[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Scrolling and smoking seem to be your worst habits and the habits that you are most interested in breaking.
[SPEAKER_00]: This morning I asked on Instagram, what is a habit you were trying to break and or a habit you were trying to begin.
[SPEAKER_00]: Overwhelming, it was smoking and scrolling.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thankfully, I don't have an issue with smoking.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't speak on that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I bought a vape once.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it died before I finished it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Scrolling however, I can most definitely speak on.
[SPEAKER_00]: As someone who loves the internet, someone who loves social media, how do you find balance?
[SPEAKER_00]: What is your screen time?
[SPEAKER_00]: Are you happy with it?
[SPEAKER_00]: Can you decrease it?
[SPEAKER_00]: My screen time right now, I think it's like four and a half hours a day and I thought that was high.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was having a conversation with my friend about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, I think
[SPEAKER_00]: a happy place, three and a half hours.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think I can handle that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe I could add on a bit of time if I knew that it was in use for work.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can see on your screen time where that space is going.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I can tell if it has Instagram, for instance, if I was editing something on there, if I was getting a real up for a brand, if I was using my story versus
[SPEAKER_00]: There was definitely times I've on Instagram a lot and I'm not doing anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doom scrolling and I was having this conversation with a friend and her response was, oh, I don't even think my screen times that high and then I said mine being four and a half hours and she's like wait a second.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know when my screen time is seven or eight hours a day.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it was, and not so many hours of our day, what are we doing?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not older than now.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think maybe four and a half hours is good, comparatively speaking, does that feel good, though?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, not necessarily.
[SPEAKER_00]: And as I said, there's time and place, but clearly you wouldn't be saying this in the question box.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you felt like your amount of screen time was being put to good use.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was time spent wisely.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was worthwhile.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then we're talking about doom scrolling, we're talking about scrolling for hours before bed, scrolling for hours first thing in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: How do we do it?
[SPEAKER_00]: Now they say not to go on your phone first thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I don't have an appointment, they need to arrive.
[SPEAKER_00]: to buy a certain time, whether that be career related, maybe a doctor's appointment, a workout class, if I don't have to have boots on the ground somewhere, I find that the blue light on my phone is the only way that I'm waking up and getting out of bed, unless my stomach is crawling.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will not find energy to get up any earlier than I have to unless I'm scrolling.
[SPEAKER_00]: I use the blue light to get up and that being said is not great for your brain.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did have an app that I was using for a minute there.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I almost started paying for it, but then I found it to be a little bit frustrating.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought, I'm not even sure if it's working.
[SPEAKER_00]: Didn't pay for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Free trial ended.
[SPEAKER_00]: And my screen time has gone up since then.
[SPEAKER_00]: So was it working?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: What was it called?
[SPEAKER_00]: Wonder if I can go into my app store and see recent purchases.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it was called B present that the screen detox.
[SPEAKER_00]: It blocks apps in pursuit of regaining focus.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I had it and I would basically set blocks
[SPEAKER_00]: for my access to Instagram anything really to be shut off until a certain time in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think my mistake for maybe nine or nine thirty.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that was all fine and dandy until I wanted to make a note on the notes app.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I realized, oh, I need to unblock that because I think it's okay to be on my notes app before nine, nine, thirty in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the first one was really maps.
[SPEAKER_00]: I thought, oh, I didn't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had music at somewhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not an issue for me to use maps.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I wanted to listen to music and I thought, OK, that's fine.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can listen to music.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I want to listen to an audible book.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's unblock audible, which what I really should have done is had my settings just include the social media apps or wherever I found myself spending the most amount of time on.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that worked for however long the trial was.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm kind of interested I've been toying with the idea of maybe trying it again because it's been a few weeks without the app and I have noticed that it did help a bit.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's one option.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think we need to back up to why we're scrolling.
[SPEAKER_00]: Are you looking for socialization?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because my screen time skyrocketed when my roommate went out of town.
[SPEAKER_00]: As someone who works for themselves and works from home, waking up, spending the whole day in my house and going to sleep in my house, it would be beyond easy to not speak to a single soul.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what's the way you can feel like you're part of the world?
[SPEAKER_00]: Just tap the home screen, baby.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are locked in.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hi, everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is me from my car.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hi, everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is me from my bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hi, everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is me and my kitchen.
[SPEAKER_00]: You want to see what I made for breakfast?
[SPEAKER_00]: It makes you feel alive.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because having a roommate, having someone that you live with, gives a witness.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whereas when she was out of town, she was out of town for weeks, there was no window witness my existence.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I need to feel that my existence needs witness, the perfect place to go with social media.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me make a TikTok.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me post an Instagram story.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let everyone know I'm alive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm here.
[SPEAKER_00]: Also, let's chat.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me respond to your story when you respond to mine.
[SPEAKER_00]: Screen time went up.
[SPEAKER_00]: When I wanted to talk inadvertently, just my knee-jerk reaction was get on my phone.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you're looking for connection, I would say it's important to make social engagements.
[SPEAKER_00]: schedule some socialization into your day, whether that be in person, which would be ideal, and that could be something so simple, if you have friends that live in walking distance, morning walk, evening walk, post dinner walk, the sun hasn't gone down, probably by the time you finished dinner, taking evening walk, it'll feel so good.
