[SPEAKER_00]: Settling is not an option.
[SPEAKER_00]: Everything I desire is already mine.
[SPEAKER_00]: What if you can have it all?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because every day is for the girls.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, hello.
[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to another episode of For The Girls.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm your host, Victoria Allerio.
[SPEAKER_00]: And today we have another wedding countdown episode because we are two months out.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is so insane to say.
[SPEAKER_00]: In two months, I will be getting married.
[SPEAKER_00]: What is life?
[SPEAKER_00]: We've come a long way here.
[SPEAKER_00]: We've come a long way on this show on just my life and all the content that I have been sharing.
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of you girls have found me online from my single-girl content.
[SPEAKER_00]: Literally that specific niche of being single and going on dates and everything that came with that era of my life, that like, twenty, twenty-two
[SPEAKER_00]: year where I like really started TikTok started sharing all like the story time.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I've met my day new experiences.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's where a lot of my listeners came from and here we are in twenty twenty five thirty years old two months away from getting married and I'm freaking out.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me tell you girl something though.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like let me be the person who tells you like
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't listen to what everyone has to say about like wedding planning being so stressful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I will never forget from like the moment we got engaged, like everyone is like, on your back, like, oh my God, good luck.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me know if you need a help.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's so stressful.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's so miserable.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, oh my God, you're gonna need a drink.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like people really put it in your head that wedding planning is miserable.
[SPEAKER_00]: and really hard and really stressful.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it was not my experience.
[SPEAKER_00]: It honestly was not.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, of course, we're like, get in closer and it's just like the little things.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I guess, like, sure, I could say, I'm stressed, but like, I'm not even.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I don't even want to feed into the narrative of like, it being so stressful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I am not stressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just the little things.
[SPEAKER_00]: I personally don't like things not being a hundred percent complete.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the reality is you can't a hundred percent complete everything until it gets really close because
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, you need like the official headcount from like all the responses and my response like deadline didn't pass yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I don't have a hundred percent of the responses yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: So like there's, you know, just some things that I cannot do until that time comes.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I personally don't enjoy the waiting period of just like, okay, like I really would love to get this done, but I can't yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: But aside from that, like,
[SPEAKER_00]: This was not a miserable experience.
[SPEAKER_00]: Wedding planning was not awful.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did not need an alcoholic beverage to cope with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, people are going to put this fear in your mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the other thing is, too, it's kind of like a placebo effect where like,
[SPEAKER_00]: I think because people tell you it's going to be one way, you then convince yourself that that's how it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: I then like people get themselves worked up and get stressed and they're like, oh my god, like there's so much going on, but like if you actually like sit and think about it and like think about how you actually genuinely feel no outside opinions, you know, involved.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, oh wait, it's actually like not that bad.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like people are so drama.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I also think
[SPEAKER_00]: I did myself a favor by giving myself a shorter window meaning like I booked my wedding in February and
[SPEAKER_00]: The wedding is fall of the same year.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's only like a few months, like it's less than a year.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that it's easier to stress when you give yourself a much larger window, meaning over a year, two years people have long engagements and not just like they have a long engagement, but they're not planning the wedding the whole time.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm talking about people who have a long engagement that are planning the wedding the entire time.
[SPEAKER_00]: Say that you take
[SPEAKER_00]: a full year, a full year and a half, a full two years or even longer, two and a half years to plan the wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would imagine that that would become stressful because you know that's saying that's like you give someone three hours to clean their house or you give someone three days to clean their house.
[SPEAKER_00]: They could get it done in three hours.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you only give them the three hours, it'll get done.
[SPEAKER_00]: But then if you give them the option to do the same exact amount of stuff in three days, then they will take the three days to get it done.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it prolongs and it takes longer and like whatever the case is.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's kind of like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: You give someone six, seven months to plan a wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: It could get done.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you give them two years to plan a wedding, it'll just take them two years to plan the exact same thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I feel like getting myself the shorter window was better because it's just like everything is done, get it out of the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will say there is one single thing that I'm actually stressing about.
[SPEAKER_00]: Pretty important thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would say it's quite frankly the most important thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: that I'm like dealing with right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: The only thing that I'm stressing about is that my dress is still not in yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: My dress is still not in.
[SPEAKER_00]: The wedding is two months away.
[SPEAKER_00]: They guarantee and promise that it will be in, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't a little afraid.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I don't have tracking.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have the information on the whereabouts.
