[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, hello, everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm Lexi Lombard, host of the Lexi Podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for tuning in on this gorgeous gloomy stormy day in Los Angeles.
[SPEAKER_00]: It feels like East Coast fall.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's October, and it feels like October.
[SPEAKER_00]: We have a thunder storm warning, other potential, either flood or tornado warnings.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
[SPEAKER_00]: Those are from like not as reliable sources, but potentially all I know is that it was a misty morning and it was a rainy night and I went to my workout class this morning, the rilled for any type of weather.
[SPEAKER_00]: You feel like the conversation about the weather.
[SPEAKER_00]: get such a wrap for being boring.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am an old man that I could talk about the weather.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a conversation that I actually find to make me feel a little bit more part of the natural world and a little bit more here on earth and it's a grounding conversation to me to talk about the weather as opposed to a mundane conversation.
[SPEAKER_00]: It is technically small talk, but it's small talk.
[SPEAKER_00]: I enjoy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was driving home from the workout.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's foggy.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's rain-aating my windshield.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just haven't experienced this here, and I miss it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, when you get used to the same, it's nice to have a little change, even if the change is
[SPEAKER_00]: not what everyone would desire.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm really enjoying it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I enjoyed the car right so much like considered recording me up the soda in the car because then you have 360 panorama of the full weather as opposed to me sitting in my room.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I figured I don't need to go that far.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm sitting in my room talking to you about autumn.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to talk about
[SPEAKER_00]: The Lexi Lumbard autumn to do this.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, fall is a season I like, but I know that fall has bigger fans than me.
[SPEAKER_00]: There are the girls that wait all year for this time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm actually a little bit more interested in someone like spooky season.
[SPEAKER_00]: I am fall like the pumpkin spice of it all.
[SPEAKER_00]: I even went as far as to dip my toe in.
[SPEAKER_00]: Got some pumpkin flavored whipped cream to put on top of my coffee and
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just been sitting in the fridge, try it once.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it was like maybe I'll be in the mood for it again, maple however, I have a maple whipped cream.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's on top of my coffee right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me take a nice sip.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I've been adding to my coffee?
[SPEAKER_00]: Or sometimes having instead of my coffee, mud water.
[SPEAKER_00]: Mud water is a super functional coffee alternative.
[SPEAKER_00]: It has an earthy flavor, the way that coffee does, but it's made with cacao, chai, and then a high dose of functional mushrooms, which I've been a fan of functional mushrooms, I think mushrooms are the future.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it has lion's main, which is good for your brain, cortisol, chaga, rashi, and then there's cinnamon, turmeric, and Himalayan sea salt.
[SPEAKER_00]: So this is good for energy, focus, immunity,
[SPEAKER_00]: got health.
[SPEAKER_00]: The goal is to deliver calm energy, mental clarity, without the crash.
[SPEAKER_00]: It also has a prebiotic fiber.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is completely unsponsored.
[SPEAKER_00]: And just 35 milligrams of caffeine, which for reference, there's about 100 milligrams of caffeine in a cup of coffee.
[SPEAKER_00]: All I know is that I had a package.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's been sitting in my home for ages collecting dust.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I thought, you know, maybe there's going to be a mood.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is why people become hoarders because there is the one time.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's the exception.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's not the rule, but there's the exception where something that's been collecting dust.
[SPEAKER_00]: You give it a second chance.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you love it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was making it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I noticed that my mood was a lot better.
[SPEAKER_00]: A lot more even killed.
[SPEAKER_00]: delightful but steady, you know, similar to a mocha.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I made it and I noticed I feel pretty good and then on days where I was maybe a little bit more tired.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would add a shot of espresso to it, which Potentially defeats the purpose, but you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't get mad at a run over smoking.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to flip the script.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to think about oh wow
[SPEAKER_00]: This smoke restarted running, this coffee drinker started adding functional mushrooms to their beverage.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's all about mentality.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's all about mindset.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's all about delivery.
[SPEAKER_00]: Perspective, guys.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it isn't to say that I added maple on too.
[SPEAKER_00]: My coffee that also has mudwater in it and I've been enjoying it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm drinking it hot because it's a nice chili day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've been really back into reading.
[SPEAKER_00]: There was a minute there where I wasn't reading as much.
