[SPEAKER_01]: See, I've got the fucking hiccups and they only started as soon as I needed to start recording.
[SPEAKER_01]: I apologize in advance.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna really try my friend taught me this trick where I can't remember it.
[SPEAKER_01]: You hold your breath in swallow.
[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like that's the old school one.
[SPEAKER_01]: or he said like swallowing until you can't swallowing anymore, which just feels like some sort of sexist joke he was making.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, welcome back to the podcast where I'm so sure we don't know everything.
[SPEAKER_01]: I am your host Kelsey.
[SPEAKER_01]: Motherfuck and Deborah, y'all, how is it already December?
[SPEAKER_01]: The actual fuck.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's holiday season.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's snowing places.
[SPEAKER_01]: What the haily?
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I feel like this year went by so fast.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, so slow that I did nothing that I did everything.
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, speaking of doing things.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, you know, we're 17 days away from my first feature film documentary being released, which is crazy.
[SPEAKER_01]: Cocoonanners, um, still not ready, but we're doing it.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're doing it anyway.
[SPEAKER_01]: And you can still get your ticket at moment.co slash forgiveness.
[SPEAKER_01]: It is a live streaming premiere, but you can also watch it for up to three weeks after that.
[SPEAKER_01]: But they are ticket.
[SPEAKER_01]: And we're also doing a live Q&A after the screening.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to be in Barcelona.
[SPEAKER_01]: Also, I'm so distracted because right behind my camera is the most gorgeous sunset in Los Angeles.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've ever seen my life out my window.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like strawberry swirls happening.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I got an ADHD back on track because I'm not
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, hope you guys had a thrilling holiday.
[SPEAKER_01]: I had a very good Thanksgiving.
[SPEAKER_01]: I went over tools, zaggies, corn fell towels.
[SPEAKER_01]: I got to play with my beautiful baby Lucia Lulu.
[SPEAKER_01]: And it was just a great old family time.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like they adopted me for the day, their families were there.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was just like a cute ass, like everyone cooking in the kitchen, set it up on a big table, buff face style.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was very nice.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was very good to get that, like, last little, like, I don't know, L.A. time in with my friends because Eek in 10 days.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm flying back to Tampa just for one or two nights and then off to my new adventure, my new European life.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's crazy.
[SPEAKER_01]: I still can't believe I'm doing this, but alas.
[SPEAKER_01]: Here we are!
[SPEAKER_01]: I've watched like 700 documentaries on the weekend off.
[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like everyone had a really long, hopefully relaxing, good weekend.
[SPEAKER_01]: Nothing like traumatic happened that I can recall.
[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, I watched really good shows.
[SPEAKER_01]: I watched thoughts and prayers on HBO.
[SPEAKER_01]: I watched
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, just a lot of really good stuff.
[SPEAKER_01]: What shows are you guys watching right now?
[SPEAKER_01]: Give me some stuff I should watch on the flight in the comments below.
[SPEAKER_01]: Please and tanks.
[SPEAKER_01]: Also, this I just wanted to brag about.
[SPEAKER_01]: This isn't really a podcast relevant.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's no segment for this.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I wanted to show you a deal in a steel that I got, baby.
[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe that's a new segment section.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's called this deal of a steel.
[SPEAKER_01]: I have been looking for house slippers.
[SPEAKER_01]: I have, I've been looking for house lippers that are ones I could wear inside and outside in all weather terrain because you never know what you're going to get in LA.
[SPEAKER_01]: One day it's fucking pouring down rain, the next day it's freezing cold next day you're sweating your tits off and when I go to hear up I know it's going to be like very cold probably but also we're going to be in a bunch of different climates.
[SPEAKER_01]: I just need it good.
[SPEAKER_01]: house slippers.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I was at demolishing wicked to look for good, which I really loved.
[SPEAKER_01]: I didn't think it was as good as the first one, but how can you be as good as the first act?
[SPEAKER_01]: The second act is very hard.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, now what I'm here to talk about.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I was perusing, and I saw these pair of, uh, shoes that were like 120 bucks.
[SPEAKER_01]: They were exactly what I wanted, step in, but they have a back.
[SPEAKER_01]: They were really cute.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, oh, I just do not want to pay
[SPEAKER_01]: But he took a picture of them and I was like, you know, maybe I'll ask for them for Christmas or something, but that is so stupid to get that much money for householders.
[SPEAKER_01]: Low and be motherfucking hold.
[SPEAKER_01]: I had to go pick something up from Target for a brand deal that I shot this weekend.
[SPEAKER_01]: And what do I see?
[SPEAKER_01]: the shoes.
[SPEAKER_01]: The shoes that are nearly identical to the ones that I wanted that were $128 for $20.
[SPEAKER_01]: They were having a black Friday sale.
[SPEAKER_01]: Your girl was like, oh, let me just get out.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me just get one of them.
[SPEAKER_01]: And they are so comfy.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think I've taken them off for three days.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm about to sleep in these.
[SPEAKER_01]: No joke.
[SPEAKER_01]: I just want to tell you about that deal of the steel.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think it's less about the name brand when it comes to shoes like that.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's more about durability.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think too, I would have been so devastated to get those houselippers dirty because they would be so expensive and something like this.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, yes, if they last a year, I'm amazing, but if they don't, I'm not going to be like, holy shit, I can't believe there's dirt and snow and hippo feet all over these and oh, God, they're so comfy.
