WEBVTT 00:00.031 --> 00:04.035 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to another episode of the girls that play in podcast. 00:04.155 --> 00:05.857 [SPEAKER_00]: It's your favorite home girl choreo. 00:06.338 --> 00:12.124 [SPEAKER_00]: Here to encourage you to stop playing with your potential and start working for what you want in life and in love. 00:12.684 --> 00:19.371 [SPEAKER_00]: You all already know that I'm bringing you the information and the conversations to help you make the money and get the honey. 00:19.932 --> 00:22.935 [SPEAKER_00]: You can have it all as long as you are willing to work. 00:23.516 --> 00:25.718 [SPEAKER_00]: And I am so very excited. 00:25.900 --> 00:33.056 [SPEAKER_00]: to finally share what I have been working on for a little while now. 00:33.958 --> 00:36.725 [SPEAKER_00]: Y'all know if you follow me on Instagram, I have been sharing. 00:37.186 --> 00:41.175 [SPEAKER_00]: Me just kind of have been fun playing with AI to create photos. 00:41.527 --> 00:55.804 [SPEAKER_00]: I've been using AI to do little photo shoots with my baby and I just started spending my mind started spending about other ways that I personally have benefited from using AI specifically this year. 00:55.864 --> 01:03.113 [SPEAKER_00]: I've done a whole lot more with it this year and just how beneficial AI can truly be for other moms, specifically busy moms. 01:03.532 --> 01:14.127 [SPEAKER_00]: uh, broke moms, moms who need help with time management, moms who need help with meal planning, just so many things that we can do with AI to make our lives easier. 01:14.267 --> 01:24.481 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I have been putting together an entire resource catalog centered around AI benefits and AI uses for busy moms. 01:24.501 --> 01:28.847 [SPEAKER_00]: So there's everything in there from using AI to plan your meals. 01:29.198 --> 01:46.715 [SPEAKER_00]: to using AI to plan college for your kids, from saving for college to planning for college in terms of choosing a college and going on college tours and what questions you should be asking and what considerations you should be making now to plan for the future and just all of the things. 01:46.755 --> 01:55.404 [SPEAKER_00]: You wanna move abroad, there's an AI tool that will help you figure out where your family can possibly relocate around the globe. 01:55.865 --> 01:57.366 [SPEAKER_00]: So I have just been, 01:57.565 --> 02:09.123 [SPEAKER_00]: head down super excited though about this new resource because their truly is nothing that you can't do with AI just takes you setting it up. 02:09.143 --> 02:18.218 [SPEAKER_00]: So I've been building out these custom AI chat bots that are really like custom coaching tools for busy moms. 02:18.558 --> 02:19.820 [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going to link that down below. 02:19.920 --> 02:22.324 [SPEAKER_00]: I was super excited to be able to share that with y'all. 02:22.709 --> 02:32.023 [SPEAKER_00]: And this week, unfortunately, I'm back with another lesson learned through the trials and tribulations of motherhood y'all. 02:32.844 --> 02:35.628 [SPEAKER_00]: These kids be taking me up through there, okay? 02:35.648 --> 02:42.318 [SPEAKER_00]: Cue the little TikTok sound because I don't be knowing whether I'm coming to go on. 02:42.418 --> 02:47.485 [SPEAKER_00]: We just wrapped up Christmas and although we're not like 02:47.785 --> 02:52.512 [SPEAKER_00]: big Christmas supporters like my kids don't believe in Santa or anything like that. 02:52.572 --> 02:56.798 [SPEAKER_00]: But I still do appreciate the family element of it. 02:56.938 --> 02:59.682 [SPEAKER_00]: I do appreciate, you know, exchanging gifts. 02:59.822 --> 03:11.579 [SPEAKER_00]: I do appreciate just that part of it and my kids, you know, they are living in breathing in this world so they know about the holidays without us personally having to share that with them. 03:11.699 --> 03:15.885 [SPEAKER_00]: So I did what I could to do 03:16.338 --> 03:24.110 [SPEAKER_00]: that we did because I was home alone with these kids for like the last, I don't know, maybe weak at this point. 03:24.671 --> 03:28.497 [SPEAKER_00]: My husband has been working double shifts. 