00]: It's interesting, you think that the more friends you had online, the less lonely you feel, that's not the situation, that's not the science at all actually. 10:02.214 --> 10:11.020 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like the more chocolate you have in an eye on in the superb supermarket, does not help you curb your desire for chocolate anymore than an eye on that has fewer chocolates. 10:13.014 --> 10:13.414 [SPEAKER_00]: Lonely. 10:14.634 --> 10:14.935 [SPEAKER_00]: Why? 10:15.015 --> 10:24.177 [SPEAKER_00]: Because you are constantly comparing your life, your miserable or boring life that doesn't have vacations, doesn't have business, doesn't have the latest Jordans. 10:24.397 --> 10:30.439 [SPEAKER_00]: You're comparing your life to the highlight reel of your neighbor, to the highlight reel of someone in Australia. 10:32.420 --> 10:34.960 [SPEAKER_00]: And they've removed all of the blemishes and the flows of their day. 10:35.361 --> 10:36.261 [SPEAKER_00]: So they feel lonely. 10:37.061 --> 10:38.681 [SPEAKER_00]: So she'll immediately use if you're isolated. 10:39.142 --> 10:40.242 [SPEAKER_00]: They feel inadequate. 10:42.182 --> 10:42.923 [SPEAKER_00]: That's number three. 10:43.844 --> 11:01.100 [SPEAKER_00]: Number four, look at how social media has for many people made them completely socially incompetent, especially maybe the younger generation, Gen Z. They can't hold a long and deep and meaningful conversation with you looking at your eye to eye, that's gone. 11:02.344 --> 11:20.550 [SPEAKER_00]: because over the passage of years when you're obsessively using social media, what happens, your mind now is hard-wired and short-circuited to only be able to deal with short comments, LOLs, thumbs up, likes, hashtags, shares, and you lose the ability to become an interpersonal human being. 11:21.190 --> 11:22.110 [SPEAKER_00]: You can't do it anymore. 11:24.251 --> 11:31.493 [SPEAKER_00]: So social media teaches you that if there's a problem in your relationships, don't worry, you can just get out of it, just click the blog button, end of story. 11:32.918 --> 11:34.179 [SPEAKER_00]: Does that represent reality? 11:35.320 --> 11:37.381 [SPEAKER_00]: Reality is far more sophisticated than that. 11:38.222 --> 11:55.614 [SPEAKER_00]: Far more messy, far more entangled, far more intertwined, you've got to be intelligent, you've got to be socially smart, you've got to look at people, you've got to talk with them, you've got to know how to deal with difficult circumstances, show social media says to you that this is an image that you gave over, you impress over, you share, you comment, you like, and that's it. 11:56.214 --> 11:59.637 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't teach you to look at a woman, for example, as a mother. 12:02.142 --> 12:06.865 [SPEAKER_00]: or as a neighbor, it doesn't train you, it doesn't give you those tools. 12:07.545 --> 12:11.208 [SPEAKER_00]: It strips you of them, so you left socially incompetent. 12:12.288 --> 12:14.530 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you feel that, I have felt that. 12:14.990 --> 12:21.354 [SPEAKER_00]: And I've experienced as some of you have the generation or the era before social media and after social media, I can tell you, I'm not the same person. 12:22.614 --> 12:24.656 [SPEAKER_00]: And Alhamdulillah, I'm taking a break at this moment in time. 12:24.716 --> 12:26.497 [SPEAKER_00]: It's been about a year and a half, I'm fasting. 12:27.667 --> 12:28.848 [SPEAKER_00]: trying to give myself a break. 12:29.729 --> 12:31.470 [SPEAKER_00]: And I have seen the effects of the detox. 12:32.151 --> 12:35.433 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how long it's going to last, but it's been phenomenal. 12:36.614 --> 12:37.455 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's another thing. 