[SPEAKER_00]: And my goal is to read 25 books this year.
[SPEAKER_00]: My goal every year is to read 24 books in 2024.
[SPEAKER_00]: 23 books in 2023.
[SPEAKER_00]: and I feel adding one more shouldn't, you shouldn't feel the difference, but you do.
[SPEAKER_00]: You honestly do.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've read 17 books this year.
[SPEAKER_00]: The last two books I read were both non-fiction.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel I read about 50, 50 non-fiction fiction.
[SPEAKER_00]: The last book was actually called Out on the Wire and it was a book on storytelling for radio.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's
[SPEAKER_00]: written as a graphic novel by this woman Jessica Abel and it was in combination with Ira Glass who is the host of this American Life.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had recently been recommended this American Life.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how of such a blind spot in my cultural repertoire.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's always interesting when you learned about something overwhelmingly popular and you wonder how you never cross paths with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's how I felt for this American Life.
[SPEAKER_00]: I dove headfirst and I'm a huge fan.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was just looking on their websites, seeing what was going on, and they had book recommendations and sound recommendations.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this was one of the recommendations.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was out on the wire, and I haven't read a graphic novel.
[SPEAKER_00]: in ages.
[SPEAKER_00]: I could not tell you I would say in at least 15 years, if not longer than that.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I enjoyed it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Unfortunately, I rented it as a borrowed it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It was a library book.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I had to power through it quite quickly.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do love that I can get library books on my Kindle, but it had a long waiting list.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I just had to rush through it a little bit and I would have liked to sink
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the book I read before that was grit.
[SPEAKER_00]: I listened to that as an audiobook and listened to it throughout my drives.
[SPEAKER_00]: The entire book is on exactly as the title grit.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I read grit because I do think the East Coast.
[SPEAKER_00]: instills grit in you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think a city like New York instills grit in you and I found myself losing a bit of my grit I was wondering where my grittyness went so I read grit and it's I like an audio book just to have the sound
[SPEAKER_00]: top of mine.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's nice when you're driving to say this is the headspace I want to be in and then to get to it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But because I read two nonfiction books back to back, I've decided that now it's time for a fiction book and I started reading all fours by Miranda July.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me tell you, after two non-fiction books, it's nice to get in something and just fall into the story like this.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's the story of a woman in her mid-40s and she has a husband and child.
[SPEAKER_00]: They live in California.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think they're in Los Angeles and she is going to go to New York for a week.
[SPEAKER_00]: And somehow gets put in this situation where she decides that she should drive across the country by
[SPEAKER_00]: stay at the car law for a week and then drive back and maybe she needs a little change maybe she needs a revamp in her life maybe she needs to find herself to avoid or this is her indulging in a midlife crisis and I don't want to tell you anymore yet because I don't know if it will spoil anything but she started the road trip.
[SPEAKER_00]: And what is happening right now is hilarious.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's so absurd.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the writing is so easy to read.
[SPEAKER_00]: You just fly through it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm someone who likes a slow burn.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do not mind having to marinate in a story, get the groundwork to then feel satisfied by the ending.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's not a problem, but it is always really nice when you fall into the book immediately.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's what I'm reading right now, but I did want to give some movie recommendations, some book recommendations, for fall, for October, for spooky season.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you have not read Donut Heart Secret history, such a fun read, dark academia, New England, prep school, visit a prep school, just be college, group of friends that are rich, beautiful,
[SPEAKER_00]: I love it all.
[SPEAKER_00]: Read the secret history.
[SPEAKER_00]: You will enjoy it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Another book that I think fits into spooky season is Bad Crea by Jessica Johns.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's categorized as a hor novel, but I wouldn't.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I was creating the genre, I guess that's what it falls into.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would say maybe mystery.
[SPEAKER_00]: The story takes place in Vancouver or right outside of it, and the lead has these really vivid dreams, and she wakes up one morning with a crow's head in her hands.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's just like, what the hell is going on?
[SPEAKER_00]: and she's got aunties and her family that all have sort of magical powers.
[SPEAKER_00]: In a way, I feel like this book gets a little bit involved in magical realism.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would say a magical realism mystery novel, and it's really fun.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then as my third recommendation on the topic of mysteries, read an answer to your novel.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's fun, it's easy.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got a little airtight story, it's great.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just because it's a children's novel,
[SPEAKER_00]: So check out those three.