[SPEAKER_01]: They're the like ardent brand that they have there, which is very, like, soft things.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, that was my deal with steel.
[SPEAKER_01]: How'd you like it?
[SPEAKER_01]: New something.
[SPEAKER_01]: Now it's sponsored right to you by Sparkling Orange.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's the as live bit.
[SPEAKER_01]: This guy just keeps getting more beautiful behind y'all.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know what it is.
[SPEAKER_01]: God is visiting earth right now because that shit is crazy.
[SPEAKER_01]: It is stunning.
[SPEAKER_01]: On one side it's like purple and pink and then on the other side it's orange and purple.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just beautiful.
[SPEAKER_01]: At least you guys were here with me right now.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, anyway, moving on.
[SPEAKER_01]: Ooh, I have something interesting.
[SPEAKER_01]: Did I forget my phone though?
[SPEAKER_01]: Cause I need my phone to play it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me see if I can pull it up on my, in my iPad.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love my iPad for multiple reasons, but my favorite reason is because I use it for the podcast.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, wait, I think I can pull it up.
[SPEAKER_01]: Go to profile, saved.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, collections puzzle.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, here we go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Guys are kicking at the bumps on your nose.
[SPEAKER_01]: Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you guys are picking at the bumps on your nips on your area list, please put the level of God's stop doing that, they're not pimples, they're not clocked pores, they're not in grown hairs.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a Nicole Montgomery glands.
[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Tabletoo, same weekly series where I talk about topics that other people find taboo or TMI, but I know, see, I have those bumps on your nips on your area list, but I'm not going to have a lens.
[SPEAKER_00]: If they ever didn't, don't pop them, not only can you get an infection, but again, they're there for a recent one.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, there's a few.
[SPEAKER_00]: First, they're protective.
[SPEAKER_00]: They do release this like very, very light oily secretion helps protect the nips, but their primary role is birth and breastfeeding a baby.
[SPEAKER_00]: They basically put out like a little signal by secreting a fair amount to your baby so that they know where to latch, because I don't know if you know this, but why are babies?
[SPEAKER_00]: They can't see shit.
[SPEAKER_00]: They can't see anything that's not like right here.
[SPEAKER_00]: And those little bumps are fair moments that your babies like bullseye.
[SPEAKER_00]: So please don't pick and then we'll pop them.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're there for a reason.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's wow!
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, I'm not even lied to y'all.
[SPEAKER_01]: I thought.
[SPEAKER_01]: Again, I'm a woman that thinks she knows it all and I really truly thought I knew I didn't know those things had a name for us at all So well, I've never picked her pop, but that's insane But I did not know they were called Montgomery claims and I I thought the reason they existed was as like Like guardrails for your titties like I thought they were like grippers for babies to hold on to I had no idea
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you learned something new every day.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can't say this podcast is an educational.
[SPEAKER_01]: All right, peace, I remember y'all when he would always yell at me for making this podcast to your educational not funny enough.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh gosh, I miss him.
[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe I'll have him on as our guest this weekend if I can get him when he's not busy before I leave town.
[SPEAKER_01]: I sure do miss his goofy ass.
[SPEAKER_01]: I never, you know, the best part about having him over all the time was I, we had to record a podcast.
[SPEAKER_01]: I got to do it hang out with him.
[SPEAKER_01]: And now that I don't, we don't have to record a podcast, I don't get to see him as much.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hitball, you better get out that trash, Kim Boi, hitball.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was been dumpster diving lately.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, he just got stuck in the toilet roll.
[SPEAKER_01]: She, they hold her.
[SPEAKER_01]: Did that scare you?
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, that's how you get for being too curious.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, that's crazy because I also knew that like when someone has just had a baby if they're baby cries, their boobs leak as like a signal, but I thought that was crazy enough.
[SPEAKER_01]: I had no idea about the fair amount of thing.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, if you're picking out your Titi bumps stop it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't do that, like they said, they're for a reason.
[SPEAKER_01]: Why would we have all that extraness?
[SPEAKER_01]: Why would every single person with titties have that if not for a reason?
[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?
[SPEAKER_01]: That's the thing that I don't understand about like, this is I'm not trying to shame people that have labia shame, but I'm like, clearly we need our labias for various reasons.
[SPEAKER_01]: And just because yours doesn't look exactly the same, like people don't look exactly the same.
[SPEAKER_01]: But of course your labias are gonna look exactly the same and everybody else is.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know, I just think they're there for purpose and you know, all babies are beautiful.
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, okay, here's another fun T to T to T to T to T, T to T, T to T, T to T, T to T, T to T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T, T
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, you, hip-hop, hip-hop, sorry to all the people that are listening to this episode that I have dogs in the house.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, you, what are you doing?
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't pick up that toilet paper roll holder.
[SPEAKER_01]: Come here, come here, come over here.
[SPEAKER_01]: What makes you think you could take that and bring it to me?
[SPEAKER_01]: This is a thing about teaching a dog a retrieved command is like, sadly, they're like, I can pick things up and just move them all willy, nilly.
[SPEAKER_01]: I am very proud of the boy, though, who who finally learned with me, which means, come in between my legs.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey you, why don't you have a laid-down and sit and relax and enjoy the black ass like everybody else.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm about to do a very funny segment.