03:28.517 --> 03:35.228 [SPEAKER_00]: And I've been on the ropes, like these kids was about to take me out of here, okay? 03:35.869 --> 03:37.131 [SPEAKER_00]: It's one thing to have. 03:37.347 --> 03:59.052 [SPEAKER_00]: three kids but it's something totally different to be like home alone managing the kids by yourself for the entire day from like the time you wake up until you know nine ten o'clock at night that's a lot and the lessons have been learned okay the lessons have been learned so the fact that I could get away to even record this is a blessing 03:59.335 --> 04:09.865 [SPEAKER_00]: and I am not going to take it for granted, but one of the things that I despise most about this season of motherhood with a two and four year old is the fighting. 04:10.346 --> 04:25.360 [SPEAKER_00]: Now I know that girls can be caddy and just, you know, giving this kid that she did, she did that, she did that she put her, like I knew that that was a girl thing, and I don't know what I was thinking, but I just was not expecting this to be such an issue with boys. 04:25.998 --> 04:33.067 [SPEAKER_00]: They are not only like messing with each other, like bumping into each other when they walk by and taking each other's things. 04:33.087 --> 04:41.838 [SPEAKER_00]: And you know, doing all that little petty annoying things, but they are wrestling, like death match. 04:42.018 --> 04:45.823 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, like really wrestling each other to the ground and doing all this stuff. 04:46.263 --> 04:53.052 [SPEAKER_00]: And of course, the four-year-old, even though they wear the same size clothes, the four-year-old is still taller. 04:53.352 --> 05:02.384 [SPEAKER_00]: do has the two-year-old believe in that he's stronger, even though they weigh the exact same amount, and I don't think that the four-year-old is stronger than the two-year-old, but the two-year-old still believes it. 05:02.825 --> 05:13.279 [SPEAKER_00]: So the four-year-old still gets the best of the two-year old, and the two-year-old oftentimes ends up crying and coming to me and saying, you know, Cairo hit me, Cairo kicked me, Cairo did, whatever, whatever. 05:13.319 --> 05:22.431 [SPEAKER_00]: So I, you know, go back and forth between breaking up the fights, telling them to figure it out themselves, 05:22.900 --> 05:28.307 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, or just like, you know, punishing one of them, usually Cairo before you roll. 05:28.868 --> 05:30.250 [SPEAKER_00]: So I will punish Cairo. 05:30.310 --> 05:33.294 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll make him at one point I made him like go to his room. 05:33.314 --> 05:36.137 [SPEAKER_00]: So he's in his room and I made him stand his room for a little while. 05:36.177 --> 05:37.559 [SPEAKER_00]: I told him, think about being a leader. 05:37.599 --> 05:40.483 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, all this stuff, he's crying and screaming. 05:40.523 --> 05:48.013 [SPEAKER_00]: He want to come back downstairs and the two-year-old Kenzo will come and tell me, leave my brother alone. 05:49.259 --> 05:54.104 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, excuse me, this way is in trouble because he hit you. 05:54.124 --> 05:58.910 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm standing up for you, I'm defending your honor, you got to tell me to leave him alone. 05:59.831 --> 06:05.857 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, today's episode is all about letting them feel it. 06:06.018 --> 06:15.368 [SPEAKER_00]: I know Mel Robbins has this book, this concept, this theory, like let them let people do what they're going to do, let people be who they're going to be, don't stretch yourself out, like let people 06:15.787 --> 06:32.766 [SPEAKER_00]: do them and you just respond accordingly and I'm gonna play on that concept because I want you to let people do what they want to do but I want you to let them feel the consequences of it because this has happened to me so many times over these last few days where 06:33.387 --> 06:41.114 [SPEAKER_00]: You hit him, I defend you, punish him for hitting you, and then you get mad at me, because I punish your brother, and it's like, well, bro, what do you want me to do here? 06:41.154 --> 06:43.296 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you not want me to respond when you cry about it? 06:43.676 --> 06:56.468 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I think about so many other times just in life that I stood up for someone or defended someone, or you know, try to have someone's back just for them to not respond accordingly. 