12:38.716 --> 12:39.556 [SPEAKER_00]: The element of what? 12:40.977 --> 12:41.818 [SPEAKER_00]: The element of what, brothers? 12:42.739 --> 12:43.780 [SPEAKER_00]: What were we just talking about? 12:47.983 --> 12:48.683 [SPEAKER_00]: How it makes people? 12:48.703 --> 12:50.505 [SPEAKER_00]: So she didn't incompetent. 12:51.498 --> 12:52.658 [SPEAKER_00]: Add to the list another point. 12:53.158 --> 13:01.480 [SPEAKER_00]: This is your number five and that is, look at how social media, with time and with obsession, with addiction, it can infantilize your mind. 13:02.520 --> 13:06.761 [SPEAKER_00]: It can make your brain like the brain of an infant, a child. 13:08.701 --> 13:09.921 [SPEAKER_00]: What do children love the most? 13:11.601 --> 13:14.542 [SPEAKER_00]: Flashing lights and buzzing sounds. 13:15.782 --> 13:18.863 [SPEAKER_00]: What does social media train you to love the most? 13:20.183 --> 13:20.783 [SPEAKER_00]: Flashing lights? 13:21.748 --> 13:22.408 [SPEAKER_00]: buzzing sounds. 13:22.548 --> 13:25.729 [SPEAKER_00]: They just call them more sophisticated terms like notifications. 13:27.630 --> 13:35.773 [SPEAKER_00]: And then look at the tantrum that the child kicks up when he or she, they had their desires not met there and then instant gratification. 13:36.053 --> 13:36.493 [SPEAKER_00]: Why not? 13:36.613 --> 13:38.374 [SPEAKER_00]: It's now the child kicks up a fuss. 13:38.774 --> 13:39.754 [SPEAKER_00]: They can't, they're not patient. 13:39.894 --> 13:40.594 [SPEAKER_00]: They're not resilient. 13:40.614 --> 13:41.955 [SPEAKER_00]: They're just weak stuff now. 13:43.315 --> 13:51.318 [SPEAKER_00]: And the uses of social media, whatever they become, like a child, living off of the next dopamine hit, like an addict. 13:52.250 --> 13:56.553 [SPEAKER_00]: Living, waiting for the next notification to feel that you're validated by society. 13:56.714 --> 13:58.415 [SPEAKER_00]: Otherwise, you don't feel that buzz that hit. 13:59.736 --> 14:06.541 [SPEAKER_00]: Looking for instant gratification, we become childlike with scattered attention, or unable to focus. 14:06.561 --> 14:10.484 [SPEAKER_00]: You pick up a book, you read half a page, and then you have that you're earning to see what's going on on you. 14:10.805 --> 14:12.626 [SPEAKER_00]: On your socials, but your phone hasn't even gone off. 14:12.686 --> 14:14.567 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a phantom notification they call it. 14:14.968 --> 14:17.270 [SPEAKER_00]: You feel that your phone has gone off, but it hasn't gone off. 14:17.310 --> 14:18.290 [SPEAKER_00]: It's an imagination. 14:18.911 --> 14:21.113 [SPEAKER_00]: Because the wire, the brain has been rewired. 14:22.113 --> 14:36.045 [SPEAKER_00]: So the human being becomes childlike, living off instant gratification, tantrums when you don't get the way you want, distracted, anxious, all over the place, and unable to carry out a meaningful task. 14:37.907 --> 14:40.369 [SPEAKER_00]: So this is putting social media in the balance. 14:41.730 --> 14:48.837 [SPEAKER_00]: Therefore, brothers and sisters, anything, take it as a rule that causes so much change in society, 14:50.513 --> 14:54.997 [SPEAKER_00]: anything that is adopted by most of humanity requires attention from us. 14:56.138 --> 15:01.061 [SPEAKER_00]: And to minimally dedicate to it, a talk like this or a series as we have done before, another message. 15:02.563 --> 15:07.727 [SPEAKER_00]: So I want to share with you a home test kit. 15:08.467 --> 15:14.212 [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to go home this evening in shallow, rather than sisters with a home test kit, you can take with you to your house. 15:15.493 --> 15:19.036 [SPEAKER_00]: And you have seven parts that make up this home test kit. 15:20.012 --> 15:20.832 [SPEAKER_00]: You test yourself. 