[SPEAKER_01]: You want to know what the segment is?
[SPEAKER_01]: The segment is the best way to hurt a man's feelings.
[SPEAKER_01]: I know the reason why he's being a bad boy is because I took all of his like good chew toys away because he just had gum surgery because he has too much gum.
[SPEAKER_01]: So he's got an overgrowth of gab and gums and I took his chew toys away because he's not supposed to chew him yet and now he's looking for things to just bring to me and chew on.
[SPEAKER_01]: You got to just relax.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, anyway, let me tell you the funny comments that I saw on a TikTok that a girl was like, hey, leave your best her demands feelings comment, which you know me, I'm always here to drag men to serve them a little dose of humble pie, a little ego reducer.
[SPEAKER_01]: So here they are, the funniest lines that you can use to hurt a man's feelings.
[SPEAKER_01]: This one's really good for like if someone's sliding in your DMs or if someone's like a approach to you at a bar, you just look them dead in the eye or you type this out to them and just say, you shouldn't be around of your lane.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, you really, you stick to what you know, you know, you shouldn't veer out of your lane.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's so funny or be like, oh my god, look at you trying to veer out of your lane, almost make it sound like it's a
[SPEAKER_01]: That's really, that was really big of you to try and bear out of your lane, but no, thank you, just hit him with one of those.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, stay in your lane.
[SPEAKER_01]: Let's get it by show everyone.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, this one felt a little bit like old, this one feels like an old school insult, but I liked it.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is how you can call them ugly without calling them ugly, shoot to the face.
[SPEAKER_01]: You are cueing for intelligence when they were giving away beauty.
[SPEAKER_01]: You were queuing intelligence when they were just giving beauty away for free.
[SPEAKER_01]: I see Wow, and you chose intelligent not to say it'll love a smart man, but you were really queuing for intelligence instead of beauty.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh God, this one sent me this one sent me.
[SPEAKER_01]: You asked them hey, as an outsider, what are your views on pretty privilege?
[SPEAKER_01]: As an outsider, what are your views on pretty privilege?
[SPEAKER_01]: Dude, as an outsider already sets me out like what, what am I about to get?
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, as an outsider, that is truly like, that's an interesting take.
[SPEAKER_01]: What's your take on pretty privilege?
[SPEAKER_01]: As an outsider, of course.
[SPEAKER_01]: Send me, um, oh man, this one's good too.
[SPEAKER_01]: I hope one day you love yourself as much as your mother clearly overdid.
[SPEAKER_01]: Damn, cuz that's getting you and your mama.
[SPEAKER_01]: That hurts.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's that's like say that's like basically that's a face only a mother good love.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, man, I hope you love.
[SPEAKER_01]: I hope one day you love yourself as much as clearly your mama overdid.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's fucking damn they're gonna have them run it back to their mom would be like mom am I pretty am I cute?
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god wait this one I died this is one that you can reply to on a guy who sends you like a nasty message on a dating site or like they they send you a DM
[SPEAKER_01]: This is if they have like a shirtless gym selfie, you know what I'm saying?
[SPEAKER_01]: This or like a bathing suit pick or, you know, just one of those gym mirror selfies is a best reply.
[SPEAKER_01]: So brave.
[SPEAKER_01]: Can't wait to see the after.
[SPEAKER_01]: And playing you are the before.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god, and hitting them with the so brave, that's always the best.
[SPEAKER_01]: So that was so brave of you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't wait to see the after, holy shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: and them.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god, this one also so good.
[SPEAKER_01]: So good.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is if a guy is hitting on you and like pestering and just won't go away.
[SPEAKER_01]: Again, how to call him ugly, hurt their feelings without directly, I'm to say so.
[SPEAKER_01]: Just like hold your hand up to them while they're trying to chat to you and just like, I'm sorry, my my family takes our bloodline very serious.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like,
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry, our family takes our bloodline very seriously.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I cannot be bothered with the looks of you.
[SPEAKER_01]: Holy shit, God, I would love to just be in the room when this happens.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like Hamilton, I just want to be in the room and it happens, the room happens.
[SPEAKER_01]: Uh, this is another good one.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is a windman's man's being just like real real fucking dumb or like you're just over it and you just have to sit there and fucking take that shit when they're just mouth and off at the gab, like holy shit, just shut your fucking mouth, just wait, you know, just silent, kind of like you're looking at them like, hmm, very quizzically and when they say like, what?
[SPEAKER_01]: What?
[SPEAKER_01]: What you got something to say?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not judging.
[SPEAKER_01]: I just genuinely didn't know they let people like you talk and public without supervision.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry.
[SPEAKER_01]: Where's your handler?
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't you guys have to like have, who let you out of your cage?
[SPEAKER_01]: I just didn't know you guys were allowed to just speak without permission like that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like damn savage.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is the best one.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is the end all be all.
[SPEAKER_01]: Just drop the mic walk away moment.
[SPEAKER_01]: Just like when you really need to be like, get the fuck out of my face.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is definitely one for when you're in like, that annoying like guy wouldn't stop bothering you when you play late to climb and then he inevitably gets mouthy and rude.
[SPEAKER_01]: This is when you throw this at them and walk away.
[SPEAKER_01]: The last time I saw something like you, I flushed it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Bro!
