[SPEAKER_00]: Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for listening.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for downloading and thank you for subscribing to the latest edition of the Twelve Kyle Podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am your boy, Twelve Kyle.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, check this out.
[SPEAKER_00]: On this episode, what I want to talk about is game.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not the sport but game like the game of life, but I will tell you this first and foremost it won't be too much game shout out to the homie uncle Dolomite and the too much game podcast put on this episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna be a little bit like Dolomite.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just gonna give you some game and the game that I'm gonna give you today is
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, based off of mean that I saw in Facebook the other day got a shout out coach page.
[SPEAKER_00]: He posted it on his Facebook page and I saw it and I immediately screenshot it because these are what I'm going to say is a lot of words to live by and things that you can adapt into your everyday life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's what game is game isn't about playing games or running game.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's about how you
[SPEAKER_00]: take information words of encouragement sometimes it could be motivation and use it in your everyday life and I think if we're being honest with ourselves we probably don't get enough game on a day-to-day basis or maybe just maybe
[SPEAKER_00]: We get game from people who don't know what they're talking about.
[SPEAKER_00]: When we get game from people who don't have anything to bring to the table when it comes to speaking something real.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the things that I love about, you know, listening to the too much game podcast, what Uncle Dolomite is that,
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, he's going to tell you the real and a lot of times, I find myself, even though he's my boy, I find myself listening and nodding my head along because I agree a thousand percent with what he's saying.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think a lot of times in life, we
[SPEAKER_00]: Here are things, we see things, and for whatever reason we don't pay attention to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's an old saying that it goes something to the effect now, and I'm paraphrasing here.
[SPEAKER_00]: Something to the effect of everybody sees the writing on the wall, but they just assume it's for someone else.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's game.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I mean, like, when the writing is on the wall, you have to know what time it is as it relates to you.
[SPEAKER_00]: So on this episode, like I said, I'm just going to give you some game.
[SPEAKER_00]: Take it for what it's worth.
[SPEAKER_00]: Take it as the gospel.
[SPEAKER_00]: But take it and implement it into your everyday life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And these are no particular order.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number one.
[SPEAKER_00]: Even when you trust someone, keep some things to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll say it again.
[SPEAKER_00]: Even when you trust someone, keep some things to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Simply put, everything I'm at for everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: And everything's not meant for everybody to know.
[SPEAKER_00]: There is a level of diplomacy, there's a level of secrecy, there's a level of compartmentalism that you should have within yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody shouldn't know everything about you and your business.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mentioned Facebook earlier.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think one of the things that always
[SPEAKER_00]: I always hear people say, oh man, you know, people all in my business.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of you put your business on Facebook.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, people are gonna be in your business.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, like, duh.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're just waving away flags and hey, come to come see what I got cooking over here.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so you have a hand in there.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're assisting in that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you can't really be mad about people being in your business when simply put where you invited them in.
[SPEAKER_00]: And in most cases, people are going to come inside to your business and stay there.
[SPEAKER_00]: and talk about you because you force fed them information.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's funny because I saw this post a couple of months ago and I'm not gonna name this person's name but let's just say this person posted something about their significant other that they did not like and they were adamant about the fact that this person's significant other
[SPEAKER_00]: wasn't good, she was tired of him, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I just said to myself, I wonder how long this post is gonna stay up because she unleashed the hounds on him.
[SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, a couple of months, maybe a month passed, the post is only stayed up for maybe two or three days and I kept checking just to see.
[SPEAKER_00]: and sure enough, you know, she came back and then, you know, maybe two or three weeks later, posting selfies with the dude.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so it's like, you know, whatever issues she had with him, you know, you gotta keep that stuff in house.
[SPEAKER_00]: But like I said, even when you trust someone, something you gotta keep to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: So whatever her frustration was with that man, keep that to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: It wasn't meant for me to see or anybody else to see.
[SPEAKER_00]: Cause here's the thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of people saw it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you want to know how I know a lot of people saw it because nobody commented on it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's usually the case when you have a lot of eyeballs and very little interaction.
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of people that you definitely have more people seeing than they then you do commenting.
[SPEAKER_00]: But again, game is just game.
[SPEAKER_00]: Even when you trust someone, keep some things to yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number two, if you want to build something worthwhile,
[SPEAKER_00]: Be ready for criticism.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, listen, there's always gonna be people that criticize whatever you do.
[SPEAKER_00]: It does not matter.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care if you're doing something good.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think care if you're doing something great.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care if you're doing something that's beneficial to everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's always gonna be some people who disagree with what you're doing and they're gonna be critical luck.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, is everybody
[SPEAKER_00]: able to be criticized, of course.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if you're doing something good and it's something worthwhile, you would think that you wouldn't be criticized for it, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, like, let's take this podcast for instance.