[SPEAKER_00]: Any of the Nancy Drew bugs.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think the last one I read was hidden staircase But I wouldn't mind going to the bookstore and picking up another or the library Get yourself a library card get yourself on the Libby app and you can read library books under Kindle.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's amazing
[SPEAKER_00]: as for three movie recommendations.
[SPEAKER_00]: For this time of year, one of my all time favorite films is the Love Witch, visually stunning.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, you could just take screen grab after screen grab from this film, and it's art.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's beautiful.
[SPEAKER_00]: and it's about this woman who's gorgeous and she's determined to make a man fall in love with her.
[SPEAKER_00]: Creating spells and potions and trying to seduce a man.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's great and it's a perfect Halloween costume to play a lane.
[SPEAKER_00]: Another movie which I thought was an absolute classic but I was recommending it to someone recently and they'd never heard of it, which is beyond me but Nicole Kidman's Sandra Bullock in practical magic.
[SPEAKER_00]: that to me is the epitome of movie this time of year.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have to watch it to witches, to young witches from a family a long, long line of witches.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a 90s movie so it has that warmth to it visually really comforting.
[SPEAKER_00]: And my last recommendation is the craft.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the craft is about
[SPEAKER_00]: really, really fun time.
[SPEAKER_00]: You guys have to watch them.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I also think as a bonus, I tend to get more into my crime shows when it's this time of year, you know, a little lawn order SVU, Tyron, I were just watching season three of monster.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was recently recommended task.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's an HBO show.
[SPEAKER_00]: I haven't started it, but my recommendations are
[SPEAKER_00]: secret history, bad crey, and an anti-journable, and then the Love Witch Practical Magic and the Craft.
[SPEAKER_00]: Other things for fall, this is less about spooky season, but it's nice to be in a routine again with summer ending.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's nice to be free all summer, but I am someone that, whether I like to admit it or not, I do thrive in routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think I make the most out of my time when I have a routine,
[SPEAKER_00]: the more I do, the more I can do, when I know when my allocated free blocks of time are, I can plan ahead.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's, it's nice.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's nice to oscillate between both, but it is nice to be back into a routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm looking forward to the end of the year, and I'm looking forward to next year, too, I feel really
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel good.
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel really good.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've started working at Clio, my friend's boutique in West Hollywood.
[SPEAKER_00]: Technically, Beverly Grove.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's on third street, right next to neighborhood coffee.
[SPEAKER_00]: Y'all have come in.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've bought the coloring book.
[SPEAKER_00]: You said hello.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've shopped.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've vived.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've met Spoon.
[SPEAKER_00]: I brought Spoon to work with me yesterday.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's been super fun and even just the act of waking up and getting to put a little outfit on.
[SPEAKER_00]: and go out, feel so nice.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I put an outfit on no matter what.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm putting on an outfit to take Spoon on a walk.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm putting on an outfit to run errands.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will wear jeans and a little top and kitten heels to go to staples and don't care.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll wear that to the host office.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just doing that because I enjoy it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it is nice.
[SPEAKER_00]: To get to put on a cute outfit and go to girl world as like see and I like to call it I'm not talking about myself in there first and I'm talking about like see Jay she owns the story and Where a heel and where a dress and do my hair it feels good.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's what I used to do for school, but now I don't have to follow a dress code and I can Show a little leg.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can show a little stomach.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can show a little boob if I want to.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's nice.
[SPEAKER_00]: We just made two different Halloween commercials.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would call them on Instagram and TikTok.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should check them out.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's so good and not to see it my own horn, but my ass, okay, training me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much.
[SPEAKER_00]: Noted that you're doing your job.
[SPEAKER_00]: but we have Halloween costumes at the store, so if you're in a lane looking for Halloween costumes, we have a bunch and we made two promo videos for it and they're so cute.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm posting a bunch of it on my Instagram, so I'm sure a lot of you have seen it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But having the routine knowing I'm there a few days a week,
[SPEAKER_00]: It tells me when I get to work out and it helps me create a schedule for myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what they say?
[SPEAKER_00]: If you need something done, ask a busy person.