15:22.673 --> 15:30.154 [SPEAKER_00]: If you find that you fail this criteria of seven points, I'm going to share with you, then realize that you're testing positive. 15:31.194 --> 15:37.375 [SPEAKER_00]: For social media addiction, and therefore there is a huge reshuffling that you've got to make in your life. 15:39.936 --> 15:47.457 [SPEAKER_00]: Seven milestones, seven litmus tests, I want you to think about, and you then decide whether social media is the best thing for you or not. 15:47.738 --> 15:49.618 [SPEAKER_00]: People will come with different answers at the end of this. 15:50.606 --> 15:51.166 [SPEAKER_00]: Take note of it. 15:53.327 --> 15:57.529 [SPEAKER_00]: Number one, the element of gender interactions. 15:58.649 --> 16:03.952 [SPEAKER_00]: Boys and girls, talking communicating befriending on another on social media. 16:04.032 --> 16:05.932 [SPEAKER_00]: This is the first point we'd like to speak about. 16:09.094 --> 16:12.255 [SPEAKER_00]: Can boys and friends, the boys and girls just be friends? 16:14.976 --> 16:16.377 [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of Hanoatella, he said, 16:17.569 --> 16:25.292 [SPEAKER_00]: wa j'an na boud'aqum li boud'in, fi'nah, atasbirun, we have made you a fitna for one another Allah said, will you be patient? 16:27.914 --> 16:35.837 [SPEAKER_00]: Undoubtedly, communication did exist between the men and the women from the companions of the Prophet Muhammad, sallallahu alaihi sallallahu alaihi sallam, no one can challenge that. 16:36.117 --> 16:36.778 [SPEAKER_00]: They did speak. 16:37.858 --> 16:38.679 [SPEAKER_00]: But what type of speak? 16:39.279 --> 16:40.059 [SPEAKER_00]: What type of speech? 16:41.840 --> 16:43.361 [SPEAKER_00]: It was a speech that was 16:44.895 --> 16:54.981 [SPEAKER_00]: shadowed with umbrellas of decency, adab, and mannerisms, and respect, and take note of this one, necessity. 16:56.362 --> 16:58.263 [SPEAKER_00]: That was their communication with one another. 16:59.144 --> 17:03.526 [SPEAKER_00]: Adab, mannerisms, respect, decency, and necessity. 17:03.586 --> 17:04.427 [SPEAKER_00]: That's how they spoke. 17:07.697 --> 17:16.880 [SPEAKER_00]: And there was this famous study that happened at the University of Wisconsin, with Wisconsin Eukler, where they took forty-four college-age students. 17:17.260 --> 17:26.863 [SPEAKER_00]: Some of them were single, others were in a relationship, and they paired them together, and they studied them over a period of about a year. 17:28.552 --> 17:32.995 [SPEAKER_00]: And these people were friends before, up to two years to eleven years of friendship. 17:33.155 --> 17:38.258 [SPEAKER_00]: Boys and girls, they put them together, and then they assessed, they gave them an interview afterwards. 17:38.598 --> 17:50.086 [SPEAKER_00]: And they found that men almost always had an attraction towards the girl, but the girl didn't always have an attraction towards the boy. 17:51.411 --> 17:58.995 [SPEAKER_00]: They found when they were interviewing them that the man consistently overestimated the relationship, thinking that something was going on. 17:59.416 --> 18:00.136 [SPEAKER_00]: There's interest. 18:01.337 --> 18:06.760 [SPEAKER_00]: And the women consistently underestimated the relationship saying there was nothing going on with just friends. 18:08.532 --> 18:15.477 [SPEAKER_00]: And now, Subhanallah with the whole MeToo movement, it's showing Islam as being morally superior yet again. 18:16.117 --> 18:26.805 [SPEAKER_00]: It was so wise when it said to you be careful, be careful how you speak to the opposite gender and how you interact and with social media, this opportunity has just mushroomed, it's just exploded. 