WEBVTT 00:00.031 --> 00:05.239 [SPEAKER_00]: So, if this life is not perfectly good, but it is not perfectly bad, either, what is it then? 00:06.080 --> 00:10.546 [SPEAKER_00]: Alasapanotales says in the Quran, Inna ma ileru sriyusra. 00:11.367 --> 00:20.861 [SPEAKER_00]: So, this ayah is super deep, and it is also very misunderstood, and it is often even mistranslated, okay? 00:21.522 --> 00:26.950 [SPEAKER_00]: So, this particular ayah from in that is in Josaama, it is, um, 00:27.487 --> 00:35.840 [SPEAKER_00]: It says that in that indeed, malarostriusra that indeed with the difficulty is general is. 00:36.621 --> 00:43.572 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is grammatical in the sense that difficulty in this area is specific and singular. 00:44.233 --> 00:48.880 [SPEAKER_00]: In namalarostrius, or elif lem, is specific and singular. 00:48.900 --> 00:53.848 [SPEAKER_00]: In namalarostriusra, yusra here is general. 00:53.997 --> 01:05.734 [SPEAKER_00]: So, what the Aia is saying is that with any specific singular hardship comes along with it, along with it. 01:05.774 --> 01:12.944 [SPEAKER_00]: This is the Ma here is so important, and it should actually transform the way we view our lives. 01:13.505 --> 01:17.610 [SPEAKER_00]: The Ma, just the word Ma, Ma does not mean after. 01:17.650 --> 01:22.317 [SPEAKER_00]: This Aia does not say 01:23.140 --> 01:23.921 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't say that. 01:24.622 --> 01:28.748 [SPEAKER_00]: It says with the hardship comes general ease. 01:29.769 --> 01:31.632 [SPEAKER_00]: That's actually a game changer. 01:32.273 --> 01:51.240 [SPEAKER_00]: Because what Allah is telling us is that this is the design of the universe, that with every hardship, with every single hardship that Allah gives you, he will give you general and abundant ease along with the hardship. 01:51.693 --> 01:56.258 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not after the hardship only, it is along with the hardship as well. 01:57.619 --> 02:00.082 [SPEAKER_00]: Why is that so transformational? 02:00.863 --> 02:04.486 [SPEAKER_00]: Well, it changes what we focus on. 02:05.227 --> 02:08.150 [SPEAKER_00]: It changes what we become attuned to. 02:08.190 --> 02:13.075 [SPEAKER_00]: If I am thinking, oh my God, everything is so bad right now. 02:13.996 --> 02:20.603 [SPEAKER_00]: And nothing is good right now. 02:20.903 --> 02:29.472 [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of it doesn't have to do with the reality, but has more to do with the perception, and even deeper to do with the focus. 02:30.113 --> 02:49.493 [SPEAKER_00]: So if my focus in the difficulty is only on the difficulty, only on the challenge, only on the fear, only on the pain and the loss, I will naturally not 02:49.928 --> 02:54.977 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not that I have to wait for those blessings to come, but I already have them. 02:55.278 --> 03:02.145 [SPEAKER_00]: and yet I am not seeing them because I am so hyper-focused on the difficulty and the challenge. 03:02.186 --> 03:13.318 [SPEAKER_00]: But one of the most essential things to find peace within the difficulties, not just after the difficulties, because difficulties are always coming, you know, in waves, right? 03:13.758 --> 03:14.479 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't stop. 03:14.919 --> 03:20.245 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, we have to find the ability to have peace within the difficulty. 03:20.806 --> 03:22.888 [SPEAKER_00]: And one of the 03:23.392 --> 03:29.659 [SPEAKER_00]: is to really change our lens, to change our understanding, and to change our focus. 03:30.079 --> 03:40.971 [SPEAKER_00]: So the first sort of principle that I want to convey is that in a mile, that indeed with the hardship is general ease. 03:40.991 --> 03:48.459 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not just after you don't say, okay it's all bad right now and that I have to wait for ease and I have to wait for blessings. 03:48.539 --> 03:50.361 [SPEAKER_00]: You have them right now 03:50.341 --> 03:52.564 [SPEAKER_00]: but you just aren't seeing them. 03:52.945 --> 04:01.396 [SPEAKER_00]: You just haven't given focus to them, and because you haven't given focus to them, they seem to you as insignificant. 04:02.117 --> 04:03.579 [SPEAKER_00]: Right, let me just give you an example. 04:04.881 --> 04:20.061 [SPEAKER_00]: The person who is struggling in their relationship, say, since I gave that example, or maybe they have a relationship that end up, but at the same time that same individual 04:20.480 --> 04:31.958 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah Subhanah Tala has not tested them at that same time with disease, cancer, or any of the other, you know, many diseases that other people are being tested with. 04:32.343 --> 05:01.945 [SPEAKER_00]: that same individual may not be tested with poverty at the same time, that they have a lost panatara has given them provision, has given them risk, has given them safety, has they Allah has not tested them with the tests that people in other parts of the world where they're literally their life is in danger every single day, you know that there's their in war zones 05:01.925 --> 05:04.008 [SPEAKER_00]: places where their families are not safe. 05:04.669 --> 05:21.593 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, while that individual and it is, it isn't too minimized the difficulties that we go through, but it is more to widen the lens and to recognize and really to contextualize those difficulties, to be able to see more. 05:22.053 --> 05:31.206 [SPEAKER_00]: It isn't, you know, I think it's very important because on the one hand, simultaneously, you know, 05:31.574 --> 05:59.995 [SPEAKER_00]: that pain is very real, the pain of loss, the pain of losing a loved one, of a broken relationship, the pain of sickness, whatever that test, whatever that challenge is, is very real, but it's about widening that lens to include the other experiences that you are simultaneously 06:00.346 --> 06:01.829 [SPEAKER_00]: by a loss of panotaida. 06:01.849 --> 06:23.890 [SPEAKER_00]: So when a loss says in Nemalos, the Yostra, you know, he's not saying that Doro's is not real, he's not saying that the difficulty isn't isn't legitimate, but rather that he gives us the capacity at the same time in order to help us to cope with that very legitimate pain and that very legitimate difficulty.