WEBVTT 00:00.031 --> 00:07.120 [SPEAKER_00]: To whoever this may impact, sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate as we were really meant to be. 00:07.260 --> 00:16.111 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, change feels like loss, transformation is scary, and sometimes, to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down. 00:16.232 --> 00:18.314 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to our mystery, your new safe space. 00:18.334 --> 00:20.537 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey. 00:25.495 --> 00:31.826 [SPEAKER_00]: Today's episode is one that I've been waiting to talk about for a while because starting over has been such a huge theme in my own life lately. 00:32.107 --> 00:34.411 [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that a lot of you are in that season 2. 00:34.772 --> 00:38.238 [SPEAKER_00]: The season where you can feel that something has ended or needs to end. 00:38.578 --> 00:40.382 [SPEAKER_00]: And you're too scared of what comes next. 00:40.682 --> 00:41.684 [SPEAKER_00]: You're scared of change. 00:42.225 --> 00:43.167 [SPEAKER_00]: Scared of letting go. 00:43.607 --> 00:44.549 [SPEAKER_00]: Scared of rebuilding. 00:45.030 --> 00:48.576 [SPEAKER_00]: So this episode is for anyone who feels like their life just fell apart. 00:48.797 --> 00:50.119 [SPEAKER_00]: But like it's about to. 00:50.099 --> 00:52.083 [SPEAKER_00]: and you're terrified of having to start again. 00:52.343 --> 00:56.471 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's talk about why starting over is in something to fear, but something to honor. 00:56.871 --> 00:57.953 [SPEAKER_00]: And things aren't our failures. 00:58.454 --> 00:59.176 [SPEAKER_00]: Let's start here. 00:59.576 --> 01:00.939 [SPEAKER_00]: And things don't mean you failed. 01:01.300 --> 01:05.948 [SPEAKER_00]: They mean you grew, but we live in a world that glorifies consistency. 01:05.928 --> 01:12.139 [SPEAKER_00]: The same job for years, the same relationship forever, the same version of yourself until the end of time. 01:12.479 --> 01:19.772 [SPEAKER_00]: And so when something ends, when we are grow something or someone, we feel guilty, we feel shame, we call it failure. 01:20.132 --> 01:24.039 [SPEAKER_00]: But the truth is, the starting over doesn't mean you're back at zero. 01:24.319 --> 01:25.622 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not starting from scratch. 01:25.982 --> 01:27.565 [SPEAKER_00]: You're starting from experience. 01:27.545 --> 01:30.089 [SPEAKER_00]: Every chapter that ends, add something to you. 01:30.450 --> 01:33.876 [SPEAKER_00]: A lesson, a truth, a strength, a softness. 01:34.136 --> 01:35.458 [SPEAKER_00]: You carry all of it forward. 01:35.959 --> 01:38.504 [SPEAKER_00]: So when you start again, you're not who you were last time. 01:39.085 --> 01:43.131 [SPEAKER_00]: Your wife's are now, strong you're now, softer, but deeper. 01:43.472 --> 01:44.574 [SPEAKER_00]: You've seen that doesn't work. 01:44.914 --> 01:45.936 [SPEAKER_00]: You've learned what matters. 01:46.337 --> 01:48.861 [SPEAKER_00]: And that means this time, you're building better. 01:48.841 --> 01:50.583 [SPEAKER_00]: The fear of the unknown is a huge one. 01:50.924 --> 01:51.365 [SPEAKER_00]: I get it. 01:51.685 --> 01:55.190 [SPEAKER_00]: The hardest part about starting over is not knowing what comes next. 01:55.510 --> 02:01.338 [SPEAKER_00]: The in-between that empty quiet space where the oldest gun but the new has interrupted. 02:01.659 --> 02:02.300 [SPEAKER_00]: It's scary. 02:02.801 --> 02:05.084 [SPEAKER_00]: It feels like falling without knowing if there's a net. 02:05.364 --> 02:08.849 [SPEAKER_00]: And it feels like walking in the dark hoping you're headed somewhere good. 02:09.149 --> 02:10.271 [SPEAKER_00]: But that's what faith is. 02:10.651 --> 02:11.913 [SPEAKER_00]: Faith isn't knowing the plan. 02:12.254 --> 02:14.857 [SPEAKER_00]: It's trusting that you'll figure it out as you go. 02:15.198 --> 02:15.999 [SPEAKER_00]: And you always do. 02:16.339 --> 02:17.481 [SPEAKER_00]: You've done it before. 