[SPEAKER_00]: This is the manual podcast number three.
[SPEAKER_00]: Musashi, the sword fighter.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's got a quote, except everything just the way it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's got an adjacent quote.
[SPEAKER_00]: Truth is not what you want it to be.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is what it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you must bend to its power or live a lie.
[SPEAKER_00]: So we have to accept things.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I like those statements from Musashi.
[SPEAKER_00]: I believe those statements from Musashi.
[SPEAKER_00]: I support those statements from Musashi.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I have spent a decent amount of time backing them up, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And probably the premier case I have of that was when I talk about Jim Surlesley and Lewis Pollard Jr., Jim Surlesley who's wounded in Vietnam lost both of his legs, just below the hip, lost one arm.
[SPEAKER_00]: and he was able to thrive in his life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the other counter example is Lewis Porter Jr.
[SPEAKER_00]: who was also severely wounded, lost both of his legs, had severe damage to his hands.
[SPEAKER_00]: But he did not thrive.
[SPEAKER_00]: He struggled with alcohol.
[SPEAKER_00]: He just struggled in a bunch of different categories.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then he eventually spiraled down to end killed himself.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when we talked to Jim Sorosley, they had been roommates or not roommates, but they were both in rehab at the same time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Jim Sorosley had completely followed Musashi's advice and just accepted the situation he was in.
[SPEAKER_00]: and he said that Louis polar junior didn't quite get there.
[SPEAKER_00]: He didn't quite get there.
[SPEAKER_00]: So we have to accept things that you have to, in fact, even even from the leadership perspective, like people get in a bad situation and they try and ignore it.
[SPEAKER_00]: They try and act like it's something that it's not.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, no, actually you're losing money or you're out of money.
[SPEAKER_00]: or your product is failing, or whatever the case may be.
[SPEAKER_00]: And people love you, so I don't know if it's not, no, no, no, no, actually this is the situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to accept it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And once you accept it, now we can start doing a good assessment of the true circumstances.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not gonna waste any time fighting things that you can't change, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's gonna allow you to faster adapt to whatever the situation is.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to help you risk be responsive instead of reactive.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to reduce frustration and anxiety because you get frustrated when you can't change the thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: You think it can be changed.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's not the thing and it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you have to accept things.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this will also, believe it or not, so also give you the ability to say good.
[SPEAKER_00]: in bad situations.
[SPEAKER_00]: To look at the situation and say, oh, this is a problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: Things didn't go the way I expected.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm out of money.
[SPEAKER_00]: My employees are leaving.
[SPEAKER_00]: No one likes my product.
[SPEAKER_00]: Good.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I can make adjustments.
[SPEAKER_00]: Good.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I don't have to try that same product again.
[SPEAKER_00]: Good.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I can tighten up my budget.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
[SPEAKER_00]: It gives you the ability
[SPEAKER_00]: to try and figure out what good is going to come from the situation that you're in.
[SPEAKER_00]: So as a rule, like Musashi says, you have to accept things the way they are, just the way they are, got accepted.
[SPEAKER_00]: But, and this is, it's, it's so bizarre to have these totally contrary views, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: To say, you have to accept things, but there are things that you do not have to accept.
[SPEAKER_00]: There are situations that occur where you have to find another way.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think a great example of this is Ernest Shackleton, who was on his ship.
[SPEAKER_00]: The endurance was crushed by this is a book that we have never covered on the podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I've always said I would cover it on the podcast, but first I'm going to cover another expedition, which is the Greeley expedition which went to the North Pole or attempted to go to the North Pole and they ran into problems and they were caught in ice and they completely like did not succeed.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they, there's reports of cannibalism.
[SPEAKER_00]: They killed each other like it was an opposite of shackleton.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, shackleton was this incredible leader.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, but he did not accept the situation that they were in.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like their their ship gets crushed by ice.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's twenty seven men stranded.
[SPEAKER_00]: They abandoned the ship.
[SPEAKER_00]: They take whatever they can.
[SPEAKER_00]: They live on these like ice flows.
[SPEAKER_00]: But then the ice starts to break up and finally they take the lifeboats.
[SPEAKER_00]: They they paddle the lifeboats and sell the lifeboats to this place called elephant island.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then Shackleton in five.
[SPEAKER_00]: Again, this is all just I'm not accepting this.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not accepting that are that we're gonna die because our eyes because our vessels trapped.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna get out and we're gonna set up Business on these ice flows.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, those things are cracking and breaking up and sinking cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're not gonna accept that.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna get in these life boats.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna get somewhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, we're gonna get to this elephant island.