18:28.086 --> 18:30.448 [SPEAKER_00]: Back in the days you wanted to talk with the girl you liked, 18:31.617 --> 18:40.702 [SPEAKER_00]: It was just, I guess, a piece of paper, you write the message in it, you make it into a paper airplane, and you launch it, and you hope you'll get into the window for her room, known to the laugh of her father, that is. 18:41.462 --> 18:46.085 [SPEAKER_00]: And in some of the stories that our elders shared with us prior to them practicing are hilarious. 18:47.185 --> 18:48.966 [SPEAKER_00]: Now you don't need no paper, aeroplane. 18:48.986 --> 18:51.587 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't need a ladder to climb into someone's room. 18:51.627 --> 18:54.129 [SPEAKER_00]: You just need an eleven-digit number, right? 18:54.549 --> 18:56.290 [SPEAKER_00]: Or you need the social media profile name. 18:56.530 --> 18:58.031 [SPEAKER_00]: You're into the bedroom of that person. 18:58.931 --> 19:00.052 [SPEAKER_00]: You telling me that's not a test. 19:02.745 --> 19:04.587 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a serious problem brothers and sisters. 19:05.888 --> 19:09.050 [SPEAKER_00]: So this is the first point I want you to think about and put yourself under the litmus test. 19:09.171 --> 19:11.392 [SPEAKER_00]: If you're failing this one, maybe you need to walk away. 19:13.354 --> 19:14.675 [SPEAKER_00]: And looks of Hanna La Salah. 19:15.116 --> 19:16.437 [SPEAKER_00]: What we did now is proof. 19:17.758 --> 19:19.199 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at the arrangement of Salah. 19:19.860 --> 19:21.441 [SPEAKER_00]: Look at the formation of Salah. 19:23.423 --> 19:28.727 [SPEAKER_00]: How was Salah at the time of the Prophet Muhammad, the last Muslim, where women and men they prayed in the same room? 19:28.847 --> 19:29.268 [SPEAKER_00]: But how? 19:30.990 --> 19:36.211 [SPEAKER_00]: We'll look Salat, the purest of all actions carried out by the companions, the purest of all people. 19:36.571 --> 19:41.433 [SPEAKER_00]: In Masjidu never, we wanted the purest of all places on earth, but look at the separation. 19:41.933 --> 19:45.514 [SPEAKER_00]: Because Islam is realistic, it's pragmatic, it don't throw you under the bus like that. 19:49.034 --> 19:50.615 [SPEAKER_00]: Imam is a man, never a woman. 19:51.475 --> 19:57.216 [SPEAKER_00]: There's bowing, there's frustration, there's compromising positions, there's also an element of leadership. 19:58.577 --> 19:59.237 [SPEAKER_00]: There is an Imam. 20:00.828 --> 20:03.349 [SPEAKER_00]: And then you have men who pray at the front, where do women pray? 20:04.669 --> 20:05.650 [SPEAKER_00]: Women, they pray at the back. 20:07.851 --> 20:11.072 [SPEAKER_00]: What are the greatest roles for men in terms of reward? 20:11.972 --> 20:13.813 [SPEAKER_00]: The front rows. 20:14.073 --> 20:16.534 [SPEAKER_00]: What are the most rewarding roles for our sisters? 20:17.814 --> 20:20.255 [SPEAKER_00]: The rows are furthest away from the back rows. 20:22.096 --> 20:29.719 [SPEAKER_00]: Then the Prophet ﷺ would say to the companions when they finish their solar, you don't turn around to your sisters, they get up and leave first. 20:31.234 --> 20:40.018 [SPEAKER_00]: and there was a door for them called Babu Nisa, the door of the women, and they would leave by themselves uninterrupted in a dignified manner, not having to push in shove with men. 20:41.238 --> 20:44.620 [SPEAKER_00]: He would say, you stay there, don't turn around until they leave. 20:45.540 --> 20:53.784 [SPEAKER_00]: This is in Sala'a, in Fulhejab, faces covered, and then the men would get up and they would leave. 20:54.404 --> 20:59.387 [SPEAKER_00]: So you're telling me that this is the arrangement in Sala'a, but all of a sudden on social media, what's going on, says DM me, 21:00.919 --> 21:02.019 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's not going to affect you. 21:02.040 --> 21:02.760 [SPEAKER_00]: This is OK. 21:05.261 --> 21:07.562 [SPEAKER_00]: If that was the case, our religion would be bipolar. 