[SPEAKER_00]: And actual hang out, why don't you guys get dinner, go to a movie, something of the sort, just remind yourself that you can have hangs throughout the week.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're an adult now.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can have weeknight sleepovers if you want.
[SPEAKER_00]: The world is your oyster baby.
[SPEAKER_00]: Come touch the pearl.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, if that's not feasible for whatever reason, Face times feel so much better than watching people over and over again throughout the day on their Instagram stories, spend some actual time.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to see them.
[SPEAKER_00]: What they were doing, fifteen minutes ago, when you can spend fifteen minutes with them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Give your friend a call.
[SPEAKER_00]: You both are working from home when you're not on a meeting.
[SPEAKER_00]: parallel play add them on FaceTime and do your thing let me tell you that's another thing I really found will get me up in the morning is if I have a phone call if a friend starts FaceTimeing me first thing in the morning or gives me a phone call often times these are friends from the East Coast so it's not first thing in the morning for them but
[SPEAKER_00]: My phone's ringing at seven, seven, thirty in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, hello, hello.
[SPEAKER_00]: Next week, two minutes later, I'm getting up because it energizes me, talking to people energizes me.
[SPEAKER_00]: And therefore, if I want the energy from people that I normally get in the physical realm and I can't get that, the next best thing is to get it virtually.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you can be conscious of that, I had to become conscious of that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I'm looking for energy from community.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm looking for energy from friends, family people.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's the way I can get that?
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me call them.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what does that do?
[SPEAKER_00]: That knocks off at least in hour of screen time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then more often than not, I get the energy from it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Therefore, I received that sort of void I'm trying to fill.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't even feel called to, like it fully replaces that amount of screen time.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like this screen time is trying to fill a void.
[SPEAKER_00]: And there's a healthy alternative.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, the next reason you might be scrolling, down to the nine, boredom.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what else to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have any plans.
[SPEAKER_00]: I certainly don't feel like making them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Dope, I mean, is at my fingertips.
[SPEAKER_00]: Please provide me with entertainment.
[SPEAKER_00]: Also, a short-term video.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can scroll through and see so many different worlds and existences
[SPEAKER_00]: within forty five seconds and then the dark side of that is that you can see someone's new boob job you can see an ice rate happening you can see a boy that walks off a cliff on a hike with his father and then love island spoilers all within forty five seconds
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's too much sometimes.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's really hard on this like so I think going on when you're bored.
[SPEAKER_00]: One, it can really stir up the nervous system, but two, it sometimes doesn't work.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't exactly know the cure for boredom, but oftentimes phones don't scratch that edge.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think phones really scratch in it when you're tired and you need something low lift to almost relax you.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's when I find that phone time is nice.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like let's say out of full day, we'll say it's a Saturday.
[SPEAKER_00]: Wake up early.
[SPEAKER_00]: Go to the beach with my friend.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're hanging out.
[SPEAKER_00]: We have our whole day drive home.
[SPEAKER_00]: I shower.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have some time to kill before dinner.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, phone time sounds so good.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me be horizontal in my bed and scroll on my phone.
[SPEAKER_00]: That sounds amazing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Allow me to indulge.
[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't even feel detrimental to my mental health.
[SPEAKER_00]: It
[SPEAKER_00]: fits the bill.
[SPEAKER_00]: So once again though, I don't even want to defend scrolling because it's not like any of you need to scroll more.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's never been a case to make for someone to be on their phone more.
[SPEAKER_00]: So to me, to defend a perfect time to use the phone, I'm talking to the wrong people.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think any of us need to hear that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, do I like scrolling on my phone?
[SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely.
[SPEAKER_00]: But does it pass a certain point where you're suddenly not helping yourself anymore?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's doing more harm than good.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, and that's why you're listening to this episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it could be boredom, which in that case, think of things that give you energy, alternatives.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you just need to get your brain cooking?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like can you have a game right with friends?
[SPEAKER_00]: Sorry, I'm a social person and I lean extroverted therefore a lot of times hangouts are my solution, but if you are more introverted, I'm sure you have alternatives.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've recently been all about markers and crayons.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got myself a larger sketchpad.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've been having so much fun making people different things.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's been a great time.
[SPEAKER_00]: It occupies my hands.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't possibly be coloring something and scrolling on my phone at the same time.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no.
[SPEAKER_00]: So find other hobbies, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Put pen to paper, color, draw, even going from social media to phone game can feel like a baby step forward.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll say it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It can.
[SPEAKER_00]: Cooking, that's another one that requires both hands.
[SPEAKER_00]: I recently had to go through an email account that had been abandoned and there were forty thousand emails that I had to go through and I was trying to unsubscribe to them, but then I realized that I really enjoyed the New York Times cooking subscription that I had and I
[SPEAKER_00]: started to get really excited about recipes.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so if there's a recipe that you could get excited for, mind you, New York Times cooking, can't recommend it enough.
[SPEAKER_00]: There are some recipes that I was excited for, and then suddenly that gives me something to look forward to in the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my goodness.
[SPEAKER_00]: When I hit center time, I'm so excited to try and making that dinner.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: That kills thirty, forty, depending on the recipe and hour plus of your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: That just knocked off thirty to forty to an hour plus your screen time.
[SPEAKER_00]: You are so welcome.
[SPEAKER_00]: We just need to replace the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: You need to look at how much time you're spending on your phone.
