[SPEAKER_00]: I just, I just have lived the absolute most incredible life and if I didn't believe that I should try, I wouldn't have done any of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's so much left for you to do that you should do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should jump right on board.
[SPEAKER_01]: Why a hypnotist?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like of all the things, I find that the conversations that I've listened to from people, podcasts or whatever, you know, different interviews, I find hypnotists to be, and I know you do a lot of things, not the only thing that you do, I know that, but but that particular skill set, I find very intriguing because I think
[SPEAKER_01]: I think there may be a general perception of hypnotism, that's like, oh, this is Fufui, or it's all bullshit, or, but you might understanding, and in the research that I've done, just because I'm so interested in human psychology, is that you're tapping into things that people just don't realize our brains work certain ways, and they don't necessarily understand.
[SPEAKER_01]: So it's not a trick, necessarily, you're using a skill set
[SPEAKER_01]: We'll call it motivations or activations in a human that are always there.
[SPEAKER_01]: You do it in a way that might make a situation funny or interesting or entertaining, et cetera.
[SPEAKER_01]: But what drew you into that was it a love for psychology or was it just like shit, hypnotism sounds fun?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'll do that.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was none of those.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was a morning show broadcaster on a radio station in Niagara called 977 hits FM.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was Daniel on 977 hits FM, you know you slide right into that roll and I also was a business owner of all things I owned a chain of tattoo shops.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, I went to work at 330 in the morning as a radio broadcaster, my show wrapped up about 930 in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'd get a couple hours sleep and then I'd open up my business at 12 o'clock, 1 o'clock, 2 o'clock.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'd city jump to each one and open up the businesses.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then when they were open, I'd go back and sleep for a couple hours.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then I would close the businesses, sleep a couple hours, and then get back into radio.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I did that for many years because anybody who's in business knows that a successful business doesn't just happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: It takes a lot of work.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I supplemented the growth of that business by working in broadcasting.
[SPEAKER_00]: And after a number of years of doing it, one day I stopped sleeping.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when I say I stopped, I stopped.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't sleep for weeks about six weeks.
[SPEAKER_00]: And not for a minute or two minutes or five minutes, no minutes.
[SPEAKER_00]: and my skin turned gray and my hair started to fall out and my fingernails discolored, I was dying.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean that sincerely.
[SPEAKER_00]: My body was shutting down without being able to stop and I went to a number of sleep clinics and a number of doctors and in the very end there was a small portion of my brain that makes REM work.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the doctor's choice was to get me a pill.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was going to become Neo.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was going to take the blue pill in the morning and the red pill at night like that was going to be my life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And having never been on a pill taker, a drug user, or any of those things, it just didn't feel right to me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I just didn't want to be the guy that had to take pills every day to exist.
[SPEAKER_00]: And a friend of mine said, you should see a hypno-therapest.
[SPEAKER_00]: and I was really at my wit's end, so I went and seen a hypno therapist in about 50 minutes, they cured me and it was so impactful.
[SPEAKER_00]: It changed my life so significantly that I quit everything and I went and became a hypno therapist.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's how worked.
[SPEAKER_00]: It changed my life so dramatically in one hour that I quit radio.
[SPEAKER_00]: I reduced my hours at the tattoo shops and I went back to school and became a hypnotherapist and just poured myself into the neurological triggers of the subconscious mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it just affected me in such a fashion that I knew that it was something that I needed to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: As time went on, I became an hypnotist as an entertainer, I mean it was a great field to be and especially backing myself in radio broadcasting and being the type of person that I was.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I can say to you, there's no bells and whistles.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no tricks behind it.
[SPEAKER_00]: The truth of the matter is,
[SPEAKER_00]: I utilize the words that I say, the speed in which I say them and the tone that I use to trick your subconscious mind into taking a nap while you're trick your conscious mind into having a nap while your subconscious mind takes over the mechanics of your body.
[SPEAKER_00]: And our mind is like a huge dry erase board and it's just filled with absolutely everything that we've ever done, every memory, everything that we see.
[SPEAKER_00]: And hypnosis just gives you the opportunity to go in and circle or highlight or erase something on that dry erase board.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not magic.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not secret powers.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not any of that stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's programming.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, you and I are talking on a computer right at this very moment.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if we needed to delete an application or throw something in the trash, we would do it effortlessly.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we would never look back at it and think of it differently.
[SPEAKER_00]: The subconscious mind works on that same way.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just having the opportunity to go in there and make those adjustments.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's a pretty interesting mix that you have the radio broadcasting.
[SPEAKER_01]: You have running a small business and a chain of small businesses.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then you also have this entertainment side, which is a lot of what you do today.
[SPEAKER_01]: Is entertainment.
[SPEAKER_01]: When you have this amazing experience and you go, you know, you say, I want to learn this because I just had changed my entire life and all this.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then
[SPEAKER_01]: What was the driver to take that and then turn it into, you're going to say, I can use this for entertainment.
[SPEAKER_01]: I want to get up on stage.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's probably a lot of paths you can take with that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Good and evil, I'm sure.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you chose to entertain people to get up on stage to be a performer.
[SPEAKER_01]: What was the trigger for that?
[SPEAKER_01]: Or was it just felt like the next natural step?
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I've been working in the entertainment industry already in broadcasting for a long time and I think that anybody who has an audience of any size and if they work that audience well, it really does something to them.
[SPEAKER_00]: It certainly feeds their ego perhaps or it helps their agenda for what they're trying to build or what they're trying to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: The one-offs sitting in an office all day and helping one person or two people was still very, very important, but I had lacked the gratification, I guess you would call it of what an audience and what the applause would get.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I started doing shows on the weekends and it started off just with friends and family.
[SPEAKER_00]: It took off so significantly within one year I went from learning how to do it to two shows a day seven days a week for seven years without missing a show in a theater of six hundred and eighty five people.
[SPEAKER_00]: Wow, I'm not kidding.
[SPEAKER_00]: So sometimes you get what you ask for.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, that sounds like the Beatles and when they went to Germany, you know, and they did their kind of 10,000 hours.
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, that's how you develop that time.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, we're, so okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: So you have this seven years two shows a day, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: And you're, you're starting.
[SPEAKER_01]: And.
[SPEAKER_01]: there's too, there's so many pieces in there that I want to get into.
[SPEAKER_00]: Listen, like you said, let me leave you down a path.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
[SPEAKER_00]: I live in Canada, a very close to Niagara Falls, Ontario, which is a tourist capital of the world.
[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody goes to Niagara Falls.