[SPEAKER_01]: Not, I flushed it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And that's so fucking funny to me dude.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's so many reasons.
[SPEAKER_01]: One, just talking about how you take that shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just like huge.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm taking, I don't care if you know.
[SPEAKER_01]: I take a shit right on your face.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care.
[SPEAKER_01]: Second of all, you look like the shit I had.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's another group.
[SPEAKER_01]: Just say it out right out right.
[SPEAKER_01]: You look like a shit I had yesterday.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god Anyway, please somebody use these on someone somewhere and let me know how it goes.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm dying to know any Any other comments you have to any good one line or walk away burns Drop it in the chat.
[SPEAKER_01]: I want to know give me a comment below And I had to set us up.
[SPEAKER_01]: I had to set us up with those good takes of being mean to men because today's the subject is all about Hey, did me this
[SPEAKER_01]: being a bad feminist.
[SPEAKER_01]: And questioning, am I a bad feminist for certain XYZ things?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna let you confide on to be the judge of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: We'll go through it when we come right back.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, I'm just gonna admit this up front because like watching those TikToks and reading of those comments the other day I forgot to say to that like there is no safer space that I feel than in a TikTok comment section like I fully Give myself permission to laugh at those comments.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's one of those things where it's like if anyone knew what I was laughing at I would be fully canceled, but the TikTok comments sometimes bro
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, it doesn't matter who we're making fun of.
[SPEAKER_01]: We will be making fun of every identity under the sun and everyone is in the comment section laughing together.
[SPEAKER_01]: And it is the only place where I'm like, oh my god, my dark humor feel seen and I don't feel bad about laughing about this because I just know I look at the number and it's like 500,000 likes on that top comment and I'm like, oh, I'm not alone out there.
[SPEAKER_01]: We want a laugh, we do, we do want a laugh.
[SPEAKER_01]: And sometimes,
[SPEAKER_01]: People just be saying shit that you're thinking and you're like, I would never say that out loud, especially as like a semi public figure with a platform.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, no, no, but sometimes you just gotta give it up for the people in the comments section, they really be doing the words worked out here.
[SPEAKER_01]: So if there's the comment section is more entertaining than the video itself, they are I say.
[SPEAKER_01]: Dara, I say, okay, let's get into it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Ah, before we start to, I need to publicly apologize to all the feminists, all of our feminists and sisters too, because what I'm about to say in confessed are things that would make glorious, darn them quick.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, clutching our pearls.
[SPEAKER_01]: Bellhooks is just rolling her eyes at me.
[SPEAKER_01]: All right, I'm not proud of these things, but,
[SPEAKER_01]: ever since that viral article came out a few weeks ago where the woman said like having a boyfriend is the most embarrassing thing and I just like can't stop thinking about it and like especially when I'm on the dating apps and stuff too, I just sometimes unless you're like God, you show a embarrassing as a man.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's some, like, safety-ness, there's some like girl club when you're just chatting with a girl and like flirting back and forth.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like that if it just feels like such a safe space and sometimes it's so embarrassing to have to like teach men how to be and ask for things and tell them what you need.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're just like, God, why can't this is so embarrassing?
[SPEAKER_01]: So I haven't stopped thinking of that article and it hadn't me wondering like what other things in my embarrassed by as like a buy out proud feminist that I'm afraid to admit and this is my safe space that I can come and talk to you confidants okay because like look I am allowed feminist I know that I yell about reproductive rights daily but God damn it if I'm not perfect if I do have some problematic.
[SPEAKER_01]: takes on things that I like that I need to know and I about feminists because as much advocacy as I do, there are sometimes I just want my boyfriend to lift me up okay and throw me on the bed and do very niche romantic girly things.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's moments where I'm like oh my god is this two trad wife or or two like Q or am I dressing for the patriarchy and I like hear this voice immediately
[SPEAKER_01]: Am I bad feminist?
[SPEAKER_01]: Am I, am I part of the problem?
[SPEAKER_01]: So I know that feels a little bit strange, but this is a safe space.
[SPEAKER_01]: So today we're doing am I a bad feminist for liking this thing?
[SPEAKER_01]: Let's get into it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Confession number one.
[SPEAKER_01]: The fictional man problem just can't say it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I would let Pedro Pascal, I stole Miller from the last of us.
[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely ruined my life.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I don't know what to say.
[SPEAKER_01]: Once the man scales, my ovaries are doing the motherfucking macarana bitch.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I am a strong independent woman built for the apocalypse.
[SPEAKER_01]: I own a gun.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've got an emergency go kid.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm ready to take on the wild.
[SPEAKER_01]: Unless that man was like,
[SPEAKER_01]: Stay behind me and let me protect you and I be like, yeah, is Daddy walk me into the apocalypse, whatever you say.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't help it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then like I feel all those feelings and then I have the audacity to like, oh, scoff at girls who like stand hairy styles and they're just, and I'm like, oh god, y'all, we're so much bigger than that, come on.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I do pedestal, a fictional man, I sure fucking do.
[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe it's because it's like the alternate reality, it's not a real world.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like when I was reading the Akatar books, I was like, I'm not gonna be one of those girls who just, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
[SPEAKER_01]: My for you page was only,
[SPEAKER_01]: Re-sand imagery for like many weeks and I had to do a full Clens to reset my for you page because that's it was just serving me hot Fairy fictional men doing hot fairy fictional men shit for a long time and I wasn't mad about it Me and Lord the OI were texting them back and forth with you.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I like this version.