21:07.582 --> 21:08.482 [SPEAKER_00]: It would be a schizophrenic. 21:09.282 --> 21:11.083 [SPEAKER_00]: That it tells you that you do your salat like this. 21:11.263 --> 21:15.545 [SPEAKER_00]: But then outside of salat, when there is no holiness involved, everything is a free-for-all. 21:16.005 --> 21:16.665 [SPEAKER_00]: This is number one. 21:16.945 --> 21:18.106 [SPEAKER_00]: What was number one yet you hung here? 21:19.206 --> 21:20.687 [SPEAKER_00]: Gender, interactions. 21:21.027 --> 21:22.388 [SPEAKER_00]: Test yourself on that be honest. 21:22.808 --> 21:23.188 [SPEAKER_00]: Number two. 21:26.589 --> 21:28.030 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah Subhanu Taila's veil. 21:30.185 --> 21:31.686 [SPEAKER_00]: the veil of Allah Jalla Jalla. 21:31.806 --> 21:32.367 [SPEAKER_00]: What does that mean? 21:34.969 --> 21:39.872 [SPEAKER_00]: See, every one of us has a demon in his closet. 21:41.013 --> 21:47.878 [SPEAKER_00]: Every one of us, let's be honest, has a sin that he or she is battling a very difficult battle against. 21:48.499 --> 21:54.784 [SPEAKER_00]: Whether it's pertaining to dress or music or women or men or whatever it may be, we all have not individual battle, every one of us. 21:55.928 --> 22:00.391 [SPEAKER_00]: One thing is committing the sin and then weeping about it and seeing astaghfirullah. 22:00.731 --> 22:02.673 [SPEAKER_00]: And then doing it again because you're human. 22:03.553 --> 22:06.876 [SPEAKER_00]: But you say astaghfirullah and you don't forget, you don't forget, you don't give up. 22:07.256 --> 22:09.818 [SPEAKER_00]: This person is near the mercy of Allah. 22:10.678 --> 22:11.259 [SPEAKER_00]: That's one thing. 22:11.659 --> 22:16.602 [SPEAKER_00]: Another thing, however, is doing the sin and then showing the world, this is my sin. 22:17.303 --> 22:18.183 [SPEAKER_00]: This is what I'm getting up to. 22:19.864 --> 22:24.628 [SPEAKER_00]: As if to say, not only am I committing the sin, yeah Allah, I don't even care. 22:26.770 --> 22:38.514 [SPEAKER_00]: that then transforms the sin and hyperbolizes it and grind it, grind dies as it causes it to grow to a new level of severity and crime in the eyes of Allah. 22:38.794 --> 22:44.677 [SPEAKER_00]: Not because of the sin necessarily, but because of the mentality that approach their carelessness involved. 22:45.697 --> 22:47.638 [SPEAKER_00]: This is my sin and so what? 22:47.998 --> 22:49.658 [SPEAKER_00]: Let me show the world what I'm doing too. 22:50.058 --> 22:51.839 [SPEAKER_00]: This is called an Arabic word, the Quran. 22:53.240 --> 22:54.060 [SPEAKER_00]: What is the word for it? 22:55.538 --> 22:56.859 [SPEAKER_00]: Al-Mujahara, exactly. 22:57.579 --> 22:58.380 [SPEAKER_00]: Al-Mujahara. 22:59.180 --> 23:09.627 [SPEAKER_00]: There is a Hadith, which Bukhari al-Muslim narrate on your authority of Abu Hurairah, that he messenger, Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, said, Kullou un-Natim wa Afha illa al-Mujahirim. 23:11.928 --> 23:20.553 [SPEAKER_00]: Every member of my nation will have safety on the day of judgment except the people of Mujahara, those who publicly disclose their sins. 23:21.054 --> 23:22.355 [SPEAKER_00]: And then he explains alaihi sallam. 23:23.885 --> 23:39.078 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, Innamin al-Mujah, Harati, Anyam al-Rajul al-Billayli, Amalah, Wakad Bata, Yaasturuh, Rabbiuhu, Fayus Bihwa Yaqoonu, Yafulah, N'Aabil Tullbari, Hatakada, Wakad Bata, Yaasturuhu, Rabbiuhu, Yaqshifu, Sittar Allahi'an. 23:40.539 --> 23:45.743 [SPEAKER_00]: Every member of my nation will have safety on the day of judgment except the people who show off their sins. 23:46.616 --> 23:48.798 [SPEAKER_00]: And then he said, what this means is the following. 