[SPEAKER_00]: Saturday, I worked and then I went to a friend's house and then I went to a dinner and then I went to a movie premiere.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like a movie screening my friend wrote a movie which is amazing and then I went to a concert.
[SPEAKER_00]: All in a day, all in a day.
[SPEAKER_00]: I did it all!
[SPEAKER_00]: It was amazing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, the more you do, the more you can do.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's my vibe for autumn.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've also been back in my journal.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was neglecting my journal.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's hard to do it all all the time.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I switch pens.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I'm being perfectly honest, what I think changed it, I'm now writing with a pilot G2.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because the paper I was using and I love a moody point 3-8, I was overwhelmed
[SPEAKER_00]: I had to write, I write more delicately with that pen and I felt like I couldn't scribble whereas with a more inky pen that glies, I think I can scribble a bit more so I have changed pens and I've been back in the journal and that's what the Lexi Lumbard fall is looking like and fall is something that I have to actively plan for.
[SPEAKER_00]: The Lexi Lumbard Summer
[SPEAKER_00]: me and summer, we go hand in hand, we're a matchman in heaven, fall is a trickier relationship I've to teach myself a bit more, I try to take the air of discipline that comes with autumn, but I do feel when it's spring I spring, just like the flowers and when it's fall, I fall.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm trying to keep, keep myself standing and this is what I'm doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: So now let's get into your questions.
[SPEAKER_00]: I ask every single episode for questions on Instagram.
[SPEAKER_00]: My handles Lexi, LXIE.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know it's miraculous.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just five letters.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's the whole username.
[SPEAKER_00]: Certainly is.
[SPEAKER_00]: So let's get into it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But first, a word from today sponsors.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I answer this question, verse, because it's perfectly in line with what I was already discussing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Each item in asked, well, they said, love your pot.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much.
[SPEAKER_00]: How do you stay so productive?
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know them so productive.
[SPEAKER_00]: I definitely don't aim to be
[SPEAKER_00]: maximum productivity because I do prioritize pleasure and enjoying myself and taking my time.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I do think to my point earlier, if you need something done, ask a busy person, the more you do, the more you can do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think of a day when you have nothing going on, but you maybe like a haircut at 3pm and then you said you would get your car washed or like, get gas.
[SPEAKER_00]: And your friend says, what do you up to tomorrow and you're like, oh I'm busy.
[SPEAKER_00]: And like, what are you doing?
[SPEAKER_00]: And you say, I have a haircut and I'm gonna get gas.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's gonna take max two hours.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe if you're doing a full on hair makeover with a celebrity stylist in Los Angeles,
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe if you're getting braids done, that could be a half-day experience.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe more.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're getting a haircut, you're getting a trim and you're getting gas.
[SPEAKER_00]: You, you have time, but it's so easy to waste time when you're not doing a bunch.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whereas to my example of the Saturday,
[SPEAKER_00]: I was already up, I was dressed, go to work and then we were going to a friend that lived close to the boutique and then from there my dinner wasn't too far so I could just bob over there and then from that went to the movie and then the movie wasn't too far from the concert.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just got to make
[SPEAKER_00]: a lot happened.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whereas let's say I just had the dinner and the movie like maybe I'd be like, I'm not going to book a concert but I already had the momentum going and I think momentum is so powerful, momentum creates motivation.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the more busy you are, the more you can do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think about when you were in school unless you, I'm sure a lot of you are in school right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you have a super busy schedule, you somehow can figure out, oh I have,
[SPEAKER_00]: 30 minutes between these two classes, let's meet for coffee.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whereas on a summer day, someone wants to meet for 30 minutes for coffee, how no.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is an overwhelming task.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that would be my first tip.
[SPEAKER_00]: My second is that I have it stuck.
[SPEAKER_00]: This, I think, is brought up in a lot of the productivity books.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not incredible to multitask, but habit stacking is less about, I don't know, how can I differentiate them?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because there's a significant difference.
[SPEAKER_00]: Multi-dasking feels like having to split your attention when two things require your focus, IE, if you're making a kind of difficult recipe, and then you're also trying to
[SPEAKER_00]: talk to your friend or something like that or maybe like watch a movie and cook a dinner that needs your attention.
[SPEAKER_00]: Whereas habit stacking is listening to an audio book in the car.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's having a phone call with your friend on your drive or doing house chores while you're listening to the book or talking to your friend or maybe you're on a dog walk where it's something that doesn't need full attention and then something that you can give your attention to.
