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03:19.017 --> 03:20.778 [SPEAKER_00]: Or, okay, but are we gonna do so? 03:20.798 --> 03:27.805 [SPEAKER_00]: We literally were walking out of the zoo one time and he looked at me and said, are we gonna do something fun today? 03:29.767 --> 03:33.431 [SPEAKER_00]: And so I am triggered in this season of motherhood. 03:34.312 --> 03:45.062 [SPEAKER_00]: But beyond being triggered, I always do my best to be as introspective as I possibly can 03:46.240 --> 04:07.423 [SPEAKER_00]: And most recently, when I found myself being frustrated because I had just given him something that he wanted and he turned around and asked for something else or said it wasn't enough or asked for more, I thought to myself, how often have I frustrated God because I was not grateful? 04:08.484 --> 04:12.889 [SPEAKER_00]: How many times have I prayed for this thing that I wanted 04:14.489 --> 04:26.153 [SPEAKER_00]: got in it, been blessed with it, and then instead of me sitting with it for long enough to actually show appreciation for it, I set my sights on the next thing. 04:26.487 --> 04:33.374 [SPEAKER_00]: I figure out how I can set this thing that I just prayed and bliss when tears work so hard for. 04:33.914 --> 04:39.039 [SPEAKER_00]: Set that thing to the side so that I can set my sights on the next thing that I want to go after. 04:39.560 --> 04:47.828 [SPEAKER_00]: How often are we going from goal to goal to goal and not sitting in the success from accomplishing the last goal? 04:48.168 --> 04:52.512 [SPEAKER_00]: How often are we frustrating our father? 04:52.745 --> 05:19.798 [SPEAKER_00]: Because he's blessing us with these things that we've been begging for and we are seemingly unappreciative and ungrateful and it's so beautiful to be able to see the alignment with my frustrations with my child and guys frustrations with his child that I am no better than my baby and even though in that moment I find myself wanting to go off and be in triggered. 05:20.234 --> 05:39.674 [SPEAKER_00]: I have to understand and recognize that these same struggles and challenges that he's having at four years old are really relatable to the same struggles and challenges that I'm experiencing at 40 years old and even being able to tap into that perspective really helps me as a parent. 05:39.694 --> 05:47.862 [SPEAKER_00]: It really helps me to change the lens in which I am studying these things, change the lens 05:48.162 --> 05:55.123 [SPEAKER_00]: my child because it makes me realize that I am not perfect either even though in this relationship I am the parent. 05:55.885 --> 06:01.783 [SPEAKER_00]: I am also in perfect and so I am encouraged on a daily basis to do better. 06:02.118 --> 06:20.920 [SPEAKER_00]: To do better today than I did yesterday and in this season it's my children that are teaching me those hard lessons and really causing me to reflect on how I am showing up because most of their quote unquote bad behavior is a reflection of what they've seen. 06:21.170 --> 06:25.101 [SPEAKER_00]: what I am encouraging, what I'm nurturing, or what I'm teaching. 06:25.242 --> 06:33.626 [SPEAKER_00]: And so before I can get mad at them for the decisions that they're making, I found myself wanting to tell my kids that was actually like they had in the home training. 06:33.646 --> 06:35.010 [SPEAKER_00]: And then I said, ooh! 06:35.125 --> 06:37.147 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm the trainer, wait a minute now. 06:37.888 --> 06:42.353 [SPEAKER_00]: I can't be telling these kids thing, I know how I'm trying and when I'm the one responsible for doing the training. 06:43.114 --> 06:44.836 [SPEAKER_00]: Motherhood will humble you. 06:45.376 --> 06:50.922 [SPEAKER_00]: Motherhood should cause you to challenge yourself to do things differently and to do things better. 06:51.623 --> 06:59.752 [SPEAKER_00]: And so this week on this episode, I want to encourage you to check your gratitude. 07:00.333 --> 07:05.098 [SPEAKER_00]: Check the last time you were actually appreciative 07:05.450 --> 07:14.966 [SPEAKER_00]: check how quickly you move on from one go to the next and really ask yourself if you are allowing yourself time to sit with your success. 07:15.107 --> 07:22.980 [SPEAKER_00]: Are you allowing yourself time to even experience and show gratitude for the things that God is gifting you with? 07:23.561 --> 07:25.264 [SPEAKER_00]: I am willing to bet 07:25.463 --> 07:50.560 [SPEAKER_00]: That you ain't no better than me or my kid that you are over there begging and wishing and hoping and praying for one thing and the moment it shows up you are ready to start manifesting for the next and I truly truly believe that we can we we get more when we show appreciation for what we have now so I don't believe that God is going to bless us with a hundred thousand when we can't even show appreciation for a hundred. 07:51.333 --> 07:59.123 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so hopefully you are feeling inspired and encouraged and empowered to just do better. 07:59.203 --> 08:04.010 [SPEAKER_00]: That should be our goal every single day to do better today than we were able to do yesterday. 08:04.610 --> 08:06.192 [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you're feeling inspired. 08:06.893 --> 08:17.307 [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you are feeling encouraged and I am so grateful that you have continued to tap in and tune into the girls that plan. 08:17.658 --> 08:18.620 [SPEAKER_00]: podcast. 08:18.640 --> 08:22.288 [SPEAKER_00]: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you share it with a friend. 08:22.749 --> 08:24.934 [SPEAKER_00]: Subscribe over on YouTube. 08:25.054 --> 08:29.825 [SPEAKER_00]: If you like to hang out over there and I will catch you on the next episode. 08:30.466 --> 08:30.807 [SPEAKER_00]: Peace.