[SPEAKER_01]: Ooh, this is the version of my head But God damn it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, what am I?
[SPEAKER_01]: to you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I am wasting so much time fantasizing about this kind of guy being my boyfriend.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I just know resan memorizes a coffee order for a girl.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, brings it to her before the sun is up.
[SPEAKER_01]: Has some fucking Butler service bringing it bedside.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, oh.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I need to own my own business and be a successful proud woman that don't ever rely on no man unless he is a billionaire fairy boy.
[SPEAKER_01]: And then I'm like, you know what?
[SPEAKER_01]: In fact, I will be a princess.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, I will absolutely give up all of my dreams and hopes and wishes and let you take care of me and enjoy it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Holy shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's just something to about fictional men being so strong.
[SPEAKER_01]: the way that they're able to do impossibly strong things.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, God, that made me sound like I was talking about Bella Swan Edward Cohen.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're impossibly fast and super sparkly.
[SPEAKER_01]: But like I was watching physical Asia and physical 100 all last week and final draft if you're into the Korean shows, you know, you know, on Netflix and there is just something about a man picking up something heavy and thrown it around.
[SPEAKER_01]: It just gets me.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, wow, you can throw a bag of flour over a pole 700 times in a row.
[SPEAKER_01]: Wow!
[SPEAKER_01]: It's so domination stupid by fuck!
[SPEAKER_01]: And there's that fine line between like the the steroid user hot where you're just like, I'm not attracted to this because it feels so phony and showy, but like just a real strong dude.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, fuck.
[SPEAKER_01]: It gives me a lot.
[SPEAKER_01]: And don't get me wrong.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's there's some pretty hot ladies there do that like could beat the shit out of me and I'd let her for sure these, but that's I like that.
[SPEAKER_01]: That doesn't feel problematic.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's the men strength that I feel problematic with.
[SPEAKER_01]: What is wrong with me?
[SPEAKER_01]: In that, that made me also remember the time that I saw a TikTok that was going viral about a guy saying, like, oh, my girlfriend only will just read spares in my, it must have been true, a flu, I can't remember.
[SPEAKER_01]: And she was saying like the reason why we're all so obsessed with smile is because the men in those books just know how to act right.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like no one has to teach them or tell them anything, like they just figure it out.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, period, I'm going to keep reading that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to keep on keeping on.
[SPEAKER_01]: I did fourth wing, I did all that shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: Give me, should I do thrones of glass or whatever?
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me know if I should do that next.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've been on my big audiobook kick, but I'm going to get back into my Kindle next.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to get back into that Kindle life.
[SPEAKER_01]: So we must come up with a verdict.
[SPEAKER_01]: Is my confession of liking fictional men, anti-feminism?
[SPEAKER_01]: Is it a problem?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to go with drum rub, no, I think because it's make believe made up, it is completely fine to like all my fictional men.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think it also gives me good standards.
[SPEAKER_01]: It helps with healthy fantasy.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think it's very attainable minus the fairy part that part might be a little hard for a lover to achieve.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I think it's okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think it's okay to stand a fiction man.
[SPEAKER_01]: Because also, I bet nothing will put a man off worse than seeing you like thirst over a fictional man and then being like, I could do that.
[SPEAKER_01]: Whatever.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's no big deal.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, then act like it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe you should read it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, confession number two.
[SPEAKER_01]: Once again, say feasts, sometimes they do like the romantic tropes that you, you know, only read about in books that I would never tolerate, IRL, but like kind of what, like when you're reading it and you're like, oh, god, I've guided this in real life.
[SPEAKER_01]: But kind of, but I'm kind of in, I'm kind of down.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, like in a book or in a TV show, when a man is like, you're mine.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'd be like, oh my god, I would punch him in.
[SPEAKER_01]: If you're a citizen, I would punch you in the fucking face.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know what I, because if you said it to me with a no confidence and I was like a couple days before I my period, I might.
[SPEAKER_01]: I might, I might let you, I might let you take possessive ownership over me, um, like also I hate it when I'm reading a good book and it says the same shit that we've all read before like he felt the witness between my thighs or like I could feel the length of him through his pants, but also it works.
[SPEAKER_01]: It works.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've been saying how much I love audio porn on this podcast for so long.
[SPEAKER_01]: And that that gives me like a healthy dose of like bad, but good, sexy writing.
[SPEAKER_01]: And also great if you need your partner to learn how to talk dirty and bad, highly recommend sending them your favorite audio joys is what they're called.
[SPEAKER_01]: More romance tropes that goddammit they work.
[SPEAKER_01]: my hair behind me here.
[SPEAKER_01]: What is it?
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just so cute.
[SPEAKER_01]: It feels so wholesome.
[SPEAKER_01]: It feels like they care.
[SPEAKER_01]: It makes me feel a little dainty girl.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I'm just, oh, I just get that hair out of my face.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't, oh, I can't be bothered.
[SPEAKER_01]: You want me to, you putting me back in my place, you putting me back together.
[SPEAKER_01]: Ugh!
[SPEAKER_01]: Even saying this out loud, but fuck I love it when it happens.