02:17.461 --> 02:18.082 [SPEAKER_00]: Think about it. 02:18.583 --> 02:21.789 [SPEAKER_00]: Every new beginning in your life started with fear. 02:22.070 --> 02:30.987 [SPEAKER_00]: Your first day of school, your first move, your first heartbreak, your first job, and yet somehow you made it through every single one of them. 02:31.307 --> 02:32.810 [SPEAKER_00]: Fear doesn't mean stop. 02:32.830 --> 02:33.832 [SPEAKER_00]: It means something familiar. 02:34.193 --> 02:35.976 [SPEAKER_00]: And everything unfamiliar. 02:35.956 --> 02:36.757 [SPEAKER_00]: feel scary. 02:37.138 --> 02:38.100 [SPEAKER_00]: Until if you'll save. 02:38.541 --> 02:45.073 [SPEAKER_00]: So give it time because one day what scares you will now be something to look back on with gratitude. 02:45.413 --> 02:47.056 [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over is proof your brave. 02:47.397 --> 02:48.820 [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over takes courage. 02:49.240 --> 02:51.244 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not easy to walk away from what's known. 02:51.705 --> 02:54.249 [SPEAKER_00]: Even if what's known is in good for you anymore. 02:54.650 --> 02:55.652 [SPEAKER_00]: But it's braver. 02:55.632 --> 02:56.975 [SPEAKER_00]: to rebuild them to settle. 02:57.415 --> 02:59.079 [SPEAKER_00]: Anyone can stay where they're comfortable. 02:59.579 --> 03:02.445 [SPEAKER_00]: It takes strength to admit something no longer feels aligned. 03:02.765 --> 03:12.284 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're in that season, if you're ending something, moving somewhere new, reinventing yourself, and walking away from people or patterns, be proud of yourself. 03:12.664 --> 03:14.147 [SPEAKER_00]: Most people never do. 03:14.127 --> 03:21.679 [SPEAKER_00]: Most people stay because starting again feels too hard, but not you, you're choosing yourself, even when it's uncertain. 03:22.020 --> 03:27.168 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's the kind of bravery that changes your entire life, the myth of starting from zero. 03:27.549 --> 03:31.215 [SPEAKER_00]: We have this idea that when something ends, we lose everything. 03:31.555 --> 03:32.376 [SPEAKER_00]: But that's not true. 03:32.697 --> 03:37.525 [SPEAKER_00]: When you start over, you don't lose the love that you gave, you don't lose the lessons that you learned. 03:37.845 --> 03:39.808 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't lose the strength it took to get here. 03:40.169 --> 03:41.451 [SPEAKER_00]: You take it all with you. 03:41.431 --> 03:42.813 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not a bag at square one. 03:43.013 --> 03:47.941 [SPEAKER_00]: You're just standing somewhere new with more wisdom, more resilience, more clarity. 03:48.282 --> 03:49.544 [SPEAKER_00]: You know yourself better now. 03:49.904 --> 03:53.670 [SPEAKER_00]: You know what you want, and more importantly, you know what you don't. 03:54.071 --> 03:56.274 [SPEAKER_00]: And starting over is in regression. 03:56.575 --> 03:57.376 [SPEAKER_00]: It's evolution. 03:57.697 --> 03:58.838 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not going backwards. 03:59.319 --> 04:00.561 [SPEAKER_00]: You're shifting directions. 04:00.922 --> 04:07.472 [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes the universe will close doors, not because you failed, but because you were meant to walk through a better one. 04:07.452 --> 04:12.199 [SPEAKER_00]: The beauty of becoming something new, starting over gives you permission to redefine yourself. 04:12.559 --> 04:26.338 [SPEAKER_00]: To let go of the labels, the identities, the roles you outgrew, it gives you a blank canvas and maybe that's the part that feels so scary, because blank means unknown, but blank also means possibility. 04:26.318 --> 04:27.700 [SPEAKER_00]: playing means creation. 04:28.001 --> 04:30.785 [SPEAKER_00]: Playing means you get to decide who you are now. 04:31.125 --> 04:33.268 [SPEAKER_00]: You get to ask yourself, who am I? 04:33.509 --> 04:40.620 [SPEAKER_00]: When I'm not trying to be what everyone expects, what actually makes me happy, what kind of life do I want to build this time? 04:40.960 --> 04:42.943 [SPEAKER_00]: And that is the magic of starting over. 04:42.923 --> 04:44.965 [SPEAKER_00]: you get to answer those questions for yourself. 