[SPEAKER_00]: They just gave me the reassurance that like I will have it, you know.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I think they said six weeks, you know, before the wedding, which sounds really, really close to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like sounds like it's cutting it really, really short.
[SPEAKER_00]: And let me tell you something.
[SPEAKER_00]: Climbfeld where I got my dress from, set me an evil email last night.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna put a screenshot on the screen.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me pull it up.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me tell you something.
[SPEAKER_00]: They played with me right in my face.
[SPEAKER_00]: So obviously it's like a subscription email.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not personally to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just like, I guess I'm on the email list.
[SPEAKER_00]: Client felt being where I got my dress from, obviously, for context.
[SPEAKER_00]: But, like, I don't really get that many emails from them.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not like they're constantly popping up in my inbox, and I'm just so used to seeing like Client felt always in my inbox.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I very rarely get emails from them.
[SPEAKER_00]: But last night, they sent me an email with the subject line.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, obviously,
[SPEAKER_00]: There's more context in the email, but I saw like the first four words, you know what I mean.
[SPEAKER_00]: The subject line is your dream, dress, awaits.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then it says with Verding, which I guess is a brand, not the brand that I got my dress from, but it's obviously just like, you know, a subscription email.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the message on, so it's like the subject line is your dream dress awaits.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then directly under like the preview of the email says August, twenty eight through thirty first.
[SPEAKER_00]: So me looking at it really quickly, this is why I say it's evil.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm thinking my dream dress, this is like them telling me, my dream dress is waiting for me to tear and it's available from August, twenty eight through thirty first.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's obviously I read it really fast.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm like, then I sat and looked with, you know.
[SPEAKER_00]: the context and I'm like, okay, this is a subscription for this brand verdin.
[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously verdin is just having, you know, a trunk shell, I guess, for those few days, but just like the verbiage, the way that it's written your dream dress, oh wait, August, when I ate the thirty first, like I swear, I thought that they were telling me my dress was there.
[SPEAKER_00]: My dress was waiting for me throughout those dates, something of this, I don't like, oh my god, they got my heart rate like all the way up here.
[SPEAKER_00]: And yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that was really me in the client vote.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not happy about that email.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna put the screenshot like I said on the video.
[SPEAKER_00]: But aside from that, here is where we're at.
[SPEAKER_00]: Really just like I said, those little details that cannot be finalized yet, okay, that's still in the works.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the dress also still in the works.
[SPEAKER_00]: Next weekend is my Bachelor at Party, which is like, ninety-nine percent of surprise.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really only know
[SPEAKER_00]: the day and the location, but I don't know like the details, the itinerary, I don't know like the official plans.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am doing a local bachelor at party, which is what I always wanted.
[SPEAKER_00]: My dream of a bachelor at party was to be like a spa day and just like a summer party, like a sleepover.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really just wanted like a whole summer girl today.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am someone who personally never was going to ask anyone to get on a plane for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I, to be honest, I, I didn't want that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I didn't want that for myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't see that for myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's nowhere that I'm like dying to go.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like a lot of the times that girls do a like a, a destination.
[SPEAKER_00]: Baps are at party where they like get on the plane.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like a place that they're dying to do a girl strip.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like, I just, I wasn't gonna ask people to travel for me for something that like I didn't really care that much about, but felt like I had to do because it's just like,
[SPEAKER_00]: the norm.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just like what society does.
[SPEAKER_00]: You just like go away.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, I've traveled so much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've gone to so many places.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be completely honest with you at the stage of life that I am in or even just like the mentality, the mindset that I have, this might not be the case just for the stage of life that I'm in.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just who I am at the stage of my life.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just like, I really only want to travel with my view on say like I really don't
[SPEAKER_00]: care to like go on a girl trip like I just it's not what I want like a that might sound like whatever but like I love going on vacation with him and I just like don't care to go on vacation without him so why would I make that a thing if like it's not something that I cared about so I'm saving my travels and getting on a plane for the remainder of this year for I guess my honeymoon essentially which that's another thing that's not planned yet let me tell you girl something anything and everything that was
[SPEAKER_00]: My duty, which is ninety-nine percent of the wedding, everything that was on me.
[SPEAKER_00]: is done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Was done like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, no stress.
[SPEAKER_00]: Got it done.