[SPEAKER_00]: I thought it was a good idea to make this podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: But here's the thing, there was gonna be criticism about this podcast because this is a level of creative art that I have produced myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I understand that this podcast isn't everybody's cup of tea.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not drink champs, it's not Joe Biden, it's not, you know, Michelle Obama's part.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is the twelve Kyle podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is hosted, directed, and starring none other than yours truly twelve Kyle.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if Kyle likes the podcast, I don't give a shit, who don't like it?
[SPEAKER_00]: because it don't bother me.
[SPEAKER_00]: It really doesn't, but I will say this much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I understood that even in being creative, based on some of the things that I say, this is going to be some criticism.
[SPEAKER_00]: And there's always going to be some asshole who sees a thirty-second clip on Instagram, on TikTok.
[SPEAKER_00]: Most specifically TikTok, because a lot of people will see your stuff and they don't follow you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they'll jump into comments and they'll start saying something stupid.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like,
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you understand that this is a, a, a, a, a, thirty second clip.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll give an example.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like I had a episode a couple of weeks ago talking about the summertime and I put up a clip about, you know, kids playing outside and it's playing outside and not playing outside like how we used to play outside back in a day.
[SPEAKER_00]: And someone jumped in the comments and said, hey, you, you just don't understand.
[SPEAKER_00]: Global warming is is terrible and and it's not good.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's healthy for kids to be outside.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, do you, you do understand that first of all, what I said was ingest.
[SPEAKER_00]: J-E-S-T.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was being funny, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Secondly, I don't know you, lady.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't understand where you jumping in my comments.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that was a back and forth.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought I was entertaining.
[SPEAKER_00]: And she criticized the podcast saying that I was old and out of touch.
[SPEAKER_00]: That might be true.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because when I don't care.
[SPEAKER_00]: So she eventually took down her comments, which leaves me to believe that she probably blocked me, which is cool because I wasn't following her.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know who she was anyway.
[SPEAKER_00]: But again, if you're going to do something worthwhile, whether it be a podcast, whether it be you venture out on your own career-wise, whatever you're doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's going to be critics.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, you just have to make sure that your biggest credit doesn't lie in between your two ears.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number three.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your mental health is way more important than your career will ever be.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me say that again.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your mental health is way more important than your career will ever be.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man, don't spend a whole bunch of time worrying about stuff and make yourself sick of that job.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because here's the thing, I've seen it and I've seen people live it and I've lived it at one point in time of my life where you're just going so hard for this job and you're doing everything and you're staying, you're going to work early and staying late.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it takes the toll on your health, your mental health, it takes the toll on maybe your family life or whatever.
[SPEAKER_00]: Man listen, if you drop dead tomorrow, they will replace you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Excuse me, they will replace you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, don't about that.
[SPEAKER_00]: You will be replaced.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's going to be a little brief time for morning or whatever, huh, man?
[SPEAKER_00]: Wookie would be had a good career.
[SPEAKER_00]: We loved him.
[SPEAKER_00]: We got to miss him.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then let's, they're going to, that, that seat will not be cold.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, my motto, if you don't own the company, everybody's expendable.
[SPEAKER_00]: So invest in your, in your career, but also protect your mental health, protect your mental health at all parts at all points.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you don't, who will?
[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody.
[SPEAKER_00]: You gotta look out for yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: First and foremost.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number four.
[SPEAKER_00]: You become an unstoppable force when you realize that you can do it alone.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can.
[SPEAKER_00]: You really can.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's not a lot of things in this world that you can do alone, but guess what?
[SPEAKER_00]: It starts with a belief.
[SPEAKER_00]: And one of the things that I try to do, particularly as a father, is instilled in my kids, the confidence to understand that you can do anything that you put your mind to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, if you want to make excuses, you can do that too.
[SPEAKER_00]: But nobody's got time for excuses, because excuses don't take you anyway.
[SPEAKER_00]: The excuses will have you standing in the same place in the same spot day after day after day.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the days become weeks, weeks become months, months become years.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody's got time for excuses.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you can become an unstoppable force when you realize that you can do it alone.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now everything you can't do alone.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you can get more done alone than you can worrying about or waiting on people to help.
[SPEAKER_00]: The easiest motivator is yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to motivate yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you can motivate yourself, that's half the battle right there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number five, be okay with people not liking you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Most people don't like themselves.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's a fact.
[SPEAKER_00]: So there's gonna be some people that don't like you just because they see something in you that they don't have in themselves.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's their problem, not yours.
[SPEAKER_00]: Always remember that you're not familiar with the problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you don't like me, then that's on you.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's a you problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's never been my problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it doesn't matter what you're doing and we use the term haters.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's always gonna be haters.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's always gonna be haters.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like I said, be okay with being okay with having haters.
[SPEAKER_00]: The more haters you got, the better off you are.
[SPEAKER_00]: And more often than not, if you got a lot of haters, that means you might be doing something right.