[SPEAKER_00]: That makes me feel productive, sometimes I'm not in the mood to fold laundry, but I am in the mood to listen to my book, so let's put on the book, and then great now the laundry's done, and I feel like I did something that I needed to do, and then once my laundry's done, and I'm already on my feet, then, okay, let's pick up the shoes that are on the floor, and let's put them back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back on the shoe rack, and then I'm going to put it back
[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, there's kind of a pile on top of my desk.
[SPEAKER_00]: Why don't we go through that pile?
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, there's that bill that I've been needing to pay because it's not an auto pay because there's something wrong with it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me just use this number and I'll call suddenly there.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have the motivation.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have the momentum.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now you're doing things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now you're being productive.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're checking things off the list.
[SPEAKER_00]: Which brings me to my next point.
[SPEAKER_00]: Write it down.
[SPEAKER_00]: I write so much down.
[SPEAKER_00]: I cannot believe there are people out here.
[SPEAKER_00]: raw dogging life with no less.
[SPEAKER_00]: I cannot picture a listless life as someone who makes to do this as an avid journaler as someone who is putting pen to paper or typing things and organizing things perpetually, it blows my mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it is not written down somewhere,
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, then it's, it might be missed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank God, my friend called me.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to this murder mystery party very spooky season tomorrow, but because the invite didn't have a calendar link, I didn't put in my calendar.
[SPEAKER_00]: If he hadn't called, I would not have remembered that it was tomorrow.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, it's tomorrow, babes.
[SPEAKER_00]: He did not have an accent.
[SPEAKER_00]: He just said, babes, I don't know why I had an accent.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, baby, it's tomorrow.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, totally.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, see you there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to write it down.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or all things are gonna fall through the cracks and are these revolutionary tips and my probably telling you anything you don't already know?
[SPEAKER_00]: No, but similar to me listening to an audiobook on grit, it was nice to just have it in my ear to keep that top of mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: Francesca wants to know how to reset mentally after being all over the place for a month.
[SPEAKER_00]: Since you said reset mentally, I don't know if you were all over the place as in you were a scatterbrain or if you were physically traveling.
[SPEAKER_00]: First things first.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think just a clean space, give yourself a fresh star, wipe the countertops, make the bed, do the laundry, and then I would do a breakdown.
[SPEAKER_00]: I would open up my journal and I would write down everything, floating in my mind, everything from Dad's birthday present to pay the water bill to get you repaired to text, friend,
[SPEAKER_00]: something that's been hanging over your head, even just random thoughts.
[SPEAKER_00]: When I say brain dump, it could be like, I don't know my brain.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, this is lovely.
[SPEAKER_00]: My brain's pretty clear right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: But, you know, move piece of art.
[SPEAKER_00]: These are all tasks.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to think of something that's just skin is looking clear.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just to get everything out.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you can kind of see where you're at.
[SPEAKER_00]: I need a visual.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a very visual learner.
[SPEAKER_00]: And once I see things, often times my reaction is, oh, this is so much less than I thought.
[SPEAKER_00]: If my brain feels clouded, especially if they are action items, they're tasks, like, get pants, hem, get shoe repair, pay bill, get dad's birthday gift.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, oh my God, I have so much to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have so much to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Look at it on the list, I'm like, oh, four things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I could do that right now and still have time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can drop these pants off at the tailor, the shoe repair is right next door.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can look online to see what would be a good gift and great I can call and pay this bill in five minutes or less.
[SPEAKER_00]: So start there, clean space and write it all down, give yourself a visual.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to keep this anonymous just in case, but how do I stop ruminating on my relationship and whether I'm happy enough?
[SPEAKER_00]: If rumination is something that you're constantly dealing with, you're constantly asking yourself if you're happy enough, then maybe this isn't specific, but if it is not normal for you to think this, and you're wondering if you're happy enough, tough love answer, you're probably not.
[SPEAKER_00]: and I have to give credit to one of my best friends.
[SPEAKER_00]: She has been in a relationship with a really great guy and she just broke up with him yesterday because she ultimately felt I don't think this is my person and the relationship's fine.
[SPEAKER_00]: No one did something horrible.