[SPEAKER_00]: No problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: My man has like one task and that is the honeymoon.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not that like he's planning it without me.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're doing that together.
[SPEAKER_00]: But like he knows like the travel agent.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's more of his feel.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, when we go away, when we go on vacations, he books everything.
[SPEAKER_00]: He books the flight, he books the hotel.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like he does all that stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's a good itinerary kind of guy like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like travel planner.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is it done?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, why would it be?
[SPEAKER_00]: That man will wait until we're at the airport ready to go.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, we would be that couple in the airport going up to the front desk like, all right, we got a luggage packed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Where can you send us?
[SPEAKER_00]: We'll flight to have available.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, that's what will happen to us.
[SPEAKER_00]: So our honeymoon is not booked.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's the other thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm also just not stressed about it because he's not stressed about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, I'm not worried about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I'll have something planned.
[SPEAKER_00]: When we do travel, I swear to God, we will have things booked.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, the hotel will even have reservations.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe we'll have the bags packed.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he's like, I'm still waiting to see if the flight prices go down.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, it's tomorrow.
[SPEAKER_00]: We need a flight, you know.
[SPEAKER_00]: But he makes a work, somehow.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he gets good seed, he'll get first class, he'll make good seed, somehow.
[SPEAKER_00]: And for a good price, I could not possibly tell you how, but maybe that's the key to travel.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, that is not planned, but that is probably like the only travel that I have coming up would eventually be that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, I digress, more or less story is like I just never wanted.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, a big elaborate bachelor at party where I got it cost everybody tons of money and get everybody on a plane wasn't what I wanted.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sure my friends are very happy about that because we have everyone else's stuff to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I wanted something local.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted like a spa day, summer party kind of vibe.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I think that's what's happening.
[SPEAKER_00]: But like I said, it's like majority of surprise.
[SPEAKER_00]: My cousins are planning it for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: My major and made of honor.
[SPEAKER_00]: There might only bridal party people.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't remember.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did do a six month countdown episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you did not listen to that when I recommend listening to that one because I'm not going to reiterate everything I already said there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just piggybacking off of there where I left off from there.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I don't remember if in that episode if I already had asked my cousins at the time about being.
[SPEAKER_00]: uh, matron made of honor.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I did say they're sorry to reiterate it, but yes, they're my only bachelor.
[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, they're my only bridal party.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have brides made.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just had them like, you know, arrange with my best friends, basically whoever like would be my bridal party, essentially.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I'm doing the bachelor at with.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um,
[SPEAKER_00]: And so yeah, really looking forward to that.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is coming up this weekend.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't of course I'll shoot all like the content.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't wait to share and show you girls what we actually do.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will give an update on what we actually do.
[SPEAKER_00]: since it's a surprise for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: So speaking of surprises, also my bridal shower is coming up.
[SPEAKER_00]: That'll be after that.
[SPEAKER_00]: That'll be at the end of August, which again, ninety-nine percent of surprise.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be honest, I want it to be really like old school traditional bridal shower where it's fully a surprise.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I don't even know that I'm arriving to my bridal shower, you know?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I love that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love when I see those videos.
[SPEAKER_00]: you know of like people well my cousin actually had a completely surprised bridal shower too but like at you know i see it online of girls like arriving to their bridal shower having no idea they're in like regular clothes like they're not you know done the whole thing and i love it but i really really really like i want to get my hair makeup done
[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to show up dressed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I just, I didn't want to arrive looking like a mess or like I didn't want, like I know other people are gonna look really pretty.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can have their hair makeup done and like looking amazing.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, and me, the bride, I'm gonna come with no hair makeup done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I just, I didn't want that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't want to come and my go to clothes and change there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really wanted to show up dressed and ready.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I do know the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I do know this city.
[SPEAKER_00]: However, I don't know the specific location.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I don't know where.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know where the party is.
[SPEAKER_00]: I only know where the city is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like what city it's in.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like my fiance is going to take me.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be a complete surprise.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't believe it's a place that I have ever been to.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't believe that it's a place that I know if it is, I'll be shocked because my mom was like, you don't know it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So she's either a really good liar or that's the truth.
[SPEAKER_00]: And yeah, so I'm getting my hair makeup done.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have my outfit prepared.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's actually at the tailor right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to just be driven there and show up in my cute outfit, which makes me feel really good.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the rest of it is a surprise.
[SPEAKER_00]: So like, I don't know any theme.