[SPEAKER_00]: They all want to see the water go over the hill.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay?
[SPEAKER_00]: So the opportunity there is like many Las Vegas.
[SPEAKER_00]: Niagara Falls is
[SPEAKER_00]: As a business person, I had a very strong hold with a franchise to business that I had created throughout the Niagara Region, so I was already known in business.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had already did six years on the number one radio morning show as a broadcaster.
[SPEAKER_00]: So when I put together this show, I already knew who I would present it to or who I would talk to about making it grow.
[SPEAKER_00]: and I hooked up with one of the largest hotel chains in Niagara Falls and they had a famous theater, the famous crown plaza theater and
[SPEAKER_00]: it was just I said let me have it let me try and it didn't I just didn't sign on for seven years I mean we started it and it became the number one attraction in Niagara Falls on Trip Advisor.
[SPEAKER_00]: I my show was number one it beat Niagara Falls for her votes on Trip Advisor and when somebody watches this or listens to this on replay it sounds like I'm the luckiest person.
[SPEAKER_00]: Success isn't lucky.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to work your ass off.
[SPEAKER_00]: If anybody doesn't think that I didn't have the study and go to school for this and then put together a show and hire staff and sacrifice time away from my family and then go on stage and fail and lick my wounds and do better and better and better.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I mean, there was so many things that had to happen in order for me to achieve the success that I got to, but once the momentum started,
[SPEAKER_00]: It was a sought-after form of entertainment.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that when you create a product that's clean content and family friendly, because I'm a father, I mean, I would want to do a show that I would be proud to have even my young children or my grandparents in, when you put together that program, it's such a niche market, because there's so many people that play blue or they're just child entertainers, like it's hard to find something that checks all of the boxes.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I managed to put together a program that checked all the boxes.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was financially secure so I could hold a supporting staff that could work with me during the growing stages of the business.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then once it took off, there was just no stopping my career in the entertainment industry just skyrocketed.
[SPEAKER_01]: So as a fellow speaker, and we talked about this before we went live, everyone, but we met each other at a hotel bar, at a hotel, at an airport bar.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: I had just got done in Vegas at a M.C.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.A.AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
[SPEAKER_01]: And we said, I sit down and I'm kind of miserable.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I just, and I'm miserable.
[SPEAKER_01]: But miserable is the wrong word.
[SPEAKER_01]: I was emotionally and energetically drained.
[SPEAKER_01]: I just was on E. And I was sat down with my beer.
[SPEAKER_01]: And what I normally would do is just kind of put my head down on my phone and let my introvert side of me, like, kind of regain its energy.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then we started chatting.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't remember how the conversation started.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I know how it started.
[SPEAKER_00]: I said, I said, I don't want to sit next to you and not network.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're both strangers at a lobby going somewhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's my money.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's right.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then we got, we got really deep, really fast.
[SPEAKER_01]: And, and I loved that because I think one of the things,
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, there's a lot of people, as a speaker, I'm sure this is the same for you because you perform a lot more than I do.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I get asked a lot about presenting in front of audiences, about speaking, et cetera.
[SPEAKER_01]: And some of the questions, I think, are kind of the normal shallow questions you are getting.
[SPEAKER_01]: But the...
[SPEAKER_01]: The question that I think keeps people from going.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think a lot of people can get a stage or a couple stages.
[SPEAKER_01]: But then it fizzles.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like that initial energy goes or they don't like the feedback.
[SPEAKER_01]: They don't like the pressure of the event and we all can work through that.
[SPEAKER_01]: You obviously have had
[SPEAKER_01]: just so much experience in this, and I'm really interested in how with your background and hypnotherapy and how just what a deep thinker you are about these things, I'm much experience you have, those that initial journey for someone who's coming into presenting, right, whether that's workshops or keynotes or however you're going to do it, you're going to be committee,
[SPEAKER_01]: That first year, three years, even five year.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then beyond, there's additional challenges.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's so hard when you're trying to find your voice.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do you work through?
[SPEAKER_01]: And again, I know you're the broadcasts, to me, and to set up a,
[SPEAKER_01]: when you're developing what your voice is going to be.
[SPEAKER_01]: That seems to me to be the most emotionally chaotic moment because you, you kind of, maybe you don't know what you want to say.
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't know how to say it yet.
[SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't always hit.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're inconsistent like, how do you guide young performers in those days like that emotional journey that you have to get through in order to become a version that you feel proud of every time you go out on the stage.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's a great question, and it's a question that I've had many many times.
[SPEAKER_00]: I entertain under the name Danny Z's, which is the Z's are first sleeping like hypnotists.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why the Z's started that way.
[SPEAKER_00]: Although I wear many hats now, that's the name that's stuck.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I had to create a character.
[SPEAKER_00]: Even in radio as as animal or whatever the character is on radio,
[SPEAKER_00]: In radio you create a character because you want the audience to fall in love with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: In the entertainment industry, whether you're a speaker or an entertainer, you have to a visual character as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I always say the character development has to be the most important because for you as a speaker, you and I briefly talked about you husband and father and all of the things in the journeys that you've went through to become the man that you are today.
[SPEAKER_00]: When we step out on stage, if we are just the genuine person that we are ourselves, it's too much to carry because sometimes there's topics that are very, very hard or there's many things that we need to go through or share and if you're just the genuine you.
[SPEAKER_00]: it gets too heavy.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I always suggest with anybody your character development has to be right on the money.
[SPEAKER_00]: Who do you want people to perceive you to be and how do you want people to read that person?
[SPEAKER_00]: So Danny Z is a character that I play.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm very brave and I'm confident when I step out on stage, I'm truly believe the words that I say and the illusions that I create.
[SPEAKER_00]: But when I step off stage, I get to be Daniel Paul and it allows me to be a father and it allows me to be vulnerable or sad or happy or any of those things because if I don't separate the two, I
[SPEAKER_00]: then I'm preaching to my kids something that I would say from stage or if somebody on stage says something to me, I take it home and it hurts.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think that you've got to separate those two.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to allow yourself to become the entertainer, speaker, author, personality that people need to see in order to have self-growth.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I think that you need to detach that and leave that cape hanging up on the side stage, and be able to get on the knees and play blocks with your kid as a father, be able to kiss your wife because she's your best friend and you love her, and be able to hold your friend when he loses his parents and not be that speaker.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you don't separate the two, I don't think you really are doing the best that you can for both type of audiences.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think that is a very contrarian answer from what the advice that most people get.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think the advice that most people get is be authentic, be exactly who you are.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you like to wear hoodies and jeans, wear that, or you get this very, and that to me is always, I've never, like when someone asks me what I do, I might say, hey, I speak, but when I, what I really, I perform, it's a part of my life.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not a fair answer and I don't mean to interrupt what I have to say in this fashion.