[SPEAKER_00]: Girl math it a little bit.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think of other things I could take a similar amount of time and add that into your day and when you wake up in the morning, be excited to do that instead.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to do things so drastically different, where if you're spending a lot of time on TikTok, like, well, I should be reading more.
[SPEAKER_00]: It should be reading more.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why don't you find a cute snack that'll be fun to make something lower lift.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want to read, go for it, but if that's the if that step seems too far away.
[SPEAKER_00]: Get yourself a gradual step to get there, find a bridge.
[SPEAKER_00]: So we have boredom, we have needing socialization, what's another one?
[SPEAKER_00]: Classic, procrastination.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's a lesson that I learned many years ago.
[SPEAKER_00]: As a former procrastinator, I thought that it didn't matter
[SPEAKER_00]: because I work best under pressure.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna go back in time to high school Lexi.
[SPEAKER_00]: She thought, I'm gonna procrastinate on everything because I, as I just said, work best under pressure.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like to save my essay until let's say you had to turn it in online at midnight.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to start at at nine thirty.
[SPEAKER_00]: The pressure was on and I could get going as time has moved on.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm not done with this.
[SPEAKER_00]: I started to paint the picture and I didn't discuss how I would procrastinate.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anything that I wanted to do in my free time, I would just do instead.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't have the looming stress over me as time had gone on.
[SPEAKER_00]: If there was something I needed to get done, I couldn't fully immerse myself into the other things I like to do because I had the looming stress of X due date in my head and I actually found it.
[SPEAKER_00]: to be a lot nicer to get it down ahead.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I don't know exactly how this switch happened, but this switch has pretty much eliminated procrastination from my life where if I have a UGC video too, and it's not due until Friday.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's Thursday morning, and I know that it's not due until five PM Friday, and I could so gladly start working on that at two PM Friday.
[SPEAKER_00]: knowing that it's Thursday morning and Friday's the fun day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Friday's a day that I like to keep open and up in the air and leave my schedule available to do something really fun during the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I might be more inclined to pull out my Kindle start reading because that feels like an enjoyable activity.
[SPEAKER_00]: and spend an hour reading when instead.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: It would actually just feel nice to try.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's just pull out the camera, let's attach it to the tripod, and let's just give it a shot.
[SPEAKER_00]: That could be fun.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's see if I can do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then once I just ask myself to give it a shot, like just give it a try, let's say there's an S.A.
[SPEAKER_00]: do, why don't you just see if you can write a couple lines, which as a tangent, a really short one, if you are writing, and you have writers block or your procrastinating writing something,
[SPEAKER_00]: start with what you know.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you have to write something and you're not exactly sure the intro you're not sure, you know, the beginning parts, but you know some part of the meat of the story, you know the few things that you want to say, write those things down and you can build outward.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you know that there's a juicy aspect or one paragraph of your research paper that you want to include, just write that paragraph and you can write the intro later.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can conclude it later.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can start your essay in the middle.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can start your journal essay, your journal entry in the middle.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that has honestly helped me get to writing a lot faster.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now back to procrastination.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I just say, let's give it a shot.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's just open the document.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to do it because technically it's not do yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have many hours.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes sometimes alleviating myself of that pressure and telling myself that I don't need to do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: The reverse psychology works on me a tad and I'm like, well, fuck it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And just because I don't have two doesn't mean I don't want to.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the relief you feel from having it done more over when this comes to editing videos or editing the podcasts of sorts.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I edited a vlog that was going to go up on Friday and let's say I had to finish on Tuesday.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't look at it Wednesday.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't look at it Thursday Friday.
[SPEAKER_00]: I get ready to upload it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I give a second look at it and I think, oh, actually this would be fun to add in it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it gives you more time to make finishing touches.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I almost feel like it definitely more often than not makes for a better product.
[SPEAKER_00]: So for procrastination, if that's why you're doing scrolling, whatever you're procrastinating, just say, let me give it a shot.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have to unpack from that trip.
[SPEAKER_00]: My suitcase is still sitting open.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's my task of the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Put two shirts in the hamper.
[SPEAKER_00]: Take your skincare bag and just move it from the suitcase to the bathroom.
[SPEAKER_00]: Take the shoes out.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just do one of them.
[SPEAKER_00]: And oftentimes, and I'm like, you don't have to do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I tell myself, you don't have to do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can let that suitcase sit here for the rest of time.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that suitcase with your two-week trip.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want to keep that suitcase exactly where it is until the day you move out of this apartment, go for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Suddenly, I want to do it right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: So see if that works for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Alternatively, it might just be a bad habit where you're in the routine of waking up, grabbing your phone, getting into bed, having your phone plugged in by your bedside table.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I personally love to have my phone in another room.
[SPEAKER_00]: It makes my bedroom feel like I've entered this secret garden if I don't have access to my phone.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not in my hands reach, whether that might be
[SPEAKER_00]: keeping my phone in the kitchen.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes I don't like to do that because I've ever roommate.
[SPEAKER_00]: So oftentimes I'll plug it in the bathroom so that way there's no alarm that goes off.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're not having to hear from the kitchen.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I love it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I always like to read before bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is something my friends know because another tangent doesn't matter if I'm hammered.
[SPEAKER_00]: I could be wasted.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm still pulling out my book and reading before I go to bed because that's just the habit I'm in.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've done it for ages.
[SPEAKER_00]: It feels crazy not to.