[SPEAKER_00]: If there's even a theme, I have no idea.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what will be there.
[SPEAKER_00]: To be honest, I don't even know exactly who will be there.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I did want it to be really small.
[SPEAKER_00]: really intimate.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am not having a bridal shower party where like, I think that the tradition is like you kind of invite every girl who's invited to the wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: You invite your entire guest list of females, whether it's your specific guests or even like these spouses of like, you know, someone like say that I invited a guy and his like my guy friend was invited to my wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: typically I think I would invite his wife, you know, or like his girlfriend, whoever, to the shower.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's pretty much supposed to be like every woman or girl who's on the wedding guest list, whether it's my direct person or the spouse of the other person.
[SPEAKER_00]: but that would be so many people.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I just, I really wanted an intimate party, just like very close, closest family, like with my family and then like my closest friends did not want, you know, anything more than that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it wasn't with any like offense, you know, to anybody else.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think everyone knows that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I did, I actually spoke to some my girlfriends who are literally not invited to my shower.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I told them like, I'm just having something really small and they understood, no, no issue with that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, with that, I know, I know very,
[SPEAKER_00]: little things as in, like I said, city and date.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know nothing else.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got my outfits.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's all I'm concerned about.
[SPEAKER_00]: And for the most part, you know, all the bachelor and the bridal shower stuff is a complete surprise.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm really excited about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did book a rehearsal dinner.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's set and stone.
[SPEAKER_00]: Another small thing that I'm doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do also have my outfit ready for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's also at the tailor.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like I said, small thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I know a lot of people for their rehearsal dinner invite extras.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like they invite family.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's like not necessarily in the bridal party.
[SPEAKER_00]: They invite friends.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like people make the rehearsal dinner sometimes a little bit bigger than simply just who has to rehearse.
[SPEAKER_00]: But we it's literally twenty people.
[SPEAKER_00]: including us so eighteen including our parents our grandparents like that is it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Twenty people total and the only people invited are the people who actually have to rehearse whether they are walking down the aisle, whether they are reading you know at the church like
[SPEAKER_00]: You know for the mass for the ceremony so we kept that you know again really small really intimate like this is the thing like I just I don't think everything needs to be a mini wedding you know like I know that people
[SPEAKER_00]: go over the top and buy all means if that's what you want, go for it to once in a lifetime event.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you want everyone in their mother there, go for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: For me, I just felt like my wedding is my wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is like the one big day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then everything else does not need to be a whole show.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I really wanted everything else to be kept really small.
[SPEAKER_00]: So excited about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I actually love the dress for
[SPEAKER_00]: The rehearsal dinner and I cannot wait to show it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's from Anna it's from Jenny you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I believe it might be sold at anthropology, but the brand is Jenny you so stay tuned for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the other thing okay so we're speaking about the guest list a lot invites like I said.
[SPEAKER_00]: The date did not pass yet, but it's actually coming up.
[SPEAKER_00]: So invites or sent out, of course, responses are going to be due this coming weekend.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, the responses are due when I go to the bachelor party.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's happening at the same time.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the responses are due.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I'm going away for the night.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I probably can extend it by a day.
[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, like that's happening all the same time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be honest with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of people have not responded yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: So unfortunately, I'm going to have to be doing a lot of reach outs, which is so annoying.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I just don't understand that I literally respond to winnings right away.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, if I know for a fact I'm going, I respond.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I know for a fact that I'm not going, I respond.
[SPEAKER_00]: The only time I don't respond immediately is if I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then as soon as I do know, I respond.
[SPEAKER_00]: But let me tell you something.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's not the case with the people who have not responded because they are family members.
[SPEAKER_00]: They are people who are a hundred percent coming.
[SPEAKER_00]: They are people in close proximity to us.
[SPEAKER_00]: Conversations we've had with people were like, oh, yeah, I'm coming.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just like, I have to put it in the mailbox.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, please, it's stamped.
[SPEAKER_00]: I stamped it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just stick it in your mailbox.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to go in the post office.
[SPEAKER_00]: Put it in your own mailbox.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lift up the little red dingy thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, the little flag.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your mailman will take it and be on.
[SPEAKER_00]: his or her merry way.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I don't understand that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I made it so easy.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's literally stamp.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's the other thing too is like how many people have said, it is filled out.
[SPEAKER_00]: I filled it out.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is sealed.