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the things that you and I talked about over a beer in that lounge one day was about loss and hardships and all of those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I can remember when my father passed away.
[SPEAKER_00]: I still had to do a show.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got 700 people in the audience that bought their tickets.
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't care that I'm having a bad day.
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't care that I'm not getting along with my wife or my leg hurts or my stomach isn't right.
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't care.
[SPEAKER_00]: They traveled from wherever they lived all over the world.
[SPEAKER_00]: They pre-bought their tickets and advance and they're in their seat.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I can't come out and say hi, everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm Danny Z's.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not having a great day.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna do a mediocre show today.
[SPEAKER_00]: you cannot be that character.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you talk about being your authentic self or you're trying to be true to that person, well, you and I would never get booked anywhere because that's not what they're paying for.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're paying for the celebrity or the person who's confident that's going to motivate the people who are there in the audience or going to make significant change in impact.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't, you don't, you don't allowed bad days.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, if you don't separate the two and if you're not strong enough to separate the two, how do you get on stage after bearing your father or how do you get on stage when your stomach hurts or when you're scared or when you're jet lagged and you've just got off the third talk in two days and you've just been running from airport to airport.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't get to do that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I couldn't agree with you more, and I brought this up when we were talking over the beer was there's a concept that I heard from Jordan Peterson that I've extended to many other aspects of my life and it kind of fits with what you're saying, it's this idea of act as if.
[SPEAKER_01]: And where it came from, just for those listening, it came from his first book tour, 12 rules for life, I went and saw him and someone in the crowd asked, because he references got a lot in the book and someone asked if he was a believer.
[SPEAKER_01]: And at that time, this is like 2016-ish, how he answered the question was, essentially, I'm not sure, but what I know is,
[SPEAKER_01]: When I act as if I believe in God and I love God and I'm connected to God, my life gets better.
[SPEAKER_01]: So what I'm doing today is acting as if, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: So I thought that was a wonderful way of describing where he was, but then I kind of internalize that to be
[SPEAKER_01]: this is what we need to do like when you when you you might not be having and you may not have the worst day ever at work right and what you so many of us do if we're not properly calibrated we come home and we yell at our kids and we give our wife shit or we ignore her or you know we're you know we we neglect the animals or what you know whatever needs having because oh I'm in a bad mood I had a bad day I lost a sale or my boss yelled at me or whatever well no
[SPEAKER_01]: When you come home, you could be, it could have been the biggest POS day you've ever had and you're freaking miserable.
[SPEAKER_01]: I need to now act as if I'm a great dad because my kids neither deserve nor care that I had a crappy day that day, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, maybe I don't even be super dad, but I can't be shitty dad.
[SPEAKER_01]: I need to be at least, you know, the good,
[SPEAKER_01]: Performing.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just performing.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like you said, it's, I, you know, I just had to do this show after losing my dad.
[SPEAKER_01]: And even though I got through it as a pro, I'm still absolutely racked for the motion.
[SPEAKER_01]: And now my kids want me to play blocks with them.
[SPEAKER_01]: And what am I going to do?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to go lock myself in a bedroom and pound beers to try to mask the pain.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, get down on the floor and act as.
[SPEAKER_01]: And what happens in doing this is where I'm, I'm really interested in your insights on this.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think this is what Jordan was saying with his thoughts is that even if you don't believe or you aren't that thing today, when you act as if you are, that's the only way to become it.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's the only way to grow is to act as if you are that thing even if you're not.
[SPEAKER_01]: And that idea has paid so many dividends in my life in times when I was miserable or unhappy or broker, you know, when I was getting divorced,
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, just act as if you're a great boss today.
[SPEAKER_01]: Act as if you're a great dad today.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you just play a role.
[SPEAKER_01]: You perform the role as you should be done.
[SPEAKER_01]: Even though, you know, your real feelings are this other thing.
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I don't know.
[SPEAKER_01]: That is just been something that is stuck with me for so long.
[SPEAKER_00]: I always say when somebody's negative around me, you're getting on me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like that term because it's almost like getting dirty so to speak on a rainy day.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's pretty hard for me to have that attitude that I don't want somebody's negativity to get on me if I'm spreading that negativity as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, it's, it's funny when you talk about uh, your children or or divorce or relationships all of those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: We've all been in that experience every one of us where you're with your significant other and you're having a little bit of an argument of some fashion, you're mad at each other and then you bump into somebody at the mall and you meet like, hey, how are you, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Like you slip into character.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, the question that you have to ask yourself is, are you doing that because you don't want them to see you negative or to understand that you are having shortcomings?
[SPEAKER_00]: Are you doing it for them or are you doing it for you?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I really think, especially being a father, it's not the kids fault that I'm having a bad day.
[SPEAKER_00]: To them, I'm still Superman.
[SPEAKER_00]: To my wife, I'm still an excellent lover to my friends.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm the person that they could call on a bad day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just don't want my life, which is so incredibly short, to be filled with the bad times.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you know what, a lot of the times when I'm talking on stage or trying to help coach people or helping to inspire them, I talk about when you look back at your childhood how easy it is to remember the bad days and how hard it is to remember the good ones.
[SPEAKER_00]: I often say that I can remember every spanking I got, but I can't tell you what I got from my sixth birthday.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you understand?
[SPEAKER_00]: For some reason, the negativity sticks.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, if I can have as little negativity moving forward, I'm just not feeling my subconscious mind with enough poison that gets on the people around.
[SPEAKER_01]: What do you say to someone who would view that as dishonest, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: You're playing roles.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, how do I know who the true you is if you're performing for me when you've seen me in the mall?
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I guess, I guess that's a fair question, but if that's the only character that I ever perform, how do you know that's not me?
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, this is, this is who I am, and how is it not me?
[SPEAKER_00]: It just, it's a matter of strength, really.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, somebody who goes to the gym and will run on the treadmill for 30 minutes doesn't run all day.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's all the running that they do for somebody who eats very, very carefully, but on Fridays
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, we all have our own time, our own personal way of doing things.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that I would like to think the character I play is the best version of me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would like to think that the version that struggles and is sad and has hardships is not.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean,
[SPEAKER_00]: The Danny Z is so much better than the vulnerable Dan Paul and I can tell you that already.