[SPEAKER_00]: She made the courageous decision and she's an inspiration to us all.
[SPEAKER_00]: She made the brave decision
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to leave it.
[SPEAKER_00]: This relationship's okay, but I'm going to leave it.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's so powerful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Nikola asked how to be more whimsical during the corporate nine to five.
[SPEAKER_00]: Accessorize your outfit.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to do some fun things.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it has to be plain and wear cute underwear, where I'm matching bra and panty, I'm not kidding.
[SPEAKER_00]: Also have rituals.
[SPEAKER_00]: I recently have been seeing a lot about people getting a different piece of jewelry for each stage of their cycle.
[SPEAKER_00]: So a follicular ring, a menstrual ring, a luteal ring, and an ovulation ring.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they're all different colors because they all mean different things.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's a visual representation of a reminder
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that's so cool so to maybe take inspiration from that and like maybe you've got a cool pair of glasses like those are the glasses you wear when you're at work, you're like this is my little bitchie
[SPEAKER_00]: set of glasses that I can wear.
[SPEAKER_00]: I remember, I still do the set of the wine, looking back on it like it's not something I'm still doing, but every year when I'm paying taxes, I put on a bitchy little outfit, and I put on bitchy little glasses, and bitchy little heels, and I do my taxes.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think you can try to do that for your corporate nine to five, find ways to almost give yourself a little costume.
[SPEAKER_00]: and turn it on, as opposed to thinking of your at home natural relax self, think of yourself getting ready for the game, and get into character.
[SPEAKER_00]: And at least ask how do you practice mindfulness when your thoughts go when thousand miles am in it?
[SPEAKER_00]: Write it down.
[SPEAKER_00]: Similarly, if you just feel scatterbrain, if the thoughts are going,
[SPEAKER_00]: write those thoughts down because oftentimes they're really similar thoughts.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's fascinating that most of us don't have very many unique thoughts today.
[SPEAKER_00]: We have a lot of repeating thoughts.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I find, at least for thoughts that are hanging over my head once I write them down, they kind of leave my brain and I'm I'm freed up of that space.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's an interesting practice to see what you're thinking about, to see if you're stressed, if you're anxious, if you're excited, and bring awareness, and awareness is mindfulness.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so similarly, to become aware of your thousand miles, a minute thoughts, catch the thought, watch the thought.
[SPEAKER_00]: you don't even have to write this down.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is just because I'm a visual learner.
[SPEAKER_00]: To be mindful, is to notice what you're thinking about.
[SPEAKER_00]: As I said, you don't need to write it down just whatever your thought is.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it's, oh my god, that friend is mad at me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Step back and notice yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think, oh, that friend is mad at me.
[SPEAKER_00]: And it gives yourself a little bit of space.
[SPEAKER_00]: and then you're being mindful.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's all it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Mindfulness is not getting yourself to stop thinking.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just to notice what you're thinking.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I'm so curious what your job is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Emilya asks for work out what ideas for a job that gets you dirty and you need comfort for.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, get yourself a good pair of boots.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have these mid-calf dock martin boots, and I wear them everywhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wear them on hikes.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're definitely boots that you can get dirty, and but once they're broken in, they're the most comfortable boots that you can have.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe a cargo pant, and then a tight, long sleeve.
[SPEAKER_00]: So then you feel sexy, it's giving body, but...
[SPEAKER_00]: you're in a practical outfit.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is interesting.
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to know what you do for work.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm really curious because now I want, I want to come up with outfit ideas for you, but I don't think I have enough context.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, I'm going to respond to you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't really need to know more.
[SPEAKER_00]: What do you do for work?
[SPEAKER_00]: If she answers while I'm still recording, I can come up with more ideas.
[SPEAKER_00]: Amelia answered, and she did not mess around.
[SPEAKER_00]: She gave me full details.
[SPEAKER_00]: She said, I'm actually a florist, however, in the last year I started working for my dad.
[SPEAKER_00]: He designs and manufactures high mobility specialty vehicles.
[SPEAKER_00]: Basically it's cars and trucks that go up into areas in rural Queensland and New South Wales.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, we have it all Z. I love that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Kind of like places near Byron.
[SPEAKER_00]: that fix power lines.
[SPEAKER_00]: We do everything from design to laser cutting the parts.