06:56.548 --> 07:01.192 [SPEAKER_00]: So instead of this boy saying thank you for defending me, thank you for getting him up off of me. 07:01.492 --> 07:02.533 [SPEAKER_00]: He say leave him alone. 07:03.037 --> 07:29.652 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's like the girl friend who comes and tells you all these horrible things about her boyfriend but then she goes back and gets with him and then you're still mad about it so you trying to stand up for her you trying to defend her and she like you know leave me alone I like it over here how often I hope is not just me how often have you found yourself wasting your time trying to stand in for someone or stand in support of something that ends up 07:30.053 --> 07:35.700 [SPEAKER_00]: not even being what you thought it was, not even being a good use of your time, your effort and your energy. 07:36.140 --> 07:49.195 [SPEAKER_00]: And as we move into this new year, as we step into this new season, I want to encourage you as I am consistently encouraging myself that we are putting up boundaries in this new year. 07:49.275 --> 07:52.779 [SPEAKER_00]: We are stepping up our standards in this new year. 07:52.799 --> 07:55.803 [SPEAKER_00]: We are not allowing these people, not even these babies. 07:55.943 --> 07:57.765 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, not even the people who we have birthed. 07:58.117 --> 08:01.080 [SPEAKER_00]: to stress us out to the point of no return. 08:01.541 --> 08:05.385 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, we talked about the importance of your mental health. 08:05.505 --> 08:13.614 [SPEAKER_00]: I have been talking about this to literally blue in the face over on YouTube, which if you are not subscribed to my YouTube, definitely come over there. 08:13.654 --> 08:21.463 [SPEAKER_00]: I have like 20 plus new videos that I've released just over this month, or centered around the motherhood conversation. 08:21.483 --> 08:23.365 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you are a mom, definitely come over there. 08:23.699 --> 08:26.983 [SPEAKER_00]: and make sure you hit subscribe and tune into these conversations. 08:27.003 --> 08:33.730 [SPEAKER_00]: But our mental health is just so important and especially in seasons like this, it can be super fragile. 08:34.130 --> 08:39.676 [SPEAKER_00]: So we cannot afford to compromise our health. 08:39.696 --> 08:48.846 [SPEAKER_00]: Our mental health, our emotional health, for people, for issues and for situations that are not even worth our time. 08:49.028 --> 09:02.360 [SPEAKER_00]: We cannot be stressing ourselves out, spending our money, going to bed, going to war for people who would not even like pick up the phone if we were in need. 09:02.681 --> 09:06.904 [SPEAKER_00]: For people who we know that we could not count on and not depend on. 09:07.005 --> 09:17.314 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, yes, this lesson started with my kids, but it led me down this rabbit hole of just considering how many other times I've stood up for situations that were not 09:17.665 --> 09:28.557 [SPEAKER_00]: where the I've stood up and stood in and stepped in for people who would not do the same or who turned around and made a move that was not something that I was expecting. 09:29.077 --> 09:31.300 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I am learning. 09:31.620 --> 09:35.364 [SPEAKER_00]: I am being raised every single day as I am trying to raise these kids. 09:35.504 --> 09:45.175 [SPEAKER_00]: I am learning so much as I am trying to teach them and it is truly a pleasure for me to be able to bring those lessons to y'all. 09:45.492 --> 09:54.441 [SPEAKER_00]: So that you don't have to learn them the hard way, but I am definitely looking forward to stepping into a season of newness. 