[SPEAKER_00]: So if I had to pick between one I would want the successful one that brings joy to people than the negative one who wills himself.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I also think because I've talked to people about this, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: And there's tends to be like a bifurcation.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's people like completely get this concept of kind of performing and this idea of like your kids don't deserve your bad day at work.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then there's people are like, well, this is, you know, that's not being honest.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's not being authentic.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's not being genuine.
[SPEAKER_01]: I struggle with that because these ideas of authentic and genuine, they really, they're only valid in a snapshot in time because you could say something to me on this show that changes my viewpoint on something.
[SPEAKER_01]: And now I'm a completely different person after this when we close this down, I've taken in this concept and I'm a completely different person.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, it was
[SPEAKER_01]: It was this not the genuine version because now 15 minutes later, I have a slightly different perspective on the world and operate differently because of something you said to me like it's genuine and authentic is just a snapshot and if in the moment when I'm on stage I want to pull out five or six qualities of my personality that
[SPEAKER_01]: that present really well and create an entertaining, educational, valuable moment and time.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, that doesn't mean it's not genuine, it just means I chose those five characteristics.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, when I'm with my golfing beer drinking buddies, there...
[SPEAKER_01]: That version of me is a crass locker room degenerate, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: But that's, you know, that's just one small portion that I bring out with that group of friends, because that's funny and we're having a good time and blah, blah, blah, I'm going to get 20 years of history and like, but okay, but if I'm not like that when I go home, is that not the genuine me, like, so I think that argument breaks down really quickly.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think everybody shaves the sharp points off of their lives, whether they admitted or not.
[SPEAKER_00]: So somebody who says that Danny Z, who plays a character, he's not giving me his genuine self.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would be sitting with that person, you or anybody having a lunch and talking about our day, and you would never say during that lunch.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to get up and use the bathroom.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think I have diarrhea.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, no one would ever say that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody would say, I'm just gonna go wash my hands or I have to use the restroom quickly.
[SPEAKER_00]: They shave the ends off because they don't want to be embarrassed or uncomfortable or perhaps the environment doesn't allow it.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no way you're with your significant other and say, I don't want to sit on the coach with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm super gassy.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like we all shave our edges off in order to the audience in the environment we're in.
[SPEAKER_00]: So how can you say that person isn't being genuine?
[SPEAKER_00]: and then shave an edge off of a time that you're with somebody else.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's all.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, you really got to pick it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can say to you that with my own faith, my relationship, with my children, and my wife, all of those things, I'm as genuine as the situation needs to be for the health and welfare of the relationship, and I think that that's what's most important.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, I don't mind playing a strong,
[SPEAKER_00]: respectful fun character that is liked by others if it brings joy to the people around me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got no problems with that.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do you handle feedback and criticism?
[SPEAKER_00]: I punched them in the face.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sorry.
[SPEAKER_00]: I thought we were going back to that genuine thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I
[SPEAKER_00]: I love criticism, which is something most people don't hear, as an entertainer and a speaker.
[SPEAKER_00]: Every time somebody criticizes something I've said or done, it makes me better the next time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And because I'm trying to make a living from this character, from the things that I say and that I do, I think that criticism is essential.
[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody always knows something that you don't.
[SPEAKER_00]: In that same respect, there's lots of people that don't have the same views as me, or belief system, or political views, or financial views, I mean, you can pick whatever category you'd like to put that on.
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes you have to listen to those views and those criticism, even if you don't support them.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's, what do you do?
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, you try to be polite and you try to listen and you thank them for sharing.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you try to defuse whatever is coming from it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've never heard somebody criticize me and me not recognize that there's probably a short coming that I should address.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, I think that it takes a strong person to criticize somebody and it takes a bad person to do it poorly, but it's hard to tell somebody that they need to change or need to fix something or it could improve on something.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it takes a strong person to share.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do you balance ego, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: I think I told you this, my TEDx talk that I did in February was on ego.
[SPEAKER_01]: And essentially, I was called Stop Living a Life that you didn't choose when we let that negative side of ego drive our decision making.
[SPEAKER_01]: And,
[SPEAKER_01]: you know, you find a lot of a lot most of the commentary around ego is the negative side, but if someone who's done incredibly, uh, then incredibly successful, better than amazing stages, I mean, just go to your home page or stand it on the America's Got Talent, uh, uh, America's Got Talent, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: That was the America's Got Talent?
[SPEAKER_01]: Yep.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, just got Talent America's Got Talent Extreme, all of them.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did them all.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, so I'm in Carl's sin right there like like, you know, it takes ego right to develop yourself to keep pushing to wanting to be better to wanting to be the best version of yourself to be able to to get to the stage and then to do a great performance right I mean there's it's your ego driving you the positive side of you go to get there right but then there's also the other side of you know I'm not getting paid as much as this or he's got 10 more gigs than me or why did they hire him versus me and like and
[SPEAKER_01]: That balance, I find it's especially for successful people and particularly for performers.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm very interested in how you handle that.
[SPEAKER_01]: When you get the chirp from the negative side, and you can hear yourself going, I wanted that gig or something, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: Or maybe you don't have that, but I know most people do.
[SPEAKER_01]: They mean I listen to it, but it's there.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do you balance
[SPEAKER_01]: the most positive version of that voice versus the negative side that wants you to play the zero-sum game and you know, try to box other people out and look at everything is competition.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's another question that I've heard more than once, and my answer isn't what you think.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I cry a lot.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not brave.
[SPEAKER_00]: My I got very lucky and fell into the career that I am in.
[SPEAKER_00]: None of the path that I've taken has ever been my own.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't mean to become a hypnotist.
[SPEAKER_00]: It happened because of that issue.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do escapeology, which is something we haven't talked about, but I'm an escape artist.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I did that because I was asked to do a commercial.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I tried something I'd never done before.
[SPEAKER_00]: The entertainment industry radio broadcasting.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I became a radio broadcaster because I
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, there's, there's none of my, none of the history of who I am today was a choice and something that I wanted to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: It just happened.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like I haven't got to where I need to go yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I'm still trying to climb that ladder to be
[SPEAKER_00]: what I'm supposed to be in the end of my journey.
[SPEAKER_00]: And my life is like a book.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a cluster of pages.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I get to write in every page of what I'm going to do that day.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I don't know how many pages are left or what they're going to say.
[SPEAKER_00]: So
[SPEAKER_00]: if you say to me, you know, what's that look like?