[SPEAKER_00]: Once we get to elephant island to unoccupied.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, what are we gonna do there?
[SPEAKER_00]: Die?
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to set up camp.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to start working.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're starting hunting.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to make things work.
[SPEAKER_00]: And by the way, eventually, Shackleton's going to say, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to go get a cell.
[SPEAKER_00]: And he's going to go eight hundred miles in a freaking lifeboat.
[SPEAKER_00]: And once he gets to a place called South Georgia, he lands, but there's no one there.
[SPEAKER_00]: So he has to cross this mountainous unmapped uncharted terrain and get to an old wailing town, a little wailing station, not even a town, a little wailing station, and convince people that, hey, we need to go rescue these twenty whatever, twenty guys are left on this elephant island.
[SPEAKER_00]: Any organizes the rescue.
[SPEAKER_00]: and they go and save everybody and everyone survives.
[SPEAKER_00]: So there's like fourteen times when you know all the situation is we're all gonna die and he said no.
[SPEAKER_00]: There are times when you are going to be caught off guard.
[SPEAKER_00]: Things are going to occur that you don't expect that you don't like.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to fall short.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to hit an obstacle that you didn't expect.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's going to happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: And although Moosashi said, you got to accept everything just the way it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you got to say, no, I don't accept that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is something that you pointed out that I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't accept it.
[SPEAKER_00]: There are times where you have to say, no, I'm not going to accept this.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to do something different.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then it's very important to be able to take a step back and detach and reassess the situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: Reassess the situation that you're in.
[SPEAKER_00]: and assess the path and assess your goal and assess your resources and find a freaking way.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what's difficult about this in life is you have to be able to discern which is which.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what you have to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: And in order to do that,
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to get out of procedural memory mode.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to remove your unconscious habit.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to take away your behavioral inertia.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you have to go into manual mode.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because you can look at a big obstacle and say, I'll never be able to get over that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because you've never made it over that obstacle before.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you're used to that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if that's the way you operate,
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to make the changes that are required.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you have to switch into manual mode.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to decide actively decide what you need to accept because something is truly unchangeable and you're going to have to change your course.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to have to change your being.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or you're going to have to figure out what you need to reject.
[SPEAKER_00]: What things you will not accept.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you've got to pose your will, or you've got to open your mind, which are again, these are two opposite things.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to impose my wanted to get through it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or open my mind, say, wait, how can I get around this?
[SPEAKER_00]: How can I avoid this?
[SPEAKER_00]: But both those options are there.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you allow your behavioral inertia just to guide your life, you're going to be things that you're just going to accept and you're just going to go with what happens.
[SPEAKER_00]: And there's going to be opportunities where you could have rejected things that were occurring in your life and you don't, you just accept them.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's not good.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's not good.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you have to stand up and say, no, I don't freaking accept this thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not happening.
[SPEAKER_00]: watch this.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, that was a, especially when you, when we actually talked about it, I always felt this, because remember, you know, the part of the cannon, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: One day we were rolling and in Jiu Jitsu, we're training, you know, I didn't get heated, but it kind of got heated.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then I, you and me, yeah, what was the long time ago?
[SPEAKER_01]: They got put it this way.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, it was a good role and it started to get escalated as far as like intensity will say.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then I, my knee did you fight me?
[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, not mentally or emotionally.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just kind of a physical role.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was all like, and my knee hit you in the face.
[SPEAKER_01]: Not the kind of like, he, you in the face.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was hard.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I felt it on me.
[SPEAKER_01]: So, you know, you stopped the road at a courtesy.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, like, hey, oh shit, are you good?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, you know, whatever.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you looked at me and you said, what happened?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, as if you didn't feel like that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Which I said, of course you felt it.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I saw what you're doing now.
[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, ooh, that is some cool shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: If I can use this and it didn't really like like gel with me, but I always remembered that where I'm like, oh, I see what you're doing, but it's like, you know how useful that is?
[SPEAKER_01]: If you can do that to yourself, you know, where and then like later on, like years later, which was more on the recent side of things where we like, you know who you are?
[SPEAKER_01]: Sorry, it was like now that you're like older we'll say for lack of a editor I said you don't accept like certain stuff You know like this.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so this idea this old idea being over the hill You know that right?