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, and this is only a recent one that I'm about to confess, I used to think being a pillow princess was lazy and like so whatever, but God damn it, my current boyfriend is the only guy that has ever made me love.
[SPEAKER_01]: How do man go down me that's right I said it if you are related to him please stop listening because I've got to expand on that wow man knows how to eat a girl he just does when we first hooked up and I was like you're more than welcome to but just to have it up I'm not like it's not going to you know give me a cross the finish line I gave him the head up this man really said I love a challenge I am an athlete for a fucking reason I want to be number one and holy shit
[SPEAKER_01]: Do I love it now?
[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't feel guilty.
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, sometimes I feel guilty.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, you know what, you should just take your time down there and have go for.
[SPEAKER_01]: Have at it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I just try to really not feel back because he loves that shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love that shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've really found like a good nice balance sweet spot.
[SPEAKER_01]: No pun intended.
[SPEAKER_01]: And now I don't really mind being the pillow princess.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's a new standard.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'd like to have incorporated in my life.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, this one also hurts.
[SPEAKER_01]: This one also hurts, I kind of love it.
[SPEAKER_01]: When a guy is like obsessed with me.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, it's so unhealthy.
[SPEAKER_01]: But when writing these out, I was like, look, it is the reason why I stayed with my X or two long serve.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like y'all remember that shit was so pathetic, bro.
[SPEAKER_01]: So pathetic.
[SPEAKER_01]: And when writing my new book too, I was like, oh, yep, that's what it was.
[SPEAKER_01]: it wasn't even a need or a desire.
[SPEAKER_01]: He filled a role that I had just like never had before, which was like this man was obsessed with the ground I walked on with like sniffed my fucking sheet if I let up.
[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like just always looking at me and like God, you're just so beautiful.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my God, shut up.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I ate that shit up.
[SPEAKER_01]: I ate it for breakfast!
[SPEAKER_01]: I am Loki obsessed with that.
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, maybe we'd get annoying after a while.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're together a year in change and I'd really, truly, clearly didn't have a problem with it.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I also think it was unhealthy and I think I stayed with them for too long because of it.
[SPEAKER_01]: So is there a problem?
[SPEAKER_01]: Probably.
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, oh, another thing, another thing.
[SPEAKER_01]: This one again.
[SPEAKER_01]: I kind of hate this like romance trope, but I kind of love it.
[SPEAKER_01]: when a guy stands out for you.
[SPEAKER_01]: I know I've taken tons of kickboxing.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love telling a man off in public.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's nothing I like more than yelling at a guy and making him feel dumb.
[SPEAKER_01]: But boy oh boy, there was nothing hotter than very early on when Kenny and I were dating.
[SPEAKER_01]: The athlete and I went to my dentist appointment because I get really bad anxiety and have a really hard time like racing my needs there because I've been traumatized with my job problems and I told the dentist that I wasn't feeling the laughing gas like seven or eight times and he was there trying to help me fix it and I was squeezing his hand every time I'm showing down.
[SPEAKER_01]: And when they left, they were trying to charge me for the laughing gas.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, it didn't work.
[SPEAKER_01]: And they were like, well, we used it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, well, the whole time I was saying that I kept feeling things.
[SPEAKER_01]: I kept feeling things.
[SPEAKER_01]: And honey fucking was like, this place is bullshit.
[SPEAKER_01]: No, we're not coming fucking back here.
[SPEAKER_01]: She should not have the fucking paper.
[SPEAKER_01]: We said it so many times when we was happening.
[SPEAKER_01]: That and I was just like, oh my.
[SPEAKER_01]: God, this man has got my whole ass all over and we definitely hadn't said I love you.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but I just remember being like, yeah, that's going to be one for the athlete, 100%.
[SPEAKER_01]: And that's, yeah, a point.
[SPEAKER_01]: A point has been scored.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to give them the best blow job later.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, there's something about a guy standing up for you that's just hot.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I don't need it, but boy did I fucking like that shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, so guilty.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, no, is this bad of me and my bad feminist?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to go with kind of I want to go with kind of I'm going to go with kind of because I think there's a very fine line of being like reliant on it versus enjoying it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think I have definitely stepped into the reliance
[SPEAKER_01]: place in my life in the past, which I am hopefully never going to do again.
[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I learned a hard lesson, but like I hate that I'm embarrassed to remember an entire relationship that I had with a person.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like with Sarah, I literally am like,
[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, oh, this is something I also wrote about my book coming out next year wanting to be desired.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, look, every time I post a hot thoughty photo, yes, I am doing it for me.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, I am doing it for the other girlies to hype each other up to be like, yes, bitch, ah, those are my favorite comments.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I would be lying to you if I didn't say that also, it doesn't feel good when that
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, sends a reaction that sends a little, uh, little DM it sends a little reply to my story, you know, you know, he did make me lose a lot of my self esteem back on my 20s and now feels pretty good then he's noticing, you know, I'm like, okay, what's up.
[SPEAKER_01]: Also guys that like ruin me in my past dating history when they text me anytime now and like oh my god, I'm so powerful like how dare they let an idiot thinking that I'm a response.
[SPEAKER_01]: I also love proposal videos like even though I don't believe in marriage really or want to get married necessarily I love seeing another girl be desired like getting everything she ever wanted like when it's the perfect proposal I will stop to watch every single proposal video or like pregnancy announcement like I love seeing a man like just like love and desire the shit
[SPEAKER_01]: out of his girl.