[SPEAKER_00]: As I said before, I don't need to give any indication of ways to scroll more.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think any of us need that.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have enough excuses in your head and reasons to scroll.
[SPEAKER_00]: But as I said, it could just be a bad habit.
[SPEAKER_00]: So try allowing your bedroom to be this beautiful romantic secret garden back in time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it could be back in time in the
[SPEAKER_00]: or it could be back in time to nineteen ninety one baby whatever you want yeah tap in it feels fun to like you can't reach me I'm off the grid me about having my phone like in the bathroom but in twenty twenty five that's how it feels it's like
[SPEAKER_00]: My phone isn't in my hand.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm off the grid.
[SPEAKER_00]: Try it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Other habits that you might have in the morning time.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's where my issue kind of is.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't really do well in the mornings.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so much more of a night owl and I love having phone free time.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's exciting to me, whereas in the morning, I've yet to find my personal sacred morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know that mornings are sacred, and they are beautiful in their own essence.
[SPEAKER_00]: My, the Lexi Lombard Morning is not sacred.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a tragedy.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you were to experience a morning with me, you might be incredibly frustrated with me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or just would be lackluster.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like so much of my life is really fun and playful and romantic.
[SPEAKER_00]: Exciting and thoughtful.
[SPEAKER_00]: My mornings could not be any of those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would love them to be, but they just aren't.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's across, I have to bear.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just so baked in to my nature that I've tried even years ago.
[SPEAKER_00]: This had to be twenty, eighteen, twenty, nineteen.
[SPEAKER_00]: I made a quote unquote morning routine video, a classic YouTube video.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it was basically my night routine to make my morning as short as possible.
[SPEAKER_00]: That way I did not have to think.
[SPEAKER_00]: The outfit is picked out.
[SPEAKER_00]: The phone is charged.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'd have to go back and watch.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't remember, but I've always been that way.
[SPEAKER_00]: My mornings are short.
[SPEAKER_00]: The only thing I do is get up and get to where I need to go.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I give myself the time to enjoy myself and relax, I'll go back to bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: It literally doesn't matter if I wake up, have a cup of coffee, sit outside, let the sun hit my face, read,
[SPEAKER_00]: do morning pages, have breakfast.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I don't have anywhere to be, and I just relaxed myself after waking up from a beautiful slumber, I've relaxed myself to go back to bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love my bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love sleeping.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's one of my favorite activities.
[SPEAKER_00]: So to get myself to stop sleeping is hard, and my phone blue light really just seems to do the trick.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is it the obvious thing?
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't have any advice yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm really hoping that's not your issue because I love to solve problems and that's not a problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can solve for like if I were to wake up and read first thing, I would love to buy myself back to having my eyes closed.
[SPEAKER_00]: It has to be an activity.
[SPEAKER_00]: It has to be something to leave the house.
[SPEAKER_00]: It has to be something that requires me to get my shoes on and that's not even sometimes enough because I'll wake up early in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: I take spoon out and then if I'm not disciplined, if I'm not diligent, I get back into bed and it's something I have a little bit of shame about, but could be worse.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I did not plan this episode nor did I write any sort of outline, but off the top of my head the most common reasons for scrolling.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would assume would be
[SPEAKER_00]: need for connection, socialization, boredom, procrastination, or just bad practice.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've done it so many times that it's almost muscle memory.
[SPEAKER_00]: I hope I provided some solutions.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really like small steps.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know that it's really popular in the same age and personality types to be all or nothing kind of people.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that's a phase.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you can do anything this week, I would say try to cut your screen time down by thirty minutes every day.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it's seven hours or now,
[SPEAKER_00]: Try to get it six hours thirty minutes.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's my goal for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's your challenge this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: My challenge this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're so curious, thank you so much for asking.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know you've been dying to know.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got back into the artist way.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, if you're not familiar, the artist way is Julia Cameron's work book that was created in the nineties.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is a timeless classic you can pick it up at any age at any phase in your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's to channel and speak to your inner artist and guess who has an inner artist you all of you.
[SPEAKER_00]: We all have an inner artist that needs to be nurtured and I got nine weeks in last September I believe and I was pretty diligent with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It probably took me about eleven weeks to get through the first nine weeks, but then I took six or so months off.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought, okay, I guess I have to start from the beginning because I didn't finish.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's try to see if I can do all twelve weeks this time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I was driving home yesterday and I've been dying for a new audiobook.
[SPEAKER_00]: because I had finished Melissa Broder so sad today, which my God, she is so fun to listen to.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really adore listening to her, and I wanted to listen to Brady's Sweetgrass, which really feels like emotionally, it's on a completely different side of this spectrum.
[SPEAKER_00]: It feels so pretty and so beautiful and based in timeless existence, whereas Melissa Broder feels so personal and so relevant to
[SPEAKER_00]: the nuances of today.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, besides the point, was listening to a really good audio book, really loved it, and then I wanted to listen to reading sweet girls, but I just don't like the voice of the narrator.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't get into it, and I've just been itching for something to listen to if I'm not in the mood for music.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I saw that I still had the artist's way down, but because sometimes if I'm reading a book, I know that I'm going to be in the car a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will download the audiobook as well so that I don't have to stop hearing my book if I can't physically read it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So then I thought, okay, it's a week nine.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's continue.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's see what's up.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I really enjoyed listening to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I figured I just took a very long pause.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do I really need to go back to week one and do the first nine weeks all over again?