[SPEAKER_00]: It has the stamp which I already put.
[SPEAKER_00]: They filled it out with their information.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's in the envelope.
[SPEAKER_00]: Side sealed delivered ready to go.
[SPEAKER_00]: They just didn't do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So there will be a lot of people that I have to reach out to.
[SPEAKER_00]: And for that reason, I am annoyed.
[SPEAKER_00]: But
[SPEAKER_00]: I digress.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was warned about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was told for the most part you're going to have to like there's never going to be a wedding where a hundred percent of people reply by the deadline.
[SPEAKER_00]: So but we'll see we'll see I've been counting so we'll see how many I think I think what I'm up to as of right now, which the mail did not come yet today.
[SPEAKER_00]: So let's see that number might change today, but I think what I'm up to right now is I sent out one hundred fourteen
[SPEAKER_00]: invitations and I received back seventy five invitations.
[SPEAKER_00]: So we're getting there.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're doing good.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
[SPEAKER_00]: So some other little details that I just finalized the card box.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why was the card box for the wedding, the hardest thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just got it this while I didn't receive it yet, but I just ordered this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did order it from Etsy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I finally found one that I loved, but let me tell you something.
[SPEAKER_00]: It took searching.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was searching.
[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, I looked on Amazon because so many every time that I said to someone, like, I can't find a card box, you know, for people to put the cards in.
[SPEAKER_00]: Everyone's like, oh, I got mine on Amazon.
[SPEAKER_00]: Look on Amazon.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I hated the ones on Amazon.
[SPEAKER_00]: To me, they're so ugly.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, that's not what Amazon is like, the wedding stuff, like, important wedding stuff is not what Amazon is for.
[SPEAKER_00]: I get it like the little things you know like things are that are not like that important but like pretty sure the card boxes out like on display at the wedding the entire time so it's kind of like a piece of decor you know so to me the aesthetics of that mattered.
[SPEAKER_00]: Etsy was like better than Amazon, but I still wasn't finding anything like beautiful.
[SPEAKER_00]: There was like the mirrored ones, the glass ones, and I'm like, the mirrored I don't like.
[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't go with anything that's our aesthetic.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it goes with what you're doing, the mirrored go for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the glass, I hate because why should people see the cards on the inside?
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I don't, I don't like see through card boxes where, you know, you could see the cards on the inside.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I was really trying to find something lace white.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I was searching all like specific details.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's what you got to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to look up exactly what you want.
[SPEAKER_00]: You want silver.
[SPEAKER_00]: You want gold.
[SPEAKER_00]: You want white.
[SPEAKER_00]: You want lace.
[SPEAKER_00]: You want texture.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like what do you want?
[SPEAKER_00]: You know?
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to look it up.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I looked up exactly what I wanted and just kept scrolling.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just kept scrolling page by page.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I did get one on Etsy that I am excited about.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then also, I just made a tick tuck of the bar signs, our signature cocktail signs that I made.
[SPEAKER_00]: I made them on camera.
[SPEAKER_00]: I printed them out on foam boards on Vista print.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I love them.
[SPEAKER_00]: I could probably put a picture on the screen here as well, but if you go on my TikTok, you will definitely see it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I'll put a screenshot on here to give you an idea as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love the bar signs.
[SPEAKER_00]: I made them to look like magazine covers and like the title of the magazine is his and hers and then like so it's like the main title says his and hers and then like that little some title underneath I put like our signature cocktails and then there's a bar code to look like a magazine and then on the other corner I wrote like the espresso martini and the dirty martini because those are our signature drinks and the pictures you know that are actually there
[SPEAKER_00]: Or the pictures we took from our engagement photo shoot.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you've gone on my Instagram or my TikTok, you've seen the engagement photo shoot, then you know we did a series of photos in a bar, drinking our signature cocktails.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that worked out perfectly.
[SPEAKER_00]: I created six bar signs using six of the photos from that photo shoot made it look like the magazine and it is so cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then another thing that we just finalized, we booked a cigar roller for the after party.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm excited about that to add a little something, you know, different in the six month count on video.
[SPEAKER_00]: I already talked about having like all of our vendors booked, but now that like
[SPEAKER_00]: Everything is booked in pretty much everything is finalized and it's like crunch time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just kind of thinking like what else can we add?
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I wanted to add a little bit more entertainment.