[SPEAKER_00]: But again, people don't like themselves.
[SPEAKER_00]: People, some people really hate themselves.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if they hate themselves, what do you think they're going to say about you?
[SPEAKER_00]: Number six, nothing, excuse me, not everything will go according to plan.
[SPEAKER_00]: Be ready to adapt.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to be ready to adapt.
[SPEAKER_00]: Pivot.
[SPEAKER_00]: The plan is not always going to go the way that you wanted to go.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to be flexible.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care what you're doing in life.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to be flexible because you're going to call a play.
[SPEAKER_00]: and you come to the line of scrimmage and you're looking at it and I'm using the football reference here.
[SPEAKER_00]: You come to the line of scrimmage and you're looking off and the next thing you know, the safety's not where you thought he was gonna be.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the corner back is inching up and the line back is on his heels.
[SPEAKER_00]: That means he's gonna drop back into coverage.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, that goes against what you've called in the hurdle.
[SPEAKER_00]: What are you gonna do?
[SPEAKER_00]: You can audible to a new play.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or you can run the play that you called, but you know that you gotta improvise.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's what happens when things don't go according to plan.
[SPEAKER_00]: You gotta improvise.
[SPEAKER_00]: And life really is about how you adapt because one of the key things about life is that you don't know what's gonna be thrown at you.
[SPEAKER_00]: None of us know from day to day what's gonna be thrown at us.
[SPEAKER_00]: Most of us have a lot of us have pretty good days, but you don't know what's gonna be thrown at you the next day.
[SPEAKER_00]: So for as great as my Thursday was Friday, really might throw me a huge curveball.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I really have to be mentally and physically prepared to deal with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So like I said, not everything is going to go according to plan.
[SPEAKER_00]: Be ready to adapt.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's that's game.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just game number seven.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can always choose to be happy no matter what happens in your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Being sad should never be an option.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know that there are people who deal with mental health and sadness and depression.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am very empathetic for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how that feels, so I try my best not to condemn people who go through those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I always say, and this is something that my coaching college just always say, shout out to Coach Jay, Coach Jeffries.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know you're listening and watching.
[SPEAKER_00]: He would always say, just because you had a bad day, that means you have a bad life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the truth.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you're sad one day, that that means you gotta be sad the next day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Happiness in a lot of ways is a choice.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of us wake up and choose to be happy about it because we woke up because quite frankly, there's some people that aren't going to wake up tomorrow or the next day or the day after that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so happiness is a choice.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can choose to be happy.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can choose to be miserable.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's up to you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And lastly, number eight.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't waste your time stressing about the things you can't control.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's huge.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is so huge.
[SPEAKER_00]: I truly live by that.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's some real game right there.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't waste your time stressing about the things that you can't control.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think the easiest thing to do is to be prepared for what you know that you have control over.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's like we were talking a couple of days ago when we recorded the episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: Shout out to my home girl Marie.
[SPEAKER_00]: We were talking about getting married and we were talking and I think she mentioned something about being nervous or something.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, there's no reason for you to be nervous at your wedding.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know the result.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to get to the altar and he say no.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to get to an altar and Duane Lane shows up and steals your girl from like he did by her own a different world.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know the result.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would be nervous about playing when I was playing football at South Carolina State University.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would be nervous about playing against how.
[SPEAKER_00]: I knew we were prepared.
[SPEAKER_00]: I knew I was prepared, but you still nervous because you don't know the outcome.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you step inside of Oliver C. Dawson Stadium in Orange Works, South Carolina in twenty-two thousand people are going crazy.
[SPEAKER_00]: The band is going crazy.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't know how that game's going to go.
[SPEAKER_00]: There ends and flows, but I wasn't going to waste my time stressing about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't know the outcome, but I knew what I could control.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think when you know what you can control,
[SPEAKER_00]: you in a much better place mentally.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if you didn't study for that test, yeah, you gotta be stressed out thinking about that test because guess what, you weren't prepared.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your lack of preparation eliminated your ability to control the situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, if you have control, you would be prepared.
[SPEAKER_00]: You would have studied.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when you sat down to take that test, you were fine.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: But again, you can't waste your time stressing about things you can't control because what we'll find out a lot about life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, this is just game.
[SPEAKER_00]: What you're finding out a lot about life is that we have probably more control than we know that we do.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the control that we have, I don't know that we've used it as much of it as we should.
[SPEAKER_00]: In conclusion,
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of what I said, everything that I said is just game.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just game.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, it's up to you to take the game and run with.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm very glad that I saw this on Facebook.
[SPEAKER_00]: See, a lot of stuff on Facebook, but this is something that I was not only able to turn in the content, I think I gave you some game and something to take with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And for me, that's a good thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Ladies and gentlemen, that's gonna do it for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Again, that's going to do it for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am your boy, twelve Kyle.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll catch you guys next time.
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