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have a clue because I happen to achieved what I've been meant to achieve yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: So when I step on on stage, I'm super nervous when I get off stage.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just a shaky babbling mess because although I'm there, I don't feel like
[SPEAKER_00]: I deserve to be and I think that if I ever stepped out on stage and felt like I should be there I don't want to do that anymore.
[SPEAKER_00]: I it's a blessing that people that I get to meet and the things that I get to do every single day is A blessing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean I I have the opportunity to inspire people and share my my journey in my life and all of the incredible things that I've done and I think that I think that
[SPEAKER_00]: God gives you what you can handle, and he has tremendous faith in me because he throws a lot at me.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when I look at my entire life, when I look at starting and broadcasting and then starting and then having a business and then becoming an entertainer and then finding stages and then getting on television, I feel like I'm climbing toward the journey that is supposed to affect
[SPEAKER_00]: is going to be positive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I haven't achieved it yet, but I feel like being an author and a speaker and all of these things are meant because I'm supposed to say the right thing at a right time for the right people that need it the most.
[SPEAKER_00]: So when I'm there, I'll let you know.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm still chasing that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_01]: God didn't give David a kingdom he gave him, Glyath.
[SPEAKER_01]: I keep that in my head all the time.
[SPEAKER_01]: Every time something happens that isn't what I would want, necessarily, have wanted to happen.
[SPEAKER_01]: I say that in my head, God didn't give David a kingdom and gave him a lie.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's a reason, and I completely agree with you.
[SPEAKER_01]: And if you're even taking out the biblical nature if that bothers anybody, although if you're listening to this show, I reference God enough that it can't bother you that much.
[SPEAKER_01]: it's so easy to get caught in the negativity of where we thought we were supposed to be.
[SPEAKER_01]: And the nature of my next question for you is, is this, you feel like your life has just happened to you.
[SPEAKER_01]: You've, you've, you've, you've.
[SPEAKER_01]: My interpretation is you have been willing to capture the opportunity as it was presented in those moments versus driving, trying to drive to an opportunity and determine an opportunity you've let fate or destiny or whatever make that determination.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm very interested in why you feel like you're not where you're supposed to be.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do you know that what you're doing today, the amount of joy, entertainment, connection, laughter, you know, all this stuff that you bring when you stand a bond stage or someone's listening to for three hours while they're on a long drive on a broadcast or listening to something you've done, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, how do you know that that's not what you're supposed to do, that this isn't the thing?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, what is it inside you that says, you know, there's another, there's another,
[SPEAKER_01]: thing that's going to happen.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's something else.
[SPEAKER_01]: There might be 10 more something else is it's going to happen.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like how do you know that that's the case?
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's a pretty easy answer.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a few steps to this answer based on what you just said.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have a raging ignorance to doubt.
[SPEAKER_00]: A raging ignorance.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I can say to you that when I'm walking down the hallway of life, there's all kinds of doors as we pass.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they're all cracked open and there's so many people in life that peek in to see what's on the other side to see if they enjoy the flavor, the smell, the taste, the experience.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just kicked the door open and be like, what's going on in here?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I go door after door and I'm like, hi, I'm a stranger.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's happening?
[SPEAKER_00]: I just, I seen the door was cracked.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't miss the opportunity because when we look back at our lives, we can always see the missed things and I mean this sincerely, at the end of my life, I don't want to ever regret something that I didn't try or didn't do.
[SPEAKER_00]: What a tragedy my life would be if I didn't experience it.
[SPEAKER_00]: We only get one.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't miss that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't miss if it's the new restaurant I've never seen, I'm going to order it.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it's a country I've never been, I'm going to fly there.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it's a stranger at a lounge bar, I'm going to turn and talk to them.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't miss the cracked door.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't know what I'm going to be when I grow up.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have a clue, but I can say to you that,
[SPEAKER_00]: This incredible journey.
[SPEAKER_00]: As briefly as I can share it, I was homeless at 13.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was self-sufficient.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got a job.
[SPEAKER_00]: I went to high school.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was the first person in my family to graduate high school.
[SPEAKER_00]: I opened a business.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did what every business man would do.
[SPEAKER_00]: I worked 20 hours a day for no money to make it successful.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got a job in broadcasting with no experience.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just put myself out there and tried something new.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I did that with a magic and hypnosis in the scapeology.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you and I briefly talked about this at the lounge.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right now my main job is as a speaker, but in the last six or eight years I've done a tremendous amount of work in the scapeology, which is why you see me on
[SPEAKER_00]: all of these got talents.
[SPEAKER_00]: America's got talent extreme.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just got back from Romania a couple of weeks ago.
[SPEAKER_00]: India is next on my list.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've done 17 got talents and I've performed in 50 countries.
[SPEAKER_00]: And there's one thing that I can say to you every single time in my daughter's summed it up when we were doing France's got talent.
[SPEAKER_00]: is I was going into a box that they were going to raise 180 feet with a 1 minute automatic timer and I had to escape my shackles and clip a safety line on before the automatic box dropped.
[SPEAKER_00]: And we were being interviewed and my daughter looked at me and said, Daddy, are you afraid to escape the box?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I looked at her and said, no, baby, I'm afraid to step into it.
[SPEAKER_00]: because stepping into the box is the hardest thing that we have.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you and I talk about being parents or a divorce or if we look at the people that we've lost to the jobs that we've had, we're all in a box here in a box right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'd like to be in a bigger house, a better job.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'd like to be in a different financial bracket.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'd like all of those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Your box den on every single aspect.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when we become so complacent with the box that we're in, we're used to the four walls that are around us that we just exist.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, when I'm in the box and I'm shackled up, I have an order of operations just like you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to pick the locks, remove the shackles, take off the stuff to get the harness to get out of the box.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to go to work, pay the bills, have a relationship, watch the kids, do all of those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's still an order of the operations for a day-to-day today.
[SPEAKER_00]: But when you're in your $80,000 a year job and you want to step into that $120,000 job or whatever I'm making it up of course for conversation, but when you want to do that, getting out of the box is easy stepping into the new boxes.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's so fearful?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because you don't know what's in there.
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't know what danger you're going to be in because if I don't step in that first box I've never endanger.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not raised in the crane or on fire shackled up if I don't get in the box.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm safe
[SPEAKER_00]: So getting out of the box when you're in is easy, stepping into that new box, everybody's in a bad relationship because they're worried they'll never find somebody.
[SPEAKER_00]: So they just harbor a horrible relationship with a fear of not meeting somebody new.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or they have a dead end job they've been in for 15 years and they're already capped at their financial goals at that position but they don't want to change it because everything in the desk drawers has they've left it.