[SPEAKER_00]: We might book a, they're called Champaign Divas where it's like the women that are like in these, I don't know if they're on stilts, but they're in these big elaborate like costumes.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the costume is like a cage kind of an in the cage or is all like the cups of champagne, glasses of champagne, whoa.
[SPEAKER_00]: glasses of champagne.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so you got ten pounds fast.
[SPEAKER_00]: And where that I did not book that yet, but I'm thinking about booking it.
[SPEAKER_00]: That would be for the cocktail hour just to add a little something extra like I'm just kind of at that phase now, which is like probably a dangerous place to be where it's like you really have nothing else to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's like what more can I add?
[SPEAKER_00]: How far can we go?
[SPEAKER_00]: That one I'm still kind of like just thinking about, but the cigar roller we did
[SPEAKER_00]: finalized, which is really cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, that's more of like for the men, you know, like smoking cigars, not everyone's smoked a cigar.
[SPEAKER_00]: I personally don't know any women who smokes cigars.
[SPEAKER_00]: So maybe they do, maybe I'm just wrong, but it's typically like a man thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that'll be at the after party, which is, you know, when the reception ends, it's not in a separate location.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's on the same property.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just in the room right over.
[SPEAKER_00]: We just exit the reception room and go into the after party room and in there will be
[SPEAKER_00]: a gentleman with a table doing the cigar rolling and pass them out.
[SPEAKER_00]: And okay, so some other things that I am excited about, I did just sign up for Pilates.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now it's a brand new studio, so they didn't open yet, but I do think in the next couple days they're gonna be open, suppose we open, you know, in the early August.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I know it's crunch time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know I've not been on my fitness and diet and health grind.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I've been doing my vitamins every day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm definitely mindful of what I eat, but I have not been dieting.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not like limiting and restricting myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have not gone on like some full wedding body situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've worked out here and there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I get my walks in, you know, I do my stuff like that, but I've just not been that like,
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, like you would think that like the wedding is like major motivation, but like, is anything?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, but I'm just not motivated to work out.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just not, but
[SPEAKER_00]: with two months to spare.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to start my pull out ease.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am excited to be starting that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be going three times a week.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got a package that I could go three times a week.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm super excited about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do I think it'll transform my body in two months?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, but I think doing that along with being mindful of what I eat and along with lifting sometimes and working out sometimes will definitely make me feel good.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and so I think if you feel good, you look good, you look good, you feel good, and that's like the most important thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's like the most fitness eating that I'm onto right now, but otherwise like beauty stuff in the six month countdown video, I talked about all my bridal beauty prep that I had done at that point.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I share all of that there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Since then, to pick up from where I left off with that, which I think the last thing I shared in that was that I got a VIPL.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I've been sharing all my TikTok and my Instagram, a bridal booty prep series.
[SPEAKER_00]: We might be up to like, part, fourteen, fifteen, like in the teens area at this point.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've lost track, but I know that where I left off,
[SPEAKER_00]: was I think the VIP, which was part ten.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you go on my Instagram or TikTok and go through my bridal beauty prep series, you'll see all this stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: But since then, I've had another facial.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've done hair growth oils.
[SPEAKER_00]: I started, you know, my hair has actually definitely been growing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm excited about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I got a big shop that I'm still
[SPEAKER_00]: traumatized by.
[SPEAKER_00]: I started teeth whitening at home.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I haven't visited line trays.
[SPEAKER_00]: I used to do, you know, in vizoline.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I just have the at home whitening.
[SPEAKER_00]: I put it in the mizoline trays, pop them in, thirty minutes a day.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm excited about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I got another facial, which would make that my third facial in this whole process so far.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I do think I'm going to do one more.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think in September I'll do another facial which would put me at four facials in total.
[SPEAKER_00]: for, you know, my wedding prep, which is everything since basically March, I would say.
[SPEAKER_00]: So right now we're in July.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I probably am going like every other month, basically.
[SPEAKER_00]: So three facials so far, I intend on doing the fourth.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really just want to keep extracting, especially the nose.
[SPEAKER_00]: I keep getting like blackheads on my nose.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I just gotta keep scoop scoop scoop scoop scoop.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, another beauty thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did my hair and makeup trial.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm really excited about that because I'm very happy with the results of that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And now this weekend, not the bridal, not the bathroom right weekend, this this weekend happening right now is my mom's trial for her hair.