04:45.406 --> 04:46.467 [SPEAKER_00]: Release the timeline. 04:46.788 --> 04:49.751 [SPEAKER_00]: We're so afraid to start over because we think it means we're behind. 04:50.091 --> 04:54.437 [SPEAKER_00]: Like everyone else is moving forward and we're stuck rebuilding from the ground up. 04:54.797 --> 04:56.659 [SPEAKER_00]: But timelines are fake. 04:56.679 --> 04:58.201 [SPEAKER_00]: Live doesn't happen in straight lines. 04:58.582 --> 05:00.604 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not late, you're right on time. 05:00.964 --> 05:05.009 [SPEAKER_00]: For your story, comparison will kill your piece faster than failure ever will. 05:05.290 --> 05:07.412 [SPEAKER_00]: So stop comparing your chapter one. 05:07.392 --> 05:08.775 [SPEAKER_00]: to someone else chapter 10. 05:09.215 --> 05:10.838 [SPEAKER_00]: Some people find their purpose at 20. 05:10.878 --> 05:12.141 [SPEAKER_00]: Others at 50. 05:12.602 --> 05:13.884 [SPEAKER_00]: Some people fall in love young. 05:13.944 --> 05:16.128 [SPEAKER_00]: Others fall in love with life first. 05:16.489 --> 05:17.150 [SPEAKER_00]: And that's okay. 05:17.391 --> 05:19.074 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not supposed to have it all figured out. 05:19.294 --> 05:25.646 [SPEAKER_00]: You're supposed to be learning, evolving, trying, breaking, rebuilding, becoming. 05:26.047 --> 05:27.209 [SPEAKER_00]: So take that pressure off. 05:27.469 --> 05:28.251 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not behind. 05:28.531 --> 05:29.974 [SPEAKER_00]: You're just beginning again. 05:29.954 --> 05:34.367 [SPEAKER_00]: trust the process of rebuilding, starting over as a process, and it's not linear. 05:34.728 --> 05:45.077 [SPEAKER_00]: Some days you feel unstoppable, other days you question everything, you'll have moments of excitement, followed by moments of doubt, and that is normal, that's growth. 05:45.057 --> 05:46.300 [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to take it slow. 05:46.580 --> 05:49.086 [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to rebuild one break at a time. 05:49.466 --> 05:53.455 [SPEAKER_00]: Now every new beginning has to look loud and competent. 05:53.475 --> 05:55.038 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, it's quiet. 05:55.339 --> 05:56.842 [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, it's messy. 05:57.163 --> 06:02.053 [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes, it's just showing up and saying, I don't know what's next. 06:02.033 --> 06:03.755 [SPEAKER_00]: I am willing to find out. 06:04.095 --> 06:13.044 [SPEAKER_00]: Trust that every small step counts, trust that every effort is planting something new, just that even when you can't see it yet, the foundation is forming. 06:13.385 --> 06:14.386 [SPEAKER_00]: Let go of who you were. 06:14.686 --> 06:18.070 [SPEAKER_00]: You can't start over if you keep holding on to old versions of yourself. 06:18.430 --> 06:19.831 [SPEAKER_00]: The one who tolerated too much. 06:20.352 --> 06:21.173 [SPEAKER_00]: The one who settled. 06:21.533 --> 06:22.474 [SPEAKER_00]: The one who was scared. 06:22.734 --> 06:23.695 [SPEAKER_00]: You have to let her go. 06:23.735 --> 06:24.416 [SPEAKER_00]: Thank her. 06:24.776 --> 06:25.557 [SPEAKER_00]: She got you here. 06:25.938 --> 06:28.700 [SPEAKER_00]: She did her best, but you don't have to keep being her. 06:29.101 --> 06:31.163 [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over means choosing different. 06:31.143 --> 06:33.245 [SPEAKER_00]: It means giving yourself permission to evolve. 06:33.526 --> 06:34.867 [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to change your mind. 06:35.187 --> 06:40.733 [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to all grow people, dreams, habits, cities, and even versions of yourself. 06:41.014 --> 06:43.857 [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to become someone new again and again. 06:43.897 --> 06:46.680 [SPEAKER_00]: And every time you do, you're not losing yourself. 