[SPEAKER_00]: What if I don't make it?
[SPEAKER_00]: Why don't I start at week nine or pick back up?
[SPEAKER_00]: I shall say a week nine and see this project through.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if I feel as if I need to go back to the beginning after completing week twelve, so be it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that's really working for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: And one of the main tasks of the artist's way is to write three pages every single morning and creatively they are called morning pages.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, as someone who's really not a morning person, as I just been five minutes monologueing about, I allow myself to write three pages at any point during the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I could do mine tonight.
[SPEAKER_00]: I could do mine in the afternoon.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care as long as I open my journal, let the stream of consciousness out.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm satisfied.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't let the good be the enemy of the perfect.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's my motto.
[SPEAKER_00]: So my goal for the week is to do three pages every single day this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: Feeling pretty good about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I also would like to be asleep by midnight.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, I don't know that's going to work for this week because I went out like a maniac.
[SPEAKER_00]: I went out like a twenty one year old this weekend.
[SPEAKER_00]: I went out Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
[SPEAKER_00]: I haven't done that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I could not tell you the last time that I've done that.
[SPEAKER_00]: normally I'll go out once maybe twice for even on Sunday to not get back home until almost midnight on Sunday crazy and then as I said I need my reading time and I'm really at a good point in my book so I've not been going to bed until one thirty or two and that's not good sleep hygiene
[SPEAKER_00]: That's something I debate to myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, maybe that's propaganda that I fall for is that you are most productive in the morning because I have never been.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've never been.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I can say that anytime I've ever woken up in the morning, had a full day that started very early, I've never regretted it.
[SPEAKER_00]: However, there's plenty of times I stay up late doing things and I've also never regretted that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's a belief that I'm constantly questioning.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I should go to bed early and I should wake up early.
[SPEAKER_00]: The science is there, something about like the different endocrine.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: Chinese medicine throw another medical terms of all sorts of
[SPEAKER_00]: blah, blah, blah.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's good for your body to be asleep by what?
[SPEAKER_00]: Ten, thirty, eleven, but it's ten PM now.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I am creative right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to draw.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to talk.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to hang.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to think.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to write.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't want to sleep.
[SPEAKER_00]: Me fighting myself is this not the human condition.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'll create a rule for yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you should debate with yourself about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then feel bad that you're breaking your own self to started rule.
[SPEAKER_00]: I came up with, you need to go to bed before midnight out of thin air.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm over here like, well, this is why I don't think that'll work.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I'm going to feel guilty for breaking it.
[SPEAKER_00]: This arbitrary rule that I've decided upon myself, ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous.
[SPEAKER_00]: But morning pages, getting three pages in the journal is something that I plan to do this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: is absolutely achievable, and I also plan to finish all twelve weeks of the artist's way.
[SPEAKER_00]: This week, if I could finish Jitterbug perfume, my book by Tom Robbins Live in Reading, that would feel so good because I've been reading it on and off since end of April.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would say, yeah, we need to wrap this one up.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's almost July.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thankfully, I've had audio books that I can listen to in between, but yeah, I need to get this one done.
[SPEAKER_00]: Other things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, plan parenthood.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's potentially being defunded in the next week or so Republicans or congressional Republicans, I should say, are voting to potentially defund plan parenthood.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the big beautiful bill, as it's called, could be on Trump's desk and
[SPEAKER_00]: It's really frustrating.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I want to make some sort of promotional posts regarding plan parenthood awareness, call your congressman.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have a number.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have an email that you can reach out to.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can put those in the show notes as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, I want to make a piece regarding that because plan parenthood isn't just abortions.
[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, I fully support any woman wanting to have an abortion.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm by far pro choice.
[SPEAKER_00]: After seeing any woman talk about her pregnancy, her birth story, what it's like to be a mother, that's a choice.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should be able to decide I don't want to do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is a whole thing, but regardless of any of that, there's also cancer screenings, STI.
[SPEAKER_00]: testing birth control a lot of times that's the only healthcare center in the town so to shut down those is shutting down accessible healthcare which is something that the United States already really lacks on top of that if plan parenthood gets defunded or at least like the funding goes down they'll shut down a ton of plan parenthood centers so it doesn't even matter if it's accessible in the sense that like abortion would be legal in your state if there's not a plan parenthood near then you don't have access to having that
[SPEAKER_00]: It feels so ridiculous.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what's the word for something that's incredibly outdated?
[SPEAKER_00]: That works.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's incredibly outdated.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I want to do something in regards to that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I also have some cards I want to make.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have friends, multiple friends right now going through some pretty tough times.
[SPEAKER_00]: which you really, I know that this is a trite statement, but you really never know what people are going through.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can see even as a close friend and think all as well might not touch face with them for a week or so, touch face and we just don't know if you're going through.
[SPEAKER_00]: We really don't and I just want to extend compassion anyway that I can.
[SPEAKER_00]: Unfortunately, on Instagram, I asked for habits you want to break as opposed to questions, which is normally what I asked for.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I didn't just ask habits that you want to break.
[SPEAKER_00]: I also said habits you're trying to start.
[SPEAKER_00]: So instead of doing the Q&A portion of this episode, I'll look through habits that you want to break.
[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, I decided to focus on scrolling, but I'll see which habits you're trying to start and break.
[SPEAKER_00]: and give my best quick off the cuff advice for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So let's get into that.