[SPEAKER_01]: I do.
[SPEAKER_01]: So does that make me a bad feminist?
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, wanting to be desired.
[SPEAKER_01]: I go more in depth than this about like this subject in my book.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I am going to say, no, I think it is human nature to want to be to like being desired.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think the most important part of it, the reason why I don't think I'm guilty because of it is because I need to desire myself the most and as long as that is true, which it is, sometimes it may feel like it's not that's the most important part as long as I feel in myself, I think I'm the sexiest, I think I'm the baddest bitch.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think I'm still in safe territory.
[SPEAKER_01]: So the fact that I want other bitches to drill over me, that doesn't make me a bad feminist.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: Here it.
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: This one can't help it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love these girly guilty things.
[SPEAKER_01]: I do.
[SPEAKER_01]: I wrote down the things that I feel the worst about loving and I'm going to tell you I do love my Stanley cup.
[SPEAKER_01]: I do.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry.
[SPEAKER_01]: They got me with the marketing.
[SPEAKER_01]: They got me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm their target audience.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I do.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love my standing up.
[SPEAKER_01]: I drink it out of it every day.
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't help but capitalism got me.
[SPEAKER_01]: I also love my like 20 steps skincare routine.
[SPEAKER_01]: I know that it's like chronically girly.
[SPEAKER_01]: Where they're just selling us more and more shit to make us feel bad.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like not thrilled about my skin and my wrinkles and all that shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: love it.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like a moment of peace in my evening.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love the way that shit smells of the way I feel pampered taking care of myself.
[SPEAKER_01]: Another girly girl thing that I love is smelling good.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love finding like a good spray, a good house scent.
[SPEAKER_01]: I've been using jewelry, bird again, not sponsored, but man, their shit is strong as fuck.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love, I just got my first ever Lobo scent.
[SPEAKER_01]: I really was not put
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, my god, I could not be more wrong.
[SPEAKER_01]: How good that shit smells.
[SPEAKER_01]: I do also love the girly girl right of gossiping with my girlies on a good big fat couch at a hangout on the weeknight.
[SPEAKER_01]: I do.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like a very small circle that I trust to do that thing with, but I sure fucking do love it.
[SPEAKER_01]: And my last girly guilty thing that I unfortunately do love is press on nails.
[SPEAKER_01]: I have been a nail hater and I still stand by getting your nails done is a complete waste of money for me personally.
[SPEAKER_01]: But boy, I do I love a press on nail and this one fell off today.
[SPEAKER_01]: Funny enough into my middle finger, but I will be pressing it back on in about an hour.
[SPEAKER_01]: Also, Tarjay had some really good nail deals on the Black Friday sales for their present nails that I think everyone should go take a look at.
[SPEAKER_01]: They're a good brand, all of a June, I think it is.
[SPEAKER_01]: They were only like $4.
[SPEAKER_01]: They were in their like clearance section.
[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, okay,
[SPEAKER_01]: So does that make me guilty?
[SPEAKER_01]: I think absolutely yes because the majority of these things are capitalism at their finest and a guilty pleasure at their best, you know what I'm saying?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, either way you cut it, it's something I subscribe to to either like feel better about myself that's totally not necessary.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like we could all live off of the affirmations and like good
[SPEAKER_01]: I stand like water bottle and some like BHAs and some fucking college and protein powder.
[SPEAKER_01]: I just can't help myself.
[SPEAKER_01]: So, yes, I do think I am a guilty feminist for loving those things.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, for our less little section, where's the nuance, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: What is the line?
[SPEAKER_01]: I think, you know, knowing the difference between healthy desire versus internalize patriarchal bullshit is important when
[SPEAKER_01]: examining your feminism.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's okay to like want to be pursued versus I don't think it's safe for your man to have like a notebook moment where he's climbing the fierce wheel to force you out on a date.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like that was just not.
[SPEAKER_01]: That was not it, but we all loved Noah for that moment, didn't we?
[SPEAKER_01]: We did.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're allowed to want, traditionally, feminine shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're allowed to want romance.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're allowed to be horny for fictional men like me.
[SPEAKER_01]: Just don't confuse.
[SPEAKER_01]: desire with dependency.
[SPEAKER_01]: And that's the rub kids.
[SPEAKER_01]: There's a difference between desire and dependency.
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think where we get lost, especially in wanting things like to be taking care of, to be pamper, to just like not have to work so hard to share, like all of those things are because we want to be able to share the emotional labor of being a woman.
[SPEAKER_01]: We want to share the like task work that we are presumed to keep up with and it's been very nice to be a girl who has embraced like the no makeup look in these last few years since the Panini actually sounds like leaving Buzzfeed.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think just working from home like not having to get up every single day and full beat and shit like there it really is something to just finding the balance of
[SPEAKER_01]: Before he came over, I would always put on like sweats and do my makeup But they would be like a really cute sweats.
[SPEAKER_01]: It was like so curated and you don't like looking back on the now I'm like that was a bad that was just like I wanted to look hot What I do that shit now?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm absolutely the fuck now.
[SPEAKER_01]: I do not have the time or energy I cannot give a fuck about that like I'm like you're gonna see me like this anyways.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, who cares?