[SPEAKER_00]: My raging ignorance of doubt means I step out of the box and into a new box, and as a afraid as I am to step into it, I'm excited to see what's inside.
[SPEAKER_01]: For the person who's listening to this, that they're listening to you talk and they're examining their own life at the same time, I'm doing this as you're talking.
[SPEAKER_01]: And
[SPEAKER_01]: their self-evaluation comes back that they overindex on safety, and hearing you speak, they're going that pain, that discomfort, that frustration, that anxiety, that dull sense that we have when we're misaligned, when we're, you know, what's something they can do?
[SPEAKER_01]: How would you
[SPEAKER_01]: guide them to break out of this safety cycle of just always overindexing towards safe.
[SPEAKER_01]: If they're unhappy with that, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: With the advice always being, if you're on cloud nine with that, then that's wonderful.
[SPEAKER_01]: But you're sitting here and you have that dull sense of,
[SPEAKER_01]: Man, I'm stuck, but like you said, I'm right now more fearful of what the next move would be or stepping on on my own.
[SPEAKER_01]: However, how do they start to crack that mentality, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: With how do they start to break that down to to maybe they'll never be uncomfortable taking that dangerous step?
[SPEAKER_01]: But how do we get them to do it if they're happiness lies down that path?
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, the first thing I'm gonna say is, look around.
[SPEAKER_00]: You and I are talking on computers in different parts of the world, real time.
[SPEAKER_00]: We have lights around us.
[SPEAKER_00]: I see books behind you and all kinds of things.
[SPEAKER_00]: All of these are because people failed and succeeded.
[SPEAKER_00]: the light bulb alone didn't work the very first time it was tried like I mean pick pick anything around you and we have it because somebody didn't give up and they pushed it until it was a product that we could buy invest in or use.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when I look at my own life I often wonder if I'm bringing something tangible to the market that is valuable to somebody else.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, when you're stuck in that spot, the first thing you've got to do is look at the character that you play.
[SPEAKER_00]: Me, it's that character development.
[SPEAKER_00]: We talk about Danny Z.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have I invested in my character enough to believe that it's valuable to somebody else?
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the product, what I'm saying or what I'm providing or the entertainment that I'm bringing, is it good enough that people would want to invest in that?
[SPEAKER_00]: So,
[SPEAKER_00]: One of the things that I already said to you in this conversation is I don't know what I'm going to be when I grow up or I don't know what's next or I'm fearful because I I still got so much to do so if you're looking at your life and and you're stagnant not going somewhere then you're one of those people that really needs to evaluate what the next step is because to be comfortable and complacent for the rest of your natural life you might as well be a program that's doing nothing like you're just in
[SPEAKER_00]: you're just in the Groundhog Day every day's the same.
[SPEAKER_00]: What value is that?
[SPEAKER_00]: And how do you inspire others?
[SPEAKER_00]: You and I are both parents.
[SPEAKER_00]: Shame on me if I stop and don't show my children that they can achieve anything if they work hard with good ethics and good moral backbone.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want my children to far exceed anything that I've ever done.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want them to be on fire in a box hanging from a helicopter, but I can say to you that I want them to challenge themselves and find out what is out there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want them to just be happier.
[SPEAKER_00]: That'd be good enough.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're listening and watching this and you're in that relationship or that job or that house, nobody ever moves to a bigger house without it being uncomfortable.
[SPEAKER_00]: Moving day sucks, nobody ever breaks up from a relationship thinking that they're going to be lonely for the rest of their life, but that first kiss with that new person, the magic of falling in love again is the most incredible thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: My first born.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I just gave up, I wouldn't have all the children that I have.
[SPEAKER_00]: Each one is a magical memory in an expression of myself and my proof that love exists and that there's so much more.
[SPEAKER_00]: So,
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, if you're watching this nits uncomfortable, good, it should be uncomfortable because growth is uncomfortable.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why we had growing pains when we were young.
[SPEAKER_00]: Growth isn't easy for everybody in it to require sacrifice and failure.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've fallen and broken so many bones.
[SPEAKER_00]: I carry my medical papers with me where I go so that when I hurt myself, I can just hand a minute at the hospital.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not easy, and it's hard to get back up on the horse after you've been bucked off.
[SPEAKER_00]: The journey is so incredible when you get there that you realize the value isn't in the journey but the destination.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when you've looked around and you've tasted the food and seen the sunset, it's time to move to the next place.
[SPEAKER_00]: Keep going, it's an incredible, incredible way to live.
[SPEAKER_01]: It does seem like a lot of people get stagnant for a whole bunch of reasons.
[SPEAKER_01]: One of those reasons being, or one of the reasons that was recently given to me by a guy who called randomly called me, colleague slash friend.
[SPEAKER_01]: And he had questions about a couple of stuff in the conversation kind of similar to ours.
[SPEAKER_01]: devolved into more head of your topics we'll say right and he had kind of expressed that that while he's been successful He felt very stagnant and he's like, you know, I I really would like to kind of spit spin up this side project or side quest, but you know, I'm just I got so much going on blah, blah, blah, and ultimately when I asked them what those things were there all just distraction
[SPEAKER_01]: Right?
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, I'm assuming in order to when you're in a box that's on fire that is elevated at a distance that the fall would be something you don't want to happen, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: You have to be supremely focused in present in the moment to execute that.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's my assumption, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: So.
[SPEAKER_01]: Focus seems like a super power today.
[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe more than ever before.
[SPEAKER_01]: Not that it always hasn't been incredibly important, but maybe more than ever before with Focus seem so incredibly important.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do you stay focused at the macro level?
[SPEAKER_01]: Career life family the things that are important to you right with all the opportunities that probably come to you on a day-to-day basis and then Maybe I'd love for you to dig in even.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do you be as present and focused as you need to be in that box?
[SPEAKER_01]: like how do you on a micro level.
[SPEAKER_00]: The box is an interesting analogy, not just the one that we talked about like we did like escaping the box, but when I get in there, I'm only able to do it from muscle memory and repetition.
[SPEAKER_00]: The truth is picking a lock.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's even picking a lock is such an interesting concept when you think about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean the truth is I can't see what I'm doing and I have to reach in and with a very delicate touch I got to feel the pins and I have to count and I have to think and I have to can't let anything else around me bother as I micro manage the simple simplicity of picking a lock.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's all.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean there's just no room for air.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to be focused on that enough that you're able to achieve that and then go on to the next order of operations.