23:49.098 --> 23:54.403 [SPEAKER_00]: And man who commits a sin at night, and Allah covers him, Allah does not expose him. 23:56.725 --> 23:58.107 [SPEAKER_00]: And then he gets up the next day. 23:58.307 --> 24:01.870 [SPEAKER_00]: He says to the world, I committed last night, this and this, this and the other. 24:02.331 --> 24:03.552 [SPEAKER_00]: This is what I got up to last night. 24:04.292 --> 24:10.358 [SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet ﷺ said, that night Allah had covered him, but he then tears apart the veil of Allah. 24:13.478 --> 24:22.089 [SPEAKER_00]: So now with the advent of social media, it's easier than ever before to show the world your mistakes, your youngings, your sins. 24:23.331 --> 24:24.773 [SPEAKER_00]: Now keep that between you and Allah. 24:25.053 --> 24:26.575 [SPEAKER_00]: That sin is not to be celebrated. 24:27.637 --> 24:29.139 [SPEAKER_00]: That sin is to be wept about. 24:29.439 --> 24:30.821 [SPEAKER_00]: When you think about it, you cry. 24:31.790 --> 24:32.590 [SPEAKER_00]: Your heart breaks. 24:32.870 --> 24:33.751 [SPEAKER_00]: Why am I like this? 24:33.911 --> 24:35.031 [SPEAKER_00]: I shouldn't be this person. 24:35.552 --> 24:36.592 [SPEAKER_00]: When Allah is my Lord. 24:36.932 --> 24:38.033 [SPEAKER_00]: And He's lent me my limbs. 24:38.393 --> 24:39.253 [SPEAKER_00]: It's all unknown. 24:39.433 --> 24:40.534 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to have to return it. 24:40.754 --> 24:41.934 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be six feet under. 24:42.134 --> 24:43.555 [SPEAKER_00]: I have a resurrection ahead of me. 24:43.855 --> 24:44.936 [SPEAKER_00]: My life is getting shorter. 24:45.016 --> 24:45.676 [SPEAKER_00]: I see great hair. 24:45.776 --> 24:46.676 [SPEAKER_00]: Why am I still commit? 24:46.716 --> 24:47.717 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the type of tool. 24:47.757 --> 24:49.057 [SPEAKER_00]: That's the type of discourse that should be. 24:49.257 --> 24:52.139 [SPEAKER_00]: When a person commits a sin, let alone showing it to the world. 24:53.039 --> 24:54.440 [SPEAKER_00]: Ya Rasool Allah, Him and Naja. 24:54.800 --> 24:58.501 [SPEAKER_00]: A man said, oh, messenger of Allah, tell me about safety. 24:58.681 --> 24:59.702 [SPEAKER_00]: How do we reach safety? 25:01.065 --> 25:02.746 [SPEAKER_00]: He's said to him, I'm sick, I lay calisthenic. 25:03.366 --> 25:04.287 [SPEAKER_00]: Control what you say. 25:05.027 --> 25:08.689 [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, while he has the archape, you took, and your home should be enough for you. 25:09.329 --> 25:13.091 [SPEAKER_00]: Not in and out, in and out, like your home is some sort of better breakfast, never to be seen. 25:13.632 --> 25:16.013 [SPEAKER_00]: Your home should be sufficient for you, unless you need to go out. 25:16.313 --> 25:20.075 [SPEAKER_00]: Number three, and cry with Giala, actually, I take cry when you commit a sin. 25:21.376 --> 25:22.216 [SPEAKER_00]: Cry over your sins. 25:22.436 --> 25:23.637 [SPEAKER_00]: Not show the world your sins. 25:26.786 --> 25:27.506 [SPEAKER_00]: And who knows? 25:27.646 --> 25:28.327 [SPEAKER_00]: Who knows? 25:29.127 --> 25:39.511 [SPEAKER_00]: Who will be encouraged to do what when they see your post on your share or your hashtag or the image that you posted on your status or where you were last in the last twenty four hours? 25:39.751 --> 25:41.311 [SPEAKER_00]: Who knows who will be encouraged to do what? 25:41.971 --> 25:46.273 [SPEAKER_00]: One can't bear to think about the prospects of meeting Allah with His own sins. 25:46.533 --> 25:51.175 [SPEAKER_00]: Let alone carry the sins of others because of your encouragement, because of your post. 25:51.815 --> 25:52.595 [SPEAKER_00]: This is Mujahara. 