09:54.621 --> 10:01.829 [SPEAKER_00]: If you are into numerology, you know that 2025 is a nine year and nine is completion. 10:02.189 --> 10:04.531 [SPEAKER_00]: And after completion, that means we're starting over. 10:04.692 --> 10:06.253 [SPEAKER_00]: It is time to renew. 10:06.353 --> 10:07.915 [SPEAKER_00]: It is time for a rebirth. 10:07.975 --> 10:11.478 [SPEAKER_00]: It is time for us to rewrite our stories. 10:11.599 --> 10:14.942 [SPEAKER_00]: And so if you have not yet taken a look at your goals, 10:15.327 --> 10:20.936 [SPEAKER_00]: that for any intentions or affirmations for yourself, I definitely want to encourage you to do that. 10:21.657 --> 10:40.305 [SPEAKER_00]: I have a five day delusional dream challenge that I put together that takes you through a series for five days of you learning universal law and figuring out how you can leverage universal law to work for you, to work with you as you go after your goals as you go. 10:40.606 --> 10:48.999 [SPEAKER_00]: get into those delusional dreams and really figure out what you want this next season to look like and feel like for you. 10:49.019 --> 11:07.727 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you need a little encouragement, if you need a little help, get in up that momentum so that you truly can't begin the manifestation process and leverage universal law and artificial intelligence to help you do that, then definitely make sure you check 11:08.129 --> 11:17.700 [SPEAKER_00]: that link for the AI tools as well as the five day delusional dream challenge that will totally put you in a better mindset. 11:17.800 --> 11:20.883 [SPEAKER_00]: I've been seeing all these posts about how terrible 2025 has been. 11:21.424 --> 11:22.625 [SPEAKER_00]: I've been pregnant the whole year. 11:22.785 --> 11:37.562 [SPEAKER_00]: So my mind has not been focused on what the majority of society has been, you know, focused on and I know that this has been a different year for me because I was, you know, preparing to give birth and 11:38.723 --> 11:53.936 [SPEAKER_00]: But if you've had a stressful year and you want to feel refreshed and want to feel excited and like you have something to look forward to because you are working towards something and I definitely want to encourage you to start being intentional. 11:54.096 --> 12:07.228 [SPEAKER_00]: Start getting specific and strategic about what you want to see for yourself how you want to show up for yourself who you want to become in this next season and whether you use AI, a vision board, 12:07.512 --> 12:17.241 [SPEAKER_00]: Some gold cards, whatever tools you use to help you start to take action and start to, you know, put forth some of those plans. 12:18.242 --> 12:25.308 [SPEAKER_00]: Definitely want to encourage you to do that because this is going to be a special year for you. 12:25.869 --> 12:33.015 [SPEAKER_00]: And I truly, truly hope that you have enjoyed tapping in and tune in and we'll grow that plan this year. 12:33.155 --> 12:36.118 [SPEAKER_00]: I am looking forward to bringing you all so much more. 12:36.487 --> 12:37.688 [SPEAKER_00]: in the new year. 12:37.748 --> 12:42.614 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm also having a lot of fun hanging out on threads and YouTube and even TikTok. 12:42.994 --> 12:45.196 [SPEAKER_00]: So definitely make sure you are subscribing. 12:45.337 --> 12:48.500 [SPEAKER_00]: I am at Coriel in all of those places. 12:48.880 --> 12:57.510 [SPEAKER_00]: Make sure you check the show notes down below for all of the links that I mentioned on this episode as well as the link to my LTK. 12:57.570 --> 13:02.275 [SPEAKER_00]: I've really been having fun linking all of my favorite things over there from 13:02.525 --> 13:11.822 [SPEAKER_00]: nursery, nursing, breastfeeding, postpartum finds to, you know, family pajamas and everything in between. 13:11.842 --> 13:13.906 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for tuning in. 13:14.066 --> 13:21.259 [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you are feeling inspired and encouraged and empowered and I will see you in 2016.