[SPEAKER_00]: So,
[SPEAKER_00]: Having a plan, even though it sounds like I just winged my life, I just went on to be like, I'm going to the next door, kick it open.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, you still have to have a plan in some fashion.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when I get into the box and have to escape it, I do have a box at home that I get in.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I practice over and over and over and over and over and over again.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I do try to work all of the bugs out.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Drop my picks and have to find them in the dark like I try to challenge myself under the worst circumstances to have the most positive outcome In the fact that I'm nine operations and probably 70 hospital visits later means I didn't always make it But um
[SPEAKER_00]: It didn't stop me either.
[SPEAKER_00]: The focus and the ability to deal with what I have to under that pressure is horrible.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not joke that I cry the whole time or I'm stressed out about it before or after.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, what I do is very extreme and not from any people.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you peel back all the layers, literally every single thing we do is the exact same.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just we look at it in a different way.
[SPEAKER_00]: You can look at it and say being in a high pressure box at that stake is way more dangerous.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, is it just, I'm certainly in less danger in that box than somebody texting on the highway.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can tell you, less people have died falling from a crate in a box on fire than on the highway while they're texting.
[SPEAKER_00]: it's making advanced proper choices that put me in the best situation for the most positive outcome.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you really just think about the words that just fell out of my mouth, you look at any situation you're in, analyze what the best things that you can do for the most positive outcome and do your best to achieve that.
[SPEAKER_00]: And in the end, you'll find success
[SPEAKER_01]: Why do you think it is that so many people get to railed then?
[SPEAKER_01]: Because I come across so many like, I want to be in the way that they want to be an entrepreneur, not want to be in like they tried and they never, you're right, like they, I just hear, well, I started and then I got distracted or I started and then we morphed and then it never really became anything.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like why, why is it so difficult for us to, as you said, prepare and execute.
[SPEAKER_01]: over and over and over again, the routine that leads to success.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's so rare that someone doesn't know the things they need to do to be honest.
[SPEAKER_01]: Right, so the coach, I have a mentor that I talk to.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, perfect.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I, as, as I do, and I have a circle of friends, okay, that I count on or I have conversations with.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm lucky enough to be on shows like this where you talk to other like-minded people or motivated people.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why did people stop?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you don't have somebody that holds you accountable, self-accountability is the easiest way to fail at anything.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can tell you yesterday after we had dinner, my daughter didn't want to bring the dishes to the sink.
[SPEAKER_00]: She'd rather talk on TikTok or whatever platform she's playing on her phone.
[SPEAKER_00]: My wife didn't want to put the laundry away because we were playing with the baby and I could give you a laundry list of failures that we don't want to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: And my success comes from having to be accountable because if I come on this show with you and I say tomorrow I'm going for a world record and I'm doing this and a whole bunch of the listener ship and the people who follow you log on to watch me and I don't do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: They have nothing positive to say about me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have to follow through.
[SPEAKER_00]: So having a platform in radio or television or having a good coaching platform that follows me or mentorship program makes me accountable because I said to you I'll meet you today for this time to be on a call with you and to do this.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's being accountable.
[SPEAKER_00]: When we go to a job, we get paid at the end of the week because we went for our 44 hours a week or whatever it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Being self-accountable isn't enough.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to put yourself out there, you have to promise that if you want to lose weight, go on social media and tell everybody you're going to lose weight and then tell them you're going to come back on every single day and tell you how you're achieving it.
[SPEAKER_00]: In the first day you're not on there, you'll have 10 of your friends, messaging and say you're supposed to be on a four o'clock.
[SPEAKER_00]: Accountability is the hardest thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Self-accountability.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Challenge yourself to find a friend to go to the gym with.
[SPEAKER_00]: Two people will always go to the gym, one person won't.
[SPEAKER_00]: find a reason to be self-accountable and have somebody mentor you or coach you and find somebody that you believe in a motive at you.
[SPEAKER_00]: My success, I could say the acclates of my success are mine because I achieved it but I did it because I had a great spouse, children that were proud of me and a team of people who inspired me and I could communicate with.
[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't happen on your own.
[SPEAKER_00]: It will never happen on your own.
[SPEAKER_01]: couldn't agree with that more, you know, I've, it wasn't until later in my life that I found a good mentor and then I also have an incredible group of friends, you know, tight circle that, you know, you can talk to and be very honest with and understand where you're coming from and hold you accountable.
[SPEAKER_01]: But for the, for the early part of my life,
[SPEAKER_01]: my parents were my dad was a labor on the railroad, mom's a receptionist, like when I was growing up, their advice to me was go work for a big company and get a safe job and, you know, whatever, and like that was always a disconnect for me, like just my mentality and
[SPEAKER_01]: So I couldn't really count on them.
[SPEAKER_01]: They were great at love, the parental love.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I pulled very blessed in that regard.
[SPEAKER_01]: But beyond that, they weren't really good.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then there was no one really in my life.
[SPEAKER_01]: I grew up in this very small, very poor town.
[SPEAKER_01]: We used to say, you could leave the doors open at night because the criminals lived in our town.
[SPEAKER_01]: They didn't steal in our town.
[SPEAKER_01]: And so I wasn't, I didn't have anybody there.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then coming out of high school, there weren't really any coaches.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, I just, I never had that person.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then I got, in my 20s, I was very lost.
[SPEAKER_01]: Feel very similar to you that my life has happened to me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I would not grade myself maybe as high on always kicking the door open.
[SPEAKER_01]: Although I will say in the moments when I have kicked the door open, have usually been the moments when I was on the right path.
[SPEAKER_01]: And when I tiptoed in or took a look and closed the door, because of fear, I often regret those decisions.
[SPEAKER_01]: When you find that person, and I, and I, and I, guys, I just, I hope you're taking in what they ain't saying here, because, because I, so many of us, and I think ego is another driver of this, is if I don't do it on my own, then I didn't achieve it.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not mine or, you know, people aren't gonna look at me the same, like, you know, I don't need a coach.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've, you know, I already exited from one business, or I had a successful sales career, so I don't need a coach here,
[SPEAKER_01]: I have a counselor, I go see every week and I have a mentor that I talk to every single week.
[SPEAKER_01]: And the last, the success that I've seen in the last seven years of my life, business wise in particular, is 100 percent, I want to represent.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can tie it back with a large percentage to the weekly, bi-weekly conversations that I have with those two individuals.
[SPEAKER_01]: That like, you know, you come in and you got this scrambled thought because somebody just said, hey, Danny, you know, I know you do hitting a tissue, but we want you to get in this box and we're gonna lay it on fire and see if you can get out of it or you in, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: And you're going, oh my god, that sounds really cool, but I also don't want to die.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've never done it before, what will people think?