[SPEAKER_00]: But first, a word from today's sponsors.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Really so many of you guys are vaping.
[SPEAKER_00]: Guys, why are you vaping?
[SPEAKER_00]: Smoke is cigarette like an adult God.
[SPEAKER_00]: Geez.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just kidding.
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of you are also trying to stop smoking weed.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know I said at the beginning of this episode that I don't have an issue with it, but my smoking habits are so environmentally impacted.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I am a peer pressure smoker.
[SPEAKER_00]: The only time I've ever really reached for a cigarette on my own accord is
[SPEAKER_00]: Nothing, a company's a good heavy cry, more than a cigarette.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like if I'm sobbing, something about it, but you're also talking to someone who has a good heavy cry, by annually.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I would say not even once a year.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe once every two or three years, do I have a real sob, I don't think it has continue for more tears.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I do wish I could cry more.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do think that it's cathartic and there's got to be some therapy involved in why I don't more.
[SPEAKER_00]: I digress, but I have certain friends that I like to smoke with so if those friends aren't in town, if those friends aren't around, I'm not really smoking and often the older you get the friends that smoke really drop off because I'm twenty nine now my friend and I were discussing this my favorite way to smoke is
[SPEAKER_00]: outside during the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do not like smoking in my house and falling into the couch.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to be in the sunshine looking at the leaves on the trees.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to be looking at the ocean.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want sand in my toes.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to be outside involved in Mother Nature if I'm high.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to smoke like a little hippie.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do not want to be fried ordering food off caviar and watching TV.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can do that all on my own.
[SPEAKER_00]: But my friend was asking me as we were smoking a joint.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's like, is there anyone else you smoke with?
[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, it said one friend's name and I was like, but besides her, no.
[SPEAKER_00]: For example, my roommate and I, oh my God, we used to smoke every time we hung out, not in a huge quantity, but at least a little hit or two off the bowl.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my God, just as well good all anymore.
[SPEAKER_00]: That girl probably has smoked twice in the last five years and a lot of other friends that would smoke every single night before bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was constantly going on a smoke walk with them.
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't do it on anymore.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's oftentimes that they start having a bad time getting high and then that just ends it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So oftentimes, I don't even feel like I'm hanging out with that many people at smoke.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I ended up not really smoking too often.
[SPEAKER_00]: I also do feel, as I said, I like to smoke like a little hippie.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really believe that weed tells you when it's time to stop.
[SPEAKER_00]: You kind of get the feeling.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, oh, no.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think it's doing it for me anymore.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're already saying that you want to stop, I feel like you got to listen to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's take a little break.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what this is.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is where we'll be.
[SPEAKER_00]: And weed's always going to be there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think of how far it's come in legalization in the recent years.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it'll always be there for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you may as well take a little bit of a break and ways to replace it.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of CBD joints and things that you can smoke that are herbal that don't get you high.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you feel you have that hands and mouth oral fixation that needs to be met.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have a lollipop or a mint or a lozinger.
[SPEAKER_00]: Any sort of something that you can suck on, but also taking it out of sight.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think out of sight out of mind and then once again in the same vein as if you tell yourself if I tell myself and mind you I also don't have the addiction gene so you have to take that into account for something like nicotine physical addiction weed
[SPEAKER_00]: Someone argue physical addiction, someone argue, no, but I don't even have the mental addiction that doesn't run in my blood.
[SPEAKER_00]: So please take this with a grain of salt.
[SPEAKER_00]: But as I was saying, if I give myself permission, oh, you can wake up.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can roll a joint right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: You could smoke all day throughout every day for the rest of your life if you want to.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want to wake and bake and keep smoking until the moment you go to sleep, sure, go for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And suddenly, it's like, well, I don't want to.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, if I said, you can go to the grocery store, you want to buy ten packs of Oreos, you want to eat them all, go for it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, well, no.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, I know I was having a sweet craving.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really want an apple and peanut butter.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I like play mental games with myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: But let's see what else you guys are asking because I really don't feel that I'm the most qualified person because that's not something that I actually start with.
[SPEAKER_00]: Ooh, a couple of you are talking about skin picking.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I used to be a really big skin picker.
[SPEAKER_00]: That was probably my biggest stress coping mechanism throughout high school.
[SPEAKER_00]: And even like end of middle school would just sit, Chris Cross Apple saw us on my bathroom counter, my face as close to my bathroom mirror as possible.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I would spend probably forty five minutes to an hour and a half
[SPEAKER_00]: every single night finding anything I could pick, pop, rip off of my skin, pluck, eyebrow hairs, squeeze a black head.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I had acne, amazing.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I didn't, didn't matter.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was still spending the same amount of time and I realized that it was trying to alleviate myself of any sort of stress.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're seeking that sort of satisfaction.
[SPEAKER_00]: Something that I wasn't able to get anywhere else.
[SPEAKER_00]: And honestly, it stopped a lot with therapy.
[SPEAKER_00]: But when I started to understand myself and what I need to do to keep myself mentally healthy and I was working on that, I found that I was going to the mirror less and less and that's because I had less stress and I had less stress that I needed to alleviate from myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Ooh, another chance to talk about my nighttime routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: See pop made in so that they're looking to start a nighttime routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, there's so many ways you can do it, but my favorite thing is to just plug in my phone and say bye, bye robot, seeing you all see you tomorrow.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm off the clock now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And now I have a Kindle which is so great because I can have the lights on my nightstand off and I love the Kindle.