[SPEAKER_00]: She really wants to do a hair trial because she really doesn't know a hundred percent how she wants to do her hair and she doesn't want to like
[SPEAKER_00]: have any surprises on the day of the wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: So we're going to do a trial.
[SPEAKER_00]: I probably will share that.
[SPEAKER_00]: If my mom lets me, I will probably share her trial because I'm just excited.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just love documenting everything that is happening.
[SPEAKER_00]: as this process goes on.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then what else?
[SPEAKER_00]: What else do I have coming up beauty related?
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, I did just order.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it should be arriving maybe today.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's from Amazon.
[SPEAKER_00]: So where is it at?
[SPEAKER_00]: If I order it five seconds ago, it should be here by now.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I did order it either yesterday or two days ago.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, an ice roller.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I don't know if you guys saw.
[SPEAKER_00]: I posted it on TikTok.
[SPEAKER_00]: I attended to do an ice bath for my face.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hmm.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hell no, oh, oh, absolutely the book, not.
[SPEAKER_00]: And in the video, I'm like, this is another part of my Brando Beauty prep series.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to start doing an ice bath for my face every night.
[SPEAKER_00]: Girl, I could not even get my face in the water.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was so scared.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't swim.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that that had a big part to do with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Did I think I was going to drown in a bowl of water on my kitchen on?
[SPEAKER_00]: say whatever you call it, kitchen counter.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, but I don't have the skill of like the face underwater, not holding my breath.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I felt like I needed to hold my nose.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, how do people shove their face in here without holding their nose?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I just don't have an underwater skill.
[SPEAKER_00]: And to dunk your face in a deep bowl of water, I was like literally like going in in a like, wait, I have no idea how people do this.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was actually hilarious if you watch a video, it's on my TikTok.
[SPEAKER_00]: I tried, I can't do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So people in the comments are like, girl, ice roller, same concept, no drowning.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, so I did order a nice roller and I will be starting that process as soon as I get it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am going to be doing Botox, but I don't do Botox.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do Discord.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just the same concept and I call it Botox because most people don't know what Discord is.
[SPEAKER_00]: So imagine Botox, but for me,
[SPEAKER_00]: Disport works better.
[SPEAKER_00]: Same idea it freezes you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to do two very small appointments.
[SPEAKER_00]: So my first appointment.
[SPEAKER_00]: is the beginning of August.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm doing that.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's been a while since I've had this sport.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm like, you know, I'm fully, as you can see here, I'm like, I'm able to move.
[SPEAKER_00]: I only do it by the way in my, like, in between my eyebrows and in my forehead.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't do the eyes and I don't do any other area on my face.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just the forehead and just in between the eyebrows.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so why I'm doing two appointments is because I do want to
[SPEAKER_00]: be, you know, good for my bridal shower and my wedding, but they are over and month apart.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like if I do it like all in bulk just for the shower, I don't really know how like firm it'll be for the wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, so instead of doing one big appointment, which by the way, me saying big is like, I do still a fraction of what other people do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I think when I lasted it, which was a full appointment, I got twelve units.
[SPEAKER_00]: People get thirty, forty units.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: So like even when I say small, I mean micro.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I will probably do six units and six units and they'll be a month apart.
[SPEAKER_00]: So like I said, the first one will be the very beginning of August and then the next one will be toward the end of September.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it'll be like a month.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, it'll be like the middle of September.
[SPEAKER_00]: It'll be a month in between both.
[SPEAKER_00]: It'll be a month before.
[SPEAKER_00]: It'll be a month after the first appointment.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then a month before the wedding, basically.
[SPEAKER_00]: So they're gonna be a month apart.
[SPEAKER_00]: And yeah, I'm doing that just so that I'm fresh for each.
[SPEAKER_00]: But like I said, I get very little and I only do it in the forehead area.
[SPEAKER_00]: As you can see, the fact that I can even move my forehead this much when I did only do it if you want to go, that should tell you that it's not that much because when I used to get frozen, like when I was living in Miami and I'm like, freeze me up, like I don't wanna move a muscle, that should would last me six months.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the less you do, obviously, the shorter it lasts.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Another appointment.
[SPEAKER_00]: that I am gonna be doing right before the wedding is a dentist appointment.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna get a cleaning, which I feel like is so overlooked.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, this might sound so boring.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, okay, we're hearing about your dentist appointment, but girl, book your dentist appointment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, get a fresh cleaning before the wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have those sparkly white teeth.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's when I want my teeth to be like, so I want my smile to be so bright.