[SPEAKER_00]: Doing the wiring of electrical stuff, putting it together, etc.
[SPEAKER_00]: Anyways, I'm just a girly and a male-dominated field where I don't know much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I work at a desk doing some design work half the time, but the other half I'm in a factory and can accidentally rub up against something dirty and
[SPEAKER_00]: Being comfy is so pivotal.
[SPEAKER_00]: I struggle so much with feeling cute and fun and making a key of this situation.
[SPEAKER_00]: It isn't my forever field of work, but I just want to feel like I look forward to my outfit.
[SPEAKER_00]: Even if I can find the perfect combo for a uniform type recipe.
[SPEAKER_00]: Also happy you loved Australia so much.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm from Melbourne and have always watched and listened to you so so excited whenever you make it back I hope you come to Melbourne.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's essentially the New York City of Australia and I reckon you'd love the food scene Also when I say that you inspire me to live such a fruitful life where I can
[SPEAKER_00]: obsessed with you wanting a cute outfit to be laser cutting parts and doing electrical wiring, batty on the loose.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, so I'm thinking car heart.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think car hearts just in America, but you need some car heart pants and a long sleeve boat neck, so you get a little bit of collar bone showing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's fine for an outfit to look worn.
[SPEAKER_00]: So go to the thrift store.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that would be great because you can not feel like you're
[SPEAKER_00]: Having tin vests and pieces that are inevitably going to be getting dirty.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just got a pair of gab cargo pants at Goodwill and they cost me just a few dollars and they're great and then Uniclo I would say tight top baggy pant work boot
[SPEAKER_00]: Invest in work boots.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why I would put my money.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean put maximum investment in the boots because if you invest in the right pair of boots, they will last you a lifetime and then some and then the long sleeves the t-shirts.
[SPEAKER_00]: You could do a little baby tea, but you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: If you want to feel cute, I feel like often when I'm wearing a baggy outfit, I'm not wearing a bra, tight top wear a bra, let the shape show, and then a work pant that just can get tar on it, dirt on it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'd probably avoid jewelry.
[SPEAKER_00]: Last thing you want is getting something caught that sounds like an actual nightmare.
[SPEAKER_00]: You could do a slick back bun.
[SPEAKER_00]: like back ponytail or two pigtail braids.
[SPEAKER_00]: And a little lip combo in mascara.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I would say.
[SPEAKER_00]: This was fun.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wanna do more extensive questions, more personalized answers.
[SPEAKER_00]: I like this concept.
[SPEAKER_00]: So maybe I should have you guys DM longer questions or maybe, I don't know, something to think about.
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I just do exactly what I did last time where if I need more context, I will respond and ask for more context.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you could do nail polish, hard gel.
[SPEAKER_00]: I've been into pressons.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is my second set of pressons that I've been wearing because I didn't have the time to go to the nail salon and I was at CVS and I thought, why don't I just pick some up how hard can it be?
[SPEAKER_00]: Incredibly easy.
[SPEAKER_00]: They were way too long.
[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, you know what the truth is?
[SPEAKER_00]: I needed it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I needed my nails done, but I didn't have time when I was going to a rare beauty event and on the off-chance that Selena Gomez was there, I could not have my disgusting nails, so I was at Whole Foods, which is next to a CBS, and I went to CBS hoping that they had them.
[SPEAKER_00]: The nails were so long, but I was afraid that if I tried to cut, trim, shave, file in any capacity that I would ruin them.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I showed up to the rare beauty event with the longest claws.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then the next night, chopped them, filed them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Easy as pie.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I was at the store and like see it's gotten some other pressons for the Halloween videos.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, you should wear these.
[SPEAKER_00]: So last night, I put them on and I'm loving them.
[SPEAKER_00]: vampy red.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to talk about some fun boutique stories, shop stories, get into the details with that.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going to end the public episode here and for everyone else, I will meet you on the Patreon and we can talk shop.
[SPEAKER_00]: So thank you all so much for listening.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will catch you back here in two weeks.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is right now a biweekly show.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I will be on YouTube next week with a super extra long blog.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're interested in seeing me,
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[SPEAKER_00]: So thank you all so much.
[SPEAKER_00]: Talk to you later.
[SPEAKER_00]: XOXO, Lexi.