[SPEAKER_01]: I was like yeah, I'm over the hill So I'm gonna spend last time doing XYZ or whatever, you know kind of a thing, but a big part of that is just kind of giving up, you know on yourself You don't kind of a thing like except being like oh, yeah
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't work out as often as I could before, whether it because I'm physically, I physically gave up, or because my schedules and my responsibilities are a little bit more robust nowadays.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm gonna give up on this other thing when I'm like, oh, Brad, you don't have to accept that.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can still do that stuff.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you don't accept that.
[SPEAKER_01]: And if that's like your normal way of doing it, be surprised what you can do.
[SPEAKER_00]: it's it's it's like a little psychological track too because let's face it you're going to get older yeah yeah like hundreds but to just accept that without like
[SPEAKER_00]: Scrapping?
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, don't do that, man.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you're gonna, you know, you might have something happen in your life in your world.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, hmm, maybe it's a battle that you're going to lose.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: But doesn't mean you have to accept it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean you have to roll over.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And listen, are there some things in life where you're gonna lose your business because you screwed up and you're in the hole and you're upside down.
[SPEAKER_00]: You owe a bunch of people.
[SPEAKER_00]: You try and hang on as best you can, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And a certain point you go, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: This is not working.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you're better off just to walk away.
[SPEAKER_00]: Does that happen?
[SPEAKER_00]: Of course it does.
[SPEAKER_00]: But there's also situations.
[SPEAKER_00]: You ever noticed you ever been in the, um, I was wrong with a dude the other day and I had him in, uh, you know, like a cobra choke.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I always like stabilized, you know, just fully stabilized.
[SPEAKER_00]: Stabilized and and he ended up tapping but it was like it was like when he did and he goes dude I was just
[SPEAKER_00]: like he was like hanging on, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I almost let go.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
[SPEAKER_00]: Cause it's just, well, I mean, is he gonna tap on wasting strength?
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to improve my position.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that stuff happens where it's like, if I can hold on just a little bit longer, just a little bit longer, you never know what's gonna change.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if you just say, and same thing like that guy, if he held on a little bit longer, I might let go.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, that was stabilized.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you know, your stabilized, you're like, oh, I'm not.
[SPEAKER_00]: not going anywhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, but if he held on, maybe I'm like, I'm starting to get like maybe I start to lose position a little, whatever the case may be.
[SPEAKER_00]: So how long can you actually just hold on?
[SPEAKER_00]: You ever, you know, there's stories about people and boxing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think there's one with Muhammad Ali and I forget who it was.
[SPEAKER_00]: He was saying, hey, cut my gloves off.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm done.
[SPEAKER_00]: And whoever's corner man is like, no, you're gonna keep going.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the other guy didn't answer the bell.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, those Hicks and Hicks, then I've been Hicks into your memory.
[SPEAKER_01]: Was Lulu, I think.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, that happened with him.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I can't do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then the finally finally got convinced, do whatever.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: I could get up.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you hold on just a little bit longer.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that makes sense.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just hold on a little bit longer.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're freaking hurting, too.
[SPEAKER_00]: But that's just fighting man.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes you just gotta not accept these things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just don't accept them.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, this is what it seems like the differentiator is between accepting things the way they are like Musashi.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's like facts in the moment.
[SPEAKER_01]: If it's like, hey, like, we're losing money, we lost money again today.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's a fact.
[SPEAKER_01]: So you got to accept it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't turn your back to these things.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, now, but don't accept the future.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, this potential future.
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't just start accepting the negative parts of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's saying it's like, uh, the course of, or the, what do you call the path of least resistance, almost kind of a thing where it's like, well, you know, I lifted today.
[SPEAKER_01]: I did, uh, let's say I did shoulder press today and I couldn't get my normal ten reps is what I deal with from time to time.
[SPEAKER_01]: and I should have only got like nine and I was kind of struggling.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I'm forty eight now.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I guess, you know, that's not really, that's not really for me anymore.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, it's like I'm over the hill and I just accepted.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, no.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is what I'm going to accept.
[SPEAKER_01]: I accepted the fact that I only got nine today.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to accept that as it is.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I don't accept the fact that that's my fate.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's a potential future.
[SPEAKER_01]: So it's like, yeah, if you don't accept the negative potential, you know, downhill potential future, whatever, I feel like that's where you can succeed.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's where you can change that, or sorry, keep the successful trajectory regardless of that painful day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think to sum up what you're saying, accept your circumstances, but don't accept your fate.
[UNKNOWN]: Exactly.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's what we're doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to be in manual mode to discern those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to consciously think about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Accept your circumstances.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is where you're at, but don't accept your fate.
[SPEAKER_00]: Fight it.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's all I've got for tonight.
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