[SPEAKER_00]: Granted, I smile with my mouth closed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, yeah, I do, in fact, do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I smile like this.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what's funny is so does my fiance.
[SPEAKER_00]: You could actually see I have a picture over my shoulder right here.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to pull it up to the thing because, you know, you know, private.
[SPEAKER_00]: But we're both smiling at it and you probably can't tell.
[SPEAKER_00]: We look straight faced, but we're both smiling and we smile the same way.
[SPEAKER_00]: As you can see, there's no, there's no teeth showing in this photo.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, yeah, we both want to smile like them, but I know that there's like candidates and my mouth will be open and I'll be like, oh my god, like, you know, all that stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: So like my teeth will be out.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will not be hiding my teeth on my wedding day and I want to have bright blind teeth.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I won't be going to the dentist.
[SPEAKER_00]: One more thing that's coming to me is what I haven't, I did not get it, I haven't gotten it recently.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did it two or three times over the past few months and now I'm gonna start to do them again.
[SPEAKER_00]: I get vitamin B shots with amino acids and you know what, I'm gonna be honest, I don't know why.
[SPEAKER_00]: They call it a liposut, like liposuction, liposut.
[SPEAKER_00]: I cannot say that it works like LIPO and it nor does it work like goes that pic it's not a GLP one it's not it's not it's not it's not it's not it's not a GLP one compounded whatever you know mungioro it's nothing like that it's literally vitamin B with amino acids it's a very good shot it's good for
[SPEAKER_00]: energy it's good for just like feeling good and also simultaneously it does help with cravings and like curbing your appetite absolutely not enough to make you skip a meal trust me I take that shot and I'm eating my food every day but I did notice that when I get that shot I don't
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't pick as much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not snacking all day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not looking for a sweet treat all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not eating, you know, chips and whatever, which like, I am a big snacker.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I love me some chips throughout the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some chocolate, whatever, love a sweet treat every night.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I noticed that like the day after, like, let's say like three, four days after that shot, I'm really not picking as much.
[SPEAKER_00]: So there was a point where I was getting it once a week.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like I said, never skip to meal.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not full, like I'm not.
[SPEAKER_00]: It does not work like, oh, is that fake?
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so let's not get it to a sit.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it definitely helps with, you know, cravings and curbing your appetite.
[SPEAKER_00]: It probably is something to do with like the metabolism.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know exactly what it is, but I know it's a vitamin B shot with amino acids.
[SPEAKER_00]: It gives me energy.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a sleepy girl.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a big napper.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not like napping as much when I take it, things like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's probably like the last
[SPEAKER_00]: thing that like beauty wise I could think about the moment that's like um you know doing coming up like I said I haven't done it in a little bit but I definitely want to start doing it again and the very very actual last thing that I'm like thinking about doing for the wedding not a hundred percent sure but I'm possibly thinking of doing this right hand because it's in the fall but it's early fall I might still have a
[SPEAKER_00]: little tan leftover from the summer, but like I probably won't be as white as I am in December.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I might still have, I'm still gonna be pale.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I won't be as pasty as I am in the dead of winter, but I'll still, like I'll feel pale.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I feel like I kind of want to spray tan, but I have not committed to that yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's still, let me know what you girls think about wedding and spray tans and all that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to be putting myself in a tanning booth.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not going to happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know some people are like anti spray tan because they're like, it doesn't come out.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like this spray tan.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just wasn't a hundred percent sure.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's definitely something that I will.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am considering doing and looking into booking.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like that's all the beauty stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's everything of where I'm at since I left off in that six month countdown and now it's just like the last few things of like waiting for the responses back being able to finalize the tables like all that you know last minute stuff and yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have a call tomorrow with my day of coordinator.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do not have a wedding planner, but I have a coordinator and she's helping me with like logistics and all that kind of stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, I'll be like really organized as of tomorrow.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is really that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm just keeping all your girls in the loop because the wedding content has been the fan favorite on TikTok these days.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm letting you girls feel like you're a part of this process with me because it's fun for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know it's fun for you and I love sharing everything with you girls.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that is really good.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is all that we have for today.
[SPEAKER_00]: So thank you girls so much for listening.
[SPEAKER_00]: Until next time, girls.