25:52.896 --> 25:53.616 [SPEAKER_00]: This is showing Allah. 25:53.656 --> 25:54.236 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't care. 25:54.436 --> 25:59.679 [SPEAKER_00]: It's a new level of criminality. 25:59.759 --> 26:01.079 [SPEAKER_00]: I have my own addictions. 26:01.860 --> 26:02.760 [SPEAKER_00]: I have my own problems. 26:03.240 --> 26:06.122 [SPEAKER_00]: I have my own demons and skeletons and closet. 26:06.162 --> 26:06.882 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to overcome. 26:07.162 --> 26:11.664 [SPEAKER_00]: So please, the same way it would be unfair for me to draw you into my world. 26:12.305 --> 26:15.066 [SPEAKER_00]: It would be unfair for you to draw me into your world. 26:16.739 --> 26:19.700 [SPEAKER_00]: Why share with each other our mistakes and our vulnerabilities? 26:19.760 --> 26:19.940 [SPEAKER_00]: Why? 26:20.461 --> 26:23.042 [SPEAKER_00]: Help each other grow towards Allah, Subhanu Adada. 26:23.362 --> 26:29.064 [SPEAKER_00]: Does it make you happy to your brother that your carefully curated photo was then used by a sister or steamed by a sister? 26:29.224 --> 26:32.325 [SPEAKER_00]: And now her heart breaks because she can't have you and she's thinking about you. 26:32.345 --> 26:35.727 [SPEAKER_00]: And so that does not make you happy that you managed to pull someone away from Allah. 26:36.811 --> 26:48.758 [SPEAKER_00]: Does it have, please, you do your sister to do the same, whether it's your profile picture on your social media, image, whatever it may be, and now this person ensued instead of thinking about his Lord, he's prostrating and thinking about you. 26:49.018 --> 26:49.919 [SPEAKER_00]: How is that success? 26:51.240 --> 26:56.943 [SPEAKER_00]: Or is that not a sign of worthlessness of a person in the eyes of Allah that he's used in for this type of behavior? 26:58.904 --> 26:59.505 [SPEAKER_00]: So this is what? 26:59.545 --> 27:04.948 [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, veil yourself of your brothers and sisters in Islam. 27:07.593 --> 27:12.577 [SPEAKER_00]: Injaitanibu, ahadihi l-qadurat, al-Latina, Allahu an-ha. 27:13.478 --> 27:18.101 [SPEAKER_00]: Wa-man al-amna bi-shay'in min-haf al-Yatub, ill-Allahi wa-l-Yastatir bi-sikrillah. 27:18.842 --> 27:20.323 [SPEAKER_00]: Prophet-Sallallahu al-Allahi wa-salam-sad. 27:22.645 --> 27:24.746 [SPEAKER_00]: The Khaliful-chalhaqim narrates on the authority of Ibn Umar. 27:25.046 --> 27:29.430 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, stay away from these MPO sins that Allah has forbidden. 27:31.219 --> 27:39.166 [SPEAKER_00]: However, he said, anybody who commits one of them, let him repent to Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, let him veil himself with the veil of Allah. 27:39.707 --> 27:40.347 [SPEAKER_00]: Let him do what? 27:41.188 --> 27:47.814 [SPEAKER_00]: Veil himself, don't tell the Sheikh, don't tell the Imam, don't tell the Piersab, don't tell anyone of them, tell Allah, say, I am sorry. 27:49.455 --> 27:52.938 [SPEAKER_00]: And most importantly, don't tell the people through a post that you share. 27:54.500 --> 27:54.880 [SPEAKER_00]: Mujar. 27:56.261 --> 27:56.862 [SPEAKER_00]: This is number two. 27:58.557 --> 28:04.142 [SPEAKER_00]: Number three, the third part of your home test kit before you decide whether social media is for you or not. 28:05.083 --> 28:10.929 [SPEAKER_00]: The element of displaying your happiness to people, your joys, the things that you've got up to. 28:12.450 --> 28:13.011 [SPEAKER_00]: Hold on a minute. 28:14.068 --> 28:28.119 [SPEAKER_00]: The next time you're out with your friends at stake out or whatever it may be, you're enjoying yourself with your brother, your sister, your spouse, and then you feel that impulse to put your hand in your pocket and to snap what you're doing, all done? 28:28.139 --> 28:29.460 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it pulls for a minute. 