[SPEAKER_00]: The paperback books are so chic and they'll always be a classic.
[SPEAKER_00]: A Kindle's just not as sexy as a book.
[SPEAKER_00]: and I love a book.
[SPEAKER_00]: However, the Kindle is functional.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: It has its own light source.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can go on Night Mode.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can change the typeface.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can change the margins, which margins and typeface have kept me from reading so many amazing books.
[SPEAKER_00]: because you know when you get a tiny book, it's probably something that a teacher would have, a used bookstore would have, your grandpa would have.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it might be an amazing story, but if the book is tiny, the margins are small, and the font type is ugly, I'm gonna have a hard time focusing, whereas on a Kindle,
[SPEAKER_00]: doesn't matter.
[SPEAKER_00]: You get to choose and then if you're reading a book that you don't understand a certain word, you can hold it down and it gives you the definition.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's fabulous.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I really look forward to reading my condom, but I also look forward to being a girly pop and using my imagination.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no better way to drift off to sleep than by thinking of a fantasy, thinking of your crush.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thinking of all the beautiful scenarios that you guys could have together.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thinking of anything you want, any dream, there's no dream too big.
[SPEAKER_00]: Try to think of a dream that's incomprehensible, start there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Try to challenge yourself to think of the most beautiful scenario possible because why not it's your imagination.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why not make it the most blissful, beautiful thing?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I love a daydream.
[SPEAKER_00]: So my nighttime routine basically consists of me getting my bedroom ready, tidying up.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like to sleep in a clean space.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes I've got a pile of clothes on the chair.
[SPEAKER_00]: The shoes are spilling off the shoe rack, but give myself some times, literally two minutes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just pick up a couple things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Once again, this is a reoccurring theme that really works for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I tell myself that I don't have to do it, it makes me do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I tell myself I have to do it, I'll rebel.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it works both ways.
[SPEAKER_00]: The y'all tell myself I'm like, just pick up that one pair of shoes.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: Pick up one.
[SPEAKER_00]: Great.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll pick up all twelve.
[SPEAKER_00]: Easy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Say less.
[SPEAKER_00]: Done.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I'll put on something cozy.
[SPEAKER_00]: I used to really go in, wait at Imask, Maltape, lately I've been sleeping without Maltape, but that's part of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Really, the basis is to get cozy and bed to read, and then once I'm sleepy, go to fantasy land, and then ninety-nine.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, next one.
[SPEAKER_00]: Phone before bed, it's embarrassing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Phone scrolling, I want to read more.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want to read more, read, you either need like a kickoff book, something that's going to be super easy and hook you in real you in instantly.
[SPEAKER_00]: My go-to recommendation for this is always the seven husbands of Evelyn Hugo.
[SPEAKER_00]: But more than that, sometimes a non-fiction book reals me in.
[SPEAKER_00]: If there's something I really want to learn, whether that be business-related, history-related,
[SPEAKER_00]: spiritual manifestation, anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: If there's a topic that interests you, sometimes it's not the time for a fiction book.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love to oscillate between fiction and nonfiction.
[SPEAKER_00]: So this sounds pretty unhelpful, but I do mean it sincerely.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want to read more, pick something that you're actually interested in reading.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I like this.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to start asking more questions.
[SPEAKER_00]: Huh, I think that if you don't have to think of the questions, because if you're not a very inquisitive person, then you would have to start there.
[SPEAKER_00]: really you would just be asking them which that's a nice habit to start to be comfortable enough with yourself to ask questions because there are sometimes that I'm listening and I do have questions and I'm afraid to ask sometimes I'm not but sometimes I am I like that is even a concept for a new habit to start I'm going to take that one and put it in my pocket I like that
[SPEAKER_00]: See, this is the world we live in, Kate said, less short form content and choosing long form.
[SPEAKER_00]: Get my attention span back.
[SPEAKER_00]: Totally.
[SPEAKER_00]: Totally, because if you get too involved in short term content, it really, it pulls you down quick.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's a slippery slope.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm currently proud to say, I'm really heavily on my YouTube game right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have a meeting with a new manager tomorrow, and I'm so afraid.
[SPEAKER_00]: that she's going to tell me that I'm not active enough on Instagram and TikTok.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I just love the podcast and YouTube the most right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they find, or I find them to be easier on the mental health.
[SPEAKER_00]: So check out my YouTube vlogs.
[SPEAKER_00]: What a perfect way to plug me.
[SPEAKER_00]: YouTube.com slash Lexi Lombard.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think my vlogs are fun.
[SPEAKER_00]: I also have some commentary.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm made.
[SPEAKER_00]: I really like my anti-cluttering video.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I like my chatgy routine video.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I really like my decluttering video.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you haven't watched that yet, it's one of my favorite videos I made in a while.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought it was going to be really helpful for people.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I hope that I hope that you like it as much as I enjoyed making it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, checking on my ex.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's a bad habit.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's a bad habit because it hurts your own feelings.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what you're doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're actively hurting your own feelings.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're setting yourself up for failure.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think a block of mute is so fine.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's the only way I've ever been able to really get over someone if it's tricky because I'll lurk.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's so painful.