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, they'd be, you know, me like,
[SPEAKER_01]: And it's another reason I love this show and like you said, having conversations because when you actually hear yourself explaining what's going on between your ears, you often don't even need the person to respond.
[SPEAKER_01]: But you need to have that person if you're just to talk out loud into the air, it's not the same, but if.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm explaining to you all the crazy, mishmash thoughts and fears and stuff that's going on.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I get it out of my face.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you're listening to me.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's something about that activity that allows you to frame things.
[SPEAKER_01]: Even if they don't give you any advice, even if they're just nodding along all the sudden you're like, Oh!
[SPEAKER_01]: What was I even scared about, you know, or whatever, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, but so many people struggle for that relationship or they, they feel like they, it's too early or I'm not ready or, you know, you know, whatever excuses it is and guys, I just, I know I'm pontificating here, but I can't push you.
[SPEAKER_01]: enough to find somebody, find somebody that you can talk to you on a consistent, and I think I think you would agree, but push back, it's the consistency in my opinion that's important.
[SPEAKER_01]: Doesn't have to be every other week, it doesn't have to be every week, it can be once a month, it can be once a quarter, but that consistency of conversation where that person is going to go.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, Danny, you told me you were going to do three locks and you only did one lock like what the F bro, like you told me that this is what you were going to do and you didn't do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Why, why didn't you do it, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: And now is now you have to explain why you didn't do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, it's just, it's so incredibly valuable and so few people take advantage of a coach or a mentor or a counselor that I hope, I hope in some small part part of what people get out of this podcast is maybe a push to start to look for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Self-doubt is an easy passenger on the journey that you're going.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's certainly one that will cling onto you like a backpack and allow you to fail and.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you're really not going anywhere with that baggage.
[SPEAKER_00]: You just gotta let it go.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you have to also wage what value is and what you're hoping to get out of your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're so worried that what you're trying to achieve is unachievable, then you need to be thinking about something else.
[SPEAKER_00]: Really, like it's,
[SPEAKER_00]: I just have lived the absolute most incredible life, and if I didn't believe that I should try, I wouldn't have done any of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So there's so much left for you to do that you should do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: It should celebrate on board and I just love, you know, and kind of wrapping up our conversation.
[SPEAKER_01]: I want to talk to you for another four hours because they're, like you said, we literally in the guys and we're going to get to how to follow along with your journey and where your shows are and all that kind of stuff.
[SPEAKER_01]: But like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I,
[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like we've literally just like tiny scratch the surface because there was like three more things that that we talked about, whatever, but this has been a wonderful introduction to your mentality and why I wanted to have you on the show and you know, just kind of calling back to the things that that really caught me, where this idea of a raging ignorance to doubt.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love that idea.
[SPEAKER_01]: I absolutely love that idea and I also think
[SPEAKER_01]: I think, you know, we as an audience and, you know, I consider myself as part of the audience of you on this show is this idea of developing the characters of our life, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: The spouse character, the parent character, the boss character, the performance, whatever characters are relevant and necessary for you to be successful.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've never really thought about
[SPEAKER_01]: developing them necessarily I that that is not something that I've ever wrapped my head around and I really appreciate that from from my heart I appreciate that some spend time and that and that and that was incredibly valuable to me man I I appreciate it so much wait we will work all day for an avatar on our social media
[SPEAKER_00]: you just got to figure out who you need to be for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's incredible how we'll work on that persona and how a character we play in a video game or how we are meant to be perceived publicly, but we don't work on ourselves in that same fashion.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's ridiculous.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to know who you are and how you present and how you want people to perceive you and what's that look like.
[SPEAKER_00]: And as silly as it sounds, don't be afraid to write it out.
[SPEAKER_00]: right how you want to look.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'll never find me anywhere on media or television without white sneakers, a pair of jeans and a t-shirt.
[SPEAKER_00]: You'll never find me anywhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's the same character I've been playing for 20 years.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a picture of me.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I look like.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's the character that I've chosen to play and it's how I want to be perceived and that's just visually.
[SPEAKER_00]: And
[SPEAKER_00]: you see me around children or family and I'm going to acknowledge the kids and shake the man's hand.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to acknowledge the woman and elderly man.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to say sir and elderly woman I'm going to say ma'am and you could say that that's etiquette and I could say that's character development because I would like the people to perceive me as somebody who cares.
[SPEAKER_00]: and loves and is chasing the same success as hopefully they are.
[SPEAKER_00]: So who do you want to be when you grow up?
[SPEAKER_00]: How do you want people to see you?
[SPEAKER_00]: And at the end of the night, when I put my head down on my pillow, I have to feel good about that person and what that day looks like.
[SPEAKER_00]: Otherwise, I've just failed myself.
[SPEAKER_01]: Daniel, Danny Z's, Paul, and I am so glad that fate put us in contact at the Delta Club and Detroit, I think it was.
[SPEAKER_01]: And, man, I just appreciate the way that you view the world and way you approach your work.
[SPEAKER_01]: And, I consider it's such a blessing that you'd spend time with us today.
[SPEAKER_01]: I hope you'll leave me on the dance sometime, I hope I get to do it again.
[SPEAKER_01]: Open invitation, open invitation.
[SPEAKER_01]: We could do it tomorrow again if you want.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, not no.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, if you did, we can.
[SPEAKER_01]: But where do people who want to get deeper into your world?
[SPEAKER_01]: Where's the best place for them to do that?
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, there's two ways.
[SPEAKER_00]: Danny Z's with four Z's.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you do a search on any platform, you're going to find a ton of stuff.
[SPEAKER_00]: My website is DannyZ's.com.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you can see my name and you're watching on screen, my real name is Daniel Pollan.
[SPEAKER_00]: And Daniel Pollan.com is where I do a lead hypnosis training and coaching and therapy for people who want to take their executive level to a higher level.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't take a lot of people on that.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's really hands on and it's a life-changing experience for those who do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: So for those people who want to go there, please find me there.
[SPEAKER_00]: But otherwise, my phone number on all of the websites is really myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just give me a call.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not hiding from anybody if I can have a conversation.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's somebody who's watching and listening to this right now that heard something.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have said that resonates with them and they want to talk about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just a guy like you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm happy to take the call and put my hand around your shoulder and tell you that tomorrow's a new day.
[SPEAKER_01]: I appreciate the hell out of you, my friend.
[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you so much.