28:29.700 --> 28:31.402 [SPEAKER_00]: Say to yourself, why am I feeling that? 28:33.283 --> 28:36.886 [SPEAKER_00]: Why am I feeling the need to show people what I'm doing? 28:37.226 --> 28:38.047 [SPEAKER_00]: Why am I feeling that? 28:38.087 --> 28:38.868 [SPEAKER_00]: What made me feel there? 28:40.895 --> 28:44.796 [SPEAKER_00]: Why is it that I need people to validate my happiness? 28:46.177 --> 28:49.758 [SPEAKER_00]: Why do I need people to reassure me that I'm having a good time? 28:50.718 --> 28:54.400 [SPEAKER_00]: It's as if I can't have fun unless people tell me that you're having fun. 28:56.420 --> 28:57.841 [SPEAKER_00]: Now keep the phone there in your pocket. 28:58.741 --> 29:08.664 [SPEAKER_00]: And realize that when you are constantly showing the world your joys, your successes, the bobby cues, the vacations, the Barbados, what are you doing? 29:08.724 --> 29:10.405 [SPEAKER_00]: You're bringing the eyes of people upon yourself. 29:11.598 --> 29:15.300 [SPEAKER_00]: You are bringing their eyes upon you and your family and your money, your health. 29:16.861 --> 29:26.327 [SPEAKER_00]: And then you wonder why you have anxieties, why you're depressed, why your life is melting away before your very eyes. 29:26.907 --> 29:28.888 [SPEAKER_00]: You brought this upon yourself, we did. 29:30.029 --> 29:32.070 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is why the Nabi sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. 29:32.110 --> 29:35.152 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, the Hadithu sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. 29:35.192 --> 29:35.372 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, 29:46.482 --> 29:55.355 [SPEAKER_00]: He said, make sure that you hold on to privacy when you're fulfilling your endeavors because everybody who has a blessing is envied. 29:56.864 --> 29:58.945 [SPEAKER_00]: Did you get the Hadith phenomenal words? 29:59.525 --> 30:00.905 [SPEAKER_00]: Hold on to privacy. 30:01.326 --> 30:04.046 [SPEAKER_00]: See, Chrissy, when you're fulfilling and endeavor. 30:04.066 --> 30:05.267 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't go telling everyone about it. 30:05.347 --> 30:05.587 [SPEAKER_00]: Why? 30:06.027 --> 30:08.728 [SPEAKER_00]: Because every blessed man has an envy. 30:12.109 --> 30:16.711 [SPEAKER_00]: So keep people away from you, keep the eyes of people, away from your family, away from your property, away from your life. 30:18.191 --> 30:21.493 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you need to share something, only share it with the people you love. 30:22.153 --> 30:25.454 [SPEAKER_00]: Mom, dad, siblings, you know they only want the best for you. 30:28.207 --> 30:35.332 [SPEAKER_00]: By the way, there's another element here of showing the world what you go up to, what you go up to, and the food and the latest state that you just had. 30:35.752 --> 30:36.352 [SPEAKER_00]: Hold on a minute. 30:36.833 --> 30:40.375 [SPEAKER_00]: Does everyone have the opportunity to eat me twice, three times, four times a week? 30:41.576 --> 30:43.897 [SPEAKER_00]: Does everyone have the opportunity to spend three quit on a state? 30:46.239 --> 30:49.721 [SPEAKER_00]: You just got married, and you're showing everyone your beautiful spouse. 30:49.801 --> 30:50.682 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, fair play too. 30:50.702 --> 30:51.602 [SPEAKER_00]: You've blurred out her face. 30:51.622 --> 30:52.683 [SPEAKER_00]: Does that look good? 30:54.064 --> 30:55.124 [SPEAKER_00]: What about your brother next door? 30:55.144 --> 30:55.885 [SPEAKER_00]: Who can't get married?