[SPEAKER_00]: And just using the features, it's going to seem intense.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what I've learned is when someone blocks you, they're doing it for them.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're doing it to help themselves, not to like,
[SPEAKER_00]: punch to you often times nine times out of ten I would say so what's it trying to remember I don't need to share the entire story all the fucking time why not here's my thing you know the or concept of being an open book or not being an open book keeping things to yourself moving in silence or being
[SPEAKER_00]: open and vulnerable and sharing is caring.
[SPEAKER_00]: How I feel is that I've had so many life experiences.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've had so many silly stories, so many tragic stories, so many random, absolutely absurd stories, so many sexy stories, just an unbelievable amount of stories that if I don't share them, it's almost like a chapter of my book is going missing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So when I'm sharing something with someone, I might be an open book, but it's a really long kind of heavy book.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm happy to give you chapter four at random, but the Laura is so extensive that, yeah, I'll tell you the whole fucking story because there's actually so many stories that me getting you just this is just one taste.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just one bite of the entire meal.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like for you to have that bite, like this is a really flavorful bite, like I can't believe that you just gave that to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like honey, you have no idea the restaurant you're at.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's an incredible meal ahead.
[SPEAKER_00]: No pun intended.
[SPEAKER_00]: Buckle up, like I me giving you a sample.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you thinking that's the book is hilarious.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: I say share the story.
[SPEAKER_00]: Napping every day.
[SPEAKER_00]: See, this is give or take.
[SPEAKER_00]: You could be napping because you're overworking yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You could be napping because you're depressed because I love sleep so much.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oftentimes, if I am depressed, that's the first coping mechanism.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I'm stressed, that's what I'm going to be like picking at my skin, maybe snacking on worse foods, or I don't know, like more of those filling habits, whereas if I'm depressed, need a nap, must sleep, but it's also summer and days are longer.
[SPEAKER_00]: So an afternoon nap sort of fits the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, who doesn't love a Cesta?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's literally part of the culture in other countries.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I wouldn't get to work up over a nap unless it's you oversleeping.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if it's you compensating for lack of sleep or overwork, girl do it, stretching daily.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, at every time I stretch, I think to myself, this is so nice.
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to do this more.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's so accessible because you can basically stretch anywhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I always say when I'm stretching after a workout class, I'm going to do this when I get home.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I never, ever, ever stretch when I'm home.
[SPEAKER_00]: The only time I ever stretch is when I'm at the workout class.
[SPEAKER_00]: And one of my frustrations
[SPEAKER_00]: Is that there's a warm up and then you kind of get into the workout and there's a cooldown and so many people leave the workout class during the cooldown and I think a the classes and over but also be this is so lovely.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why are you leaving?
[SPEAKER_00]: I guess the frustration in the pet peeve is that
[SPEAKER_00]: This is part of the class, like this part's not optional.
[SPEAKER_00]: What do you mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: This isn't bonus.
[SPEAKER_00]: The cool down, it's essential, but also it's so lovely.
[SPEAKER_00]: I love the feeling of stretching.
[SPEAKER_00]: It feels so good, but I have trouble figuring out where and when to incorporate stretching into my daily life in my house.
[SPEAKER_00]: I only ever do it at gyms or after a workout class.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's been a question I've been asking people lately.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, where, where do you read when do you read?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I love to read during transportation.
[SPEAKER_00]: That was sort of my go to reading time when I lived in New York was on the subway.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then when I moved to LA, I'm like, well, if I read him bed, I'm not going to read nearly as much because eventually I'll fall asleep.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like reading sitting in a chair.
[SPEAKER_00]: Unless I'm moving.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so that's why audiobooks have been good for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I like asking people,
[SPEAKER_00]: that are readers, like, where and when.
[SPEAKER_00]: I also like asking people who work from home, where and when they like to work, especially if they're self-employed and get to pick their hours, I'm just actually curious, like, do like, sitting.
[SPEAKER_00]: So serious when I ask that though, I'm like, do you like being at your kitchen counter?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you like to be lying on your stomach on the couch?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you like to go to a coffee shop?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you like to work in the morning?
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you find your best and flow during the afternoon?
[SPEAKER_00]: What was the question that I just escaped from?
[SPEAKER_00]: Stretching daily, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
[SPEAKER_00]: But just where and when I need to figure that out?
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, maybe I'm losing steam on this episode and I should call it now.
[SPEAKER_00]: What did you think?
[SPEAKER_00]: Did you like it?
[SPEAKER_00]: If you liked it, you know, you should do review it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should go into the podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, Lexi, that bitch.
[SPEAKER_00]: Love her.
[SPEAKER_00]: How cute is she?
[SPEAKER_00]: I think you can do it on Spotify too.
[SPEAKER_00]: I believe you can leave comments, which for some reason didn't know that you guys were actually doing next every time I see a comment occasionally whenever I am in the right spot and see one.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so flattered and then salad I didn't see it earlier, but you should go into the podcast app and do it because I feel like that's where it really counts.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: They be saying that it does the things, but I'm like, does it do the thing?
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to be a big podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to, I want this show to be major, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: So help me do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you are a Patreon listener, then we will get into the extended episode now.
[SPEAKER_00]: But for everyone else, check out my YouTube channel.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm on Instagram and TikTok.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think I'm that active, but active enough in case you're curious.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're just a podcast listener, I appreciate you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I hope that you decrease your screen time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I hope you start good habits.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I love you all.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thank you for listening.
[SPEAKER_00]: And take care.
[SPEAKER_00]: XOXO, like see.