06:46.940 --> 06:48.762 [SPEAKER_00]: You're finding yourself more clearly. 06:49.103 --> 06:50.064 [SPEAKER_00]: What if it works out? 06:50.384 --> 06:53.507 [SPEAKER_00]: We spend so much time asking what if it doesn't work out? 06:53.808 --> 06:54.508 [SPEAKER_00]: What if it does? 06:54.929 --> 06:56.931 [SPEAKER_00]: What if the job you're scared to take? 06:56.911 --> 06:58.775 [SPEAKER_00]: becomes a one that changes your life. 06:59.236 --> 07:02.483 [SPEAKER_00]: What if the city you're scared to move to ends up feeling like home? 07:02.843 --> 07:04.166 [SPEAKER_00]: What if the person you're becoming? 07:04.527 --> 07:07.032 [SPEAKER_00]: Feels more like you than anyone you've ever been. 07:07.433 --> 07:09.217 [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over is in the end of something. 07:09.698 --> 07:11.421 [SPEAKER_00]: At the beginning of something new. 07:11.822 --> 07:14.768 [SPEAKER_00]: And it might just be better than anything that you've ever known before. 07:14.748 --> 07:16.352 [SPEAKER_00]: starting over is not a punishment. 07:16.713 --> 07:17.595 [SPEAKER_00]: It is a privilege. 07:17.976 --> 07:21.765 [SPEAKER_00]: It means you were brave enough to admit that something wasn't working anymore. 07:22.105 --> 07:23.108 [SPEAKER_00]: It means you didn't settle. 07:23.428 --> 07:27.438 [SPEAKER_00]: It means you choose truth over a comfort and that's not something everyone can do. 07:27.799 --> 07:28.641 [SPEAKER_00]: Most people stay. 07:29.022 --> 07:30.445 [SPEAKER_00]: They stay where it's familiar. 07:30.425 --> 07:33.849 [SPEAKER_00]: They say in relationships that don't grow, they say in jobs that drain them. 07:34.230 --> 07:39.977 [SPEAKER_00]: They say in brushes of themselves that no longer fit, just because starting over feels too hard, but you didn't. 07:40.297 --> 07:48.247 [SPEAKER_00]: You looked at your life and said, this isn't it anymore, and that takes courage, that takes honesty, and that takes love, real love. 07:48.567 --> 07:51.150 [SPEAKER_00]: They kind of put peace over performance. 07:51.130 --> 07:57.979 [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're starting over right now, I want you to stop seeing it as an ending and start seeing it as evidence of your strength. 07:58.339 --> 08:01.583 [SPEAKER_00]: Because starting over, it's proof that you refuse to lose yourself. 08:01.844 --> 08:03.085 [SPEAKER_00]: You're not starting from zero. 08:03.546 --> 08:06.209 [SPEAKER_00]: You're starting from every single thing you survived. 08:06.570 --> 08:08.312 [SPEAKER_00]: Every heartbreak, every failure. 08:08.953 --> 08:11.176 [SPEAKER_00]: Every wrist that didn't go the way that you thought it would. 08:11.476 --> 08:16.463 [SPEAKER_00]: You're starting with wisdom now, with clarity, with standards, and with boundaries. 08:16.883 --> 08:18.285 [SPEAKER_00]: So be grateful for yourself. 08:18.265 --> 08:21.532 [SPEAKER_00]: It means you are brave enough to trust your future more than your past. 08:21.872 --> 08:25.660 [SPEAKER_00]: It means you have the courage to believe that life still has a more for you, and it does. 08:26.041 --> 08:28.025 [SPEAKER_00]: This is your reminder that nothing truly ends. 08:28.566 --> 08:29.408 [SPEAKER_00]: It just transforms. 08:29.969 --> 08:34.138 [SPEAKER_00]: And every transformation starts with a single decision to try again. 08:34.518 --> 08:39.649 [SPEAKER_00]: And the version of you that's waiting on the other side of this restart would love. 08:39.629 --> 08:43.575 [SPEAKER_00]: Besties if you enjoy today's episode, make sure to share with anyone that might need to listen. 08:43.655 --> 08:50.545 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't forget that we have a membership, where as soon as you sign up, you will receive an eye-missed me hoodie, plus you have access to an exclusive episode every single month. 08:50.565 --> 08:55.473 [SPEAKER_00]: Printable activities, meditations, monthly challenges, EDF guides, and behind-the-scenes content. 08:55.533 --> 08:57.316 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't forget to follow I miss me on social media. 08:57.416 --> 09:01.081 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