[SPEAKER_01]: So knowing that between desire and dependency let's go to our last section
[SPEAKER_01]: which is your listener confessions.
[SPEAKER_01]: These are things that you guys told me that you are not proud of, but you do think it might make you a little bit of a bad feminist.
[SPEAKER_01]: But knowing that there's a difference, remember, between desire and dependency, let's hear them.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, this user said, I like when he tells me to be good, be a good girl.
[SPEAKER_01]: She says, I know I'm not proud.
[SPEAKER_01]: Listen, I think that is completely fine.
[SPEAKER_01]: That is role playing, that is a moment in time.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's a little, let's get back to the house bone moment.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's not like your lived in reality.
[SPEAKER_01]: Unless it is, then I'm a little worried.
[SPEAKER_01]: But if it's just like that sexy little back than neck grab when he grabs your scruff like your little fucking kitten, who I do love that shit?
[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think that goes under the desire.
[SPEAKER_01]: You desire someone to do that.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're not like dependent on someone being able to do that to date them.
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: This person wrote, I love men who grill.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know why.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't even eat meat.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna go with, I don't think that's problematic, but I do worry about this being some sort of like father-kink, like provider-kink, right?
[SPEAKER_01]: It goes very cave-many evolutionary, like,
[SPEAKER_01]: meet hot fire me, make food for family like it does.
[SPEAKER_01]: What's your relationship with your dad?
[SPEAKER_01]: Like that's what I'd be curious to ask this user.
[SPEAKER_01]: But I don't think it's a problem.
[SPEAKER_01]: This one, I love that they put this because I think this is true for a lot of women.
[SPEAKER_01]: She said I want to wedding a big dumb one.
[SPEAKER_01]: I want the dress and the photos and the whole bullshit spectacle.
[SPEAKER_01]: I said it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I love that you know I'm gonna say I do think that is probably I think that makes you a bad feminist I'm sorry because what my line goes into like are you falling into the capitalism patriarchy Trap and I think in this it's the whole wedding industry really is and someone should do a deep dive on to the wedding industry scams I would love to actually watch that doc series on Netflix.
[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe on the one who should make it
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, okay, this next person wrote, I like being picked up and thrown around.
[SPEAKER_01]: Again, I don't think that's a problem.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think that that's something to desire not to pet none.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I don't think you're going to be like, I'm bringing up with this person.
[SPEAKER_01]: We're not dating them if they can't pick me up.
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, but if you are,
[SPEAKER_01]: I do think that's a problem, but I don't get that feeling.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I think you're all right.
[SPEAKER_01]: Shit, get tossed around, girl.
[SPEAKER_01]: Get tossed around like a bad as a ball.
[SPEAKER_01]: Ooh, this person said, taking your partner's last name.
[SPEAKER_01]: That's so funny because me and my partner have this conversation all the time, where I'm like,
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, if we ever did do anything like that for, you know, purposes of, uh, distanced legalities, if you catch my drift, um, no fucking way am I taking his law's name and no fucking ways he's taking mine.
[SPEAKER_01]: But here's something I learned on TikTok.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can literally make up a last name when you get married with someone.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can literally create your own last name and you both take it.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's so funny.
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I think we need to be doing that way more.
[SPEAKER_01]: How fun.
[SPEAKER_01]: You can literally name yourselves anything.
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I'm doing that shit.
[SPEAKER_01]: So taking a partner's last name, I'm going to say problematic just because what it's like derived from in patriarchy and ownership and land blah, blah, blah.
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't love it and I'm very like against doing that.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm going to say problem and finally, this person wants to know, are they about feminist because they like it when a man drives?
[SPEAKER_01]: No, I think that makes you smart.
[SPEAKER_01]: I think being a passenger princess once again, whether in the bedroom or in the actual car, I think that gives you lots of opportunity to get work done, to read, to have a snack, to gab, to do the things that like normally would take
[SPEAKER_01]: Make sure your guy is a good driver though, because sometimes I'm such a backseat driver, I get nervous and not to drive, and I feel like that annoys people, so I'm trying to be better at letting go.
[SPEAKER_01]: So I could probably take a tip from your book.
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, confinants, what did you think?
[SPEAKER_01]: Do any of these resonate with you?
[SPEAKER_01]: Do you think I'm a bad feminist for wanting certain things?
[SPEAKER_01]: Did any of those listener answers?
[SPEAKER_01]: Rub you the wrong way?
[SPEAKER_01]: I hope you're rubbing yourself the right way this week as we go into this chilly fall winter.
[SPEAKER_01]: I cannot believe 2025 is nearly over.
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, next time I talked to you, I think no, I don't know if I'll have moved yet.
[SPEAKER_01]: I haven't.
[SPEAKER_01]: I haven't moved yet.
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so nothing to change.
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, hey, by the way, end of the year, holiday gift for me.
[SPEAKER_01]: Read this by size.
[SPEAKER_01]: You're not going to read it five stars.
[SPEAKER_01]: Please don't read it all because I haven't said.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for always being with me anytime I'm like, oh, so should we still do the podcast?
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm so rejuvenated by every episode.
[SPEAKER_01]: So thank you for putting me in your ears.
[SPEAKER_01]: Thanks for having a woman on your, on your timeline, and I'll see you next week.
[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you so much for watching this video and I'll see you in the next video.